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380. Vision Boarding & visualisation: what is it & how to practice it effectively · Do You F*cking Mind?

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  Speaker 1: I love beautiful beans and welcome to the podcast episode
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  Speaker 1: of Today. If you're watching the video of this, I'm
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  Speaker 1: actually standing on Pitt Street in Sydney because Shanai and
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  Speaker 1: I are physically taking you through our vision boarding for
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  Speaker 1: the day. We were sitting at a cafe. We got
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  Speaker 1: like hectic into Pinterest. We've put pinterest fucking photos into
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  Speaker 1: canvas and now we're going to print them at beautiful Officeworks.
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  Speaker 1: Sorry for the hectic noises of the city with like
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  Speaker 1: chains and alarms, but follow us as we go into
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  Speaker 1: office works and prean some photos. I'm so excited. Welcome,
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  Speaker 1: Welcome to office works. Is it going to open up? Okay,
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  Speaker 1: we're here. Everyone's looking at me like, oh my fucking god.
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  Speaker 1: If you're watching the video, you can understand. But if
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  Speaker 1: you're not watching the video, I'm so embarrassed right now,
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  Speaker 1: and get it, get it, get it all right. We're
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  Speaker 1: going to the photo printing station or in office works.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just browsing the aisles doing a pirouette. We're going
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  Speaker 1: to the printing section and we're just going to find
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  Speaker 1: like the best way to print. We're thinking like big
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  Speaker 1: sheets of photos. In camp we put like all the
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  Speaker 1: photos next to each other on sheets, and then we're
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  Speaker 1: going to print it out as big sheets, and then
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  Speaker 1: we're going to cut them up and stick them on
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  Speaker 1: like cardboard. We're doing three vision boards today. We're doing
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  Speaker 1: one for Shanized Personal life, love so Much, one for
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  Speaker 1: my personal life, and then we're doing one for like
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  Speaker 1: the business, the podcast, all of that. So you're going
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  Speaker 1: to get an insight into obviously our personal lives and
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  Speaker 1: what we want for next year, but also like a
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  Speaker 1: big insight into like the business for next year. I'm
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  Speaker 1: so excited. Station turned. We're just going to try and
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  Speaker 1: printing our own photos here. I'm very technologically incompetent, so
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  Speaker 1: I'm also talking really quietly into the microphone because I
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  Speaker 1: who on what planet is coming into Office's with the
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  Speaker 1: microphone a bond for everyone. So we nearly finished with
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  Speaker 1: the photo printing and that was the easiest thing in
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  Speaker 1: the world here at Office Works. Also, this is not
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  Speaker 1: spum from Office Works. However, Office Works. If you're listening,
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  Speaker 1: you should sponsor me because we're out here singing your
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  Speaker 1: fucking praises. It's so fucking easy, isn't it should I Anyway,
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  Speaker 1: we're finishing our selection. It just automatically knows what orientation
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  Speaker 1: the photos are and whila, we are picking up the
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  Speaker 1: photos from the counter. We did get a warning saying
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  Speaker 1: that some of them would be very low resolution, but
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  Speaker 1: I'm willing to take the risk. We're getting fifty nine
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  Speaker 1: prints out of this order extreme behavior here at office works.
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  Speaker 1: Fifty nine prints. Okay, so that's printed for way more
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  Speaker 1: than I thought, like when you physically have it. We've
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  Speaker 1: got the three, We've got work Shanaia Alexis. Now we
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  Speaker 1: need some big ass cardboards and we need glue. We
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  Speaker 1: can't forget the glue. Okay, We're going to go to
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  Speaker 1: the QVB to find a patch of space. We're gonna
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  Speaker 1: sit down and do our vision boards and all be
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  Speaker 1: well in the world. Sane. It's cold, Oh it's fresh.
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  Speaker 1: It's raining on us. I can't handle there. This is
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  Speaker 1: a rainy girl, fake summer walk to the QVAB. It's
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  Speaker 1: not brat summer. It's like plain Jane summer. Right now,
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  Speaker 1: I've arrived at the potential location for our vision boarding.
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  Speaker 1: The architecture is inspirational, so I feel like, when inspired,
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  Speaker 1: you vision board better. Don't vision board in a dungeon, guys.
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  Speaker 1: It's not good for the soul. We are at the
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  Speaker 1: Express Library, which we had no idea existed, but it
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  Speaker 1: is like this tiny fucking library in the middle of
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  Speaker 1: the CBD. But we found a desk. We tried to
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  Speaker 1: go into a cafe. We're like, is it so obnoxious
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  Speaker 1: to go into a cafe with like a huge posters
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  Speaker 1: and like forty five thousand print in out photo. So
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  Speaker 1: we're like, that's just we're not we are not that.
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  Speaker 1: So we're in this little, tiny Express Library at town Hall.
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  Speaker 1: I can't give you the address because I don't want
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  Speaker 1: to give it away because you could fit like two
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  Speaker 1: point five people in here. Anyway, we have a table
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  Speaker 1: and we are beginning with our moods, so we have
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  Speaker 1: just these are all just place healthy. I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: have to glue them down. But we've got a nice
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  Speaker 1: array of all different things. So for the vision board,
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  Speaker 1: I've decided to put in everything for the business for
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  Speaker 1: next year. So for example, I've got ideas for more
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  Speaker 1: merch like mugs and different key things and things like
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  Speaker 1: that color ways that we're kind of leaning into. I've
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  Speaker 1: also got one of my favorite podcasters, she's French Lennamfth.
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  Speaker 1: She's fucking vibe. So I just want to channel her
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  Speaker 1: energy a bit her with a massive billboard. That will
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  Speaker 1: be me. I'm want to start doing retreats next year.
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  Speaker 1: Stay tuned. This is us just like you know, packaging
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  Speaker 1: the merch and sending it out to people, just me
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  Speaker 1: being a boss bitch with the podcast, just taking it
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  Speaker 1: to the fucking next level. How the office is gonna look.
