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Hypnosis to Face Your Worst Fears with Confidence and Optimism. · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities CE OS and even royalty Adam Cox, these
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  recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's world
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  famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Let me ask you a question. What is your absolute worst
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  fear? Another kind of imaginary fear,
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  like monsters and ghosts. I'm talking about real,
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  plausible fears, even if they're unlikely.
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  Adam here. And this session is all about
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  facing your worst fears because I was working with a client and
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  their worst fear was being publicly exposed for being a
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  fraud. Here's the interesting thing.
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  Even though they were remarkably successful in their industry,
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  they were one of the most successful people I've worked in
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  getting to the very top of their industry, regularly featured on
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  TV, winning awards. And yet they felt this real
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  sense of imposter syndrome that they could be exposed, they
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  could be judged harshly. So at its core, this is what
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  that session is all about. It's about facing the very the
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  worst and feeling like, well, if you can handle the worst that
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  could possibly happen. Anything less than that is going
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  to be a walk in the park. So I want you to think of what
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  is the absolute worst thing and rather than what if that
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  happens, you think, well, even if that happens, I'd still be
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  OK, I can handle it. And the more you think in terms
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  of even if rather than what if, the more resilient you are.
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  The phrase what if is a strategy for anxiety, even if is a
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  strategy for resilience. And what you tend to find is the
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  people that avoid things because they're worried about what if
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  something bad happens have more anxiety than the people that
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  think, well, yeah, it might not go perfectly, but even if it
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  doesn't go perfectly, I'm still going to be better off.
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  And sometimes that does link to this idea of you either win or
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  you learn, which is one of my favorite belief systems.
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  So think about your worst fear. Listen to some of the
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  suggestions here, but try and steer and and build the story in
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  your own mind of facing your very worst fear in an empowered
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  way. And by doing that, you're going
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  to find that when you return back to what's more plausible
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  fears, they don't seem so daunting.
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  So I'd encourage you to do that. And for now, to get the best out
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  of this session, just find a nice, quiet, comfortable place
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  where you won't be distracted or disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in that wonderful feeling of calm
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  relaxation. And as you exhale, feel a
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  wonderful feeling of release, as if any fears and worries and
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  tension is just melting away and leaving your body in your
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  outward breath. And when you breathe in, breathe
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  in that feeling of resourcefulness, feel the
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  resourcefulness going in through your nose into your lungs, and
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  just imagine your heart pumping that resourcefulness to every
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  cell in your body in the same way that it does with oxygen.
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  And you can't will your heart to pump oxygen.
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  It just does it and it requires no effort for you to exhale
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  carbon dioxide. So just imagine the resourceful
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  feeling is going to every cell in your body, and any old ideas,
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  limitations, beliefs that aren't real anyway, any echoes of
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  worries, Just feel that it's leaving your body just like the
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  carbon dioxide in an outward breath.
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  And because you're breathing in something resourceful, make that
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  breath deeper. And because you're exhaling
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  something no longer desired, make the outward breath longer
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  than it normally would be until your lungs are completely empty.
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  And then you breathe in that feeling of resourceful
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  relaxation. And the deeper you breathe, the
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  more relaxed you feel. And the more relaxed you feel,
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  the deeper you breathe. As your body relaxes, your
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  imagination awakens. And I want you to imagine.
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  Imagine your own private cinema. But since it's your own
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  imagination, let's make it somewhere that feels appealing.
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  Maybe you could imagine a private yacht, and on that
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  private yacht is a room with your own cinema, or maybe a
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  penthouse suite on the very top floor of a skyscraper with views
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  over a city or maybe somewhere else.
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  Just use your imagination to imagine something that would be
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  special, desirable, empowering, and just imagine in that place
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  is your own private cinema, something modern, something
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  stylish or opulent or relaxing in some way, and just imagine
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  you've got that room all to yourself.
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  People are fascinated by things they fear.
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  There is a reason that people will watch a horror movie, a
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  movie about violence. Fear equals fascination.
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  And here's the interesting thing about fear.
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  When you avoid it or run away from it, it follows you.
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  When you're willing to confront the fear, it disappears.
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  And I want you to imagine on that large cinema screen that
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  you have all for yourself. I want you to imagine a
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  scenario, a scene, a scene of harsh judgement.
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  I want your imagination to imagine that you are an actor on
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  the screen. And I want you to imagine the
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  very harshest that you could be judged.
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  Maybe you make a mistake. Maybe you have a freeze
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  response. Maybe you say something silly or
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  inaccurate. Allow your imagination to show
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  something that would be mortifying, humiliating,
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  embarrassing, something that other people could judge or
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  criticize. And I want you to make peace
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  with that possibility. Not because you want it, simply
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  because the moment you feel that even if that catastrophic,
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  humiliating, embarrassing thing happened, you could still handle
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  that. You could still wake up the next
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  day. Your life still has value.
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  You can still live life on your terms.
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  Well then it means you have inoculated yourself from the
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  very root cause of fear. Because anxiety is based on a
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  false premise that you can't handle the thing or the
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  consequences. And the moment you create a
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  belief that you can, paradoxically, the anxiety
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  reduces and the probability of that very thing you wouldn't
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  want to happen reduces. It doesn't increase the
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  probability just because you've imagined it.
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  Imagining that you can handle the thing or the consequences
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  means that your brain doesn't need to be on high alert.
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  It doesn't need to be vigilant or over prepared.
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  Imagine you are the observer of this scene.
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  But also the director. Imagine seeing yourself do that
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  thing that could be cause for harsh judgement.
