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How To Curate + Activate Your Most Baddie Alter Ego · All In with Allie

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Hello. In this episode, we are going to talk about ways to curate
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the most bad ass version of you and proven ways to activate this inner Baddy
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as often as needed in order to create the results in your life in business
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that you know you could be. Not that you should, but you could,
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all right. So this is a strategy that I actually do myself.
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It really works, and this is just a fun conversation. So let's go.
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Welcome to Allin with Ali podcast, the podcast for entrepreneurs and online business
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owners who are ready to create the life and business of their dreams. I'm
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so happy you are here. So what is an archetype? That's essentially what
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we're talking about when we think about, or when I say, ways to
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curate the most badass version of By the way, any kind of version of
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you. This could be a feminine, like the most feminine version of you,
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the most loving, the sexiest, the most badass, the most fearless.
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It can be anything, and you can have as many of these as
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you want. But what I'm talking about when I say that I'm talking about
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archetypes, I'm talking about alter egos here. That's essentially like when I hear
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archetype, I think of alter ego. It's a set of personality traits or
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a vibe or a frequency that we all have access to. It's somewhere in
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us. It just needs to be activated. And I have found that when
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I think of this in the way that we're going to talk about it today
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on this episode, it just makes more sense to me, and I'm able
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to do it for myself really well. So when I think of archetypes or
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alter egos, I always think of Beyonce's Sasha Fierce. So I don't know
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if you've heard this, but apparently she like her alter ego. Beyonce's alter
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ego is called Sasha Fierce. So anytime she's performing or needs to be the
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Beyonce, she activates this version of her that she has named something else.
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It's not her, right, it's like this alter ego that she's curated over
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the years, you know, the one who hits every single note and every
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single dance move, and you know, is just like so tapped into her
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power and just does the damn thing on stage, you know, totally fearless,
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not concerned how many people are looking at her or hating on her or
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whatever. She's just Sasha freakin' Fierce, which has created the on say that
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we all know and love today. If you're a fan of her, I
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personally am, so that's what I think of. And again, we all
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can do this for ourselves. So in this episode, we're going to talk
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about how we can curate our own alter egos or archetypes that can assist us
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in the different areas of life and goals and different things that we want to
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continue to create and grow in our lives. So we're going to talk about
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how to curate those, but most importantly, how to activate them, because
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that's super important. You can curate and get clear all day on the type
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of personality traits and frequencies and vibes that you wish you could access more often
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in order to do or be more of blank. But if you don't know
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how to activate these things within you, it's not going to do you much
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good. So we'll talk about ways that I have found are helpful and in
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order to activate my own inner whatever it is that I'm trying to activate,
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and why we want to do this in the first place. So let's get
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started with the why part, right, Why are we even having this conversation?
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So I've always joked that I feel like I personally have many different versions
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of me, and yes, Q multiple personality joke here, not that I'm
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making fun of that, but like, you know, we get it.
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Yeah, there's different versions of me. There's like, you know, there's
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like the mom version of me, and then there's the wife version of me,
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and then there's the lazy version of me, and there's a fearful version
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of me, and then there's like definitely a badass version of me, and
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there's the uber healthy version of me. Right like, depending on the day
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and the circumstance and whatever, we'll dictate what version of me you get.
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And that's all fine and good. But when I'm wanting to be intentional,
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especially in my business, and I'm wanting to consistently put myself out there and
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you know, create certain levels of results, I need to be more intentional
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about the version of me that I'm putting out into the world. So that's
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you know, for you, you may experience something similar. There's probably many
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different archetypes that you can activate and that you can bring forward at any time,
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and you may be at a certain level of results. They're like,
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Okay, this is great. I love my life I'm thankful for my life,
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but there's still this level that I haven't quite gotten to yet. And
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the answer, of course isn't well, that's not available to you and you
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can't have it. The answer is, it's absolutely available to you. But
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we've got to match the frequency of that thing, right, You've got to
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be become and be the type of person that gets those types of results.
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Who is she? How does she move? What decisions? Does she make?
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What actions? And you know, how does she take the actions?
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She's in you, She's just got to be brought forward. Okay. So
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that's why this practice in this conversation could be super beneficial because to me,
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it almost like gamifies the experience it takes. It's you know, it's really
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easy to kind of get into like the victim version of yourself and be like,
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oh man, I wish I could be more like blah blah blah,
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but you know I can't because she's more confident than me and I'm not.
