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My wife got rich and became EMBARASSED of me... so I'm filling for divorce! -r/BestofRedditorUpdates | Reddit Stories | EP3127 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Dakota.
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  Speaker 1: But before that, we have a quick two-minute break from
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  Speaker 1: the sponsors that keep the show alive. My wife got
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  Speaker 1: rich and became embarrassed of me, so I'm filing for divorce.
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  Speaker 3: Now you'll get rich, too.
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  Speaker 1: I know I probably won't get anything meaningful from Reddit,
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  Speaker 1: but at this stage of life, I don't have a
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  Speaker 1: single soul to talk to.
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  Speaker 3: That's sad.
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  Speaker 1: I met my wife when I was 15 in high school.
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  Speaker 1: She was 17. That latter part of my teenage years
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  Speaker 1: was probably the hardest of my life, since in half
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  Speaker 1: a year I lost my mother. I never knew my dad,
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  Speaker 1: so she was the only thing I could consider family.
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  Speaker 1: At that time, me and my wife were only friends,
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  Speaker 1: but she was there for me and grieved with me.
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  Speaker 1: I think I started developing feelings for her during that time.
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  Speaker 1: We started dating when I was 17, and we got
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  Speaker 1: married seven years later. For context, my wife was very frugal.
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  Speaker 1: and unmaterialistic. She never cared about clothes, makeup, brands, cars, etc.
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  Speaker 1: Always spending money on thrift shops or during sales on
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  Speaker 1: whatever she liked. I remember trying to impress her with
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  Speaker 1: my 370Z just for her to react with, what car
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  Speaker 1: is this, a Corolla? Which, it's not a Corolla.
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  Speaker 3: It's my brother, it's a Nissan.
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  Speaker 1: Corolla is a respectable vehicle.
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  Speaker 3: Obviously, your wife has not seen Fast and Furious Tokyo Drift.
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  Speaker 1: So, yeah, I think you get the type. By the way,
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  Speaker 1: this comes from user PassengerTraining913. And just to be clear,
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  Speaker 1: that doesn't really make me get the type just because
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  Speaker 1: she doesn't know what a 370Z is. And if you
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  Speaker 3: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 1: And we're going to read this story and have our thoughts.
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  Speaker 1: You get to listen to it and have yours in
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  Speaker 1: the comments. We're going to try our best, but we
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  Speaker 1: don't know everything. In fact, we don't know most stuff.
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  Speaker 1: Here we go. That's what I liked about her the most.
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  Speaker 1: And also, she was also the most caring person I
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  Speaker 1: ever knew. In our family, she's the successful one, always
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  Speaker 1: working in big corporations. Regarding myself, I always worked as
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  Speaker 1: a community first responder for my local hospital. The salary
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  Speaker 1: wasn't high, but I loved my job, helping people as
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  Speaker 1: I could. Fast forward two years ago, she received an
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  Speaker 1: offer from an important company for an executive position, offering four, yes,
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  Speaker 1: four times her salary. And let me tell you, her
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  Speaker 1: salary wasn't bad by any means. But we should have
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  Speaker 1: had to move to a different city. At first, I
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  Speaker 1: was doubtful since that would have meant losing my job
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  Speaker 1: and not being sure if I could have contributed financially
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  Speaker 1: to our family for an indefinite time period. But she
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  Speaker 1: said that she could have sustained the family effortlessly with
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  Speaker 1: this new job. And for that time, I could have
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  Speaker 1: looked after the house and groceries until I found a
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  Speaker 1: new job. Since she was so enthusiastic, I accept it.
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  Speaker 1: I was happy to support my wife's career. Well, the
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  Speaker 1: best way I can put it is that my wife
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  Speaker 1: underwent a crazy transformation. Some Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde
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  Speaker 1: type thing, if you know what I mean. She started
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  Speaker 1: caring more and more about luxury brands, jewels, cars, etc.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think you can quite imagine my disbelief seeing
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  Speaker 1: her coming back home with a Versace bag after seeing
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  Speaker 1: her for years wearing... $ 10 coats from our local thrift shop.
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  Speaker 1: She also started hanging out with her new female co-workers
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  Speaker 1: a lot. My wife isn't very extroverted or very social,
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  Speaker 1: so that was quite the shock, but I was very,
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  Speaker 1: very happy for her. I thought that she finally found
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  Speaker 1: her dimension after years of struggling. But that happiness started
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  Speaker 1: fading after she started coming home way later every day.
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  Speaker 1: And later and later. Until it was a miracle to
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  Speaker 1: be able to talk to her for 10 minutes during
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  Speaker 1: the day. I thought it was... Just her being very
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  Speaker 1: busy with work, since being an executive means lots of work.
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  Speaker 1: Until she started posting lots of photos of her with
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  Speaker 1: her co-workers drinking and shopping and all that stuff. The
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  Speaker 1: fun part is she never finds time to reply to
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  Speaker 1: my texts, but she always has a minute to post photos.
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  Speaker 1: And when she replies, she says that she's working. She
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  Speaker 1: also literally stopped saying things to me altogether. Have you
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  Speaker 1: ever experienced your wife or husband going to work With
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  Speaker 1: an Audi A3 and then coming back home with a
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  Speaker 1: Porsche Macan GTS? Well, I did, and let me tell you,
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  Speaker 1: it's no fun.
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  Speaker 3: Maybe for you. For them, probably a lot of fun.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, has there been any open conversation about this?
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  Speaker 3: She's too busy working.
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  Speaker 1: But you said she came home with the Porsche.
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  Speaker 4: What I'm getting a sense of, and it's a rut row,
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  Speaker 4: it's the Metal Gear Alert sound, is a Your wife
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  Speaker 4: really hasn't been single.
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  Speaker 3: And you guys, she's 26.
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  Speaker 1: Single with money.
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  Speaker 3: Single with money.
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  Speaker 4: And she's hanging out with a lot of probably single
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  Speaker 4: female coworkers who have money.
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  Speaker 3: She's gotten a taste of it. And I think she
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  Speaker 3: likes the taste.
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  Speaker 5: Uh-oh.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't see that ending well.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, especially that she brings a lot of money to
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  Speaker 4: the table.
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  Speaker 1: I confronted her on if it was a business-issued car,
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  Speaker 1: which it isn't. Then on why she spent so much
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  Speaker 1: money on a car when she didn't care not even
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  Speaker 1: a little about cars. Her passive-aggressive response was that it's
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  Speaker 1: her money and she's entitled to do as she pleases.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that wasn't the right question.
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  Speaker 1: Or have you experienced not seeing your wife or husband
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  Speaker 1: coming back home for a night and not replying to
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  Speaker 1: texts just to receive a call the following afternoon saying
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  Speaker 1: she forgot to tell me that she left for a
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  Speaker 1: business trip? Well, I hope you haven't. But the worst
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  Speaker 1: is when she invited me for lunch with her coworkers.
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  Speaker 1: I was very happy because that was the first time
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  Speaker 1: we were doing something together in months. And I thought
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  Speaker 1: that what I've experienced before was only a phase and
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  Speaker 1: that it was all ended. My wife left first because
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  Speaker 1: she had work to do, so I dressed up nicely
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  Speaker 1: and left two hours after to the scheduled restaurant. For context,
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  Speaker 1: I'd sold years before my car because I didn't need
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  Speaker 1: a sports car anymore, so my daily driver has become
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  Speaker 1: a very fugal Renault Clio.
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  Speaker 3: Very car-centric story here.
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  Speaker 1: Very... Where do they drive Renaults?
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  Speaker 3: France.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: Think of like a small Italian or French... Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: It's probably just a standard small car. Nothing fancy. Gets
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  Speaker 4: you from point A to point B.
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  Speaker 1: I like it. And since I don't need that much,
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  Speaker 1: I don't have reasons to upgrade to a pricier model
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  Speaker 1: or brand. Well, I get to the restaurant, park my
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  Speaker 1: car in front of it. I get inside just to
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  Speaker 1: see my wife staring at me in horror. She gets
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  Speaker 1: up from the table and takes me outside of the restaurant,
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  Speaker 1: then proceeds to literally insult me for parking my Clio
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  Speaker 1: in front of the restaurant and in front of her table,
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  Speaker 1: saying that I embarrassed her and that I should have
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  Speaker 1: parked it somewhere hidden.
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  Speaker 3: Ooh.
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  Speaker 1: Well, if it's so disgusting, I should just go.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's insane. Okay.
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  Speaker 4: One, you didn't tell me where to park, so I
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  Speaker 4: found a nice spot right up front. Are we upset
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  Speaker 4: about this?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, Peter, embarrassing me.
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  Speaker 3: How dare you drive that trash mobile here to this
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  Speaker 3: restaurant to meet my friends? I'm embarrassed.
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  Speaker 1: I think I might break up literally in that instant.
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  Speaker 1: I think it might be like a, oh, yeah, I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to tell you right now, sweetie. Money doesn't buy class.
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  Speaker 1: This is done. We're done.
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  Speaker 3: Yikes.
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  Speaker 4: You get her with the kingpin. It's not about the money, Spider-Man.
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  Speaker 1: Not to mention like the power play of like doing
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  Speaker 1: this while her friends are inside.
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  Speaker 5: Oh, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So it's like she actually.
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  Speaker 3: This is your first impression.
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  Speaker 1: She made it more awkward and more embarrassing by making
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  Speaker 1: a huge thing out of it. in front of all
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  Speaker 1: her friends. So she kind of fulfilled her own prophecy there.
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  Speaker 1: Either that or it was like a power play to like,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, but regardless, it's like, it's so dumb
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  Speaker 1: that it blows straight through to like, oh, we should
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  Speaker 1: just stop. We should stop this.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, especially coming from a person who was very frugal,
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  Speaker 3: didn't care about any materialistic things. That's not your wife anymore,
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  Speaker 3: my guy.
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  Speaker 1: I was at a complete loss for words. I asked
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  Speaker 1: her why, and she said that it was a cheap,
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  Speaker 1: non-luxury car, not representative of her lifestyle. She then gets
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  Speaker 1: back inside the restaurant, warning me not to embarrass her
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  Speaker 1: like this again. I attended the rest of the lunch
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  Speaker 1: in shock. That day I realized that that girl I
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  Speaker 1: had at my side was not my wife. It wasn't
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  Speaker 1: the girl I married anymore. My wife is now out
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  Speaker 1: of the house, celebrating a great year for the company,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm here at home writing this with the divorce
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  Speaker 1: papers in front of me. I don't think I can
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  Speaker 1: handle this situation anymore. I tried lots and lots of
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  Speaker 1: times to talk to her, to tell her how I feel,
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  Speaker 1: to tell her that she changed, that she's not the
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  Speaker 1: same woman I knew. but she just doesn't listen. She
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  Speaker 1: always says that she has no time and she needs
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  Speaker 1: to work, or she tries to minimize the situation, saying
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  Speaker 1: that it's not true and that she never changed. She
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  Speaker 1: wanted kids, now she doesn't want them anymore, saying that
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  Speaker 1: they would rob her time from her career.