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  Speaker 1: I want to go heavy into like really cool vibes
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  Speaker 1: in the office. I really want to lean in and
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  Speaker 1: make it like a space that when I walk in
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  Speaker 1: it's like, oh my fucking god. What else. I'm want
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  Speaker 1: to start doing supper club nights as part of the
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  Speaker 1: podcast and the Business and Mindset Recreation Club. We're taking
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  Speaker 1: the podcast to Paris next year. We're taking the podcast
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  Speaker 1: to London next year. I'm saying this because we're doing
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  Speaker 1: it and New York. We didn't ever fart of New York,
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  Speaker 1: so that looks like New York. And we also had
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  Speaker 1: some like live show photos, so we're gonna have to
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  Speaker 1: print more and do the second one for like live
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  Speaker 1: show and things like that because we're going to do
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  Speaker 1: heaps of live shows next year. So this is kind
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  Speaker 1: of where we're at oh and Humman. I really want
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  Speaker 1: to interview humanman. And we also had like Stephen Bartlett,
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  Speaker 1: but with that photo didn't print. Gonna have to do
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  Speaker 1: a second board for more photos. But this is where
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  Speaker 1: we're at right now and we're loving it so much.
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  Speaker 1: In socks, definitely doing socks so we have the finished product.
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  Speaker 1: Don't even talk to me. This is the best thing ever.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to go through it properly when we're in
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  Speaker 1: the office. But okay, now we're going to work on
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  Speaker 1: our personal ones, so we're gonna lay out Shanai as
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  Speaker 1: a personal mood board. Stat tuned.
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  Speaker 2: Hello guys. This my cameo first type monipod, So pretty
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  Speaker 2: much the energy going into twenty twenty five. It's giving
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  Speaker 2: clear skin City VI Beach because I love going to
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  Speaker 2: faster beautiful beach. We're going to move back to the
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  Speaker 2: city because I love that spot in the city. We're
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  Speaker 2: going to go to Europe. We love Paris, so we've
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  Speaker 2: included some Paris vibes. I would love to get a
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  Speaker 2: sausage dog, my favorite dog ever. Skincare you know we're
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  Speaker 2: coffee like a coffee cafe. Harping marchers. Veino's taking pics
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  Speaker 2: with friends that kind of vibe and then also loved.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm going to channel that and actually this year,
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  Speaker 2: you know, like, look how glamor she looks. For those
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  Speaker 2: viewing the podcast, yeah, I love it.
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  Speaker 1: So we're back. As you've probably noticed, many things, many things.
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  Speaker 1: Days have passed since the last vision boarding session because
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  Speaker 1: then I had to go to the hairdresser and anyway,
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  Speaker 1: long story shot, where now in the office, and it's
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  Speaker 1: been about a week. My nails are gone, ripped them
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  Speaker 1: all off. And what also has gone. If you're watching
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  Speaker 1: the video, you will see that instead of the beautiful
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  Speaker 1: fluffy microphone cover, I have a dead cat dead cat
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  Speaker 1: on my microphone, but it's more like a dead rat
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  Speaker 1: because it's a lot smaller. I lost my microphone cover
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  Speaker 1: in Melbourne. Didn't even use it. I just took it
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  Speaker 1: down there. I don't know why, but I had my
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  Speaker 1: microphone in Melbourne. I was only going for three days
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  Speaker 1: and low and behold, someone now is in possession of
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  Speaker 1: my microphone cover and I am not okay, So now
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  Speaker 1: I look like I'm just wielding a dildo around while trying. Anyway,
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  Speaker 1: let's just get straight into it. We're gonna do my
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  Speaker 1: personal vision pot. We're gonna like, look, recap. This is
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  Speaker 1: my vision board. I mean, this is the business vision board,
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  Speaker 1: Dona beautiful. Then we've got Shanaia's vision board just as stunning.
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  Speaker 1: Lots of water. She's in her water era, water and coffee.
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  Speaker 1: It's just coffee and water. Look at that, there's one, two, three,
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  Speaker 1: four coffee, wine, wine. It's just beverages and water. She
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  Speaker 1: knows what she wants, she's clear with her intentions. If
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  Speaker 1: the universe doesn't deliver that, then vision boarding doesn't work. Okay, cool,
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  Speaker 1: let's start with mine. Okay, so we finished my personal
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  Speaker 1: vision board, and then we're going to put all vision
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  Speaker 1: boards up so Shani and I can look at them
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  Speaker 1: every day. But this is my personal one. We're going
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  Speaker 1: to go through it. So we've got if you're watching,
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  Speaker 1: then obviously you can see this. You can imagine it
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  Speaker 1: so much more. We've got a lot of travel as usual,
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  Speaker 1: so we've got you know, drinking wine clearly somewhere in Italy,
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  Speaker 1: I think Paris. Obviously, I really want to do a
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  Speaker 1: snow trip. I want to be jumping off a boat
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  Speaker 1: at some point next year. Water Formula one. I want
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  Speaker 1: to go to a Formula one. Somebody get me to
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  Speaker 1: a Grand Prix. Melbourne would be epic anywhere around the world.
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  Speaker 1: I don't care if you've got hookups like there's I
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  Speaker 1: will do whatever it takes. Okay, So there's that again.
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  Speaker 1: More travel. I'd love to go to New York when
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  Speaker 1: it's cold. Doesn't have to be in the middle of Christmas,
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  Speaker 1: but I just would love to go when it's cold.
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  Speaker 1: Then we've got I want to write, and this is
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  Speaker 1: the first time I'm announcing this. I want to write
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  Speaker 1: a fiction book like a psychopath. Okay, like a creative writer.
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  Speaker 1: What the fuck? So that's there, Australian Open. I already
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  Speaker 1: know I'm going, but I just thought i'd put it
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  Speaker 1: on there because vibes romance, dancing with Tyrone every night.
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  Speaker 1: Just we're in love, okay, which we already are, but
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  Speaker 1: I'm just more more of that. Okay. Then she's so cool.
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  Speaker 1: I love her aesthetic, love her so much, so we
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  Speaker 1: more of her. Then we've got reading outdoors after swimming.
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  Speaker 1: We've got this beautiful energy. What is that? Lots of
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  Speaker 1: rom coms, cool aesthetic at home and in the office.
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  Speaker 1: I want to have dinner parties lots of dinner parties.
