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Season 2 - Episode 42 - Making peace with what irritates you · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Ooh, today we're talking about making peace with people, to
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  irritate me. Good Lord, we all have people,
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  the irritate us, don't we? In fact, I mean sometimes we
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  have people that irritate us, they oppose us, they put
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  negativity on us. It's a, it's a rather complex
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  Dynamic dealing with other people out in the world.
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  And when you are in that position where you have
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  somebody, that is a regular irritant in your life.
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  And they are really pushing your buttons.
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  You have to ask yourself, what is the reason that I'm so
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  fixated on the fact that this person irritates me so much?
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  I always find that. Sometimes when you look at
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  what's happening and you ask yourself what's the reason this
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  is not why they're doing it, please run understand this is
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  not a, why are they doing it question?
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  This is a what's the reason I'm fixated on this like I'm putting
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  energy into this. I'm taking something that
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  clearly irritates me. I'm not a fan of it.
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  I don't enjoy what's happening yet.
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  I'm putting energy into it by allowing it to drag my attention
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  and asking this question and actually looking at it says it
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  gives you a different perspective.
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  It gives you a different point of view and it allows you in
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  those moments to be really clear on the fact that if I don't make
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  peace with this in some Way shape, or form.
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  This is going to keep coming up in my life, because my personal
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  opinion, is when this stuff shows up and people are
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  irritating, us pushing our buttons, making us have
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  emotional reactions, and I'm are quoting that, making us have
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  emotional reactions, because nobody can make you have a
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  reaction that you don't allow, we are in charge of our
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  emotions, and we are the ones that have the ability to have
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  the reaction or not have the reaction.
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  My personal world, I can tell you hands down, my husband can
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  push my buttons, like nobody's business and if I work so hard
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  to get rid of my buttons and I'm so great and so many areas with
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  it. But that man, he has like panel
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  button that he can just walk up and bink.
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  Bink, bink, bink, bink. And I fire off and I'm just
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  being honest with you because I think it's important to know
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  that we're not. Nobody's perfect in this.
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  And I'm absolutely I will never say that I'm perfect in this.
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  Cuz one of my biggest things is learning how to get rid of my
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  buttons, so that I don't have these reactions because it's
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  frustrating and I'm sometimes, I'm not making peace with stuff
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  and I don't want to have a life that is not filled with peace.
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  So if I'm looking at the things that I am getting irritated by
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  and the things that push my buttons.
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  I have to say I have to make peace with it.
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  I have to make decisions about it.
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  I have to not allow this and it's not like okay I Going to
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  allow this to eat me up every single day, that's not going to
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  get you where you want to go. And you know, Dalai Lama says,
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  purpose of life is to be happy, which I really believe that.
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  But I would like to expand on that by saying the purpose of
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  life is to choose to be happy. It's to choose to be happy, no
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  matter what is going on. You choose to be happy and you
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  find that you are so much better off when you actually make the
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  choice to be happy. So can I be happy?
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  Even though other things are going on, yes, you have heard me
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  say before you can experience multiple emotions at the same
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  time. And that's all, that's all
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  wonderful. But you have to stop letting
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  other people, push the buttons and irritate you, and you have
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  to make peace with the fact that you still have the buttons.
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  So for me, I've made peace with the fact that my buttons show
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  up. I work to get rid of them, but
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  I'm not angry with myself for having the buttons.
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  The more because that's just stupid and I work to get rid of
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  them and they diminish over time it definitely works itself
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  backwards but it is still present and that's because I'm
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  human. That's because life changes.
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  People evolve, things happen and even when you think you've got
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  something nailed down, I will guarantee you.
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  It will show up when you least expect it because that's called
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  being human. So making peace with it, doesn't
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  mean you let go of it. Doesn't mean In your you've
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  given up, it just means that you're not letting it irritate
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  you the way that it once did, you're not letting things get to
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  you the way that they once did. It means that you have decided
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  and chosen to say, okay, I am going to without question Focus.
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  My attention on choosing to be happy and I'm just going to let
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  it go. I'm going to let it melt away
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  like an ice cube. It just melts away.
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  So I hope that you guys can understand the process of this
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  so that you can really Make peace with these people, the
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  irritate you and those who just push those buttons because you
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  know what? It doesn't mean you give up it
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  doesn't mean you. Let them get away with anything.
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  It just means you made peace with it.
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  So you know I'm not letting this eat me up inside and steal my
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  joy. All right, my friends.
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  I hope you have a very blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.