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Are You Unknowingly Focusing on the Problem Instead the Desired Result · Intuitive Coaching with Amy Radio

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  Speaker 1: Hi had same you with intuitive coaching with Amy Radio.
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  Speaker 1: And this is your sacred space for spirituality, intuition, manifestation
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  Speaker 1: and metaphysical wisdom. Let's talk about it. Can't shame yourself
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  Speaker 1: into change. And this is coming from all the ways
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  Speaker 1: in which we try to motivate ourselves from the negative.
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  Speaker 1: I remember some years back, like in my twenties, I
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  Speaker 1: had a friend who put up a picture of herself
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  Speaker 1: with a pig's head, put a pig's head over her
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  Speaker 1: body and put it on her refrigerator to help her
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  Speaker 1: lose weight. And that never works, right. I did something
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  Speaker 1: recently and I thought it was I mean, I really
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  Speaker 1: thought it was being just aware, right, and I put
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  Speaker 1: it up, and really what I was doing was emphasizing
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  Speaker 1: the problem. And this can happen in really subtle ways.
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  Speaker 1: We think we can change from shame or making ourselves
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  Speaker 1: wrong or calling ourselves our attention to the problem, or
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  Speaker 1: being really focused on the problem. And I don't think
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  Speaker 1: that works. I don't think it works. I know it
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  Speaker 1: doesn't work. It actually, especially if you're pretty energetically aware,
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  Speaker 1: it can take you in a very different direction because
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  Speaker 1: you know how to whole energy and so you're holding
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  Speaker 1: the energy of the problem instead of focusing on the solution,
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  Speaker 1: which might be abundance and love and peace. So if
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  Speaker 1: you really want to create transformation, it comes from a
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  Speaker 1: place of peace. It comes from a place of yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I acknowledge what's going on, acknowledge what occurred, and find
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  Speaker 1: your way back into a peaceful state. So that might
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  Speaker 1: mean need to do some forgiveness work. It might mean
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  Speaker 1: you need to book a session with someone and talk
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  Speaker 1: about it. It might mean you need to be compassionate
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  Speaker 1: with yourself and really have a conversation where you say,
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  Speaker 1: it's okay, I get oh you made that mistake. It's okay,
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  Speaker 1: the world's not going to fall apart. You can figure
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  Speaker 1: it out. Transformation and really creating a result or healing
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  Speaker 1: something comes from just kindness and acceptance. My spirit guy's
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  Speaker 1: just splashed. What's the show it' son HBO. They're in
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  Speaker 1: the emergency room, you know, and I'm talking about the
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  Speaker 1: pit and those doctors are so kind, Like people come in,
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  Speaker 1: like you know, this last season is really graphic some
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  Speaker 1: of the things that came in with and they're just
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  Speaker 1: kind to them. Because the only way we're really going
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  Speaker 1: to heal, the only way we're really going to change
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  Speaker 1: something is with love and with care and with self
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  Speaker 1: respect and respect and attention. We're not going to heal
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  Speaker 1: anything from a place of the problem, the mistake, reliving
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  Speaker 1: the past, telling ourselves we should have known better. You
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  Speaker 1: need to resolve this. This is all going to fall apart.
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  Speaker 1: You're going to lose this. That doesn't work. You know
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  Speaker 1: it doesn't work. I think. I think awareness, Like you
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  Speaker 1: can't bury your head in the sand. If there's something
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  Speaker 1: that needs your attention, give your attention to it. But
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  Speaker 1: there's a way in which you can give your attention
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  Speaker 1: to it where it invokes a solution, or give your
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  Speaker 1: attention to it in a way in which makes the
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  Speaker 1: problem work, or make the problem appear bigger than it
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  Speaker 1: really is. And so don't beat yourself up, don't let
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  Speaker 1: yourself feel bad, don't feel shame. And I'm not saying
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  Speaker 1: you won't feel those feelings, but feel them and work
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  Speaker 1: through them. Like the thing I had done, I didn't
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  Speaker 1: realize it triggered. It wind up triggering anxiety for me,
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  Speaker 1: like really like anxiety, like old school don't know how
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  Speaker 1: to heal anxiety? What is this for me? And I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: how did it get to this level, right, and there's
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  Speaker 1: a whole you know, I you know what I had done.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't realize I had so much attached to it.
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  Speaker 1: It wasn't just you know, some some words on a page.
