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INTENTIONAL CLUTTER AND PURGE PARTIES FOR THE OVER 50 CROWD · Uncluttered and Unfiltered: The Podcast For Women Over 50

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  Welcome to Uncluttered and Unfiltered, the podcast urging
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  you to let it go and don't look back, with nationally acclaimed
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  professional organizer Christine Stone and self-proclaimed Hot
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  Damn Mess radio and TV personality Eden.
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  Kendall welcome everybody to Uncluttered.
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  And. Unfiltered with a podcast for
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  women over 50. I'm Eden Kendall.
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  I am a broadcaster. And this is Christine Stone with
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  me, a professional organizer. Her company's neatly designed.
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  If you are someone who loves to go down the rabbit hole of
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  organizing, I would like to highly recommend her Instagram.
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  To you, thank you so much. It's so much fun.
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  Well, I feel like anyone who is going to love this episode is
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  going to love spending some time with you on your Instagram.
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  Neatly designed. Oh, thank you.
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  Yeah, this is a favorite topic. So we're going to talk about
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  something called intentional. Clutter, which is big right now,
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  and. We're going to talk about a
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  concept that I came across and asked you to investigate for me,
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  which is Purge parties. And we're going to get to both
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  worth of those. But before we even do that, I
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  want to tell you that if you're just finding our podcast and
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  you're like, oh, it's an organizational podcast.
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  Yes, we cover organizational things because Christine is a
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  professional organizer, as I've mentioned now about five times,
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  but I am not organized. So anything you're learning, I'm
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  learning along with you. And not every episode is about
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  organizing. I would say 80% of them are not
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  what this one is. So you'll learn some things and
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  we are excited to share them with you.
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  So let's first explain what intentional clutter means.
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  OK, intentional clutter is a design concept that involves
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  arranging items in a way that seems chaotic but is actually
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  purposeful. And that's so important to
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  remember because it looks, you know, like you have a lot of,
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  you know, tchotchkes like, but it's purposeful and it's a
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  mindful approach to maxim maximizing that creates a space
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  that feels lived in and authentic.
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  OK, so basically what comes to mind is a grand piano.
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  This is just. What's coming to mind?
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  And it's got. A bust.
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  And it's got framed photos with gilded gold frames all over it
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  and lace doilies like my grandmother had on hers.
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  And it's just covered. There's nothing but dust
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  collecting things on there. But it looks lovely because it's
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  family memories. But what you're saying is it's
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  got to have some kind of a purposeful organization so that
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  it's aesthetically pleasing and it doesn't look like clutter.
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  Right. And that is why I picked this
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  topic because it's so popular on social media right now.
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  It's everybody wants this look, but what people don't understand
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  is, and coming from an organizer, there's a way to do
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  it, but so many people don't get that.
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  And then it ends up being full of clutter.
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  So you're trying to bring warmth to a space with the things you
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  love. So you're not hiding the China
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  away, you're bringing the China and the crystal out, but it's
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  how you're displaying it. OK, so let's talk about Nancy
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  Meyers, because her name comes U when you're talking about all of
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  this intentional. Letter.
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  O Who is Nancy Meyers? She is the set designer for all
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  my favorite movies, which is, it's complicated something.
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  Steve Martin. Yeah.
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  Steve Martin and Meryl Streep. Loved that movie.
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  That's the one where he's she's Facetiming and he's in the.
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  Background. OK.
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  Yes. OK, so that house and then
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  father of the Bride with Steve Martin and Diane Keaton.
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  Everybody was in love with that set and that started the whole
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  intentional clutter. And then came my favorite movie
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  that you've never seen that I am going to make you rent in the
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  next. I'll give you a couple weeks,
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  But something's got to give with Jack Nicholson, Diane Keaton,
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  where he's dating her daughter who's like in her 20s.
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  And they go out to her beach house in the Hamptons and she
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  doesn't know they're going to be there and they don't know she's
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  going to be there. And all of a sudden they're all
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  there at the same time. And it's over 50 something year
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  old woman with her sister who's over 50, OK with Jack Nicholson
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  who's in his 60s with her 20 year old daughter.
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  EW, OK, crazy. It's so.
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  Funny is decorated by this famous.
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  Yes, And every when that came out and that was like, I don't
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  know now like what, 15 years ago, I mean a really long time
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  ago, everybody wanted that look. Everyone was obsessed with that
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  house, and I even had a friend. So when I bought my house, I
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  wanted it to look aesthetically just like that house, 'cause we
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  were buying a house out at the beach.