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  Speaker 1: I want to project her and I want to be
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  Speaker 1: watching movies. I love her asthetic vibes, good times, lots
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  Speaker 1: of coffees, more kind of Nancy Meyer's energy in the home,
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  Speaker 1: if you guys know, Nancy Meyer's films, all the rom coms,
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  Speaker 1: everything that I love so much. So that is my year.
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  Speaker 1: I think I need to do a part two with
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  Speaker 1: another board because there's so much I want to do.
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  Speaker 1: But yes, part of this episode is going to be
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  Speaker 1: me talking through kind of wrapping up the rest of
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  Speaker 1: the year and how vision board and the importance of
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  Speaker 1: like visualization and vision boarding and how to do it.
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  Speaker 1: So just keep listening basically since since Okay, so we
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  Speaker 1: are now here sitting on my couch on the DYFM
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  Speaker 1: beautiful comfortable couch, and we're going to continue the episode
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  Speaker 1: from here. So we are talking about vision boarding, okay,
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  Speaker 1: And we're talking about vision boarding. And also you can't
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  Speaker 1: talk about vision boarding without talking about visualization. I have
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  Speaker 1: done an episode on kind of like the neuroscience of visualizations.
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  Speaker 1: I'll be touching on some of those topics from that
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  Speaker 1: episode that came out. I think, like I want to say,
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  Speaker 1: a year ago But anyway, we're going to be touching
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  Speaker 1: on some of those things. But I want to talk
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  Speaker 1: about how to vision board in a way that is
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  Speaker 1: not only going to be effective, but it's also going
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  Speaker 1: to feel really good. It's going to help you stay
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  Speaker 1: on track with your goals, with your new routines, with
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  Speaker 1: your new habits because of how you are approaching things.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm going to explain why it's so important to
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  Speaker 1: have visual representations of those things, because why is it that,
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  Speaker 1: like photos are so powerful when it comes to your
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  Speaker 1: desires and your goals and things like that and the
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  Speaker 1: image that it represents and all of the above. So
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  Speaker 1: let's talk about it. So the first thing I want
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  Speaker 1: to do is kind of go over the science of visualization.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to kind of like talk about it. I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to talk about the different benefits that you get
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  Speaker 1: with visualization. Then we're going to talk about how to
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  Speaker 1: vision board, and then how to practice visualization with your
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  Speaker 1: vision board good times. Now let's start with the first bit.
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  Speaker 1: So the first bit is the science of visualization. So
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  Speaker 1: how visualization works in general is that the brain in
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  Speaker 1: certain aspects of how the brain operates, not in every
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  Speaker 1: aspect obviously, but it sometimes in certain areas struggles to
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  Speaker 1: kind of differentiate between really vividly imagined experiences and real
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  Speaker 1: life events. And I think we can all relate to
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  Speaker 1: that in a sense when we have felt anxious, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: there is no with a lot of times when we
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  Speaker 1: feel anxious, there is no immediate real threat, but our
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  Speaker 1: body is behaving as if there is. Okay. So that
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  Speaker 1: just gives you an insight into how we can imagine
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  Speaker 1: put ourselves in the shoes off. Think about imagine if
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  Speaker 1: you start to thinking about something really sad, like my
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  Speaker 1: best friend live, she only just has to contemplate what
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  Speaker 1: it would be like with her dog dying, and she's sobbing, like,
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  Speaker 1: oh my god, I can't even imagine what it would
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  Speaker 1: be like. Okay. So so often just imagining something we're
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  Speaker 1: very good at imagining, and it can be so so
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  Speaker 1: real that our body starts to really feel as if
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  Speaker 1: it is actually happening. Okay. That happens with good things,
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  Speaker 1: with anxiety, with funny things. When you're recalling events, when
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  Speaker 1: you're thinking about future events, the brain sometimes makes it
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  Speaker 1: makes it so real that we actually experience those emotions
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  Speaker 1: in that moment. Okay, when we visualize, we actually activate
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  Speaker 1: specific pathways within our brain that are strengthening our association
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  Speaker 1: with that thing. Okay, Now, there's many different pathways in
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  Speaker 1: the brain that can be activated. One major one is
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  Speaker 1: the motor all the motor pathways throughout the whole body. Now,
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  Speaker 1: I've spoken about this idea of like visual motor rehearsal,
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  Speaker 1: and there's good ways of doing it and not so
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  Speaker 1: good ways of doing it. But there's studies that have
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  Speaker 1: been done when people visualize practicing something, whether it's playing
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  Speaker 1: the piano or shooting a basketball through a hoop, or
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  Speaker 1: you know, doing a peril a dance pairro weet, doing
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  Speaker 1: like a physical movement. The asterisk here is that you
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  Speaker 1: actually have to know how to perform that movement properly
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  Speaker 1: before you continue to then visualize and practice in your mind.
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  Speaker 1: But those who could do the movement properly that then
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  Speaker 1: went on to actually just practice through visualization versus the
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  Speaker 1: group that practiced physically, you saw the same benefits of
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  Speaker 1: very very similar benefits versus the control group that learned
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  Speaker 1: how to do the thing and then didn't do anything after. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: So through this visual motor rehearsal, again, like I said,
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  Speaker 1: you have to know how to actually do it. I
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  Speaker 1: can't sit here and visualize playing the piano amazingly if
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  Speaker 1: I don't actually know kind of the ground rules of
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  Speaker 1: how to actually play the piano and then sit on
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  Speaker 1: a piano and sit out a seat and be able
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  Speaker 1: to play the piano properly or do a pirauid or whatever.
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  Speaker 1: So there has to be a basic understanding of the
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  Speaker 1: foundations of that thing. But once you have that to
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  Speaker 1: then rehearse and rehearsal rehearse in your mind actually starts
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  Speaker 1: to strengthen this visual motor kind of link within the body. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: so you see visualization being strengthened strengthened in that way,
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  Speaker 1: But visualization or imagination or imagining as if is also
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  Speaker 1: really strong when it comes to your mental strength, your tenacity,
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  Speaker 1: your willpower, other things in life that are not necessarily physical.