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  Speaker 1: Because I put on the wall, it had a lot
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  Speaker 1: more involved. And before I could even really do anything,
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  Speaker 1: I had to get back to center because it had
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  Speaker 1: thrown me so far off. I heard myself say I
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  Speaker 1: feel overwhelmed, and I literally that is not you know,
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  Speaker 1: I get you know, people feel overwhelmed. I talk to
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  Speaker 1: people all the time. They're like, Ay, it just feels
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  Speaker 1: so overwhelmed. That's not one for me. I feel other
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  Speaker 1: things and that are like my default kind of negative feeling,
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  Speaker 1: but overwhelm is a one for me I have. I
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  Speaker 1: have an incredible ability to hold a lot within me.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's the novelist in me, who you know,
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  Speaker 1: has to think about every little detail. But I can
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  Speaker 1: hold quite a bit. And so and with peace, like
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  Speaker 1: you know, like I I the filing system of my
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  Speaker 1: consciousness is in order. And so I heard myself saying,
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  Speaker 1: I just feel so overwhelmed. I just feel so overwhelmed,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm like, that's not normal for me. And I
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  Speaker 1: realized it was this thing I put on the wall
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  Speaker 1: that you know, I had. It was in support, you know,
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  Speaker 1: it was it was a part of a larger manifestation,
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  Speaker 1: but it really was emphasizing the problem, and so it
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  Speaker 1: was taking energy away from me. And I had to
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  Speaker 1: do a lot of practices to get back to center.
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  Speaker 1: But one thing I did know was the number one
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  Speaker 1: thing I did was acknowledge, I have to get back
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  Speaker 1: to center and I can't stay in this feeling of overwhelmed.
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  Speaker 1: I can't stay in this feeling of anxious. And I did.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I woke up in the middle of the
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  Speaker 1: night and I did a bunch of practices just to
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  Speaker 1: get myself back to center, just to get back to center,
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  Speaker 1: because I'm like, I can't create a result unless I
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  Speaker 1: get back to a base camp of feeling good, you know,
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  Speaker 1: And for me, it's usually peace, peace and light. And
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  Speaker 1: so i'd encourage you that if something's in your life
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  Speaker 1: that's causing you distress or fear or worry or doubt,
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  Speaker 1: or look around your experience and make sure you're not
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  Speaker 1: surrounded by something that is highlighting that issue. Make sure
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  Speaker 1: you're not having conversations where all you're doing is talking
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  Speaker 1: about the problem and the problem, the problem, the problem,
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  Speaker 1: well man, that can also bring your energy down. Be
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  Speaker 1: mindful of your thoughts or your thoughts focused on it's
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  Speaker 1: not working, it's not working, it's not coming together, it's
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  Speaker 1: probably not going to work out. Really be aware of
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  Speaker 1: what energy is circulating within and around you and if
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  Speaker 1: it's highlighting the problem or if it's supporting your success, possibility, abundance, love, peace,
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  Speaker 1: and even a vision board. You know, is your vision
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  Speaker 1: board aentation of where you're going, or is your representation
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  Speaker 1: of what you're running from or what you're trying to
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  Speaker 1: hear and fix. And yes, we can always heal and
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  Speaker 1: fix things from one hundred percent, but our focus can't
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  Speaker 1: be on that. We have to shift into possibility and
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  Speaker 1: the desired result. So are you focus on the desired
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  Speaker 1: result or you focus on what's missing, what's not there yet,
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  Speaker 1: because it will make a huge difference in what you
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  Speaker 1: will create and what energy you're putting out just even
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  Speaker 1: in a day to day and what energy you get back.
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  Speaker 1: The synchronicities, the small miracles, the winks from the universe,
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  Speaker 1: and hearing your intuition. For me, I got to the
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  Speaker 1: place where well, you know, I can get a call
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  Speaker 1: and read for a client a problem. That's my gift
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  Speaker 1: in my ability using my own intuition. I have to
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  Speaker 1: really sit down and I have a lot of practices
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  Speaker 1: to help me do that. And that wasn't coming together.
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  Speaker 1: And I was like, this is weird. And it was
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  Speaker 1: all just because I put this poster on the board,
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  Speaker 1: you know, with some numbers and names, right, so we
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  Speaker 1: focus on the end result instead of the issue, and
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  Speaker 1: you'll find that you can move towards what you want
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  Speaker 1: with these. So here's the thing. So I took the
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  Speaker 1: I was I had the board up for two months
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  Speaker 1: and with these you know, these things on it, and
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  Speaker 1: the end of first month, I was like, that was
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  Speaker 1: a weird ass month. I wonder if it's this a right,
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  Speaker 1: And so I took it down and rewrote it, and
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  Speaker 1: then I organized it differently, you know, I worked harder
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  Speaker 1: at it. I made a better poster, put it back
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  Speaker 1: on the wall, and then when I got to the
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  Speaker 1: end of this month, I was like, oh, I think
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  Speaker 1: it's that right, And so I put it on my
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  Speaker 1: desk and I was gonna like take some of that information,
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  Speaker 1: just put in my notebook and I was talking to
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  Speaker 1: somebody and was telling them, like, the last two months
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  Speaker 1: have just been crazy for me. And I told him
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  Speaker 1: I think it's this. I put this up and they
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  Speaker 1: were like, yeah, it's definitely that. That's emphasizing the problem.
