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How Do I Stop Feeling Behind Everyone Else My Age? · Becoming Financially Confident

• 0:37
  What
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  do
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  you
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  do
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  when
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  you
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  feel
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  like
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  everyone
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  your
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  age
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  is
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  moving
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  forward
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  except
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  for
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  you?
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  On
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  today's
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  episode,
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  I
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  talk
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  with
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  someone
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  in
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  their
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  30s
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  who
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  feels
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  exhausted.
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  They
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  feel
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  overworked,
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  and
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  they're
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  quietly
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  discouraged,
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  watching
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  other
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  people
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  buy
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  homes,
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  build
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  families,
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  travel,
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  and
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  reach
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  milestones
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  they
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  thought
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  they
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  would
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  have.
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  By
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  now.
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  They're
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  trying
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  to
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  stay
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  hopeful,
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  but
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  underneath
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  it
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  all
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  is
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  this
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  fear
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  that
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  maybe
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  they've
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  missed
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  their
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  chance
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  at
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  life.
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  They
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  imagined.
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  How
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  do
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  you
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  keep
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  moving
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  forward
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  when
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  comparison
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  keeps
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  telling
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  you
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  that
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  you're
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  behind?
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  We're
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  going
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  to
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  break
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  that
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  down
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  on
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  today's
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  show.
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  Hey,
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  friend.
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  Ralph
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  Estep
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  Jr.
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  Here.
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  Welcome
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  to
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  Financially
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  Confident
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  Christian.
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  If
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  this
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  is
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  your
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  first
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  time
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  joining
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  us,
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  welcome.
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  And
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  if
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  you're
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  returning,
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  I'm
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  so
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  glad
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  you
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  chose
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  to
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  join
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  us
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  again.
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  Every
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  day
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  on
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  the
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  show,
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  my
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  goal
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  is
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  to
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  help
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  you
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  break
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  that
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  cycle
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  of
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  financial
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  shame
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  that
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  so
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  many
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  of
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  us
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  deal
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  with
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  and
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  really
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  live
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  in
• 1:36
  confidence.
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  And
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  today's
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  episode
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  is
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  all
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  about
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  how
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  to
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  keep
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  moving
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  forward
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  when
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  you
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  feel
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  behind
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  everyone
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  else
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  at
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  your
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  age.
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  Well,
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  let's
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  get
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  right
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  into
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  our
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  question.
• 1:45
  This
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  was
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  actually
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  a
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  voicemail
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  we
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  got
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  from
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  a
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  young
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  woman.
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  I
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  have
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  a
• 1:49
  question
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  for
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  you.
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  I'm
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  in
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  my
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  30s
• 1:51
  and
• 1:51
  I'm
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  exhausted,
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  Like,
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  constantly
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  exhausted.
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  And
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  I
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  still
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  feel
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  like
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  I'm
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  falling
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  behind.
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  I
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  look
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  around
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  and
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  everyone's
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  buying
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  homes,
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  starting
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  families,
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  going
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  places,
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  reaching
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  milestones
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  that
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  I
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  thought
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  I'd
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  already
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  have
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  by
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  now.
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  And
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  it's
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  just
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  hard
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  not
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  to
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  wonder
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  what
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  I'm
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  doing
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  wrong.
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  You
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  know,
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  some
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  days
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  it
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  feels
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  like
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  everyone
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  else
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  got
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  the
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  blueprint
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  except
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  me.
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  I'm
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  trying
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  to
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  stay
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  hopeful.
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  I
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  really
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  am.
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  I
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  keep
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  going.
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  But
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  underneath
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  it
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  all,
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  there's
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  this
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  fear
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  that
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  maybe
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  I
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  missed
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  my
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  chance.
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  Like,
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  maybe
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  the
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  life
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  I
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  imagined
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  for
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  myself,
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  that's
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  just
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  not
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  happening.
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  How
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  do
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  you
• 2:30
  keep
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  moving
• 2:31
  forward
• 2:31
  when
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  you
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  feel
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  like
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  you're
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  behind
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  everyone
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  else
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  your
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  age?
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  I'd
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  really
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  love
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  to
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  hear
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  your
• 2:36
  thoughts
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  on
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  this.
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  Thanks
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  for
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  all
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  you
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  do.
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  Well,
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  thank
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  you
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  for
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  sending
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  in
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  that
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  voicemail
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  question.
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  And
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  it's
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  a
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  question
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  I
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  get
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  absolutely
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  all
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  the
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  time.