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Or she's more of this and I'm not, and it's like, that's that's
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not true. You just need to cultivate that version of you, not saying
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that we need to be like other people or be other people. We just
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want to again take those personality attributes and that vibe. You know, whatever
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the thing is that you admire and that you think is getting that person the
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thing, and you need to apply it and put it forward yourself. So
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one example of one way that I did this before I even realized what it
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was that I was doing. I'm going to take you back to the very
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beginning of my business. So when I first started this business, it was
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when people really started getting comfortable and people were starting to use Instagram for business
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purposes. Right, So a lot more brands and a lot more businesses we're
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growing and growing rapidly on Instagram. And this is about the time that I
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was building my own brand on Instagram. And this is also when stories were
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relatively new. And also Instagram and all other platforms were starting to favor more
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video. They wanted you to do more lives, They wanted you to put
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out more video, Like do you remember IGTV on Instagram? That was I
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think this was before them, but like that was about to be a thing.
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But video was like starting to rise as the type of content that wasn't
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it wasn't just it was becoming necessary, right, Like like you couldn't.
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It was getting to the point that if you genuinely wanted to grow on platforms
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like Instagram, you had to be utilizing video. Otherwise the algorithm was just
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going to screw you over. Well, that's all great, but at the
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time, I was deathly afraid of video. I hated it. I would
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record something a million different times, watch it over and cry. I hated
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how I sounded, I hated how I looked. Just everything about it made
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me cringe and just crumble, and I was like, I cannot do this.
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I'm not like I've got a face for radio, like this just it
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wasn't. It just was not working for me. But the problem was was
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that really wasn't an option at the time, Like I didn't have a podcast
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yet, and you know, I've already explained, like it's just it's kind
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of what you had to do. And I knew that this was holding me
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back. So for me to be able to get over myself and be the
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type of person that not only put out video but did so consistently and in
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a way that you know wasn't wasn't totally making me miserable. I needed to
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activate a different level of myself. So I kind of crafted this version of
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myself who was more of like the creator and this was like my first iteration
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of the badass version of me who just did what she had to do.
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Right. There wasn't a lot of thinking about it, like, there wasn't
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time to overthink it. Just it was what it was. There was an
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action that needed to be taken to go and you take the action. And
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that's just kind of what I had to do and what I started to do.
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And what I found was the more that I activated this part of me,
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the more that I become became that part of me, right, Like,
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the more that it became easy, it became more second nature. I
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just wasn't practiced at doing those type of things in that type of way.
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But the more that I did, the more that it became more of who
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I genuinely was, if that makes sense. So this has been such a
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use full tool and again I use this to this day. I have different
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I guess archetypes and they're not all named like you hear people like we just
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had Tara Marino come on the podcast and she talked about the archetypes in her
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business, like she has the friends sheee and she has the New Yorker and
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the indie. My mentor Melanie. She teaches about different archetypes, and I
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actually think the badass might be one of them now that I think about it.
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So mine aren't necessarily named, but they're just parts of me that when
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I need to activate them, I activate them. Even if it's not second
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nature. It's just the thing that needs to be done. Right, So
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how do we craft this version of you? All? Right? So this
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could be something like if you wanted to get out of pen and paper,
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you could do this, or you could come back to this later, or
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you can just be thinking in your head, what like if you needed or
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wanted to create some sort of new alter ego for yourself, what would this
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be? So I think it would be really cool. First, before we
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curate the alter ego, let's first think about, like, what is that
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next level for you? Is there something that maybe you know that you should
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be doing in your business but you're not because of fear, or because of
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laziness, or because of whatever the situation is is. There may be a
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level of life in business or something that you know you want to be better
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at or you want to excel more in, but you're just not like at
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the standard version of you. You know that we all have the version of
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us that show up the most, right, like the yeah, let's call
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it like the basic or the standard version of us. Like the standard version
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isn't quite cutting it. So let's start first with like, what is the
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thing, the next level, the next goal, the next whatever that we're
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going for. I think that would be really helpful to start with. And
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then we want to craft this archetype. Okay, we want to put together
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like, okay, what is the version of you that needs to be activated
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to be the type of person that gets or does the thing that you're going
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for? All right, So here are some things that I would love for
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you to consider when you're coming up with this. And you can come back
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and you can write these down or you know, whatever you want to do.
