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Loren talks Fashion Week, designers, inspiration + Cardi B says her man can have a female bestfriend · The Breakfast Club

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Speaker 1: Twist. I'm a homegirl that knows a little bit about
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Speaker 1: everything and everybody. I don't know if you don't lie
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Speaker 1: about that. Right, Hey, y'all, what's up. It's Lauren de
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Speaker 1: Rosa and this is the latest with Lauren de Rosa.
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Speaker 1: This is your daily dig on all things pop culture, entertainment, news,
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Speaker 1: and all of the conversations that shake the room. Now
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Speaker 1: a ton to get into. We have not been back
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Speaker 1: here in the studio for some days because Fashion Week
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Speaker 1: has been driving me insane. It's a good insane though,
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Speaker 1: so last season, last February, I think one of the
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Speaker 1: only things I did, or maybe I did two things.
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Speaker 1: I know, I walked in the Met Theeater show, shout
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Speaker 1: out to Gabrielle and the Met Feeder team, Met Theeater magazine.
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Speaker 1: I also attended a like just a few events. I
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Speaker 1: don't even know if that was fashion Week. For some reason,
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Speaker 1: the only thing I remember from fashion Week last season,
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Speaker 1: for those who don't know, would have been February of
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Speaker 1: twenty twenty five, and you know, would have been September
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Speaker 1: twenty five. It's a different season. And that just basically
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Speaker 1: means that the clothes on the runway that they're showing
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Speaker 1: our different seasons, so you're always showing a season ahead.
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Speaker 1: So right now, September twenty twenty five, this is the fall.
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Speaker 1: So on the runway, what we got to see all
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Speaker 1: of the fashion week shows that I've been to. Within
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Speaker 1: the last couple of days, they're showing us clothing for
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Speaker 1: spring summer twenty twenty six, and then in February they
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Speaker 1: were showing us what was coming for the fall. You
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Speaker 1: get where I'm going here. Okay, this for all my
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Speaker 1: people that are not fashion now I've been, you know,
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Speaker 1: out of studio, please go and visit my YouTube channel.
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Speaker 1: I know. We did do an audio only episode where
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Speaker 1: I broke down Harlem's Fashion Row, which was the show
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Speaker 1: that kicked all fashion week for me. Shout out to
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Speaker 1: Brandis and her team and foot Locker. Since that event,
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Speaker 1: we have done so much. I attended Sergio Hudson's show.
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Speaker 1: I talked about that a bit on the Breakfast Club.
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Speaker 1: I am a huge, huge, huge advocate for black Designersnumber one,
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Speaker 1: me being a person. You know, we don't have our
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Speaker 1: merch live anymore on the website, but me being a
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Speaker 1: person that designs myself that is into fashion. Myself, I
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Speaker 1: understand how much it takes to take fabric, to take
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Speaker 1: an idea, to take a concept, a mood, and an
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Speaker 1: inspiration board, and to make it a full line of clothing,
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Speaker 1: a collection. You know how much money it takes, how
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Speaker 1: much thought you put your babies out there into the world.
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Speaker 1: So you know, I champion up and coming designers in general,
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Speaker 1: just because you know, anytime I can give platform, I
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Speaker 1: love to because when I've been given platforms, It's changed
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Speaker 1: my life. So I try to do that as I
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Speaker 1: can for other people, but black designers specifically, because people
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Speaker 1: always ask me, where does my passion for fashion? Where
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Speaker 1: does it come from? My mother was a fashion designer.
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Speaker 1: She was here in New York for some years before
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Speaker 1: she moved to Delaware and had me. She actually decided
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Speaker 1: not to go and follow her fashion design dreams and
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Speaker 1: to move to Delaware, you know, get into flipping housing
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Speaker 1: and have me, and you just wanted to come to
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Speaker 1: create a stable life for herself. Because she had been
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Speaker 1: here in New York for some time. She had done
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Speaker 1: a few programs at FT, which is a fashion institute here.
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Speaker 1: She was actually selling clothing in a boutique and it
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Speaker 1: just wasn't I mean, she was doing well, but in
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Speaker 1: wanting to start a family from it, it wasn't what
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Speaker 1: she wanted. She hadn't accumulated enough to be comfortable enough
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Speaker 1: to bring kids into the world off of her creative
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Speaker 1: talent of design and clothing. So she turned that into
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Speaker 1: you know, let me buy property, let me design inside
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Speaker 1: of the property. My mom, you know, at one point,
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Speaker 1: was doing everything from land towles on the floor to
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Speaker 1: building out bathrooms. Like you know, she just took it
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Speaker 1: from one place to the other. But she needed stability.
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Speaker 1: And every time I hear her story, I know, she
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Speaker 1: tells me a story about, you know, almost being able
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Speaker 1: to go from the boutique that she was selling in
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Speaker 1: here in New York to putting clothing into Macy's. But
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Speaker 1: they wanted you to be able to pay for all
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Speaker 1: of your own inventory, and you had to have a
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Speaker 1: certain amount of inventory to be able to go in
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Speaker 1: the store. She didn't really know much about getting loan,
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Speaker 1: and you know, she just wasn't making enough to be
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Speaker 1: able to front that cost. So she decided to take
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Speaker 1: the money that she did have saved up go and
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Speaker 1: buy property and lean more into that. And I always think,
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Speaker 1: you know, when I see her sketches, when I see
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Speaker 1: how excited she gets about my friends who designed and
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Speaker 1: just different things that I'm doing. What her life would
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Speaker 1: have been like if she had been able to eat
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Speaker 1: off of And granted she she ate off of her
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Speaker 1: creativity to a certain extent, but she had been able
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Speaker 1: to eat off of being a fashion designer to the
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Speaker 1: extent where she was able to feel stable enough to
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Speaker 1: bring kids into the world and do that full time.