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  Speaker 1: And then they were like, well, where is it now.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, it's on my desk. I can see
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  Speaker 1: it right now. They're like, no, get it out of
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  Speaker 1: your house. So I moved it, and I promise you
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  Speaker 1: something a manifestation. I've been waiting on the door open,
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  Speaker 1: the door open one behind that one, and that was
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  Speaker 1: just that. And so there's we're sensitive beings, right, and
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  Speaker 1: so but the laws of the universe are what they are,
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  Speaker 1: and you know, we're here to focus on where we're going,
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  Speaker 1: not on what's missing or where we've been or what
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  Speaker 1: didn't work out. So I pray this is helpful. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's pretty amazing. And you know, it was harmless what
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  Speaker 1: I did. I thought it was just harmless. You know,
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  Speaker 1: it wasn't. I wasn't even like full on shame myself
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  Speaker 1: like or anything like that. Like it was just more like,
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  Speaker 1: so you're aware, but I'm a very aware person. And
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  Speaker 1: that's the other thing is sometimes we're beating ourselves up
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  Speaker 1: for things and it has nothing to do with what
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  Speaker 1: we think it does. Like I was telling myself that
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  Speaker 1: these things were unresolved because and they need to be
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  Speaker 1: in front of me. But in truth, like you said,
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  Speaker 1: I can hold a lot of information very clearly that
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  Speaker 1: wasn't the issue. And so sometimes we're saying we think
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  Speaker 1: we know what the issue is when we don't. And
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  Speaker 1: that's where you need support. That's where you need to
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  Speaker 1: be willing to have a conversation, that's where you need
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  Speaker 1: to be curious, and where you need to be open,
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  Speaker 1: and shaming yourself keeps you from all of that. I
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  Speaker 1: was talking to a client that's I think he's having
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  Speaker 1: a little bit of a a little minor time management issue.
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  Speaker 1: More his mind has just made up some stories about something,
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  Speaker 1: and so he has a goal and then his mind
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  Speaker 1: has made up some stories about who can reach that
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  Speaker 1: goal or who he needs to be to reach that goal,
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  Speaker 1: and then combine with his time minor time management issue.
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  Speaker 1: Like he's a professional, obviously he can manage his time,
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  Speaker 1: and I think everybody can. Like we're always buying all
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  Speaker 1: these new time management tools, but it may not be
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  Speaker 1: time management, but it was keeping him from really showing
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  Speaker 1: up for himself, and so that was just a mindset shift. Right.
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  Speaker 1: We can make ourselves wrong and think, oh I did this,
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  Speaker 1: I did that, and it was just sometimes we've got
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  Speaker 1: so much junk circulating in our consciousness that doesn't support
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  Speaker 1: the desire that it can deeply get in the way
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  Speaker 1: of what we're up to and then as a result,
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  Speaker 1: trigger shame. So be mindful, Be mindful, Be mindful, be mindful,
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  Speaker 1: Be kind to yourself, and remind yourself that shaming yourself
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  Speaker 1: never works. Focusing on the problem never works. Making yourself
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  Speaker 1: feel bad never works. Telling yourself, well, this didn't come together,
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  Speaker 1: so that must mean something about you. It must mean
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  Speaker 1: it's not going to work. Never ever works. It leaves
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  Speaker 1: you stuck, It leaves you depleted, and if you do
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  Speaker 1: it for long periods of time, it can really stop
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  Speaker 1: the flow of your life. So forgive, be kind to yourself,
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  Speaker 1: focus on your desired result. Really check those stories. If
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  Speaker 1: there's some story that's limiting what's possible for you, check that.
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  Speaker 1: That can be hard to see. So I would say
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  Speaker 1: get some support around that and always believe that something
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  Speaker 1: wonderful is getting ready to happen. Something can come together
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  Speaker 1: at any moment and in the most beautiful and miraculous way.
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  Speaker 1: Cool listen, I know spiritual principles make sense as you're
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  Speaker 1: much for listening to the show. I pray this is helpful.
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  Speaker 1: I look forward to connecting with you on the next
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  Speaker 1: Take care of yourself. Goodbye,