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  But
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  here's
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  the
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  thing
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  start
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  off
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  with.
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  Feeling
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  behind
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  doesn't
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  mean
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  your
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  life
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  is
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  failing.
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  start
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  there
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  because
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  you're
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  not
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  failing
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  at
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  anything
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  you're
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  doing.
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  It
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  just
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  means
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  that
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  your
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  journey
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  is
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  different
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  than
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  the
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  other
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  people
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  and
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  maybe
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  different
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  than
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  the
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  journey
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  you
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  expected.
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  The
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  truth
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  is,
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  in
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  life,
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  we
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  all
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  take
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  different
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  journeys.
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  I've
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  said
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  it
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  on
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  the
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  show
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  many
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  times.
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  We
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  run
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  our
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  own
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  race,
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  not
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  someone
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  else's
• 3:09
  race.
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  So
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  let's
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  break
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  this
• 3:11
  down
• 3:11
  together
• 3:11
  today
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  here's
• 3:12
  the
• 3:12
  first
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  thing
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  I'm
• 3:13
  going
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  to
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  encourage
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  you
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  to
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  do.
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  Stop
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  using
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  other
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  people's
• 3:16
  timelines
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  as
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  your
• 3:18
  measuring
• 3:18
  stick.
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  You
• 3:20
  can't
• 3:20
  do
• 3:20
  that.
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  That's
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  why
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  this,
• 3:21
  why
• 3:21
  I
• 3:21
  dislike
• 3:22
  comparison
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  so
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  much,
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  because
• 3:24
  comparison
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  distorts
• 3:25
  reality.
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  Because
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  what
• 3:27
  you're
• 3:27
  seeing
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  is
• 3:28
  their
• 3:28
  highlight
• 3:29
  reel.
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  It's
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  kind
• 3:30
  of
• 3:30
  like,
• 3:30
  you
• 3:30
  know,
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  when
• 3:31
  you
• 3:31
  look
• 3:31
  at
• 3:31
  the
• 3:31
  sports
• 3:31
  recap
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  on
• 3:32
  the
• 3:32
  11
• 3:32
  o'
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  clock
• 3:33
  news,
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  you're
• 3:34
  not
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  seeing
• 3:34
  the
• 3:35
  full
• 3:35
  story.
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  You're
• 3:36
  not
• 3:36
  seeing
• 3:36
  all
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  the
• 3:37
  blood,
• 3:37
  sweat,
• 3:37
  tears
• 3:38
  and
• 3:38
  failures
• 3:39
  that
• 3:39
  went
• 3:39
  into
• 3:39
  that.
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  And
• 3:40
  the
• 3:41
  thing
• 3:41
  about
• 3:41
  that
• 3:41
  is,
• 3:41
  milestones
• 3:42
  don't
• 3:42
  reveal
• 3:43
  peace.
• 3:44
  They
• 3:44
  don't
• 3:44
  show
• 3:44
  the
• 3:45
  debt.
• 3:45
  They
• 3:45
  don't
• 3:45
  show
• 3:45
  the
• 3:46
  stress
• 3:46
  or
• 3:46
  the
• 3:46
  regret.
• 3:48
  And
• 3:48
  different
• 3:48
  timing
• 3:49
  for
• 3:49
  you
• 3:49
  doesn't
• 3:50
  mean
• 3:50
  you're
• 3:51
  failing
• 3:51
  at
• 3:51
  that.
• 3:52
  But
• 3:52
  sometimes
• 3:53
  you
• 3:53
  got
• 3:53
  to
• 3:53
  be
• 3:53
  honest
• 3:54
  with
• 3:54
  yourself
• 3:54
  and
• 3:54
  you've
• 3:55
  got
• 3:55
  to
• 3:55
  grieve
• 3:55
  the
• 3:56
  expectations.
• 3:57
  Honestly,
• 3:59
  some
• 3:59
  disappointment
• 3:59
  is
• 4:00
  real.
• 4:00
  That's
• 4:01
  just
• 4:01
  a
• 4:01
  fact.
• 4:02
  I'll
• 4:02
  give
• 4:02
  you
• 4:02
  a
• 4:02
  great
• 4:03
  example
• 4:03
  of
• 4:03
  this.
• 4:04
  I
• 4:04
  don't
• 4:04
  talk
• 4:04
  about
• 4:04
  this
• 4:04
  on
• 4:05
  the
• 4:05
  show
• 4:05
  for
• 4:05
  many
• 4:06
  much
• 4:06
  at
• 4:07
  all.
