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Dr. Gladys McGarey - The Well-Lived Life · Destination Unlimited with Victor Fuhrman

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My name is Victor Furman. Some call me the Voice. I've always been
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fascinated with human nature, spirituality, science and the crossroads at which they meet.
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Join me now and we will explore these topics and so much more with
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fascinating guests, authors and experts who will guide us to Destination Unlimited. We
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all want to know the secret to leading a long, happy life, so
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who better to ask than someone who is one hundred two years old and all
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the more qualified as a doctor and the mother of holistic medicine. This expert
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is my guest this week on Destination Unlimited, doctor Gladys McGarry. Doctor McGarry
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shares a philosophy for living life to the fullest that is thousands of patients and
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that has guided her life for more than a century. Her website is Gladys
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McGarry dot com and she joins me this week to share her amazing path and
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new book of a Well Lived Life. A one hundred two year old Doctor's
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six Secrets to Health and Happiness at Every age. Please join me in welcoming
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to Destination Unlimited, doctor Gladys McGarry. Welcome, doctor McGarry. Thank you
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very much, Doctor McGarry. Please share with our listeners your early path and
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how it led to your calling as a physician. Well, my parents were
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medical missionaries in India in the north, the foothills of the Himalayas, and
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they went to India nineteen fourteen when World War One was in full bloom.
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The U boats were in the water and so on. But they got to
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Bombay and went up North India and I was born in India. In fact,
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my mother went into labor at the taj Mahal with me. Anyway,
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it was a very wonderful way to grow up in the with my parents taking
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their medical work back into the jungles of North India. And the beautiful thing
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is that I watched them work with the village people who had nothing really in
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the way of life things. They had their their house and their children and
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the you know what, they lived by or with, but they had nothing
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in the way huge shit events that they could call their own. However,
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my parents brought their medical work there and all they had in equipment was a
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trunk wad had some things in it and attend and we lived in tent.
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So as far as a medical equipment or anything like that, they didn't have
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much, but they had hearts full of love, and it's what they brought
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to the people of India who were the forgotten ones. The essence of what
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I came to understand heally was all about. And so when I was two
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years old, I let my parents know that I was a doctor too.
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And the thing was that my dolls or the ones that got sick. So
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my sister wouldn't let me play with her dolls because my mine were the ones
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who had to be taken care of. That kind of reality in a world
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that is well, you know, how real is that? That's as real
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as you get. Absolutely in India they believe in reincarnation. Do you think
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that you were reincarnated and had been a physician in a past life? Yes,
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many times. Wow, that's wonderful, that's wonderful. You had the
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opportunity, the wonderful opportunity to meet Mahatma Gandhi as a child. What did
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you learn from him? You know, I was ten years old. We
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were just on the way to come back to the United States because every seven
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and a half years, my parents had a furrow and they got to come
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home to their family and so on. But we were on the train and
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we were going from Murky to Bombay, and the train came to a station
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and was slowing down, but there was this huge crowd of people of India
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always has crowds of people, but this was a whole crowd of people that
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was chanting. And in front of the crowd was a a man walking along,
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a small man dressed in a tooti which is the Indian loincloth, and
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walking with a staff, and people were chanting, Gandhiji, Gandhiji. So
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I, you know, I knew about Gandhi. But in the train with
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my face pasted against the window, trying to see what's going on out there,
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and I saw the Gandhi stop that they had the crowd and reached down
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and take a flower from a little girl, and his face was just on
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in line with mine, my face planted on the window and his face in
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front of me. And when he looked up from that little girl looked up,
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he looked straight into my eyes. Now, I can never explain to
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anybody else except myself what it was that happened, But at that point there
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was a connection between Gandhi and me, and I knew it, and I
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knew that he knew it, and there was a reality that didn't leave me.
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In fact, it was held within our family in that when in the
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partition of India happened and Gandhi was working with the Hindus and Muhammadans trying to
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get themselves to stop killing each other, my parents they worked with him in
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that they had a little medical unit that they took and went to the camps
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of where this was going on and helped with the healing and the burying and
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the dead and all of that. And they worked from the platform to talk
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to the people like on the stage with Gandhi enough so that they became friends.
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And Gandhi gave my mother a Kashmir shawl which I have in my closet
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here, and my dad a pan blanket. So it was that kind of
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a of a family into a personal relationship with me extended into the ongoing family
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relationship which was the love and healing of the people of India and Gandhi our
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messages were the same. Of course, I wasn't there at that time.