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  Speaker 4: Ooh, yeah, I'm not gonna lie. Good thing you guys
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  Speaker 4: don't have kids because she wouldn't be a mother.
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  Speaker 3: She's not a partner.
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  Speaker 1: She wanted to travel, but now she doesn't want to
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  Speaker 1: do it for the same reason. Is she really the
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  Speaker 1: same woman I married?
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  Speaker 4: No.
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  Speaker 1: Agreed. But still, I can't bring myself to talk about
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  Speaker 1: divorce with her. Most likely because I hope that somewhere
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  Speaker 1: hidden inside of her, there's still the woman I loved
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  Speaker 1: and still love. Even if this doesn't seem like the case. Well,
• 9:32
  Speaker 1: we've got some comments. But yeah, it sounds like you're
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  Speaker 1: at the end of that situation.
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  Speaker 4: She's a different person now.
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  Speaker 1: And.
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  Speaker 4: It's a phrase, money talks, and the money's talking to her,
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  Speaker 4: and it's talking to you in both different ways. To her,
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  Speaker 4: it's what she wants. She wants more money. She wants
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  Speaker 4: a career.
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  Speaker 3: That's her focus.
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  Speaker 4: And the money talking to you is you're not in
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  Speaker 4: that picture for her.
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  Speaker 1: Cassowary32 says... you talked to a therapist? You need to
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  Speaker 1: start building a life you want. And in time, it
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  Speaker 1: will be clear if staying married to her adds to
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  Speaker 1: your life. Are you working? Do you have your own
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  Speaker 1: circle of friends? Are there any hobbies you're interested in?
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  Speaker 1: You've mentioned your frugality, but not anything else that brought
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  Speaker 1: joy into your lives. Did you enjoy cooking or traveling
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  Speaker 1: or seeing movies, shows, charity work? Do you still want kids?
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  Speaker 1: Opie says, I haven't talked to a therapist yet, but
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  Speaker 1: I'm planning to do so. I'm still working as a
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  Speaker 1: community first responder. However, the salary is way lower compared
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  Speaker 1: to what I was earning in my hometown. I lost
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  Speaker 1: most of my friends after I moved in with my wife.
• 10:40
  Speaker 1: I'm still in touch with a couple of them, but
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  Speaker 1: I've been hearing from them a lot less in those
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  Speaker 1: past few months. In this new city, I never had
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  Speaker 1: the opportunity to know new people, since I've been very
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  Speaker 1: busy with work and housework. Regarding hobbies, well, I like
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  Speaker 1: cars and working on them. I love traveling, and yes,
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  Speaker 1: I do charity when I have the opportunity. But since
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  Speaker 1: you don't have fixed hours in my job, it's very
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  Speaker 1: hard to make plans. I would like to have kids,
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  Speaker 1: and it was something me and my wife were looking
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  Speaker 1: forward to in the past before all this happened. Same
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  Speaker 1: commenter replies, if she's really making so much more money,
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  Speaker 1: can't you hire a cleaner or chef to give you
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  Speaker 1: more time? Are your finances completely separated? Have you talked
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  Speaker 1: about budgets and saving for the future? What's the point
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  Speaker 1: of having a partnership if only one person is benefiting
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  Speaker 1: from it? You either need to make a concerted effort
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  Speaker 1: to bloom where you are, or you need to return
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  Speaker 1: to your previous city. This isolation isn't good for you.
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  Speaker 1: OP says, well, I don't need a chef or a
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  Speaker 1: cleaner since most of the time it's just me and
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  Speaker 1: the dog at home. My wife is either working out
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  Speaker 1: with coworkers or in business trips most of the time,
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  Speaker 1: so I manage the housework quite effectively. Our finances are separated,
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  Speaker 1: but we have a joint bank account for the house, groceries,
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  Speaker 1: and everything that concerns daily necessities. We talked in the
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  Speaker 1: past about savings since she wanted to travel around the
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  Speaker 1: world whenever we had money and the chance, but she
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  Speaker 1: changed her mind about it and we never spoke about
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  Speaker 1: it again. If worse comes to worse, getting back to
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  Speaker 1: my hometown is the plan. I'm trying to get accustomed here,
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  Speaker 1: but it doesn't feel like it's my place. Also, work
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  Speaker 1: makes it harder. More from OP. OP says, It's been
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  Speaker 1: a long time since we did something affectionate together, half
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  Speaker 1: a year or more. I try to make plans with her,
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  Speaker 1: but she's always busy with work or with her coworkers.
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  Speaker 1: I don't check her socials very often since I don't
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  Speaker 1: like social media, but I remember seeing photos and stories
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  Speaker 1: of her with a bunch of dudes and women... who
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  Speaker 1: she said to be her co-workers. I met three of
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  Speaker 1: them in that lunch. Thank you for your concern. And
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  Speaker 1: there is an update.
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  Speaker 4: I want to know first, I want to know how
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  Speaker 4: that lunch went with her co-workers. Because you said that's
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  Speaker 4: the first time you guys have done anything in a
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  Speaker 4: long time. What was their impression of them? And then
• 12:50
  Speaker 4: what was their impression of you?
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  Speaker 1: I think OP just said that they were like shocked
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  Speaker 1: after that happened.
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  Speaker 3: I know OP was shocked.
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  Speaker 1: They just sat there.
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  Speaker 4: Well, OP said he was shocked at his like how
• 13:01
  Speaker 4: his wife treated him. But like, did the friends like, oh,
• 13:04
  Speaker 4: my gosh, she brings you up all the time. Or
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  Speaker 4: like she talks about you forever.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sure he sat there uncomfortably in relative silence.
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  Speaker 4: OP, you've known your wife for a long time. You've
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  Speaker 4: been together for a while. You went through your 20s,
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  Speaker 4: your late teens together. This girl, she's a boss lady.
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  Speaker 1: And I hate to say it, but she's probably cheating
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  Speaker 1: on you.
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  Speaker 3: If she's not cheating on you, she's definitely not with you.
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  Speaker 1: She's displaying all of the hallmark signs, but she might
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  Speaker 1: not be.
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  Speaker 3: And everyone says, oh, time is money, time is money.
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  Speaker 3: To have even just a simple conversation with your partner
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  Speaker 3: and you don't have time for that, it just goes
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  Speaker 3: to show she's not willing to make the time for that. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Which is already just a truth bomb in your face.
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  Speaker 1: Well, there is an update. After that business party, my
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  Speaker 1: wife didn't come back home. I tried contacting her since
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  Speaker 1: I was very worried, but she didn't pick up the phone,
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  Speaker 1: not even once. She came back home in the morning
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  Speaker 1: exactly when I was about to leave for her workplace
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  Speaker 1: to ask about her. I asked her what happened, and
• 14:05
  Speaker 1: she said she stayed at this female co-worker's house since
• 14:09
  Speaker 1: she drank a lot and she was in no condition
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  Speaker 1: to drive. Fair enough. I told her that she could
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  Speaker 1: have sent a text to warn me and that I
• 14:16
  Speaker 1: would have gone to get her. Her response was, with what?
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  Speaker 1: The Cleo?
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  Speaker 4: That's crazy. Again, doesn't care about you anymore. It's all
• 14:25
  Speaker 4: about image. It's all about covering face. And at this point,
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  Speaker 4: you know what? We break up.
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  Speaker 3: It's over. It's divorce.
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  Speaker 1: I stood there in silence. And she later said that
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  Speaker 1: she forgot about warning me. I asked how she was
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  Speaker 1: feeling only to be answered in monosyllables. We minded our
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  Speaker 1: own business for a while. Then she comes to me
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  Speaker 1: and she says she has something to discuss. I tell
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  Speaker 1: her that I have something to discuss with her too.
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  Speaker 1: And well, would you look at that? She asked for divorce.
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't expecting that at all. I asked her why.
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  Speaker 1: And her reply was that after talking to her friends,
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  Speaker 1: she understood that I wasn't fit to be her husband.
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  Speaker 1: that we have different values and different lifestyles, and that
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  Speaker 1: she deserves a man of a similar worth compared to her.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, she's not blatantly saying it, but she has been...
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  Speaker 3: If not emotionally or physically cheating on you, she's at
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  Speaker 3: least moved on from you.
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  Speaker 1: Just what a... Such a classic, like, I guarantee you
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  Speaker 1: this woman's not very bright because it is the classic
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  Speaker 1: dumbass move to equate the amount of money that you
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  Speaker 1: make with your worth as a person.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Just the most, like, shallow, vapid belief a person can
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  Speaker 1: have is that my income is a direct reflection of
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: how valuable I am as an individual.
• 15:47
  Speaker 2: Yep.
• 15:47
  Speaker 3: And you know what? I hate to say it, O.P.,
• 15:50
  Speaker 3: I mean, we have said it. We've said it. Your wife,
• 15:52
  Speaker 3: the one that you married long gone.
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: I hate to break it to you, but she was
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: probably like this forever. If she had had money growing up,
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: this would have been who she was. She just never did.
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: And so she was just in that weird little like,
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: you know, egg version of herself where she hadn't hatched
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: and become this money monster.
• 16:12
  Speaker 3: I would say I guarantee.
• 16:14
  Speaker 4: You it was like it wasn't like this or she
• 16:16
  Speaker 4: would never been like this. I think it's the single friends,
• 16:19
  Speaker 4: the female co-workers, who are whispering sweet nothings to her.
• 16:24
  Speaker 4: And she's spending 24-7 with them, spending time with her
• 16:27
  Speaker 4: friends 24-7 over you. Yeah, she got that taste of
• 16:32
  Speaker 4: the lifestyle. She liked the taste of it. And she
• 16:35
  Speaker 4: stuck with it.
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 16:36
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: There's also the being together since what?
• 16:39
  Speaker 3: 17.
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: She was 19 and you were 17. 20.
• 16:42
  Speaker 3: You're 20. It's whatever.
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: Just for her to go about it this way.
• 16:46
  Speaker 3: I don't know. She's not your wife. She's shallow.
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah. She's trash, bro.
