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EP 487: Flights, Freaks & Faith · Decisions, Decisions

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  Speaker 1: The Decisions Decisions.
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  Speaker 2: Hey guys, welcome to another episode of The Sizzyyon the
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  Speaker 2: Cizy y'all. It's girl Man dy b a k A
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  Speaker 2: peg the Saalllion aka Pega Marco a ka Peggy Bundy
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  Speaker 2: aka that speach.
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  Speaker 1: Hi, my name is Weezy. Welcome back to another episode.
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  Speaker 1: Oh bitch, Weezy aka BROKEI according to what you didn't
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  Speaker 1: say it, but anyway, Oh my god, Oh fucking can we?
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  Speaker 3: Can we be mad?
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  Speaker 1: Funny?
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  Speaker 3: Because we were sharing some like talking about me? No, no,
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  Speaker 3: we weren't. She well, I wasn't I in the group chat?
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  Speaker 1: No can we called me?
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  Speaker 3: We were talking about what part of the three way call?
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  Speaker 1: Cause you hate weddings and be married people. I don't
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  Speaker 1: hate them.
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  Speaker 3: And this is no, no, no, I know what she
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  Speaker 3: was talking about.
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  Speaker 1: She was like, you got one too. I was like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I just got my field. But I broke out. Bitch.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, oh, she funny, that's crazy.
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  Speaker 1: Let me also, she want to say, Let me also
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  Speaker 1: just say there's no redoing, like she wants to chat again.
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  Speaker 1: And you know what's the crazy part of about it all?
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  Speaker 2: I have to find a nicer way to say exactly
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  Speaker 2: what the fuck I said, because.
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  Speaker 3: My mind hasn't changed. And what's also crazy is.
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  Speaker 2: Even though y'all on the interwebs or whatever, if you're
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  Speaker 2: not gonna patureon, you don't know that was an old
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  Speaker 2: clip ourself. Second off, I don't see how anyone could
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  Speaker 2: take my response any different than your.
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  Speaker 1: Lawyer who's helping you with a preen up. It's the
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  Speaker 1: same goddamn thing. If you're a woman with us, that's
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  Speaker 1: why the fuck are you get married? Well, let me
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  Speaker 1: help you. It's actually not that bad, except I think
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  Speaker 1: it's the cadence of believing that marriage is bad for
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  Speaker 1: lovers because sometimes I guess like there were like comments
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  Speaker 1: on her clips too, and I'm really excited that we'll
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  Speaker 1: get to chat with her on an episode. People are
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  Speaker 1: kind of my lawyer and talk about prenups.
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  Speaker 3: Since yeah, y'all will see down a couple weeks the
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  Speaker 3: next week.
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  Speaker 1: We all know yet yeah, And I made sure like
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  Speaker 1: I wanted her and him to have a conversation, And
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  Speaker 1: I was like talking to my fiance, like, what are
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  Speaker 1: you comfortable divulging because one of the things that I've
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  Speaker 1: realized excuse, bless you, thank you, because I'm media front facing.
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  Speaker 1: Mind you, everybody understands and knows I've been dating someone
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  Speaker 1: in real estate. Not one person has like kind of
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  Speaker 1: had the conversation with me about what I want from him.
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  Speaker 1: It's all like, you gotta make sure you're good. You
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  Speaker 1: got to make sure you're good. Okay, Like you think
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  Speaker 1: that I get it. Sure, I've made all these business contracts.
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  Speaker 1: Why would to make a bad marriage show? Right? Like
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I've done well for myself in business,
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  Speaker 1: I'll succeed in his marriage. However, the interesting part is
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  Speaker 1: none of my friends have asked me about what he's
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  Speaker 1: putting in there, about his properties or his money, nothing
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  Speaker 1: about his assets, what I could say, None of my
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  Speaker 1: friends have asked me that. And I think because we
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  Speaker 1: are in a time of hyperindependence, right women, knowing that
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  Speaker 1: like we really don't need niggas. We're also terrified that
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  Speaker 1: having a man will take something from us, like having
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  Speaker 1: a marriage will remove something from our value or our
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  Speaker 1: bank count or whatever. So I understand the protection. But
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  Speaker 1: it is interesting that just because I have money, nobody's
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  Speaker 1: asked me or said anything about what I would want
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  Speaker 1: to take from him. Nobody was curious, which I.
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  Speaker 2: Mean, maybe it's because the assumption is that you still
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  Speaker 2: have more. So for me, it's the idea that the
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  Speaker 2: person with more to lose in a marriage or divorce
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  Speaker 2: essentially is the person that I was talking about.
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  Speaker 1: I think really just the person that because for yeah,
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  Speaker 1: no one knows anything but about.
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  Speaker 2: That's so that's why you're not getting those questions because
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  Speaker 2: no one knows anything about them. So they're just assuming that, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: this regular guy then swooped you off your feet. They
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  Speaker 2: don't know anything about him because he's not a public
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  Speaker 2: public person.
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  Speaker 1: No, you don't that I would really want to ask,
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  Speaker 1: and maybe all of you do. My life has stayed
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  Speaker 1: the same since I've dated him, if not elevated. I've
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  Speaker 1: bought a home, I've done more things. I'm still going
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  Speaker 1: on the same vacations. Do you just think I'm a trick?
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  Speaker 3: Like?
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  Speaker 1: Do you not think like that?
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  Speaker 2: You know, Drake just said tricking ain't bad if you
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  Speaker 2: like what, let's not make trick and a bad thing.
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  Speaker 1: Giving gifts on the person you might spoil anybody I'm dating.
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  Speaker 3: But like, wait, wait, wait, do you think trick?
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  Speaker 1: It's negitive? Uh? Are you saying why? People would do
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  Speaker 1: you think?
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  Speaker 2: Look, would you feel away if someone referred to you
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  Speaker 2: as a trick but okay, do you would you feel bad?
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  Speaker 2: Let's let's change the word, because again, would you feel bad?
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  Speaker 2: Would you feel bad if people assumed.
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  Speaker 1: That trips, bills, gifts were all bought by you, not
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  Speaker 1: the jaw drop bitch?
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  Speaker 3: You would hate?
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  Speaker 1: So why is that a thing? Why can't be? Why
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  Speaker 1: can't How does it get over the idea that people
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  Speaker 1: knew I had a teammate? Wait a second, because you
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  Speaker 1: don't you don't wait? Why well, particularly because you said
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  Speaker 1: that receiving GI the love language is given gifts, not oh,
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  Speaker 1: I definitely give, but like, but you don't even buying flights?
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  Speaker 1: You think I have to like pay for my nigga
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  Speaker 1: to get on a plane. You gotta.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie.
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  Speaker 1: You look very what's the It looks like it should
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  Speaker 1: be wrapped around your head.
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  Speaker 3: It looks fine here.
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  Speaker 1: Oh as I'm looking at you, I was like, what's
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  Speaker 1: going on? With a swoosh?
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  Speaker 3: I don't know how to stress?
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  Speaker 1: Oh the dress that I am bye and that food
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  Speaker 1: I had to put in his mouth? Oh my god,
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  Speaker 1: wait a second, I need to know why you don't
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  Speaker 1: work so goddamn hard and we know that you're not
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  Speaker 1: a housewife. Why you would feel away? I would so
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  Speaker 1: why I never was sad to be on a solo
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  Speaker 1: trip in girls, I was never that down.
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  Speaker 3: You would feel away.
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  Speaker 1: Pay for a nigga, pay a nigga's way. Now I
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  Speaker 1: am in a relationship, however, where transparently we share our trip,
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  Speaker 1: like like we always paid for our own flight, not
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  Speaker 1: really domestic flights, like if we're doing small things and
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  Speaker 1: he's like, oh, we're going here or whatever like that stuff.
