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A new study says you can't be friends with your coworkers · Johnjay & Rich On Demand

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  Speaker 1: Okay, so I came across this debate online and I
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  Speaker 1: feel like it can get really messy. because people have
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  Speaker 1: some really strong opinions about it. So people are basically
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  Speaker 1: saying that we need to stop treating our coworkers like
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  Speaker 1: they're our friends. Like be friendly, go grab drinks after
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  Speaker 1: the fact, but inviting people like into your home, introducing
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  Speaker 1: them to your family, telling them about your relationships is
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  Speaker 1: apparently like a big, big no-no. And like where it
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  Speaker 1: gets interesting is people are saying that this problem isn't
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  Speaker 1: that our coworkers are bad people. It's just that our
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  Speaker 1: coworkers have access to parts of our life that our
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  Speaker 1: regular friends don't. So when things get left, it can
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  Speaker 1: affect our personal life and.
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  Speaker 2: Our work life.
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  Speaker 3: That's, I don't like it.
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  Speaker 4: I get it.
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  Speaker 5: So it's saying like, if you end up getting fired,
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  Speaker 5: it's also like you're losing friends too, or it's like
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  Speaker 5: a way to disassociate.
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  Speaker 6: That could be a way of it.
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  Speaker 1: But like one thing was like your personal business can
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  Speaker 1: become office gossip.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, it probably will. It probably will.
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  Speaker 4: I think it depends on the coworker. Um, I really do.
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  Speaker 7: Cause I, uh, many, many years ago before I was
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  Speaker 7: on this show, I was on another show and I
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  Speaker 7: had a situation where I invited everyone over to my
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  Speaker 7: house for a party. And then when they kind of
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  Speaker 7: saw how I live versus how they live, they all
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  Speaker 7: start talking smack and it was just, and it got
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  Speaker 7: so uncomfortable. And I wasn't, I was trying to make
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  Speaker 7: us all friends so we could all gel. I mean,
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  Speaker 7: here's a, here's an example. Like all of you guys
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  Speaker 7: have been to my house, right? I've never been to
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  Speaker 7: Kyle's house.
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  Speaker 2: I haven't invited you.
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  Speaker 3: I know.
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  Speaker 2: Only because I know you won't drive that far.
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  Speaker 3: I've been to Rich's house.
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  Speaker 4: I've been to Peyton's house. I haven't been to Kyle's house.
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  Speaker 4: I thought about that the other day.
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  Speaker 5: And that's out of courtesy because I don't want to
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  Speaker 5: have you drive too far.
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  Speaker 2: You don't like to leave your bubble.
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  Speaker 4: So Kyle follows that rule.
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  Speaker 2: Peyton's been to my house. Rich's daughter's been to my house.
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  Speaker 3: She spent the night. She spent the night in the
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  Speaker 3: ghost room.
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  Speaker 4: Brie, your thoughts on this debate. Go ahead.
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  Speaker 8: Um, well, I got really close with a coworker. I mean,
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  Speaker 8: I introduced her to my whole family. My parents loved her.
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  Speaker 8: She came to holidays, like everything. And then my parents
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  Speaker 8: announced they were getting divorced. And like within three months,
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  Speaker 8: I found out she was sleeping with my dad.
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  Speaker 3: Whoa. Hello. Twist did not see that coming.
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  Speaker 4: That's why you got to really get to know the
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  Speaker 4: coworkers before you buy them over.
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  Speaker 3: Yikes.
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  Speaker 5: What the?
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  Speaker 3: What?
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  Speaker 4: Your dad's like, I'm just trying to support you and
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  Speaker 4: your company.
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  Speaker 3: How does work go after that for you?
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  Speaker 8: She does not work with me anymore because apparently now
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  Speaker 8: she's too busy being my.
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  Speaker 4: Well, you win this round.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, it's terrible.
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  Speaker 1: No, that's so valid, though, because on here, like it
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  Speaker 1: says another big thing for coworkers is that they can
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  Speaker 1: start infiltrating your personal relationships.
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  Speaker 6: And Brie hit it right, right there.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know. I can't see Peyton or Kyle hook
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  Speaker 3: it up with my dad, Frank.
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  Speaker 9: Wow.
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  Speaker 1: Like this one girl, she said she invited her coworker
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  Speaker 1: to her birthday party. She met her best friend six
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  Speaker 1: months later. She's on a girl trip with her friends
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  Speaker 1: and she wasn't invited.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, that stinks. That happens to me all the time.
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  Speaker 4: That happens to me all the time. That is true.
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  Speaker 7: I've made two people friends with my neighbor and now
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  Speaker 7: they go on trips and helicopters and stuff.
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  Speaker 3: Jeez.
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  Speaker 4: I just see it all the time.
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  Speaker 3: They go on helicopter trips without you?
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  Speaker 10: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, for real. That's crazy as that sounds. Yes. Thank you. Anna,
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  Speaker 4: good morning. Your thoughts on this debate?