• 16:51
  Speaker 3: You can have all the money in the world.
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: You'll do better.
• 16:53
  Speaker 3: But she's a shallow person. I'm the trash man.
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: She eats garbage. She was just waiting for the right
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: time to bring it up. And after the party, she
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: made up her mind. I'm going to be completely honest,
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: that was a low blow. But I just smiled at her.
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: I tried talking to her, proposing to separate for a
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: while to see how things could go. I even proposed
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: couples therapy like someone suggested, but she was adamant on divorce.
• 17:16
  Speaker 4: So yeah, OP. There's no point to... You've asked, you tried.
• 17:21
  Speaker 4: She never gave... Yeah, look.
• 17:22
  Speaker 3: Where you guys are at.
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just not happening. So I calmly told her
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: everything I needed to say. From the fact that I
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: was thinking about divorce too, to the fact that I
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: felt like she changed, concluding saying that I'm sure she
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: will find an awesome man since I know her worth,
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: having been her husband for more than nine years, but
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: that I know what I'm worth too. We decided to
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: separate for the moment, and we will arrange the divorce
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: later on, since she has no time now. But we
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: have a verbal agreement on some things. I decided to
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: go back to my hometown to relax, and to decide
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: what's next for me. I should be able to regain
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: my previous position in the hospital, but it's wait and see. Also,
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: one of my friends there offered to host me until
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: I found housing. I'm really grateful for him. But while
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: I understand that my wife couldn't care less about me
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: when the lengthiest discussion we had concerned about who was
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: taking the dog context, we got him a month after moving.
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: since she always wanted one and to keep me some company,
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: but in two years, she probably spent the equivalent of
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: two hours with him. I always took care of him, and, well,
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: he's been a more than loyal companion in those two years. So,
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: she literally made a fuss about the fact that I
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: couldn't take the dog with me for maybe half an
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: hour or so. I told her that I didn't care
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: at all what she said. I was taking him with me,
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: since she doesn't have time to care for him, and
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: it was very strange for her to say those things
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: when she didn't care, not even a bit. about him
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: for two years. So I packed the necessities, and before leaving,
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: I asked her if she was cheating on me, and
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: she denied it. And I will trust her on that.
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: Good job, brother. Might as well just let that lay
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: where it does. Who cares?
• 19:04
  Speaker 3: Yeah, at this point, it's over anyway.
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: I read a lot of people in the previous post
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: talking about hiring a PI, but I'm not going to
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: do that. I trust what she said, and even if
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: it wasn't the truth, I honestly don't want to hear
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: anything about it. It would only make me feel worse.
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: I feel calm... But inside, I feel like I've lost
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: an important piece of myself. The things she said didn't
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: hurt me initially. However, the more I think about them,
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: the more heartbroken I feel. But I'm trying to focus
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: on nicer thoughts. Like meeting one of my old friends
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: that I haven't seen in a long time. Happy divorce,
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: I guess?
• 19:37
  Speaker 3: Oh, OP.
• 19:38
  Speaker 4: I mean, it should have been sooner. I mean, she
• 19:41
  Speaker 4: dragged you for a long time. At least with the
• 19:45
  Speaker 4: new job. She dragged you on for a while.
• 19:47
  Speaker 3: Your relationship? Is at a standstill, and that's not fair.
• 19:50
  Speaker 3: But that's a relationship.
• 19:52
  Speaker 4: It's two people. You can put all the effort you
• 19:54
  Speaker 4: want into it. If they're not going to put a
• 19:56
  Speaker 4: single ounce, hate to break it to you.
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: That's the truth.
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: Hate to break you. Break to hate you.
• 20:01
  Speaker 4: All you can do right now, OP, is just live
• 20:03
  Speaker 4: your life. It's going to be hard for a little bit,
• 20:06
  Speaker 4: but I think you'll be all right. You're still young.
• 20:08
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: We're older than you.
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 20:11
  Speaker 3: Oh.
• 20:11
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: I'm still trying to process everything. It all happened so fast.
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: Though I must say that seeing my dog so happy
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: inside the Cleo brightened up my mood a lot.
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: Aw.
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: He loves car rides.
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: Clear.
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: Even if things went down this road, I still wish
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: her all the best. I can never forget what she
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: did back then for me and in general in those
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: 16 years we spent together as a couple. I may
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: do another update in the future about how things went,
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: but for now, goodbye. I will take some time to
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: focus on myself and on the upcoming divorce. Thanks to everyone.
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: Take care. And that is the end of that story.
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: Oh, OP. Hard. Rough.
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: Money's corrupting, man. Money corrupts. It gets its little tendrils
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: in you and it goes.
• 20:58
  Speaker 4: You tried.
• 20:59
  Speaker 3: You can try and try again, but... That's, uh... At
• 21:04
  Speaker 3: least you have the dog. You have yourself. I think
• 21:07
  Speaker 3: you'll be okay.
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 21:09
  Speaker 3: Start building cars. You're a car guy.
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: You better be okay or I'm going to come find you.
• 21:14
  Speaker 3: Start drifting.
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: But that is the end of that story.
• 21:17
  Speaker 4: Get into underground street races. My co-worker's wife exposed my
• 21:21
  Speaker 4: wife's affair, so I called a lawyer.
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: Everybody's involved in your wife's affair.
• 21:26
  Speaker 5: So.
• 21:27
  Speaker 4: The co-worker's wife found out and told me about it,
• 21:30
  Speaker 4: which led me to checking our phone records to find
• 21:32
  Speaker 4: over 4,000 texts between the two in two weeks.
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: That's a lot of texts.
• 21:39
  Speaker 3: Do you want to do some simple math?
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: That's too many texts. Could you do.
• 21:44
  Speaker 3: I want you to do the math on how many
• 21:46
  Speaker 3: texts per day at least.
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: 4,000 divided by 10, 400. Okay.
• 21:49
  Speaker 3: So.
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: You divide it by a little more. It's like somewhere
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: between 300 and 400 texts every day.
• 21:56
  Speaker 4: All right, sly guy over there. Opie continues saying, I
• 21:59
  Speaker 4: am so done with this crap, but I need help. Me,
• 22:03
  Speaker 4: 28 male, and my wife, 29 female, are both at work.
• 22:07
  Speaker 4: Do I text her now that she needs to pack
• 22:09
  Speaker 4: a bag and be out of the house tonight? We
• 22:11
  Speaker 4: don't have any friends or family close that she can
• 22:13
  Speaker 4: stay at. We are short on money, but at least
• 22:16
  Speaker 4: she just got our tax refund. So she can afford
• 22:19
  Speaker 4: a hotel or something. We have a 15-month-old daughter. Oh no.
• 22:23
  Speaker 4: I do not know if she's going to want to
• 22:25
  Speaker 4: take her with her or not. Or if she will
• 22:28
  Speaker 4: fight me on forcing her out or not. Or what
• 22:30
  Speaker 4: to do about anything. Any advice would be appreciated. By
• 22:34
  Speaker 4: the way, this comes from user 203040. And if you
• 22:37
  Speaker 4: want to submit your own stories, go to the r
• 22:39
  Speaker 4: slash OKStoryTime subreddit.
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: I'm Keon.
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota.
• 22:42
  Speaker 4: And we're here to give good advice goofily. Dakota and
• 22:45
  Speaker 4: I are just goofballs. We don't know everything. We only
• 22:47
  Speaker 4: know what we do. So let us know what you
• 22:48
  Speaker 4: do in the comments down below. Pretty, pretty, please.
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: Tell your 15-month-old about this.
• 22:54
  Speaker 3: Ask them what they think.
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: Let them decide. Yes.
• 22:57
  Speaker 3: As OP says, edit. Okay, there's a little edit here.
• 23:01
  Speaker 3: I calm down.
• 23:02
  Speaker 4: I will confront her tonight, but I do not see
• 23:04
  Speaker 4: a scenario where this works out.
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: And we have an update.
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think it's gonna work out.
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: 4,000 texts in two weeks.
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: That's a lot of texts.
• 23:15
  Speaker 3: Genuinely, that's an insane amount.
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: That's a lot of texts.
• 23:18
  Speaker 3: But we have an update.
• 23:19
  Speaker 4: I confronted her. She says, they're just friends. I didn't
• 23:23
  Speaker 4: bring up that I know how much she texts together.
• 23:26
  Speaker 4: I asked to see her phone and she says, no.
• 23:29
  Speaker 4: I'm talking to a lawyer tomorrow. Thanks for the help.
• 23:32
  Speaker 4: And we have another edit. I understand my original post
• 23:35
  Speaker 4: was a bit off an initial reaction to what I
• 23:37
  Speaker 4: was feeling. There are a lot of other factors at
• 23:40
  Speaker 4: play when it comes to this decision. So it isn't
• 23:42
  Speaker 4: necessarily a... crazy reaction to a bunch of texts to
• 23:47
  Speaker 4: a coworker.
• 23:48
  Speaker 3: Update two.
• 23:48
  Speaker 4: So I talked with the phone company and I do
• 23:50
  Speaker 4: need a subpoena to receive the message logs. I tried
• 23:53
  Speaker 4: to talk to her this morning to see if there
• 23:54
  Speaker 4: is any kind of fight against this, but there isn't.
• 23:58
  Speaker 4: She wants us to just split so she can be alone. Oh,
• 24:02
  Speaker 4: I'm great with that. Except I'm not going on this
• 24:04
  Speaker 4: separation thing if she's just going to have another relationship
• 24:07
  Speaker 4: with somebody else. They've texted approximately 100 times just this morning.
• 24:13
  Speaker 4: But it is too busy at work to talk to me?
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: Truly, what are they saying?
• 24:18
  Speaker 3: I need to know what they're talking about. Are they
• 24:20
  Speaker 3: doing like the alphabet game? A, B, C, D, E, F, G.
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: Like truly, they are completely obsessed with each other.
• 24:29
  Speaker 3: They are talking more than high school girls text each other. Truly.
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: What I can't understand is texting somebody like that If
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: you know that they're married to somebody with a 15
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: month old at home, like what? Like, how could you
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: then be like, yeah, I'm down to facilitate you betraying
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: your family and cheating on your partner and having this
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: thing together?
• 24:55
  Speaker 3: We I mean, postpartum.
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: Sure.
• 24:57
  Speaker 4: 15 months. But like, this is crazy. We have an
• 25:02
  Speaker 4: update three one month later. She's looking for an apartment
• 25:05
  Speaker 4: to move out and I will stay at the house.