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  Speaker 1: But when we take big trips. So far, we've done
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  Speaker 1: a few Asia, we've been Europe a few times, or
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  Speaker 1: even South South America whatever. Basically we'll just talk about
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  Speaker 1: he'd be like, oh, I'll get the hotel for this city.
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  Speaker 1: Then I'll say that you have bought his flights if
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  Speaker 1: he gets the hotel. No. No, for some reason. For
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  Speaker 1: big trips, oh, I don't know why we Why you
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  Speaker 1: don't want to say you don't bought that nigga flight
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  Speaker 1: before I have for small stuff. I'm sure that's what
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying.
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  Speaker 2: Tell the people that you bought niggas flights. You just
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  Speaker 2: set a flight for a nigga, And now you say,
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  Speaker 2: of course, I'd have bought a flight for small flights.
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  Speaker 2: What's a small flight when it just costs me eight
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  Speaker 2: hundred dollars to go.
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  Speaker 1: To Okay, sometimes when I'm just grabbing something, it's a logistic.
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  Speaker 1: But you think I'm like like eighteen a bitch, because
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  Speaker 1: you know any delts on what I can't do that twice?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah you can't. No, I can't, but I will tell
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  Speaker 1: you you could. My nigga did tell me. My nigga
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  Speaker 1: did tell me.
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  Speaker 3: Once.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, hey, He's like, oh, we were going
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  Speaker 1: to can know, we were going to can't people. I said,
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  Speaker 1: it's the flight that you got to get to Nise.
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  Speaker 3: I'm in six D bitch, he said, eighty is the same.
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  Speaker 1: Hell nah. I was like, okay, but I'm fine use
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  Speaker 1: my certificate, so global upgrade. Now, now we in an
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  Speaker 1: argument about woo poom, what we gonna do? You know
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  Speaker 1: what I'm saying, because he's like, bitcher is who the
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  Speaker 1: fuck going to pay ten thousand dollars get on the plane?
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  Speaker 1: Which I agree with. But now, because I'm not no
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  Speaker 1: shady weird bitch, I would make sure like I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: use the two certificates.
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  Speaker 2: So I love it so look in your eyes so
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  Speaker 2: and tell the world that it is okay as a
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  Speaker 2: woman to why a man's flight.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe I've purchased in Orlando flight because we were just
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  Speaker 1: I had to get the seats together.
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  Speaker 3: Bro hold on, wait, wait, wait, wait wait.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, it is okay as a woman to gift your man. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: here's the honest truth. It is absolutely okay. I love
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  Speaker 1: to gift your man. It's absolutely okay to pay for dinners.
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  Speaker 1: Mm hmm. I think it's also okay to take care
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  Speaker 1: of things or pick up shit when you're in dynamics
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  Speaker 1: where you both make the same. I do not believe
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  Speaker 1: this for men that make a lot more?
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  Speaker 2: What's a lot more? Double triple? What if they only
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  Speaker 2: make forty thousand more? What if I make sixty thousand
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  Speaker 2: he make a hundred thousand?
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  Speaker 1: I said a lot more.
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  Speaker 3: But that's why I said, what's a lot?
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  Speaker 1: You make? What sixteen?
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  Speaker 3: I make sixty? He make a hundred?
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  Speaker 2: Should I, as a woman chipping on vacations and stuff
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  Speaker 2: and or pick up dinner?
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  Speaker 1: Like? I think, yeah, we I think we should be
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  Speaker 1: picking up a dinner or drink chab once in a
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  Speaker 1: blue I do.
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  Speaker 3: Now what was ones on? The blue look at me.
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  Speaker 3: I was not dressed.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if all right, let me thing. I'm
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  Speaker 1: with him six days a week. That's a lot. I know.
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  Speaker 1: We're very basically buried right six days a week by
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  Speaker 1: six days a week. It's when I surprise him, is
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  Speaker 1: when I pay.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, how many surprises you do?
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  Speaker 1: Not often on the week. For the most part, our
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  Speaker 1: relationship is very his mind and hours, which I like
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  Speaker 1: kind of learned as we talked about marriage. All the
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  Speaker 1: shit I want to do. I don't really ask for
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  Speaker 1: money for him ever. Okay, there's times where he might
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  Speaker 1: want me to do a hairstyle and he'll send me money,
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  Speaker 1: or he wants me to do something, wants me to
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  Speaker 1: pick up a dress or whatever, a little cute shit.
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  Speaker 1: For the most part, I do every single thing I want,
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  Speaker 1: and I afford it. Every single luxury goods he wants
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  Speaker 1: to buy, all his stuff, he affords it. When it
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  Speaker 1: comes to hours, that's normally when we seem to share.
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  Speaker 1: So typically that's vacation shit. Typically that can be things
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  Speaker 1: or experiences, a couple's massage or let's go to bath
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  Speaker 1: house or I'm not really thinking too much. However, I
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  Speaker 1: do think in dynamics where women aren't making as much.
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  Speaker 3: I don't think it's cool to trick on a nigga.
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  Speaker 1: I think also you need to be in committed relationships
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  Speaker 1: and long term relationships for you to start investing in
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  Speaker 1: your relationship. I think courting is specifically important to the
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  Speaker 1: dynamics of today's relationships because people don't treat relationships romantic
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  Speaker 1: and a moore. They're very casual, they're very come over whatever.
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  Speaker 1: And as someone that's a non monogamous person wanting to
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  Speaker 1: get buried, there's some stand monogamous trick. Bitch. The way
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  Speaker 1: this word sound, I've never heard you say so many
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  Speaker 1: big goddamn words in like multiple citizens because of the
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  Speaker 1: economy of the relationship is a bitch. It was a drug,
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  Speaker 1: Give me the trick. What is this rose?
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  Speaker 2: This is not rose? So this is actually vaka Sutta
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  Speaker 2: would splashed of pomegranate juice because I wanted to make
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  Speaker 2: it healthy.
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  Speaker 1: Oh well, regranted probatics. No, but I don't think that
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  Speaker 1: we should be tricking on niggas. I really do not.
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  Speaker 1: It gives desperate girl, It gives very down on one knee,
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  Speaker 1: absolutely not. And every time me and that Nigga passed
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  Speaker 1: a video of a bitch down on her knee.
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  Speaker 3: He'd be looking at me like, did you see the
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  Speaker 3: one and.
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  Speaker 1: Now viral of the girl who set up the proposal
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  Speaker 1: at McDonald I? Sure did. Did you see that girl?
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  Speaker 3: At that point?
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  Speaker 1: I would like to ask? And he was working at
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  Speaker 1: McDonald's and she proposed while he was on ship. I
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  Speaker 1: love love, Okay, I love proposal. I'll be acting like
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  Speaker 1: I don't love love. I like simple proposals. For like
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  Speaker 1: she had a whole balloon arc at the McDonald No,
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  Speaker 1: I saw the balloon arc. I think it would have
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  Speaker 1: been cute to have him proposed at work, like, yo,
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  Speaker 1: come have lunch she proposed to him. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: No, That's why I was like, I don't really have
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  Speaker 3: anything nice to say.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, what's your update? Was that an update that you're
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  Speaker 1: not a trick? But you a trick? How do we
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  Speaker 1: get there?
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  Speaker 2: I know, first off, you wanted to start this episode
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  Speaker 2: all petty is how the fuck we got there?
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  Speaker 3: And I had say myself, bitch.
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  Speaker 1: Did you see one of the company. No?
