Latest / Arroe Collins Like It's Live / Life And How To Live It The Book Series From Chaz Holesworth
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- 0:33Speaker 1: your exploration. Hello and good morning, everybody.
- 0:36Speaker 2: Hello. How are you?
- 0:37Speaker 1: Doing very well, Chaz. I can tell by your vocal
- 0:39Speaker 1: tones this is you.
- 0:40Speaker 2: Oh, my God. This is me. Yes.
- 0:42Speaker 1: Isn't that amazing how vocal tones as well as body
- 0:46Speaker 1: language really does project a form of imaging that a
- 0:49Speaker 1: lot of people do not understand? But if they could,
- 0:52Speaker 1: it would be such a more beautiful planet.
- 0:56Speaker 2: Absolutely. People would be more expressive of themselves and confident
- 1:02Speaker 2: and we would all have a better relationship, I think,
- 1:06Speaker 2: all around.
- 1:07Speaker 1: Yeah, because I'm not doing too well in the thumb
- 1:09Speaker 1: department in the way of understanding what people are saying,
- 1:11Speaker 1: whatever they tap into that phone.
- 1:15Speaker 2: Right, right, right. A lot of times you misunderstand what
- 1:19Speaker 2: people are trying to say by a text. Oh, my God.
- 1:23Speaker 2: You can't have sarcasm by a text, really. Oh, my God.
- 1:26Speaker 2: It's hard to trade sarcasm.
- 1:27Speaker 1: That is so true about that. And I don't know
- 1:29Speaker 1: how many HR meetings I've been in because people said, well,
- 1:32Speaker 1: this is what they thought you said.
- 1:34Speaker 2: Wow. If you knew who I was, you'd know I
- 1:36Speaker 2: didn't say that. I understand. Exactly. I was joking. God
- 1:42Speaker 2: damn it.
- 1:43Speaker 1: I mean, which pretty much goes right into your book.
- 1:45Speaker 1: I mean, life and how to live it. I mean,
- 1:47Speaker 1: because we, I swear to God, we don't know how
- 1:50Speaker 1: to live it. It's a guessing game for so many
- 1:52Speaker 1: people every day.
- 1:54Speaker 2: Absolutely. It's definitely not a self-help book. How I lived
- 2:01Speaker 2: my life. Like, there might be some morals in there,
- 2:06Speaker 2: but it's really just, hey, this is the life that
- 2:08Speaker 2: I was handed. And this is how I got through.
- 2:11Speaker 1: I thought that's the way it was supposed to be, because,
- 2:13Speaker 1: I mean, I thought we were all out here and
- 2:15Speaker 1: we're picking up our own journeys. And I mean, because
- 2:17Speaker 1: I mean, how else would we be inspired by the
- 2:20Speaker 1: Daniel Boone's of the world and all those other people
- 2:22Speaker 1: if they if they went by a book?
- 2:24Speaker 2: You know what I mean? Yep. You got to go
- 2:26Speaker 2: out and try. You got to live your own life
- 2:28Speaker 2: and find your own way.
- 2:30Speaker 1: How important is transparency? Because that's what I loved about
- 2:34Speaker 1: your book. I'm going, Oh my God, he gave me
- 2:37Speaker 1: an invitation to his charter writing it.
- 2:40Speaker 2: Uh, I decided that I was going to be upfront,
- 2:43Speaker 2: honest and not hide anything. Um, I mean, when I
- 2:48Speaker 2: first started writing, the first book was over 400 pages,
- 2:51Speaker 2: and I was told by my editor, that's too much
- 2:54Speaker 2: for somebody that nobody knows. I did leave out some stories,
- 2:59Speaker 2: but they were just not that important stories. But everything
- 3:03Speaker 2: I'm talking about is brutal honesty. I'm not hiding anything.
- 3:06Speaker 2: I decided to tell it like it was. with my
- 3:10Speaker 2: own sense of humor and wit, but I'm just telling
- 3:15Speaker 2: exactly what happened to me, and I decided that that's
- 3:18Speaker 2: the best way. I'm an honest guy by default, and
- 3:21Speaker 2: I'm an open book, literally.