• 25:07
  Speaker 4: My buddy is moving in early May, so I will
• 25:10
  Speaker 4: be able to afford mortgage utilities while we figure out
• 25:12
  Speaker 4: splitting finances. I forget all what I said in the
• 25:15
  Speaker 4: original post, but a few weeks ago, she finally confessed
• 25:18
  Speaker 4: that she will be pursuing a relationship.
• 25:20
  Speaker 3: With the guy as soon as we split.
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: Oh.
• 25:23
  Speaker 4: He apparently has already left his wife and kids and
• 25:25
  Speaker 4: moved into a new apartment. I know that this is
• 25:28
  Speaker 4: the best thing for both of us, as well as
• 25:30
  Speaker 4: our baby girl. I know what it is like to
• 25:32
  Speaker 4: grow up in a house with parents that don't love
• 25:34
  Speaker 4: each other, I do not want that for her. I
• 25:37
  Speaker 4: still need to pursue therapy to help me through this.
• 25:39
  Speaker 4: I have a lot of problems, and I am really
• 25:41
  Speaker 4: good at keeping them inside. My friend is actually concerned
• 25:43
  Speaker 4: on how calm I am being throughout all of this.
• 25:46
  Speaker 4: I just don't see a point to getting overly upset.
• 25:48
  Speaker 4: It's for the best. I don't know what other updates
• 25:51
  Speaker 4: there may be in the future. Thank you to those
• 25:53
  Speaker 4: who reached out asking how I have been. Guess what?
• 25:55
  Speaker 3: We have an update for.
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: Oh boy!
• 25:58
  Speaker 3: Ugh, OP. I want to hug you. Just a nice
• 26:02
  Speaker 3: long hug.
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: Just a big, long squeeze. Update four.
• 26:06
  Speaker 4: Another month later. So, she moved into her new apartment
• 26:09
  Speaker 4: a few weeks ago. I don't talk much with her.
• 26:12
  Speaker 4: Just to figure out when we hand off our daughter.
• 26:14
  Speaker 4: I don't know the exact living arrangements between her and
• 26:17
  Speaker 4: the other guy, nor do I want to know. The
• 26:19
  Speaker 4: thought of it is surreal to me. My buddy moved
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: in with me that next weekend. It's been a good
• 26:24
  Speaker 4: time having him here. It makes it so I can
• 26:26
  Speaker 4: keep the house and we are talking about starting our
• 26:28
  Speaker 4: own company. He asks all the time about how I'm doing,
• 26:30
  Speaker 4: but I just say I'm okay or just fine. But
• 26:33
  Speaker 4: we went out to a couple bars with friends and
• 26:35
  Speaker 4: it was really a good time. Definitely what I needed
• 26:37
  Speaker 4: and I look forward to the summer. I told my
• 26:39
  Speaker 4: boss about the situation and took a couple days off.
• 26:42
  Speaker 4: My buddy jokes that it's because I get too... Too wasted.
• 26:45
  Speaker 4: But really, it's just been difficult to get out of bed.
• 26:48
  Speaker 4: This week has been a little bit easier, and next
• 26:50
  Speaker 4: week will even be easier.
• 26:51
  Speaker 3: Hopefully.
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: My mom and.
• 26:53
  Speaker 4: Brother know, but I haven't told my dad yet or
• 26:55
  Speaker 4: anyone else in my family. I plan to take my
• 26:57
  Speaker 4: daughter this weekend to them to let them know. And
• 27:00
  Speaker 4: I don't look forward to it. My wife has a
• 27:02
  Speaker 4: new job and is signing up for health insurance, but
• 27:04
  Speaker 4: her company doesn't give insurance to a spouse if you
• 27:07
  Speaker 4: are separated. So I will have to figure out what
• 27:10
  Speaker 4: to do for insurance until next January. when I can
• 27:12
  Speaker 4: get back on my company's insurance. And I also need
• 27:16
  Speaker 4: to figure out my finances. A little bit left to
• 27:19
  Speaker 4: this story. I just like how these updates are just
• 27:21
  Speaker 4: like straight to the point.
• 27:23
  Speaker 3: Just this is life. This is it.
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: This is that.
• 27:25
  Speaker 3: This is where she's at. This is where I am. Okay.
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: I hope your daughter is okay.
• 27:30
  Speaker 3: I hope your.
• 27:30
  Speaker 4: Family can support you. It does seem like, you know,
• 27:34
  Speaker 4: it's okay to ask for help. You have your friend
• 27:36
  Speaker 4: helping you, but in your mom... knows, some of your
• 27:39
  Speaker 4: family knows, but I think it's okay to ask for help.
• 27:43
  Speaker 4: This is a tough time for you. Therapy, for sure,
• 27:46
  Speaker 4: will help, and I think you're going about this in
• 27:49
  Speaker 4: the right way and with your head up, and you're
• 27:51
  Speaker 4: getting accustomed to this new life. It sucks, but you're
• 27:55
  Speaker 4: doing it the right way. There's a little bit left here.
• 27:57
  Speaker 4: Let's go ahead and finish up the story. Opie says,
• 27:59
  Speaker 4: I need to scrap the budget I made for the
• 28:01
  Speaker 4: two of us and create one just for me. And
• 28:04
  Speaker 4: factor in my buddy's rent as now, because I am
• 28:06
  Speaker 4: a landlord. I have been drinking a lot, And I
• 28:09
  Speaker 4: don't get a lot of sleep. And I've had an
• 28:11
  Speaker 4: abnormal amount of nightmares. That's because you've been drinking a
• 28:14
  Speaker 4: lot and not getting enough sleep. That sounds like a
• 28:17
  Speaker 4: good diagnosis to me. That sounds like a math problem
• 28:21
  Speaker 4: that makes sense. I've also eaten like complete crap. I
• 28:25
  Speaker 4: can change these things. I just don't want to right now.
• 28:27
  Speaker 4: The only way to successfully move on from this is
• 28:29
  Speaker 4: to live a happy and healthy life. I will get
• 28:32
  Speaker 4: there in time. I rarely ever express my emotions or
• 28:35
  Speaker 4: talk about what's going on with me. So thanks for
• 28:37
  Speaker 4: the platform.
• 28:38
  Speaker 3: There's an edit.
• 28:39
  Speaker 4: I spoke with HR, and her switching jobs counts as
• 28:41
  Speaker 4: a drop in coverage and qualifies me to get back
• 28:44
  Speaker 4: onto my employer's insurance. That's one headache bypassed.
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: Nice. Well, you gotta just go one headache at a time.
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: Yeah, no need to rush. This is a step-by-step situation, OP,
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: but do what's best for you. You know what's best for.
• 28:58
  Speaker 4: You, and I think you're just going through the motions,
• 29:00
  Speaker 4: and you'll get out of there, hopefully sooner than later,
• 29:04
  Speaker 4: and you'll be okay. That is the end of that story,
• 29:06
  Speaker 4: and we've got another one coming right up.
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite good time boy host here.
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: We're going to get back to the stories, but here's
• 29:13
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• 29:17
  Speaker 1: his boss was just like a sister, but their texts
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: are something else.
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: It's a brother.
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: My husband, 42 male, quit his job recently because he
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: was unhappy with the company. He would always complain about
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: the long hours and frequently complained about his supervisor. According
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: to him, she was very demanding, but they eventually became friends. I,
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: 35 female, was sending myself pictures.
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: Hmm.
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: Cue the Journey song. Hmm. He asks her, what do
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: you want in the end? She says she wants a
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: good friend. He asks, but you still love me? Her
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: reply was, no, I love you like a friend, but
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: nothing more than that. Then his last message to her was,
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: I would try to see you as a friend again then.
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: Oh. Oh.
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: Oh, so it's all there.
• 30:20
  Speaker 3: He quit because he got friendzoned.
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Pico La Rose. And
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: if you want to submit your own stories, go to
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: the r slash OK Storytime subreddit. I'm Dakota.
• 30:31
  Speaker 3: I'm Keon.
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: We're going to read this here story. We're going to
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: give some advice, goofily, maybe. I don't know. We don't
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: have all the answers to everything.
• 30:38
  Speaker 4: So.
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: Let us know what you would do in the comments
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: because we're going to tell you just what we would do. Maybe.
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: And Opie says, probably not. At this point, a lot
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: of anxious thoughts are running through my head, but I'm
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: trying to see this from a point where it's not
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: what it appears to be. I need advice on where
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: to go from here. How should I talk to him
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: about this? And there's an update.
• 30:57
  Speaker 4: Ooh, you talk to him. You just go, do you
• 31:00
  Speaker 4: love me like a partner or do you love me
• 31:01
  Speaker 4: like a friend?
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: Babe, are you in love with your wife or your
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: work wife? You can only have one. Update. So I
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: did further digging through his phone. This coworker was his
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: supervisor and she's married. They did quite a lot of
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: texting and he barely mentioned having a wife until things
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: went south. Based on their text, they ate lunch every
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: day together. Apparently, she developed feelings for him, but felt guilty.
• 31:25
  Speaker 3: I'm sorry, was he not wearing a ring?
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: I guess not. He said he saw her as a sister,
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: but would be in a relationship with her if she
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: wasn't married.
• 31:33
  Speaker 6: Weird.
• 31:34
  Speaker 3: That's a weird, weird statement.
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: That is the weirdest, the weirdest possible combo you could
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: have laid out there, brother.
• 31:40
  Speaker 3: That is not a wombo combo. That is a weird combo.
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: I see you as a sister and I love you,
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: but if I wasn't in a relationship, I would be
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: dating you.
• 31:48
  Speaker 3: I would marry you as a sister.
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: What? He was happy that she needed him. He mentioned
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: hating his job, but staying for her, a friend he
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: loved and really liked. He said he knows she will
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: never love him as much as her husband. She wanted
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: to get over her feelings by creating distance and asked
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: him to stop hugging her so much. But he guilt
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: tripped her into thinking she was being dramatic.
• 32:07
  Speaker 3: Yo, your husband's weird.
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: Yo, your husband's a real piece of work, dude.
• 32:12
  Speaker 3: Your husband's weird.
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: He said he worked too hard for their friendship and
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: didn't want her to leave his life. She was definitely
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: obsessive with the texts when he didn't reply to her.
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: This was usually when he and I were out doing things.
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: She did this repeatedly, but he always forgave her. Eventually,
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: she said she wanted distance no matter what he thought
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: and blocked him. Two days after that text, she unblocked
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: him and asked why he was talking in the work
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: chat when he never does. He ignored her. I confronted
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: him about this and he said he was afraid of
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: her and didn't want to worry me.
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I'm afraid of her.