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But here are the type of questions that I would love for you to
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consider when crafting this version of yourself. Who is she? Right, Like,
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maybe you already have a name, maybe you already have an image of
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her. For me, when I think of this, I always think of
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like on Pinterest. If you sometimes you scroll through Pinterest and I'm like,
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oh my gosh, this this picture just it's just such, it's the vibe,
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you know, Like for me, it's more of a visual, it's
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more of a like, ah, that's it, right, Like, So
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for you, what is that? Who is this person? What motivates her?
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Like I want you to start considering these questions. What motivates this version
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of you? How does she move throughout the world? Right? Like?
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Is she? Is she fast? Like? Does she move super fast and
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confidently? Is she somebody who is more of like the slow and steady confidence?
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Is she somebody who I don't know? Like, like I just put
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how does she move? Like? I want you to really think about how
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this person walks through a room, how this person makes decay, how she
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speaks to people, how she likes to be spoken to, How does she
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think about specific things? So like like what are her thoughts and beliefs on
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money, on business, on relationships, on the ease of success or what's
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available to her? Or what her potential is? What is her vibe and
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an idea of life in general? What's her overall vibe? You know?
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Like, how does she dress? How does she maybe she has a signature
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scent? How does she eat? What are her standards? How does she
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take care of herself, Okay, Like I know there's there's like the healthy
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version of me who takes all of her supplements, is very aware and particular
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about the type of food that she eats and puts in her body. You
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know, Like that's not me all the time. I sometimes I wish it
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is, But on the weekends I don't. On the weekends, I'm more
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of like fun ally, So do you see what I'm saying? So like
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you want to kind of think about it in that way and get clear on
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those specific things and then go off like like go even more broad, even
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more specific if you want to. I think this would you know, if
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you're going to be using this for your business, it would be really helpful
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to think about, like how often does she show up in her stories?
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How does she show up in her stories? What type of content does she
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create? What are her prices? How does she feel about one on one
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offers or one too many offers or the type of business that you have?
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Now you know, like like it's a funnel. No, no, no,
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it's a filter. We're creating this custom filter that's all parts of you
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just a little bit tweaked. But when you shine light through it. When
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you shine or run a decision through it, it's going to come out differently
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than if you process it as that standard version of you, which is kind
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of cool. Right. So here's one thing that I really want you to
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pay attention to and realize. When we're curating this alter ego, this is
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you. Okay, we're not. We're not creating something outside of you or
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like another version of somebody else or anything like that. Like, it's so
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important for you to understand that all of these traits, all of these things,
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that is this person, that is this filter of this alter ego.
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She is in you. She is you. It's nothing outside of you.
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That's super important. And it's also very empowering because this it helps us to
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realize, or at least it's helped me to realize that the people that I
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admire that aren't me and that I look like and my alter ego can speak,
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but the people that I look up to and then I'm like, oh,
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man, I wish I was more like her in this way, or
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I wish I could be more like the way that she is about this thing
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or whatever. I can activate those same attributes, that same vibe within me.
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It's not going to create the exact same thing because it's through me.
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But that's so beautiful, Like that's actually such a gift. So I just
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want to reiterate, like, we're not this isn't outside of us, this
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is all in us. She's in there already. She just needs to be
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called forward. Now once you create this alter ego, now we want to
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be able to activate her, right, Like, this is the most important
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part when you need her. We need to be able to call her forward,
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right. You need to be able to snap into her so that you
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can do the thing in her way, or you know, whatever the situation
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is. So I made a list of different ways that I personally have done
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this myself or ways I've heard other people doing this. These are like little
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activators. These are really easy things. All of these things I believe are
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free to do. None of them require money. I could have gone into
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more expensive ways to do this, but I thought I would keep this easy
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because I want this to be so actionable that you can do this at any
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time. So let's go through a list of ways to tap into this baddie
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version of you anytime you need to. So, the first thing that I
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have on the list that I've done before, and I recently did again because
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I was talking on a podcast about how I've done this before and how it
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genuinely worked for me. But one way that you can do this is you
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can write a letter to yourself from the future. Okay, so I've done
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this in relationships, and that's that's the first time I ever did this was
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for when I was heartbroken and I was wanting to manifest my future boyfriend or
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you know, like a good man. I did this. I wrote a
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letter to myself from the future version of me who had that partner that I
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dreamed of, the one that was respectful and kind and handsome and all the
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things that I wanted in a dream partner. I wrote the letter to me,
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like, Hey, this is me. I'm you know, the version
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of you in your feature. You met the guy. He's this, he
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makes you feel like this, he's you know, he looks like this,
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and he's so great and blah blah blah blah blah. Go into all of
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this detail and you can go and you can read this every single day,
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or you can just like I did, put it in a drawer and forget
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about it and listen. I did this and months later, I kid you
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not, I met Chris, So this really does work. But I recently
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did this for business too, because again I was talking about this on a
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podcast and I was like, oh my gosh, I need to do this
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for business. I loved a journal about business, but I haven't. Actually
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I think I have wrote written future letters, but it's been a minute.
