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BASIC BLAQUE AFTER DARK, AFTER 8| SEASON 2 DA CREW PODCAST | 11/15/24 · DA CREW Podcast

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Speaker 1: Hey, everyone, this is Black Diamond from the Crew Network
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Speaker 1: and you're tuned into Basic Black after Dark, the podcast
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Speaker 1: that meets you right where you are and delivers the
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Speaker 1: conversations you crave. Tonight. I'm excited to welcome our special guests,
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Speaker 1: Bobby's stretching and inspiring author and the driving force behind
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Speaker 1: Just From Me or It's a nonprofitat needed to empower
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Speaker 1: individuals through self investment and personal development. Bobby, thank you
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Speaker 1: for joining us. We're eager to get more about your work,
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Speaker 1: your journey, and the impact of Just for Me. Wellness. Wow,
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Speaker 1: it's really really nice to have you here. Your book,
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Speaker 1: I don't even know where to begin. It just it
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Speaker 1: talks about legacy and talks about family. I want to
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Speaker 1: discuss legacy and family with you. What inspired you to
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Speaker 1: write this book? I know it was in honor of
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Speaker 1: your mother, Bessy Howard Hadden me, what inspired you to
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Speaker 1: write this book about her?
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Speaker 2: Well, actually, during the time that this came up, my
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Speaker 2: mother was living. She's deceased now, but she was living
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Speaker 2: and when we would visit and talk, she would be
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Speaker 2: sharing so much about her faith and her her life experiences,
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Speaker 2: and she said she would just love to be able
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Speaker 2: to do ministry. She wanted to travel and really evangelize
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Speaker 2: and talk about the Lord and pray with people, which
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Speaker 2: she did, but as she got older, she couldn't do it,
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Speaker 2: or she wasn't a person that knew how to drive,
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Speaker 2: and she didn't have a high school education. So when
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Speaker 2: we would be talking about these things, and I told her,
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Speaker 2: I said, Mama, gonna write a book about you and
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Speaker 2: it's gonna be called the Book of Bessie, and your
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Speaker 2: voice is gonna get out there. She says, well, I'm
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Speaker 2: gonna tell it to you because I know you will
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Speaker 2: get it out there. So we started just talking and
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Speaker 2: I would take notes. I would write down key things
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Speaker 2: that she would tell me about, and some morning she
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Speaker 2: would call me and early in the morning she said,
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Speaker 2: I got some fresh bread, I got a word from
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Speaker 2: the Lord, I got a revelation, and I want to
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Speaker 2: tell it to you. You and I would write it down.
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Speaker 2: So as the book was being formulated and birth, it
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Speaker 2: came from those conversations. Now when she when she passed,
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Speaker 2: the book hadn't been even really edited any nothing had
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Speaker 2: been done other than the foundation of it. So when
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Speaker 2: she passed, I kind of I couldn't. I couldn't really
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Speaker 2: for the grieving of it, I just didn't do anything.
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Speaker 2: It was a little heavy to deal with. But thank
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Speaker 2: god I had a supportive group of people in my
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Speaker 2: family and in my spiritual family that encouraged me and
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Speaker 2: helped me. And so with that strength I was able
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Speaker 2: to go ahead on and be able to actually finish
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Speaker 2: the first of her book about walking on Go. And
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Speaker 2: so here we are today and the book is published
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Speaker 2: and it's nominated for a Distinguished Author Deial Award, which
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Speaker 2: was su and then it won't and congratulations, thank you
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Speaker 2: so much.
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Speaker 1: It was.
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Speaker 2: So so the inspiration was people supported me saying, you
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Speaker 2: know you can do this. I'll help you. You can
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Speaker 2: do this. This is your first book, this is this
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Speaker 2: is your first book. This is my first book ever,
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Speaker 2: your first book.
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Speaker 1: And you came out of the gate winning an award.
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Speaker 1: So how important is a family legacy and how you
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Speaker 1: preserve the values and wisdom of your loved ones.
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Speaker 2: But well, family legacy is everything based on the scripture
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Speaker 2: of text that tells us that God blesses from generation
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Speaker 2: to generation. That is a legacy through faith. It's very important.
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Speaker 2: Just as much as you know, knowing Black history is
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Speaker 2: important for the next generation. In the next generation, so
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Speaker 2: is faith. Family. Faith is a legacy of what God
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Speaker 2: has done in the past that he will do again.
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Speaker 1: I see that, or I feel as though your mother
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Speaker 1: is so proud of you finishing the book. It's about her.
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Speaker 1: You got bragg and rights, Miss Hadley, you have bragging
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Speaker 1: rights where you're at, you have bragg and rights.
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Speaker 2: Oh yes, And.
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Speaker 1: To know that there was an award behind it. What
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Speaker 1: qualities or values did your mother and body that made
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Speaker 1: her such a remarkable person in your eyes?
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Speaker 2: My mama always had openness about helping other people. One
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Speaker 2: of the things I saw Mama do was take a
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Speaker 2: little food, a little cloth, turn it into garments, take
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Speaker 2: a little food, make soup, feed the whole family, no
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Speaker 2: matter who came by the house, and no matter what
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Speaker 2: we had to eat. She knew what to add to
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Speaker 2: that part, to make sure everybody got a ball.
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Speaker 1: Form to your mother's house was that house.
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Speaker 2: I've seen her endure some things that I know were
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Speaker 2: painful for her, but she did it with such a
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Speaker 2: grace that she was able to smile and then cry
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Speaker 2: in the background, come right on back out, smile.
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Speaker 1: So how do you think honoring her legacy through this
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Speaker 1: book will impact future generations of your family or even
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Speaker 1: your readers.
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Speaker 2: I think the way that this book will impact my
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Speaker 2: personal family is because we still have a generation who
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Speaker 2: can say that they were witnesses of the wisdom and
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Speaker 2: the legacy of faith that she walks. So we still
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Speaker 2: have that generation, but for the generation to come, this
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Speaker 2: story will make an impact because the Word of God
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Speaker 2: also teaches us that when we tell the amazing grace
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Speaker 2: and power of God, it causes the next generation to
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Speaker 2: have hope in that God. So that's the legacy that
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Speaker 2: this same power of faith and resiliency will reverberate. It'll
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Speaker 2: be told, and that's the impact in my personal family.
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Speaker 2: But for the readers, my mama is going to be
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Speaker 2: echoing the voices of so many readers. When you get
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Speaker 2: this book, there is a chapter that will speak to
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Speaker 2: you and you'll say, you know what, that's my story,
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Speaker 2: that's me, that was the story I wish I could
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Speaker 2: have told. Now that I see that it's in print,
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Speaker 2: is out here, they're going to be empowered to say,
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Speaker 2: you know what, I found my voice and I'm an
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Speaker 2: overcomer too.
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Speaker 1: So how can families preserve the wisdom of their elders.
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Speaker 1: You know, even as society becomes more fast paced, for instance,
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Speaker 1: with traditions, storytelling, documentation as tools for legacy building, how
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Speaker 1: can those families preserve the wisdom of their elders because
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Speaker 1: you know, sometimes they don't want to hear and the
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Speaker 1: younger people don't want to hear it because they figure, oh,
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Speaker 1: that's so old fashioned. But how do you think families
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Speaker 1: should be able to could preserve the wisdom of their elders.