• 32:48
  Speaker 3: I'm afraid of my sister that I want to marry. Yeah.
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: It's just that I don't buy it. No one should
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: buy that. Especially with the whole, like, she's like, stop
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: hugging me so much. I want to create distance so
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: I don't have these feelings. He's like, shut up. You're crazy.
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: I love you, bestie. He said he really liked his
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: department and was afraid she would blow up and remove
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: him if she found out he was married. After she
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: unblocked him and questioned why he was talking in work chat,
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: he went to management with her obsessive, angry texts and
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: ended up in another department that he hated. That's why
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: he quit. The conversation I saw was her trying to
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: get closure after he admitted to being married. That's why
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: she asked about going their separate ways. In the text
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: before that, she said she didn't want to try anymore,
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: but he asks her why? He asks to give them
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: a month to cool off and recover from their drama?
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: He ignored this last part when I confronted him, but
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: he blocked her. I accepted my husband's explanation until I
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: noticed him talking on the phone with someone for several
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: hours a week later.
• 33:48
  Speaker 3: Hold on, you accepted this? You went, yeah, it sounds
• 33:52
  Speaker 3: about right. That's okay.
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: I can understand in the moment it's shocking. You're trying
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: to be like, okay, well, he was a victim of
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: like workplace intimidation and like she wanted this and he didn't.
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: And then you go, wait, but what about those texts
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: where you were literally keeping the dynamic the same, where
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: you were trying to make this thing? He's like, I'm
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: just not going to talk about that. It's like, yeah,
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: he knew what he was doing. And then it backfired
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: on him. And he was like, oh, man, this is crazy.
• 34:23
  Speaker 4: This is all insane because he did state, I hate
• 34:27
  Speaker 4: this job, but I'm only here because I love you.
• 34:29
  Speaker 3: I love you as a sister.
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: Without my husband knowing, I contacted her to ask what's
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: going on.
• 34:35
  Speaker 3: According.
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: to her my husband used to creep her out by
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: waiting for her after her shift but she gave him
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: the benefit of the doubt and befriended him she admitted
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: to developing feelings but felt guilty and wanted to not
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: be such close friends she apologized for being obsessive and
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: didn't know he was married she said her anger towards
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: my husband before he quit was because he stopped pulling
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: his weight around the time she wanted distance she said
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: they blocked each other and she wants to work on
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: her marriage afterwards i blocked her and had a talk
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: with my husband And there's an edit. I read all
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: of your responses. I gave it some more thought last night.
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: I am going to get a divorce.
• 35:13
  Speaker 3: Nice.
• 35:14
  Speaker 2: Yay.
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: That's what we do to this man. We divorce him.
• 35:18
  Speaker 3: You'd be like, I'm going to divorce you like a husband.
• 35:21
  Speaker 5: Yay.
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: Not a brother.
• 35:24
  Speaker 5: Yay.
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: I booked a flight ticket to stay with my parents
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: while I figure out what steps to take for this transition.
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: He was in tears, yelling that the co-worker was the
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: obsessive one. He only engaged with her to keep her
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: from lashing out. He said he only felt sorry for her.
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: But why couldn't he just tell management? I stayed because
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: of the time cost fallacy, but I deserve better.
• 35:46
  Speaker 4: And that is the end of that story. Yes, you
• 35:48
  Speaker 4: do deserve better. Yes, you do. And you're going to
• 35:51
  Speaker 4: get it. And guess what he's going to do right now?
• 35:53
  Speaker 4: He's going to message that co-worker again. Hey, guess who's single?
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that is what he's going to do. And that's
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: on him. But that is the end of that story.
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: My girlfriend's family treats us like outcasts because they still
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: prefer her ex.
• 36:08
  Speaker 2: Ooh, no, no, no.
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: That's not good. I, 24 male, met Sally, 48 female,
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: in early 2016 at a soccer game. At first, we
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: were just friends chatting, but it became flirty within a
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: few weeks, I would say. I've never had a thing
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: for older women. She never had a thing for younger men.
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: We had always dated people our own age. Sally even
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: had a husband her age for 25 years.
• 36:37
  Speaker 6: Wow.
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: But we just clickety-clicked.
• 36:41
  Speaker 5: Oh.
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: As we like to say. Clickety-click-clacked. Hate that. And despite
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: the age difference, we were both really enjoying each other.
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: Each other's bodies. By the way, this comes from Ironic Swells.
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: And if you want to submit your own story, go
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: to the r slash ok story time subreddit. I'm Dakota.
• 36:57
  Speaker 2: I'm Savannah.
• 36:58
  Speaker 6: I'm Riley.
• 36:58
  Speaker 3: I'm Riley.
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: We're going to read this story. We're going to be like, ew,
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: she's old. But if you think that's way out of pocket,
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: let us know in the comments. And OP says, that June,
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: happy pride, we started to date.
• 37:12
  Speaker 3: Really?
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: You got into a straight relationship in June?
• 37:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, what's wrong with you?
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: A year goes by of long distance dating. And next June,
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: I moved across the country to be with her permanently.
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: We've been living together for two years now in her
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: neck of the woods. relatively close to most of her
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: friends and family. Despite my family and friends being cool
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: with me dating someone older, I definitely did expect some
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: backlash from people in Sally's life, and so did she.
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: And maybe looking back at it, it was silly, but
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: I thought that eventually, even though at first they wouldn't
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: see it, her friends and family would eventually come around
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: and realize that what we had wasn't any type of
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: cougar-cub-sugar-mama-baby relationship.
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: Cougar-cub?
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: That is so new.
• 38:01
  Speaker 2: Say that five times fast. I like Duchess just says,
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: wrinkly boob. Winkly boob.
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: She's got some wrinkly wobblers on her. I don't know
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: if they wrinkle. She's got some wrinkly wobblers. We both
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: have jobs and pay bills together. I guess what I'm
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: trying to say is our relationship is so much more
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: than our ages. I'm really mature for my age. Like, honestly,
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: for now, for now, in 30 years, she'll be 78
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: and you'll be 54, which doesn't seem like that much
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: of a difference, but I feel like it totally is. Anyway,
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: I really wanted Sally's family to eventually understand that. Coming
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: up on two years of being together, though, I am
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: pretty close to giving up on forging any kind of
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: relationship with her family. It has been absolutely dreadful being
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: with some of Sally's friends and her mother's side of
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: the family. These people see nothing beyond their good old
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: Sally going insane and deciding to be with someone half
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: her age. They have zero respect for me and very
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: little for Sally's choice to be with me. We had
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: Sally's lifelong best friend and husband over one weekend. And
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: they deliberately treated me like crap, going so far as
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: to make fun of my political opinions that I didn't
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: bring up, by the way. They just assumed I leaned
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: left because I'm young, I guess. And they also asked
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: Sally how her ex-husband was doing in front of me,
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: saying that she and her husband really missed seeing him around.
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: Her aunt and uncle is another thing. Sally has three aunts,
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: and I've only met one at length. One night... During
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: a beach trip last year, I had went to bed
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: and Sally stayed up talking to her aunt who starts
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: asking if Sally is okay. Is she seeing a psychiatrist, etc.
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: And finished it up with, you know, you really made
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: a mistake leaving your ex-husband and all of his money.
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: I mean, like, okay, honestly, if we strip all this away,
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: you go, girl.
• 40:09
  Speaker 3: Whatever.
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 40:10
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: You go, girl. You got money.
• 40:12
  Speaker 6: You got a little man, young dude.
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: And he's not 19. You didn't know him when he
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: was a child.
• 40:20
  Speaker 6: Five years older.
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: I mean, like.
• 40:22
  Speaker 2: This boy is about to become a man. And he's
• 40:25
  Speaker 2: about to have a mortgage and student debt.
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: It just sounds like everyone in your life is low-key
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: kind of jealous. Not going to lie. This year at
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: Sally's cousin's birthday, her aunt treated us like complete charity cases.
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: She and her husband pulled Sally away from me at
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: the party to ask if she needed money, if she
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: wanted to write her a check, and if she needed
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: the number of anyone to talk to. I felt so ashamed, embarrassed,
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: and wondered if it would be best for me to
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: not come on trips where her extended family was involved.
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: Let's see how girthy these aunts are.
• 41:02
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah.
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: Sally has tried telling these people that her ex-husband was
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: terrible during the final few years, and she left. Her
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: ex-husband is even telling people the truth about what happened
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: if they ask. Still, her family will not listen. I
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: want us to be validated in their eyes for my sake,
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: but especially Sally's. It weighs heavily on her that she
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: chose happiness over a terrible partner with money. And the
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: ones that love her can't see that because I'm so young.
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: We don't care what people think or assume about us,
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: but it would be really nice to have Sally's family
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: in our corner instead of against us. What should I do?
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: What can Sally and I do to improve these relationships?
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: Is it a lost cause? Is two years not long
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: enough to expect people to come around? I'm really lost.
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: Thank you in advance. That is the end of that story.
• 41:59
  Speaker 2: There's not... You can't control what others think. Like, that's
• 42:02
  Speaker 2: what you have to... That's what it all comes down to.
• 42:05
  Speaker 2: Is you can't be like, oh, I just really want
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: their approval. I really want them to like me. I really...
• 42:11
  Speaker 2: You know, yeah, you can be... Of course, everyone wants
• 42:15
  Speaker 2: to be on good terms with the person's... Your partner's
• 42:21
  Speaker 2: family and friends and everything. But also, it's just... You
• 42:27
  Speaker 2: can't force them. Hopefully, however much time it takes for
• 42:33
  Speaker 2: them to be comfortable, maybe they'll notice it. I'm not
• 42:36
  Speaker 2: really sure. But the thing is, you can't force them,
• 42:39
  Speaker 2: and you can't just keep worrying about that. Worry about
• 42:41
  Speaker 2: what you two, your relationship, how you two are communicating,
• 42:47
  Speaker 2: how that's working out. It is a little weird, but
• 42:51
  Speaker 2: weird is also fun. So I don't know.
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: Go on.
• 42:55
  Speaker 2: Go out and do things, and don't worry about what
• 42:58
  Speaker 2: other people say.
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. Let's head to
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: the next one.
• 43:03
  Speaker 2: My parents called my girlfriend disgusting, and I couldn't tolerate it.
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: Gross.
• 43:09
  Speaker 2: So I, 32 female, have been dating my girlfriend, I'll
• 43:14
  Speaker 2: call Ruby, 48 female, for around 10 months. Yes, I'm
• 43:22
  Speaker 2: well aware of our age gap. I'm a fully grown woman.
