Latest / Soul Salon with Ayandastood / 76: aligned action creates magnetic attraction 🧲
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- 0:00You are so magnetic and powerful.
- 0:02So my question for you is not,
- 0:05are you magnetic or are you not?
- 0:07We all have a natural magnetism.
- 0:10My question for you is,
- 0:11are you honoring your natural magnetism in this life?
- 0:16As you walk through this life,
- 0:18your soul longs to attract everything
- 0:21that is in alignment with it in this life,
- 0:24with its truest expression.
- 0:26And your ego out of fear is doing everything
- 0:30to prevent your soul's true magnetism from shining through.
- 0:34Why?
- 0:35From a very young age,
- 0:36we were conditioned to believe that it is not safe
- 0:39to be our true selves, to be our authentic selves,
- 0:42to be quirky and weird and funny and interesting and sparkle.
- 0:46So we dim that sparkle, we dim that light,
- 0:48and we also learn how to conform,
- 0:51to be who the person in front of us needs us to be
- 0:54in order for them to accept us
- 0:55or in order for us not to stand out.
- 0:58But babes, if this found you, you are so magnetic,
- 1:02you are so powerful and you were meant to walk this life
- 1:06in a way that attracts everything that is in alignment
- 1:10with your natural magnetism.
- 1:12So my question for you isn't,
- 1:14are you magnetic or are you not?
- 1:15We each of us have a natural magnetism to our being.
- 1:19My question is instead,
- 1:21are you acting in a way that honors your natural magnetism?
- 1:26Are you noticing the moments where the universe
- 1:29and the collective are mirroring your magnetism to you,
- 1:33showing you this is part of your power in this life?
- 1:37This is part of your soul's desire to express
- 1:40and to magnetize an alignment with that expression,
- 1:42everything that is meant for it.
- 1:45Let me give you an example.
- 1:47When I am sharing myself and being seen,
- 1:50there are wild, incredible attractions
- 1:53that happen into my life,
- 1:54whether it is opportunities,
- 1:56people who are so in alignment with me,
- 1:58like I'll go at an event and I'll be able to meet
- 2:00the most magical person in the room
- 2:01because they've already connected with my energy
- 2:04and so we're instantly able to bridge the gap of,
- 2:06okay, we're in a room of strangers,
- 2:09but because I've shined my light with the world
- 2:10or shown my light with the world,
- 2:12I just attract into my field such magical people
- 2:15who are in alignment with me and my vibration.
- 2:18So incredible coincidences and synchronicities
- 2:20have taken place through that magnetism.
- 2:23Now, aligned action in the material world
- 2:26creates magnetic attraction.
- 2:29When we are taking aligned action towards
- 2:32our dreams, our visions, our hopes,
- 2:34not only for ourselves,
- 2:35but for each other, for the collective, for the earth,
- 2:38then we become an instant match
- 2:40for everything that actually wants to find us
- 2:42we're just not operating in a way
- 2:45that can attract those opportunities,
- 2:47those people, those communities in.
- 2:49We're not shining our light
- 2:50and therefore we're not acting as the beacon
- 2:52we are supposed to be acting as
- 2:54to then draw in everything on the same frequency
- 2:57as our natural radiant light.
- 3:00So yesterday I was thinking about the wild fact,
- 3:03how wild it is that we are always taking aligned action.
- 3:08We're always taking aligned action.
- 3:09The question is, what are we aligning our action to?
- 3:13Are we aligning the actions we're taking to our fears
- 3:17or are we aligning the actions to our resistance,
- 3:20to our doubt, to our subconscious fears
- 3:22and certainties that everything is going to go wrong
- 3:24and it's unsafe for us to thrive
- 3:26and therefore we must focus on surviving.
- 3:29We must be in survival mode
- 3:30because that's what our subconscious wants us to do.
- 3:33That's what we've absorbed from family members,
- 3:36conditioning, schooling, media to play small,
- 3:39to contract, to dim our lights
- 3:41so that we don't stand out
- 3:42because that is unsafe or dangerous.