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  So we went to someone's house in the neighborhood and I walked in
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  the house for a party, and I grabbed my husband's arms so
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  hard. He's like, what?
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  I go, you're not going to believe it.
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  And he goes, What? I go, this entire house is a
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  replica of the movie from Something's Got to Give.
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  I mean, Mitch, I'm telling you, it's identical.
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  Like, this is unbelievable. And of course, he could have
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  cared less. Sure.
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  He's like, where's the beer? You know what I mean?
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  Like, he's like, OK, I walked around there and I was just
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  like, this is unbelievable because they did such an amazing
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  job. Like down to every detail.
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  It was phenomenal. But my point about this is you
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  do need a decorator's help unless you are a designer, a
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  decorator, because there is a difference between the Nancy
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  Meyer effect and clutter. Because even if you follow Nancy
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  Meyer on Instagram, you'll see her bookcase behind her is
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  filled with tons of books and frames in front of it of family
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  pictures. And it looks amazing.
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  OK, I'm going to say, but that's because she's Nancy Meyer.
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  Yeah. Do you know what I mean?
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  She probably does have that designer flair when she sees
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  things and knows exactly off the bat you have that eye too.
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  Maybe you have a friend who has that kind of eye, but it's what
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  you're saying is there's there's an art.
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  There is an art to doing this and that's why when I brought it
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  up to you, because I like to stay on like current trends on
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  what's happening in the organizing world.
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  And that was just something that was blowing up social media, how
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  people want to bring back the feeling of warmth in their home
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  with the things they love. OK.
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  And that's as an organizer, I've always said if you love it,
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  display it. If you don't, get rid of it.
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  And that's part of what this is about.
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  You're not going to just go buy a bunch of junk to get this
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  look, because that's not really what this is about.
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  You know, you could add a couple pieces that you've been dying to
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  buy. That's different, but it's your,
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  you know, on your trips, collecting items, that's really
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  big too. Framing photos of family, but
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  framing them in a certain way. It's not about just every frame.
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  You get it like Target, you know, and throwing them
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  together. It's, it's a look.
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  And that's why I get a little nervous when I hear intentional
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  clutter, 'cause I'm like, yes, if you're talented and you're a
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  designer, a decorator, someone who has that flair for this kind
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  of look, you'll knock it out of the park.
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  But if you're a person who's this isn't your Forte, it can
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  become clutter. Which, you know, gets me a
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  little, a little Jingle. Yeah, a little crazy.
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  I hear your bracelets. Dangle.
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  And that's your nerves. Right, right.
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  So the the the take away to me right now is to not go out to
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  one of these places like HomeGoods where they.
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  Have. Shelves full of what look like.
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  People's. Favorite Knick knacks that
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  they've collected over the years, but when in reality, they
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  were just manufactured last week.
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  And you know how there's that trend of people going into
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  HomeGoods and saying, yes, I'm looking for a clock that's
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  shaped like a dolphin with an apple in its mouth.
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  And then they pretend they found it and they say, is this what
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  you need? So if you have that because you
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  were recently on a trip to Bora Bora.
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  Right. And you?
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  Native gave it to you, right? That's different than going into
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  HomeGoods and picking the most absurd thing that you can find.
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  Not that there aren't some really cool finds there, but
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  what I'm saying is these Knick knacks should have at least some
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  meaning or something that brings you joy when you see them.
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  Right and not. They're out because because, not
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  just because you have an empty shelf to fall.
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  Well, and you're not staging your house.
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  I mean, you're not selling. Like there's a difference
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  between staging a home to sell and living in a home with
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  intentional clutter. There's a huge difference
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  because when you're staging a home, you're not buying items
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  that you must love and what you're buying for scale, you're
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  buying for colors, you're buying to fill bookcases because it
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  looks better when you're putting a house on the market.
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  But when you're doing this kind of look, the Nancy Meyers effect
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  that they call it, you're really bringing a welcoming, authentic
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  look to your house and making it a way to express yourself and
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  show off your favorite things. That's what this is about is
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  bringing warmth and family and a well lived in home, not a
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  cluttered. I'm going to keep saying this
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  because it really makes me a little nervous.
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  So it. Is it's, it can be nerve
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  racking, but it's, you know, when I picture a, for example, a
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  kitchen counter, you know, that's a place where the minute
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  one thing is set down, it starts to collect clutter.
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  So you have to be really careful.
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  But if it's a shelf that's in another room that's only going
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  to be empty if we don't put something on it, that's when you
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  can start really thinking, OK, well, this is my favorite book
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  and this is to balance it out. But that's where an eye either a
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  really good deep dive on on. Pinterest or.
