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Unmasking 'Fake People': Exploring Trust and Authenticity Part I · HAVE FAITH LET IT BEGIN®

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  Every coin can have two faces, and sometimes people can have two faces.
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  My name is Angel. This is another episode of Have Faith, Let It Begin.
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  And today's episode is entitled, Fake People.
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  When I was a child, my mom always told me, Angel, when you were born,
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  all the angels came from heaven.
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  Do you know why? Because you're special.
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  On June 16, 2018, I launched my show, Have Faith, Let It Begin.
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  I always wanted to change the world, share my personal testimony,
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  share real-life stories and motivational topics to set out to go out and change the world.
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  Join me each and every week, Monday through Friday at 6 a.m.,
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  because this is a show all about faith.
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  My name is Angel, and welcome to Have Faith, Let It Begin.
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  Music.
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  Hello, everyone, and welcome to another episode of Have Faith,
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  Let It Begin. And well, I can't believe I'm about to say this.
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  I actually have two guests with me today.
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  So to my left, I'd like to introduce you to my sister, Leanne.
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  Leanne, welcome to our show.
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  Thank you for having me. Awesome. And to my right, my sister-in-law, Jen.
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  Welcome, Jen. Hi, Angel. And this is weird because they're probably going to
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  make fun of me a little bit and you're going to hear me get made fun of because
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  they actually like to make fun of me when I make my episodes,
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  but that's okay. It's a family thing.
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  The reason why we're here is because you heard the introduction.
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  It's called fake people and one of the things
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  that has troubled me in the last year or so is just watching how many people
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  we interact with each and every day that we may assume are people that we can
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  trust that we can put our faith into yet when we're not looking when we least expect it,
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  they turn out to be something different someone different.
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  So with the panel that we have today, we have two people here,
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  well-educated and well-diverse in meeting new people each and every day,
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  I propose the question, what is a fake person to you? And have you ever encountered one?
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  Sometimes I ask myself if I'm the fake person. Really? Yeah,
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  that's a joke. I'm not a fake person.
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  Okay, good one. I'm not a fake person. But here's how I always think of people.
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  I always ask myself, what exactly does it take to be fake?
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  And I always think of three things.
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  Number one, someone that puts other people down.
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  Two, someone that is always out for themselves, and that's the only reason they're nice to you.
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  And three, they make promises, but they never keep them.
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  That's deep. So that's how I judge a fake person. What about you, Jen?
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  You know i take it a little bit a little
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  you know i just say i go i think
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  of facebook and i and i call it fake book
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  when you have people in your life
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  and you know you know about their life you
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  know how they feel about their husbands or
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  you know how they feel about a particular person
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  and then the next thing you know you see pictures up on facebook how wonderful
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  things are and just it's all it's all for show and then you just say to yourself
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  wow sometimes I just wish that you could just write this is just totally fake and then you just,
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  I'm like so done with Facebook because of those reasons.
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  So you think that social media has a factor where people are putting out things
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  that maybe are not exactly what they perceive to be?
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  Absolutely. So they're the total opposite. So they use social media to and in
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  this case their advantage In their opinion To make themselves look better than they are.
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  But here's the thing. When you're at work, for example, my job,
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  the job that I work in or the jobs I have worked in, I should say,
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  not current job, the jobs I've worked in, I've worked in, and my viewers know I've worked in sales.
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  And the hardest thing I felt was dealing with somebody who says,
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  and this goes into what you said, Leanne, dealing with a sales representative
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  that makes a promise and all of a sudden that promise doesn't hold true.
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  So here you are thinking that you got somebody here that has your back.
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  And then all of a sudden, they've done nothing but stab you in the back.
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  You know what I mean? That's tough. Now, let's pause for a second.
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  We got to acknowledge the background noise because we're actually at my mom's house.
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  And for those of you that are Spanish, you would know that's the scraping of
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  a caldero, which means she just got done making rice.
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  And we have to acknowledge that. But it's all good. It's all good.
