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169 | Want to Stop Feeling Pressured with Money Decisions? Understand Your Root Center in Human Design · Your Money, Your Rules | Financial Mastery, Wealth Mindset, Leadership Principles, Intuitive Decision-Making, Human Design

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Erin Gray: Today, I am going to share a workshop that I hosted around feeling pressured in your business and especially when making financial decisions.
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Erin Gray: One of the biggest things that I help and teach my clients to do is to learn how to actually slow down, to actually feel the pressure that you are feeling in your body, to reconnect to your body, and to make decisions from a calm and connected, intuitive place, not from a rushed and fearful one.
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Erin Gray: So this episode is gonna be a little bit more advanced when it comes to human design.
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Erin Gray: So if you are brand new to human design or you have no idea what I am talking about or referring to, I recommend you listen to episode 90 first.
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Erin Gray: I'm gonna put that episode um link it in the show notes.
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Erin Gray: And if you are new to human design, you can go on my website, you can receive your human design chart, as well as take an introductory course that I did with a colleague of mine.
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Erin Gray: I'm gonna put both of those links in the show notes as well.
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Erin Gray: So you can start there first.
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Erin Gray: So if you are new to human design, go do those things first and then come back and listen to this episode.
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Erin Gray: Also, as I have said before on the podcast, you know, I use human design as a tool, not an end-all-be-all, definitely not the Bible, definitely not something to outsource our power to.
1:13
Erin Gray: That is one of the things as well that I teach clients is like stop outsourcing our power to our advisors, our mentors, human design, anything external outside of us.
1:22
Erin Gray: And I do want to say it has been incredibly helpful for me and to guide my clients to understand when they understand parts of their chart and all of their chart.
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Erin Gray: But like I kind of use it kind of from a behind-the-scenes standpoint.
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Erin Gray: When you start to understand how these parts of your chart actually play into the whole of who you are, you start to recognize them um more easily and you kind of it's like you're onto yourself, right?
1:47
Erin Gray: Like so with the root center that I'm gonna be talking about today and how that creates pressure, you know, it's gonna show up for you whether you are defined or undefined.
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Erin Gray: And one of the things that you will learn in the workshop that I had is that you will begin to recognize is this pressure coming from an internal pressure or an external?
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Erin Gray: Are you trying to make decisions?
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Erin Gray: The most important thing to take away from today is are you trying to make decisions while you're in that pressured state?
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Erin Gray: Because we all know that nothing good comes from decisions made from urgency fear or that tight, frantic, you know, FOMO energy that a lot of us know all too well, and a lot of marketers use on us.
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Erin Gray: So when you can pause, when you can feel into your body, when you can tap back into your intuition, when you tap into your body, you recognize what's going on with your body, you become more clear about actually what is going on and whether it is better to make a decision right now or not.
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Erin Gray: And so just as you listen to this workshop, think about pull your chart out.
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Erin Gray: Think about okay, you know, where have I been making decisions from that pressured place?
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Erin Gray: Am I creating the pressure?
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Erin Gray: Am I allowing others to pressure me into something, right?
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Erin Gray: Am I giving my power away and allowing others to pressure me when I need more time to make a decision?
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Erin Gray: So just come into it like everything with an open mind and have some fun with it.
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Erin Gray: Okay, so the root center is a pressure center.
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Erin Gray: And like I've said in the past, I just use human design as a tool.
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Erin Gray: I don't believe it's the Bible, I don't believe it's the end-all be-all.
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Erin Gray: I think it's it's a way for you to really hone and get connected back to your intuition.
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Erin Gray: And, you know, I've supported clients that have a defined root center, I've supported clients that don't.
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Erin Gray: I don't have a defined root center.
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Erin Gray: And I think it presents a lot of times very similarly.
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Erin Gray: So this is the pressure center.
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Erin Gray: So you're gonna feel like the pressure to do, and it is a motor center, meaning that it gives us energy and resources we need to co-create.
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Erin Gray: So this center is driven by adrenalized stress and pressure.
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Erin Gray: And you know, not all stress is bad stress.
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Erin Gray: The stress that puts us into fight, flight, freeze, that's not great stress.
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Erin Gray: The stress that gets us going and gets us to, you know, build a business in a healthy way, to take care of our body, to eat, you know, that feels good to our body.