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  Speaker 3: No, no, no, why are we still here?
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  Speaker 1: No?
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  Speaker 3: Someone tagged you? That's why there was a video I
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  Speaker 3: posted on my.
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  Speaker 1: Girl, I do think you see in the way you
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  Speaker 1: becusing people out, Well if you ain't see, because this
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  Speaker 1: motherfucker I ain't see it. So that I posted how
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  Speaker 1: I let him come with me to a wedding shop
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  Speaker 1: because I wanted to see what he liked. And this
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  Speaker 1: girl said, I thought full cork Pope said marriages for
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  Speaker 1: broke bitches. I said, and she's gonna she said, so
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  Speaker 1: she right? I said, yeah, well, I guess so I'm
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  Speaker 1: meta been to shop. You see me in second hand? Bitch, Like,
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  Speaker 1: what the fuck you want me to do? Y'all want
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  Speaker 1: me to be there and be like, no, it's not
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  Speaker 1: you guys, No, no, man, he's wrong. No girl, y'all
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  Speaker 1: really want me to fight for my life on the
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  Speaker 1: breakfast blood, Well, I'll be fighting for mine. I'll be
• 12:24
  Speaker 1: fighting for mine in them comments.
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  Speaker 2: Listen, just know that I'm a potter and I say
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  Speaker 2: things and I just love.
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  Speaker 1: Let me just tell you to know that my opinions
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  Speaker 1: really role you. Motherfucker's up.
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  Speaker 2: But I said what I said. It was a year ago.
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  Speaker 2: Do I still believe it? I think that's the way
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  Speaker 2: I could say it better. So I've been having my
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  Speaker 2: husband help me for when we really talk about it
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  Speaker 2: again for me to just say it more eloquently, Apparently
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  Speaker 2: all you got to do is say things with like
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  Speaker 2: a lot of nice, big words and then it landsoft.
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  Speaker 1: I actually think you could have changed one a few
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  Speaker 1: words and still said the same thing.
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  Speaker 2: No, for sure it was a broke bitches. No, I
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  Speaker 2: just think I gotta remove the broke bitches.
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  Speaker 1: No, even though you niggas as bitches, so you broke
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  Speaker 1: ass niggass bitch, I think you would have said marriage
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  Speaker 1: is a bigger accomplishment in life for broke bitches. Marriage
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  Speaker 1: is better. But that's not what our marriage. But that's
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  Speaker 1: not what I meant.
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  Speaker 2: So to me, when I say marriages for broke bitches,
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  Speaker 2: it initially and essentially was and bitch, we got a
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  Speaker 2: whole goddamn lawyer coming home, so we can't do this
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  Speaker 2: on that episode. But for me, it was saying that
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  Speaker 2: the benefit of marriage, tying in assets, normally, cohabitating, doing
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  Speaker 2: all those things benefits someone who's broke, and marriage, especially
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  Speaker 2: at the end of it, normally does not benefit the
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  Speaker 2: person with assets or the breadwinner, which is why, further
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  Speaker 2: explained as women who now apparently are dating niggas for
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  Speaker 2: character now, which is why most bitches a single.
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  Speaker 3: Y'all see the goddamn articles.
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  Speaker 1: We got a dating personality to date them for who
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  Speaker 1: they are. I mean, we can and a little bit
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  Speaker 1: more shorty out here for the girls we can't.
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  Speaker 3: I love my man to Dell and I've in today.
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  Speaker 1: Also, I got good one. If he was balloon arc
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  Speaker 1: you know in McDon it wouldn't be for me.
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  Speaker 3: I hadn't to be quite honest.
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  Speaker 1: If he was too busy, it wouldn't be for me either,
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  Speaker 1: like if he had to clock in to a place
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  Speaker 1: me instead of maybe a little hybrid. You know, my
• 14:24
  Speaker 1: ex was a hybrid. He did remote and office half
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  Speaker 1: the week, so it was more flexibility. Yeah, I like,
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  Speaker 1: I like my niggas retired. And listen that nigga said,
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  Speaker 1: we you flat on Tuesday. Okay, let me rearrange my
• 14:36
  Speaker 1: schedule because he knows now. I received the pick up
• 14:40
  Speaker 1: and drop off of the airport as a found sometimes
• 14:43
  Speaker 1: getting into ub having a NA. So you were in
• 14:47
  Speaker 1: my study and you're not taking me to the airports? Hello,
• 14:51
  Speaker 1: what are we doing? He can help driving in New York?
• 14:53
  Speaker 1: Oh what happened? Dall? My love?
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  Speaker 3: D that's your update? Talk about it.
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  Speaker 1: So if you guys are on Patreon, you probably heard
• 14:59
  Speaker 1: me talk about let's talking about it, and well we
• 15:01
  Speaker 1: all know the west Chester thing. He wants me to
• 15:03
  Speaker 1: move to Westchester because that's already where he owns, and
• 15:05
  Speaker 1: I'm like no. So here we had asked a serious talk, bitch.
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  Speaker 1: So in our relationship, we talk once a month about
• 15:13
  Speaker 1: whatever we need to have a check in about. Okay,
• 15:17
  Speaker 1: it started for like open relationship stuff, but then now
• 15:19
  Speaker 1: that we're pretty stable in that, it's really for other shit.
• 15:23
  Speaker 1: And really why we do this is so that something
• 15:26
  Speaker 1: small doesn't need to be addressed while we're in our
• 15:29
  Speaker 1: routine or in our group. Obviously, if something major happens,
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: we'll talk about it, but like, for example, it could
• 15:34
  Speaker 1: be hey, I didn't really like when you know, you
• 15:37
  Speaker 1: were getting snippy with me that day. You tend to
• 15:39
  Speaker 1: do that whatever, things like that. So we had a
• 15:42
  Speaker 1: whole check in about where are we going to live?
• 15:45
  Speaker 1: And basically he was like, la, So here's the things
• 15:54
  Speaker 1: that we talked about. Obviously I would have to be
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: bi coostal, right, So the main conversation is why the
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: fuck are we still living in two separate places? Now?
• 16:04
  Speaker 1: I cannot leave the city right now because I'm working
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: in the city all the time. He doesn't want to
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: leave Westchester because he owns his spot, so he's like,
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: why would I move? In all fairness, it really did
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: hit me in our convo, even though he said it
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: one hundred times. He's like, Yo, basically, this is the
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: process you want me to do. He's like, in our
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: entire relationship, I spent ninety percent of my time in
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: your home, right I come down here, my closer in
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: this house. I basically live downtown now because this is
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: where you are. I have the car. I never make
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: you come to me. I'm always sacrificing, whether it's traffic
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: or anything, showing up and being here in three years
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: of our relationship, and now you want me to put
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: my home on the market, sell it to move into
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: a rental with you.
• 16:50
  Speaker 3: That sounds nuts.
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: It does sound nuts, And I'm like, you know what, Okay,
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: I understand. However, you want me to leave the city
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: to fuck and be in Westchester. Now'm gonna be an
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: hour away from meetings. I'm going to trap house every day.
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: That is truly like a baby that I'm molding and
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: working and trying to like touch Base with WTF media
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: is also walking distant from trap, Like it's just why
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: why would I leave that when all your properties are
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: spread around you're doing shit on your fucking computer. So
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: I was like, why do you want Westchester? And he's like,
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: because I want a home and I want space. I
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: can't do this fucking Lower east Side noisy shit is
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: driving me insane. So then I was like, okay, well,
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: what if we just had a getaway spot. Westchester is
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: still a million dollars for a nice crib, Like, just
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: be real, why don't we just have a getaway place
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: and keep the Lower east Side? Like if you just
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: want quiet sometimes, fine, it's not gonna be Georgia, And
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: how gonna be Texas. We talked about it. All we're
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: gonna do is get.
