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Now Serving The Results from My Peace and Pain Test · Groove with Portia

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to grou Porsche, the podcast that uncovers the hidden
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  Speaker 1: treasures within grief. I'm your host, Porsche of the Producer,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm inviting you to join me on a transformative
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  Speaker 1: journey where we were exchange laughter, of course the best
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  Speaker 1: medicine of them all, reflect on cherished memories, Remember that
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  Speaker 1: time that the little boy grabbed my hand instead of
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  Speaker 1: his mother's at the amusement park yikes, And of course,
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  Speaker 1: discover gratitude while navigating one of life's hardest challenges lost.
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  Speaker 1: So get ready to grow with me, Porsche the Producer,
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  Speaker 1: let's dive in. Hello everybody, and welcome back to Grow
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  Speaker 1: with Porsche. I am your host, Porsche Booker, and it
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  Speaker 1: is an honor to be back with all of you today.
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  Speaker 1: I know that it's been a while since I've released
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  Speaker 1: out in September of twenty twenty three. Who and also,
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  Speaker 1: that show concluded in March of twenty twenty four. So
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  Speaker 1: the big question that many of you may have today
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  Speaker 1: is where's Porsche been Porscha has been on a little hiatus,
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  Speaker 1: and those of you who know my story about my
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  Speaker 1: grief journey, and you know how grief can be. Grief
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  Speaker 1: can take you through a multitude of storms, and some
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  Speaker 1: days you feel like yourself and other days you feel
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  Speaker 1: continue today, just to quick ask of all of you,
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  Speaker 1: So I have a quick story to share with each
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  Speaker 1: and every one of you today. How often do we
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  Speaker 1: encounter people who clearly are having a rough time in
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  Speaker 1: their day and we take the initiative to really inquire
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  Speaker 1: and give them that human connection. So the other day, y'all,
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  Speaker 1: I had my own personal check engine light come on,
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  Speaker 1: no pun intended, and I had to go to obviously
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  Speaker 1: the doctor to have myself examined. You know how that goes.
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  Speaker 1: Why get there and the nurse who I had, I'm
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  Speaker 1: just gonna call her Rihanna. For the moment, Nurse Rihanna
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  Speaker 1: clearly when she saw me, she called my name, I
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  Speaker 1: am meet. LE felt that energetic vibe of she didn't
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  Speaker 1: want to be there. There was something else going on.
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  Speaker 1: You guys know what I'm talking about. Where you encounter people.
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  Speaker 1: It's early in the morning, I mean seven, eight o'clock
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  Speaker 1: in the morning, right, How is it that somebody put
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  Speaker 1: mustard in your cheerios that early in the day. That
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  Speaker 1: was literally my thought, right, So she calls my name.
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  Speaker 1: I go back, and of course those of us who
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  Speaker 1: are women, you know, we often have to go through
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  Speaker 1: a special test what I like to call squeezing lemonade
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  Speaker 1: out of us. If you catch my drift. Obviously we're
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  Speaker 1: not drinking that kind of lemonade. But that's for a
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  Speaker 1: whole another day. And so obviously I had to go
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  Speaker 1: through that kind of test, you know what I'm talking about.
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  Speaker 1: And for those of you who know, the store is
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  Speaker 1: closed over here, Okay, the store is closed. So Rihanna
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  Speaker 1: takes my stuff and we go into the room, and
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  Speaker 1: I just felt called everybody to just ask her, because
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  Speaker 1: I'm being honest. I was in my films a little
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  Speaker 1: bit too, because I'm thinking, dag, who'll put ketchup in
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  Speaker 1: your cheers this morning? I'm probably one of the first
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  Speaker 1: patients that you see. And I know not everybody is
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  Speaker 1: an early riser like me. Those of you know me.
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  Speaker 1: I'm up at four and five o'clock every day. But
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  Speaker 1: I just took a moment to ask her. I said, Hey,
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  Speaker 1: what's going on? Are you not having a good week?
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  Speaker 1: And me taking that initiative to just ask her what
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  Speaker 1: was going on? She opened up to me, y'all. I
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  Speaker 1: mean she opened up like a rich man handing you
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  Speaker 1: a billion dollars out of his wallet type of thing.
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  Speaker 1: She shared with me that her son kept her up
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  Speaker 1: all night and she's in nursing school and she's working
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  Speaker 1: on papers and so she's juggling, right, She's juggling the
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  Speaker 1: mom life, work, being a student, you know, all the things.
