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Spring Clean Your Mind: Out With the Noise, In With the Good Stuff · The Nadia Chapman Show

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  Hey, everyone. Welcome to the Nadia Chapman Show. Today is May 3rd.
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  Can you believe it? It's already May.
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  And on Friday, I had a very fun session with a client of mine,
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  one of my favorite clients.
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  And we talk about spring cleaning, but most importantly, clearing the mental
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  clutter that we carry with us from season to season.
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  Ha! And I thought that was such an interesting topic that I decided to talk about just that today.
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  So today is going to feel more like a session with me because I'm going to take
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  you through some coaching questions. And please, you are free to pause the podcast
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  sometimes if you want to write the questions down and just journal about it.
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  Or you can just listen and just get thinking and maybe you'll get some great insights from it.
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  So before we start, I want you to picture something for a second.
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  If your mind was a space, like a room, a room that you live in every day,
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  what would it actually look like and feel like when you walk in right now?
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  Not what you wish it looked like, but what it really feels like, okay?
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  Because for most people, it's not calm and open and peaceful. It is full.
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  There are things in there sitting around that you haven't dealt with in the long times.
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  Some thoughts maybe that you keep recycling some pressure that's been building
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  up quietly, maybe expectations, comparisons, and things that you say that you're
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  going to do, but you haven't done yet. And all of this mess is just sitting
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  there. It's all in there.
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  And the interesting part is you kind of get used to it. You know,
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  this is kind of the new normal.
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  You learn how to function inside that clutter in your mind.
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  And you keep going, you keep showing up, and you keep pushing through,
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  but something feels off.
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  You feel like a little heavier than you should. Maybe a little more overwhelmed that you can explain.
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  Like you're moving forward, but not freely. And it's not because you're not capable.
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  It's because there's no space. And today, together, we're not going to be adding
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  anything new into your coaching tool bag. We're going to be talking about clearing.
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  So pausing long enough just to notice what you've been carrying for way too
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  long and asking yourself if you actually still need to carry it.
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  Because most of the time, drumroll, you don't.
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  So a lot of what's taking up the space in your mind right now is old.
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  Old thoughts, old stories, old pressure, old version of you that you've outgrown, okay?
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  But you're still kind of dragging all that stuff with you and it's become irrelevant.
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  So today, instead of fixing everything, I want you to start noticing what has
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  been sitting in your mind on repeat lately. And that's a great coaching question.
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  What has been sitting in your mind on repeat lately?
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  That one thing that just keeps showing up again and again, even if you're trying
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  to move on, but it's still there.
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  That's usually a good cue.
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  Because whatever is taking up the most space mentally is also sucking your energy.
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  And when your energy is tied up there, it's not available for anything else
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  that actually matters right now.
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  And there's something I see all the time with people in my life and people that I work with.
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  People think that they're tired because they're doing so much and there's so
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  much going on in their life.
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  But guess what? Most of the time they're tired because their mind never shuts
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  up. The mind never turns off.
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  They're replaying, you know, old conversations that are meaningless that happened maybe months ago.
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  They're overthinking decisions and they're carrying pressure that hasn't even happened yet.
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  Think about that. And it builds. Oh yes, it builds over time,
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  very quietly, but constantly.
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  So instead of trying to control everything or figure it all out,
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  just slow down for a second and ask yourself this.
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  What am I holding on to that's already done?
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  That's a big one. And we are all guilty of it.
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  We hold on to moments, mistakes, lots of mistakes and things that we wish went
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  differently and conversations that we wish went differently as if keeping them
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  in our mind and overthinking them is somehow helping, right?
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  But it's not. It's just taking up space.
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  And then there's the other side of it. You know, all the things that you've
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  been avoiding over time, because let's be honest, Most people aren't stuck because
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  they don't know what to do.
