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Season 3 - Episode 63 -Flexibility is not always easy · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning From the soggy, wet, drippy porch and
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  farm. We are overlooking everything it
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  poured last night in ways that I have never really seen.
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  Rain come down. It was insane.
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  And our rain gardens which had finally emptied.
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  And I was so excited about the fact that they were emptied so I
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  could get in there and put some new stuff in to grow up that
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  will grow in the water. Now I need waiters to get in
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  there filled up. It's probably to give you an
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  idea, I'm 59 and it's probably like up to my knees or a little
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  above my knees right now with the water in them.
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  It is a lot. But anyway, the girls are out.
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  They are having a ball because they love this kind of weather.
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  We have random other little rain gardens that just pop up in the
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  little low lying areas of the property and so they will spend
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  all day with wet feet, faces in the water and digging for bugs
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  and are gloriously happy. And they took off the second I
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  opened the gate. So I decided we'll go from the
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  porch today. So the lesson today in all of
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  this Obviously always being flexible and always saying OK
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  because it's still raining and just thinking about like the fun
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  and interesting things that happen out here on the farm.
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  Constantly teach me about the fact that I have to be flexible.
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  I have to be less rigid in how things happen because I am
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  extremely pattern driven. I love to be able to do the same
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  thing at the same time and check it off my list and make sure
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  that I have it done. Sometimes that causes more
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  strife than you need. Sometimes it causes the amount
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  of stress that just puts you through the roof.
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  Because unfortunately, when you don't get to do it, your brain
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  starts to, you know, shake and go insane because, Oh no, we
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  need to get it done. We need to get it done.
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  And and it doesn't serve in a very highway for the greater
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  good of being peaceful. It causes stress.
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  So the lesson that I have had to teach myself in all of this is
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  what what's great about this? What can be great about this?
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  Because sometimes if I ask myself the questions, you know
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  what's great about this? The instant answer is nothing,
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  and that's the truth from the emotion that I'm driving with in
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  that moment. But if I stop and I pause and I
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  try to put my hippie chick Zen girl in the driver, I can't,
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  which I can do When I stop and pause, doesn't mean she's not
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  going to slip back out and everybody else is going to jump
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  back in the seat. But when I put her in, I have a
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  different perspective almost instantaneously, and apparently
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  he agrees with me on that. So I I recognize that when I
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  call upon that and I pull it up and I say something like that
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  and I put myself into the position of knowing that she is
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  capable of staying cool about all of this.
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  Just like the best laid plans for this.
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  You know, entire time I had laid out, OK, when am I going to do
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  my plantings? How am I going to put things in?
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  What's going to happen? You know, this is for me.
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  This is such a thing where I am calendar driven right now
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  because I want to get everything in the ground and I want to be
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  on time, but who the hell am I being on time for?
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  You know? It's ridiculous.
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  It's my calendar, it's my schedule.
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  Who am I being on time for? Well, what happens if I'm two
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  weeks later putting plants in? Is it going to kill me?
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  No. Is it going to kill them?
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  No. I have to be flexible, and the
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  only way I can do that is to consistently remind myself that
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  the outcomes are outcomes. I've created their outcomes,
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  that I have requested their outcomes that I have put there,
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  and that I can also be the one that shifts them.
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  I can be the one that shifts them.
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  So I need to recalibrate where my directional focus is going
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  and keep reminding myself of that.
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  Or even better, before I even step into any of this headspace,
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  I stop and say, OK, who do I want to present as the driver
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  today? So for instance, once I realized
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  what was going on with this storm and everything, I chose to
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  say, OK, I know I'm going to have to utilize her.
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  That doesn't mean I didn't have to switch 20 times already,
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  because I did, because there's part of me that's so hard wired
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  to just go and get it done. Because I know that I if I get
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  the jump, I always like to be first.
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  I always want to get there first.
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  I always want to be the one that's there ahead of time.
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  That is a part of my hard wiring, and it's a difficult
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  part for me because sometimes being first is not always the
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  best. You know it it, it clearly
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  isn't. But in my head it must be.
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  So I have to keep driving for that.
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  But sometimes it's great when you wait.
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  Last year, I was a little later putting plants in the garden.
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  And you know what? I didn't get hit with the frost
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  because I was a little later. Now the year before, I went out
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  all in early, put stuff outside, and I got lucky.
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  I got very lucky because we didn't get hit with anything and
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  and the gamble paid off, but had the gamble that.
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  But I went into it knowing it was a gamble and I said to
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  myself, you may lose everything, OK, great, I may lose
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  everything. I had it down.
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  I knew it. I was going to be OK with it.
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  So the point of today is make sure you understand that you've
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  got to be flexible in choosing the driver.
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  You've got to be flexible in your approach and you've got to
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  be on point picking the driver you want ahead of time because
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  that's what's going to serve you on the highest level.
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  Pick the driver ahead of time. Pick that emotional state you
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  want to go into it with. And then you can say to yourself
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  like I do. Listen, you said you were going
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  to be flexible. Does this sound flexible?
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  Does this sound like your hippie chick Zen girl is driving?
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  No. Then stop.
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  Change it. Put her back in the seat.
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  Then see how you feel. OK, my friends, I hope you have
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  a blessed day and I'll see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.