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  Speaker 1: So imagining that you can process a difficult conversation a
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  Speaker 1: lot calmer instead of snapping, say someone that always snaps
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  Speaker 1: and always gets really angry. If you can imagine yourself
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  Speaker 1: in that scenario but visualize yourself deal with it in
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  Speaker 1: a completely different way. The more you visualize yourself doing that,
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  Speaker 1: you're going to notice that you can then start dealing
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  Speaker 1: with these situations a lot better. That's why journaling is
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  Speaker 1: so important because it gets especially uncognitive behavioral therapy. It
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  Speaker 1: all comes down to visualizing something as being different. So
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  Speaker 1: when you journal, one of the things in cognitive behavioral
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  Speaker 1: therapy is you'll be journaling how something went down, and
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  Speaker 1: then you will write how it could have gone down
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  Speaker 1: or how you could approach that thing differently. So, for example,
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  Speaker 1: if you got into a scenario where you snapped and
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  Speaker 1: got really angry, you would journal about it, explain what
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  Speaker 1: you felt, what you were going through, and then you
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  Speaker 1: would journal what it could look like in the future.
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  Speaker 1: And the future I could interpret it this way, I
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  Speaker 1: could do this, I could take a few breadths and
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  Speaker 1: this and that, and because you're imagining, then all of
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  Speaker 1: a sudden, that's how you approach it in the future.
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  Speaker 1: So really, really, really fucking interesting. Okay. So that obviously
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  Speaker 1: this practice with physical, with emotional, with everything, it's going
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  Speaker 1: to enhance your confidence, is going to reduce your stress,
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  Speaker 1: it's going to prime your brain to be prepared for
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  Speaker 1: things a whole lot better. Now. Also, I've touched on
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  Speaker 1: this in the past, but I'll touch on it again
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  Speaker 1: the role of the reticular activating system, so the ras
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  Speaker 1: RaaS it's basically filters incoming information based on its relevance
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  Speaker 1: to what you are priming yourself to be exposed to
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  Speaker 1: or to look for or whatever. So when you visualize
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  Speaker 1: something that you want from the perspective of already having it,
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  Speaker 1: from the perspective of it being realistic for you, you
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  Speaker 1: are actually more primed to be open to conversation about
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  Speaker 1: that thing. Opportunity is about that thing. Putting yourself out there,
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  Speaker 1: going out on a limb, doing something that's probably more
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  Speaker 1: daring that you normally wouldn't be willing to do, you
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  Speaker 1: are actually priming yourself and you are more aware of
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  Speaker 1: things than if you're someone that says, I don't even
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  Speaker 1: want to imagine that thing for me because it's just
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  Speaker 1: not possible for me. It's not what So you just
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: don't even you shut that thing out. And then often
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: when an opportunity presents itself, you might not even acknowledge
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: it or see it as being an opportunity. You kind
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: of might unintentionally let it pass you by a conversation
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: with someone anything. Okay, So the reticular activating system, you know,
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: once you start priming your brain prior to starting the
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: day getting out in the world of being, Like, this
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: is what I'm focusing on, this is what I'm aware of,
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: this is what I'm looking for, this is what I'm
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: going to give my attention and my focus to. Then
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: you'll start to notice these things crop up for you
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: really often because you're primed, you're ready to accept it. Okay,
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: Like these things just like align with your objectives and
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: things like that. And then really important is how our
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: body responds to emotionally charged memories. Okay. So obviously, as
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: we know, emotions make our memories much stronger and much
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: easier to retrieve because they are they take up a
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: bigger portion of our memory. They use our emotions. There's
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: there's a lot I've spoken about this. I think I
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: spoke about it in many episodes, like dopamine, cortersold all
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: these things. But there's a lot of neurochemicals that are
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: involved when there's an emotionally charged memory, good or bad. Okay,
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: So if you had an emotionally significant event happened to you, right,
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: you are more likely to not only remember that event,
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: but remember the surrounding things about that event. Okay, So,
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: for example, if I am and so, you could also
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: do this for visualization as well. If I if I
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: just visualize, oh, yep, the Eiffel Tower, I want to
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: go to Paris cool versus close my eyes, I imagine
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: the Eiffel Tower. I've been there, so it's even easier
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: for me to imagine. But even if you haven't been there,
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: you can imagine what it would be like. The smells,
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: what have you brought some food with you? Have you? This?
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: Have you that? You start imagining, you start picturing, and
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: then it becomes really real, it becomes emotional. You start
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: bringing all the sensors into it. And then the next
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: time I think about visualizing a trip, I want to
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: like make this trip happen for me. I'm going to
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: make this a goal of mine. I'm going to put
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: it on my vision board. The next time I think
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: of Eiffel Tower, I don't just think image of the
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: Eiffel Tower. Next I think, oh my god, that feeling,
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: the smells, this, it's like it's quite charged. Okay, now
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: we all know what it feels like for a negative
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: experience of how much you can like thinking of an
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: event or something bad that happened you can just raise instantly,
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: your heart rate goes up, you feel hot, you just
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: don't feel good, and then you're anxious for hours. The
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: same can go for the positive. Okay, So this emotionally
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: charged memories, and I'm going to talk about why emotion
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: is so important when you're doing a vision board and
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: when you're trying to like plan things for your future.
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: It's really really important because it's what basically reinforces neural
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: circuits for the good or for the bad. So we
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: want to be using it for the good obviously. So
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: when you do this and when it's positively charged and
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: when it's like really reinforced, you actually start to feel
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: like your goals are more achievable and are more realistic.
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: And your perception determines your reality. Okay, So if I
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: perceive something to be possible for me, I don't have
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: to lie and say, oh my god, it's a definite,
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: it's happening. I'm a millionaire today. I don't have to
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: do that. I mean I can, but I don't have
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: to do that. It's just I have to see it
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: as being possible. If I see it as being possible,
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: how I approach that thing or how I approach anything
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: in my life is going to be very different to
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: if I don't think something's possible or if I think
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: something is highly unlikely. Okay, Now, just because something isn't
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: happening in your life right now doesn't mean that it's
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: not possible. Just because something hasn't happened for anyone in
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: your circle or in your family doesn't mean it's not.
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: So you have to broaden your perspective of what is possible.