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Speaker 2: I really think having this experience through the distinguished author's guilt,
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Speaker 2: I have learned that documenting writing it doesn't it doesn't
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Speaker 2: have to per se that the people take on, Well,
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Speaker 2: I'm going to write a book, but do write, write
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Speaker 2: it down, put it in writing, keep the pictures, just
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Speaker 2: tell it now. It may seem as though there's a
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Speaker 2: generation that doesn't want to hear it. It may seem
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Speaker 2: that way, but I am a witness that there's a
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Speaker 2: generation right now that it's hungry to know the identity
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Speaker 2: of where I came from so that I can get
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Speaker 2: a perspective on where I am. You know, this generation,
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Speaker 2: this generation is facing challenges. Not all of them are new,
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Speaker 2: but they are magnified. Drugs aren't new, games aren't new.
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Speaker 2: The struggles of race that's not new. Politics isn't new.
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Speaker 2: It's magnified. So they are young people, although it seems
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Speaker 2: like they don't want to hear they do. There's a
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Speaker 2: lot that's happened from generation to generations that's clouded that communication.
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Speaker 2: It's kind of perverted that communication. But I can tell
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Speaker 2: you it's a weirdness. We have an amazing generation of
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Speaker 2: young people who are hungry for that knowledge of what
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Speaker 2: where did this come from? I do want to know.
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Speaker 2: In my family, you know, they want to know. And
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Speaker 2: it's just about that faith.
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Speaker 1: I want to go to out sidebar Chanette Johnson and
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Speaker 1: saying good evening, ladies. And from the crew she's saying,
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Speaker 1: and that's the producer saying that it is powerful. I'm
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Speaker 1: very very powerful founding sponsors. It's saying amen, and it
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Speaker 1: is powerful. And also Patrese, Hey, Patrice, she's saying hello,
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Speaker 1: and she then is saying exactly to what you're saying
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Speaker 1: about our youth. You know how they are thirsty for
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Speaker 1: the information, but sometimes you know, it's just so hard
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Speaker 1: to reach them. And I think that's because they're misunderstood.
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Speaker 1: You know, I want to I want to dive into
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Speaker 1: how faith and prayer play a role in overcoming life's trials.
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Speaker 1: What was the role of in faith, in prayer and
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Speaker 1: overcoming life's obstacles as highlighted in Bessie's life.
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Speaker 2: Uh, my mama had told me that, you know, she
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Speaker 2: went through some racism, not just between different races, but
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Speaker 2: racism within our race. You know, light skin the dark
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Speaker 2: skinned thing. And there were other things with poverty. There
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Speaker 2: was things with the secrets, the things that family push
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Speaker 2: into the closet and try to shut the door on
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Speaker 2: that you couldn't do it because everybody knew it, you know,
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Speaker 2: just wasn't able to talk about it. But my mama
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Speaker 2: told me about how it was that it was God
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Speaker 2: himself that caused her to have ears to hear his
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Speaker 2: because you know, she wasn't just really grow you know,
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Speaker 2: raised up in the church. But that came a point
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Speaker 2: when when she heard God letting her know that I'm
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Speaker 2: your God. I'm not shut up in a church. I'm
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Speaker 2: your God, and I will help you. You're gonna have
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Speaker 2: to listen to me though, and he gave her ears
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Speaker 2: to hear. So faith where whereas it may look like
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Speaker 2: faith is is locked in a location. God is God
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Speaker 2: is not locked up in certain denominations. He will reach
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Speaker 2: you right where you are. So my mama experienced that
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Speaker 2: personal relationship where God would tell her while she's laying
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Speaker 2: in her bed to come and meet with me. And
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Speaker 2: she said that he would tell her two o'clock, three
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Speaker 2: o'clock in the morning, will you will you listen to me?
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Speaker 2: Will you will you come so I can talk to you?
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Speaker 2: And she did. She said, at two o'clock in the morning,
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Speaker 2: she finds herself getting out of the bed and laying
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Speaker 2: on the floor next to the bed with her face down.
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Speaker 2: She said, face down in the rug. And I'm saying,
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Speaker 2: God hear me, I don't know what to do. I
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Speaker 2: can't fix this. I'm losing my mind. And right there
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Speaker 2: on the side of her bed two and three o'clock
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Speaker 2: in the morning, she is in a place meeting with
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Speaker 2: the Lord, able to hear him talk to her about
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Speaker 2: her and then healing started.
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Speaker 1: And you think that that was one of her specific
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Speaker 1: challenges that your mother faced in you know, with her
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Speaker 1: faith that provided her strength during those times.
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Speaker 2: Absolutely absolutely. She talked a lot about how when you're
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Speaker 2: struggling with certain things in life, well everything. There are
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Speaker 2: times you cannot express what you're dealing with. Sometimes even
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Speaker 2: when you go to talk to somebody, they may not
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Speaker 2: get where you're coming from. That little breakdown, right, that
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Speaker 2: will cause you to we'll just keep it to yourself.
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Speaker 2: And so being able to talk to the Lord and
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Speaker 2: the Lord talked to you, that caused her to come
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Speaker 2: up from being a victim and she started surviving.
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Speaker 1: Your sister, Sabrina, she says that she's a witness to
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Speaker 1: your words and that your mom word still lives and
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Speaker 1: that that brings me to ask you, how did witnessing
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Speaker 1: your mother's resilience shape your outlook on life and life
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Speaker 1: and challenges? And Sabrina, your sister, so you must have
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Speaker 1: witnessed some of that too, so you could send something
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Speaker 1: through and just let us know from you too, because
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Speaker 1: your sisters, but sometimes you see things a little differently.
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Speaker 1: How did witness in your mother's resilience shape your outlook
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Speaker 1: on life and challenges?
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Speaker 2: You know, when I saw my mama going through abuse,
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Speaker 2: I coulnot and as as a child, I couldnot wrap
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Speaker 2: my mind around I couldn't get that. You know, I'm
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Speaker 2: looking at her being abused and then you know things
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Speaker 2: that I suffered. It is like she really couldn't do
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Speaker 2: a lot about it, and so no, I mean I
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Speaker 2: couldn't really process all of that. But as I grew
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Speaker 2: older and she and I were able to talk, we
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Speaker 2: even made it to a place where we could pray together.
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Speaker 2: I saw her overcome things that she used to couldn't do.
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Speaker 2: I saw her find her voice. It didn't necessarily make
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Speaker 2: it easier in the beginning, but I saw her and
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Speaker 2: I could witness that, Hey, listen, you may have a
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Speaker 2: place where you're broken. I watched my mama go from
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Speaker 2: being broken to being healed. I saw her without an identity,
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Speaker 2: and then I saw her with God find it. So
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Speaker 2: for me, I can look at my mom and say, yeah,
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Speaker 2: A that was maybe a place where I am that
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Speaker 2: you know, I don't. I don't really see me. I
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Speaker 2: don't I don't get me. I don't know me. But
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Speaker 2: I saw her and her words.
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Speaker 1: Do you think me? Do you think that this could
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Speaker 1: lead to a broader conversation on how listeners can draw
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Speaker 1: in their beliefs or practices during tough times.
