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Season 3 - Episode 286 - Building resilient behavior · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So let's talk about building resilient behavior within
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  yourself, not within other people, but within yourself.
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  How do we create a sense of being resilient when we know
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  it's tough out there? Sometimes it's hard to keep
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  picking yourself back up and dusting yourself off and
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  starting all over again. Like what is the reason that we
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  would want to do that? It's, there's a lot of
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  challenges in the world right now.
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  There are a lot of things that make us want to just throw the
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  towel in, give up, do whatever. Yet we want to build a resilient
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  behaviour and say, no, I can keep going.
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  I can keep doing this. It's this is, this is good.
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  I can keep doing this. Now I'll be the 1st to tell you
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  the, the hardest part about building resilient behaviour is
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  consistency. If you're not consistent, it'll
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  take you over. Like you'll just go back to the
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  old habits. You'll give in, you'll slip,
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  whether it's you'll start eating things you shouldn't again or
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  start, you know, skipping working out or just stop
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  studying. I mean, there are a million ways
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  to let it slip. And they show up daily.
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  And it's almost like they're tempting you daily to make a,
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  you know, make a mistake, slip up, go right back to the old
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  behaviors. It's just the nature of things
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  that it takes place that way. So consistency, consistency,
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  consistency. You have to find a path of
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  looking at how to become consistent.
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  What are the things I need to do to be consistent?
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  And one of the biggest things that allows you to be consistent
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  is setting yourself up ahead of time so you can be consistent,
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  not worrying about, you know, what we would do in the moment.
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  Now, part of building resilience is looking at yourself and
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  saying, OK, do I at the core believe I'm a resilient person?
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  And most of us will always answer yes because we don't want
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  to be like, you know, the person who's like, oh, I'm not
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  resilient. I can't come back from anything
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  that's not in our nature to answer it that way.
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  So once you have a definitive answer that yes, you do want to
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  be resilient, then you have to say, OK, let me look at my
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  consistency. Where am I inconsistent?
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  Where do I show up inconsistent? And you start defining those
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  inconsistencies that show up. Where are they?
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  Then you go, OK, if I'm resilient and I'm in my
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  resilient emotion and mindset, then how is it that I'm going to
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  look at this and be OK, I've got this nailed down.
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  I can come up with a way easily to remain consistent when I
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  don't want to do it, and that formulates resilience, if that
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  makes sense. It's all about working through
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  that habit and getting yourself back on track the right way.
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  But unless you decide to ask the question like where do I fall
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  off, you're never going to know where you can do better.
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  You got to know where you're starting from.
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  And that's always backing up to say, where do I fall off?
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  Anytime you want to be resilient, anytime you want to
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  be better, anytime you want to grow, you have to always say,
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  well, where am I starting from? What is the starting point?
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  What is the belief system that I have at the core?
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  Do I believe what I believe about something, whether it's
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  resilience or something else? And then you go into this place
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  of saying, OK, once I have that down, then I look at my
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  inconsistencies. Where do they show up?
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  I now know. And then I can jump into the
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  next phase of it, which is OK, how do I want to override my
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  inconsistencies? How do I want to override the
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  belief systems that are taking me out?
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  And a big part of it is reminding yourself that you
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  believe you're resilient. So you come back and say, no,
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  listen, I believe I'm resilient. I believe I am a resilient
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  person. And if I believe that, then I
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  should be able to do XY and Z. The more you put that into your
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  brain, the better off you are going to be.
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  The more you recognize that part of yourself, the better off
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  you're going to be. Allows you to feel good because
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  you're recalibrating yourself, but it also reminds you to say,
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  listen, I, I am truly better than this.
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  I am better than falling off the wagon and doing the things that
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  I've been doing. That's not who I want to be.
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  That's not how I want to show up.
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  That's not what I want my myself to be like, look like, act like,
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  sound like. So you've got to remind yourself
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  regularly about who you believe you are as a base of building
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  resilience, really anything. But today we're talking about
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  resilience. Once you start building that
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  base, then you can go back and say, OK, this is how I'm going
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  to layer on to this every day. This is how I show resilience.
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  Every day I, I pick up and I do this a little bit more or I, I
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  work a little bit harder on some area of my life that I know it
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  needs. It's just a matter of taking it
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  step by step and breaking it down.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a very, very good day.
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  I hope it's fantastic, resilient, and I will see you
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  all tomorrow. Bye.