• 4:07
  My
• 4:07
  first
• 4:08
  marriage,
• 4:08
  it
• 4:09
  failed.
• 4:09
  We
• 4:10
  were
• 4:10
  together
• 4:10
  three
• 4:10
  and
• 4:11
  a
• 4:11
  half
• 4:11
  years.
• 4:11
  That's
• 4:12
  a
• 4:12
  fact.
• 4:12
  It
• 4:12
  failed.
• 4:13
  I
• 4:14
  had
• 4:14
  to
• 4:14
  start
• 4:14
  over.
• 4:15
  That's
• 4:16
  a
• 4:16
  fact.
• 4:17
  It
• 4:17
  wasn't
• 4:17
  what
• 4:18
  I
• 4:18
  had
• 4:18
  planned.
• 4:19
  That's
• 4:20
  a
• 4:20
  fact.
• 4:21
  And
• 4:21
  unfortunately,
• 4:22
  some
• 4:22
  dreams
• 4:23
  aren't
• 4:23
  going
• 4:23
  to
• 4:23
  happen
• 4:23
  the
• 4:24
  way
• 4:24
  you'd
• 4:24
  hope.
• 4:25
  And
• 4:25
  you've
• 4:25
  got
• 4:26
  to
• 4:26
  acknowledge
• 4:26
  that
• 4:27
  honestly,
• 4:27
  instead
• 4:28
  of
• 4:28
  trying
• 4:28
  to
• 4:28
  bury
• 4:29
  it.
• 4:30
  Because
• 4:30
  grief
• 4:31
  process
• 4:31
  becomes
• 4:32
  lighter
• 4:32
  over
• 4:33
  time.
• 4:34
  But
• 4:34
  at
• 4:34
  the
• 4:35
  same
• 4:35
  time,
• 4:35
  I
• 4:35
  love
• 4:35
  what
• 4:36
  you
• 4:36
  said
• 4:36
  in
• 4:36
  your
• 4:36
  question.
• 4:37
  You
• 4:37
  said,
• 4:37
  ralph,
• 4:38
  I'm
• 4:38
  carrying
• 4:38
  on,
• 4:39
  I'm
• 4:39
  surviving.
• 4:41
  Recognize
• 4:42
  what
• 4:42
  you
• 4:42
  have
• 4:42
  survived.
• 4:44
  You're
• 4:44
  still
• 4:44
  here.
• 4:45
  You're
• 4:46
  still
• 4:46
  working,
• 4:47
  you're
• 4:47
  still
• 4:47
  trying,
• 4:49
  you're
• 4:49
  still
• 4:49
  building.
• 4:51
  And
• 4:51
  that
• 4:51
  matters
• 4:52
  more
• 4:52
  than
• 4:52
  you
• 4:52
  think.
• 4:53
  You
• 4:53
  might
• 4:53
  not
• 4:54
  think
• 4:54
  that
• 4:54
  you've
• 4:54
  arrived,
• 4:54
  you
• 4:55
  might
• 4:55
  not
• 4:55
  think
• 4:55
  that
• 4:55
  you
• 4:55
  where
• 4:56
  you
• 4:56
  are,
• 4:57
  but
• 4:57
  if
• 4:57
  you're
• 4:58
  getting
• 4:58
  up
• 4:58
  in
• 4:58
  the
• 4:58
  morning
• 4:58
  and
• 4:59
  you're
• 4:59
  still
• 4:59
  putting
• 4:59
  one
• 4:59
  foot
• 5:00
  in
• 5:00
  front
• 5:00
  of
• 5:00
  the
• 5:00
  other,
• 5:01
  you're
• 5:01
  moving
• 5:02
  forward.
• 5:03
  Which
• 5:03
  is
• 5:03
  why
• 5:03
  we've
• 5:04
  got
• 5:04
  to
• 5:04
  focus
• 5:04
  on
• 5:05
  direction
• 5:05
  instead
• 5:06
  of
• 5:06
  age.
• 5:08
  Life
• 5:08
  isn't
• 5:08
  some
• 5:08
  race
• 5:09
  with
• 5:09
  these
• 5:09
  fixed
• 5:10
  checkpoints.
• 5:11
  I
• 5:11
  had
• 5:11
  this
• 5:11
  very
• 5:12
  conversation
• 5:12
  with
• 5:12
  my
• 5:13
  oldest
• 5:13
  son
• 5:13
  not
• 5:13
  too
• 5:14
  long
• 5:14
  ago.