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Speaker 2: It can because it's real. Religion is skewed by the definition.
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Speaker 2: But faith in God is an absolute truth. Faith in
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Speaker 2: God works, the Word of God works.
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Speaker 1: I see and feel empowerment and self investment with you.
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Speaker 1: What does that mean? Since you're the president of Just
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Speaker 1: for Me Wellness Incorporated. I believe it is incorporated. How
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Speaker 1: would you define self investment and why is it essential
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Speaker 1: and personal growth and empowerment.
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Speaker 2: Self investments are important because there are investments you make
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Speaker 2: into yourself, not into somebody else, so you're not having
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Speaker 2: to decipher how to fix somebody. Self investments mean you
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Speaker 2: look at you as the priority. You look at yourself.
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Speaker 2: It's sometimes that's hard to do for life because we're
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Speaker 2: so busy focusing outward. So self investments causes you to
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Speaker 2: look inside and first of all, do an assessment of
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Speaker 2: how you're doing. You'd be surprised how you're doing. It's
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Speaker 2: empowering just to take a moment and say, how does
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Speaker 2: my body feel? I worked all day. You can't even
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Speaker 2: tell that your feet are slowly, you can't even tell
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Speaker 2: that you've even got a stomach ache, you've got a headache,
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Speaker 2: because you're so we're so driven to push past things,
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Speaker 2: so where we think that we're empowering others. We're kind
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Speaker 2: of like leeching from ourselves. You're losing a lot of you,
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Speaker 2: being the you that you see that needs to be
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Speaker 2: in your environment, in your social circle.
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Speaker 1: You've lost you a lot that I like that what
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Speaker 1: you said when you sat leeching off of yourself. I
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Speaker 1: would have never never thought about it that way. But
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Speaker 1: what are some of some simple practical ways people can
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Speaker 1: begin to invest in themselves daily mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
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Speaker 2: The way that they can do that daily listen first
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Speaker 2: of all, to do it on a daily routine. You
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Speaker 2: ever get up in the morning, and when you get
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Speaker 2: started going, your first thought is the things you gotta
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Speaker 2: do for other people, your job, your responsibilities, a self
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Speaker 2: investment you can do every day before you get to
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Speaker 2: going on yourself. Did you sleep okay?
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Speaker 3: Yeah?
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Speaker 2: Are you playing on drinking some water when you get up? No,
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Speaker 2: I gotta hurry. Are you gonna take time to say
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Speaker 2: yeah for me today? I'm gonna start it off with
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Speaker 2: a praise. I gotta i gotta get some thank you in.
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Speaker 2: I gotta get my thoughts together. Sometime you wake up
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Speaker 2: you don't even have your right mind. Your mind is
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Speaker 2: your mind is bringing thoughts to you you're not even
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Speaker 2: in control of that's daily. You could do that mentally.
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Speaker 2: Mentally again, do an assessment. You get up, you know,
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Speaker 2: you wake up in the morning times and you gotta
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Speaker 2: check on that attitude. You don't even know where it's
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Speaker 2: coming from. Sometime it's left over from the day before,
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Speaker 2: got rotten day at work yesterday. You get up this
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Speaker 2: morning and sometime you're already predetermining what you think gonna
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Speaker 2: go wrong. Stop a minute and check on you. I'm good,
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Speaker 2: I'm good this morning. Yeah, I like me. I'm good,
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Speaker 2: and I'm gonna see about me today. Give yourself some
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Speaker 2: affirmation mentally. The next one was emotional yeah. Emotionally yeah yeah, emotionally,
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Speaker 2: I think again, it all comes to assessment. Taking time
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Speaker 2: to ask yourself how you doing? Do you know? Sometimes
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Speaker 2: you pack a lot of things in that you've got
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Speaker 2: an imosity about and you're finding out that I don't
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Speaker 2: feel good and some of that is really just your emotions.
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Speaker 2: You need to get a few minutes and say, you
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Speaker 2: know what, I don't like this right here or I
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Speaker 2: do like that. Give yourself time to assess what's going on.
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Speaker 2: You could you could hate your job. You could say
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Speaker 2: I want I hate my job and don't even know why.
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Speaker 2: You really think it's that, but it's something else. You
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Speaker 2: really just hate getting up, putting on clothes and getting
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Speaker 2: dressed up. It ain't even that serious. It ain't that serious.
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Speaker 1: Get out of that bad, especially when it's a nice,
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Speaker 1: warm bed and you just did that final turnover before
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Speaker 1: I ask you got to get up?
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Speaker 2: Talk about it, girl, You tell myself already moody.
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Speaker 1: I hear some people say, oh, I get up at
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Speaker 1: five o'clock in the morning for whatever they're getting up for.
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Speaker 1: I'm saying to myself, I'm just turning over for the
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Speaker 1: fourth time at five o'clock in the morning. So if
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Speaker 1: I had to get up at that time and that
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Speaker 1: wasn't my normal thing, yeah, I'm gonna be moody because
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Speaker 1: that wasn't my planing time and it just threw off
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Speaker 1: my day, Like dag, why am I up?
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Speaker 2: Yeah?
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Speaker 1: You know, especially dude, I'll say it for me like
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Speaker 1: I have. I have small children in my house and
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Speaker 1: one of them get up to go to the bathroom
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Speaker 1: at five o'clock in the morning. I know I'm heting
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Speaker 1: because I'm not going back to sleep because I'm feeling
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Speaker 1: like they're up and I don't like to I don't
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Speaker 1: like to sleep. Bile. The children are walking around because
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Speaker 1: it's five o'clock, you're starting to see that crack or sunlight.
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Speaker 1: They're up, So I'm asking, what what are you up for?
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Speaker 1: I had to use the bathroom. I wanted some water. Okay,
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Speaker 1: I get it that you had to use the bathroom
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Speaker 1: that water. It can have waited because then you got
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Speaker 1: to use the bathroom again. So I'm just turning over
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Speaker 1: and they're just getting up. So I do get that.
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Speaker 1: You know, when my mother used to tell my brothers
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Speaker 1: to get up, they would tell them.
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Speaker 2: Up, Ma, you'd take you.
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Speaker 1: I want to hed him. Feet hit the floor. They
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Speaker 1: would turn around and I knew they was doing it.
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Speaker 1: Thing I ain't say nothing. Turn around and you have
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Speaker 1: the people hit the floor. Their body was telling the
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Speaker 1: bag just laying there. I'm like, Okay, I'm gonna get
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Speaker 1: it now. But I do get it. I do understand
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Speaker 1: the emotional, But what about spiritually checking on yourself, spiritually
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Speaker 1: listen just just the times that we live in uh,
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Speaker 1: this social media platform, there is so many things that
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Speaker 1: come in to infistrate what is even true Spiritually, even
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Speaker 1: when it comes to God, there are times that God
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Speaker 1: is so misunderstood. He's given accountability for.
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Speaker 2: He didn't even do so. Spiritually, sometimes it's hard to
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Speaker 2: seek God for help when you don't trust God. God,
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Speaker 2: why you let this happen? What went on with that?