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So anyway, I did that recently, and now I have this routine where
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it doesn't matter the time of day, but I sit down, I pray
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kind of like get myself centered, and then I read this letter from the
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future version of me, who is saying, like, you did it,
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you hit these results, you've spoken on this stage, you've done this thing,
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you're this level of podcast blah blah blah. And it's something that I
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read every day and it just reminds me what I'm going for and that you
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know, because you're reading it as if it's happened, so you start to
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feel the feelings that it's happened, which is what we're wanting to do.
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Like anytime you're wanting to manifest anything or create something that's not here yet,
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you got to feel the feelings. Now. So that's one really really good
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way to activate this version of you is write yourself a letter from the future
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version of you who has done the things that you want, who's created the
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level of results, or met the guy or a woman, or you know,
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whatever the thing is that you're wanting to call forward in whatever part of
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your life. The next thing that is proven to help activate that baddie working
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out. So, however you prefer to sweat, There's something about movement.
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There's something about sweating and pushing yourself physically that just makes you feel more empowered.
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So my preferred method of working out is some form of weightlifting and maybe
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a little bit of cardo, mostly weightlifting, but yours could be pilates,
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it could be yoga, it doesn't matter. But that physical activity is a
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great way to activate whatever it is. Right, Like you're just like,
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as you're working out, think of that version of you, like look yourself
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in the eye in the mirror and realize, like again, that person's you,
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and decide when you get done working out, boom, it's done.
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Right, this is super helpful. I've found kind of on the same wavelength
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going on a power walk or a what I call a power drive. So
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and you've heard of what do they call them hot girl walks, which is
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basically just like walking around feeling empowered, maybe listening to music or some sort
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of whatever. I don't know exactly what all that entails, but you can
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create, like I think it would be a cool idea to create like a
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Batty playlist or whatever you want to call your alter ego. Create a playlist
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of songs that fit the vibe and the energy of this version of you,
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and then you can go on a walk listen to that music like that can
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be something that activates this version of you. I love doing this in the
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car if it's too hot or it's too cold. It's the movement. I'm
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telling you, there's something too movement to just like I guess it just moves
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your energy in general. And that's what we're wanting to do here when we're
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shifting from the standard version of us to another version of us. I've found
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that to be super helpful for me. Getting dressed for the day is very
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in line with my personal Batty. My personal Batty, she I mean not
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every day, like she loves a good workout outfit too, and you know,
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chilling some days. But like I don't know, I mean, you
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know, like if you follow me on Instagram, I love posting my outfits.
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I love getting ready for the day, Like something about that is activating
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for me. But that's my own personal batty, So what's yours. Your
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personal batty may feel like her most bad ass, confident, tapped in version
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without a stitch of makeup on, Like that's your thing. So this is
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going to look different for everybody, But for me, getting dress for the
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day is like that's an activator for me, putting my makeup on, doing
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you know, doing my hair, figuring out what the outfit of the day
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is, like that all is activating. Another way that you can do this
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too is taking a bath or a shower as an activation. I've heard that
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some people do this where while they're in the bath or wild they're in the
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shower, they're kind of like picturing washing off any kind of like block,
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any kind of insecurity, anything that you just feel like it is kind of
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a lingering funk, and then they visualize like when they step out of the
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shower, they step out of the bath, that boom they're activated. Boom.