• 17:53
  Speaker 3: A cat's skills house.
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna learn how to fucking drive in the city.
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: We've been practicing. I said, I get a nice car
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: so would enjoy the drive. But basically we're like, cool,
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: we could do twenty days in the city ten days.
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: We'll try to split that time. But if that's all
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: he needs is just a place to say we can
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: get away, fine, The houses are so fucking cheap over there,
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Like they're and I'm not
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: trying to stay cheap in a no, go ahead, in
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: a what's the word I'm trying to no, not elitis.
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: They're not in a way that's out of touch. Like
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: these houses are like two hundred K, three hundred K.
• 18:28
  Speaker 3: What's in New York the Catskills two and a half.
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: Hours, which all I knows.
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: I'm in Atlanta, Georgia right now, and it's supposed to
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: be cheap right up. But but these houses, like I
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: ain't seen a house with two on a k hill.
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: They're not cheap.
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: I mean, they're not in Atlanta has no, no, no, no.
• 18:42
  Speaker 3: Two hundred k is below average of what houses are.
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: Now I'm hitting the house. We would like this four twenty.
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: But literally, we saw a house we would move into
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: borrow for three to fifty. Like when I tell you
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: this shit ain't a stretch.
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: How far is cats Skills from the city?
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: Two hours? Oh?
• 18:58
  Speaker 3: Upstate?
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: Oh girl? You you looking in sundowntowns You better be careful.
• 19:05
  Speaker 3: Why is that you knew the Caskills was two hours away?
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: Do you think I'll be going two hours away from
• 19:09
  Speaker 2: the city now? It's the only place I went to.
• 19:12
  Speaker 2: I had a volleyball tournament.
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: It was I think Syracuse, okay, but we drove like
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: the bus. But bit ch'all never went a buz Syracuse
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: as part. I never went above White Plains. How do
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: you think I'm feeling every time I have to go
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: around there? Wait, you would go to bitch. You was
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: talking about Cascullard. Let me say you why, no, no, no,
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: I thought I was. The reason I'm doing this is
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: because Westchester is forty five five minutes out the side
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: of the city. Right for context, y'all, Why would we
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: keep a Lower east Side apartment and a Westchester home
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: if it's only forty five minutes. I'm like, if you
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: really want to get away, let's go nigga, bro.
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: That would be like living in Orlando and getting a
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: home in West pom Beach.
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: But that's the thing. If this is something that my
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: partner needs, I'm gonna sacrifice this. I completely understand. One
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: of the other things. He was like, Yo, now we
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: have to have a crib in la I'm well, oh.
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: Wait, what sacrifice? What if he said I want twenty
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: days in cat Skills and you get ten days in
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: the city. Well if that wouldn't happen, did you talking
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: about compromised?
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: But what matter of fact? You know what one of
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: the conversations was. I was like, you gotta go to
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: La some days too.
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: You gotta get that nigga three days.
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: Of Catskills, which who live ass? Hey, make sure that
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: nigga don't see this episode. No, no, hey, nigga, you
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: getting three? You getting a weekend in the Cat's Skills.
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: You know, I don't know like he might. He was
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: like no, I said, you know, this house is great
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: because you see how it has so much space. We
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: could lock our stuff up. And he was like, while
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: we do that. I was like to AIRBNBA, because we
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: will you not gonna be there, which show compromise. Basically,
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't want to be forty five minutes
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: outside the city, and there's no excuse to have two
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: cribs forty five minutes away. That's what we're already doing.
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: So I knew for a fact, if I made it further,
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: he would say, yeah, so I'm gonna be an Upstate girl.
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know if it's going to
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: be riding back Cat Skills, But she.
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: Said, she got the upstate for the fifty hours a month.
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: You're not even doing a full seventy.
• 21:23
  Speaker 3: Two, Manny.
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: They're so cute. They're these little wooden homes with saunas
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: and stuff. Now you know what did scare me? When
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: we was driving around, you know, look at someone else.
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: We got in this little argument because I was like,
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: this is so dark, like this is ridiculous. I'm going
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: to get murdered. And he's like, I'm like, this is
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: why I can't do the suburbs. He's like, aren't you
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: from Orlando?
• 21:44
  Speaker 3: And what the fuck do I said, bitch, we have
• 21:47
  Speaker 3: street lights.
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: Let me tell you, Mandy.
• 21:49
  Speaker 3: I googled Orlando population, Orlando paul seven point too million.
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: He's like, please, you're trying to tell me Florida got lights,
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: Florida got all this ship Flora his fucking red neck no,
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: da da da da.
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: He wasn't lying, But we got street light in some
• 22:04
  Speaker 3: blue counties, county counties. We have some blue counties somewhere up.
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: Through the red stakes. So I don't know who live
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: up there. Y'all want to give me some little tips, tricks, advice,
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: I gonna hold you.
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: I don't know how We're gonna continue to show because
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: I can't sit here and say my ketchup without sounding
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: like a complete horror.
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: Next to you. Oh my god, I have a threesome one,
• 22:26
  Speaker 3: but I'm not doing it yet.
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: Oh okay, I just figured it'd be fine to talk
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: about how I'm gonna be a suburban I don't know
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: what I'm gonna do, bitch, Well, I gotta you know
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: what's crazy.
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: But okay, I'm not a horror because y'all are gonna
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: see how I'm not like playing into it.
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: I guess that's the word. So basically one of my
• 22:43
  Speaker 3: old niggas.
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: Uh.
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: When I say old niggas, let me think first time
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: I gave him some kouchie, I was like twenty two,
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: So I was giving a nigga from fourteen years ago.
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: Oh but you fucked him that long ago, bitch.
• 22:57
  Speaker 3: That's why I was like dinner around Hope.
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I've been around the block, not been around the block,
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: but like he was.
• 23:05
  Speaker 3: He was my regular in New York? Is that mad?
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: Do you work at a restaurant? Yeah?
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: Sure he did, but no, he was who I was
• 23:16
  Speaker 3: fucking with when I first moved in.
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: You. I remember when we went to that one. No,
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: I didn't meet him. Did you not hear how I said?
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: I didn't even want to tell you lie because then
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: she was seeing here start trying to put out I
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: actually I know, because bitch, I have no story. I
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: never know any who.
• 23:32
  Speaker 3: So we both live in Atlanta now.
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: But he hasn't been someone I've revisited because clearly I
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: moved here.
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: I was dating. Then I was with actor Bathe and
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: we broke up.
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: And now I am, you know, very happy in seeing
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: my primary and so I've only seen him once. After
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: a spicy night at mc K. I was drunk and
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: horny and all these niggas was on. I mean, I
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: ain't want him, so I said, yo, let me come
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: get that dick. But this was to this dude, to
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: this dude. Yeah, So I went to his house. We fucked,
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: It was cute. Left the next day said thank you.
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: But this was last year. So I get a text
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: message today, let me pull up this. I don't why
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: I felt to why because I I went to his
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: house maybe last October. Bitch's given a year, so but
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: I never really circled back because he got a lot
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: going on. I don't like niggas. Who got too much
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: going on, too much people around, too much shit.
• 24:37
  Speaker 3: I don't like it. So I was good.
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: He do seem like one of the niggas that have
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: a bunch of niggas at the house when you come over,
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: just a lot.
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: Well he's he's And this is where a part of
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: me felt bad. Not me feeling bad for so oh
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: oh oh, sorry, there we go. Sorry, we was a
• 24:54
  Speaker 2: little we was a little calm in the room.
