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5 Min Pocket Pep Talk: Listen to This When You Feel Like a Fraud · The Nadia Chapman Show

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  Hey guys, it's Nadia. Welcome to 5-Minute Pocket Pep Talk.
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  Today, I want to take a deep breath with you because this one,
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  this one is for those moments you question yourself. You know, the ones.
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  When you're doing something absolutely amazing, something that you've worked
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  so hard for, and yet there's that little annoying whisper in your head that
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  says, Who the hell do you think you are?
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  Who am I to be doing this? Or what if people find out that I actually suck at
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  this and I'm not that good?
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  Not as good as they think I am.
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  Or someone else could be doing this better. You know that little voice.
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  Yes, that is imposter syndrome to its finest.
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  And it's quite brutal because it doesn't just attack your confidence,
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  it attacks your identity.
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  So let's get one thing straight from the beginning. You are not abnormal for
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  hearing that little whisper.
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  You're just human. You care. And you're stretching.
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  You're doing big things. And that feeling of doubt, it only shows up when you're
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  expanding into something new.
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  You never feel like an imposter when you're playing small, don't you?
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  You only feel it when you're leveling up.
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  So if you're feeling it right now, no matter what you're doing in your life,
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  actually, I want to tell you congratulations, because it means that you're in a growth territory.
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  Here's the truth. Imposter syndrome is not a sign that you're not good enough.
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  It's, again, your brain who doesn't understand, who hasn't caught up to your next level yet.
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  And your nervous system is still used to the old version of you,
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  the one who's playing safe, the one who stayed quiet, maybe,
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  the one who didn't believe that she could actually or he could actually be that person.
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  So your mind is kind of freaking out a little bit and it's saying,
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  whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, wait, who do you think you are?
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  But that voice isn't the truth.
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  That's your ego. Yes, your ego trying to keep you safe because your ego's job is comfort.
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  Your soul's job is to grow.
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  And growth feels kind of weird if you've done new things recently,
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  things that you're not used to.
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  Maybe you take risk or you've taken a leap.
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  It feels like stretching into shoes that are sometimes a little too big for you at first.
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  So let's talk about how to move past.
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  You don't wait to feel confident. You act your way into confidence.
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  So every time that you show up, even when you feel like an imposter,
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  you're literally rewinding your brain to say, this is who I am now.
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  Confidence is not going to build itself by thinking your way there.
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  It's built by doing, by stacking the evidence.
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  So stacking evidence that you're able, that you're capable, that you belong,
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  and that you can handle this.
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  You belong in the room you've worked your way into.
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  Oh, hell yeah. You belong at that table you built.
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  You belong in the conversation because you show up for it, right?
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  You didn't fake your way here. You worked your way here.
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  So next time that that little annoying imposter syndrome voice says,
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  oh, you're not ready, say, maybe not, but I'm willing.
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  Because willingness is stronger than fear. You don't need to know everything right away.
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  You don't need to be perfect. You just need to be present. And the rest,
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  the growth, the confident, the belief, it will catch up to you.
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  Let me remind you of something powerful.
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  Nobody who's truly confident feels confident 100% of the time.
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  Even the greatest, the ones that you look up to.
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  These people have moments where they're questioned themselves.
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  Differences, they don't let that feeling stop them. And neither should you.
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  Remember that you are enough to progress.
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  You're not behind, you're becoming. And that messy, wobbly middle,
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  that's where greatness is born, guys. So take a deep breath.
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  Drop your shoulders. You're exactly where you're supposed to be.
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  You're capable. You're growing. You are not an imposter. You're just evolving
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  faster than your comfort zone can keep up.
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  Keep showing up anyway. Keep taking the space. And let this be the day that
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  you truly stop apologizing for who you are becoming.
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  You're the real deal. And it's time that you kind of start living that way.
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  And it's time that you start believing it.