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156. Perfect Conditions · Impact Ready

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  Welcome to Impact Ready, a show dedicated to helping you elevate
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  your impact in the world. I'm Steph Safra, your host.
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  Let's explore the power of showing up with intention and
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  energy each day. This is for those who seek to
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  make life truly meaningful. Get ready for.
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  Impact. Hi team.
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  Hope you're having a great week. I wanted to start off with a
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  couple of questions for you. How many times have you felt
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  like you've known that you've needed to do something, but
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  you've been putting it off? How many times recently have you
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  wanted to have a hard conversation, but you put it off
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  for different reasons, like you were tired or you didn't feel
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  like the timing was right? How many times have you
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  procrastinated lately or struggled to feel motivated to
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  follow through on whatever it was that you said you were going
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  to do? I'm talking about something that
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  we can all relate to. It's something that I talk about
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  with my coaching clients every week.
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  This episode is is about the way that we show up and overcoming
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  the things that get in the way of us showing up consistently.
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  Specifically, overcoming A belief that we have to have the
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  perfect conditions to be able to perform and do a good job.
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  I don't even think most of us are conscious of the fact that
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  we're looking for perfect conditions.
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  We're more just conscious of the resistance that we feel to do
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  the damn thing that we want to do.
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  We make a lot of excuses. We create stories around it.
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  We talk to other people about it, but when push comes to
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  shove, we're not taking the action.
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  I'll share with you something that's going on in our house
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  this week. My oldest daughter is
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  participating in her high school play, which is awesome, and this
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  week is particularly intense for her play rehearsals.
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  She has four to 10:00 PM rehearsals after school every
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  day to prepare for her shows this weekend.
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  And this is the first time she's ever really had to perform in a
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  high pressure situation. She's never played sports
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  competitively, so she's never really been in a situation where
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  this much is being asked of her. She's never really had to deal
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  with a time crunch and and time management, and on Monday she
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  was really stressing out about not having enough time and how
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  tired she thought she was going to be this week.
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  Now my wife and I are kind of straddling the line between
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  guiding her and then also allowing her to navigate this on
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  her own. We're letting her kind of find
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  her own way with the time management stuff.
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  When she's going to shower, when she's going to do her homework
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  or study for tests, how she's going to manage your energy.
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  And I'll be honest with you, we've had some bumps this week
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  already. We've had to check her on her
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  attitude a few times. She's really telling a strong
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  story about how tired she is and how it's not fair and she can't
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  get everything done. And even though she made the
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  decision to spend a couple hours with her friends yesterday
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  instead of doing some pretty important tasks like showering,
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  I mean, this is all pretty classic teenage stuff.
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  And we knew that it wasn't going to look perfect.
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  We've all been in situations where we've had to learn how to
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  manage ourselves and how to manage our time, our mood and
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  show up and get it all done. So this is just part of the
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  process and I get it. To my daughter, though, these
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  are not perfect conditions and it really screws up her routine.
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  She likes to move slow. She likes to have a lot of time
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  in the mornings and a lot of time in the evenings.
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  She lets herself get distracted pretty easily.
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  And to be fair, she really hasn't ever had to do this
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  before. It's the first time of having to
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  manage herself in this way on a tight schedule with a lot on the
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  line. So again, learning situation,
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  but as an adult, these scenarios come up for us all the time,
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  don't they? We have to show up even when we
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  don't feel our best. We have to go to work, we have
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  to give the presentation even if it's not perfect conditions.
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  We have to take care of the kids even if we're tired or we have a
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  cold. We have to shower, we have to
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  make meals, we have to work out. We have to sit down and crack
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  out the project. And so many times we can make
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  excuses for ourselves around these things because we don't
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  feel like we have the perfect conditions.
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  But that's what this practice of being impact ready is all about.
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  That's why it's the name of this podcast.
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  It's why I started this podcast is to have conversations about
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  how to do this all better, about how to show up and take
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  responsibility for energy even without perfect conditions, How
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  to prepare to be our best even when everything is kind of off
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  kilter because conditions are rarely perfect, but we still
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  have an impact on every space we walk into, whether we like it or
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  not. So the more intentional we can
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  be about it, the better impact we will be able to have.
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  And that is going to have a ripple effect throughout our
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  entire life, our relationships, our career, our opportunities,
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  etcetera. In my other business, we coach
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  nutrition clients in our coaching program, Next Level
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  Nutrition. And one of the things that we
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  coach on every session is how to navigate life's ups and downs
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  and confront the fact that you will never have perfect
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  conditions when it comes to nutrition or exercise or
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  prioritizing your health. There's always going to be an
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  interruption, whether it's a birthday or a wedding or a party
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  or the holidays or the summer or spring break.
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  I mean, half the year is an interruption.
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  We don't live in a vacuum. And if we think about just a
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  simple example in our own lives that we could talk about here,
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  we can talk about exercise. There will most often not be the
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  perfect conditions for you to work out.
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  In the summer, it's too hot. In the winter, it's too dark.
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  In Portland, it's too rainy or cold.