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I was in college. And what year did you begin your medical practice depends
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on what you no. I started medical school in September of forty one,
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nineteen forty one, and the World War two started in December December seventh,
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nineteen forty one. So all during my training we were taught about killing.
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The whole focus of medicine was killing diseases and getting rid of pain, and
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so that's that's what I learned, but I really didn't learned. I didn't
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accept that to be the whole picture, because I knew what I had experienced
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personally, and I was asking questions or doing something that was bad enough that
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the dean of the medical school sent me to the psychiatrist two different times,
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and the psychiatrist sent me back and said, no, I was okay to
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become a woman doctor. There were very few women do chers at the time.
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I was in the only women's medical college in the country. We started
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with twenty five with fifty students and ended up with twenty five. Because the
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concept was it was going to be harder and for men for us to do
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it, and we were supposed to be smarter and tougher and so on.
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So it was it was in nineteen forty one that I was introduced to the
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medical community, the allopathic medical community. But it was in nineteen forty six
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that I actually started my practice after getting going through my residency and so on,
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And what bias did you experience as a woman physician in the early years
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of your practice. I can't tell things like this. Well, it was
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thought telling stories. So when I started my internship at Diginess Hospital in Cincinnati,
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they had never had a woman doctor there before, and so they had
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places for men to sleep when they were on call, but there was no
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place for me. So I had an X ray table and a blanket and
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a pillow. But I didn't mind that because I was so pleased to have
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gotten the internship, the training, and so on. So I was more
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interested in what I was able to receive that it was the fact that they
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didn't think I was well, I don't know what you know. I wasn't
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accepted by the medical community, and the resident on in the community of the
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hospital there was so sure that I didn't belong that he kind of made it
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his mission to get me out. I had met my husband and he was
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in medical school, and when I was doing my internship, I was pregnant
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with my first son, and this in this resident knew three things. One
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that women did belong in medicine too, that I didn't belong in medicine,
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and certainly pregnant women didn't belong in medicine. So with those three things,
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he gave me the opportunities to work with the surgeons in their surgery. But
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he gave me the hardest, the ones that started earliest in the morning,
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surgical procedures. So I'd start at seven o'clock and be on my feet without
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food for five hours maybe, and I was just hanging on by the skin
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of my teeth. But I had one thing that I was working with,
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and that was that there was no way he was going to get me out
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of this, and he certainly wasn't going to kill this baby that I was
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carrying, So so I hung in there. But then all through my life
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this has happened a live people become angels for me. So one night in
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the middle of a about two o'clock in the morning, I was there on
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call on my with my blanket and my pillow, and so I had a
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call to go down to the to the floor. I got off my table
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and walked down the hall past where the list was where we were our schedule,
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and always my name was at the top of the list. But I
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come down this time, and Lucille, who was a little the little maid
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on our floor who did the cleaning and so on. She had pulled a
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chair up and was erasing by name at the top at seven o'clock and putting
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Carl Ferber's name done at about eight o'clock or so. She really saved my
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life. And it was like if she you know, if she had been
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caught, she would have lost her job. She saw what I was working
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with and how I was struggling to make this happen, and she stepped up,
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and interestingly enough that this sudden that I was carrying became an orthopedic surgeon.
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So he got his trading in utero too. That's wonderful. And this
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woman had the empathy and the compassion and the courage to do the right thing.
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Throughout my life there have been I call the Livie Angels. What changes
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in medicine have you witnessed over the last sixty years. It depends on what
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aspect of medicine we're looking at. The whole field of medicine, in my
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opinion, still has not grasped the fact that, well, what we were
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taught in medical school and must still being focused on, is that the body
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and the mind and the whole concept that beyond that, there was nothing that
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they want to work with. And we're better about it now because after we
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started the American Holistic Medical Association and you started the work that you're doing and
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began to work and look at higher aspect of Healey's it has changed. But
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still the focus is on killing disease and eradicating pain. In fact enough so
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that when I was in medical school, when a woman was in labor,
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what we did and my first two sons I birthed this way. A woman
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was completely anesthetized, so it was called twilight sleep, completely anesthetized, so
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that when she was but it was time for her to push, she couldn't
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push. We had to use force ups to deliver her. And I was
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very good at this. We were well trained in doing that. I was
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able to help with him after coming head and a baby and saw it.
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But what we did, in the process of trying to eliminate the pain and
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labor, take away the power of all the women that we're having babies.