- 3:24Speaker 1: Well, what I love about it is that Julia Cameron
- 3:27Speaker 1: in The Artist's Way always says that the reason why
- 3:29Speaker 1: we have those magazines at a grocery store is to
- 3:31Speaker 1: compare our lives. This really does give us a chance
- 3:34Speaker 1: to put an identity on something that we might be
- 3:37Speaker 1: going through, And when we do go through it, we'll go, Chaz,
- 3:40Speaker 1: where's Chaz's book?
- 3:41Speaker 2: Where's it at?
- 3:41Speaker 1: Where's it at? Because I'm sure he went through it
- 3:43Speaker 1: as well. And so you're giving us identity or something
- 3:47Speaker 1: that says, you know what?
- 3:48Speaker 2: You are not alone. Absolutely. That's what I'm hoping for.
- 3:53Speaker 2: When people tell me they like my book and they say,
- 3:56Speaker 2: oh yeah, I've been there, that's what I'm going for.
- 4:00Speaker 2: I want to show everybody this is how it happened
- 4:03Speaker 2: to me, but I also want people to find some
- 4:05Speaker 2: kind of common ground in it. And even if they can't,
- 4:08Speaker 2: even if there's times where they go, wow, that guy
- 4:10Speaker 2: really had it bad, I hope they can see, well,
- 4:13Speaker 2: if he made it through, I can do it. And also,
- 4:17Speaker 2: I also want to entertain. So I'm telling these stories
- 4:19Speaker 2: in a way where it's entertaining. Yeah. And also like
- 4:22Speaker 2: a time capsule. Like I'm capturing the 80s and 90s.
- 4:25Speaker 2: Now I'm doing seven book series. And a lot of
- 4:28Speaker 2: it's everything that happens from Woodstock 99 to 9-11 to
- 4:36Speaker 2: President Trump. I'm going to write about everything that I
- 4:39Speaker 2: saw where I was. It's almost like a Forrest Gump thing.
- 4:42Speaker 2: I'm one solid guy going through all this life, and
- 4:47Speaker 2: I'm writing about it. And I'm hoping people will be like, oh,
- 4:49Speaker 2: I remember that. Oh, yeah, I feel the same way.
- 4:51Speaker 2: That was terrible. Or that music was great at that time.
- 4:54Speaker 2: And I'm hoping people could find that kind of common
- 4:57Speaker 2: ground with it, too.
- 4:58Speaker 1: You know why this is so important, Chaz? Because our
- 5:00Speaker 1: grandparents and parents aren't doing it. So, therefore, we have
- 5:03Speaker 1: to have something. My mom and dad didn't leave me anything.
- 5:06Speaker 1: And the only thing that I've got is my daily
- 5:08Speaker 1: writing for the past 32 years. And it's not for me.
- 5:13Speaker 1: It's for somebody that is way later on in life
- 5:15Speaker 1: that's going to go, what was that numbskull doing on
- 5:17Speaker 1: this particular day? Oh my God, he was alive during 9-11.
- 5:21Speaker 1: Oh my God, let me read what he said because
- 5:23Speaker 1: he was in radio at the time.
- 5:24Speaker 2: That's all it is.
- 5:25Speaker 1: It has nothing to do with me about me.
- 5:28Speaker 2: Exactly, and that's the thing. I also was– my parents
- 5:31Speaker 2: never– in the book explained how my father was a
- 5:34Speaker 2: heroin addict. We were in deep poverty. My mother dropped
- 5:39Speaker 2: out of high school, 10th grade, because her mom said
- 5:42Speaker 2: she didn't need to graduate high school because she was
- 5:45Speaker 2: just going to be a housewife. Terrible. So then she
- 5:49Speaker 2: became a born-again Christian because of how bad our life was.