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Speaker 1: I always wonder what my mom's life experience would have
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Speaker 1: been like. Granted, all things work out under God in
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Speaker 1: the way that they're supposed to, but that is always
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Speaker 1: something I think about. And when I see how passionate
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Speaker 1: I get about, you know, clothing and putting together things
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Speaker 1: and designing things, like, oh my god, it wows me
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Speaker 1: to see how something like that can be passed on generationally.
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Speaker 1: And then I see it in my niece, like I
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Speaker 1: catch her like sketching things and she's she can just
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Speaker 1: do so much. And I always think, you know, what
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Speaker 1: that generational pass down would have looked like if my
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Speaker 1: mom had put that line in Macy's and that became
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Speaker 1: you know, the next big I don't know, gap or
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Speaker 1: H and M or whatever the case may be. Right,
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Speaker 1: So when I see young designers, especially young black designers,
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Speaker 1: I try and support as much as I can. I'm
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Speaker 1: actually wearing a designer right now. I post pictures to
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Speaker 1: my social media. For all of the audio listeners who
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Speaker 1: don't see me, can only hear me. And then for
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Speaker 1: those of you guys that are are looking at me,
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Speaker 1: you see me. I'm in a spec suit. The brand
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Speaker 1: is called Wesley New York. I was in a spot
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Speaker 1: yesterday after I left the Romeo Hunt fashion show called
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Speaker 1: Saint black On restaurant here in New York. It's in
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Speaker 1: the city, and when we walked in, there was a brand,
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Speaker 1: a guy in his team that had like a rack
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Speaker 1: of clothing set up and they were doing a pop up.
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Speaker 1: We were just in there eating, you know, eating all
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Speaker 1: the things. And I was gonna say, eat and drinking.
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Speaker 1: But who has been a minute since I had a
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Speaker 1: drink Simona's Fast. But yeah, we were there and he
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Speaker 1: recognized me from Breakfast Club and came over and said, hey,
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Speaker 1: you know, would love to give you some things whatever whatever,
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Speaker 1: And instantly I'm like, yeah, for sure. So this spetsuit
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Speaker 1: I've had on today, I wore this in our interviews,
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Speaker 1: you know, full show, just doing as much as I
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Speaker 1: can because I understand and I respect the hustle, and
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Speaker 1: I always think, you know, you give somebody that chance
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Speaker 1: to be able to provide for themselves, it's another chance
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Speaker 1: that they don't give up on what they're doing because
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Speaker 1: they need to provide to be able to do it.
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Speaker 1: So Fashion Week and you know, anything pertaining to that
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Speaker 1: is always near and dear to me because of all
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Speaker 1: the backstory I just told you guys, so you know,
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Speaker 1: just real quick checking in behind the scenes to the grind.
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Speaker 1: I am just feeling very grateful and very appreciative. I
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Speaker 1: was out at these shows that I was just talking
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Speaker 1: to you guys, or some of them. I was talking
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Speaker 1: to you guys about and you know, from Romeo Hunt,
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Speaker 1: who dressed me a lot when I was covering the
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Speaker 1: Diddy trial, to Sergio Hudson, who I met at the
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Speaker 1: Breakfast Club, who I've always been a really big fan of,
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Speaker 1: finally got to me. I literally fanned out the first time.
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Speaker 1: Soergio came to the Breakfast cause I'm like, y'all, do
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Speaker 1: y'all know who that is? But you know, to being
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Speaker 1: able to be at his show and He's one of
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Speaker 1: the big shows at shows at Spring Studios, which is
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Speaker 1: a you know, a venue that like all of the
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Speaker 1: popular shows are housed in during New York Fashion Week.
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Speaker 1: And while they're just you know, running into and seeing
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Speaker 1: so many different people, like I got to meet Junie Imbrose,
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Speaker 1: the stylist, I saw Mary J. Blige, Sherry Shepherd is there,
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Speaker 1: and Stephanie Mills is there. One of the girls from
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Speaker 1: Love Island walk the runway, Landria from Love Island walk
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Speaker 1: the runway, and just you know being out and about.
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Speaker 1: Like even at Romeo Hunt show, you had you know,
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Speaker 1: fabulous sit in front row, Bust the Rhyme sit in
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Speaker 1: front row. Da Vinci who plays Tea on BMF the
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Speaker 1: the fifty cent series sit in front row, row row
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Speaker 1: Timmy at the Romeo Hunt show as well. And I'm
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Speaker 1: front row and I'm looking around, I'm seeing all these
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Speaker 1: people and I'm just in my mind, Like God is
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Speaker 1: guy has such a funny way of reminding you that
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Speaker 1: whatever it is for you, whatever realm, whatever conversation, whatever
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Speaker 1: creative juice you think the world should be feeling from you,
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Speaker 1: will always find its way to the forefront. And I
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Speaker 1: was just in you know, these last couple of days,
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Speaker 1: I've been really appreciating the latest with Laurna Rosa and
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Speaker 1: you know all my low Riders, a tune in the
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Speaker 1: Breakfast Club as the platform and just what has been
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Speaker 1: able to do, you know for me, but it enables
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Speaker 1: me to do things for other people, like go to
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Speaker 1: these shows and talk about the shows, so people know
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Speaker 1: who these the designers are and know how dope they
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Speaker 1: are and where they're It's just I've had that's been
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Speaker 1: my experience at fashion Week, Like, yes, we got all
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Speaker 1: of the craziness. You know. I love seeing the stars
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Speaker 1: out and I love seeing you. I saw Kids, Supper Returned.