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We just did. To this day we talk about having to be delivered by
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our babies. That shouldn't be said. We don't need to be delivered by
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our babies. We birth our babies. Doctors are there when midwives are there
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to help, and all of that is very, very important, But the
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whole concept that we have taken away are very essence as women of being the
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people that can birth can not only can who have to birth the baby.
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And so my focus has been to help us reclaim the whole concept of loving
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birth, because that's what we need to get back to. Anyway, it
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was what was taught I learned. I spent a lot of time when I
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began to get some understanding about this, sort of regretting the fact that I
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had done the forceps work. But I really you know that there's no sense
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of beating yourself up for something that you did because you were taught and because
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that's the way it was at the time you co founded the American Holistic Medical
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Association. How daring and different was the idea of holistic medicine when you first
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tried to popularize it. I can't even use in words we're thrown at us
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when we were doing this, and the fact that people really didn't understand the
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concept of holistic medicine when we did start it there were five of us who
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did get it. I was the only woman, but we had one weekend
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where we really were the five of us who were really understanding as my husband
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and I and three other men. Even after we got that started, it
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took us two years to realize what we were talking about and how to spell
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it, because you know, the whole concept that we were working with was
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based on the root word, but it had to be started with an R
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instead of a W. The holistic that we were talking about was not spelled
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with a W, was spelled with an age health, Healy and holy You
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also founded the Academy of Clinical Hypnosis. How is a clinical hypnosis used as
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a healing tool? Well, Milton Erickson was just beginning to do his work,
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and it was in nineteen fifty five and he we came friends and we
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started a sort of Tuesday night study group in our home while we were working
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with the whole aspect of hypnosis the way he was looking at it. So
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Milton Erickson understood the depth of healing that was associated with our heart and our
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inter spirit. He didn't call it the physician within the patient, but we
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started it started calling it that, and so then he took that. Actually,
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it was an amazing time because the whole concept of of what nutrition was
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doing. With the Book of Silent Spring, you had just you know,
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it was just being published, and so we were putting a lot of attention
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into diets and how it was affecting the whole process, and that was considered
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really really stupid, stole groundhole wheat bread it was. But we knew what
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we were looking at for we had gotten interest in the Edgar Casey work,
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so Hughlett Casey was a good friend of ours. We started to study group
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in our home in nineteen fifty seven and had it going for sixty years.
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And let me tell another story. My oldest son, know what I was
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pregnant with. When he had finished his trading orthopedic surgery, he came through
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Phoenix and he was going down to Del Rio, Texas to start his practice,
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and he said, Mom, you know I'm going out into the world.
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I'm going to have people's lives in my hands. I don't know if
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I can handle that. And I said to him, well, Carl,
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if you think you're the one that does the heal, you have a right
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to be scared. But if you can understand that it's your job to do
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this amazing work which you've been taught to do, which was which is orthopedic
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surgery. If I have something broken in my body, I want a good
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orthopod to be the one that's working with it. But after you've done your
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job, or in the process of doing your job, you contact the physician
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within that patient, because that's your colleague. That's the person who's going to
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really do the healing. You'll support that patient as you go along. I
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mean that college, as you go along within the patient. But that's really
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the only way that healing is going to happen is i's a patient does the
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things that the inner aspect of their being, which is that physician within which
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Jesus talked about. You don't. It's the whole reality that we are true
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human beings that are different. See I have a do you mind if I
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just ramble with these stars? Okay? I have this concept that when God
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created the world, he looked and he saw it was really good. I
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mean, this is a really good thing. And so then he created the
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human being and he said to us, I now have give you dominion over
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this amazing aspect of the world. That's been created, and so we,
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in our arrogance, took that and said a whole Look, this is what
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we can do because we have free will and we have choice at all of
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that. And we thought he said domination. When agent say you, I
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give you domination. We're not supposed to dominate the world. We have dominion
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over it. Dominion means you take care of things. And so what I'm
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feeling now in the way people are responding to this new book violent and the
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way I've been working so many years, is that people are now reaching for
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their true humanity, that aspect of our inner being, that is who we
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were truly expected to be because we have this amazing aspect of our being,
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that is the free will which we've abused the wisdom of doctor Gladys McGarry.
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Doctor McGarry's book is called The Well Lived Life by one hundred two year old
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doctor Gladys McGarry her book The Well Lived Life. Please share something you've
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learned in your one hundred two years about living life to the fullest Well.