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  That's why it's a family show.
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  And you know what? It's in a fake episode. No. That's it.
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  That's it. We don't edit on the show. But that's what I thought of when you said that.
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  Well, you know, I'm going to stick to what you were saying, but I definitely
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  want to go back to what Jen was saying because that's its own episode almost of like the pressure of.
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  Let's call it social media. We don't want to do as a sponsor of Facebook.
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  No, it's in general. It has nothing to do with Facebook. It's just the social aspect.
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  I think as adults, we're grown already. We think if we think that we are above
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  feeling the pressures, the peer pressure, we're not.
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  All this social media brings us way back to the high school days of feeling
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  the pressure of living up to everybody's expectations of, you know,
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  what a fabulous relationship you're in.
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  So, I mean, I can go that route, but sticking to the three points that I had
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  made, friends in general, making promises that you can't keep really irk me.
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  Like you see someone at the mall and like, oh, we need to hang out.
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  But then they never contact you.
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  You know, unless they need something. That's tough. Okay. Let me,
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  let me, let me ask you something.
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  What this made me go. I don't want to go off topic, but it's kind of makes me think of something.
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  If somebody calls you and they're the constant one calling you,
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  but you're the one that forgets to kind of call back, not because you don't
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  want to, you just forget. You're just bad at it.
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  All right. It's me. I'm doing, I'm talking to myself here. Is that the same person?
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  No, Because I think ultimately you kind of know that you're either busy, you have a new baby.
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  There are times where you're not going to be able to reciprocate a friend's favor.
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  But that's not the same. I'm talking about that person that comes around when
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  you know they know that you're going to have a New Year's Eve party.
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  Like, oh, New Year's Eve's coming. Let me start calling up Jen because she has
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  an awesome New Year's Eve party.
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  Okay, okay, okay. Or summer rolls around and you know that Angel has, let's say, a boat.
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  That friend. Almost like a church when people only come for the major holidays.
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  I'm just saying. Just saying. I guess that could be perceived as fake,
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  but maybe they worship on their own.
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  I know people that receive worship on blogs. Okay.
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  I don't. I would like to actually go to your church. I don't know.
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  I feel like I feel it more.
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  But there's a lot of people that maybe don't want to go to church on their own.
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  And then they watch episodes on either TV or whatnot.
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  So let's talk about that phone call. I mean, let's stick with that topic before
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  we go to the next one. Let's stick with that. So you're saying people that actually call you.
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  Out of the blue. When they need something. When they need something.
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  Have you ever had anybody like that? Oh, I only have two friends.
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  You don't have two? I, I, I, I, listen, I keep my circle real.
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  I don't need to laugh. I know. Guess what? I only have three.
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  So we're good. And my viewers now. Yeah. I keep my circle small for that reason.
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  Oh, sorry. Okay. What's the reason for that?
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  Exactly. For the reason that Leanne was just talking about.
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  Okay. Because when I talk to someone, I want it to be authentic and I want it
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  to be, you know, If I need something, you're there.
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  If you need something, we're just there.
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  Again, it's fake.
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  I did an episode a while back where the episode was about making friends or having friends.
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  The one thing that I could tell you is what constitutes a good friend?
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  In a way, to segue from that, you only have two. I can say I have three.
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  What is your idealistic of a good friend? because that would actually take away
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  from the person that's a genuine friend as opposed to the one who's a fake.
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  A friend that understands that just because I don't call,
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  doesn't mean that I don't like them or I'm mad at them, that we can go three
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  weeks without talking, two months without talking, and pick up like it was yesterday.
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  That if I decide to take my kids to Disney, that I don't need to call them and invite them.
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  So if they see the Facebook pictures, oh my goodness, you didn't invite them?
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  That would constitute as a no-go for me. A friend would be understanding.
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  I have people like that. What do you think, Jen? No, that's absolutely.
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  When I have this saying, too needy or too much work. So I have friends that are like that.