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Speaker 1: They had a show here in New York. Lauren Hill
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Speaker 1: was there. Buster Romes was also there as well too.
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Speaker 1: I saw Actively Black. They did a show where they
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Speaker 1: brought out Free and AJ and doctor Bernice King who
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Speaker 1: was the daughter of Martin Luther King Junior and Malcolm
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Speaker 1: Ex's daughter. They just pay tribute to so much legacy
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Speaker 1: and so much blackness. I'm probably forgetting some people, man,
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Speaker 1: I did so much. Oh foot Locker, shout out to
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Speaker 1: foot Locker. They had a dinner celebrating all of the
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Speaker 1: muses of New York and I was invited to that
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Speaker 1: and you know, just the room. It was a very
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Speaker 1: hand selected room. The women I met that night were amazing.
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Speaker 1: The dinner was fire. So shout out to you know,
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Speaker 1: foot Locker and Nike and Worthy of the marketing team
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Speaker 1: over there. It's just been a really good Oh. I
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Speaker 1: won't also want to shout out hbcun Y who brought
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Speaker 1: me out to do several events over the weekend as well,
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Speaker 1: and they had a Foobu fashion show that they allowed
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Speaker 1: me to introduce, you know, just bringing the game into
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Speaker 1: fashion week. I thought that that was really smart as
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Speaker 1: well too. It's just been a really grateful couple of days.
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Speaker 1: And I'm a grateful person. I'm always giving things to God,
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Speaker 1: and y'all hear me talk a lot about just where
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Speaker 1: I've come from, what I've been able to do. But Lord, yes,
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Speaker 1: like these last couple of days has made me grateful
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Speaker 1: for everything. I even found myself one day just sitting
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Speaker 1: and being grateful for I mean, I've always been grateful
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Speaker 1: for my journey at TMZ, but being extremely grateful for it,
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Speaker 1: like beyond words grateful for it, just like thinking about
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Speaker 1: how God has put me in positions that I couldn't
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Speaker 1: even have dreamt of, nor could I ever just applied
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Speaker 1: for as a job, you know what I mean, Like
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Speaker 1: just really great positions that have prepared me for like
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Speaker 1: next steps. When I ran into Sherry Shepherd at Sergio
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Speaker 1: Hudson's show, you know, she was pouring into me. It
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Speaker 1: was really fast, but we got to talk of it,
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Speaker 1: and she did this when she came to the Breafast
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Speaker 1: Club too. But you know her words were like, and
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Speaker 1: keep doing what you're doing, but you know, remember that
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Speaker 1: this is going somewhere for you. What you do and
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Speaker 1: how you do it, as you hone it, as you sharpen,
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Speaker 1: this is going somewhere for you. And I know it's tough.
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Speaker 1: Y'all see the Breakfast Club and y'all see the things
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Speaker 1: that we do there, and I don't think people unders then.
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Speaker 1: Coming from a newsroom, I'm used to having a team
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Speaker 1: for the producers who also do what I do, reach
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Speaker 1: out on news break stories. I'm used to having a
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Speaker 1: full developed research team that corrects you on everything from
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Speaker 1: pronunciation to factual checks to they keep you up to
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Speaker 1: date in the moment they're yelling and screaming things out
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Speaker 1: as they change video editors like the team and the
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Speaker 1: dynamic is so different. What I love about the Breakfast
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Speaker 1: Club is, you know, we're a smaller team, but we're
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Speaker 1: all learning together. They're teaching me about radio and how
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Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club has been able to be the engine
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Speaker 1: it has been for the last fifteen years, and I'm
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Speaker 1: teaching them. You know, my perspective coming from a newsroom,
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Speaker 1: but a lot of those safeguards I don't have anymore.
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Speaker 1: So I don't have in ears in with you know,
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Speaker 1: producers feeding me information and all of that. So when
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Speaker 1: I'm on air, when I'm preparing my stories, it is
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Speaker 1: just me. The pressure of that. Lord y'all don't understand.
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Speaker 1: And it for I would say, right before I started
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Speaker 1: this fast, which is what pushed me into the fast,
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Speaker 1: it has started to get to me. Like when I
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Speaker 1: would mess up, I would be so on my head
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Speaker 1: about it for weeks and weeks and week. It would
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Speaker 1: throw my energy off in the room, and you know,
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Speaker 1: just so many things. And I think that's natural. I
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Speaker 1: think as platform grows and your notoriety grows, and you know,
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Speaker 1: if you really care about what you do, like I'm
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Speaker 1: an artist, like people are like, oh, you're a journalist.