- 5:53Speaker 2: It was the only comfort she had. So that's how
- 5:55Speaker 2: I was raised. And they don't have any, I'm nothing
- 5:59Speaker 2: like they have no, we didn't have a car going on.
- 6:01Speaker 2: You know, we live with my grandfather for years. Like
- 6:04Speaker 2: they never owned property, never left me anything. Um, besides,
- 6:09Speaker 2: you know, birth and then, uh, but a lot of,
- 6:12Speaker 2: a lot of bad, a lot of bad situations, but
- 6:15Speaker 2: I decided that, Hey, I'm going to do something with
- 6:18Speaker 2: this instead of, uh, Just let it sit in my
- 6:22Speaker 2: head for the rest of my life. I knew I
- 6:26Speaker 2: had crazy stories, and I was telling people all my
- 6:28Speaker 2: life these crazy stories at bars or parties, and they
- 6:31Speaker 2: were all like, oh, my God, that's great. How did
- 6:34Speaker 2: that happen to you? And so I remembered a lot
- 6:37Speaker 2: of everything that happened to me growing up, and I
- 6:39Speaker 2: decided after my sister passed away in 2019 of aggressive cancer.
- 6:44Speaker 2: She died four months after being diagnosed at 45 years old. Oh,
- 6:48Speaker 2: my God. Yeah, and it was at hospice that I
- 6:51Speaker 2: watched her die. I got up there just in time
- 6:53Speaker 2: in Maine. I was living in Pennsylvania, and I got there,
- 6:56Speaker 2: and five minutes later, she passed away. And it just
- 7:00Speaker 2: kind of shook me. And then you don't expect– like,
- 7:03Speaker 2: my father passed away in 2009, and it was terrible.
- 7:06Speaker 2: I was a mess. But your sibling, you don't expect–
- 7:11Speaker 2: to go that early. So, and I, and I just,
- 7:13Speaker 2: it happened. It was wild. So my own, my own
- 7:16Speaker 2: mortality was that question. And then I hurt kids and, uh,
- 7:20Speaker 2: I felt bad for them and they just pushed me
- 7:23Speaker 2: to an edge. So I, um, At the same time,
- 7:25Speaker 2: while I was there in Maine, my wife stayed home
- 7:28Speaker 2: in Pennsylvania while I was going to a funeral up
- 7:31Speaker 2: there for her because I didn't want her to be
- 7:33Speaker 2: around the cult born-again religion that I was raised in
- 7:37Speaker 2: because my sister was still in it. And she was
- 7:41Speaker 2: married to a preacher out there, and everybody around me
- 7:44Speaker 2: were born-againers, and they were all trying to use my
- 7:46Speaker 2: sister's death. to reel me back in. That's all they
- 7:50Speaker 2: ever want to do is bring you back to the fold.
- 7:52Speaker 2: So that night I just went to a bar in Rockland,
- 7:55Speaker 2: Maine and just talked to this girl that worked there
- 8:00Speaker 2: and her friend. about this and that. And then they
- 8:02Speaker 2: asked me, what are you doing here? I go, oh,
- 8:04Speaker 2: my sister just died and we had her funeral. They're like, what?
- 8:07Speaker 2: What are you doing here? I was like, let me
- 8:10Speaker 2: tell you some stories. I started laying out all these
- 8:13Speaker 2: different things. Tears were coming out. It was the first
- 8:16Speaker 2: time I started crying about my sister. And they were like,
- 8:18Speaker 2: just feeding me beer. And then as I walked out
- 8:21Speaker 2: the door when they were closing, I just, I just
- 8:23Speaker 2: thought to myself, I remember looking down at my feet
- 8:25Speaker 2: while I'm walking and thinking like, I got to do
- 8:27Speaker 2: something with all this stuff in my head. So that's
- 8:31Speaker 2: when I started writing and I didn't know what I
- 8:33Speaker 2: was going to do with it. I just started writing memory,
- 8:36Speaker 2: like whatever, whatever happened. That's when I said, I'm going
- 8:39Speaker 2: to be totally honest. And then eventually when I went
- 8:42Speaker 2: to go edit it, my editor's like, well, you know,
- 8:46Speaker 2: No one's going to want to read a War and
- 8:48Speaker 2: Peace-sized book about somebody. So he's like, why don't you
- 8:52Speaker 2: do installments instead? And then that's when I decided that's smart.