• 5:15
  My
• 5:15
  son
• 5:15
  is
• 5:15
  really
• 5:16
  doing
• 5:16
  well.
• 5:17
  And
• 5:18
  he
• 5:18
  said,
• 5:18
  dad,
• 5:18
  he
• 5:19
  says,
• 5:19
  I
• 5:19
  don't
• 5:19
  understand
• 5:19
  what
• 5:20
  everybody
• 5:20
  else
• 5:20
  my
• 5:21
  age
• 5:21
  owns
• 5:21
  a
• 5:21
  home
• 5:22
  and
• 5:22
  they
• 5:22
  have
• 5:22
  this
• 5:22
  and
• 5:22
  they
• 5:23
  have
• 5:23
  that.
• 5:23
  I
• 5:23
  said,
• 5:23
  son,
• 5:23
  think
• 5:24
  about
• 5:24
  it
• 5:24
  for
• 5:24
  a
• 5:24
  second.
• 5:25
  Think
• 5:26
  of
• 5:26
  all
• 5:26
  the
• 5:26
  things
• 5:26
  you've
• 5:27
  accomplished.
• 5:28
  He
• 5:28
  has
• 5:28
  a
• 5:28
  master's
• 5:29
  degree,
• 5:30
  he
• 5:30
  has
• 5:30
  zero
• 5:31
  debt.
• 5:31
  He's
• 5:32
  28
• 5:32
  years
• 5:33
  old.
• 5:33
  He
• 5:33
  has
• 5:33
  zero
• 5:33
  debt.
• 5:34
  No
• 5:34
  student
• 5:34
  loans,
• 5:35
  no
• 5:35
  debt.
• 5:36
  He's
• 5:36
  got
• 5:36
  money
• 5:36
  in
• 5:36
  the
• 5:37
  bank.
• 5:37
  He's
• 5:37
  got
• 5:37
  more
• 5:37
  investments
• 5:38
  than
• 5:38
  I
• 5:38
  had
• 5:38
  at
• 5:39
  his
• 5:39
  age.
• 5:40
  But
• 5:40
  think
• 5:41
  about
• 5:41
  the
• 5:41
  trajectory
• 5:42
  of
• 5:42
  your
• 5:42
  life.
• 5:43
  Don't
• 5:43
  get
• 5:43
  so
• 5:44
  caught
• 5:44
  up
• 5:44
  on,
• 5:44
  well,
• 5:44
  at
• 5:45
  this
• 5:45
  age
• 5:45
  I
• 5:45
  have
• 5:45
  to
• 5:45
  do
• 5:46
  this
• 5:46
  and
• 5:46
  at
• 5:46
  this
• 5:46
  age
• 5:47
  I
• 5:47
  have
• 5:47
  to
• 5:47
  do
• 5:47
  that.
• 5:48
  Look
• 5:48
  at
• 5:48
  the
• 5:48
  direction
• 5:49
  of
• 5:49
  where
• 5:49
  your
• 5:49
  life
• 5:50
  is
• 5:50
  going.
• 5:50
  Look
• 5:51
  at
• 5:51
  that
• 5:51
  trajectory.
• 5:53
  That
• 5:53
  progress
• 5:54
  matters
• 5:54
  so
• 5:54
  much
• 5:54
  more
• 5:55
  than
• 5:55
  perfect
• 5:55
  timing.
• 5:57
  But
• 5:57
  before
• 5:57
  we
• 5:57
  end
• 5:58
  this,
• 5:59
  you
• 5:59
  got
• 5:59
  to
• 5:59
  build
• 5:59
  a
• 5:59
  life
• 6:00
  you
• 6:00
  actually
• 6:00
  want,
• 6:02
  not
• 6:02
  one
• 6:02
  that
• 6:02
  you
• 6:02
  feel
• 6:02
  pressure
• 6:03
  to
• 6:03
  display.
• 6:03
  And
• 6:04
  I
• 6:04
  think
• 6:04
  that's
• 6:04
  part
• 6:04
  of
• 6:04
  what
• 6:04
  I
• 6:05
  hear
• 6:05
  going
• 6:05
  on
• 6:05
  here.
• 6:06
  So
• 6:07
  much
• 6:07
  social
• 6:08
  pressure
• 6:08
  creates
• 6:09
  this
• 6:09
  artificial
• 6:10
  urgency
• 6:10
  for
• 6:11
  so
• 6:11
  many
• 6:11
  of
• 6:11
  us.