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  And yet imagine that version of you dealing with it gracefully,
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  with humility, elegance, professionalism.
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  And if you could imagine different variations of that
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  scene in such a way where you can either handle the thing or
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  the consequences, let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. And then think of one more
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  scenario like that. Maybe it's the same people, same
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  environment, but maybe a different response, or maybe the
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  same type of response but a different scenario that causes
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  it. And I want you to get a feeling
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  that that version of you can handle that outcome and then
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  rewind it and then think, what could you do in the event that
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  that thing happened? Some people would call that a
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  contingency. But if that thing happened, you
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  could reduce the possibility or probability by doing something
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  subtly. Maybe it's saying that you feel
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  nauseous and need to go to the toilet grabbing a glass of
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  water. Maybe you see that version of
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  you coughing at the very point where words don't seem to be
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  coming. I want you to get a sense that
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  once you've reconciled the worst, then allow your mind to
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  figure out ways to consider all eventualities and then mitigate.
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  Knowing you can handle the worst just means that this this is
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  forward planning. Think of how many flights you've
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  been on and on every flight. They gave a.
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  Safety demonstration telling you where masks and airbags are, but
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  not once have you had to use them.
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  And I want you to think of the masks and airbags for this
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  situation, not because you're expecting it and not because
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  you're wanting it, just in case. And when you figured out how to
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  mitigate that possibility so that even if it happens, you
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  could reduce the probability of any undesirable consequences,
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  let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. And now change the channel on
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  that big cinema. And instead of a scene of
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  judgement, I want you to imagine a scene of conflict,
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  confrontation. Allow your imagination to show
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  you your worst nightmare. Maybe it's being confronted
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  publicly, maybe it's being attacked on your character, your
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  credibility, or something else. And just imagine.
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  Imagine that version of you doesn't want that, but if needs
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  be could handle that and every time you see a scene, rewind it
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  and change it slightly. All the iterations and
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  variations all seem manageable. The confrontation itself and any
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  consequences and what you could imagine dealing with that worst
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  case scenario, just as the observer seeing yourself on that
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  screen, let me know by nodding your head
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  and then rewind it. And then think of those
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  contingencies that if you were confronted, if someone did want
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  conflict, what could you do to deescalate?
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  Maybe it's to be curious, maybe it's to ask a question, maybe
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  it's to find some kind of common ground, or maybe something else.
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  Just allow your imagination to show you just how many ways
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  there is to take that conflict, that confrontation, and make it
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  different, perhaps even playful or silly or something else.
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  Some people actively want conflict and confrontation.
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  It gives them permission to articulate things that they know
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  how to say. Some people want a confrontation
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  because they know exactly how to dial it down.
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  And if you could imagine different ways to mitigate or
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  manage this worst case scenario, let me know by nodding your
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  head. That's it.
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  And we need to get a belief that comes from this, that if you can
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  handle and manage these worst case scenarios and by definition
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  you can handle everything that is less than these things.
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  This is training at altitude for resilience.
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  Even if these things happened you can handle, it means that
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  you can handle everything up to these things, which then means
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  that everything becomes a lower stakes situation.
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  It becomes no big deal, becomes manageable.
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  And paradoxically, the more you seek out these things that
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  you've been avoiding, the more you build a belief that you have
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  the resources to handle it. And each time that belief gets
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  stronger, you'll feel more confident and any anxiety or
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  worry becomes more elusive. Your brain is interpreting how
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  to feel based on what you do when you request to speak.
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  Anxiety gets less When you want to speak first.
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  Anxiety gets less when you invite disagreement.
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  Criticism. Your unconscious comes to the
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  belief that you can handle disagreements.
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  Differing opinions. And each time you become more
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  and more resilient. Just imagine on that screen
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  seeing yourself one year from now doing something in such a
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  calm, confident way that Once Upon a time would have put you
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  on edge, but in the future seems well within your grasp.
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  Consider this a post hypnotic suggestion that these changes
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  here will seek a chain reaction. You will move towards the things
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  you've been avoiding. Anxiety becomes more elusive.
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  A part of you wants these worst case scenarios to happen so that
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  you can banish the demon and it never returns.
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  There's a part within you that wants to hold the tarantula so
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  that the spiders aren't scary. And in doing so, you build a new
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  belief. A belief that these things that
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  used to haunt you no longer bother you.
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  When the belief changes, the emotions also change.
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  Allow the beliefs to change from I can't handle this to what?
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  If that thing did happen, I could totally handle it.
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  I'd be fine. And then imagine dialing down
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  all of the physical sensations that bothered you in the past.
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  Just feel less and less and less.
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  And then imagine leaving that cinema but seeing something that
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  looks like a thermostat right by the door, but instead of it
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  showing temperature, it shows confidence and optimism.
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  And see the number that they're currently on, a number between
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  1:00 and 10:00. And just dial it up a few
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  notches for either of them. If it's a 5, get it to an 8.
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  If it's a 7, get it to a nine. If it's a nine, dial it up to
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  A10. And just feel that optimism and
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  confidence are now higher than it was before as you leave that
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  room. And maybe you could imagine
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  looking out around you, the ocean, the cityscape or
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  something else. And then imagine it's time to
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  float all the way back to the present, taking these wonderful
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  feelings with you. New ideas a bring it on
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  attitude. So take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  Connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I now count
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  from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 waking up 456 more alert 7-8.
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  Open your eyes. Open your eyes. 910.
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  Wide awake. Wide awake.
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  Wide awake. Thank you.
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