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  Having your friend with a good guy or a or a decorator, you
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  might be surprised that you could have somebody come to your
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  home, a professional decorator and just say, listen, I, I, I
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  really only want you for one hour or.
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  Two hours. I mean don't diminish or devalue
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  their time by any means, but it could be an amazing gift if you
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  have have. A holiday coming up?
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  Like, I'm trying to think when this particular episode is going
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  to run. I feel like it might be
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  Valentine's Day week, you know, give someone a gift card for two
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  hours with a designer to come in and say, look, let me organize
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  all of your framed photos. We're going to go.
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  I just think leaving some things to the experts, if you're going
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  for a certain look, yes, so that you don't have all the clutter
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  because what her look is Nancy Meyers is a total neutral
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  palette with layering effects of like lemons in a bowl.
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  Hydrangeas, like adding flowers everywhere, which I did.
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  I went to Trader Joe's yesterday and I added flowers everywhere.
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  And I can tell you it just made me happy.
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  It just made me happy. When I was walking around my
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  house yesterday, I put flowers in the kitchen, I put them in
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  the guest bathroom. It just, and it wasn't
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  expensive, you know what I mean? And I just think really keeping
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  your home, that when you walk in, it just brings a happy
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  feeling, a warm feeling. And that's what all of this is
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  about is going antique shopping and maybe picking up a couple
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  things that really catch your eye.
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  Like it's about a lot of antiques and family memories and
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  family things that you've inherited, but not keeping the
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  ones you hate or that you're like, I'm not putting that out
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  and keeping it a box and A room. OK.
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  So now that we have decided that some of the things you're
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  keeping it a box in your room and you're not going to do that.
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  Anymore. We can transition it into purge.
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  Party, Yes. A purge party.
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  If you Google it, don't, because the first thing that's going to
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  come up is a bunch of people from the movie The Purge.
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  Oh, I know. I saw that.
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  It scared me to death because that was such a scary movie.
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  I saw that. But it is something that I saw
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  that was trending on social media and it is ladies getting
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  together and having a purge party.
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  So let's talk about it. What is it?
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  I love this. I mean, when you sent me this,
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  I'm like, Oh my gosh, I love this idea where you gather your
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  friends. So you're it's not a garage sale
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  or an estate sale. You're not selling anything
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  you're saying in a group text, ladies, I'm having a purge
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  party. Come get what you want, take
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  what you want. I don't care what it is.
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  I'm getting rid of this stuff and it she showed all her
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  friends coming, leaving with like baskets and every.
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  I think that's a fantastic idea. I really do.
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  I think you could almost say to if you had five to 10 friends,
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  you could say for the next. However many of you, there are
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  months, every month we're going to have our happy hour at a
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  different friend's house and it's going to be a purge party.
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  I love it. I love it.
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  I think it's a great idea. I think that way you don't feel
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  guilty because you're not trying to sell stuff that can be
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  stressful when people are like, dude, should I sell it?
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  You know, how much is it worth? I don't want to RIP people off.
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  And you know, so I think this is a fantastic way to get people to
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  take things that you don't want. You have nowhere to store them.
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  You don't really even like them and they don't fit your
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  aesthetic in your house anymore, but someone else wants them.
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  Love this idea. I mean, I can't tell you how
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  much I love this idea. I mean, there are even some
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  moments where you want to get rid of something and, you know,
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  somebody wants it and it's awkward because they almost want
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  to insist on buying it from you. And you're like, I just don't
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  want to do that. I don't want to change money,
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  changing hands between us over this.
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  I mean, it's going to go back around.
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  It comes out in the wash. Right, exactly.
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  I do love that and I think that if you knew to the date of the
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  party, it would really force your hand to start the purging
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  because you want to have something to show off.
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  So you want to go through every closet you want to go?
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  Through someone. You might have luggage that.
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  Somebody has been wanting. You just don't know what you've
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  got, so I think it's fantastic and it's always a great
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  opportunity to have a party and you can go get go get some
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  flowers and some cheese and some.
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  Wine and just really make I think it's a great idea having
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  all your girlfriends over and and not only are you enjoying
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  your time with you're girlfriends, but you're getting
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  rid of stuff Yeah, match made in heaven win.
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  Win. Win, win.
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  Every single. Box, yes.
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  Well, I wanted to ask you one more thing.
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  Yes. Do you have anything else in
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  your notes, by the way? Because, you know, Christine is.