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Speaker 2: I don't understand. So spiritually you have to check on yourself,
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Speaker 2: and the only way to do that is in the
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Speaker 2: world of God and prayer. Now, you can't pray tell
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Speaker 2: God that you think is failing you. You know, even
24:23
Speaker 2: when you go to church, if you are a person
24:25
Speaker 2: that goes to church, sometimes you're looking more at the
24:28
Speaker 2: person preaching than the person they're preaching about. You know,
24:33
Speaker 2: God told me this one time. He says, if there
24:34
Speaker 2: are a hundred preachers, one hundred preachers, now are one
24:39
Speaker 2: hundred preachers, ninety nine of them are a hypocrite. Ninety
24:44
Speaker 2: nine of the hundred are a hypocrite. And you're saying,
24:47
Speaker 2: I can't believe nobody. You know what, I seen big
24:50
Speaker 2: pastors do this, little pastors do that. And God said,
24:54
Speaker 2: I don't care if it's ninety nine out of one
24:56
Speaker 2: hundred preachers that are a hypocrite, What does that have
25:01
Speaker 2: to do with the faithfulness and the finished works of
25:05
Speaker 2: Jesus Christ. See. So spiritually, there's a whole lot of misconception.
25:12
Speaker 2: There's a whole lot of untruth about God. He said,
25:16
Speaker 2: I so loved you, I sent my son to die
25:20
Speaker 2: for you. So while you're looking at all the ninety
25:23
Speaker 2: ninety hypochrists, what does that have to do with my
25:27
Speaker 2: love for you? It's personal.
25:31
Speaker 1: So you can not saying that's right. I guess she
25:33
Speaker 1: agrees with you and say, yeah, there's some hypocrites in
25:38
Speaker 1: the church. And I'm gonna leave that long because I
25:40
Speaker 1: just started going back. I don't want them to think
25:43
Speaker 1: talking about them. But Shenett again is agreeing with you
25:48
Speaker 1: and saying exactly now you spoke about investing in themselves daily, mentally,
25:53
Speaker 1: emotionally and spiritually can improve How can they improve their mental,
25:59
Speaker 1: emotional and spiritual well being? Listen, because if that is
26:04
Speaker 1: one thing, but improving something totally different.
26:07
Speaker 2: It is it takes. It takes this part of when
26:11
Speaker 2: I know old people used to say this, when you
26:13
Speaker 2: get sick and tired of being sick and tired, change
26:17
Speaker 2: goes to happening. I'm gonna be a witness that you
26:22
Speaker 2: can improve it by being willing. You know that some
26:27
Speaker 2: you know, you know that's saying about how you know
26:30
Speaker 2: if you keep doing the same thing looking for a
26:32
Speaker 2: different result, you just you know, I ain't gonna say it.
26:34
Speaker 2: You know that's crazy or nothing, but you know it's
26:37
Speaker 2: not gonna change. So to make that improvement, even even
26:42
Speaker 2: the concept of repentance just means change your mind. Be
26:48
Speaker 2: willing to say that, you know what, That's a way
26:51
Speaker 2: that seems right to me. But I can tell that
26:53
Speaker 2: ain't working. That there's things that I've been putting my
26:56
Speaker 2: hope in and I can see now it's not working.
26:59
Speaker 2: Let me let go, let me surrender it.
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Speaker 1: Some people, it's hard. And I'll testify on that one
27:08
Speaker 1: because I've been holding on to something for over forty
27:12
Speaker 1: years and left it. And I'm gonna be honest. You know,
27:16
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna sit there and act like it didn't happen.
27:19
Speaker 1: And I just held on to it and it was anger.
27:22
Speaker 1: I held on to it for such a long time.
27:24
Speaker 1: But I'm gonna tell you right now, it feels so
27:27
Speaker 1: good to them let it go. That was my friend.
27:30
Speaker 1: It kept me company. He did what I wanted it
27:33
Speaker 1: to do. It was there when I needed it. It
27:36
Speaker 1: was my everything. You couldn't tell me nothing about I
27:38
Speaker 1: would fight for my best anger. But that day it
27:42
Speaker 1: had to go. I don't know what it was about,
27:46
Speaker 1: but it had to go. Now it could be peeping
27:47
Speaker 1: in windows, but my windows are shut and locked. So
27:51
Speaker 1: I definitely, I definitely get what you're saying. Let me
27:55
Speaker 1: ask you, what is the profound impact of just for
27:58
Speaker 1: me wellness? Since we're talking about, you know, transformation and everything,
28:02
Speaker 1: how do your wellness initiatives catly catalyze transforming individual lives
28:08
Speaker 1: and strengthening community Because but you have this wellness program
28:13
Speaker 1: just for me wellness, I want to know more about
28:14
Speaker 1: that as well.
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Speaker 2: Just for me wellness uh in the in the title
28:20
Speaker 2: of it, in the name of it, just for Me.
28:25
Speaker 2: It focuses on the individual who comes in and participate
28:31
Speaker 2: with our seminars, our wellness workshops. We do them in
28:36
Speaker 2: person and virtually we do them in groups, we do
28:40
Speaker 2: them individually, and it begins all with this one foundation
28:44
Speaker 2: step learning to do basic self assessment, which we've already
28:51
Speaker 2: discussed when you were asking me about how do you
28:54
Speaker 2: how do you do that mentally spiritually? So it's it's
28:58
Speaker 2: it's multi It seems like it's multifaceted, but at the
29:02
Speaker 2: same time it's singular because it's all about checking on
29:08
Speaker 2: yourself just for me. This isn't this isn't a wellness
29:12
Speaker 2: initiative for you to try to lose weight per se
29:16
Speaker 2: or you know, get in shape and that that's the
29:19
Speaker 2: driving force. No, this is about your overall wellness so
29:24
Speaker 2: that it can take it can take those areas that
29:27
Speaker 2: are maybe more prioritized that you're struggling with. There are
29:32
Speaker 2: people who may do want to lose weight. But the
29:35
Speaker 2: thing is, have you assessed yourself to see what's going
29:38
Speaker 2: on with the weight gain? What is what does this
29:40
Speaker 2: even come from?
29:41
Speaker 1: You know?
29:42
Speaker 2: Is it just a mat.
29:45
Speaker 1: A lot of people confuse that when they hear wellness
29:48
Speaker 1: that automatically gravitate to weight nots that's right to what?
29:53
Speaker 1: But a wellness could be just the wellbeing of you,
29:57
Speaker 1: the mind, the body, the soul. But people are associating
30:02
Speaker 1: it with the wellness for your just for me wellness.
30:05
Speaker 1: Can you tell us more about some of the programs
30:07
Speaker 1: it's orfited by just for Me wellness and then let
30:10
Speaker 1: me know about the differences that they're making in your community.