- 3:45So I wanna ask you, my darling, my love, my angel,
- 3:48what are you aligning your actions to?
- 3:52Are we aligning our actions to the idea
- 3:54that it has to be perfect for us to be worthy of doing it?
- 3:57Are we aligning our actions to our fears,
- 4:00our fear of getting it wrong, our fear of failing,
- 4:02our fear of rejection?
- 4:04It's actually not that you're fearing the rejection itself,
- 4:07you fear what you think that rejection means
- 4:09or makes true about you,
- 4:10you fear what that rejection represents.
- 4:13So what if you made it represent the opposite?
- 4:15What if you get a no, you actually interpret that
- 4:19as you moving closer towards your dreams
- 4:21because what separates us from many people
- 4:24who are the full embodiment and expression of their dreams
- 4:26is the amount of rejection they were willing
- 4:29to put up with in order to become who they are now.
- 4:31In every field, unfortunately,
- 4:33the way that this paradigm is set up
- 4:35is a very exploitative relationship with creativity.
- 4:38And so there are a lot of people in the creative industries,
- 4:42the people we know and notice,
- 4:44they have had to face so much rejection for us
- 4:46to know and notice them,
- 4:47whether they are actors, singers, dancers, authors
- 4:51in the publishing space,
- 4:52like all of these people, comedians
- 4:54and the rejection that comedians face.
- 4:56And that's also why I love people
- 4:57creating their own platforms
- 4:58because then you can only reject yourself,
- 5:00which brings us to this idea of aligned action.
- 5:03Are we aligning our actions to self-rejection?
- 5:05Because someone in childhood said,
- 5:07oh, it's not acceptable for you to be that
- 5:08or do that or say that or speak that way
- 5:10or we've internalized all this messaging
- 5:13that has taught us that we are in some way unacceptable.
- 5:17So with that being expressed my angel,
- 5:20what are you aligning your actions to?
- 5:23Remember that our actions have a lot to do
- 5:25with how much we love ourselves.
- 5:28And so when there is an action you're fearing taking,
- 5:30I invite you to ask yourself,
- 5:32how can I become the version of me
- 5:33who loves themselves enough to take this action
- 5:36and for it actually not to matter what comes from it?
- 5:39So maybe you wanna apply to a certain program
- 5:43or apply to graduate school or apply for a grant
- 5:47and you fear that they will say no,
- 5:49that they will reject you,
- 5:50that they'll say essentially that you're not enough.
- 5:53So how can you expand yourself love
- 5:54so that the container that you are of your being
- 5:57is bigger than any rejection?
- 5:59You know you are not an institution saying no to you.
- 6:03You know you are not a grant program saying no to you.
- 6:05You know you are not the audition saying no to you
- 6:07but you love yourself so much.
- 6:09You've expanded your sense of self love
- 6:11and self worth so much that you can hold any rejection
- 6:14coming away.
- 6:15Now holding it doesn't mean not feeling any pain.
- 6:18It means loving yourself and respecting yourself enough
- 6:21to value the highest possibility over the worst case scenario.
- 6:26To say yes it may feel so painful
- 6:29if I go up to this person and they say no,
- 6:31I don't wanna be your friend
- 6:32or no I don't wanna dance with you or whatever it may be.
- 6:34And also I love myself so much that just the possibility
- 6:38that they could say yes is so juicy to me,
- 6:41so expansive to me that I'm willing,
- 6:43I'm more than willing to accept the no in service of the yes.
- 6:47So I wanna ask you are you willing to accept the no
- 6:50in service of the yes.
- 6:51So many of us think that people that we are inspired by
- 6:55what separates us from them is how successful they've been.
- 6:57I actually think what separates us from them
- 6:59is often how much they were willing to fail,
- 7:01how much they were willing to be rejected,
- 7:03how much they were willing to try,
- 7:05how much they were willing to put in effort
- 7:06that didn't have instant results.
- 7:09Can we just refuse to reject ourselves
- 7:11at every sip of the way?