• 43:25
  Speaker 2: I can make my own choices.
• 43:26
  Speaker 5: Hell yeah.
• 43:27
  Speaker 2: Vivi treats me well, and she's been the first in
• 43:30
  Speaker 2: a long string of crappy exes to do so.
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: You both are in your 30s.
• 43:34
  Speaker 6: I don't think there's age gap anything within your 30s.
• 43:37
  Speaker 6: When you turn 30, you can date anyone at whatever age.
• 43:40
  Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from Bad Professional 3445, and
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: if you want to submit your own stories, go to
• 43:45
  Speaker 2: the r slash okay story time subreddit. I'm Savannah.
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: Dakota. I'm Riley.
• 43:49
  Speaker 6: You can date anyone at any age after 20.
• 43:54
  Speaker 3: Or older.
• 43:54
  Speaker 6: I was just saying you can get a cougar after
• 43:56
  Speaker 6: 30 and it's fine.
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: As long as the age goes up. All right. We're here.
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: We're on the same page.
• 44:03
  Speaker 2: And we're here to give some good advice in a
• 44:05
  Speaker 2: little goofy way, but we don't have all the answers.
• 44:08
  Speaker 2: We can only tell you what we would do in
• 44:09
  Speaker 2: this situation, but you should let us know what you
• 44:11
  Speaker 2: would do down in the comments. All right. As Opie says.
• 44:16
  Speaker 2: For some context, me and my parents, 67 female and
• 44:20
  Speaker 2: 65 male.
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: Why is it still funny? By all rights, that shouldn't
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: be funny at all anymore, and it still is. Is
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: it because it's 315? I've never been close.
• 44:38
  Speaker 2: As they honestly didn't really give a crap about me
• 44:41
  Speaker 2: when I was a kid. I was always being handed
• 44:45
  Speaker 2: off to nannies and ignored when I would try to
• 44:47
  Speaker 2: play with them. They would always leave me behind with
• 44:51
  Speaker 2: said nannies when they went on business trips and vacations.
• 44:55
  Speaker 2: And then when I got older, they would just leave
• 44:57
  Speaker 2: me all alone. Oh my God, why?
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: It's horrible.
• 45:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, why would they just not take you? They just
• 45:04
  Speaker 2: didn't want you. Why'd they have a kid? It was
• 45:07
  Speaker 2: a crappy way to grow up, but I've moved on
• 45:10
  Speaker 2: from it. Doesn't seem like it. I can't let my
• 45:14
  Speaker 2: childhood define my entire life. Once I moved out, we
• 45:18
  Speaker 2: rarely talked besides holidays and birthdays. Anyways, in the past
• 45:23
  Speaker 2: couple years, my parents have started reaching out more and
• 45:26
  Speaker 2: trying to connect. Well, let me introduce you to my book.
• 45:29
  Speaker 2: It's called Too Little Too Late, Chapter 29. I'm not
• 45:33
  Speaker 2: talking to you. You abandoned me as a child. You
• 45:36
  Speaker 2: didn't even like me. Now you're going to come to me?
• 45:38
  Speaker 2: Get out of my face! I was a little weary
• 45:42
  Speaker 2: at first, as I thought maybe they wanted something from me.
• 45:46
  Speaker 2: But after feeling them out for a bit, I think
• 45:48
  Speaker 2: they just feel bad for how they ignored me when
• 45:51
  Speaker 2: I was young. Again, too little to frickin' lay, what?
• 45:56
  Speaker 2: I slowly started letting them into my life, and a
• 45:58
  Speaker 2: few months ago, told them about Ruby. Oh my gosh,
• 46:02
  Speaker 2: I forgot it was her! Oh, this is the age gap.
• 46:06
  Speaker 2: They immediately jumped into telling me how I'm too young
• 46:09
  Speaker 2: to be dating someone so old and so on and
• 46:12
  Speaker 2: so forth. I shut that down immediately. I told them
• 46:17
  Speaker 2: they don't get to say stuff like that to me ever.
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: They can support me after all the stuff they pulled
• 46:23
  Speaker 2: or go away. That seemed to shut them up. Fast
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: forward to last night, me, Ruby, and my parents all
• 46:32
  Speaker 2: had dinner together.
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: Uh-oh.
• 46:35
  Speaker 2: It was their first time meeting her. It was going
• 46:38
  Speaker 2: smoothly up until Ruby pecked me on the lips before
• 46:42
  Speaker 2: going to the bathroom. The second she was out of earshot,
• 46:46
  Speaker 2: my mom just blurted out something like, I can't remember exactly.
• 46:51
  Speaker 2: Ruby absolutely disgusts us. She's disgusting. I didn't say anything,
• 46:57
  Speaker 2: but I was just so stunned as they both started
• 46:59
  Speaker 2: trying to explain that they can't accept this relationship or
• 47:02
  Speaker 2: some BS. I barely remember. All I could hear was static.
• 47:08
  Speaker 2: I flagged out our waitress, told my parents that we're leaving,
• 47:11
  Speaker 2: and paid the bill as we all sat in awkward silence.
• 47:14
  Speaker 2: I guess they didn't want to embarrass themselves in front
• 47:16
  Speaker 2: of the waitress. I don't even know. By then, Ruby
• 47:19
  Speaker 2: was back, and she was totally confused.
• 47:22
  Speaker 1: Your parents suck.
• 47:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah, these parents are not cool.
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: I would have been like, we're leaving, you're paying the bill.
• 47:31
  Speaker 2: Ooh, and then I would have ordered five more things
• 47:33
  Speaker 2: of wine.
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: I cast spit in your face. I cast spit in
• 47:37
  Speaker 1: your face. And I cast leave the restaurant without paying.
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: That's a triple spell combo.
• 47:44
  Speaker 2: I cast Aunt Gertha. I explained everything in the cab home,
• 47:50
  Speaker 2: and I honestly started tearing up a bit. I was
• 47:53
  Speaker 2: finally starting to think I actually had parents, but then
• 47:56
  Speaker 2: they go and say crap like that. Ruby was pretty
• 48:00
  Speaker 2: shocked and comforted me. Now, my parents have been calling
• 48:03
  Speaker 2: and texting me, scolding me for leaving like that, and
• 48:06
  Speaker 2: saying that they just want me to date someone right
• 48:08
  Speaker 2: for me. They even looped a couple aunts, Aunt Gertha,
• 48:12
  Speaker 2: here she comes, and uncles in, who never even really
• 48:16
  Speaker 2: gave a dang about me ever, and have them telling
• 48:19
  Speaker 2: me to answer my parents and apologize. Just need to know,
• 48:23
  Speaker 2: was I wrong? Yeah, no, for leaving a... dinner reservation
• 48:27
  Speaker 2: where you were blatantly disrespected, and then also your girlfriend
• 48:31
  Speaker 2: was talked behind her back. Yeah, no, I think that's
• 48:34
  Speaker 2: a pretty great reason to leave, actually. I fully support that.
• 48:39
  Speaker 2: If people are being disrespectful to you, get out of there!
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: And it's not like your parents were, like, your most
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: trusted confidants who were always there for you growing up.
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: That would be different. It'd be like, is she? Like,
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: maybe do I need to listen to these people whose weight,
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: the weight of their opinion means something?
• 48:55
  Speaker 4: I know.
• 48:55
  Speaker 2: And also, all of a sudden they're coming back in
• 48:57
  Speaker 2: your life and being like, oh, hey, here we are.
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: We don't like your girlfriend.
• 49:02
  Speaker 3: She's disgusting.
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 49:04
  Speaker 2: Literally to say that about like just meeting someone.
• 49:07
  Speaker 3: She's disgusting.
• 49:09
  Speaker 2: Shut up.
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: Literally. And that's the end of this story. Let's head
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: to the next one. My professor asked me to go
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: on a date after.
• 49:19
  Speaker 2: I grew Uh, I mean, I guess you probably could.
• 49:24
  Speaker 2: Why not?
• 49:25
  Speaker 1: It's better than before. Yeah. I, 25 female, am currently
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: getting a master's in communications. Set to graduate next week.
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: This past semester, I had a professor, Mark, 30 male.
• 49:39
  Speaker 1: Who has been a great mentor and resource while I
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: was completing my thesis. His class was quite difficult, but
• 49:45
  Speaker 1: he was always willing to offer assistance to those who
• 49:47
  Speaker 1: needed it. By the way, this comes from ABCDXYZ2. And
• 49:54
  Speaker 1: if you want to submit your own stories, go to
• 49:56
  Speaker 1: the r slash ok story time subreddit. I'm Dakota.
• 49:59
  Speaker 2: I'm Spinner.
• 50:00
  Speaker 6: I'm Riley.
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: You're going to read this story, and we're going to
• 50:02
  Speaker 1: be like, ooh, daddy. And we're going to be like,
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: We're going to say stuff. We're going to have thoughts.
• 50:10
  Speaker 1: You get to have your own thoughts. You can even
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: tell us what your thoughts about us are in the comments.
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: Be nice.
• 50:17
  Speaker 2: Ew, that one was weird. I didn't like that.
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: Triple, triple, triple tap.
• 50:21
  Speaker 4: No.
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: I didn't even know how I did that.
• 50:23
  Speaker 2: That was really cool.
• 50:25
  Speaker 1: And OP says, I did well in his class. Although
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: he graded me pretty harshly in the beginning. I was
• 50:32
  Speaker 1: going through a fairly stressful time then. I found out
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: my father was diagnosed with prostate cancer. And it definitely
• 50:39
  Speaker 1: reflected in my assignments. He told me that he knew
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: I had more potential than this and asked if there
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: was anything else going on. I confided in him and
• 50:47
  Speaker 1: he offered some words of comfort but told me that
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: if I needed extensions on my assignments to tell him beforehand.
