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Dealing With Negativity · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  We got a question for our American mamas. Dear mamas, how do you
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  deal with negative people on a daily basis? Well, let's ask our American
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  mamas, and joining us now our American mama is Terry Needeville and Kimberly Burlison.
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  Man, I've never had to do this. I know this is the
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  Moment's like you guess, mindful, tell a story. Okay. So there
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  was I worked at a TV station and there was a graphics guy and anytime
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  a reporter needed a graphics done, you had to go submit a form and
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  he'd turned but whenever you turned in the form, man, he was just
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  he was irate that you were asking him to do his job. He was
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  just like all right. So one day I just say, hey, it's
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  a weekend, let's just as as a group, let's just go play touch
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  football as the newsroom, right, And so we just went out, we
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  played touch and he was there and he was I guess he was playing quarterback
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  and I just was wide receiver on his team and he just threw me the
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  ball all the time, and we had so many touchdowns and our sidewalk and
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  from that moment on, I was his new best friend. It's so so
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  much so that every other reporter then would bring me their graphics skips for me
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  to turn it into this guy because we had had a game of touch football
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  that was so what's your takeaway from that? You got to find a way
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  to reach people. You've got to find it. And for guys, it
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  can be through sports, and you can you can make friends just by playing
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  games, but you've got to find a way to reach true. It's so
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  funny because that's my personality. It's a challenge. If there was somebody that
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  was the mean person or the person that nobody was liked, or this scary
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  person, it was a challenge for me to soften them up and be their
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  friend. It's always been that way. And then my personality, if somebody
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  hurt her feelings, I wanted to punch them in the face and I would
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  freeze them out and I would let them know you're not gonna mess with it.
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  I remember one time our brother it was funny because we lived we lived.
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  It was in Shreeport and there was one of the neighborhood boys had a
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  crush on me. So just one who did it. So he and his
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  buddies were riding their bikes and they hurt my brother's feelings and that was it.
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  If there was any chance at all that I would like you, you're
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  dead to me now. So I remember telling my telling Jason, who's you
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  know, two and a half years younger than me. I was like,
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  let's go, and they were all on their little bikes, and I remember
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  going over there and just saying, let me tell you something. You know,
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  we are not friends. And if you're gonna if you're gonna say something
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  to him, you gotta go through me. I don't even know where that
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  came from. And and they were like, no, no, we didn't.
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  And I was like, come on, Jason, like I there's this
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  little video of these two little girls, London and Paris, their sisters.
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  Oh yeah, and London is the one who's like Kimberly like, I just
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  don't want to cause any They're like seven and eight in Paris a younger sister
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  who looks like she's about a year youngers like, tell me their name,
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  tell me that is one hundred percent Terry. I'm the one that will I'll
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  keep my mouth shut, I'll I'll plot your death privately. But Terry's the
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  one she is taking the earrings off, taking the heels off, rolling her
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  sleeves up, and she's ready to rumbu. You're gonna hurt my sisters.
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  Oh that'll be the last thing you do. So which method works better hers?
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  It's the much better way. She does not burn bridges, you know,
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  And then I'll have to like like one time, I did burn a
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  bridge with a friend one time, and about two years later I did.
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  I groveled. I was like, hey, can we meet Susan. I
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  was like, I messed up, and I love you so much and I
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  miss you. And she's remains one of my truest, bluest friends. Yeah,
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  because she was forgiving of my little and as people know her, you
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  know in this town, she's one of the most godly, most incredible women.
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  And so you have to be if you're gonna have my personality, you
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  have to also be ready to own own your stuff. If you made the
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  mistake, if you stepped out of line, you got to be the one
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  to go to that person. I remember one one of our friends, Kimly
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  said you need to go over there. I was like, I don't want
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  to go over there, and she's like, you need to go over there.
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  She's only in town, and I was like, oh my gosh,
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  I said, I'm in the garden. I'm literally planting flowers. Tear.
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  You don't have a lot of time. She's gonna be go over there.
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  So I was like, oh, oh my goss. Okay, So I
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  hung up the phone and I went over there dirty. I was in my
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  bathing suit, just and I was like groveled. I was like, I
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  am, I'm sorry. I messed up. You know, sometimes I let
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  the you know, my first days, I'll say things I don't mean,
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  and you know, it is what it is. But luckily for me I
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  have I am surrounded by so many friends. That doesn't happen often. But
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  as a child, if somebody messed with my family members, that's it,
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  or my children, I'm like, as an adult, you just go You're
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  dead to me. You know, I have a different philosophy. Okay,
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  I'm sure you do. It's not good, it is just what it is.
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  I never want to miss out on the opportunity to have an influence over
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  someone when they need it. Yeah, well, I felt like I was
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  having an influence. And see I get that from I get that from years
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  of doing weather, Like I trust the weather man than when the tornadoes coming,
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  you're not going to turn to that person. I never wanted to lose
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  that opportunity to have influence when I need it. I now think of it
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  as a biblical thing because if I can teach you something about God, because
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  you're going to listen to me, because I haven't gone off on you in
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  the past, I'm going to do whatever I can, for the most part,
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  to try and keep that door open. Well, that's good. If
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  you like to ask American Moments a question, go to our website americanground bay
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  dot com slash mamas and click on the ask of the Mama's button. Turn
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  out of a Kimberly bur Listen. Thank you so much, Thank you,