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Speaker 1: I'm a storyteller, right. I can tell stories across many
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Speaker 1: different verticals. This is just where you guys are meeting
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Speaker 1: me right now. But because I care about this, and
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Speaker 1: because I care about that, I take everything to heart.
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Speaker 1: Not that I harp on what people say, but more so,
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Speaker 1: it's just like I've learned things at a set standard
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Speaker 1: that I want to keep it at, but also want
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Speaker 1: to go above that. So whenever i feel like I'm
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Speaker 1: not doing that, I do get really hard on myself.
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Speaker 1: And she was reminding me. She literally said to me,
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Speaker 1: Sherry Shepherd said to me, I know you don't have
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Speaker 1: everything behind you. I know when that might goes up,
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Speaker 1: it's just you and it feels like that and even
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Speaker 1: it and I'm like, well, no, I got producers. She's
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Speaker 1: like yes, but for what you do, it's very hard
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Speaker 1: to have a team that you know is fully trained
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Speaker 1: the way you are trained. And now that I'm in
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Speaker 1: the talk show space, I understand that. Like it. It's different.
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Speaker 1: When you turn on that mic, it is you, When
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Speaker 1: you prepare that segment, it is you. The responsibility of
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Speaker 1: that is very very heavy, but take it and stride.
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Speaker 1: You can't be perfect things will happen, but remember you
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Speaker 1: are going somewhere. Don't let it stop you. And she
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Speaker 1: was just telling me that, you know, I'm doing a
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Speaker 1: really good job and stuff like that matters to me
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Speaker 1: so much because again, I care about this. This is
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Speaker 1: my career, this is going to be you know, this
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Speaker 1: is this is this is my thing, this is one
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Speaker 1: of my things. But this is the vehicle that's gonna
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Speaker 1: get all the other things moving. But also too, It's
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Speaker 1: just you know, when you see people doing things at
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Speaker 1: a heighten a level where you want to get to
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Speaker 1: you listen, like, you know, I want to remain a
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Speaker 1: student forever. But I don't know. I just went on
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Speaker 1: that tangent Lord Have mercy, but that was a bit
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Speaker 1: about Fashion Week. Yeah, I just I'm grateful for the invites.
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Speaker 1: There was a lot of like shows that we wanted
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Speaker 1: to RSVP for or RSVP Ford and didn't hear back.
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Speaker 1: Like we didn't get into the Wang Show, which was
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Speaker 1: kind of crazy to me because I work a lot
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Speaker 1: with Alexander Wang. But there was a lot of things
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Speaker 1: that we didn't get to do firsthand. But the things
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Speaker 1: that I did get to do, it was like God
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Speaker 1: had me everywhere I was supposed to be and looking
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Speaker 1: good while doing it. Okay, couldn't ask for nothing better
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Speaker 1: but to be preordained and covered and favored by God
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Speaker 1: and look good while doing it. Okay, Clockett, That's all
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Speaker 1: you can ever ask for. So you know, fashion week
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Speaker 1: was fire. But yes, we have not been in studio.
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Speaker 1: I've been doing a lot of my recap videos for YouTube.
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Speaker 1: Make sure you check those out. It's Laura the Rosa
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Speaker 1: TV on YouTube. All of my fashion week stuff is
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Speaker 1: there and across my socials. Speaking of fashion week, Cardi
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Speaker 1: went uptown. She you know, took it back to the
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Speaker 1: bodegas during fashion week, and tons and tons and tons
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Speaker 1: of people came out. There were thousands and thousands of
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Speaker 1: people out there, yo, Like it was like Michael Jackson Mayhem,
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Speaker 1: like the days of like real superstar celebrities, Like you
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Speaker 1: can't even walk down the street. It was insane. But
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Speaker 1: while out there, there was a content creator who asked
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Speaker 1: Cardi a question and I thought her answer was kind
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Speaker 1: of like very emotionally mature, and I want to figure out,
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Speaker 1: you know, do y'all agree with her? Because I slightly
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Speaker 1: agree with her. Let's take a listen. Would you let
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Speaker 1: your boyfriend have a girl best friend, Yes, because it's
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Speaker 1: like sometimes you need advice from a female. So when
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Speaker 1: you fuck up, a female's gonna tell you the children
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Speaker 1: where you puck up. When me and him have issues, Okay,
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Speaker 1: I can take me out the hood. I see trying
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Speaker 1: to make it out. I was about to go back
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Speaker 1: in the hood. If y'all buy my Hunble Child. Cardi
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Speaker 1: B has been pushing his album and She and Today
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Speaker 1: actually uh, it's two forty six pm Eastern end of
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Speaker 1: time on November November, sho I wanted to be my
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Speaker 1: birthday so bad. September fifteenth, In about fifteen minutes, Cardi
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Speaker 1: B's interview with Kelly Rowling will drop and I'm just
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Speaker 1: going Carti B is killing the rollout. Has always done that,
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Speaker 1: Like Carti has always been very conscious of her rollouts.