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: We should stop talking shit.
• 24:58
  Speaker 3: That scared me.
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: This ain't a witchy nigga. No, he does a nigga
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: with a baby. Bitch is withy he does a I
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: heard she into some shit, but go ahead.
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: Oh he got a bitch right now? No, no, no,
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: he got a bitch right now. It's old bitch. Oh AnyWho,
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: So he hits me today. Let me see the last
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: time we spoke. The last time we spoke was October
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: thirty first. Chall was both at the Lady at thirty bitch,
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: and before October thirty first.
• 25:30
  Speaker 3: Oh, never mind, that's the week we fucked. It was
• 25:32
  Speaker 3: October twenty seventh.
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: Oh, bitch, were you in Costant when you fucked? No,
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: because I was going from and ck. But I had
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: a little nice little dress on.
• 25:42
  Speaker 3: So he hits me today.
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: What you on? Baby? First off, baby's crazy? How you
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: calling me baby? This long? Baby? Baby?
• 25:52
  Speaker 3: I don't even call him baby.
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: I don't know, but he called me baby. I said, hey, hi,
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: hey you.
• 25:58
  Speaker 3: I love hitting a nigga with a hey you recording today?
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: Sup?
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: Here we go and it's wild like the internet. Y'all
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: be talking about me. The comments be thick, y'all. Little
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: you be talking y'all, little YouTubers be throwing shade on
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: your girl. Here he go, not much, just checking on
• 26:18
  Speaker 2: you been seeing your clips? Followed by I'm gonna need
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: a re up and now I feel like I'm a drug.
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: But a drug that ain't that good cause nigga. I
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: literally told him that sold on. This is where he
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: gave me feeling back. I told him I was nervous
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: about him seeing the clips. Then I said, nigga, you
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: be playing.
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: And now you talking about me like a drug. I
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: can't be a good one if you only need a
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: reup once a year. I literally told him that with
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: the motherfucker to Boji Nigga, how the scrawl? Nigga? We
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: ain't talking or fuck since last October?
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: Yes, I've been with a nigga that's been drinking me down,
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: so I ain't hit you because I'm good and they
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: need you.
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: But also now you thinking me need to me bitch.
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: Eleven months later, Now.
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: I fell away about my coaching because it took you
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: eleven months to need a reup. So I literally wrote
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: him and I said, yeah, can't be good because it
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: needs a re up. And then I feel bad because
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: then he starts going into his unfortunate past year.
• 27:21
  Speaker 3: And now I'm hearing about long who died, and I
• 27:25
  Speaker 3: was like, damn not you making me feel bad. Okay,
• 27:29
  Speaker 3: Now I'll give you all some tea on somebody the
• 27:31
  Speaker 3: text to be because it's making me think about it.
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: Because why before you get though, what's the longest you
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: have ever gone without fucking somebody? But he crossed your
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: mind and you realized you wanted to hit again, but
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: you hit him knowing it's been a while. I need
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: to know if you done double back from a nigga
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: that you ain't seen in.
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: Mad long are you? Okay?
• 27:56
  Speaker 3: What's the longest that you realize you went without seeing
• 27:59
  Speaker 3: that person, but you.
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: Hit him up just think you could get the dick again,
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: because you thought you could get the dick again because
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: he thinks he'd get the pussy right now. But bitch,
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: I'm about to see my nigga in two days. This
• 28:11
  Speaker 2: pussy gotta be tauted.
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: Didn't know how horrible decisions started. I remember you said
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: I was gonna see him in fuck him. Did you
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: ever fuck him? No? I didn't, no, but I was
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: gonna say it was I was planning when I was like, oh,
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: you know what, maybe I'll like him and blah blah blah,
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: what's I saw him again? I was like, but that's
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: not I'm talking about. Bitch.
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: I know you don't hit up a nigga from the
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: past one time. And the nigga you brought to Jamaica,
• 28:37
  Speaker 2: wasn't that a nigga that you ain't see him forever?
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: And then he was like, join me a heat up.
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: Okay, wait, I have a few. I know you've done it.
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: That's why I was like, bitch, stop acting like. I
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: know you're getting engaged, but like, hey, let me on
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: say this is just.
• 28:52
  Speaker 3: For entertainment purposes.
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: Hold on, wait, I gotta because you know they be
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: saying ooh not she engaged talking about another nigga Oh
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: the disrespect.
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: I mean what Oh my on my list Australian guy Jack,
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: two girls from Tuloom, girl from Cruise, girl from Cruise
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: not you. Is this your ongoing list? Mexico girl, Cuba, Adeline.
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: I'm talking about somebody you hit up again? No, I know,
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: I'm sure.
• 29:19
  Speaker 3: I got to look through the list. I remember, Oh,
• 29:24
  Speaker 3: this one's bad.
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: Okay. I don't want to be Mandy on that patret
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: where she says she doesn't put pat niggas, but this
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: one was bad. I hit up a guy that was
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: used to play ball in Miami when I was in
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: LA one, the one with the dreads. No like him.
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: Look at you not remembering Adam to the list. I
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: got another body for you, but you know that dreads.
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: It was football many Oh football, are you? What support?
• 29:55
  Speaker 3: Did you say?
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: So into him? He's so ugly now? Is he ugly? Now?
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: I'm I'm not gonna lie the NFL players, But also
• 30:02
  Speaker 2: so they age like okay, like milk.
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: So I fucked this dude. I didn't even think you
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: would have known about it. So he played ball in
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: Miami at the time and I was in LA somehow
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: I saw him on my stories, Maybe because you'd be
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: seeing a blue check with a pop up and you
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: know it's funny. Only when I'm thinking, do I check
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: my out stories? Because I'd be like, what niggas are here?
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: So boom, he's in La. I'm in La. We start
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: reminiscing and talking dirty. Okay, so it's already confirmed that
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna get fucked. So I was flown out at
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: the time by Fuse and I was like, oh, I'm
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: staying at the whole Warehouse. It's fun come He's like, actually,
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: I'm in Malibu. I'm two hours away. I was like,
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: you're staying with me tonight anyway.
• 30:41
  Speaker 3: Girl. He pulled up.
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: He was so fucking ugly. He was fat.
• 30:46
  Speaker 3: Did you not see his current story?
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: He had like a private page and I didn't want
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: to follow because I didn't even I was like, this
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: is gonna be a one time thing, you know what
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: I mean? I don't no, I didn't want to, like,
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: I don't want to think it's a just get that
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: fat over time. But his profile picture looked good and
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: I was old, like when he played it.
• 31:03
  Speaker 3: Was absolutely old. It was from the day he retired.
• 31:06
  Speaker 3: So we get to I get to the bar, the
• 31:10
  Speaker 3: elevators behind you.
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: A soho right, I'm gonna do it. But why we
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: keep doing that? We can't talk shit anymore.
• 31:17
  Speaker 3: We're about ball players and all the nbas and lie.
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: This is this is scary, oh dub bitch because I
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: put the flag over my baby. Look what it was
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: over at the nickt Then are you okay?
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: So that's fine? Okay, So the elevators behind me?
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: Right. He had a nice ass voice too. So I'm
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: at the bar and he's like, miss Geela, miss wheezy.
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: You know. I turned around, I said, and where are you?
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: Because you are totally different? You didn't Yes, I did
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: know you didn't bitch Hannah alone alone and bit you
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: better tell the truth.
• 31:57
  Speaker 3: You knew you saw it. You said you looked different.
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: Yesterday had bitch, not your tug and ship. But you
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: still gave no plus Okay, the only thing I could
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: describe it like it was not true. This is the truth, y'all. Okay.