30:14
Speaker 2: Really, it has three basic principles. The programs that we
30:18
Speaker 2: have again it deals with basic self assessments and from
30:23
Speaker 2: there we move on to what we find and discover
30:28
Speaker 2: for either the group or the individual or the participant
30:32
Speaker 2: that really comes in and take advantage of the guided
30:36
Speaker 2: way to do those assessments. Then we'll focus on the
30:39
Speaker 2: target areas. There are people who come in and they
30:43
Speaker 2: do need help with dietary nutrition. Some of them come
30:48
Speaker 2: in and they're dealing with mental health issues. There are
30:51
Speaker 2: others that come in and they have chronic illnesses. So,
30:56
Speaker 2: just for me, wellness also networks with resources, so we're
31:01
Speaker 2: not all about you know, as a disclaimer, we don't
31:05
Speaker 2: bring you into programs and offer these things so that
31:09
Speaker 2: you can say, okay, what do I need to do
31:11
Speaker 2: and we prescribe something or we say take this medication
31:15
Speaker 2: to see this position, but rather we do the assessment
31:18
Speaker 2: and help you prepare to see a licensed position. There
31:23
Speaker 2: are people that we have dealt with in seminars and
31:26
Speaker 2: workshop and even individually who do don't take advantage of
31:30
Speaker 2: going to the doctor. They go, but they go in fear.
31:34
Speaker 2: They don't want to be honest, they don't really want
31:36
Speaker 2: to share symptoms they're afraid of their medications. They get them,
31:40
Speaker 2: don't take them, they take them like they want to.
31:43
Speaker 2: So we come alongside with education to let them know
31:48
Speaker 2: how to prepare for that. We also net where with professionals,
31:52
Speaker 2: or we just did a workshop this past two months
31:57
Speaker 2: ago on mental health awareness. Or We brought in rins,
32:02
Speaker 2: We brought in clinical therapists, We brought in research so
32:10
Speaker 2: that they could know the resources that are available in
32:13
Speaker 2: that local city we was in as well as you know,
32:17
Speaker 2: national hotlines. We brought in links that they could go
32:22
Speaker 2: and visit. We gave them worksheets so that they can
32:26
Speaker 2: take them home and do them so that when you
32:28
Speaker 2: do go to the doctor, that you go prepare even
32:32
Speaker 2: if it means listen, and also sometimes it means bringing
32:36
Speaker 2: somebody with you to help you to even know what
32:40
Speaker 2: happened when you went to the doctor, because sometimes it's
32:43
Speaker 2: so intimidating. People will sit there and after the appointment
32:47
Speaker 2: go home and what did the doctor say, Well, I
32:51
Speaker 2: don't remember, I don't know.
32:54
Speaker 1: Family, just for me, just for me. Wellness is actually
32:59
Speaker 1: the real It's not just somebody have a brick and
33:02
Speaker 1: mortar and they just put some words up there on
33:04
Speaker 1: outside of a building. You are the real deal. What
33:07
Speaker 1: are some of the most memorable success stories or moments
33:10
Speaker 1: that have come out of your work with the non property.
33:14
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness. I remember talking with a with a
33:19
Speaker 2: kind of an elderly lady in her in her seventies,
33:24
Speaker 2: and she was petrified of doctors because she believed in
33:28
Speaker 2: God so much that she just did not want to
33:32
Speaker 2: So she was talking to me about her issues or
33:35
Speaker 2: health issues, and I said, Okay, this is what we're
33:37
Speaker 2: gonna do. We're gonna we're gonna sit together and we're
33:40
Speaker 2: gonna go through this stuff. We're gonna talk about your symptoms,
33:43
Speaker 2: your medications and all of this. Well, the fear left
33:46
Speaker 2: her when when we could talk and she didn't feel intimidated,
33:51
Speaker 2: you know, it was a good safe place, and we
33:54
Speaker 2: talked about it and we got a plan together, and
33:57
Speaker 2: then I told her, now, now you need to talk
33:59
Speaker 2: to your family because you don't want them to be
34:04
Speaker 2: in the dark about what's going on with you. And
34:07
Speaker 2: then something critical happens, you know, And she actually did
34:12
Speaker 2: have a terminal illness, but she was able to talk
34:15
Speaker 2: to her family. They were able to come together be
34:18
Speaker 2: a support system in that area. And then you know,
34:23
Speaker 2: as she went on and by the way, she's still
34:25
Speaker 2: alive today, but that's because she took the lesson and
34:30
Speaker 2: she was able to self advocate for her wellness. Now
34:35
Speaker 2: she didn't go in and wait for somebody to south
34:37
Speaker 2: to her. She was able to ask questions, be knowledgeable,
34:41
Speaker 2: she was able to take ownership of her wellness. And
34:46
Speaker 2: then the.
34:49
Speaker 1: Once they take ownership, I mean just about anything, but
34:53
Speaker 1: especially of their wellness, it's like turning on a light
35:00
Speaker 1: that's been out and refrigerated for such a long time.
35:03
Speaker 1: How do you measure the success of these wellness initiatives?
35:07
Speaker 1: Can you share some I know you shared that story
35:09
Speaker 1: rate there, but what about some examples where your programs
35:12
Speaker 1: have sparked real lasting change in the lives of those youselves.
35:17
Speaker 2: Those that I've partnered with in the past, where we've
35:20
Speaker 2: collaborated on health initiatives, wellness initiatives, where we've even we've
35:26
Speaker 2: done some self defense classes even to help people to
35:31
Speaker 2: learn how to be more aware of their surroundings and
35:34
Speaker 2: be on the defense and not you know, feel like
35:39
Speaker 2: a well if I don't have a gun, or if
35:40
Speaker 2: I don't have a crowd, then I'm totally vulnerable. No,
35:45
Speaker 2: we educated their awareness up to where listen, you may
35:50
Speaker 2: need to get a weapon, so let's talk about the
35:52
Speaker 2: ways to do that safely. We met with the Sheriff Department.
35:57
Speaker 2: They were offering gun safety aware fareness classes. So all
36:01
Speaker 2: of that is what just me Wellness is able to collaborate,
36:07
Speaker 2: so we're not a standalone organization. We partner to bring
36:12
Speaker 2: in what's needed for the people who are willing now
36:17
Speaker 2: to come in and say, listen, I need to make
36:20
Speaker 2: a self investment. I need to learn to do this.
36:24
Speaker 2: I don't know how to do it. I'm afraid to
36:26
Speaker 2: do it. So we look at success when we have
36:30
Speaker 2: repetitive invitations to come alongside other organizations and bring in
36:35
Speaker 2: what we have and sharing. When we do the workshops
36:39
Speaker 2: and we send out the emails, and we get emails
36:42
Speaker 2: by requesting follow up materials that we presented in our
36:48
Speaker 2: seminars and workshops. So all of that goes into determining,
36:53
Speaker 2: you know, what's working as well as what's not working,
36:57
Speaker 2: and we may do it to look and extend our
37:01
Speaker 2: level of comprehension to make sure that we're still relevant,
37:06
Speaker 2: you know, to the community and families that we're serving.
37:11
Speaker 1: So I love that you say investment. That's like a
37:15
Speaker 1: deposit that they're putting in. How can someone stay consistent
37:19
Speaker 1: with these practices, especially when life gets busy or they
37:22
Speaker 1: face set back.
37:24
Speaker 2: Well, that's the point of staying connected. Listen, We're not
37:28
Speaker 2: an island. We're never going to be successful as an island.