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Speaker 1: I will say though her rollouts, like for instance, a
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Speaker 1: rollouts she did for invasion or privacy, I felt like
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Speaker 1: that was like, I mean, she's always been touching her fans,
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Speaker 1: stays on social all that, but that was very high level,
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Speaker 1: like it was all of the visuals and the photo shoots,
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Speaker 1: and you know, she does her thing every time she
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Speaker 1: hits any season or any location at Fast Week. This
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Speaker 1: feels like Carti felt like in her mind she needed
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Speaker 1: to get back. She's been connected with her fans, but
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Speaker 1: like she needed to like touch the people for real,
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Speaker 1: for real. So she has all the photo shoots, the
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Speaker 1: you know, all of the all the things I just said,
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Speaker 1: the fashion week stuff and all that. She's been running
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Speaker 1: around Fashion Week as well. I saw her and culture
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Speaker 1: at Alexander Wang, you know. I saw her also at
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Speaker 1: the Galore magazine party with Tokyo Styles. I was actually
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Speaker 1: at that party. But this feels like old school Carti
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Speaker 1: set the camera up, get back outside. That's literally what
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Speaker 1: this feels like. And it's working, and it's honestly showing
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Speaker 1: and reminding people why we love Carti, but also what
17:25
Speaker 1: superstardom really feels like, right, Like when people feel like
17:29
Speaker 1: they know you, but like they can't touch you or
17:32
Speaker 1: get to you, like the old school celebrity way. It
17:35
Speaker 1: feels like that and I love to see it. But
17:38
Speaker 1: getting back to her answer, so, originally, when I heard
17:41
Speaker 1: this audio and I heard her answer, I'm like, yes,
17:45
Speaker 1: I have two male best friends that I don't even
17:48
Speaker 1: call them like my best friends. I call one of
17:50
Speaker 1: them my best friends. But to be honest with you,
17:52
Speaker 1: like we family, Like those are my brothers, Like we
17:55
Speaker 1: are family for real. It's been years of us being
17:58
Speaker 1: family and like you know, knowing each other's lives and
18:01
Speaker 1: you know, all the things. And there are a lot
18:04
Speaker 1: of times where even if my opinion is not asked,
18:08
Speaker 1: because I'm good for inserting something where it's not asked,
18:12
Speaker 1: do I have to pause that? No, I don't gotta
18:15
Speaker 1: paused that because I can insert things if they okay. Yes,
18:19
Speaker 1: But a lot of times I'm in their business, and
18:22
Speaker 1: even if I'm not purposely in their business, maybe I
18:24
Speaker 1: overhear something or they mentioned something. As a woman, I react,
18:29
Speaker 1: And I've always been very honest with them about because
18:32
Speaker 1: here's my thing as a woman who's been in relationships
18:35
Speaker 1: where I was being lied to, I was being cheated on,
18:39
Speaker 1: I was being you know, under not appreciated, I wasn't
18:43
Speaker 1: being you know, taught what I wanted to learn or
18:45
Speaker 1: being led. But also as a woman being in a
18:48
Speaker 1: relationship who hasn't always been right either, Like I've lied
18:52
Speaker 1: as well, I've cheated as well. I've been you know,
18:55
Speaker 1: not the best partner as well. I begin to realize
19:00
Speaker 1: is you know, the it appreciate the male perspective in
19:05
Speaker 1: my life. So I give them my female perspective very honestly,
19:08
Speaker 1: because even when they don't want to hear it, I
19:10
Speaker 1: know they appreciate it because I'm the same way when
19:12
Speaker 1: they tell me something. So you know, there's been situations
19:16
Speaker 1: where my male friends will mention things or say things
19:19
Speaker 1: and I'm like, wait, what you did, what you said,
19:22
Speaker 1: what you responded to her? Like, especially when it comes
19:25
Speaker 1: to their like, you know, relationships and like, you know,
19:28
Speaker 1: one of my best friends is engaged, should be married. Like,
19:31
Speaker 1: There's been a lot of times where I've had to
19:34
Speaker 1: be like, yeah, I feel you, but like I don't
19:36
Speaker 1: really feel you though, because as a woman, here's where
19:39
Speaker 1: that's coming from, and you're never going to see or
19:41
Speaker 1: understand this perspective. So I'm gonna give it to you.
19:43
Speaker 1: And another thing too, is I think you know when
19:46
Speaker 1: you hear that, there's a lot of people who will
19:47
Speaker 1: say I'm my business. I don't get involved in my friends' relationships,
19:50
Speaker 1: and to a certain extent, I do, especially certain friends.
19:53
Speaker 1: But if it's a relationship that I feel like there
19:56
Speaker 1: is progression within, there's a chance for growth you know
20:01
Speaker 1: there's a change, and especially if the person wants the information,
20:04
Speaker 1: that's where I insert it. And a lot of times
20:05
Speaker 1: it's like, as a man, even if you have the
20:09
Speaker 1: greatest relationship with your partner, with your wife, with your girlfriend, right,
20:15
Speaker 1: you may not hear things the way she needs you
20:19
Speaker 1: to hear it. You may not. And even if you
20:22
Speaker 1: hear it, like I'm not talking about the physical act
20:24
Speaker 1: of hearing something. I'm talking about hearing to comprehend, understanding,
20:27
Speaker 1: and have empathy or feel. A lot of times men
20:31
Speaker 1: don't do that and women do the same thing. I
20:33
Speaker 1: learned from having male friends that women we are horrible
20:37
Speaker 1: at really understanding are men. And really, I was gonna
20:44
Speaker 1: say taking care of our men, but I know the
20:46
Speaker 1: women listening to that, like, girl, what taking care of
20:48
Speaker 1: our men? What? No? I mean taking care of our
20:50
Speaker 1: men as in not even nurturing. I think that naturally,
20:54
Speaker 1: as women we nurture. But just oh, Charlemage's wife said
21:02
Speaker 1: the perfect thing to me one time, being it's a
21:05
Speaker 1: safe space, providing a safe space and being there and
21:08
Speaker 1: showing up for them just as people. A lot of
21:11
Speaker 1: times I think women we deal with men as the
21:17
Speaker 1: men we've been programmed for them to be. We've never
21:20
Speaker 1: learned how to really take care of a man, that is,
21:23
Speaker 1: you know your men, right, like a lot of us haven't.