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Erin Gray: There's certain things that, you know, the the things that light our soul on fire, that that pressure, that stress to get started and to do the thing, that's that's good and healthy.
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Erin Gray: It's when we are in that more survival base that I call it, you know, of that fight, flight freeze, where that's not good stress to be in.
4:44
Erin Gray: So this center helps us get things done.
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Erin Gray: And what I want you to be aware of is if you aren't mindful, this can create a lot of stress if we don't use it correctly.
4:56
Erin Gray: So you might have an experience periods of more pressure than others.
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Erin Gray: I I think this is goes back to like you're gonna have to play with your body and see what this feels like in your body.
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Erin Gray: Like this whole week, I've noticed that I was feeling a lot of pressure.
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Erin Gray: And I think part of it is old patterns, old conditioning around working.
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Erin Gray: I think also it is, you know, who you might be around and feeding off of.
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Erin Gray: So just play with this and just recognize, you know, I wanna, I wanna go over whether you have a defined or an undefined root center and also just bring it back to what does it feel like in your body?
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Erin Gray: And is this a healthy stress or is this an unhealthy stress?
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Erin Gray: So 60% of the population is going to have a defined root.
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Erin Gray: So you might feel consistent pressure to get things done.
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Erin Gray: I have an undefined root and I feel that, and I have an undefined root.
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Erin Gray: So this is where I think don't hold what human design says as this, oh, right?
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Erin Gray: Like you have to just play with it and just see what this feels like for you.
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Erin Gray: So if you have another motor center, like we talked about before, like your sacral, right?
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Erin Gray: So that would make you either a manifesting generator or a generator, or your solar plexus is defined, or your will center, also called the ego or the heart center, if that's defined, then that energy of that root, if you're defined, might be amplified because you have other motors in your chart that are defined.
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Erin Gray: So what's really important that I think, regardless whether you're defined, undefined in your root center or any part of your chart, is you need to really tap into your body and know when rest is important for you and when to rest.
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Erin Gray: I think a lot of us go too hard and too fast for too long, and then we can burn ourselves out versus really tapping into our body and asking ourselves, maybe you do need to get up from your desk and rest some.
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Erin Gray: Maybe you do need to say, I'm not coming in early and I'm gonna do, you know, just take some time for me, or on the weekend, or whatever it might be, just making sure that you are staying connected to your body and how you feel and resting when you need to rest.
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Erin Gray: So the thing that I have found that has been helpful, regardless if you have a defined route or not, is when you are noticing that pressure, do you need to actually move your body to dissipate that energy and that and that pressure?
7:31
Erin Gray: Sometimes you might actually it might feel good to actually move.
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Erin Gray: Sometimes it might actually feel better to get more still and to get curious about what's happening.
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Erin Gray: So when the root is, you know, that that center, obviously, if you're defined, when it's when you're feeling that pressure, you might feel that, you know, energy, that amount of energy to like, I always call it like the to-do list is never done, right?
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Erin Gray: Like we might feel all of these things that we need to do.
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Erin Gray: So really just honoring and checking in when is it time to actually do stuff?
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Erin Gray: When is it time to actually rest and rejuvenate?
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Erin Gray: So if you have an undefined root center, you make up roughly 40% of the population.
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Erin Gray: And typically what we do with all the other centers, just like this one, is if you are undefined or you're open, that means that you know, you're you we don't, we don't necessarily want to be in the habit of this, but this is typically what happens when we are not aware is we take on the energies of others and then we amplify that energy.
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Erin Gray: So think about, at least in the Western world, how much the Western society, the business world, really stresses and pressure, like pressure around hustle and like getting there as quickly as possible and overnight success and just so much pressure to get to the next goal, to get to the next thing, right?
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Erin Gray: It's almost like we don't sit back and relax and enjoy what we've created.
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Erin Gray: We're before we're even like maybe we're 75 to 80% there, we're already thinking about our next goal.
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Erin Gray: And so what you want to be aware of and mindful of is what energy am I in when I am number one, doing the thing that I'm doing?
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Erin Gray: Is it coming from a pressured place?
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Erin Gray: And also, is this something that I want to change, right?
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Erin Gray: Is it something that you're just so used to it that you don't even know what not feeling pressure feels like in your body?