• 32:14
  Speaker 3: It's kind of like when I was with skydiving. I
• 32:17
  Speaker 3: was up there and I didn't want.
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: To jump off the plane, but I was like, I'm
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: already up here because you knew that nigga drove two
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: hours and then you felt bad for that tour.
• 32:26
  Speaker 2: I want to tell that nigga drive two bow hours.
• 32:27
  Speaker 2: I got your gas money, y'all. Let me tell you,
• 32:29
  Speaker 2: gas wasn't that expensive back then, and then it was
• 32:32
  Speaker 2: me was different. It wasn't like it was a new
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: A sixty go back to you.
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: It was also not a new body. I wish I could. Okay,
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: let's get into that line. We don't spend way too
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: much time on this goddamn shit, Okay, y'all. So today's
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: episode Kinky kre is literally because you just want to
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: talk about people per usual pretty much. So I had
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: a friend who had a situation I plan on bringing
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: up anyway, but I just wanted to go over a
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: little bit about something I found on Vanilla Shit. There
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: was a study done at a school in Spain that
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: started to figure out based on the people with college
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: degrees the entire campus, they did a sexual survey and
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: what they learned that was the relationship between higher education
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: and a greater variety of practices was due to the
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: broader access of information, communities, and opportunities for exploration, which
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: links to greater pleasure. So basically, the more degrees and
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: the more higher up in education, someone was the more
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: sexual experiences they had had. On a kink perspective, the
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: strong link between high sexual pleasure and identifying as a
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: submissive offered insight into how power dynamics function. Being a
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: submissive does not imply that you're a passive or victimized person,
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: but rather that you are an actual consensual choice. Is
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: this forment or women? Oh no, wait, let me if
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: this is translated from Spanish to English. It's for everyone
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: that was on campus, and infact you have an active
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: consensual choice within a framework of mutual trust. The receptive
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: nature of submission in the fluid dynamics of switching were
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: allowing individuals to immerse themselves in deeply physical sensations and
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: were able to handle the intensity to what they believe
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: was due to the higher education and access to information.
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: So they think that because people were smarter, they chose
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: being subs because they were like, oh, I understand this
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: is a powered dynamic, not me just getting quote unquote
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: beat up. So I don't even need the rest. It
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: is here is that we listen and we judge slash
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: kinky court. We talking about this isn't someone I talk
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: about on the show often she would definitely be down
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: to come on. But I know a queer sex therapist
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: in Los Angeles. We were having a chat about a
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: new person. I don't know if they'd identify as a
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: woman that they're dating. And I was like, Yo, the
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: work that you've been doing is so fucking dope blah
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: blah blah. But she hasn't done really front facing stuff.
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: And she was like, yo, like all of my work
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: is basically kink therapy right now, okay, And she's like,
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: you wouldn't fucking believe this, bitch, I've been dating, and
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: what the fuck she been through? She goes on a
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: few dates with someone, they don't have sex, okay. And
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: she didn't disclose her job as a sex therapist. She
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: just said she was a therapist first, because she said
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: that she tends to find out that during the first
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: date or two when she talks about sex therapy, everybody's
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: so curious as to stories. She's like, I talk about
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: my job for like an hour, so I'm just like
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: over it back, which is understandable.
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: Once, Oh yeah, I'm an accountant. Like if I were
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: to go on dates, I don't know dates right now.
• 35:51
  Speaker 2: Boh my god, they're going out out of sex and
• 35:53
  Speaker 2: kick podcast.
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: I have too much.
• 35:55
  Speaker 3: When I was dating, I didn't even want to leave
• 35:57
  Speaker 3: with that said dating.
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: So I get that so boom Third Day Happians or
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: some shit, and the persons like, what, you're a sex therapist,
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: And she said, she starts to get like visually emotional,
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: and she's like, oh my goodness, like what's going on?
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: And she said, I'm in an ongoing legal battle right
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: now with my previous therapists over like really dark shit.
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: So said person was going to a therapist a few
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: years back. Okay, this person is currently in their mid thirties, y'all. Okay,
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: So when they were doing these things and engaging in
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: heavy kink, they were in their late twenties. The person
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: had gone through a loss of a parent a few
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: years before. Okay, that's all I know. And then they
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: opened up a broad sex life. The person liked to
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: blindfold themselves and allow people to enter the home in gloryholes,
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: kind of like what that by couple we had on
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: was doing. Okay, the queer couple, so would.
• 36:56
  Speaker 3: Get girl gets what is we about to judge?
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: Are we getting there? We're not the judge. So her
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: kink was being a cum dump for men. Okay, really
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: enjoyed it, really loved it. And also no, no, no,
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: this was their journey they've got into really heavy BDSM
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: loved it, loved it. Brought her sex life up with
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: her therapist because one of the men was a guy
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: she worked with and he had no idea she was
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: the person he fucked. So she was freaking out because
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: she was like, Yo, I'm starting to feel like there's
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: gonna be a day where he notices my tattoo. She had,
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: like something that was an identifier, whether there was a
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: bird or an animal, and she's like, one day he's
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: gonna see my tattoo, he's gonna know I'm the girl
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: that they all fucked. And so the therapist basically had
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: her start going into her sex life. The therapist basically said,
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: you engaging in sexual activity like this means that you've
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: lost your way with your faith and it seems like
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: you're going down a dark path because your mom died.
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: The therapist started to guide her on different paths she
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: could take to get back into religion. While she got
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: back into religion, I actually think this is going to
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: be a global phenomenon once it comes out.
• 38:25
  Speaker 3: Once she got back into her religion, she.
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: Stopped, I'm not talking about brehanda once she got back
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: into her Once she got back into her religion, she
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: started to realize that she may have been facing issues
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: with religion in the past because she wanted to be
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: non binary. I don't know how they identified it it,
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: so that's why it's kind of hard for me. But
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: knew it was wrong, knew the sex she was having
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: was wrong and immoral, and tried to take her own life.
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: One day trauma experience Boom Boom Boom ends up joining
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: a group with sex addiction like sex people with that
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: air sex addicts okay, And within the group, someone says,
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: your therapist sends you to church. There was a lawyer
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: in the group, and everybody starts to hear what happened
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: to her, and they're like, and then you attempted suicide.
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: Your therapist should never have judged you like that. Your
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: therapists put their own ideas of what was right and
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: wrong onto you and forced you into that life. The
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: lawyer in that sex addict group started to be her
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: representative and basically is trying to take down the website
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: where she found the therapists the therapists themselves, the whole
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: fucking thing. And so my homegird, I don't this to
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: me was so interesting because my homegirl, who's a sex therapist,
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: I'm curious for you.
• 39:48
  Speaker 2: Land on this because I feel like we're gonna be
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: on the opposite end of this. So at the gate,
• 39:53
  Speaker 2: just based on how you told the story, I feel
• 39:56
  Speaker 2: like we opposite it. But I'm gonna let you, Okay.
• 39:59
  Speaker 2: I'm curious in all your thoughts on all of this.
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: So first thing I asked my friend is what the
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: fuck does this mean? So then she's like, there is
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: a new thing, hold on, and this is what I
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: wanted to bring up on the show. Kink has a
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: guideline in therapy in twenty twenty six, it happened, and
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: I wonder if this case is related. It is a
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: clinical guideline that was revised and finalized by a man
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: named Charles Moser who has a PhD. And it was
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: administered by the Diversity Sexualities Research and Education Institute. Basically,
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: it's for all clinicians to address how they provide non
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: judgmental and affirming care to kink identified and exploring patients,
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: including avoiding clinical bias understanding consent, recognizing the impact of stigma,
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: and supporting personal growth. This is now a central concept
• 40:55
  Speaker 1: that is an ongoing commitment to being able to allow
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: the those who are experiencing curiosity in kink to be
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: a comfortable expressing it to a therapist. So my homegirl,
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: who is a sex therapist, is like, literally, I think
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: she's going to win her religion. She had not been
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: an active participant in the church since she was fifteen.