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I am five six secrets, and last one is use your juice wildly.
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The idea of that is, don't try to store it up. Energy is
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energy, and energy has to move and energy, if it's not being used,
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it'll die. So the whole process of life is allowing ourselves to be
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alive and loving it. I also have five ells that are the secret to
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They sort of underlie the others secrets that we've talked about, But these five
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I have helped me give some foundation structure to my philosophy. The first one
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is life. Life as it is is like a seed in the Pyramids.
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It's within its shell and it can't do anything. It's got all the energy
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of the universe within that shell. But I can't do anything until love,
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in the form of water and air and sunlight and so activates the shell by
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allowed to crack, and then life could come and life could grow, and
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life becomes one with the whole process of love. Because love and life together
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are the yin and the yang. They're the male and the female. They're
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they're the good and the bad. There the dual aspect of our humanity on
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this this whole universe that is a dual universe. So it's that important connection
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of love with life that is really really important, not just a healing but
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to life itself. The second, the third l is laughter. Laughter without
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love is cruel, it's mean, it breaks people's families up, and you
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know, it's just it's just not fun. But but laughter with love is
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joy and happiness. And the fourth one is labor. Labor without love,
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oh, you gotta go to work. It's drudgery. You know, too
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many diapers, this is just too hard. But labor with love is bliss.
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It's why you do what you do. It's what I'm why I'm doing
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what I'm doing. It's why a singer saying, it's why I paid or
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paids you work harder than you ever probably worked before you understood this. But
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but bliss is what is from working. Its working with the whole process of
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hard work and and and just hanging in there, you know. And the
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fifth one is listening. Listening without love is the clang gog. It's it's
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just not heard. You don't hear anything if you're if you're not really listening.
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So those five elves kind of gave give me this structure of my philosophy.
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And then this little this book that's out that has come out, Uh
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enhances that it takes those five and makes people so that we as people can
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really use them in our lives in everyday ways. I wrote a poem called
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the Gift of True Listening. May I share that with you? Oh please?
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They're often our words that need to be heard without cutting in or positioning.
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Your heart will be stirred and compassion conferred. As you offer the gift
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of true listening, you'll create sacred space while bestowing great grace with love all
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around you glistening. It may be any place where a soul you embrace as
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you offer the gift of true listening. So gift someone near you by saying
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I hear you lifting them up with your christening. And one day, when
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you're due, you will be heard to receiving the gift of true listening.
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Thank you, Because that's that's so important in the whole field of healing.
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I mean, it's it's vital. I was talking to a neuralgeous friend of
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mine the other day and he's working with some residence and that he had taken
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they'd gone to a they were at the hospital. They were ready to go
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into the room for a patient and then and the residents said, you mean
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I have to go into the room And he said, well yes, and
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she said, well that's that's silly. He's has Alzheimer's. He doesn't understand
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anything I would say. And this friend of mine, who's been a amazing
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physician, he says, now, listen, you have two patients in that
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room. The wife is city there while she she's working and watching, but
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she's supporting him all the way through this. And the only way you can
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even do anything is to love the two of them enough that you listen to
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what she's going to be saying and watch what the but the body of the
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husband is say, you've got a double thing. So it's it's I think
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it's sad that um, we have we haven't learned your poem, because to
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me, it's it's so important to hear what the patient's saying. You know,
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one of the things that I've asked patients for years is, um,
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why are you you know? What's your life purpose? What? What do
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you you think you're here for? And so many people have never ever thought
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about that. It's a they say, what what what you know? It's
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a For me, it's been a pivotal question to be able to ask,
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to be able to have the patient start thinking about the fact that maybe there's
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a reason for their being here. I like to think of it as a
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huge jigsaw puzzle in the world, you know, the life. Every everybody
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has a spot, a piece within this jigsaw puzzle of life. And you
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know you can't fit in another piece doesn't fit in your spot. I've I've
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tried putting pieces that don't fit in. There's no way you could get a
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piece in. And if you've done a thousand piece puzzle and you come to
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the end and I've lost one piece, you drive yourself crazy trying to find
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that one piece. It's that importance of our own individual juice, our own
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reason for being here. And I think that's the thing that the field of
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medicine has really lost, That love and life are united in the act of
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our being here. Absolutely, let's get a little juicier. Now, how
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to an elephant help you find your juice? Well, you know, my
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parents were out in the jungles, and I have a tiger skin on my
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wall here not because my parents were there for a reason that had to do
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with healing. And the villagers were subjected to these big animals that could just
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come and ravage a whole village, the leopards of the tigers and so on.