• 6:12
  We
• 6:12
  look
• 6:13
  around,
• 6:13
  we
• 6:13
  see
• 6:13
  people
• 6:13
  buying
• 6:14
  stuff
• 6:14
  and
• 6:14
  it
• 6:15
  drives
• 6:15
  me
• 6:15
  crazy
• 6:15
  a
• 6:16
  little
• 6:16
  bit.
• 6:16
  I
• 6:16
  see
• 6:16
  people
• 6:17
  buying
• 6:17
  stuff
• 6:17
  they
• 6:17
  truly
• 6:18
  can't
• 6:18
  afford.
• 6:20
  They're
• 6:20
  trying
• 6:20
  to
• 6:20
  keep
• 6:20
  up
• 6:21
  with
• 6:21
  everybody
• 6:21
  else.
• 6:22
  But
• 6:23
  if
• 6:23
  you
• 6:23
  ask
• 6:23
  them,
• 6:23
  hey,
• 6:24
  are
• 6:24
  you
• 6:24
  happy?
• 6:25
  You
• 6:25
  know
• 6:25
  what
• 6:25
  they
• 6:25
  tell
• 6:26
  you?
• 6:26
  No,
• 6:26
  I'm
• 6:26
  not.
• 6:28
  I
• 6:28
  see
• 6:28
  this
• 6:28
  in
• 6:28
  the
• 6:28
  influencers
• 6:29
  field
• 6:30
  all
• 6:30
  the
• 6:30
  time.
• 6:30
  You
• 6:31
  got
• 6:31
  big
• 6:31
  time
• 6:32
  influence
• 6:32
  out
• 6:32
  there
• 6:33
  when
• 6:33
  they.
• 6:33
  And
• 6:33
  when
• 6:33
  they
• 6:33
  do
• 6:34
  honest
• 6:34
  conversations
• 6:35
  about
• 6:36
  all
• 6:36
  this
• 6:36
  stuff
• 6:36
  they've
• 6:36
  got
• 6:37
  and
• 6:37
  they'll
• 6:37
  tell
• 6:37
  you
• 6:37
  their
• 6:37
  lives
• 6:38
  are
• 6:38
  empty.
• 6:40
  The
• 6:40
  truth
• 6:40
  is
• 6:41
  your
• 6:41
  life
• 6:41
  doesn't
• 6:41
  need
• 6:42
  to
• 6:42
  look
• 6:42
  impressive
• 6:43
  to
• 6:43
  be
• 6:43
  meaningful.
• 6:45
  It
• 6:45
  needs
• 6:46
  to
• 6:46
  be
• 6:46
  meaningful
• 6:46
  to
• 6:47
  you
• 6:48
  and
• 6:48
  it
• 6:48
  needs
• 6:48
  to
• 6:48
  be
• 6:49
  peaceful
• 6:49
  to
• 6:49
  you.
• 6:49
  That
• 6:49
  peace
• 6:50
  matters
• 6:50
  more
• 6:50
  than
• 6:51
  appearances.
• 6:52
  And
• 6:53
  I
• 6:53
  want
• 6:53
  to
• 6:53
  take
• 6:53
  this
• 6:53
  a
• 6:53
  little
• 6:53
  deeper
• 6:54
  now
• 6:54
  because
• 6:55
  underneath
• 6:55
  of
• 6:56
  all
• 6:56
  this
• 6:56
  is
• 6:56
  usually
• 6:57
  this
• 6:57
  quiet
• 6:58
  fear.
• 6:58
  And
• 6:59
  I
• 6:59
  heard
• 6:59
  it
• 6:59
  in
• 6:59
  your
• 6:59
  question
• 7:00
  today.
• 7:00
  You've
• 7:00
  got
• 7:01
  this
• 7:01
  fear
• 7:01
  that
• 7:01
  somehow
• 7:02
  you
• 7:02
  missed
• 7:02
  your
• 7:02
  window.
• 7:03
  I
• 7:04
  missed
• 7:04
  my
• 7:04
  opportunity.
• 7:06
  That
• 7:07
  life
• 7:07
  moved
• 7:07
  on
• 7:07
  without
• 7:08
  you.
• 7:09
  Like
• 7:09
  you're
• 7:09
  too
• 7:09
  late.