37:32
Speaker 2: So once you find out, you know where help is,
37:38
Speaker 2: especially if the relationship is built. So it Just for
37:41
Speaker 2: Me Wellness. I strive to build those relationships. So it
37:46
Speaker 2: isn't just you come to this workshop, this seminar you
37:50
Speaker 2: you know, you and I meet, we talk, you know,
37:52
Speaker 2: and then that's the end of it. No, it builds
37:55
Speaker 2: on relationship, whether it's with me or some of the
37:58
Speaker 2: partners that I deal with that we try to build
38:01
Speaker 2: that relationship because support is important. Community is strengthening more
38:10
Speaker 2: so than a person saying well let me come in
38:12
Speaker 2: and get a quick fix. Now, we want you to
38:15
Speaker 2: know that we are part of a community at Just
38:19
Speaker 2: for Me Wellness.
38:21
Speaker 1: So are there any tips for overcoming challenges and maintaining
38:25
Speaker 1: their mental, emotional and spiritual well being?
38:29
Speaker 2: Yes, there is. I tell you what I guess. I
38:33
Speaker 2: want to be careful in how I say this because again,
38:37
Speaker 2: there's so much misinformation. There's so much I almost want
38:43
Speaker 2: to say, you know, when I was speaking about how
38:46
Speaker 2: God is even you know, it's not accurate information because
38:52
Speaker 2: sometimes God is put on the level as man when
38:56
Speaker 2: it comes to preachers or churches. It's like the people
39:00
Speaker 2: that we see with our eyes are God, you know.
39:03
Speaker 2: So if they do good, then God is good. If
39:06
Speaker 2: they do bad, then God is bad. But I want
39:08
Speaker 2: to tell you, for your emotional and spiritual, for your
39:15
Speaker 2: just for you to find yourself, it is necessary to
39:20
Speaker 2: connect with God in your own prayer time. But even
39:26
Speaker 2: at just for me wellness, we do offer connections for
39:30
Speaker 2: people who need to be strengthen in that area. People
39:33
Speaker 2: who are grieving and they're having a hard time coming
39:36
Speaker 2: out of it, we have connections for that. We do,
39:41
Speaker 2: but again it's based on a person's willingness. So anybody
39:45
Speaker 2: that's listening to me right now, and you're dealing with
39:48
Speaker 2: some emotional issues, you're dealing with spiritual issues, you're dealing
39:52
Speaker 2: with like you said yourself, you know, there's people who
39:56
Speaker 2: are hanging on to anger because they don't know how
39:58
Speaker 2: to let go so that they can experience peace. I
40:03
Speaker 2: don't know how it's listen. I'm gonna tell you myself.
40:08
Speaker 2: It may have been something that I hung on too
40:10
Speaker 2: for such a long time. But the hurts, you know,
40:15
Speaker 2: it may not hurt like you're pinching somebody or punching
40:17
Speaker 2: them or slapping them or stepping on their foot.
40:20
Speaker 1: Anger hurtings. And I can't tell you what that film
40:25
Speaker 1: is like because you have to figure out if that's
40:29
Speaker 1: the hurt from anger or to hurt from somebody else
40:32
Speaker 1: that's within you. And once you let it go, I'm
40:35
Speaker 1: telling you, it is such a freedom.
40:37
Speaker 3: It is.
40:38
Speaker 1: You feel so free, like you're just it's just so
40:42
Speaker 1: much that you're free from. You know, You're sleeping patterns
40:47
Speaker 1: are different, You're eating patterns are different, the way you
40:50
Speaker 1: speak to people are different. It's just such a difference
40:53
Speaker 1: because it's gone, and it's something that that I'll speak
40:58
Speaker 1: for me weighing you down. And when it weighs you down,
41:02
Speaker 1: you it's hard to get up. It is really hard
41:06
Speaker 1: to get up. So let me ask you before I
41:09
Speaker 1: go into all of that, because this is not even
41:11
Speaker 1: about me. What is the process of emotional journey behind
41:16
Speaker 1: writing deep a deeply personal book like Walking on the
41:20
Speaker 1: Streets of gold. Oh my goodness, I.
41:26
Speaker 2: You know, my mom was living, so it was it
41:29
Speaker 2: was started out easy because she's right there, she's talking,
41:32
Speaker 2: I'm writing, I'm sharing, and you know, I'm comprehending, I'm growing,
41:36
Speaker 2: I'm being strengthened. But when she passed, she wasn't there anymore.
41:42
Speaker 2: And I'm there with her words, I'm there with her voice,
41:45
Speaker 2: and I'm there as a witness of her experiences. So again,
41:51
Speaker 2: grief was.
41:54
Speaker 1: Overwhelming.
41:54
Speaker 2: I mean, I lost my mom and and and I
41:59
Speaker 2: don't I don't have a place to pick up that
42:03
Speaker 2: manuscript of those notes. But because she left the legacy
42:09
Speaker 2: of wisdom about God, she left the wisdom about faith.
42:14
Speaker 2: I was able to use what she said and be
42:19
Speaker 2: able to go through the process of grieving. And it
42:22
Speaker 2: wasn't instant overnight. Listen to me, the process was easier
42:27
Speaker 2: because when I missed her and yearn for her, I'm
42:32
Speaker 2: listening and i'ma remember her saying listen. But she died
42:36
Speaker 2: of a terminal illness. She says, I'm tired, and God
42:39
Speaker 2: is gonna give me some rest. And she says, what's
42:42
Speaker 2: gonna happen is I'm gonna be with Jesus walking on
42:46
Speaker 2: streets of gold. That's what he promised. She says, I'm
42:50
Speaker 2: going to walk on streets of gold. And so when
42:55
Speaker 2: I began to miss her and think on her, those
42:58
Speaker 2: words came right on there too. She's not out in
43:01
Speaker 2: the cemetery now. Her body is the remains of her flesh,
43:06
Speaker 2: but her spirit is walking on streaks of gold. This
43:10
Speaker 2: is what Jesus promise. This is this is what makes
43:14
Speaker 2: God able to heal anger, jealousy, bitterness. God is able
43:21
Speaker 2: to heal that through what he did by giving Jesus.
43:26
Speaker 2: And so when my mama's words that, listen, baby, I'm
43:30
Speaker 2: gonna be walking on streaks of gold. I'm gonna be
43:33
Speaker 2: an overcomer whatever I suffer. Through God, through his son,
43:38
Speaker 2: Jesus gave me freedom. I'm not a victim. And then
43:44
Speaker 2: she went on to say this. Listen. She says, I'm
43:46
Speaker 2: not even surviving. I'm not surviving an abusive marriage. I'm
43:51
Speaker 2: not surviving racism. I'm not surviving when I couldn't forgive people,
43:58
Speaker 2: I didn't survive it. I overcame it by the blood
44:01
Speaker 2: of the Lamb. He told me the same way I
44:05
Speaker 2: forgive you, you're free forgive them, and you're gonna be free indeed,
44:14
Speaker 2: And so.
44:14
Speaker 1: I don't want to say I don't want to say challenges.
44:19
Speaker 1: I'd rather say different stages. What are some of the
44:22
Speaker 1: stages that you faced in writing this book, especially since
44:25
Speaker 1: it was such a personal story.
44:29
Speaker 2: Wondering what the stages was you was your mom.
44:35
Speaker 1: I don't like to death. I'll say separating from you.