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: But it still has to be possible for you. You
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: can't be putting things on your vision board thinking this
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: will never happen, But I'm still going to put it
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: on my vision board as a goal that I want
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: to achieve or something that I want to obtain in
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: my life. Okay, has to be possible. You have to
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: see it as being possible. When you see something as
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: being possible, the way you approach that thing is very different,
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: very different. Okay. Now, let's talk about the benefits of
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: visualization in general. I'll kind of go over them quickly
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: and then we'll get straight into the vision boarding. So
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: the first one is your internal working model. So visualization
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: actually helps reshape your core beliefs that are formed during
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: your upbringing, during difficult experiences, during difficult relationships, you know,
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: past trauma, good things, bad things. Visualization can actually help
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: you reshape these deep seated beliefs within you to help
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: you have a healthier outlook in life. I've spoken about
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: internal working model a thousand times, and it is basically
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: what you perceive yourself as capable of achieving and what
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: you perceive the world to be, Like whether it's good bad,
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: Are there good people bad people? Is it generally a
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: good place? Is it generally a bad place? Okay? And
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: that is established from a very young age. Okay. When
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: you start to visualize and imagine things going differently for you,
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: you start to interact with the world very differently. You
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: start to get information that reinforces this positive interaction, and
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: then you start to change your core beliefs around people,
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: the world, everything. For example, if you've always got this
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: negative idea about relationships, right and reinforcing, reinforcing, reinforcing, you're
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: probably going to be primed particular activating system to see
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: negative relationships. Then you're going to be more walls up.
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: I'm not going to be vulnerable. Then when people try
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: and get close to you're like, don't fucking get close
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: to me. Then they're leaving, like see see everyone's fucking abandonment.
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: But they're probably leaving because they can't break through, or
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: they're not getting the intimate side of you. They're not
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: getting like you're not being warm, so they're like, oh,
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: I'm not going to bother. This is probably the too
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: hard basket. So it's not necessarily that they thought you
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: were bad thought. This is not gonna you know, they're
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: not open to me, so I'm just gonna And then
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: you're saying seat proof, proof proof versus if you were
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: to turn it around, being like, I'm going to start
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: to look at really healthy examples of love. I'm going
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: to fill my awareness with really healthy relationships in my awareness.
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: The ones that are unhealthy, I'm going to acknowledge it
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: and not dwell on it. I'm going to start to
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: really like you start to change your opinion. Then you
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: start to meet people. Instead of instantly thinking you're going
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: to fuck me over, you're gonna this, you start thinking, well,
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: why not give them a chance. If they fuck me over,
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: I'll survive, let's let's talk. Let's and then before you
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: know it, you start to have healthier and healthier and
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: healthier relationships. And then that starts to change your internal
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: working model that not everyone is bad, not all relationships
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: are toxic, not all this, that and whatever. The second one,
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: which I already spoke about, so I'm not going to
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: go into it, but it benefits in this mental rehearsal.
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: I spoke about that just before, with like a motor
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: visual motor rehearsal. And then like familiarizing yourself with patterns
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: within the brain, and the more you repeat it, the
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: more it becomes concrete in your brain. With this, you
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: know the idea of neuroplasticity and how your brain can
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: rewire itself and reorganize certain circuits as many times as
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: it needs to. And then of course positive reinforcements. So
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: when you start to believe that something is achievable, you
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: can start with something small, you scale it however you want,
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: but when something actually does happen for you, that's that
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: positive reinforcement being like, wait a minute, this has happened,
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: and it's shown me that this is possible, so maybe
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: this other thing, and then that starts to happen, that
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: that starts to happen, and before you know it, what
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: your goals are now, they're probably going to be a
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: lot bigger in six months versus twelve months versus. And
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: it's not as in, not from the perspective of, oh,
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: it's never going to be enough, but from the perspective
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: of what I see myself being able to achieve is
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: just growing and growing and growing, and my growth can
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: be as infinite as I want it to be. Okay,
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: now let's talk about how to vision board. So let's
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: talk about like the crux of vision boarding. Because you
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: saw how I did my vision board, and mind you,
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: I'm going to need to do like a few more
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: posters because many things that I would like to continue
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: including on that, but that was just an example. First
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: thing number one is you want to create ball, this
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: is how I vision board, You vision board however the
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: fuck you want. But if you want to do it
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: the Alexis way, this is how I recommend you do it,
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: and I feel like how a lot of people recommend
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: you do it. You want to have categories, so you
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: don't want to do it all on one particular topic.
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: You want it to look like it's a lifestyle. So
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: for example, I did two. I did one that was
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: for work because obviously my work encompasses a lot of
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: my life because a lot of my work is also
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: my passion. But for some people, work isn't their passion.
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: So you don't want everything to be on work or
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: just your part. You want to have categories. So I
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: did almost two separate vision boards because there's so much
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: that goes on in my work and a lot of
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: my creativity that I thought, let's just dedicate one to
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: that and then one to just my personal life outside
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: of my career and my work. Okay, but you want
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: to have career slash work, you want to have a
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: huge one is hobbies, things that you want to do
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: in your spare time, experiences that you want to have,
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: So hobbies and experiences, so you can have that as
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: two separate things. Another one that you want to have
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: is everyday lifestyle. So what do you want your every
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: day to look like? Because it's all well and good
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: to put on your vision board, like I had a
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: lot of travel on mine. It's all well and good
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: to be like, I want to experience this, this, this, this,
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: But when I'm home, I'm fucking hating my life. I
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: hate my routine, I hate everything, I hate my job,
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: I hate, hate, hate, hate hate. So this is why
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: it's important to look at your life as a holistic thing.
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: I want to enjoy every day, right, I want to
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: have more than just pockets, but moments, many moments in
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: my day where I'm experiencing joy. So I'm happy, but
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: I'm obviously experiencing joy in these moments. So I was
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: putting certain things, like I had an image of two
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: people dancing like I'm having like a really sorry's separate
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: to that relationships. So my vision board, I had, you know,
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: two people dancing like Tyrone and I, you know, being
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: romantic and being very much in love and healthy relationships.
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: I put you know, people chatting. I put you know,
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: obviously trips together. I put like coffees, swims. I want
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: to start doing more harbor swims and things like that.