• 7:10
  You're
• 7:11
  not
• 7:11
  going
• 7:11
  to
• 7:11
  be
• 7:11
  able
• 7:11
  to
• 7:11
  get
• 7:11
  the
• 7:11
  future
• 7:12
  you
• 7:12
  once
• 7:12
  imagined.
• 7:14
  And
• 7:14
  that
• 7:14
  fear
• 7:14
  of
• 7:15
  missing
• 7:15
  out
• 7:16
  can
• 7:16
  become
• 7:17
  discouraging.
• 7:19
  But
• 7:19
  friend,
• 7:19
  that's
• 7:19
  not
• 7:20
  how
• 7:20
  God
• 7:20
  sees
• 7:20
  you.
• 7:22
  Your
• 7:22
  life
• 7:22
  in
• 7:22
  God's
• 7:23
  eyes
• 7:23
  isn't
• 7:24
  timing.
• 7:26
  So
• 7:26
  stop
• 7:26
  trying
• 7:26
  to
• 7:27
  keep
• 7:27
  up
• 7:27
  with
• 7:27
  everybody
• 7:28
  else
• 7:29
  and
• 7:29
  maybe
• 7:30
  just
• 7:30
  offer
• 7:30
  a
• 7:30
  simple
• 7:30
  prayer
• 7:31
  to
• 7:31
  lord,
• 7:31
  help
• 7:31
  me
• 7:32
  trust.
• 7:32
  My
• 7:32
  story
• 7:33
  is
• 7:33
  still
• 7:33
  unfolding,
• 7:34
  even
• 7:35
  when
• 7:35
  my
• 7:35
  story
• 7:35
  looks
• 7:36
  so
• 7:36
  much
• 7:36
  different
• 7:36
  than
• 7:37
  what
• 7:37
  I
• 7:37
  expected.
• 7:39
  Different
• 7:40
  timing
• 7:40
  doesn't
• 7:41
  mean
• 7:41
  you
• 7:41
  have
• 7:41
  a
• 7:41
  ruined
• 7:42
  future.
• 7:43
  It
• 7:43
  just
• 7:44
  means
• 7:44
  you're
• 7:44
  running
• 7:44
  your
• 7:44
  own
• 7:45
  race.
• 7:46
  So
• 7:47
  here's
• 7:47
  your
• 7:47
  win
• 7:47
  for
• 7:47
  today.
• 7:48
  If
• 7:48
  you're
• 7:48
  new
• 7:48
  to
• 7:48
  the
• 7:48
  show,
• 7:49
  every
• 7:49
  day
• 7:49
  I
• 7:49
  like
• 7:50
  to
• 7:50
  give
• 7:50
  you
• 7:50
  one
• 7:50
  simple
• 7:51
  win
• 7:51
  that
• 7:51
  you
• 7:51
  can
• 7:51
  take
• 7:51
  away.
• 7:52
  Here's
• 7:52
  today's
• 7:52
  win.
• 7:53
  I
• 7:53
  want
• 7:53
  you
• 7:53
  to
• 7:54
  write
• 7:54
  down
• 7:54
  one
• 7:55
  area
• 7:55
  where
• 7:55
  you're
• 7:55
  making
• 7:56
  progress,
• 7:57
  just
• 7:58
  one
• 7:58
  area.
• 7:59
  Because
• 7:59
  you
• 8:00
  need
• 8:00
  to
• 8:00
  redirect
• 8:00
  your
• 8:01
  mind
• 8:01
  to
• 8:01
  see
• 8:01
  movement,
• 8:02
  not
• 8:03
  just
• 8:03
  comparison,
• 8:04
  because
• 8:04
  that's
• 8:04
  really
• 8:05
  what
• 8:05
  we're
• 8:05
  talking
• 8:05
  about.
• 8:06
  It's
• 8:06
  about
• 8:06
  movement.
• 8:07
  I'll
• 8:07
  give
• 8:07
  you
• 8:07
  a
• 8:07
  great
• 8:07
  example
• 8:08
  of
• 8:08
  this.
• 8:08
  I
• 8:09
  ran
• 8:09
  a
• 8:09
  5k
• 8:10
  not
• 8:10
  too
• 8:10
  long
• 8:10
  ago.
• 8:11
  It's
• 8:11
  probably
• 8:11
  been
• 8:11
  6
• 8:11
  years
• 8:11
  ago
• 8:12
  now
• 8:12
  to
• 8:12
  think
• 8:12
  about.