- 7:16What are you aligning your actions to
- 7:18and what can you invite yourself to align your actions to instead?
- 7:22So for example, sometimes I align my actions to the idea
- 7:25that in my expression everything has to be perfect,
- 7:27that I have to speak perfectly,
- 7:29I have to give perfectly,
- 7:30I have to be in the state of excellence.
- 7:32And I'm really trying to align my actions
- 7:34to a different possibility.
- 7:36What if it just gets to be?
- 7:38What if it just gets to be?
- 7:40What if it doesn't have to be anything?
- 7:41What if it just gets to be?
- 7:42What if the getting to be is the offering?
- 7:46And I'm wondering like what version of myself loves
- 7:48herself so much that she just shares
- 7:51because she believes she is generous in her being
- 7:53that every thought she has is generous.
- 7:55Ah, everything she has to share deserves to be expressed.
- 8:00She's not holding herself with conditional love
- 8:03and this is the big difference my loves.
- 8:06Conditional love and the frequency of that.
- 8:08If this is good enough, then I'll be proud.
- 8:10If this gets external validation,
- 8:12then I can feel some sense of self-love
- 8:15towards myself or self-acceptance towards myself.
- 8:17But if not, so we're walking this very fine edge
- 8:22that necessarily feels like falling
- 8:24because we know how precarious we are at this edge.
- 8:28We know that it was so close to falling.
- 8:30And so of course we don't even want to be on that ledge at all.
- 8:32We'd rather just go watch Netflix.
- 8:34We'd rather just go scroll on our phones
- 8:36because it feels like the conditions
- 8:39that we are holding ourselves to are so punishing
- 8:41that it's like why would I even try?
- 8:43So I often align my actions to conditional love
- 8:47and I'm inviting myself to align my actions
- 8:49to unconditional love.
- 8:51If you dream of interviewing people,
- 8:53just you reaching out to someone,
- 8:55to interview them, even if they don't respond,
- 8:58can that be what you celebrate,
- 8:59the fact that you asked?
- 9:02Even if you never hear back,
- 9:03even if they never email back the fact
- 9:05that you showed the universe.
- 9:07Ooh, this is a great question.
- 9:09If you zoomed out and watched yourself
- 9:12from the perspective of the universe,
- 9:14what would the universe say your dream
- 9:17and vision for your life is?
- 9:22What would the universe say?
- 9:23Well, the universe is all knowing
- 9:25so it would know what's in your heart.
- 9:26But let's just assume that this version of the universe
- 9:29only has sight to work with.
- 9:31They only have sight and seeing what you are doing
- 9:33who you are being.
- 9:34What would you be communicating to the universe
- 9:37at your dream of?
- 9:39Are your dreams observable through the actions you are taking?
- 9:42And if not, how can you align your actions?
- 9:45How can you sort of see yourself and be like, okay,
- 9:48I'm gonna take actions that signal,
- 9:50that signal sign to the universe.
- 9:53Like I am the sign language of the dream.
- 9:56Oh my word, that just came.
- 9:58Thank you, spirit.
- 10:01I am the sign language of my dream.
- 10:05So, the way that I'm acting in the world
- 10:09is literally the language of the expression of the dream.
- 10:15If spirit saw me, which spirit does see me,
- 10:18spirit would say, oh wow, that is the language
- 10:24of this dream seeking to come through.
- 10:27Oh wow, oh.
- 10:31What are you signaling through your actions
- 10:36to the universe?
- 10:38What are you signaling through the steps
- 10:42you're willing to take for the dream?
- 10:46And at a collective level, what are we signaling?
- 10:50We believe it is possible to co-create
- 10:53for the collective on Earth.
- 10:56When we are always talking about how hopeless everything is,
- 11:03what are we signaling that we're not the ones
- 11:07who are gonna create heaven on Earth,
- 11:09we're signaling that we don't believe that's possible.
- 11:13Yet, we are also the manifestation of people
- 11:16who believed it was possible.