- 8:55Speaker 2: So then my goal is to have seven books, and
- 9:00Speaker 2: each one ends a significant time in my life. then
- 9:03Speaker 2: the next one picks up right after that one. So
- 9:05Speaker 2: it's going to be a study of one guy born
- 9:08Speaker 2: into nothing, then finally getting through life and having some
- 9:13Speaker 2: kind of wisdom. And I just hope that it helps
- 9:16Speaker 2: people that way, but also entertains people.
- 9:19Speaker 1: Please don't move. There's more with Chaz Holdsworth coming up next.
- 9:24Speaker 1: The name of the book is Life and How to
- 9:26Speaker 1: Live It. It's part of a series from Chaz Holsworth.
- 9:29Speaker 1: Let's get back into that talk. Let me ask you this.
- 9:32Speaker 1: This is between you and me and the listeners can
- 9:35Speaker 1: bop in only because they're here right now. But I'm
- 9:37Speaker 1: going to ask you a very personal question. I did
- 9:39Speaker 1: the same thing with the books, books one and two.
- 9:42Speaker 1: And then this thing called podcasting came along and book
- 9:45Speaker 1: three didn't happen. And the reason why book three didn't
- 9:48Speaker 1: happen is because I felt like the podcasting was going
- 9:51Speaker 1: to be the answer. So from one creative person to another,
- 9:55Speaker 1: if you elect to go to the podcasting, please keep
- 9:59Speaker 1: your door open. as that writer where I did not.
- 10:02Speaker 1: And that's the thing that, that I really want to,
- 10:04Speaker 1: you know, kind of invite into your heart because I
- 10:06Speaker 1: love your words. I love holding your book. I love
- 10:10Speaker 1: everything that's on that page. And I'm so afraid that
- 10:12Speaker 1: if you go to the podcasting that, that the writer
- 10:14Speaker 1: in you is going to be going, where is my
- 10:16Speaker 1: attention that you once gave me?
- 10:18Speaker 2: Chaz. Got you. That's not a problem because I'm almost
- 10:22Speaker 2: done with the series. Good. I'm on book six now.
- 10:26Speaker 2: Book three is already edited and ready to go. Four
- 10:28Speaker 2: is being edited now. Five is sitting there. God bless you. Yeah,
- 10:33Speaker 2: so I'm doing it. I'm just going to not stop.
- 10:38Speaker 2: In 2019, when my sister died, my motivation was like, nope,
- 10:43Speaker 2: I'm not going to stop doing this. I got to
- 10:45Speaker 2: do it. And then COVID hit. I was an essential worker,
- 10:50Speaker 2: so I worked hard.
- 10:52Speaker 1: And wrote.
- 10:52Speaker 2: That's it. I didn't get to go to concerts. I
- 10:54Speaker 2: didn't get to go to baseball games. I didn't get
- 10:56Speaker 2: to go to bars, parties. It was just live my
- 10:59Speaker 2: past on paper and work. And it was hard. But
- 11:03Speaker 2: I just kept on doing it because I had to
- 11:06Speaker 2: do it. And I just knew that once I was done,
- 11:10Speaker 2: I would feel more accomplished. And when I started putting
- 11:13Speaker 2: them out, I did. I felt like I literally closed
- 11:15Speaker 2: chapters on things that were bothering me for so long. Yep.
- 11:19Speaker 1: You know, one of the things that I wanted to cover,
- 11:21Speaker 1: and you're the one that brought it up here just
- 11:22Speaker 1: a couple of seconds ago because we talked about identity.