• 8:12
  I'm
• 8:12
  getting
• 8:12
  ready
• 8:13
  to
• 8:13
  start
• 8:13
  running
• 8:13
  some
• 8:13
  more.
• 8:14
  For
• 8:14
  me,
• 8:14
  it
• 8:14
  wasn't
• 8:15
  about
• 8:15
  my
• 8:15
  finishing
• 8:16
  time.
• 8:17
  I
• 8:17
  listen
• 8:17
  there
• 8:18
  were
• 8:18
  people
• 8:18
  that
• 8:18
  walked
• 8:18
  finish
• 8:19
  quicker
• 8:20
  than
• 8:20
  I
• 8:20
  did,
• 8:21
  but
• 8:21
  I
• 8:21
  finished.
• 8:22
  And
• 8:23
  that's
• 8:23
  the
• 8:23
  whole
• 8:23
  key.
• 8:24
  Well,
• 8:24
  let's
• 8:24
  move
• 8:24
  into
• 8:25
  our
• 8:25
  Bible
• 8:25
  verse
• 8:25
  today.
• 8:26
  Today's
• 8:27
  Bible
• 8:27
  verse
• 8:27
  comes
• 8:27
  to
• 8:27
  us
• 8:27
  from
• 8:28
  the
• 8:28
  book
• 8:28
  of
• 8:28
  Psalms,
• 8:28
  chapter
• 8:29
  27,
• 8:30
  verse
• 8:30
  14.
• 8:31
  And
• 8:31
  it
• 8:32
  says
• 8:32
  this.
• 8:32
  It
• 8:32
  says,
• 8:33
  wait
• 8:33
  for
• 8:33
  the
• 8:33
  Lord,
• 8:34
  be
• 8:34
  strong
• 8:35
  and
• 8:35
  take
• 8:35
  heart
• 8:36
  and
• 8:37
  wait
• 8:37
  for
• 8:38
  the
• 8:38
  Lord.
• 8:40
  Wait.
• 8:42
  Seasons
• 8:42
  that
• 8:43
  feel
• 8:43
  delayed
• 8:43
  are
• 8:43
  not
• 8:44
  always
• 8:44
  seasons
• 8:44
  that
• 8:45
  are
• 8:45
  abandoned.
• 8:45
  There
• 8:45
  just
• 8:46
  might
• 8:46
  be
• 8:46
  a
• 8:46
  different
• 8:46
  timing
• 8:47
  than
• 8:47
  what
• 8:47
  you're
• 8:47
  expecting.
• 8:49
  So
• 8:49
  wait
• 8:50
  for
• 8:50
  the
• 8:50
  Lord,
• 8:50
  Be
• 8:50
  strong,
• 8:51
  take
• 8:51
  heart
• 8:52
  and
• 8:53
  wait.
• 8:54
  Let's
• 8:54
  pray
• 8:54
  together.
• 8:55
  Heavenly
• 8:56
  Father,
• 8:57
  right
• 8:57
  now
• 8:57
  I
• 8:57
  lift
• 8:58
  up
• 8:58
  that
• 8:58
  person
• 8:58
  who
• 8:58
  feels
• 8:59
  behind
• 8:59
  in
• 8:59
  their
• 8:59
  life.
• 9:01
  You
• 9:01
  see
• 9:01
  the
• 9:01
  exhaustion,
• 9:03
  you
• 9:03
  see
• 9:03
  the
• 9:03
  disappointment,
• 9:05
  and
• 9:05
  you
• 9:05
  see
• 9:05
  the
• 9:05
  quiet
• 9:06
  comparisons
• 9:07
  happening
• 9:07
  in
• 9:07
  their
• 9:07
  own
• 9:08
  heart.
• 9:09
  Remind
• 9:10
  them
• 9:10
  that
• 9:10
  their
• 9:10
  worth
• 9:10
  is
• 9:11
  not
• 9:11
  measured
• 9:11
  by
• 9:12
  a
• 9:12
  timeline
• 9:12
  or
• 9:13
  some
• 9:13
  milestone.
• 9:14
  Lord,
• 9:15
  help
• 9:15
  them
• 9:15
  to
• 9:15
  keep
• 9:15
  moving
• 9:16
  forward
• 9:16
  with
• 9:16
  hope.
• 9:17
  Give
• 9:18
  them
• 9:18
  peace
• 9:18
  where
• 9:18
  comparison
• 9:19
  is
• 9:19
  stolen.