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And so my parents, my dad, and my brothers, my older
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brothers had gone on a hunt, and so my mother and my sister and
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brother were there with her. And at that point, I was probably nine
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years old or something, and I thought I was a physician. I know,
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I had appointed myself as an efficient physician, and so I was helping
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her with the work that the patients were sitting around the on the ground and
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mom was doing her medical work and so on. And here all of a
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sudden, into the camp walks about out the elephant boy and his elephant,
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and he walks up to my mother and he says, this is the Maharaja's
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favorite elephant. And we were on a hunt and it stepped on a bamboo
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stump and it can't it's not healing, it's not doing well. And the
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rogers, you know, to wants you to look at it. And my
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mother says, oh, my, I don't treat elephants. So the baa
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says to her, you're a doctor, So she says, oh, yes,
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I treat help. So I helped her, and she she walked up
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to this elephant. Now by bomb was five foot one. Elephant's leg was
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bigger than she was. So she's dead. They're patting its leg and it's
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stand out and talking to it and telling that, you know, she's going
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to do what she can, and she hopes it doesn't hurt too much.
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And she just talking to the elephant like she talks to the patients that she
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was, whether a man or a woman or what. And the elephant is
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not moving. I was looking at this elephant. I don't think it even
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bleaked to die. It's just standing there, perfectly still. And my mother
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tells me to go get the basin of potassium propagat and and this syringe and
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these force hips, and so I knew what she was talking about, and
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I went and got it and and she worked around at the foot of the
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elephant and found that a six inch long splinter of the b bamboo was stuck
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in the path of the foot. And so she worked around with it and
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got and removed it, all the time telling the elephant what she was doing
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and what was going on. They were communicating, and um she pulled it
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out and they'd s arranged the full thing and and put some ointment on it
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and told the Mahaut what to do when he left, and um, and
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I'm there working with with him all this time, and he that elephant was
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so happy. I mean, we all knew he was happy. And the
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Mahau we were tamped on the edge of the Ganges River. So the us
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walked onto the Ganges with the elephant, and then we had the elephant picked
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us up and put it on his back, and we were, you know,
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just had a wonderful day. And so the next day the elephant comes
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back into camp, but it doesn't stop. It just walks straight into our
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camp where my mother was and puts his snout around my mother, picks her
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up and gives her a hug with his nose, you know. And so
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she's laughing, and she said, she's patting him on the trunk and say,
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now be a good boy and put me down. Now, just be
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a good boy and put me down. And the elephant did. What I
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got from that sort of like the same thing I got from the looking into
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God these eyes was the reality of life itself, and how I was being
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given opportunities to see how we need to work together how life needs to connect
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with life. The one thing that I have that is more important than anything
42:21
else is loving that patient. And if I can actually put my energy into
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loving that patient in whatever way I can understand from the way they're presenting themselves
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to me, then that's the way I have to work with. It's it's
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soulful living. Back on Destination Unlimited. My guest this week, doctor Gladys
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McCarry. Her book The Well Lived Life. You talked about the l and
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you. One of the l's you were talking about was labor. I had
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a wonderful spiritual teacher who used to say, there should be an eleventh commandment,
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thou shalt have purpose. How important is purpose to a well lived life?
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It's essential. That's why I ask my patience, what do you have
45:47
to live for? What are you here for? We're here for special reason,
45:54
and it's so it's for me. It's such a joy when that patient
46:08
gets it and begins to take the not just the responsibility, but the actual
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life giving force that is there. When they do accept the fact that they're
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here for a reason, and that that reason is whatever it is. I
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mean, it's not something that I can tell them. I might know them,
46:37
may know the family, and might be able to give them some suggestions
46:43
and so on, but the whole concept has to come from within themselves and
46:52
when that happens, that's that's that's the light from Gandhi, that's the light
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from the elephant. That's the life from you know. It's it's what life
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is about. And one of those purposes can be contributing to your community.
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How come contributing to your community contribute to your own well being? It's so
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you know, if if love is stopped, if it dies, love has
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to move. It's a energy that has to keep moving, and and it
47:32
moves as we share with others. I had a patient and a friend who
47:40
moved into dementia, and so we had him and he had a home in
47:49
one of the homes here, and it was nice and all that. But
47:52
I gave him a plant, a little plant to put in the window.