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: So things in your everyday life versus also big experiences
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: that you want to have. And then work wise, I
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: was looking at, you know, things that I'm already doing
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: but expanding on it, and then things that I haven't
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: yet done. And then I did like things that I
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: know are one hundred percent going to happen and are achievable,
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: but I just want to see it through someone putting
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: it on the board. And then I've got things that
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: are like best case scenario, I really want this to happen,
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: but I don't really have total control over. But I'm
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: just going to put it there because I'm working towards that,
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: like wanting to interview Andrew Huberman. So there's you know,
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: things that are directly in my control and things that
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: I can kind of work towards but might not ultimately
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: be in my control. But you pick basically you decide
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: what your categories are. But I had lifestyle. You can
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: have like health in there as well. You can have physical,
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: like just personal physical. So I put like people that
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: have really cool fashion, and I'm like, I love that vibe.
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: I want to like be morphing more into that style.
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: I really enjoy it. Then you've got like career, You've
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: got hobbies, lifestyle, and you know milestone events or like
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: travel things like that. So you choose whichever category applies
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: to you. You can have as many as you want, okay,
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: and then once you understand what that category is, then
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: you want to find photos. Pinterest is iconic for this.
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: You want to find photos that really speak to you
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: about that thing that you want to visualize. They that
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: an image is representing a feeling. So when you think
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: of that, like, when you've got that image, you want
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: to imagine that you're living from the end, as in
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: you are living from having already acquired that thing or
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: experienced that thing. Okay, So in my vision board, I'm
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: just looking at it's on the wall there. In my
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: vision board, I'm looking at particular merch that I want
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: to have. I'm looking at particular things with you know,
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: the podcast that I want to do, or how i
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: want the office setup. So I'm imagining what that would
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: look like from having already had it. And so when
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: I've got that image, then I'm able to add more
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: to it and I'm able to really experience the emotions
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: of already having it. The photos on your vision board
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: serve as an anchor that is related to all these emotions.
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: So it's kind of this like anchoring thing that It's
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: like every time I look at that photo, it brings
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: me to this point where I already have all these thoughts,
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: beliefs and emotions that are tied to this. So if
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: I have the image if the Eiffel Tower on mine,
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I already know that brings up everything I
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: want to think of. I know, I know it all,
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: and I'm imagining it. I'm imagining myself being there. It's
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: great if I look at one of like someone with
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: really cool style that I want to pick up. It's
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: just one image, right, But in my mind, I'm like, oh,
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: you know, and I love this style and this and
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: this and then whatever. Okay, but think each image on
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: that vision board has to be like almost like a
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: doorway to all these positive thoughts, memories and emotions. Okay,
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: now it should feel the next thing is that it
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: should feel good to look at every single image if
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: the image represents lack. And I'm not saying that you're
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: gonna have a photo of something that's lacking, but if
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: that image triggers emotions of lack, change the image, get
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: a different one, or maybe for example, so say if
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: you're someone that's normally not being quite positive, not like
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: the idea of vision boarding, and you put certain things
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: up there that you've been trying to achieve for a
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: long time, like images of certain achievements that you'd like
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: to have or whatever. But when you look at it,
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: you're like, oh, it doesn't feel like I'm going to
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: achieve it. It just reminds me of how much I haven't achieved.
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: It just reminds me that it's actually not that possible.
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: It just pierces me off. Then don't put that image
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: on there, because the image, like I said, just serves
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: as an anchor for positive feelings around that topic, to
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: prime you to approach that topic differently. If that makes sense,
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: You're trying to prime your brain. So if every time
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: you look at that image you think, oh, lack, then
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: it serves no use on that board. You either eliminate
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: it altogether until you can have a better association with it,
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: or you alter it a little bit differently. So, for example,
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: if I was to approach acting differently. Now, let's say
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: I wanted to re enter the acting industry with a
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: new frame mindset. I was so associating acting with lack
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: and with not getting the auditions, and every time, you know,
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: I started, and it represented something negative in my life.
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: So then instead I started, I changed it. I would sorry,
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: I would change it to be like all right, if
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: if the image of winning an award or the image
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: of having a full time like I've like, a main
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: role in a film is too unbelievable for me, and
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: then it's going to make me feel anxious. What image
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: could I put? So then I would probably right now
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: as my scale to scale it up to then eventually
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: get to the bigger images. I would put things that
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: make me remind myself how much the things I love
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: about the acting industry, So I would be like, how
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: can I rediscover my passion for it? Well, I used
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: to love doing improv classes, so I'd probably do like
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: a photo of like improv or people that I used
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: to act with. I would be like, well, I really
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: enjoy doing like I'd just pick up the things that
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: I enjoyed, and I'd be like, I want more of this.
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: I used to love like writing with my groups though,
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: and then I start thinking, okay, positive memories, I feel
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: really good. Maybe I could do like a sketch. Maybe
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: I could do this, And then when you start following
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: the positive emotions, then you can start to scale it. However,
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: if you're someone that has no negative representation and you
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: want to go all out and you want to go
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: large from the get go, you're also completely welcome to
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: do that. I'm only saying if the image makes you
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: then feel this doesn't inspire me. This actually only reminds
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: me of what I haven't had. That image does not
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: belong there. So I want you to look at every
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: single image, and every single image on that vision board
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: should feel good to look at. You never want to
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: avoid looking at that board. It should only ever feel
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: warm good, It should feel right, it should feel aligned.
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: Okay um. And then another thing is that they all
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: need to be. Like I said earlier, it's got to
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: be believable to you. It has to be realistic. It
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: has to be something that you're like. I see that
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: for me might not be happening right now, but I
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: know it's possible. If one of them those images in
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: there is like this would never happen because visualization manifesting,
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: law of attraction, however you want to call it, that
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: all is. That's all well and good only if you
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: believe something is possible for you, because your perception determines
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: your reality. Your perception is going to determine what your
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: actions are. If something is not believable for me, my
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: actions are going to be very fucking different. So it
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: has to be realistic to you, to you, which brings
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: me to my next point of this vision board. You
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: only share it if you want, and if it's in
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: a safe space. If you've got people that are judgmental,
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: if you've got people that you know are going to
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: laugh or tear it down, do not share it with them.
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: Don't think how do I justify this, how to explain it?