44:38
Speaker 1: So I know that was one of the stages, and
44:39
Speaker 1: I know that that I can just imagine it being
44:42
Speaker 1: one of the hardest. What are some of the other stages,
44:46
Speaker 1: And I'll say it that way, because again I don't
44:48
Speaker 1: like to say challenges that you faced them writing this book,
44:52
Speaker 1: especially since it was such a personal story.
44:55
Speaker 2: Well, I went through the stage of once I had
44:58
Speaker 2: people supporting me and encouraging me to finish it. I
45:03
Speaker 2: began to wonder when we were writing it. I wanted
45:07
Speaker 2: it to stay in her voice, because that was her desire.
45:10
Speaker 2: She wanted to tell it so because she didn't have
45:13
Speaker 2: perfect grammar, perfect speech. You know, that was first the
45:17
Speaker 2: challenge of trying to write it differently than she said it.
45:22
Speaker 2: And so right there I said, yeah, maybe I do
45:25
Speaker 2: need to change it, because I don't want people to say, well,
45:27
Speaker 2: I don't get what she's saying. You know, it's her,
45:30
Speaker 2: it's her vernacular, but you know people not getting it.
45:34
Speaker 2: So I said, well, if if I don't write it
45:38
Speaker 2: in a way where people get it, then you know
45:41
Speaker 2: that's not helpful. But I went through the stage and listen,
45:46
Speaker 2: we're gonna write it and honor her. This is her story,
45:49
Speaker 2: so we're gonna keep her vernacular. So that was one
45:52
Speaker 2: stage and so I stood firm and there were people
45:55
Speaker 2: that supported me write it just the way she said it.
46:00
Speaker 2: So I was good there, and then I went through
46:02
Speaker 2: the stage up. But what is my family gonna say?
46:05
Speaker 2: Because as you spoke about my sister who's on the
46:08
Speaker 2: line now, her perspective of what Mom went through is
46:15
Speaker 2: different than mine because the relationships are personalized. You know,
46:20
Speaker 2: way her and Mama was wasn't the way me and
46:22
Speaker 2: Mom was. And so I'm wondering who's gonna be offended,
46:25
Speaker 2: who's gonna say that's not true or she shouldn't have
46:29
Speaker 2: said that. And so I didn't quit, but I did
46:33
Speaker 2: have a stage right there where I paused and said, wait,
46:37
Speaker 2: I'm wondering how people are gonna hear it. But then
46:42
Speaker 2: what brought me through that stage was either stay true
46:48
Speaker 2: that this is her voice and she's telling how her
46:52
Speaker 2: faith caused her to overcome, or this isn't the book
46:55
Speaker 2: to write. And so I made it through that stage
46:58
Speaker 2: by saying, yes, this is the this is walking on
47:01
Speaker 2: Streets of Gold, Bassie, the voice of an open So
47:07
Speaker 2: I may.
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Speaker 1: I love that you continue to refer to the things
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Speaker 1: that may be in the book as the voice of
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Speaker 1: your mom, because you know, between the two of us,
47:18
Speaker 1: you know your mom's voice. And and I guess and
47:21
Speaker 1: it sounds like every time you speak of this book,
47:25
Speaker 1: although I'm hearing you, she's whispering too, and that that's
47:31
Speaker 1: what it seems, that just keeps echoing out that she's
47:34
Speaker 1: she's whispering to you, you know, and it just seems
47:38
Speaker 1: that it's just it's not eerie, it's it's peaceful, you know,
47:47
Speaker 1: just just by hearing what you're saying, and and and
47:50
Speaker 1: and knowing the title of the book and visualizing the cover,
47:56
Speaker 1: I feel as though she's whispering to you and she's
48:01
Speaker 1: proud that you did youself voice and you didn't forget
48:04
Speaker 1: all the lessons learned. So what ways, well, rather instead
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Speaker 1: of somewhat words, you were encouraged by so many others
48:15
Speaker 1: to finish this book, and you were adamant about using
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Speaker 1: her voice. What encouragement or advice would you offer to
48:23
Speaker 1: those who are hesitant to shar is their stories, Because
48:26
Speaker 1: it seems like it's a powerful story and it's not
48:28
Speaker 1: just your story, it's your legacy.
48:33
Speaker 2: I would encourage people and tell them, listen, just write
48:38
Speaker 2: it down. That's the first thing I would tell you.
48:41
Speaker 2: You know, it may be it may be so intimate
48:45
Speaker 2: right now that you don't see yourself sharing it, And
48:48
Speaker 2: that's okay right now. But I encourage you write it down,
48:52
Speaker 2: Capture it. It'll it'll actually minister to you as you
48:58
Speaker 2: write it down, those words will speak to you as well.
49:02
Speaker 2: And so capture that. Put it together. You know when
49:06
Speaker 2: it's when it's a little difficult and you got to
49:08
Speaker 2: back away, I want to encourage it.
49:10
Speaker 1: That's good to back away. See this night, that's what
49:14
Speaker 1: you hear from from a DAG winner. See the first
49:17
Speaker 1: time coming out the gate. That's a DAG winner. And
49:20
Speaker 1: what ways getting storytelling further? It's a powerful tool for
49:24
Speaker 1: processing emotions. Because this book seemed like it was very emotional,
49:28
Speaker 1: or it could have been very emotional and for people
49:31
Speaker 1: was hearing your story, it could be very emotional. How
49:36
Speaker 1: does the how does that resonate with you? And how
49:39
Speaker 1: is that force the connections and promote healing.
49:44
Speaker 2: Having you know, there's a saying about the best way
49:47
Speaker 2: to overcome fear is to face it, and so in
49:52
Speaker 2: writing this, I I every time I had to deal
49:55
Speaker 2: with it, I had to face it. My mama was gone,
49:59
Speaker 2: I had to face it it, you know, to work
50:01
Speaker 2: on it. I had to face it through the stages.
50:03
Speaker 2: And so in facing it, although not easy, it's processing.
50:10
Speaker 2: Grief doesn't just poof go away. I mean, you know,
50:15
Speaker 2: you go through the stages of denying it a while,
50:19
Speaker 2: then you're angry about it happening. Then you're you know,
50:23
Speaker 2: maybe depressed about it. Then the next thing you don't
50:26
Speaker 2: know how to process bad memories that might have taken
50:30
Speaker 2: place with the person you love. But all that is
50:33
Speaker 2: the process, Okay, all that is the process, and it's okay.
50:38
Speaker 2: God takes us through it. So going through this this book,
50:43
Speaker 2: you will find that if there's somebody's who's lost her,
50:48
Speaker 2: for people who lost the loved one, I would encourage
50:50
Speaker 2: you to get the book because my Mama's voice talks
50:54
Speaker 2: about how even through terminal illness, God was there with her,
50:59
Speaker 2: and that that soothes the heart that the person you
51:04
Speaker 2: loved God loved them too. He was with them. And yes, separation,
51:10
Speaker 2: as you put it, is a part of life. It's
51:13
Speaker 2: a part of life. It's not a strange phenomenon. So
51:18
Speaker 2: God is there with us to let us know that
51:21
Speaker 2: all of us didn't come to stay in this world.