- 11:18Each of us comes from and has benefited from
- 11:20the work of activists and artists,
- 11:23makers, visionaries who believed something more was possible.
- 11:26So it's almost like how dare we not,
- 11:28how dare we not believe that something more nourishing is possible.
- 11:32And if the micro is a mirror of the macro,
- 11:37which emergent strategy by Adrian Marie Brown
- 11:40describes so beautifully,
- 11:41then how we act in the littlest spaces of our lives
- 11:44also mirrors how we then can become and recreate the world.
- 11:50What I want to say to you, my love,
- 11:51is you have a natural magnetism
- 11:54and aligned action creates magnetic attraction.
- 11:59Aligned action necessitates magnetic attraction.
- 12:03When you are taking aligned action
- 12:05towards your vision's dreams, hopes,
- 12:07towards our vision's dreams, hopes through you,
- 12:10because remember the collective is dreaming through you.
- 12:13You are the dream teacher, dancer, musician, singer,
- 12:19coach, heart-lead leader, poet, writer,
- 12:23world builder, activist, liberator,
- 12:28dealer, teacher, that's someone that many of us,
- 12:31that thousands of us, that millions of us are calling in.
- 12:35So when you take aligned action towards that highest possibility,
- 12:40it cannot help but be attracted to you.
- 12:42So you will then draw in all the things
- 12:45that are in alignment with those actions.
- 12:46Because remember, aligned action is part of the bridge
- 12:50between the unseen and the scene world, as are you.
- 12:54So when you are taking action that aligns
- 12:56to this highest possibility, you create this bridge
- 13:00for the scene world to seamlessly become
- 13:02what you saw in the unseen world or even better.
- 13:05Because sometimes our imagination is just the beacon
- 13:07that will lead us towards the place
- 13:09where we actually end up
- 13:10is so much more juicy, magical and unimaginable.
- 13:13Aligned action creates magnetic attraction.
- 13:16Aligned action necessitates magnetic attraction.
- 13:20When you are shining and being the beacon
- 13:22that you are here to be, you cannot help
- 13:24but draw in people who see that beacon
- 13:28as specifically a beacon of hope for them,
- 13:30a beacon of possibility for them.
- 13:33What is the aligned action you can invite yourself to take?
- 13:39How much would you need to love yourself
- 13:41to accept any of the outcomes of that action?
- 13:47How much would I need to love myself
- 13:49to accept any of the outcomes of this action,
- 13:52to accept that I may reach out and they may say nothing,
- 13:55they may say no, they may say yes.
- 13:57Sometimes we fear the yes, we fear the success.
- 14:02We fear our own magnetism.
- 14:06But if you can trust your magnetism,
- 14:08what you'll also understand is you will magnetize
- 14:11towards you the exact support system required to hold you
- 14:16in whatever is unfolding
- 14:17because we can face anything in community.
- 14:20There's an amazing essay by Dr. Aisha Khan on this
- 14:24where she speaks about how in community we can hold anything.
- 14:28And there are different communities and spaces
- 14:31being created, being envisioned to support us in that journey.
- 14:36And I want to share with you that because I attract
- 14:39the literal best people on earth,
- 14:40like I'm actually an awe of our soul siblings,
- 14:43the ones I've made in person,
- 14:44the ones I've made on calls, coaching calls,
- 14:46free calls, many calls I've done over the past years,
- 14:49I've done all sorts of calls.
- 14:50And I've had some of the most magical conversations.
- 14:53And so I thought to myself, we need to get the people together.
- 14:57We need a gathering spot.
- 14:58So a gathering spot indeed is unfolding.
- 15:01So if you would like to join us because you are one of us,
- 15:04we would love to have you
- 15:05and you will receive information about that on my newsletter.
- 15:08So if you visit iunderstood.com,
- 15:10you're gonna get a free ebook if you don't have it already,
- 15:13call the soulful visibility guide,
- 15:15tap into this vibration of soulful visibility.
- 15:19What do I mean by that?
- 15:20Like when I say that, what do I mean?