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: At the time she was going to the therapist, she
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: was in late twenties or early thirties. They looked up
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: the therapist, the lawyer that she met in the Sex
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: Addicts program, active member in the church, propaganda about tithing,
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: writing from her ex account about like to random celebrities
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: about how they should be giving their money up. Like
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: there was a whole thing with her in Billie Eilish
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: where she was telling Billie Eilish like, oh, you're doing
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: money here and here it should be to this church
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: and blah blah blah, like super crazy, fucking Jesus freak
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: and basically forced this person on a church.
• 41:55
  Speaker 3: Now, I obviously think it's wrong.
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: What do you think is wrong? I think the therapist
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: isn't the wrong. I think she could have if the
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: person is not complaining about the kink and their issue
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: was the person they work with. And literally, according to
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: my homegirl, who's the sex therapist who's dating this person.
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: She was like, I was like, was there any trauma associated?
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: She was like, no, she was in therapy for feeling lonely,
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: which they're centering around that about her mom being gone.
• 42:24
  Speaker 3: Well that's my problem.
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: Okay, go ahead. What do you think? This is a
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: very interesting talk.
• 42:30
  Speaker 2: It's interesting, sure, but I think it removes the thing
• 42:33
  Speaker 2: that we often try to remove when we celebrate kink
• 42:39
  Speaker 2: and we celebrate sex.
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: She got into this kink and this area of sex
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: after the death of her mom, which means this could
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: have been a trauma response to grief, and so without
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: the therapists judging this kink, she allowed her to express
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: this kink. Her embarrassment of knowing someone who partook in
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: this kink with her and the fear of them finding
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: out is what led her to possible suicide. No no, no, no, no,
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: wait no.
• 43:16
  Speaker 2: Going to church and then maybe hearing a sermon that
• 43:21
  Speaker 2: was separate from the therapist. Just now inviting yourself back
• 43:25
  Speaker 2: into a place of spiritual awakening or you know, like
• 43:32
  Speaker 2: my best friend just went to church a couple of
• 43:36
  Speaker 2: weeks ago, and she called me and said she just
• 43:40
  Speaker 2: felt so angry that the service felt specifically for her
• 43:44
  Speaker 2: as someone like battling cancer, which is crazy because oftentimes
• 43:49
  Speaker 2: when you go to church, the pastor has the people
• 43:52
  Speaker 2: in there you know what I mean, and anything can
• 43:55
  Speaker 2: relate to you, But that specific service.
• 43:59
  Speaker 3: Doesn't add anything.
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: That specific service, she said, made her cry the whole
• 44:03
  Speaker 2: time to where it like triggered things within her. And
• 44:07
  Speaker 2: so a therapist suggesting church and it triggering you should
• 44:14
  Speaker 2: not be the therapist's fault. And I say that because
• 44:16
  Speaker 2: I've been in therapy for the last five years and
• 44:21
  Speaker 2: as someone who mentions not monogamy, lifestyle things that my
• 44:26
  Speaker 2: therapist doesn't isn't even familiar with. Her suggestions to me
• 44:31
  Speaker 2: are not one that is familiar with sexual acts coming
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: from trauma, Like we've worked through that. It's not there
• 44:38
  Speaker 2: like I have other like places of guilt. But if
• 44:43
  Speaker 2: my therapist suggests me to go to somewhere based on
• 44:46
  Speaker 2: my actions, are where I'm at and they don't know
• 44:48
  Speaker 2: how to explain it because I'm in this dark underworld
• 44:52
  Speaker 2: quote unquote, And I say that because that's what a
• 44:53
  Speaker 2: lot of people consider lifestyle BDSM all of that, and.
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: My therapist doesn't know shit about it. It suggests me
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: to go to church because that is common to a
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: lot of people in their direction of trying to help
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: someone find their way. And now church or this service
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: or what it brings about makes me want to commit suicide.
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: The problem here is that there's a lot of untouched
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: trauma that let her down this path. Unfortunately, these aren't kings.
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: Who are you to say that?
• 45:22
  Speaker 3: But who?
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: Respectfully though? But who is she? Are you or a
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: therapist or anyone to say that, truth be told, It
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: could have been the reason she felt like, hey, life
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: is short, like I want to explore myself my point,
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: But no I would a therapist on that. Now you're
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: making my point in the way that how is the
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: therapist to blame for this act of self harm? Here's
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: why I think that the therapist is to blame for
• 45:55
  Speaker 1: basically the person losing their mind. I'm making you aware
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: that the things I'm engaging in are quote unquote sinful
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: according to the Bible you worship. I'm making you aware
• 46:06
  Speaker 1: that I'm queer and non binary. I'm making you aware
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: that exploring my sexuality in this way. Oh there was
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: one little thing. It may not matter to what we're
• 46:14
  Speaker 1: talking about, but I find it interesting in this moment.
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: She liked the anonymous sex because she was kind of
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: figuring out her identity and didn't want to date, whatever
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: that means. But the anonymous sex was fine. She liked
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: the powerplay. Whatever the fuck. I don't think that suggesting
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: church after someone tells you they like to have wild
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: sex could even exist without judgment. That to me is
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: clear judgment and bias, like this.
• 46:44
  Speaker 2: Big ad bitches that was out here sucking and fucking
• 46:47
  Speaker 2: me and my nigga and in the sex club, who
• 46:51
  Speaker 2: is now dating Jesus and to let the whole shit
• 46:54
  Speaker 2: for Jesus. So like, to me, telling someone to go
• 46:57
  Speaker 2: to church doesn't necessarily mean that you're now gonna feel
• 47:01
  Speaker 2: so like laws that you want to leave Earth.
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: Now, Okay, well reversa. Then you love your therapist, you've
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: been with her for a while, Yes, Mandy tells his story.
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: Let's make this story up.
• 47:13
  Speaker 3: Yep.
• 47:13
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, we're on our zoom girl. I was
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: at the sex club last night, me and boyfriend number one.
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: We was having fun. We invite a guy to join us.
• 47:22
  Speaker 1: I just found out he's a fucking new host of
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: a showan black Effect. What the fuck do I do?
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: You need to go to church? Does that sound right?
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: I come to you with an issue and then you
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: tell me church, you need to find God? Writing down
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: a church for me to go to the church. You
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: know why? I wish we were having this conversation with
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: who Crystal? And only because Crystal from three from the
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: read okay?
• 47:45
  Speaker 2: And I say that because she's in she's just not
• 47:47
  Speaker 2: only is she now a licensed, you know, therapist, someone
• 47:52
  Speaker 2: who went to school for it. One of the most
• 47:54
  Speaker 2: common things that I hear about therapy, and one that
• 47:57
  Speaker 2: I'm even having with my mom, is that it takes
• 48:00
  Speaker 2: you a few times to find the right therapist, and
• 48:03
  Speaker 2: so that advice could have worked for someone else. No, well,
• 48:06
  Speaker 2: I think that that's why the website was included, maybe
• 48:09
  Speaker 2: because we oh my God, me and my own girl,
• 48:11
  Speaker 2: we're talking about the shit for an hour like, because
• 48:13
  Speaker 2: it's because it's truly layered and interesting thing to discuss.
• 48:17
  Speaker 3: The main thing that these websites do.