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  I get it, sometimes it can feel hard when the conditions don't
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  feel right. But the question is always going
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  to be, are you the victim to the conditions or are you the
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  captain of your own ship, the captain of your life?
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  There will always be an interruption.
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  There will always be a stressor and we can succumb to it,
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  succumb to the stressors and the pressures and interruptions, or
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  we can hold the line. We can say no.
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  I want to be in choice here. I want to be the creator of my
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  own life. I want to do the things that
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  will take me to being the person that I want to be and live the
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  life that I want to create. So this conversation about being
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  ready to impact is really all about being prepared.
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  It's learning how to be consistent.
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  It's recognizing that you have the ability to take radical
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  ownership of the things that are happening in your life.
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  And I say radical ownership because it does feel radical to
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  a lot of people to resist the urge to blame and push things
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  out on other external circumstances, but take
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  responsibility for it. All the feelings you're having,
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  the thoughts going through your mind, the communication that
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  you're putting out in the world, the way you behave and act.
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  See, we are the ones who attach meaning to circumstances and we
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  are the ones who create this perspective that we have about
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  something. When it comes to my daughter,
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  her perspective on Monday was this is going to be so hard and
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  I'm going to be so tired and I won't have enough time to do the
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  things I need to do verbatim. Those were the words that came
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  out of her mouth and she was coming in pretty hot with a
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  strong story that things were going to suck this week.
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  Even though she could admit you have play rehearsals are really
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  fun. I love doing this.
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  She had this story running in the back of her mind and she's
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  strong about holding on to those stories.
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  Let me tell you. So again, Leanne and I are
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  walking the line between coaching and letting her learn.
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  But we did remind her that she's responsible for the energy she
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  brings into the room. It is a choice.
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  It is part of her impact on her friends, her cast and her family
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  when she comes home. When I picked her up from
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  rehearsal last night, she hadn't eaten any dinner, even though
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  the director is supplying it for all the students.
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  She said she didn't have time to eat.
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  And when I asked more questions, she said, well, I didn't know it
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  was my turn to eat. And then she said, well, I only
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  had five minutes. So my guess is there's a bunch
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  of teenagers running around not prioritizing eating dinner.
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  And so now I'm dealing with a hungry kid who has a headache at
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  10:00 PM and a bad attitude and low blood sugar.
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  And I'm sure I wasn't the only parent who is dealing with that.
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  But it's just another lesson about how to perform even when
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  the conditions aren't perfect. And she's going to learn because
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  she's an amazing kid and this is a great opportunity.
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  But it's such a great analogy for the things that we have to
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  encounter and deal with in our own lives as adults.
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  And this week really has me thinking about how the struggle
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  is real for people. And so I want to ask you, what
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  are the conditions in your life right now that don't feel
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  perfect? Where is it that you might be
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  struggling to take ownership or be in choice around something?
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  Where do you feel the urge to blame other things like
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  circumstances or people or timing or the weather or the
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  traffic? We all do it.
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  It's just a natural human thing that we can fall into and it's
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  fine. It's just a good question to be
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  asking ourselves. Where are we feeling like we
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  don't have perfect conditions and it's impacting us?
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  Because remember, there is a practice and a consistency that
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  we can bring that allows us to be ready to impact at any time,
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  even if the conditions aren't perfect.
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  Even when we're running on a few hours of sleep up against the
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  deadline with a cold and kids who are stressed and hangry
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  after their play rehearsals. And I hope this episode can be a
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  reminder to you that you have a depth of strength within you.
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  That you probably don't even know you have.
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  You have a capability and a potential to perform you
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  probably haven't even tapped into.
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  But I promise you, it's there. And the more you practice being
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  impact ready, the better you get at skating through life and
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  stressors and interruptions. So be in the habit of getting
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  prepared. Make consistency king in your
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  life with the things that are important to you, like exercise
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  and nutrition and sleep. Make sure your tank is full.
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  Take ownership of the things that you have control over in
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  your life. Be in choice, meaning choose the
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  way that you look at things. Choose the story you tell about
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  your life, choose the language you speak about it.
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  Choose the people you spend time with.
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  And finally, raise your frequency by choosing to feel
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  high frequency emotions now every single day.
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  Access them every day. Feelings like gratitude and
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  appreciation and joy and excitement.
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  You can be excited about your life right now.
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  Don't wait until you achieve some certain thing or you hit
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  some milestone. Access it now.
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  And when you raise your frequency that way, you become a
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  more resilient version of yourself.
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  Those are the things that will help you be ready to impact.
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  Those are the things that will help you show up well even
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  without perfect conditions. So I hope that this feels
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  helpful to you this week. Here's to finishing strong the
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  next couple of days. Here's to my wife and I getting
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  through this week, play rehearsals and the actual shows
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  themselves this weekend. I appreciate you being here.
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  Thanks for listening. And as always, team, thanks for
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  being ready to impact. Thanks for listening to Impact
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  Ready. I hope today's episode inspired
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  you to own your impact and recognize.
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  That you are powerful. By elevating our energy and
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  awareness, we can create exponential change in this life.
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  subscribe. To the show for more, I truly
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  appreciate you. Thanks again for being here.