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: I accepted the low grades but worked my butt off
• 50:58
  Speaker 1: for the rest of the semester which showed in my
• 51:00
  Speaker 1: final grades. Now I will preface this next part. By
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: saying that Mark is incredibly attractive. Girls in the class
• 51:11
  Speaker 1: who normally would wear jeans and a t-shirt to school
• 51:13
  Speaker 1: will come dressed to impress. Mark is a very good teacher, engaged,
• 51:19
  Speaker 1: and incredibly knowledgeable. But he refuses to join in on
• 51:22
  Speaker 1: any social events, pub nights, etc. I figured he must
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: be incredibly private. I have a few interviews set up
• 51:28
  Speaker 1: for positions within my field. I have a few references
• 51:31
  Speaker 1: lined up and sent Mark an email. asking if he
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: could write me a letter of rec. We decided to
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: meet at a Starbucks close to the school a week later,
• 51:43
  Speaker 1: which was yesterday. We were chatting about summer plans, the
• 51:46
  Speaker 1: jobs I've been applying to, and other random things when
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: he clears his throat and became really serious. He slid
• 51:54
  Speaker 1: over a recommendation letter in a sealed envelope and told
• 51:57
  Speaker 1: me that he would be interested in going out to
• 52:00
  Speaker 1: dinner with me after my commencement. I asked if he
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: meant as a date, to which he said he tries
• 52:06
  Speaker 1: to keep his professional life professional and not mix it
• 52:09
  Speaker 1: with his personal life, but since I will be graduating
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: and no longer a student at the college, he would
• 52:15
  Speaker 1: like to take the opportunity to potentially pursue something romantic
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: with me. I'm pretty sure I was blushing, but I
• 52:22
  Speaker 1: just told him that I needed to think about it,
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: to which he completely agreed and hoped he didn't make
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: me uncomfortable. He seemed kind of withdrawn and flustered after that,
• 52:30
  Speaker 1: and we left separately shortly after. was yesterday, and I
• 52:35
  Speaker 1: haven't heard from him or responded to his offer. On
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: the one hand, I do really like him, but never
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: thought he would be interested in me. The idea of
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: pursuing something more than a teacher-student relationship is definitely something
• 52:47
  Speaker 1: I would enjoy, but would that impact my reputation or his? No,
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't think. I don't want to do anything that
• 52:56
  Speaker 1: puts his job on the line, and even though I'm
• 52:57
  Speaker 1: no longer his student, with final grades being submitted two
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: weeks ago, is this still too soon to pursue something?
• 53:03
  Speaker 1: And if I do accept, I know I will no
• 53:04
  Speaker 1: longer be able to use him as a character or
• 53:06
  Speaker 1: academic reference, which is fine. But now I'm hesitant to
• 53:09
  Speaker 1: submit the letter of recommendation he compiled for me. Reddit,
• 53:13
  Speaker 1: I need advice. Would this affect my professional life or his?
• 53:17
  Speaker 1: Have you had any relationships with former professors? Is this
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: completely wrong? I didn't feel the slightest bit uncomfortable or
• 53:23
  Speaker 1: creeped out by his proposition, but I'm not sure if
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: my judgment is clouded by infatuation. Your advice would be appreciated.
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: And there is an update. Bro, I don't think you
• 53:33
  Speaker 1: know what the word infatuation means.
• 53:35
  Speaker 2: How old is he?
• 53:36
  Speaker 6: He's 25.
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: He's 30. If you were infatuated with this man, I
• 53:43
  Speaker 1: think all you would think about is him pursuing you
• 53:46
  Speaker 1: and him being attracted to you. I feel like she
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: is infatuated.
• 53:49
  Speaker 6: That's why she's riding it, but she's also an academic,
• 53:52
  Speaker 6: so she's coming into it with a level head where
• 53:54
  Speaker 6: she's weighing the pros and cons. Low-key, I say go
• 53:56
  Speaker 6: for it because, one, it's a dream.
• 53:59
  Speaker 1: Two.
• 54:00
  Speaker 6: I mean, yeah, he can kind of tell you who
• 54:03
  Speaker 6: to talk to if you do have a relationship, but
• 54:06
  Speaker 6: you have to realize if this doesn't work out, there's,
• 54:11
  Speaker 6: it's like being friends with someone. After you date, you
• 54:14
  Speaker 6: probably won't have a friendship if you decide to cross
• 54:16
  Speaker 6: that line with them.
• 54:17
  Speaker 1: I got to say, this feels like the most appropriate
• 54:23
  Speaker 1: relationship you could possibly have. Or like the most appropriate
• 54:26
  Speaker 1: way to go about this that you could possibly do.
• 54:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly, I kind of agree.
• 54:31
  Speaker 1: He didn't pursue you while you were a student. He
• 54:33
  Speaker 1: didn't favor you while you were getting grades. He showed
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: zero favoritism to you. In fact, he graded you quite harshly,
• 54:41
  Speaker 1: you even said. Like, he's done nothing unprofessional or unbecoming
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: as a professor.
• 54:48
  Speaker 2: I would just wait, like, until, you know, like, you're
• 54:53
  Speaker 2: not his student anymore.
• 54:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what they're doing.
• 54:55
  Speaker 2: Oh, okay.
• 54:56
  Speaker 1: I mean, she's not. Final grades were already submitted. Like,
• 54:58
  Speaker 1: it's a... They're not... That's no longer happening. I don't
• 55:02
  Speaker 1: think it'll really impact your professional careers because it's like,
• 55:07
  Speaker 1: you know, it's not like he's 70. That would be different.
• 55:12
  Speaker 1: You know, people would look at that and be like,
• 55:16
  Speaker 1: but he's 30, you're 25. Your dad had cancer. I
• 55:20
  Speaker 1: was like, yeah, but still, you got to let me
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: know ahead of time if you're going to be late. So, update. Update.
• 55:29
  Speaker 1: First and foremost, I got a job. The job is
• 55:34
  Speaker 1: at a quite large PR firm within the city, and
• 55:38
  Speaker 1: I start next week. They didn't ask me for references,
• 55:41
  Speaker 1: but instead told me they looked at my LinkedIn profile
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: and saw I had quite a few recommendations there. So
• 55:46
  Speaker 1: they were satisfied with that. I'm so excited. So I
• 55:51
  Speaker 1: never ended up using Mark's letter of recommendation. After posting,
• 55:55
  Speaker 1: I decided that I do want to explore something romantic
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: with him. I immediately felt better after getting some third-party advice.
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: So the next day, I emailed him, because I didn't
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: have his phone number, and said this. Mark, first off,
• 56:09
  Speaker 1: I want to say that I am incredibly grateful for
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: the recommendation letter you compiled for me. I have a
• 56:15
  Speaker 1: second interview tomorrow at one of the agencies I was
• 56:17
  Speaker 1: telling you about. I'm a bit anxious, but also quite excited.
• 56:20
  Speaker 1: I just wanted to let you know that I will
• 56:23
  Speaker 1: not be using the letter after all. I thought about
• 56:26
  Speaker 1: what you asked me, and I am very interested in
• 56:30
  Speaker 1: going out to dinner with you. You have been an
• 56:32
  Speaker 1: awesome mentor this last semester, but I'm ready to see
• 56:36
  Speaker 1: a different side of you. I promise we don't have
• 56:39
  Speaker 1: to get Indian food. I wanted to apologize if I
• 56:43
  Speaker 1: seemed standoffish when you asked me. I wasn't expecting it,
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: and it took me a while to process it all. Again,
• 56:50
  Speaker 1: thank you for the letter. Maybe I will see you
• 56:53
  Speaker 1: at Convocation this Saturday. And just in case you may
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: want it, here's my number.
• 56:58
  Speaker 2: 5-5-5-5-5-5-5-5-5-5.
• 57:01
  Speaker 1: The Indian food bit was from when he was sick
• 57:04
  Speaker 1: one day and said he's 99% sure he got food
• 57:07
  Speaker 1: poisoning from trying a butter chicken dish at a dive bar. Yeah,
• 57:10
  Speaker 1: I gotta say, dive bar butter chicken? You gotta know
• 57:14
  Speaker 1: better than that. You're a professor.
• 57:15
  Speaker 6: You don't get gas station sushi, alright?
• 57:18
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 57:19
  Speaker 4: Eww.
• 57:21
  Speaker 1: I received a text from him an hour later, and
• 57:23
  Speaker 1: we've been talking ever since. On Friday, I found out
• 57:26
  Speaker 1: I got the job and told him. He said he
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: wasn't surprised, and I would do really well there. Saturday
• 57:33
  Speaker 1: was my convocation. My parents flew down, and it was great.
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: I saw Mark at the mixer, and he had a
• 57:40
  Speaker 1: huge grin on his face and waved. I was busy
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: taking photos and whatnot, and noticed he left later on.
• 57:46
  Speaker 1: He told me he didn't want to spoil my day
• 57:48
  Speaker 1: and said we'd talk soon. Everything is coming up. Daisies, roses, lilies, chrysanthemums,
• 57:55
  Speaker 1: whatever flower you like.
• 57:58
  Speaker 3: Babana.
• 57:58
  Speaker 1: Babaganoush. Let's just finish this beautiful story. Babana. We decided
• 58:05
  Speaker 1: to go out to dinner yesterday. Sunday. To keep it short,
• 58:10
  Speaker 1: it was great. He was great. He walked me back
• 58:12
  Speaker 1: to my condo. We took a night and he started
• 58:14
  Speaker 1: walking away. I was kind of disappointed and turned to
• 58:17
  Speaker 1: walk into the door, but I heard him call my name.
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: And he kissed me.
• 58:21
  Speaker 2: Whoa!
• 58:22
  Speaker 1: What? First date? Dang.
• 58:25
  Speaker 2: He was on it.
• 58:26
  Speaker 1: He said he still knew it, this. Anyways, this post
• 58:29
  Speaker 1: was probably all over the place, but I'm actually just
• 58:31
  Speaker 1: feeling really giddy and excited. Between the new job, finally graduating,
• 58:37
  Speaker 1: and the lovely date I had with my ex-superhot professor.
• 58:42
  Speaker 1: I'm on cloud nine right now. Thanks for everything, guys.
• 58:45
  Speaker 1: Your advice really helped. TLDR, Hot Professor, and I are banging,
• 58:50
  Speaker 1: and I have a job.
• 58:52
  Speaker 6: Oh my gosh.
• 58:54
  Speaker 1: That was so not called for. Why did you have
• 58:56
  Speaker 1: to say it like that?
• 58:58
  Speaker 5: Ew.
• 58:58
  Speaker 1: Me and my professor are getting it on. I listen
• 59:03
  Speaker 1: to Van Halen, and that's the only song. Hot for teacher.
• 59:06
  Speaker 3: Oh.
• 59:08
  Speaker 2: Teacher vibes. I want that.
• 59:10
  Speaker 5: My teacher Well, give me teacher vibes I want my
• 59:14
  Speaker 5: teacher Hey, give me teacher vibes.
• 59:25
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. Let's head to
• 59:27
  Speaker 1: the next one.
• 59:28
  Speaker 2: Hey, it's Angie, your favorite fake redhead host here, and
• 59:33
  Speaker 2: we're going to get back to the stories, but here's
• 59:34
  Speaker 2: a three-minute ad break from our sponsors.