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  Speaker 1: And she said that she had she didn't sleep, and
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  Speaker 1: I asked her, said, hey, is there anything I can do?
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  Speaker 1: Can I get you a cup of coffee? I don't
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  Speaker 1: know if I can offer you a hug? And I
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  Speaker 1: think everybody me taking that time to ask her was
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  Speaker 1: what she needed because we often don't realize how the
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  Speaker 1: strong ones. You know, they say check on your strong friends,
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  Speaker 1: because they're the ones who often don't say much or
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  Speaker 1: that often need support. I think she needed somebody to
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  Speaker 1: see her, somebody to value her in that moment, because
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  Speaker 1: we know how it is everybody when we go to hospitals.
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  Speaker 1: People are already upset to be there because obviously there's
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  Speaker 1: a problem that needs to be addressed. Well, I'm glad
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  Speaker 1: everybody that I took that time to inquire and be
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  Speaker 1: that human connection for her, because we ended up laughing
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  Speaker 1: and talking about shoes and going to the gym and
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  Speaker 1: just all the other random things of life. Well, of
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  Speaker 1: course I had to get a test done. I'm not
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  Speaker 1: gonna say what the kind of test is, but let's
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  Speaker 1: just say it's the Peace and Pain test. If you
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  Speaker 1: catch my drift of what that stands for those of
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  Speaker 1: us who know. And I'll be honest, y'all. I got
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  Speaker 1: very nervous during my tests the other day. And the
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  Speaker 1: thing that I'm always grateful for is in the mornings
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  Speaker 1: I often write, I'm grateful that the love that I
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  Speaker 1: dish out into the world, that it's returned to me.
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  Speaker 1: And lo and behold, everybody. The nurse Rihanna could see
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  Speaker 1: that I was having a hard time relaxing for this test.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, y'all, when I tell y'all, my forehead was
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  Speaker 1: bucketed and sweat like I was running from a cheetah,
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  Speaker 1: No pun intended, like literally, I my forehead was sweating,
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  Speaker 1: and they tried to get me to do some mindfulness
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  Speaker 1: activities to help me to relax down. Well, Nurse Rihanna
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  Speaker 1: said to me, Hey, how about I hold your hand?
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  Speaker 1: How about I hold your hand in this moment to
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  Speaker 1: give you something to focus on. Y'all again, the power
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  Speaker 1: of human connection. Who would have thought that if I
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  Speaker 1: didn't take that time to give Nurse Rihanna that moment
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  Speaker 1: to express herself, to be human, to connect with her
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  Speaker 1: in that way, my whole entire day would have been
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  Speaker 1: different because I needed support in that moment right, And
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  Speaker 1: the fact that she was open to give me the
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  Speaker 1: same level of support that I had given her earlier,
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  Speaker 1: that was just truly, I can't even describe it. I'm
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  Speaker 1: just so grateful, And so I want to just remind
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  Speaker 1: each and every one of us today where is our
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  Speaker 1: focus and are we being mindful of connecting with others
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  Speaker 1: and noticing the different avenues of how people are projecting. Right,
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  Speaker 1: I could have taken this super personal, because I know
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  Speaker 1: how I can be. Y'all, those of you who've met
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  Speaker 1: me in person, you know how I am with certain things.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm glad that in that moment I recognized that
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  Speaker 1: I could be the bigger person in this situation and
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  Speaker 1: I can meet this woman with love, and she met
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  Speaker 1: me with the same amount as well. And then, of course, y'all,
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  Speaker 1: after my test, right after I had to literally wipe
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  Speaker 1: my forehead with however many paper tiles. After sweating literally me,
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  Speaker 1: the Rihanna and the doctor, we ended up laughing about
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  Speaker 1: shoes and going to the gym and just all the things.
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  Speaker 1: So I just want to remind each and every one
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  Speaker 1: of us, each and every one of you today who's
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  Speaker 1: tuning in, remember that every day you get to choose.
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  Speaker 1: You get to choose how to show up, you get
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  Speaker 1: to choose how to pay it forward, and you get
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  Speaker 1: to choose what to be grateful for, because in my eyes,
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  Speaker 1: everybody having an attitude of gratitude means that nothing is
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  Speaker 1: truly lost. Everything in our life serves as an opportunity
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  Speaker 1: for us to learn, for us to grow and for
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  Speaker 1: us to connect with others. Thank you guys so much
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  Speaker 1: for tuning in to group port today. I'll see you
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  Speaker 1: guys next week. Take care,