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: Just don't. You can make this. This can be the
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: most private thing in your life. You don't want to
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: open it up to have to explain why, why you
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: want to achieve something, why you would like to have
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: something in your life. Sometimes that cock blocks you even
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: more so if you'd rather just have it as this
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: personal thing that it's you, yourself, fucking you, that is fine.
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: If you've got people that are like your absolute woo people,
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: your cheerleaders being like yeah, fuck yeah, we love this,
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: and you feel comfortable, go for gold and share it
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: with them. It's it's on a case by case basis.
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: But if you're like you but no one's gonna support me,
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: people are gonna love, then don't show anyone. Don't show anyone.
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: This is your business. You share it or you don't,
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: but do not open it up to people that are
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: negative going to be like yeah, but that's never gonna happen.
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: And if you've got a partner who's like maybe more
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: like maybe they love you, but they're more like quote
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: unquote realistic, as in like they don't look at expanding
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: in other areas, then it's okay to not show them
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: your vision board. You don't have to show anyone. This
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: is what's going on in your mind and what you
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: want for your future, and then people can just watch
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: you grow and say wow, how did they do it?
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: Then you can turn around being like I had my
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: vision board. I had a clear idea of where I
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: wanted to go, and because of that, I was strong
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: on my intention, strong on where I wanted to go.
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: It was an anchor for me. It' stopped me getting
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: distract did it stop me fucking around? I knew exactly
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: what I wanted. I didn't have to know exactly how
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: to get there, but I knew what I wanted. It
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: kept me on the path and now I'm here. Okay,
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: Now let's go a little bit deeper. So how to
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: practice visualization with your vision board? Okay, so when you
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: are when you've got your vision board, I also don't
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: want it to only ever be background. It's like I've
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: got it up on my wall. So it's in my awareness,
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: but I also want to intentionally spend some time and
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be every day, but often looking
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: at the photos being like, yes, I'm reminding myself of
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: my whye, I'm reminding myself of why I do what
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: I do, why I get up early every day, why
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: I do these things, And it makes me excited. I've
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: got things to look forward to. It makes me feel
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: good when I'm working towards these things. I look at
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: it and I think, this is the lifestyle I'm living from.
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: I'm acting as if, you know, if my life was
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: to be like this, and I imagined it being you know,
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: this is my lifestyle, my relationships, everything, my career, how
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: I feel going to work, how I feel in my body,
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: my health, my energy, my sleep, all of that. I
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: have to imagine what it would feel like. And when
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: I imagine what it feels like, I know how good
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: it feels. And when you have that as your like anchor,
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: it's a lot easier for you to stay on track
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: and on purpose with what you were doing. All the
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: little things start to have more meaning, more importance, and
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: the process starts becoming enjoyable because of that. So it's
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: not that I'm going to slog it out because I've
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: got to get to the end. You're still process driven,
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: but there's more meaning behind your process now, Like I'm
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: doing it because it like this matters to me. This
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: is why i'm you know why I get up early
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: because I get all of this out of it. You know,
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: I get to experience this I gain. If you're very
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: much only lived day by day, then it feels really
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: difficult to justify getting up when the alarm goes off
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: and you don't want to or justify going to that
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: one workout, when in reality, it's just exercising in general
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: over a period of time that's going to make you
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: feel good, not that one workout. So it's about how
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: do I use this to help me stay on track? Okay,
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: So when you're doing it, I want you to make
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: sure that you have at least some quiet time a
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: couple of times a week to go through it where
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: you're not being distracted, where there's not other shit going on,
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: you're not on your phone, just to be with those
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: images and really spend time in it. You're re like,
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: you're bringing up those positive emotions again, you're bringing up
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: what it feels like to have it. You're priming, priming, priming, priming, priming, Okay,
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: then you feel really good if you can do it
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: in the mornings, even better, even better because you prime
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: yourself for the day. You're feeling good. You're like, yes,
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: can't I'm fucking yes, and then you start the day. Okay.
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: For me, looking at things on my vision board in
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: the morning at the start of the day does wonders
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: for my mood. Wonders for my mood. It changes how
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: I work, It changes how I do everything in my life.
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: The next one is make sure that you are specific enough. Okay,
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: so you want to imagine like details of things. It
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: doesn't like I mean, some people say you've got to
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: get it down to every I don't think you've got
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: to be so detailed that every single thing. But you've
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: got to be specific enough. You can't be like, I
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: want to travel more, Okay, cool, you just walk down
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: the block you've technically traveled. Like, where do you want
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: to travel? Do you want to just do weekends away?
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: Do you want to do a month away? Do you
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: want to like what does your travel look like when
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: you travel? Do you like backpacking? And do you want expensive,
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: hectic hotels. What do you want to experience when you travel?
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: Do you want to be partying? Do you want to
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: are you a foodie? Just so get clearer on what
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: it looks like, what it feels like. Say it's career.
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: I want to make more money? How much money or
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: what's the minimum that you'd want to be making for
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: you to be like, yes, I'm like hitting what's on
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: my vision board? Let's get specific. I want to have
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: more spare time, more free time. What does free time
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: look like to you? And why do you want to
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: have free time? What do you want to do in
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: that time? And how much of that time? So you like,
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: don't say I want to be fitter, I want to
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: be healthier. What are the markers? What are the tangible
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: markers that you can measure? It's going to be measurable,
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: because if you can't measure it, then you don't really
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: you can't track it. So for every photo that you have,
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: just say is this specific enough? And could this be measured?
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: So that's why I mean, you don't have to go
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: on the crazy details. I don't have to know the
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: exact date that I'm going on this holiday and the
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: time of the flight and this and that. I don't
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: know to know that level of detail, but I do
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: want to know where what kind of thing it's going
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: to be, like, how how much? How little I've got
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: to be able to measure it? What are the markers?