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  They expect you to call them every day. And when you don't, they get upset.
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  Or if you go a week without calling them, it's like, listen,
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  I have a life. I've got children.
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  My life revolves around my children and work and my husband.
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  That's our circle. So if I don't call you every day, or if I don't invite you
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  to do something, it's not that I don't want to be friends with you.
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  It's just that, like you said, maybe something came up or I didn't think about it.
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  But I'm seriously not to put it out there, but I had a very close friend that
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  now I didn't talk to anymore for that reason. Where did this start?
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  Because I don't remember, maybe because we get older, I guess. I don't know more.
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  I'm not tuned to it. I've never heard of such a person getting offended for having one action.
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  If you're going to go to a party and you're in a circle of the same friends
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  and that person doesn't get invited and you go, how is it that they were supposed to be invited?
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  And where does that fall? Is that lack of confidence?
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  Is that low self-esteem? What is that? Because I don't get that.
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  You know, I really don't know because I don't get offended if someone doesn't invite me.
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  And I think you're going to see it possibly more now that you have a child.
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  Because in my circle of friends, they're really they don't have children.
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  So I don't get invited to a lot of events that are for either singles or people without children.
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  And I don't get mad at that, but, you know, maybe someone else would get mad
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  or, you know, they assume you can't hang out and that's why they don't they don't invite you.
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  But I don't call and say, hey, how come I wasn't invited to to an event?
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  But there's friends that will call you out and say, oh, that's nice of you to
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  have an event without us.
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  And I think that's where that fake friendships are.
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  I don't have to invite you, and I don't dislike you because I didn't invite
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  you. I just chose not to invite you.
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  And maybe it has something to do with women and men. I don't know.
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  As a female, I don't know if it's just my circle of female friends. I think so. I don't know.
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  Yeah, I believe that. I don't think men are like that.
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  Do you believe that because of that, you've had more fallouts with friends?
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  In this situation where we're talking about not being included,
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  or they feel that they're not being included when in reality you're just going
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  to do whatever you're doing with your friends.
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  Like in your case, you took your family to Disney.
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  All of a sudden, people are like, whoa, I didn't get included.
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  Do you think that there's fallout because of that?
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  Have you had fallout before because of it? I think that's the most ridiculous
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  thing I've ever heard, honestly.
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  You're going somewhere with your family you're going to
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  disney i find that that's ridiculous could you
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  give a friend like that is what i'm saying i you know
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  what i'm sure people get hurt i've never had someone directly tell me i can't
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  believe you didn't invite me that's never really happened to me but there's
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  always those indirect comments or on facebook they'll put you know oh that's
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  nice that you went there and you're like oh i wonder if that's a dig.
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  You know you know it's where jen's talking about that whole social media and you know,
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  i don't get it what's the last topic that we
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  have to go into because we're going to actually stop right
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  here and i'm going to purposely leave everybody on a cliffhanger so if you want
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  to tune into fake people part two i suggest you tune into tomorrow's episode
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  because we're going to keep rolling but for you people you're going to have
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  to wait till tomorrow so be on the lookout out for tomorrow's episode. It's Fake People Part 2.
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  And for those of you, have faith, let it begin.
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  Thank you for listening to another episode of Have Faith, Let It Begin.
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  You're going to hear episodes, me recording live as my daughter in the background,
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  Ariel, will probably cry.
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  You'll hear background noises like phone calls.
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  And right on the cue, she's starting to cry. Don't worry, everybody.
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  We're going to continue on like never before.
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  And with Ariel in the background, knowing in the future, you're going to hear
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  yourself crying like this, Mama?
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  Yeah. Say hi to everybody out there. We just want to encourage each one,
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  every one of you to join us every single weekday, Monday through Friday at 6 a.m.
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  Join me, Ariel, my family, and everyone as we continue our journey.
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  For Have Faith, Let It Begin, my name is Angel.
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  Say goodbye, Ariel. Say bye. Bye.
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  Music.