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They're like that alter ego or that version of themselves. So sometimes I
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will do this too, Like, especially if I'm in a funk and it
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cannot be a funky day, I will go take a bath or whatever,
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and in my mind, I'm like, Okay, the second I step out
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of this bath, like I snap my fingers. Basically, you know,
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like I'm we're shifting. We're shifting out of the funk. We're shifting out
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of that heavy energy into something more light, and we're going to do the
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things that we need to do. Sexy time can be a great activator as
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well, whether that's with yourself or with a partner, that can be an
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awesome activator. Another thing that I like to do for myself is I have
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Pinterest vision boards that of like this archetype for me, you know, like
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like different outfits, different think of like a mood board, right, Like
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like if you had to create ooh this this actually could be a really fun
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activity for you just to like get super clear on this version of you.
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But you could create a board on Pinterest of images and clothes and things that
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are on the frequency and vibe of this person. So whenever you need to
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or you forget or you just need to like get into the feeling of it
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again, you can scroll through that board and it just it reminds you.
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So I have a few different of these boards that keep me motivated. And
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then the last thing that I have on this list, of course, would
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be something like meditating or visualizing. I've talked often about how I personally am
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not the best at meditating. I don't love meditating. But recently, what
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was it that got me into this? Oh? I know what it was?
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Okay, So you know how I said, I have Tara Marino.
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I had Tara Marino on this podcast, which please go listen to our episode.
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It was a few episodes ago and it was so damn good and you
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can hear her talk about the archetypes on there too. But I also was
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on hers and that's when I told the story about the future letter to myself.
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And we were talking after we recorded that episode, and she was the
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one she was like, you know what, I think I'm gonna write a
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letter for my business. We should do it together, and I was like,
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yeah, let's do it. So we both did it, you know,
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alone, in our own perspective homes, in our own time, and
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then shed boxered me. She was like, I am going to start doing
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this thing. I don't think she would care that I shared this here,
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but she was like, I'm gonna, you know, I'm going to read
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this for like twenty one days straight and meditate on it and do this whole
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thing. Would you like to do it with me? And I was like,
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yeah, okay, what are you doing? And basically she reads the
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letter and then she she meditates for like nine ish minutes and just like gets
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into the vibe and the energy and sees if she gets any inspired thoughts or
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downloads or nudges based on this future letter. So I've been doing that.
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I'm now what was today? I think I'm seven days in, which is
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the most that I have gone in a row, meditating and visualizing every single
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day, and it has been fantastic. So this is just I just like
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the whole thing. It takes me maybe fifteen twenty minutes tops, and that's
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on the long end, but I'll I like to do this in my podcast
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space because it's a tiny little closet and on my floor, I've got some
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crystals and Palisanto and some I don't know. I just have cute viby things.
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And I sit on the floor and I pull out my journal and I
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read the future letter, and I pray, and then I set a timer
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for somewhere between nine and eleven minutes and I just meditate. In part of
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it, I visualize like as if these things are happening, and then I
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just let my mind be quiet to see if any inspired action type things come
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through, right Like, not trying to make anything happen, just being And
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this has been a super powerful activator for me. That again, I've been
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doing it for a week now and I intend on doing it for at least
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twenty something days, So I'll report back on that. But it really doesn't
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matter, right Like when we're thinking of ways to embody activate, you know,
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just like call forward this version of you that again is already within you.
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It can be anything, So don't get caught up on what the action
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is, right Like I used to think that I had in order for me
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to be the most successful successful version of myself, I needed to like journal
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every day or again meditate every day, And that's not true. Sometimes you'll
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wake up and you're just like you're already activated, and that's great, And
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we certainly don't want to make it to where in order for us to be
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quote powerful or productive or whatever that we have to do, you know,
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jump through a bunch of hoops in order to be who we already are.
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So it might get to the point where you don't even need to do anything.
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You can just like decide and it's done. Like you may be able
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to do that right now, which why not. But if it's not that
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easy, there's of course this list of things to do to help you.
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So that's all that I have for you today. As I finish this,
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it is two twenty two. Make a wish and yeah, so if this
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was helpful for you, let me know. I would love to hear tag
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me in your stories if you listen and you want to share it, and
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let me know if you name your alter ego what her name is, because
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I think that could be really fun. But until next time, I will
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see you here next week. Bye,