• 9:20
  Their
• 9:20
  joy
• 9:20
  and
• 9:21
  Lord,
• 9:21
  give
• 9:21
  them
• 9:21
  courage
• 9:22
  to
• 9:22
  trust
• 9:23
  that
• 9:23
  their
• 9:23
  future
• 9:23
  is
• 9:24
  still
• 9:24
  being
• 9:24
  shaped
• 9:24
  with
• 9:25
  purpose.
• 9:26
  Strengthen
• 9:27
  them
• 9:27
  in
• 9:27
  this
• 9:27
  season,
• 9:27
  in
• 9:28
  every
• 9:28
  season,
• 9:28
  Lord,
• 9:28
  and
• 9:29
  help
• 9:29
  them
• 9:29
  to
• 9:29
  see
• 9:29
  progress
• 9:31
  even
• 9:31
  when
• 9:31
  life
• 9:31
  looks
• 9:32
  different
• 9:32
  than
• 9:32
  they
• 9:32
  expected.
• 9:34
  And
• 9:34
  I
• 9:34
  ask
• 9:34
  this
• 9:34
  in
• 9:35
  the
• 9:35
  precious
• 9:35
  name
• 9:35
  of
• 9:35
  Jesus.
• 9:37
  Amen,
• 9:39
  friend.
• 9:39
  Your
• 9:39
  story
• 9:40
  is
• 9:40
  not
• 9:40
  late,
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  it's
• 9:42
  still
• 9:42
  unfolding.
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• 9:44
  that's
• 9:44
  the
• 9:44
  beauty
• 9:44
  of
• 9:44
  this.
• 9:44
  You're
• 9:45
  on
• 9:45
  a
• 9:45
  journey.
• 9:45
  Who
• 9:46
  knows
• 9:46
  where
• 9:46
  it's
• 9:46
  going
• 9:47
  to
• 9:47
  end
• 9:47
  up?
• 9:48
  But
• 9:48
  wait
• 9:48
  on
• 9:49
  the
• 9:49
  Lord
• 9:50
  and
• 9:50
  listen.
• 9:50
  If
• 9:50
  today's
• 9:51
  message
• 9:51
  has
• 9:51
  resonated
• 9:52
  with
• 9:52
  you,
• 9:52
  I
• 9:53
  would
• 9:53
  love
• 9:53
  to
• 9:53
  hear
• 9:53
  your
• 9:53
  question
• 9:54
  for
• 9:54
  the
• 9:54
  show.
• 9:55
  You
• 9:55
  can
• 9:55
  head
• 9:55
  over
• 9:55
  to
• 9:56
  financiallyconfidentChristian.com/question
• 9:59
  Let
• 9:59
  me
• 10:00
  know
• 10:00
  what's
• 10:00
  on
• 10:00
  your
• 10:00
  mind.
• 10:00
  Let
• 10:01
  me
• 10:01
  know
• 10:01
  those
• 10:01
  questions
• 10:02
  or
• 10:02
  those
• 10:02
  triumphs
• 10:03
  or
• 10:03
  those
• 10:03
  things
• 10:03
  you're
• 10:03
  struggling
• 10:04
  with
• 10:04
  and
• 10:04
  we
• 10:04
  can
• 10:05
  work
• 10:05
  together
• 10:05
  and
• 10:05
  I
• 10:06
  can
• 10:06
  help
• 10:06
  you.
• 10:06
  Again.
• 10:06
  That's
• 10:08
  at
• 10:09
  financiallyconfidentchristian.com/question
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• 10:11
  you
• 10:11
  so
• 10:12
  much
• 10:12
  for
• 10:12
  joining
• 10:12
  me
• 10:12
  today.
• 10:13
  I
• 10:13
  truly
• 10:13
  appreciate
• 10:14
  when
• 10:14
  you
• 10:14
  give
• 10:14
  me
• 10:14
  a
• 10:14
  little
• 10:15
  time
• 10:15
  every
• 10:15
  day.
• 10:15
  I
• 10:16
  hope
• 10:16
  to
• 10:16
  see
• 10:16
  you
• 10:16
  back.
• 10:17
  So
• 10:17
  stay
• 10:17
  financially
• 10:18
  savvy.
• 10:19
  God
• 10:19
  bless
• 10:19
  you
• 10:20
  and
• 10:20
  you
• 10:20
  have
• 10:21
  a
• 10:21
  tremendously
• 10:21
  wonderful
• 10:22
  day
• 10:22
  today.