• 59:38
  Speaker 1: My wife's co-worker made me paranoid, so I followed her
• 59:42
  Speaker 1: around everywhere. The title sounds extreme, but here are the details.
• 59:50
  Speaker 1: My wife, 27 female, and I, 42 male, have been
• 59:54
  Speaker 1: together for five years.
• 59:55
  Speaker 2: What is with all these big age gaps?
• 59:59
  Speaker 3: This was the whole thing in the episode. I told
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 3: you this right before we started it.
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 1: You were 37 and she was 22? What are you,
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 1: Leonardo DiCaprio? I love her so much that it pains
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 1: me to write this. The thing is, I was the
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 1: sole earner for a while and I was happy to provide.
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 1: I'm a software developer at a local startup that has
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 1: tripled in employees and gone exponential in revenue. We're not
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 1: having kids. So my wife got bored of being home
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 1: and doing nothing. So she got a job at a
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 1: law firm as a paralegal. By the way, this comes
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 1: from Scared of Their Love. And if you want to
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 1: submit your own stories, go to the r slash ok story.
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 1: I'm Subright. I'm Dakota.
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 2: I'm Savannah.
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 1: I'm Riley. We're going to read this story. We're going
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 1: to have our thoughts. They may be good. They may
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 1: be bad. Let us know your thoughts in the comments.
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 1: And OP says, Enter this attorney who I'll call Brandon.
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 1: Let's go, Brandon. My wife started to bring him up
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 1: quite a bit. You know when your wife starts talking
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 1: about something, drops it, and then brings it up again
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 1: a few minutes or hours later like there was no gap?
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 1: My wife does that with stories about him. I searched
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 1: through her Facebook friends list one day for Brandon and
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 1: saw that they had connected. Okay. Then, my wife starts
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 1: going to work happy hours, and I'm seeing pictures of
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 1: the guy in her timelines. In most of the picture,
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 1: she is positioned next to him holding a drink. Okay.
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 1: I have gained considerable weight since joining the startup. There
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 1: is free food provided to us nearly every day. My
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 1: wife has maintained a really low weight and looks as
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 1: beautiful as she did at 22. Hey, I'm going to
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 1: go ahead and automatically say I don't like the way
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 1: you're moving, OP. Don't like it at all. You're like,
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 1: I'm going to start dating a 22-year-old when I'm 37.
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 1: Fast forward to 42 and you're like, is my hot
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 1: young girlfriend maybe looking for more appropriate options now that
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 1: I'm a, you know, clearly not very secure partner? Because
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 1: you can be a little overweight. I don't know, man.
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 1: It's all in the way you carry yourself. And if
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 1: you carry yourself the way that you're moving right now,
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 1: you are unattractive. You are unappealing.
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 6: Yeah, and she probably is dating you for like the
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 6: security and you're, I don't know.
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 1: So it's weird. I don't know. Brandon is more like
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 1: how I used to be weight wise. However, I believe
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 1: I make more money than he does. There it is.
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 1: So here it goes. I take off work on Friday
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 1: as my team is nearing the end of our project.
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 1: I wait for my wife to leave the firm and
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 1: I see her walking out with Brandon. They get in
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 1: my wife's car, purchased on my dime, she's your wife,
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 1: and I follow them for a bit. They go to
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 1: a local dive bar and it turns out all of
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 1: her co-workers are there. I see them entering. I wait
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 1: for hours and everyone eventually leaves. My wife leaves last
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 1: with Brandon and she takes him home. I don't see
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 1: any physical contact as he exits the vehicle to go
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 1: inside his apartment building. At this point I'm sick, I'm gutted.
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 2: Wait, but like nothing really happened.
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 1: If you put the energy that you're putting into stalking
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 1: your wife right now into making sure your relationship is
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 1: healthy and that y'all are both happy, you probably wouldn't
• 1:03:29
  Speaker 1: have to worry about this. I wait at home for
• 1:03:32
  Speaker 1: my wife and confront her about Brandon. She went insane,
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 1: basically threatening to end the marriage because I stalked her.
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 1: She told me she is always the designated driver for
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 1: happy hour because she doesn't drink much, which is true,
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 1: but she didn't address my greater concerns. Am I the a-hole? Yeah.
• 1:03:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I also have to say, um, you're the a-hole
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 2: because why didn't you just like, like instead of going
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 2: through all of the weird stalkery, like inspector gadget things,
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 2: like why can't you just like, I don't know, talk
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 2: to your wife.
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like you're 42. You're supposed to be the
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 1: leader in this relationship.
• 1:04:13
  Speaker 6: Yeah. And you sound like you haven't made any moves
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 6: mentally since you were 18.
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 1: I'm more successful than this guy.
• 1:04:20
  Speaker 6: Oh, my girlfriend's getting a little weight on her. It's weird, dude.
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 6: It's like, how haven't you, I don't know, gotten to
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 6: the point where you're secure in these things or like
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 6: that you don't, appearances don't matter or like status isn't.
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 1: You're not cool with who you are. That's what it
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 1: feels like. He's not cool with who he is. Update!
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 1: Ten days later. If you don't want to read it,
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 1: here's the summary. I believed my wife to be having
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 1: an affair with a co-worker who had repeatedly appeared in
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 1: her pictures and conversations. So, one happy hours eve, I
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 1: followed her. Even though I had seen nothing definitive, I
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 1: confronted her about the issue and she threatened to end
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 1: things with me. Believe it or not, I listened to
• 1:05:02
  Speaker 1: your advice. I received extensive advice from both sides. Publicly,
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 1: everyone agreed I was at fault. In my direct messages,
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 1: many fervently believed me to be in the right.
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 2: Wait, what is fervently?
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 1: Like, very passionately.
• 1:05:21
  Speaker 2: Oh, so they were super passionate about him being right.
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 1: Regardless, I sat down and talked to my wife about
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 1: my insecurities concerning her co-worker, Brandon. I told her I
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 1: did not feel as attractive as Brandon and worried that
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 1: as I was getting older, her interest in me was waning.
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 1: I also asked her if she felt financially stable in
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 1: the relationship. I apologized for following her and told her
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 1: I would never do it again. She told me several things. First,
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 1: that she was offended I did not trust her. Second,
• 1:05:54
  Speaker 1: that she did suspect Brandon had feelings for her based
• 1:05:58
  Speaker 1: on some of his interactions and comments. And third, that
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 1: she sometimes felt isolated by my work and never felt
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 1: motivated one way or the other by my income. The
• 1:06:08
  Speaker 1: thing about programming is it is hard to explain my
• 1:06:11
  Speaker 1: work to someone who does not program. Yeah, I mean, yeah,
• 1:06:17
  Speaker 1: maybe you're on the track to not blow in this.
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  Speaker 2: No, all he's doing, he's so insecure that he's just
• 1:06:23
  Speaker 2: projecting everything onto her.
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  Speaker 7: And he's like, well, I don't know. I feel like
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 7: I've been getting, like, less attractive. Now you don't like
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 7: me anymore. And, you know, I don't know. Maybe we
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 7: haven't been spending much time together. It's like, dude, shut up.
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 2: If you like me, like me. If you love me,
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 2: love me. Let's freaking go.
• 1:06:43
  Speaker 1: Like, shut up.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to have this talkie talkie.
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 1: I want you to walkie walkie. Walkie walkie my talkie talkie.
• 1:06:52
  Speaker 2: Walkie talkie. We should get those.
• 1:06:55
  Speaker 1: I would like one. Liah Klee says, Dakota, how do
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 1: you get your hair to be so shiny? It's grease.
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 2: It's called grease.
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 1: You stay up all night and get a little greasy
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 1: with it. Ooh. She also told me my physical appearance
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 1: and aging had no impact on her feelings toward me.
• 1:07:17
  Speaker 1: She reaffirmed that she loved me and would never throw
• 1:07:20
  Speaker 1: away our marriage for a divorced coworker. So what of
• 1:07:26
  Speaker 1: our future? I asked her if she still wanted to
• 1:07:29
  Speaker 1: be with me or if she could not see a
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 1: future with me after I had followed her. She joked
• 1:07:34
  Speaker 1: that she would forgive me after drinking a few cocktails
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 1: at a tropical resort. She told me that, in addition
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 1: to the stalking, the cocktails would also help her forget
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 1: about all of my past rants about various programming languages
• 1:07:46
  Speaker 1: like Java specifically. I haven't told her yet, but I
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 1: plan to surprise her with an inclusive package to the
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 1: Maldives or some other island young women enjoy that I
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 1: never heard of until researching.
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 6: Dude, this was the biggest douche I have ever read today.
• 1:08:02
  Speaker 2: Wait, why did Sam Chan just say carriage?
• 1:08:05
  Speaker 1: Why do I somehow not believe her when she said
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 1: your income had no bearing on anything when she said
• 1:08:14
  Speaker 1: I'll forgive you for a tropical vacation? Like, I get
• 1:08:19
  Speaker 1: that's a little cheeky, but yeah.
• 1:08:23
  Speaker 6: You can just kind of tell the relationship. Like, she's
• 1:08:26
  Speaker 6: there for financial reasons, and he's there for.
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 1: So she looks good on his arm. I mean, I
• 1:08:32
  Speaker 1: don't feel like it's just the financial. Because when they
• 1:08:35
  Speaker 1: got together, he didn't have that. And then he got
• 1:08:38
  Speaker 1: it later. Yeah. Well, investment. Investment, some would say. You know?
• 1:08:43
  Speaker 6: Jeff Bezos' wife.
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 1: Investment. I think it's really weird... If your partner makes
• 1:08:49
  Speaker 1: a ton of money to be like, oh, that doesn't
• 1:08:51
  Speaker 1: matter at all. It's like on some level it makes
• 1:08:54
  Speaker 1: you go, well, that, yeah, that's nice. I mean, it's
• 1:08:57
  Speaker 1: not why I like you, but. I'm not like oh
• 1:09:01
  Speaker 1: man we've got so much money and I can go
• 1:09:04
  Speaker 1: on so many vacations like just be honest about.
• 1:09:09
  Speaker 2: That why does Sam Chad just keep saying carriage but
• 1:09:14
  Speaker 2: this time it has a question mark carriage.
• 1:09:18
  Speaker 1: It was just carriage now it's Take care of your carriage.
• 1:09:21
  Speaker 2: Wait, say carriage with an exclamation point.
• 1:09:23
  Speaker 1: Carriage is a marriage that cares.
• 1:09:26
  Speaker 2: Carriage?
• 1:09:27
  Speaker 1: Carriage. Average? That was the end of that story.