21:25
Speaker 1: And even if we have by your mom, your grandmother, whoever,
21:29
Speaker 1: you relearn and unlearn a lot of things because your
21:31
Speaker 1: men and your household is conducted completely different than what
21:34
Speaker 1: they're used to right. And when I say that, I
21:37
Speaker 1: mean like I was having a conversation and one of
21:41
Speaker 1: the things she said to me. I was talking about,
21:42
Speaker 1: you know, some things, and I think you know, me
21:44
Speaker 1: and Bay were we were back and forth about something,
21:46
Speaker 1: a little argument, and the first thing she said to
21:49
Speaker 1: me was, but are you creating a safe space though?
21:52
Speaker 1: And I had to think about it and I'm like, yeah,
21:54
Speaker 1: you know, I think I am. And she's like, well
21:56
Speaker 1: you thought about it? What was the hesitation? I was like,
21:58
Speaker 1: you know, I had to think about what, say space
22:00
Speaker 1: is even supposed to look like and feel like. I
22:03
Speaker 1: know what I want my safe space to look like
22:05
Speaker 1: and feel like. But I'm not a man. I'm not
22:07
Speaker 1: dealing with the things that he deals with in the
22:09
Speaker 1: world every single day. So I had to really sit
22:11
Speaker 1: back and like think about, like, you know, what are
22:13
Speaker 1: some of the things that are happening in his life
22:15
Speaker 1: right now, What are some of the things that he's
22:16
Speaker 1: dealing with on a day to day You know what
22:19
Speaker 1: am I hearing him talk about complaining about? Or just
22:22
Speaker 1: where are the spaces that I feel like there's a
22:24
Speaker 1: void of like you need the support or sometimes not
22:27
Speaker 1: even just support like an action, but just like somebody there.
22:32
Speaker 1: And I think that's the biggest thing with having platonic
22:35
Speaker 1: male and female relationships. And I think that's what Carti's
22:37
Speaker 1: speaking to. It's like as a woman when I'm telling
22:40
Speaker 1: my guy friends, no, she needs you to pull up
22:43
Speaker 1: this way. No, here's what she meant by that. Her
22:45
Speaker 1: delivery might have been messed up, her delivery might have
22:48
Speaker 1: been overly emotional. She may be not appreciating you well.
22:52
Speaker 1: But here's where that's stemming from. It's not okay, but
22:55
Speaker 1: here's where that's coming from. And here's the best way
22:57
Speaker 1: to go about having a conversation about it that it
23:00
Speaker 1: doesn't cause more issues. Easier said than done when an
23:03
Speaker 1: ain't your own situation. But I've been able to do
23:06
Speaker 1: that in real time and it's helped. And I do
23:09
Speaker 1: think that you notice the difference in men not even
23:12
Speaker 1: that have female like best friends, but just active female
23:16
Speaker 1: relationships in their life that are healthy, so like with
23:19
Speaker 1: their mother, with their sister, with their aunts, with their cousins.
23:22
Speaker 1: Like there's a big difference in men and how they
23:28
Speaker 1: protect women, how they listen to women, how they and
23:31
Speaker 1: I think a lot of men too, they're only like
23:34
Speaker 1: women were only programs, in my opinion, or I know,
23:37
Speaker 1: at least, I was only programmed to view a man
23:40
Speaker 1: a certain way, to view a man by what he
23:43
Speaker 1: can do, how much he can do it financially, physically,
23:48
Speaker 1: how much he can do like you know, around the house,
23:50
Speaker 1: that type of thing, and like just you know, like
23:52
Speaker 1: the leader of the household. Like, but all those things
23:54
Speaker 1: have so much weight on them. I've never ever been
23:57
Speaker 1: taught to look at a man like a human who
23:59
Speaker 1: has feelings, who may be we who may not can't
24:01
Speaker 1: do ever I had to learn and I'm still learning
24:04
Speaker 1: that a bit, Like I'm still figuring that out and
24:08
Speaker 1: what that looks like for me in a relationship and
24:10
Speaker 1: how I continue to see the man at superman even
24:14
Speaker 1: when he's vulnerable and allowing him space and say space
24:18
Speaker 1: to be able to do that. But that comes from
24:19
Speaker 1: male friends. When I be seeing my male friends go
24:21
Speaker 1: through things with women, I'd be like, Yo, does she
24:23
Speaker 1: not know you're? Like how dedicated to her you are,
24:27
Speaker 1: how much of a good man you were, how much
24:28
Speaker 1: you're trying. And when I see stuff like that, it
24:31
Speaker 1: makes me think about how I am on the other
24:33
Speaker 1: side as the woman dealing with a man. So those
24:36
Speaker 1: perspectives are important, in my opinion, very important. Now, I
24:40
Speaker 1: will say I get a little weary with the whole
24:42
Speaker 1: bestie brother, with that whole thing, because women be lying
24:47
Speaker 1: and men be full of shit. Okay, I'm not with
24:52
Speaker 1: all of the like sneaky like. I can't I don't know,
24:55
Speaker 1: I can't get with that. I do think that as
24:57
Speaker 1: a woman, my whole thing is is if you have
24:59
Speaker 1: female friends, I need to meet them. I need to
25:02
Speaker 1: be around them, because one thing a woman knows is
25:05
Speaker 1: her man. I can tell and I'll always ask, have
25:09
Speaker 1: y'all had any type of relationship? Has there ever been
25:11
Speaker 1: any conversation, any flirtation, any even if physically you guys
25:15
Speaker 1: have never done anything. Has there ever been anything? Because
25:17
Speaker 1: the men, I pick up on something and you done
25:19
Speaker 1: told me something different, it's a rap. You can tell
25:23
Speaker 1: There's so much you can tell by how people interacts.