- 11:25Speaker 1: When you talked about being raised by your grandfather or
- 11:28Speaker 1: living with your grandfather, that is exactly what is going
- 11:31Speaker 1: on in this world today. Now, how do I do that?
- 11:33Speaker 1: Because I work at a grocery store. I see the
- 11:35Speaker 1: grandparents with the kids. This book is going to be
- 11:38Speaker 1: an identity for them because who wants to grow up
- 11:41Speaker 1: with their grandparents?
- 11:42Speaker 2: Why not?
- 11:43Speaker 1: First of all, they love the hell out of you
- 11:45Speaker 1: and they're going to spoil the crap out of you.
- 11:47Speaker 1: And second of all, if that is the man or
- 11:49Speaker 1: the woman that I need in my life to give
- 11:51Speaker 1: me that foundation, my God, Chaz, you're so far ahead
- 11:54Speaker 1: of the game in opening up that door for people
- 11:56Speaker 1: to grow forward.
- 11:58Speaker 2: I mean, that's the thing. My grandfather raised my dad.
- 12:02Speaker 2: So my dad's dad was, I write in a book,
- 12:05Speaker 2: he was a bad guy. He beat my grandmom up,
- 12:09Speaker 2: in and out of jail, drug addict. But then he
- 12:14Speaker 2: ran with gangs. He was just no good. And he
- 12:16Speaker 2: was in and out of my dad's life. So my
- 12:19Speaker 2: grandmom divorced my dad's dad and got remarried to a
- 12:23Speaker 2: wonderful guy named Russ and had six kids. My dad
- 12:26Speaker 2: felt like he was the only one that wasn't with, uh, Russ, uh,
- 12:31Speaker 2: the Russ family. So he felt he didn't belong. So he,
- 12:34Speaker 2: he asked to live with his grandfather in Kensington and
- 12:36Speaker 2: he did. And my, and my grandfather raised them. And
- 12:39Speaker 2: then when we were born, uh, because of poverty reasons, we,
- 12:43Speaker 2: we live with my grand, my grandfather. And, you know,
- 12:46Speaker 2: like you said, like you learn a lot more from
- 12:49Speaker 2: that generation. Like he's a world, world war two vet,
- 12:52Speaker 2: things like that. Um, Yeah, but these days, definitely, people
- 13:00Speaker 2: need that culture. like that culture influence on them because
- 13:06Speaker 2: right now like this generation is raised on phones and
- 13:10Speaker 2: internet and and at one time there's gonna I'm scared
- 13:14Speaker 2: that there's gonna be a whole generation that won't know
- 13:16Speaker 2: if AI pictures are real or not that's right I'm
- 13:18Speaker 2: already there I'm scared yeah it's like I'm scared it's
- 13:21Speaker 2: gonna be like no no Kennedy Kennedy did this look
- 13:25Speaker 2: I have this picture and they're not gonna know that
- 13:27Speaker 2: it wasn't real and then that's why I feel like
- 13:30Speaker 2: we do need that older generation that I feel like
- 13:33Speaker 2: my books also, especially they go forward. I'm like the, my,
- 13:38Speaker 2: we're like the last generation of, day before the technology
- 13:42Speaker 2: uh took over yep so i i talk about all
- 13:46Speaker 2: these things that like you know watching mtv listening to
- 13:51Speaker 2: uh cds having to go to a cd store or
- 13:55Speaker 2: how to camp out for tickets for a concert you
- 13:57Speaker 2: want to go to um wanting to having a pager
- 14:01Speaker 2: so they can page you so you can meet up
- 14:03Speaker 2: pay phones Like all these things that, you know, we
- 14:08Speaker 2: took for granted. That was our way of getting through life.
- 14:11Speaker 2: And now they, like, I tell people about albums. Like,
- 14:14Speaker 2: I remember going at midnight to a store to get
- 14:17Speaker 2: my favorite band's album because it was coming out. Now,
- 14:20Speaker 2: you know, you just go on your phone. It's like, ah. Yeah.