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Erin Gray: So you might have that feeling of like just constantly feeling or thinking you need to get things done.
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Erin Gray: And and this has shown up, I think.
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Erin Gray: Here we go back to whether you're defined or undefined, because I have had people that have a defined route and it's like they just want to get the thing done because the pressure's so intense, they want to get it off their plate.
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Erin Gray: I have an undefined route and I still feel this way.
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Erin Gray: I feel like there's it's something I've had to work through, but there's this underlying thread or underlying buzz around like there's always stuff to do, right?
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Erin Gray: So the one thing that I always ask, whether you have an undefined or an open center, is is this energy mine?
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Erin Gray: Right.
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Erin Gray: Regardless of it's your root or your solar plexus or, you know, whatever it might be that we've talked about, is this energy mine?
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Erin Gray: You really want to tap into that because a lot of times when I ask myself that question, more often than not, the answer is no.
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Erin Gray: It's probably coming from either someone I'm around or it's coming from conditioning of how I grew up.
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Erin Gray: So I wanna, I wanna caution you or make you aware of like these nonstop to-do lists because having a to-do list, you will just, it seems like you will just continue to add more things on the list.
10:42
Erin Gray: So maybe setting boundaries for yourself, maybe, maybe setting when you're gonna work and when you're not gonna work.
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Erin Gray: Or, you know, in terms of entering into money decisions, like what does that look like for you so that you are not feeling pressured from when I say the wrong place, what I mean is when it's not coming from a healthy place, right?
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Erin Gray: So just be aware.
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Erin Gray: Like, do you have a to-do list?
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Erin Gray: Is it never ending?
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Erin Gray: Or do you actually write down a to-do list and then schedule it and put it on your calendar?
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Erin Gray: And whatever you can fit in that week is what gets done.
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Erin Gray: And what you can't, then it goes to the next week or the following week.
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Erin Gray: I think sometimes a lot of us are very, not very kind, right, to ourselves and our bodies and we over-schedule ourselves, or we don't allow enough time when completing a task, or we don't allow enough time when we're learning a new skill to have that buffer.
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Erin Gray: And so we overschedule ourselves.
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Erin Gray: So just be aware, maybe you can take a look at your calendar, whether you're defined or undefined, look at your calendar.
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Erin Gray: Are you overscheduling yourself?
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Erin Gray: Are you giving yourself breaks?
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Erin Gray: Are you allowing yourself to have pleasure and play and just a breath throughout the day?
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Erin Gray: Are you doing that or is everything so tightly packed?
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Erin Gray: And that is one of the things that I noticed.
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Erin Gray: Like I looked at my calendar this week and I'm like, I didn't even put in, you know, like people can book with me on online, but I didn't even allow for like a lunch break.
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Erin Gray: Some days it happened where I was able to have one, and then the other day it I noticed I wasn't, and and I didn't allow for that.
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Erin Gray: So just noticing how packed is your schedule and what stories are coming up.
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Erin Gray: If when I'm talking about, you know, maybe moving some things around, what stories are coming up about that pressure that you're feeling to get it all done.
12:32
Erin Gray: So burnout is common, right?
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Erin Gray: I think it's common just in general, right?
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Erin Gray: Like you don't have to define, have a defined or undefined root center.
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Erin Gray: I think it's just common because we don't allow ourselves to rest.
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Erin Gray: We don't value rest in the Western world.
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Erin Gray: I think this is most of the world too.
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Erin Gray: We don't value play.
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Erin Gray: We don't value, I mean, play and pleasure are the kind of the same thing.
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Erin Gray: We don't value those things.
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Erin Gray: We don't value stillness, we value productivity and goals and money making and all of these tangible things.
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Erin Gray: But I have said before, like, we are all the asset, each of us, right?
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Erin Gray: We're each of us are the asset in our business, each of us are the asset like in our life, right?
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Erin Gray: You can't expect a thoroughbred racehorse to perform at the level that you want it to perform at if you don't feed it well, if you never let it rest, if you are not kind to it, if you are constantly making it advance, advance, advance.
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Erin Gray: Like that's not a healthy thing.
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Erin Gray: And your racehorse isn't going to perform to for you at the level that it could if you allow it to rest and feed it really good food and give it time off and you know, give it lots of love.