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  Very prepared. I I I love well, this topic I
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  absolutely love because when you see intentional and clutter put
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  together, you had you know, you had me at hello.
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  I mean, you know, so I just think that this is a great idea.
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  It really looks great, but you just have to be careful on what
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  you're adding and not subtracting.
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  Everything in moderation. Everything in moderation.
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  All right, we would love for you to be a part of our community
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  Lots of interaction on there. And stay tuned because we're
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  where you can find our videos. Yeah.
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  But in the meantime, anywhere you listen to podcasts.
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  And could you do us a favor and tell one friend, just one
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  girlfriend, one aunt, one cousin, somebody who you think?
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  Would benefit. From a podcast for women over
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  50. Just you got to have one.
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  You got to have one friend that you want to share us with.
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  It would mean the world to us. And it tells us everything we
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  need to know that that, you know, we're saying and doing
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  things that are reaching you. And we're always open for your
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  suggestions as well. OK, so this has been such a
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  super quick episode that I find that I have time to throw in
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  this one more thing because it's so ridiculous.
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  And we've talked at all about this trend.
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  Fridge scaping. Have you seen this?
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  No. OK, so fridge scaping is when
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  you clean out your refrigerator and when you put everything
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  back, you do it aesthetically and you even add some photos.
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  Silly some flower, silly, silly I, I, I think people have way
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  too much time on their hands if they're doing stuff like that,
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  honestly. I mean, I clean my refrigerator
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  out every single Sunday because my garbage day is Monday.
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  So I do that every week, but I can't imagine putting like a
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  frame picture of my kids a a plant.
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  You know, I think people can take it too far.
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  Yes, you heard me say that. I think you can take organ
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  anything too far. I just think that you have to be
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  real, especially in is your refrigerator huge?
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  I wouldn't even have room for that.
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  Oh, I mean the way it's so empty these days because we are empty
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  nesters I. Would have some room.
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  But not when like, anyone's visiting.
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  I mean, Can you imagine someone opening the refrigerator and you
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  have, like, an orchid in there? Yeah.
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  I mean exactly maybe like, oh. That'd be so funny.
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  Is this edible? What is?
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  This, yeah. So, so here's what I think the
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  big takeaways from this episode are 'cause we like to leave you
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  with some things. First of all, have a purge party
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  with your friend. Yes, that's a great way to get
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  rid of some things. Let us know if your local maybe
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  will come. Although Christine won't allow
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  me to buy anything else or not to buy but receive.
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  More. The other thing is of course, be
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  very intentional. If you are putting out the
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  tchotchkes or the memories or the antiques, just you know know
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  that there's an aesthetic to it and maybe do some research or
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  get some professional help and three unintentional little
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  snippet clean out your. Fridge the day before.
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  Garbage day, always. That's the day you clean your.
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  Fridge. Yes, that's what I do.
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  But more importantly, what I learned from this episode is
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  that you never saw Something's Got to Give.
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  Oh, that's with Jack Nicholson and Diane Keaton.
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  I'm in shock still. I'll get over it, but you have
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  to watch it and report back on the podcast on your thoughts.
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  OK, well I'm not going to do it alone.
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  I think all of us need to watch if it's.
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  That I could. I've seen it like 10 times.
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  I could watch it again this weekend.
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  Okay, I will definitely watch. It and ladies over 50 will love
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  it because it's all about aging and how the 60 something year
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  old guy picks the 20 something year old.
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  But in the end, should I give it away?
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  I don't think you even have to. I think if it's a wrong kind, we
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  know. Well, in the end he ends up
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  going for the mother, of course, because they have so much in
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  common, and he ends up having a heart attack and of course they
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  need caretaking. So that's the end of that story.
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  OK. Do I need to?
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  Watch it now you. Literally.
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  Just. It's funny you just gave away
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  the. Ending, but it's funny and they
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  fall in love. OK, now we know how it's going
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  to end, but I think I still would watch.
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  It you still have to watch it, you have to.
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  Watch it for the set. Yes, that's what I'm saying.
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  You have to watch it for the set, for the house.
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  It look at every little detail in the living room, in the
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  kitchen. It is.
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  I know people that have paused it per slide to take screenshots
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  to show the decorators things that they want.
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  That's how popular it was, so. OK, then for that reason, and
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  the reason that I can pretend I know the ending, when I watch
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  with my husband, I'll be like, I bet I know what's going to
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  happen. Everybody, thank you so much for
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  being here. And remember, if you have a lot
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  of clutter to get rid of, you don't have to have a purge party
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  to let it go. And don't look back.