51:23
Speaker 2: We're gonna you know, we're gonna pass away one day,
51:26
Speaker 2: but knowing the comfort that He gives a person. So
51:31
Speaker 2: when my mama was in transition and she's talking about
51:36
Speaker 2: I don't want to take a lot of time, but
51:37
Speaker 2: I'm gonna share this one to help somebody. When you
51:41
Speaker 2: buy this book, you're gonna hear my mom's voice talking
51:44
Speaker 2: about how God told her, listen, if you were drowning
51:48
Speaker 2: in the sea, I would become living water around you
51:55
Speaker 2: and you wouldn't drown because I'm living water. Then to
52:00
Speaker 2: see that you seem to be drowning in so you'll
52:04
Speaker 2: loved one. Although they're going through that, God promises that
52:07
Speaker 2: I'm right there, and he takes them through this passage
52:14
Speaker 2: with the level of comfort, and that will comfort you
52:18
Speaker 2: that will comfort you. When my mom talks about you know,
52:21
Speaker 2: God is saying that I'm faithful to you even until
52:27
Speaker 2: your last day, and I'll come and then you'll be
52:30
Speaker 2: with me. So listen, in this book there there are
52:34
Speaker 2: different stages. Each chapter. You will hear her voice echo.
52:38
Speaker 2: The struggles, even the victories, you will hear an echo
52:44
Speaker 2: of your own voice. This book ministers with you in faith.
52:51
Speaker 1: Okay, so well, if you just mentioned that's a part
52:55
Speaker 1: of what's in this book.
52:57
Speaker 2: That's a part of what's in the book. Now, it's
53:00
Speaker 2: an easy read. It's an easy read. But the but
53:04
Speaker 2: the you.
53:05
Speaker 1: Know, I bet the different on that when you say
53:07
Speaker 1: that it's a real easy read because you wrote it.
53:11
Speaker 1: You've heard your mother's words. But sitting here listening to
53:14
Speaker 1: you speak, although your mom was not my mom, just
53:23
Speaker 1: waiting to hear those words as I read it. That's
53:27
Speaker 1: what would make it not an easy read, because it's
53:30
Speaker 1: like an elder. Forgive me for saying it that way.
53:36
Speaker 1: I would say, a legend in other words, speaking to
53:40
Speaker 1: me and me paying attention. And I think that's what
53:44
Speaker 1: I would get, and I'm only gonna be for me.
53:47
Speaker 1: I would get for reading that book that I'm listening
53:50
Speaker 1: to an elder talking to me about a journey that
53:56
Speaker 1: she was on and that I may someday be on.
53:59
Speaker 1: So I'm definitely interested in this pot. As we wrap up,
54:05
Speaker 1: what's your vision for the future for Just for Me
54:07
Speaker 1: Wellness and how can others get involved or support the
54:10
Speaker 1: incredible work you're doing to continue making the difference.
54:13
Speaker 2: Listen, my vision for Just for Me Wellness is that
54:17
Speaker 2: we grow and stay relevant to the community that we serve,
54:24
Speaker 2: and by that I mean that the elderly that community,
54:29
Speaker 2: dealing with the ones who have become caregivers you know,
54:34
Speaker 2: of a young generation, and then dealing with the young
54:38
Speaker 2: people who are facing a whole new health crisis. Some
54:41
Speaker 2: of them, you know, they're young adults, but they don't
54:45
Speaker 2: have health care or again because of technology and the
54:49
Speaker 2: changes in the medical profession. Even you know, it's just
54:54
Speaker 2: so much. So we want to stay relevant. I want
54:57
Speaker 2: to continue to be a life long learner and we
55:01
Speaker 2: want a partner to make sure that people as individuals
55:07
Speaker 2: continue to be educated to become self advocates not only
55:13
Speaker 2: in their health, but in their emotional wellness, in their
55:17
Speaker 2: social wellness, even in their families. Like I tell you
55:22
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55:24
Speaker 2: I'm gonna try to curb this because I can hear
55:27
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55:31
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55:36
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55:42
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55:54
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56:01
Speaker 2: I don't have it in the chat, but anyway, I
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56:15
Speaker 1: So if you're not writing it down, listen to the replay,
56:19
Speaker 1: go right back in it. I think this whole segment
56:22
Speaker 1: was worth listening to the replay anyway, whether you picked
56:25
Speaker 1: up that or not. She's giving out so many nuggets tonight.
56:29
Speaker 1: She's bought her mother along with her on the journey.
56:32
Speaker 1: Oh thank you Bobby for joining us tonight with this
56:36
Speaker 1: inspiring conversation, your work with walking on Streets of Gold,
56:41
Speaker 1: and I see why you won that award and the
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Speaker 1: Just for Me Wellness Incorporated reminds me of the power
56:48
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56:53
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56:57
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57:01
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Speaker 1: and most importantly growing. After eight After Dog, thanks for listening.
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Speaker 1: This is in something, so I'm just hoping that people
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Speaker 1: picked up all of these nuggets that you had to deliver.
58:00
Speaker 1: It's been simply amazing and I haven't met her, but
58:05
Speaker 1: thank you so much for introducing your mother when this
58:09
Speaker 1: show through your book. I truly truly appreciate it.
58:15
Speaker 2: I appreciate you for this opportunity. What you have done
58:19
Speaker 2: is just further the promise that God made her that yes,
58:23
Speaker 2: he will give her the ability for her voice to
58:27
Speaker 2: be heard. And now look she's on this platform and
58:31
Speaker 2: her voice it's being her.
58:35
Speaker 1: Yes, You're so welcome. You have a splendid night, and
58:42
Speaker 1: I'm going to be putting in that order for that book.
58:44
Speaker 2: Thank you, because I want to call you any bad.
58:47
Speaker 2: Thank you so much, and have.
58:48
Speaker 1: A good night. And thank your sister. Thank you so
58:51
Speaker 1: much for tuning in as well as Patrice and the
58:55
Speaker 1: crew podcast and Shannette. Thank you all for participating in
59:01
Speaker 1: and ain't listening to this journey. I think you think
59:04
Speaker 1: you think that.
59:05
Speaker 2: Thank you, thank you, thank you.
59:07
Speaker 1: All right, all right, guys, have a good one and
59:09
Speaker 1: be safe this weekend. Okay, be safe every weekend, but
59:13
Speaker 1: be safe this weekend.
59:14
Speaker 2: Hey man, all right, all right, good night and night.
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Speaker 2: Brina was on here just typing up, so I like
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Speaker 2: that right now, I said she she ain't got it
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Speaker 2: up loud.
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Speaker 3: I don't understand.
1:01:18
Speaker 2: Cause it says live right here. But any way, but
1:01:24
Speaker 2: Brina's saying it cause she typing Chanette, the people from
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Speaker 3: So I I don't know.
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Speaker 3: This thing.
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Speaker 2: and it still says upcoming.
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Speaker 4: Uh.
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Speaker 2: I guess you then it because it's supposed to have
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Speaker 2: been on Facebook too.
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Speaker 4: I don't know.
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Speaker 2: I got I put the link right, didn't it.
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Speaker 1: Than?
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Speaker 4: Yeah, No, Branda say you still live loot, So bringer.
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Speaker 2: Put on that you still you you still live loot.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, we call Mama that too.
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Speaker 1: Oh yeah,