47:58
And I said, James, this is your plant, and if you'll just
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take care of it, all you need to do is give it water and
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take care of it. Well, he wasn't. I didn't know if he
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was listening or not. But the next time I came in, he was
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so excited. He said, to me, let me show you some magic.
48:20
He says, here's magic, here's magic, and he walks up to
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the he said, this box is a magic air conditioning box. You know
48:31
where the air condition is in his room. And he says, look at
48:37
this. If I push this button, the room gets cool, and my
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plant likes it. He says, If I pushed this other button and the
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and the room gets hot, oh, plant doesn't like it. And now
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he didn't understand much of anything except he knew that he was connected to that
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plant, and that plant was connected to him, and it really gave him
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something to live for. It's we have to have they reached to. There's
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so many people who feel alone, and who knows when just a smile or
49:28
a greedy to the somebody in the grocery stores, and you know, you
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never know when you may may actually reach somebody. But if your if your
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intention is to love everybody, you don't have to like everybody. But if
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you love, there's a difference. If you love everybody and you just are
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there because that's what's who you are, it becomes real because love moves.
50:07
Love has to move, it has to connect. I'm an advocate for radical
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kindness, going out of our way to be kind to people, especially with
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the conditions in our world today. Yes, what is something that any of
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our listeners could start doing tomorrow to live life to the fullest. Well,
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I see, I'm a visual person, so I kind of like to look
50:37
at it this way. I have a flashlight and in my hand, and
50:43
I could turn it on and walk out into the dark, and that flashlight
50:47
will show me as far as I can go, you know, one step
50:52
at a time and one step at a time. But as I'm shining my
50:57
flashlight and walking my path, sometimes there's a little glimmer of light to the
51:04
right or the left or of something, and it's not a very strong light.
51:08
It's just a little glimmer. But if I put my flashlight on that
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glibber boy, it lights up the whole place, and it's the sort of
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visual concept of reaching for our true humanity. We go together, we work
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together, we belong together. We're people who have a reason for being here,
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and as we hold our hands the deaths of life, that's where we
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go. People are often amazed to find out that you have a ten year
51:51
plan. Would you share that with us? I sure will. I'm really
51:57
interested in a village for living medicine. I've changed the words of healing from
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holistic medicine to living medicine because I think that well, I think because I
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understand essence of life itself, and I think that, you know, the
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Christ had to become flesh and dwell among us. I think that places on
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Earth, where the whole concept of this place is a village for living medicine,
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we could bring that kind of love back into and have Earth. Mother
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Earth's going to be really happy when people all over the world start making their
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villages villages for living medicine. It's a concept that is real. It's it's
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possible. I've seen. I have a friend who moved to Mexico, and
53:15
she's had a lot of pain and all that kind of but that little village
53:21
that she moved into in Mexico, she's become the grandmother for that village and
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everybody's friends. I mean, it's it's she's you know, if it's transformed
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that little village. One person can do that, two people can do that.
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It's a reality that we humans are connected and our juice is usable for
53:52
each other, because love and life have to go together. If you're not,
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you know, if you if you don't understand that, life will die.
54:07
There is a wonderful word that has various iterations in Africa, but the
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one I'm familiar with is Ubuntu. You b U n tu, and it
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means I am because we are. That's what we're talking about. That's right,
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that's right, that's right. What would you like readers to take away
54:25
from The Well Lived Life? The really understanding, not just talking about,
54:36
but understanding that love is a great healer. The Bible starts out with God's
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love. Love is a great healer. And no matter what modality you're using,
54:50
but it's osteopathy, chiropractic, you know, homing opus, the attitude
54:57
with which you're using that is what's as important, and I think more important
55:05
than the actual modality itself. It's the approach. It's the way we approach
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everything in life. Right, My guest doctor Gladys McCarry her wonderful book,
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The Well Lived Life, a one hundred two year old doctor's six Secrets to
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Health and Happiness at Every age. One more time, please share our listeners
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where they can get your book and find out more about you and your amazing
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wisdom and work. All right is Gladysbegary dot com and the Foundation for Living
55:42
Medicine dot org. I am so grateful that you gave us your time today
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and shared these wonderful, wonderful messages with our listeners. Thank you for listening.
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This was a pleasure. This is truly a pleasure for me in ways
55:58
that I can not even be in to explain it. Thank you, and
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thank you to our audience for joining us on Destination and Limited. I'm Victor
56:06
the Voice Perman. Have a wonderful week.