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Erin Gray: So, in a way, like we are kind of like that, right?
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Erin Gray: And so, how often do we get into this mindset and we may not even be aware of it because it's just our normal of what we are actually feeling in our bodies as we are going throughout our day.
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Erin Gray: So I always ask, I said before, and all the other centers as well.
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Erin Gray: It's like ask yourself, is this energy mine?
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Erin Gray: Right, it's a great habit to get into, no matter what center it is, you know, ask yourself those questions and see what answer you get.
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Erin Gray: See, you know, ask me asking more clarifying questions and really starting to tap into your body to see, giving yourself like just a second to check in with your breath, right?
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Erin Gray: And and really see like what is going on here.
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Erin Gray: Is this coming from my mind telling me I should, I have to, I have a certain deadline?
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Erin Gray: Or is this coming from, oh, this feels fun and expansive.
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Erin Gray: Let me see what I'm capable of.
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Erin Gray: I feel a little pressure to get it done, but it feels expansive and like moving towards versus very heavy and like you have to do the thing.
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Erin Gray: So, in terms of the root center and how it pertains to money, regardless if you are defined or undefined, really only saying yes to the type of stress that's worth entering into.
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Erin Gray: And the only way that you're gonna know how what this feels like, or get used to this, or practice this skill, is to do it right over and over again.
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Erin Gray: Practice and pay attention to when are you feeling stressed or when are you entering into things from like I call like that false pressure or that pressure, like I just said, about the shoulds, the have to's.
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Erin Gray: And when are you in the, oh, this feels fun.
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Erin Gray: Yes, it feels a little like unknown, uncertain, but it feels expansive.
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Erin Gray: It feels like, oh, I'm excited to do this thing, right?
15:36
Erin Gray: Very different energy than when we're not aligned, saying yes to everything, people pleasing, right?
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Erin Gray: Not being discerning about what we are saying yes and no to, pressure and making money, pressure and rushing, long list of to-dos.
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Erin Gray: So really start to slow down, be intentional.
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Erin Gray: And, you know, when you're starting this journey, it's easy to say slow down, but the body's like, that doesn't feel familiar, that doesn't feel safe, right?
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Erin Gray: So I'm not asking you to go from 100 miles an hour to 25.
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Erin Gray: I'm asking you to go from 100 miles an hour to 90.
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Erin Gray: What's one less thing that you, you know, can do or take off your plate or move to next week and really start to look at your calendar, look at your financial decisions.
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Erin Gray: Are you making these decisions from a rushed, a pressured place?
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Erin Gray: Or are you making these decisions, decisions because it feels good and it's moving either your business or your personal life along in the process?
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Erin Gray: Just gaining clarity and getting really clear on where is this decision coming from?
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Erin Gray: And in order to do that, we actually have to allow time.
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Erin Gray: So, like even before we do that, we might need to allow some space in our day to allow for that, to even look at that, right?
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Erin Gray: So, are you scheduling, you know, 10 minutes, you know, maybe before the week starts to look at your calendar and be like, where am I in these, you know, my calendar and then the forcing and things of that sort.
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Erin Gray: And maybe it's something before, you know, you schedule something.
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Erin Gray: Like, is this something that I really want to do?
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Erin Gray: Or am I just saying yes because I feel obligated?
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Erin Gray: Like, notice where the shoulds and the have-to's and the ought-to's come when it comes up as you are, you know, saying yes to things.
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Erin Gray: So, in terms of money, like exercise for you to ponder over the next week is number one, does it resonate, right?
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Erin Gray: Does this feel true or real in your body?
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Erin Gray: Notice how often are you making decisions from pressure, or you're making decisions like you're trying to say yes or no to something to relieve the pressure, same thing coming from pressure, versus following your strategy, your decision making, right?
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Erin Gray: If you have, like we talked about in the solar plexus webinar, if you have a defined solar plexus, are you riding your wave, or are you just hurrying up and saying yes or no to something because the pressure feels too intense in the body?
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Erin Gray: So really start to be aware of when you're making financial decisions, where is this decision coming from?
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Erin Gray: Is it coming from I'm trying to relieve the pressure, right?
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Erin Gray: We're moving away from something.