25:26
Speaker 1: This is men or women, by the advice that woman
25:30
Speaker 1: best friend is giving a man, by you know, how
25:33
Speaker 1: they interact in person. There are so many different ways
25:35
Speaker 1: that you can pick up on certain things. So that's
25:38
Speaker 1: my whole thing. I just want to meet these people,
25:41
Speaker 1: be comfortable with the situation and you know, all the things.
25:43
Speaker 1: But once I'm comfortable and I know that this is platonic,
25:46
Speaker 1: I can trust it. I'm all for you know, the
25:49
Speaker 1: female relationships, if they're healthy, if they add to like,
25:53
Speaker 1: you know, the growth and the progression of what you're
25:55
Speaker 1: trying to get to. Because I do think that men
25:58
Speaker 1: sometimes don't hear women fully, and I think women don't
26:00
Speaker 1: hear men fully sometimes. So sometimes you need you know,
26:03
Speaker 1: you need your allies in the room. You need allies
26:05
Speaker 1: anywhere you go. You need advocates anywhere you go. And
26:07
Speaker 1: sometimes that's that's just what it is. Now real quick,
26:16
Speaker 1: as we wrap up, I do want to give a
26:18
Speaker 1: shout out to the Emmys. I did it full Emmy's
26:20
Speaker 1: recap this morning on the Breakfast Club and there was
26:24
Speaker 1: a lot that went down really quick. In case you
26:26
Speaker 1: missed it, miss Feliciervshad gave a amazing opening speech in
26:32
Speaker 1: memorial of Malcolm Jamal Warner. And this was not in
26:35
Speaker 1: the opening of the show. This was in the opening
26:38
Speaker 1: of the tribute segment. So at the toward the end
26:40
Speaker 1: of the Grammys she opened it up and the imagery
26:43
Speaker 1: of just you know, miss Felicia for Shad and Malcolm
26:46
Speaker 1: Jamal Warner standing behind her, and and you know the
26:48
Speaker 1: words she was sharing, and then it went into the
26:50
Speaker 1: full tribute for him and other people that the television
26:54
Speaker 1: and film industry have lost this year. Man, it was,
26:58
Speaker 1: it was, it was. It was a good trip. It
27:00
Speaker 1: really was. Now. One of the things I didn't talk
27:02
Speaker 1: about in the Breakfast Club when it comes to the
27:03
Speaker 1: Emmy was the Boys and Girls Club initiative that they
27:06
Speaker 1: championed the whole night. Now, I'm not gonna lie. At first,
27:10
Speaker 1: I was like, this is tragic. Why do they get
27:13
Speaker 1: these kids here parading them around? Like what is going on?
27:19
Speaker 1: Like why are they doing this? So and there were
27:21
Speaker 1: mixed reactions online. So Nate bargets, is that how you
27:25
Speaker 1: say his name? Wow? That's so crazy. I said his
27:27
Speaker 1: name right here. When I said it earlier, I could
27:29
Speaker 1: not get that name right. Nate Bargets, who is SNL
27:32
Speaker 1: alum comedian, hosted the seventy seventh Emmy Awards this year
27:36
Speaker 1: in La Right, So when Nate opens the show, he does,
27:41
Speaker 1: you know, his opening mindologue, They do the SNL thing,
27:44
Speaker 1: and he comes on and he's like, look, I have
27:47
Speaker 1: a way to keep people's speeches short. So he begins
27:51
Speaker 1: to then tell us, and what his way was. He says,
27:54
Speaker 1: I'll donate one hundred thousand dollars to the Boys and
27:57
Speaker 1: Girls Club at the end of the night if we
27:59
Speaker 1: can keep our speed is short. Now, granted, keeping speech
28:02
Speaker 1: is short at an award ceremony is what you want.
28:05
Speaker 1: I will tell y'all. I watch the Emmys. I watch
28:08
Speaker 1: anytime I'm going to report on something, I want to
28:10
Speaker 1: watch it as much as I can. I watched the
28:13
Speaker 1: MS last night. It was a very hard watch. And
28:15
Speaker 1: I don't mean because it was emotional. I mean it
28:18
Speaker 1: was long and it was born as hell. I tried
28:21
Speaker 1: my hardest to like be into it. There were certain
28:26
Speaker 1: points that I got into and there were certain points
28:29
Speaker 1: that I just I could not get into. Right now.