- 15:21So I think it's easiest to contrast it to soulless visibility,
- 15:24which I think all of us can see a lot of.
- 15:27And I don't think that all visibility is nourishing.
- 15:30Just like I don't think all creativity is nourishing.
- 15:32War was created, racism was created.
- 15:35All of this was created.
- 15:37All that we're suffering was also created.
- 15:38So I believe in creativity that is loving,
- 15:41creativity that is nourishing, creativity that makes the world
- 15:44more loving, thriving, that makes the world
- 15:47more mutually abundant, abundant for all.
- 15:50So soulful visibility is about that kind of visibility
- 15:53that changes touches, moves each of us,
- 15:56that poet that changed our lives,
- 15:58that book that changed our lives,
- 16:00had they not been willing to be witnessed in their gifts
- 16:03and witnessing changes meaning as technologies change.
- 16:07And now we have a very sort of direct witnessing
- 16:09but witnessed in their writing, witnessed in their magic,
- 16:13witnessed in their, and remember, that's the final book.
- 16:15They had to write that book, send it to a publisher
- 16:17and editor who had to witness their writing,
- 16:20or if they had a speech to share,
- 16:21being witnessed by the people in the room,
- 16:24being witnessed in their artistry, in their teaching,
- 16:26maybe being a spiritual teacher who was persecuted for their views,
- 16:30maybe being an activist who was persecuted for their views.
- 16:32So we've all benefited from the soulful,
- 16:36soul-loving, rich, deep,
- 16:40the soulful visibility of our elders,
- 16:43of ancestors, of activists, of artists,
- 16:46people who are willing to be seen,
- 16:47people who are willing to protest,
- 16:49people who are willing to fight.
- 16:51So in that, the soulful visibility idea is that we all have something to share
- 16:56that can touch, that can move, that can serve,
- 16:59that can educate, that can nourish.
- 17:00And also, because we're also not here to just give endlessly and deplete ourselves,
- 17:04we can then receive, and that is the magnetism of it.
- 17:07There's a law of reciprocity.
- 17:09If you give your light, light will be given to you.
- 17:13And if you give your highest giving,
- 17:15your highest receiving will unfold.
- 17:19So that is what soulful visibility is all about.
- 17:21And soulful creativity is how can we create the world we wish to see?
- 17:26How can we recognize that every trauma that we are living
- 17:29was created by an imagination that necessitated it?
- 17:33By a colonial imagination, by a patriarchal imagination,
- 17:36by a white supremacist imagination.
- 17:38So we need to be aware that we are world builders,
- 17:42world weavers of a different kind of reality that is nourishing, that is playful,
- 17:47that is beautiful, but in that deep way,
- 17:50that is alive when so many of the technologies that have been created
- 17:55are deadening, are numbing.
- 17:56They're about deadening ourselves, numbing ourselves, tiring ourselves.
- 18:02Our eyes literally wanting to go to sleep,
- 18:05but not being able to pull away.
- 18:07And then technologies like actual weapons, guns that were created.
- 18:14So if you are out here trying to write poems,
- 18:17and you don't feel safe enough to share those poems,
- 18:19what kind of world can we create?
- 18:21You know what I mean?
- 18:21So you, the loving nourishing creator that you are,
- 18:25if you feel cold to express that in a small room of two people
- 18:28on a stage filled with millions,
- 18:31I'm here to support you in that expression.
- 18:33And something so exciting is unfolding for us to gather
- 18:36and take aligned action together.
- 18:38For more of us, soul siblings, to be in the room virtually at first at least,
- 18:44and to co-create the most loving possibilities for us,
- 18:48through us, and through that alignment,
- 18:50unlock the abundance that we are calling in.
- 18:53For us, through us.
- 18:55For us, because through us receiving abundance,
- 18:58we will also be a source of abundance for our families,
- 19:01for our friends, for our communities.
- 19:03And then also through us, by you truly in your power,
- 19:07you are magnetic.
- 19:08We will learn from you, we will receive from you,
- 19:10we will be inspired from you, we will get the breakthroughs from you.