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Erin Gray: I'm trying to relieve the pressure, I'm trying to not feel the pressure.
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Erin Gray: That's very different energy because we're still focusing on, you know, with the law of focus, we're still focusing on where we are versus moving towards something, riding your wave if you are emotionally defined or following your strategy, your decision-making process, and then choosing from a calm, neutral place.
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Erin Gray: So, action that you can take to start implementing is what decisions do you want to make around money over the next week?
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Erin Gray: Maybe it's decisions that you either you've been avoiding, you've been putting off, you have maybe you've even been hyper-vigilant about the decisions.
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Erin Gray: So, what decision can you make around money over the next week?
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Erin Gray: And I always say start small.
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Erin Gray: We don't need to start with like who are you hiring in your business or that's what comes to mind, right?
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Erin Gray: So can you practice making them using your authority, your decision making?
19:21
Erin Gray: Go back and watch.
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Erin Gray: I think it's actually the four-part series that Carmen, my friend and colleague and I created that goes into all the different types of decision making.
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Erin Gray: So you can go back and you can watch that webinar series to really start to get clued or to or or connected to your decision making and you know, uh practice making them from that place versus a pressured place.
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Erin Gray: And if you notice yourself feeling pressure, like that's probably what I would say is just start there.
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Erin Gray: Like, do you notice the pressure that you're feeling around some certain money decisions?
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Erin Gray: Can you just allow the pressure right now?
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Erin Gray: Can you actually feel like or feel what it feels like in your body?
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Erin Gray: Body, notice where these sensations are coming from.
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Erin Gray: Notice what that feels like.
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Erin Gray: First, start there, awareness, right?
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Erin Gray: And then what do you actually want to do to release the pressure?
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Erin Gray: Sometimes it might be, like I said earlier, you may just want to be able to just sit with it and get to feel what it feels like in your body.
20:16
Erin Gray: Sometimes I just got to move my body.
20:18
Erin Gray: I got to go work out.
20:19
Erin Gray: I got to go run.
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Erin Gray: I got to go walk.
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Erin Gray: I got to go do something to move the energy to then come back and then be at a centered place.
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Erin Gray: So notice what feels best for you.
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Erin Gray: And it may differ, right?
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Erin Gray: Depending on the day, depending on the situation, depending on the amount of money we're talking about.
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Erin Gray: So just really, really start to tap into, get connected to your body and what does your body need in the moment?
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Erin Gray: And you can just ask that question what does my body need in this moment?
20:45
Erin Gray: And typically the first answer that your body gives you or your mind, you know, intuition gives you is the correct answer.
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Erin Gray: Sometimes it's like, I need to rest.
20:52
Erin Gray: Sometimes it's like I just need to completely unplug, put everything down, and I need to just close my eyes.
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Erin Gray: Sometimes it's like, I need to go walk for a bit and and and honor that.
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Erin Gray: So figuring out, you know, how do you want to move your body if that's the case?
21:04
Erin Gray: And also recognizing and starting to pay attention to.
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Erin Gray: Do you notice feeling pressure during certain days, times, who you're with, you know, depending on how busy maybe your schedule is, what you have on your schedule, what your, you know, maybe offers that you have or what you're trying to launch or what you it could be a litany of things, right?
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Erin Gray: So really start to see.
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Erin Gray: Do you notice a pattern?
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Erin Gray: What's coming up for you?
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Erin Gray: And what are you feeling?
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Erin Gray: And then, like I said, notice it, become aware of it.
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Erin Gray: And then what do you need in this moment?
21:38
Erin Gray: And that is where I would start with.
21:41
Erin Gray: And as always, if you want additional further support, I'm here for you.
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Erin Gray: You can just email me or message me and I'll be happy to help.
21:49
Erin Gray: And that concludes the series.
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Erin Gray: I want to appreciate you for watching, for taking the time to learn this information, to integrate this information.
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Erin Gray: I think that's a really big one.
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Erin Gray: You know, learning it, watching it is one thing, but actually taking the information, integrating it, and then embodying it so that you can actually transform your relationship with yourself, with your money, with your business, and who you are is where change and growth actually happens.
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Erin Gray: So thank you again for watching.
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Erin Gray: As always, I'm here to support you.
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Erin Gray: Just reach out and I'll be happy to help.