28:32
Speaker 1: There was one part of this where you know Nate
28:34
Speaker 1: is talking about everything he's gonna do for the Boys
28:37
Speaker 1: and Girls Club, And the point was the speeches needed
28:40
Speaker 1: to be forty five seconds or less. Whenever the speech
28:44
Speaker 1: went over, he was going to deduct one thousand dollars
28:47
Speaker 1: from the money that he was donated to the Boys
28:48
Speaker 1: and Girls Club, which was cringey to me because I'm like, bro,
28:52
Speaker 1: you know, everybody goes over and their speeches at the
28:55
Speaker 1: Emmys or at any award show. Why are you gonna
28:57
Speaker 1: taunt these kids like that, Like like so, you're just
29:00
Speaker 1: gonna deduct money that they need right in front of
29:02
Speaker 1: their face. They also had JB. Smooth there as a
29:06
Speaker 1: part of this initiative, who is Boys and Girls Club alum?
29:08
Speaker 1: He is on their you know Hall of Fame Hall
29:11
Speaker 1: of Fame on their website as well, and JB's Smooth
29:14
Speaker 1: was a part of, you know, just talking about what
29:16
Speaker 1: they were doing throughout the full night. So you know,
29:20
Speaker 1: there were a few times where people were coming right
29:22
Speaker 1: under or they would notice that they were going over
29:24
Speaker 1: and they would stop. Like there was one point where
29:26
Speaker 1: seth rogen got to like thirty nine seconds and it
29:28
Speaker 1: had to stop. Like people were being very conscious of
29:30
Speaker 1: it because they didn't want the money to be taken away,
29:33
Speaker 1: but by the end of the night there was money missing.
29:37
Speaker 1: It was in the negative. But the good thing about
29:41
Speaker 1: this though, was that CBS. At the end of the night,
29:44
Speaker 1: Nate ended up announcing that CBS was actually donated one
29:46
Speaker 1: hundred thousand dollars to the Boys and Girls Club, and
29:49
Speaker 1: then he personally put in two hundred and fifty thousand
29:51
Speaker 1: dollars to the initiative as well, So they walked away
29:54
Speaker 1: with three hundred and fifty thousand dollars donated to the
29:57
Speaker 1: Boys and Girls Club. I love anything that has a
30:00
Speaker 1: purpose behind it, especially Boys and Girls Club initiatives. I'm
30:03
Speaker 1: also a Boys and Girls Club baby. We spent a
30:06
Speaker 1: lot of time there. You know. It's just things you
30:08
Speaker 1: needing your neighborhood like that, a place for kids to
30:10
Speaker 1: be wearing safe and they can, you know, commune and
30:12
Speaker 1: fellowship with other children. So shout out to the Emmys
30:16
Speaker 1: for that. Although I dang there, fell asleep multiple times.
30:20
Speaker 1: I think Tina Fey was her part was good at well.
30:22
Speaker 1: I was. I was on my way to sleep while
30:25
Speaker 1: watching it, and I heard Tina Facey the Beehive gonna
30:28
Speaker 1: be mad at her and that brought me back. That
30:30
Speaker 1: one brought me back because, by the way, I feel
30:33
Speaker 1: like Beyonce or Kendrick Lamar deserved out a word over
30:36
Speaker 1: SNL fifty. I know SNL is a major institution, developed
30:42
Speaker 1: a lot of talent, brought a lot of talent, but
30:44
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you right now, I don't think SNL
30:46
Speaker 1: fifty was that good to win over the other two
30:51
Speaker 1: things that were in the running forward, you know, Kendrick
30:55
Speaker 1: Lamar and Beyonce. Hot take here. Let me know how
30:59
Speaker 1: y'all feel. Take it to the streets. In the tweet,
31:01
Speaker 1: we outside, were outside, were outside? Okay every other page
31:06
Speaker 1: because I don't believe so, but Tina Fey kept me,
31:08
Speaker 1: She kept me alive. I woke back up when I
31:10
Speaker 1: saw that, and thank god I did, because then I
31:12
Speaker 1: got through the rest of the show, was able to
31:14
Speaker 1: see the three hundred and fifty thousand dollars plass the
31:16
Speaker 1: Boys and Girls Club, wrapped it up, and was able
31:18
Speaker 1: to wake up this morning and talk about it. So
31:20
Speaker 1: God is good all the time and all the time. Sophie,
31:23
Speaker 1: y'all know the end of that. Oh y'all, Sophie, go ahead, Sophie.
31:29
Speaker 1: Sophie got it okay, And all the time they're like, well,
31:31
Speaker 1: why you're surprised. Sophie is white, so I didn't know
31:34
Speaker 1: if she would know, but she got it though all
31:37
Speaker 1: the time. God is good, y'all. I'm gonna wrap it
31:39
Speaker 1: up right here. This has been the latest with Laura
31:41
Speaker 1: La Rosa. At the end of the day, there is
31:44
Speaker 1: always a lot to talk about, and y'all could be
31:46
Speaker 1: anywhere with anybody talking about it, but you got shoes
31:48
Speaker 1: to be right here with me, My lowriders. I will
31:51
Speaker 1: see you in my next episode.