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  They're stuck because they're avoiding what they do know, avoiding an uncomfortable
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  step, avoiding the effort it would take to really show up, to really grow,
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  avoiding the possibility that, you know, making the next move might not go perfectly. And I get it.
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  Avoiding feels way easier in the moment. But what it does is that it creates
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  this constant low level stress that just sits in the background of your mind
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  and the background of your day. And you feel it. I know you do.
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  And right now, as you're listening, I'm sure that one thing that you know you
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  need to be doing is popping again in your mind.
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  So we all feel it. Even if you're not thinking about it directly,
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  over time, it start waiting on you.
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  So part of this spring cleaning that we're doing right now is not just about letting go.
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  It's about getting honest, not harsh, not judgmental, just honest.
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  Where have you been holding back a little? Where have you been choosing comfort over growth?
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  These are all very good questions that you should ask yourself,
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  not only now, but throughout the whole year.
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  I need you to start noticing these things. And once you see it,
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  once you question yourself, you can actually do something about it.
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  That's why coaching is so powerful, because we ask so many important transformational questions.
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  And then come the part that people say they want, but don't always fully to.
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  Letting go. Not talking about it because you know, we always talk about it.
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  People, everybody talks about it. Oh, let it go or I need to let it go.
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  But just don't talk about it.
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  Just don't think about it. Actually decide.
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  Decide on it because you're stepping into a new season right now.
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  So whether you are an athlete, whether it's about just your life in general,
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  your mindset, something in you is ready to move.
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  And that version of you, she's lighter.
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  She's not carrying everything from the past into the future.
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  You can't do that. So this becomes a decision. What are you done carrying?
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  Not, oh, I'll try to think less about this. It doesn't work like that.
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  But instead, this doesn't come with me anymore.
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  This doesn't come with me in my next season. And when you make that decision,
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  when you decide that, you stop negotiating with it.
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  You stop giving it so much space in your mind. And something really interesting
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  happens when you clear that space,
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  you start feeling way more like yourself again
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  you become more present more grounded clearer and now you actually have room
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  to choose okay what do i want to bring in because this is not just about clearing
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  things out it's about creating space for something better so instead of focusing
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  on everything that you don't want shift your focus on how you actually want to feel moving forward.
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  Is it more calm, more focused, more confident, more consistent?
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  And even deeper than that, who are you becoming in this next season?
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  Do you ever stop yourself and ask this question?
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  Who are you becoming in this next season? Because it's not just about what you
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  achieve in life. It's about how you show up while you're doing it.
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  And that version of you, I'm telling you, is built on small moments.
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  I always bring that back to your attention in the way that you respond to pressure,
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  in the way that you talk to yourself, in the decisions that you make when no
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  one is watching, when it's not always on social media.
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  You know, you don't wake up one day and become that person. You practice to
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  become that person. And that starts with one small shift.
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  Not everything all at once. I always say don't overhaul your whole life.
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  Just one thing, one decision today that can move you forward instead of keeping you stuck.
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  That momentum doesn't come from thinking about it more. It comes from moving.
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  I cannot talk about this more.
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  Taking action is so important. Take action, even if it's messy,
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  even if it's not perfect, even if you're not fully ready yet.
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  But the more you do that, the less clutter will build up because you're not
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  avoiding anymore. You're not holding on to things.
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  You're moving through them. And that, my friends, is where freedom is.
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  So as you go through your day today, just notice what you're carrying and gently
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  ask yourself, is this helping me move forward? Or is this just taking space?
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  And if it's not helping you, well, you're allowed to put it down.
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  Not later, not next month, not someday, today.
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  And before you move on, sit with this for a second.
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  What is one thing that you're ready to release for real capital underlined for real this time.
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  Great question. And my last question for you is, and what would shift for you if you actually did?
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  So write these questions down and answer with honesty.
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  What is one thing that you're ready to release for real this time?
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  And what would shift for you if you actually did?
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  Thank you so much for being here today with me. I wish you the best and I'll
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  catch you in the next episode.