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: If you want to say I want to sleep better,
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: what does that look like? I want to wake up
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: feeling refreshed. I want to get seven hours a day
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: a night. I want to have sleep hygiene before bed
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: and do that consistently. I want to you know what
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: I mean. Okay, Then you also want to keep it
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: simple in your mind. I'm not saying that the goals
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: have to be smaller, but like I mentioned before, simple
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: in the sense of yep, I can look at all
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: of this and all of it feels good, all of
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: it a lines. If one is like you're pushing pushing
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: against it, it doesn't feel really, you can just remove
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: it for now. Less is more, okay, So you can
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: have as much or as little. But if you're someone
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: that feels conflicted, or it just reminds you of all
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: the times that I've failed, or it reminds me that
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: I'm actually don't have that much money, to strip it back,
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: strip it back until it feels good, keep it simple,
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: keep it yep, everything aligns with what I want. I
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: feel good every time I look at it. Fine, and
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: then you can start adding and adding and adding, because
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: this vision board doesn't just have to be and you
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: know in December, you build this whenever you want. You
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: edit your vision board many many times over in your life.
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: Many need to ideally many times over in your life.
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: Remember to focus on your emotions. Right, So we're emphasizing
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: this feeling of satisfaction or excitement, or feeling calm, feeling
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: really settled, really enjoying like a slug. I've got things
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: on there that like really represent a slow life, like slow,
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: like really enjoying the slow moments markets in the morning,
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: like projected movies and like as with friends and things
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: like that. But you want to remember that positive emotions
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: are going to be strengthening, you know, this experience that
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: you're having, which then reinforces the ability to have that
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: experience in real life. Okay, and then I want you
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: to practice in moderation. Okay, it's not healthy to also
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: fixate so intensely on the vision board that it's on
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: your mind. Twenty four seven, twenty four seven twenty four seven,
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: because then that's preventing you from enjoying the moment that
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: is the only thing you're ever going to really experience,
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: which is the now. Right. So the vision board serves
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: as for me to keep me on track to the
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: life that I want to be living or to the
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: life that I am living. A lot of my life
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: that I'm living right now is thanks to vision boards
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: and things that I've written down and whatever. Most of it, okay,
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: but having that idea of where I'm headed kind of
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: keeps me on track, keeps me driven or motivated, whatever
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: word you want to use. Okay, But at the same time,
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: you have to allow for life to just unf and
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: allow for you to just naturally experience it. So what
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: I like to do is have my time looking at
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: the vision board. I'm looking at everything, and then I
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: experience it, and then I almost actively think, now I'm
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: releasing it, I'm letting it go. I'm releasing it, and
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: then I revisit this another time. It's almost an active
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: like you imagine letting it go. So you free yourself
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: from fixating, okay, And that's really, really really important. If
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: you do any visualization meditations, you'll often hear at the
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: end of the meditation saying, now let it go. Let
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: it go. You visualize what you want, you've thought about it,
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: you've thought about it, you've consolidated it in your mind,
• 43:38
  Speaker 1: and now let's just enter the world and let's just
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: do what we're going to do. Okay, because if you're
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: overly fixating, fixating, fixating, fixating, then you're going to struggle
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: to actually start taking the action, taking the bold action,
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: the soft action, all of that. Now, please go listen
• 43:53
  Speaker 1: to my episode on soft action versus bold action because
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: it's firstly one of my favorites. It's iconic. But secondly,
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: vision boarding is one of the best soft actions you
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: can take, and it's really good. So soft action is
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: basically indirect action towards a goal. They're both very important.
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: But the bold action is where you're physically doing the thing,
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: where you're going to that job interview, where you are
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: actually reaching out, where you're making the phone call, where
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: you're doing the work, where you're writing the book. Soft
• 44:23
  Speaker 1: action is very much I'm going to look at jobs
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: and see what's available. I'm going to go on Pinterest
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: and look at things. I'm going to build my vision board.
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: Soft action is very supportive of bold action, but make
• 44:36
  Speaker 1: sure you've got a balance of both. You want both,
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: can't You can't live in soft action because nothing's ever
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: going to happen, but to only ever do bold action
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: sometimes can feel like you're getting bogged down. So soft
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: action is the inspirational, the emotional, what makes you feel good,
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: what elevates you, what keeps you in that nice light happy.
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: And then the bold action is, let's fucking take action
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: and you want a nice balance for two, so go
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: listen to the episode. But vision boarding is a beautiful
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: use of soft action and it's fucking great for you.
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: So yeah, that is the episode for today. I want
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: you to start doing your vision boards and if you
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: want just for like, I know, I just said this
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: whole thing of like, don't share it with anyone, if whatever,
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: but if you want to share it even just with me,
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: or if you want to share it so I can
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: share it on the Self Love Club anonymously or because
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: I've got on my Instagram at Alexis Fernandez Breaks, I've
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: got a Self Love Club broadcast channel. Very cool. Love
• 45:34
  Speaker 1: you guys so much. I'm actually gonna post something now
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: because I haven't in a little bit, but that is
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: kind of somewhere where we could potentially share people's vision
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: boards anonymously and so people can get an inspiration if
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: you want. Like I said, if it's like no, I
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: don't want this getting shut down by anyone whatever. But
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: for me personally, for example, I shared my vision board
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: with you guys because I know that everyone's just a
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: fucking vibe and this is the best like for people
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: to share my vision board with. So it's on my episode,
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: this episode, on my socials and stuff, and it makes
• 46:06
  Speaker 1: me feel really good to share it. Okay, But you
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: if you would like to share your vision board, either
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: send it to me and then say yes you can
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: share it on the broadcast channel or this is just
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: for your eyes only, Alexis. If you want to share
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: it to the Facebook group and you're just here for it,
• 46:21
  Speaker 1: then absolutely Also, no haters on anyone's vision board. I
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: will delete the comment if there's a hater on the
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: vision board. But yeah, please if you want to, and
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: if you want to inspire other beans in the group,
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: I would love for you to share it if you
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: feel comfortable doing so. But again, like I said, this
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: is your fucking vision board. If you want it for
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: your eyes only, then have it for your eyes only.
• 46:42
  Speaker 1: If you think that something in there feels good to
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: you but embarrassing in front of other people, don't share it.
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: Don't share it, Okay, you keep it to yourself. It's
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: whatever feels good for you. Thank you so much for
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: listening to this episode. I hope you're feeling fucking fired
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: up and inspired and like ready to party. That is
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: all for today. I love you guys so much. As always,
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: remember becn't to yourself, becont your brain, don't take shit
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: from anyone, and especially don't take shit from yourself. Don't
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: ca