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: I don't know which one if it was talk space
• 48:23
  Speaker 1: or I don't know, so, but I write down what's
• 48:28
  Speaker 1: going on, and you're matching me with my person. So
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: if in fact it wasn't a grief counselor and it
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: wasn't just for some everyday shit and she was kind
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: of like talking about kink in there, then maybe the
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: website wasn't fault. But also I do think there's judgment
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: in responding to someone by saying you are why are
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: you laughing?
• 48:49
  Speaker 3: What are else talking about?
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: No? No, no, no oh. I was telling her, I
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: guess to bring the bottle, bitch, because we about to
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: have fun this next Uh, bring the bottle. Here's the thing.
• 48:57
  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, bitch, and I'm gonna get you lit to
• 48:59
  Speaker 3: no and.
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: Then be going on my piano to night.
• 49:01
  Speaker 3: That's what you just said.
• 49:04
  Speaker 2: You could dance with blood in your pussy. Don't look
• 49:07
  Speaker 2: at you see what I mean. I'm a therapist. I'm
• 49:09
  Speaker 2: saying go out if you have a bad night, bitch.
• 49:11
  Speaker 2: Don't you dare come in and blame me tomorrow. So
• 49:14
  Speaker 2: as a therapist, you provide context and advice based on
• 49:19
  Speaker 2: how you know it.
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: There's a lot of therapists that don't fit. I will
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: also say it's very difficult. She was dealing with the
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: grief of loss, she was dealing with her sexuality possibly
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: impacting her work life, and then her therapist was not
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: one that may have been open or weary of or
• 49:37
  Speaker 1: new lifestyle kink BDSM all.
• 49:40
  Speaker 2: The things to me, And I will just say this
• 49:43
  Speaker 2: for the listeners. If you are struggling sexuality wise versus
• 49:50
  Speaker 2: like your upbringing actual trauma, I advise to seek separate therapists.
• 49:57
  Speaker 2: I don't think a therapist that just goes to school
• 50:02
  Speaker 2: for trauma grief out basic feelings, are aware of how
• 50:06
  Speaker 2: to talk to somebody.
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: That's why my homegirls a sex therapy right. Literally, I
• 50:10
  Speaker 1: don't like but that's a great point, you do know
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: what I mean.
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  Speaker 3: So when we were kind of getting in the weeds,
• 50:17
  Speaker 3: her and I both were like, okay, what about this?
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: What about this? One of the things she said was
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: it is my job once the kinks get a bit
• 50:26
  Speaker 1: violent sometimes to dig Okay, She's like, for example, this
• 50:31
  Speaker 1: was just like Gloria whole fucking though. Right, I'm gonna
• 50:33
  Speaker 1: ask her she'll come on more in LA. But one
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: of the things she talked about was a guy that
• 50:36
  Speaker 1: does a lot of duct taping. It likes the duct
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: tape face, nose, mouth everything, and pull it on, not
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: pull it on. I think he just likes to fuck girls. Mother,
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: I don't know, but she just mentioned duct tape fetish.
• 50:47
  Speaker 1: She's like, my initial thing is be like cool, fun,
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: all right, cool, But she's like, as the therapist, realuck
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: real quick falls because ten years in, what the fuck
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: would duck tape fetish fall under? Like, like would that
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: not be like consensual non consent? Or like is is
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: it the ripping? Like what do you think a duck
• 51:11
  Speaker 1: tape fetish if you can respond in the next seven
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: minutes many recording decisions decisions, we're talking about the duct
• 51:19
  Speaker 1: tape fetish.
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  Speaker 3: If you can respond to a voice message, you would
• 51:21
  Speaker 3: even be better than a text. But you know it's crazy.
• 51:23
  Speaker 2: Wait real basic, No, real basic bondage or mummification within BDSM.
• 51:29
  Speaker 1: Actually, so okay, it's under the bondage. Wait no, so
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: it's the bondage category mummification and sensory impact as stickiness, restriction,
• 51:43
  Speaker 1: and visual aesthetic of the adhesive. So let me get
• 51:46
  Speaker 1: into the duct tape. Basically, she said that clearly, like
• 51:50
  Speaker 1: this is BDSM right, Like it's a restraint. That's what
• 51:53
  Speaker 1: the word. She said, Yes, but she said, I needed
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: to go further into figuring out, Okay, are you you
• 52:00
  Speaker 1: doing this consensually? Are you doing this and seeing the people?
• 52:03
  Speaker 1: Are you doing this in sex clubs, houses? Working? She said.
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: Around their third session, he started telling her about how
• 52:09
  Speaker 1: when he was a kid, he was locked in a closet.
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: All right, and she said, I don't like what you're doing.
• 52:15
  Speaker 3: You drawing all these traumas to the kink and we.
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: No, no, no, you did it. Bit you didn't.
• 52:24
  Speaker 3: That was you, you sit here making it. See like
• 52:27
  Speaker 3: all these kids come from darkness.
• 52:28
  Speaker 1: I was only gonna say. She literally said, I don't
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: want to dieag a nigga from any sort of trauma, y'all. No,
• 52:34
  Speaker 1: the pagan is what I desire.
• 52:37
  Speaker 3: I want to see the dance macan baby. It ain't
• 52:42
  Speaker 3: from trauma because you're making.
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: All these But she said, and this is my point,
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: she said, the immediate thing that I did was sent
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: him to a friend of mine who is a general
• 52:51
  Speaker 1: therapist that typically worked with sexual trauma. No, oh, family
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: trauma and abuse was nothing to do with sex, she said,
• 53:04
  Speaker 1: it didn't even And that's why we started talking about her.
• 53:06
  Speaker 1: She was like, that fucking therapist should have never let
• 53:09
  Speaker 1: her keep divulging about her kink without sending her to
• 53:12
  Speaker 1: someone that was specialized in that, or even a therapist
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: who specializes in queer gender, like you know what I mean,
• 53:18
  Speaker 1: like all of that. So basically what she was saying
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: was in trying to prove that point with she was like, gir,
• 53:22
  Speaker 1: I didn't even let him keep going because my job
• 53:25
  Speaker 1: is to celebrate the sex, talk about the kinks, work
• 53:28
  Speaker 1: people through shame, work them through filling themselves out. And
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: I sent him to somebody else because you know, if
• 53:33
  Speaker 1: you see her talk about your daddy and all that
• 53:34
  Speaker 1: shit with me when we talk about his sex every day,
• 53:36
  Speaker 1: all I want to say is I will sign the
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: petition against people being able to sue their therapist. She's typing, well,
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: I just said what the goddamn kink was. Mofka is bondage.
• 53:50
  Speaker 1: Did not use sex tape. It was oh she put high.
• 53:52
  Speaker 1: Mandy did not use sex tape. It was a specific
• 53:55
  Speaker 1: heavy duty duct tape. He would sometimes like a little
• 53:59
  Speaker 1: bit of punish with pulling off the hairs. Also masochism too,
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: pulling off the hairs. I couldn't define this in a
• 54:06
  Speaker 1: particular kink outside of bondage. Bondage, however, his was more
• 54:11
  Speaker 1: specific to removal of hair. Ah, that sounds painful, bitch.
• 54:17
  Speaker 1: He had a lot of fun with the stickiness. It
• 54:20
  Speaker 1: was super fun to chat up, so sensory. No, we
• 54:23
  Speaker 1: gotta have his bitch on.
• 54:24
  Speaker 2: But oh my god, I am not here for it
• 54:29
  Speaker 2: and will be on the side of the therapist. But
• 54:32
  Speaker 2: you can only help the people how much they want
• 54:34
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• 54:36
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• 54:40
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• 54:48
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