- 19:12So you create abundance as much as you receive it.
- 19:17Remember though, it is the aligned action that creates,
- 19:22that necessitates the magnetic attraction.
- 19:24So if this interests you, visit iandestor.com,
- 19:27the link is below, and join us,
- 19:29you will receive more information on this juicy unfolding in the coming weeks.
- 19:34And I'm so excited to meet some of you to have more of a closer space for us,
- 19:39where we can truly gather and co-create.
- 19:41So I'm sending you all the love in the world,
- 19:43what is the aligned action that would take you one step closer to your dreams,
- 19:47your visions, your hopes, and then on a greater scale,
- 19:49who do we need to be collectively to create the heaven on earth that is possible,
- 19:56that we have felt, we've all felt a glimpse of it, a moment of it,
- 20:00you go to a concert or you are just with a friend and you feel seen,
- 20:03like just a moment of it proves that it could all be that.
- 20:08A moment of bliss shows the possibility of collective bliss,
- 20:11and we've all felt a glimpse of that.
- 20:14So why not recreate the world in alignment with that,
- 20:18in alignment with that glimmer, with that shimmer of love,
- 20:23with that touch of delight, of sensuality, of pleasure,
- 20:26of wholeness, of home, of safety?
- 20:30Why not create with that as the highest possibility in our hearts for all
- 20:35to experience, to touch, to live?
- 20:38And if it sounds impossible, you know that I love the quote by Nelson Mandela,
- 20:42it always seems impossible until it's done, but also how dare we?
- 20:46We sound impossible.
- 20:47You have billions of cells keeping trillions of cells keeping you alive.
- 20:51You had a less than one in 400 trillion chance of being born,
- 20:53let alone still being here.
- 20:55You sound impossible, and here you are.
- 20:58The things you've lived, the things you've alchemized, you sound impossible.
- 21:03The amazing people you've drawn into your field, online or offline or both,
- 21:07you sound impossible.
- 21:12How nourishing you are, how much you've alchemized darkness into light,
- 21:17you sound impossible.
- 21:19So babes, how dare we not feel worthy of dreaming of what sounds impossible?
- 21:24I love you so much.
- 21:24I'm sending you so much love and I will see you on the next sole session.
- 21:28You are precious, you are magic, you are delightful.
- 21:30And if you love the precious, the magic that you're delightful,
- 21:33please watch Lilo and Stitch.
- 21:34It is all those things.
- 21:35I'm sending you so much love.
- 21:37I will see you on the next sole session.
- 21:39I love you.
- 21:40Bye.
- 21:42My darling, my love, my soul, sibling,
- 21:45thank you for stepping into the sole salon.
- 21:48If you are still hearing or watching this, we are soul siblings.
- 21:51We are resonating on the same frequency.
- 21:53And so something you may struggle with that I struggle with
- 21:56is the fear of being seen.
- 21:59You know that visibility is involved in you living your creative purpose
- 22:03and being in your power, serving the collective through your gifts,
- 22:07through your magic, through your medicine.
- 22:09In order to do that, you know you need to be more seen
- 22:12than you are allowing yourself to be right now.
- 22:16I have a gift just for you,
- 22:18heart made for us on this frequency.
- 22:21And it is a free ebook called The Soulful Visibility Guide.
- 22:25That is soulful visibility.
- 22:27Like we don't just want to be seen, we want to be felt,
- 22:29we want to be heard, we want to move and be moved.
- 22:32So I do have a free gift for you.
- 22:34And all you need to do is go to my website,
- 22:37I understood.com.
- 22:39And there you will be able to input your email address
- 22:42and receive this directly to your inbox.
- 22:44This is such a juicy and delicious guide.
- 22:47And I change the free offering every few months.
- 22:50So you know, get it while you can.
- 22:52All the links are in the show notes.
- 22:54So thank you so much.
- 22:55I love you and I will see you on the next sole session.
- 22:58Okay, I love you.
- 22:59Bye.