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  Speaker 10: So I became really close with a coworker and she
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  Speaker 10: was at my apartment constantly. And one day my landlord
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  Speaker 10: called me asking like why I was trying to add
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  Speaker 10: someone to my list. I wasn't. And she, I guess,
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  Speaker 10: had emailed him pretending to be me. And basically, she
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  Speaker 10: had decided we were going to live together and wanted
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  Speaker 10: to surprise me once it was approved.
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  Speaker 3: That's crazy.
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  Speaker 5: That is, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, finding out before that actually happened, you dodged
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  Speaker 2: a bullet there.
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  Speaker 3: That's an actual psychopathic move right there.
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  Speaker 5: I kind of feel like if, like, life had sound effects,
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  Speaker 5: you'd hear, reek, reek, reek.
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  Speaker 3: Murderer.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 10: Oh, totally. Obviously I cut her off and everything, but
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  Speaker 10: then I, I, I, I, I have a four page
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  Speaker 10: handwritten letter on my car that basically admits that she
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  Speaker 10: was obsessed with me. It was really crazy. She just
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  Speaker 10: said she like, she thought we were supposed to do
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  Speaker 10: life together.
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  Speaker 4: Oh man.
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  Speaker 9: And you just didn't know it yet. She was just
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  Speaker 9: kind of like, you didn't know it, but once she
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  Speaker 9: introduced the idea, you would be down with it.
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  Speaker 6: I guess we could have been together. So now I'm
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  Speaker 6: going to set your house on fire.
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  Speaker 3: And that is why Kyle has not invited us to
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  Speaker 3: her house.
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  Speaker 4: That's why you need a restraining order on that. You should,
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  Speaker 4: you should have got a restraining order on that girl.
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  Speaker 4: That's crazy.
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  Speaker 2: That's scary.
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  Speaker 10: Oh, I, I, so it became so bad that she
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  Speaker 10: started showing at places that like showing up at places
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  Speaker 10: that she knew that I would be.
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  Speaker 6: Oh, heck no.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 10: It was to the point that I had to go
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  Speaker 10: to HR, and I had to literally switch locations at work,
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  Speaker 10: and I literally did get a restraining order against her.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, okay.
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  Speaker 9: I'd almost rather you have somebody sleep with your dad
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  Speaker 9: than what Anna has.
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  Speaker 4: Anna, thanks for calling in. I think you win this round, too.
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  Speaker 3: Totally.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, thank you.
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  Speaker 8: Thank you.
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  Speaker 2: And everything I've been saying, I'll get it when it
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  Speaker 2: goes on sale.
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  Speaker 6: Did it go on sale?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 6: So what was first?
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  Speaker 2: A fall coat.
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  Speaker 5: Like, okay, I've really wanted a good one. But every
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  Speaker 5: time I find one, I'm like, do I really need
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  Speaker 5: another coat?
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  Speaker 6: Well, women's coats are 40 to 60% off.
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  Speaker 4: Right?
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  Speaker 5: See, that's when do I need it becomes.
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  Speaker 2: Like, what color?
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  Speaker 3: Immediately.
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  Speaker 7: And then.
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  Speaker 2: I start looking at the shoes.
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  Speaker 6: Oh gosh, here we go.
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  Speaker 2: New Balance, Birkenstock, Nike Coach. Select styles are literally 60% off. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: so obviously I need shoes to go with a coat.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, obviously we are building a whole outfit now.
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  Speaker 2: And that's kind of the problem with this sale.
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  Speaker 5: We're going to start with one thing and then we're
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  Speaker 5: going to be like, wait, what else are we wanting
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  Speaker 5: to buy?
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  Speaker 2: What else have we been wanting to buy?
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  Speaker 6: And you know, I have a list.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, same.
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  Speaker 6: And Kareem needs some new sweaters.
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  Speaker 2: Scott loves a good watch.
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  Speaker 6: And I've been wanting some really nice cashmere.
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  Speaker 2: Also, I saw the diamonds. Of course you did. I'm
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  Speaker 2: just saying.
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  Speaker 5: There are tennis bracelets and diamond studs there and Scott
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  Speaker 5: listens to the show.
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  Speaker 6: Very subtle of you.
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  Speaker 9: Hint, hint.
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  Speaker 6: And then you get to home.
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  Speaker 2: See, I feel like this is where you can start
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  Speaker 2: to kind of get in trouble.
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  Speaker 1: Because the hotel collection bedding is 65% off. 65?
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  Speaker 9: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Number one, that is mind blowing. Number two, we have
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  Speaker 2: been talking about getting new bedding forever.
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  Speaker 6: Have you?
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  Speaker 5: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I've been talking about it.
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  Speaker 8: Yeah, there it is.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, that's what I mean, though. It's like clothes, jewelry, beauty, home, shoes.
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  Speaker 1: It really is a bunch of sales happening at the
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  Speaker 1: same exact time.
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  Speaker 5: And thousands of deals are at the lowest prices of
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  Speaker 5: the season.
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  Speaker 6: So all of those.
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  Speaker 1: Things that you said you'd buy when they finally went
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  Speaker 1: on sale?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, apparently they went on sale. So there is your sign.
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  Speaker 5: There's all of our signs to not miss Macy's biggest
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  Speaker 5: fall sale, October 14th through the 25th.
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  Speaker 6: I'll definitely be there.