- 14:24Speaker 2: Like MTV was so important to me. for us because
- 14:30Speaker 2: there was like maybe one or two there was probably
- 14:32Speaker 2: two good radio stations in Philadelphia that you can get
- 14:37Speaker 2: music from. And then MTV was like, all right, this
- 14:43Speaker 2: is the bands you want to know about. Even if
- 14:44Speaker 2: you watched only the late night stuff, like 120 Minutes
- 14:48Speaker 2: or Alternative Nation or the Headbangers Ball, whatever, MTV Raps,
- 14:53Speaker 2: the stuff you like, you'd watch that and learn about
- 14:56Speaker 2: all these bands. And nowadays, with all the streaming, there's
- 15:00Speaker 2: so many bands. I can't even keep up. but it
- 15:05Speaker 2: feels like they don't filter them like they did before.
- 15:09Speaker 2: Like I would know this band, this band, let me think,
- 15:13Speaker 2: Failure or Radiohead. When I first heard Radiohead, I knew
- 15:16Speaker 2: they were great because they were better than, because I
- 15:19Speaker 2: saw them on MTV 120 Minutes. I'm like, this band's amazing.
- 15:23Speaker 2: I feel like this generation is more, they take, everything's
- 15:28Speaker 2: instant gratification. Yep. And I just feel like that's that
- 15:32Speaker 2: we need that mindset of like, hey, because there's this
- 15:35Speaker 2: theory that like every 80 years, the civilization forgets about
- 15:42Speaker 2: the past and it repeats. And, you know, we don't
- 15:45Speaker 2: want we don't want another depression. We don't want another
- 15:49Speaker 2: world war. And we need the influence of the greatest
- 15:53Speaker 2: generation and the ones after that that can tell, hey,
- 15:56Speaker 2: we should. Avoid this. Avoid that. That's not true. That
- 16:00Speaker 2: wisdom that goes beyond the internet conspiracy theorist stuff. I
- 16:06Speaker 2: have friends that just went down the rabbit hole of
- 16:08Speaker 2: internet conspiracy theories. I'm scared there's going to be a
- 16:14Speaker 2: whole generation that's going to think that way. instead of
- 16:18Speaker 2: listening to people that have been there or are real
- 16:21Speaker 2: science or real history. And we need, we definitely need
- 16:24Speaker 2: that influence in our lives.
- 16:27Speaker 1: You got to come back to this show anytime in
- 16:29Speaker 1: the future. My God, I could talk with you all
- 16:32Speaker 1: fricking day, dude. Oh my God. Where, where can go,
- 16:35Speaker 1: where can people go to find out more about you?
- 16:38Speaker 2: Um, so my website is Chaz Holsworth books.com. That's C
- 16:44Speaker 2: H A Z. H-O-L-E-S-W-O-R-T-H-B-O-O-K-S.com. From there, you can read about me,
- 16:54Speaker 2: read about some of the blogs, some of the awards
- 16:56Speaker 2: I've won, read more about my books. That will send
- 17:00Speaker 2: you the links where people can buy them through Amazon,
- 17:03Speaker 2: Barnes & Noble, other independent bookstores, stuff like that. And
- 17:09Speaker 2: then from there, if you don't want to Google me,
- 17:11Speaker 2: they can find my Instagram or Facebook. That's it.
- 17:15Speaker 1: Well, please come back to this show anytime in the future, dude.
- 17:17Speaker 1: The door is always going to be open for you.
- 17:20Speaker 2: All right, man. I appreciate it.
- 17:21Speaker 1: You be brilliant, and please take care of that heart
- 17:24Speaker 1: because it's in the right place at the right time.
- 17:26Speaker 1: You have no idea, but somebody from the outside here
- 17:28Speaker 1: has read this now, and it's going, yep, you're in
- 17:30Speaker 1: the right place at the right time.
- 17:31Speaker 2: I appreciate that. I just want to connect with people.
- 17:35Speaker 1: You bet.
- 17:36Speaker 2: Be a great guy.