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YOUR MONEY PROBLEM MAY ACTUALLY BE A RECEIVING PROBLEM · Erotic Spirit Podcast

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  SPEAKER_00: Most people think of money and survival.
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  SPEAKER_00: They think of, well, I have this money and I'm able to pay for my bills.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm able to eat.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm able to live.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that starts to really get into our innate survival ways of being.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you dive in deeper, your survival and your resources, they're all the same.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what is that really?
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  SPEAKER_00: What is the depth of that?
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  SPEAKER_00: I find that the depth of that is really safety.
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  SPEAKER_00: If I have enough money, I will be safe.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Erotic Spirit Podcast, where sexuality, soul, and embodiment meet.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today I'm talking about sex and money.
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  SPEAKER_00: I bet you if I knew how you related to money, I could predict how you relate to sex.
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  SPEAKER_00: And not because they're the same thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's because the nervous system, the mind and body, are all talking to each other.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you stick around, I'll give you some tips on how to break the stagnancy in your money and relate it all to sex.
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  SPEAKER_00: So today, diving in deeper, I want to talk about the energy of things.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to talk about the energy of money.
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  SPEAKER_00: And specifically that I believe that money is related to the energy of safety.
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  SPEAKER_00: Meaning most people think of money and survival.
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  SPEAKER_00: They think of, well, I have this money and I'm able to pay for my bills.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm able to eat.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so that starts to really get into our innate survival ways of being.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you dive in deeper, your survival and your resources, they're all the same.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what is that really?
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  SPEAKER_00: What is the depth of that?
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  SPEAKER_00: I find that the depth of that is really safety.
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  SPEAKER_00: If I have enough money, I will be safe.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so there is an invitation here because I believe that money is an energy exchange.
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  SPEAKER_00: I believe that it's opportunity.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's more my mindset and belief and what my body believes today.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it didn't start there.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're tuning in because you feel really stagnant in your money, I want to invite you into the past for a moment, just for a brief moment, where you can do this exercise.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's very simple.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can look at your first money experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: For me, uh my first memory around money was I remembered just this area in my childhood where, you know, I had there was someone who had lost their job.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that is a family member that lost their job.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I remember there was a little bit of fear around this.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I I don't know, maybe I was somewhere under 10, maybe eight or nine.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can't really remember.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I just remember there was just so much fear around, well, you know, how we may live.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so there are a couple themes throughout childhood with that, but I just remember that so distinctly.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when I went through this practice initially, I not only remembered the that, but I also remembered how I felt, which it just started to let me perceive money in a different lens.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the interesting thing is as an adult though, I started to make a lot of money.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when I got out of college, I started to a few short years after make six figures.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's funny though, even I had all this money to live and, you know, an investment home and all that beautiful stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: I remember though, the way that I would spend money was frugal.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just wouldn't, I would have fights with my partner around spending money.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there was more than enough money to spend.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the frugalness was related to just how I perceived money and safety.
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  SPEAKER_00: My body still felt that it needed to survive.
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  SPEAKER_00: No matter how much money was out there, no matter, you know, how much money was come flowing in, the money did not want to flow out.
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  SPEAKER_00: And because of that, I also believe there were missed opportunities to amplify the money even more.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so I want to share this because you could start to look at what are your behaviors around money?
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  SPEAKER_00: And how does that relate to your initial experience in life?
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  SPEAKER_00: And so that's just one exercise that you can start with.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then we get a little bit deeper because now we're gonna move over into sex and the energy behind sex.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so, sex, when you think about it even more, there's vulnerability, there is receiving, there is truth, there is expression, and all of these things to drop into even just vulnerability with someone, to be really in that space of intimacy and connection.
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  SPEAKER_00: There is a spot where my body, my mind, my heart, my nervous system really needs to drop into safety to experience sex that is pleasurable.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because anyone can have sex and anyone could, you know, get money, but it's our relationship to these things that there's this invitation out there to change perspective, but not only that, to actually feel that truth within the body.
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  SPEAKER_00: So there's again this energy around sex of safety, but not only that is how do I become present enough in my body to actually know that I'm not feeling safe, for example.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I can give you some tips that I used to use.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you're not familiar with a little bit of my story, I had PTSD not too long ago.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, definitely several years ago, but I became fully symptom-free by doing a lot of these things and then more and more things.
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  SPEAKER_00: So one of the things, or really just to get down to it, is checking in with your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your mind may be going through a loop.
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  SPEAKER_00: It may be, you know, doing things or saying things that are not true.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then your body could be saying the same thing or it could be saying something different from whatever your mind is.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so that that's that mind-body disconnect that we can have.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so you check in with your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: Simple scan.
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  SPEAKER_00: Simply scan your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, let me be aware of am I tense in my body?
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  SPEAKER_00: How am I breathing?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do I have short breaths?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do I have long breaths?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do I have trouble breathing?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is my mind going a million miles an hour?
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  SPEAKER_00: And it am I able to not make decisions?
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes indecisiveness is because of non-clarity, but sometimes being indecisive is because the mental energy is moving a lot and the the decisions or the decision points don't feel safe enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm going through all these possibilities and I can't make a decision.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's a behavior.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: So going back to the body, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, how does it, how does it feel?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do I feel heaviness in the body?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do I feel pains in my body?
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  SPEAKER_00: Now check with your medical practitioners and check with your doctors.
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  SPEAKER_00: But sometimes I found for me that pain is actually just from what do I believe?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do I believe I need to put pressure on myself for something?
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  SPEAKER_00: And so I will feel pain in my shoulders.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I know this is true for me because I used to feel all these pains in my body and my back and all these things.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, I was young in my 20s, and all this stuff was moving through.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then as I went to my healing journey in my 30s, I recognized at one point all of my symptoms went away.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had no pain in my body.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then now I recognize because of that, after I've had that awareness, that I, whenever I'm feeling stressed, it's really easy to tell.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so it's not always correlated.
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  SPEAKER_00: So definitely have that in mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I know for me, that's my truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: So right now, my back is tense, say, and it's because I have this embedded pressure point that I need to get all these things done, and that if I don't, then then it'll fail.
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  SPEAKER_00: And because of that, you know, that doesn't feel good.
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  SPEAKER_00: That doesn't feel safe.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh maybe failure equals, you know, um worth.
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  SPEAKER_00: And and with that, it's, you know what, that doesn't feel good.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, which is not a truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's just a belief.
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  SPEAKER_00: So feeling into the body, skin, you can just simply scan from from head to toe or toe to head, or both, and do it a few times, but slowly move through it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Slowly bring your awareness, you know, from your head, down your neck, down the the chest, down the stomach, down the legs, into your feet.
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  SPEAKER_00: Pause in each potential intersection, and then go into the feeling of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: What are the sensations?
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  SPEAKER_00: Describe those sensations in your mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you're doing that, you're actually giving presence to your body, you're actually feeling what it feels like and not thinking, you're feeling your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you feel your body, you actually start to change something.
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  SPEAKER_00: You bring awareness and compassion to what is going on in your body, and you start to be in tune with your body and what it's trying to tell you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you could even go even deeper and ask what your body is feeling.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can ask your that body part.
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  SPEAKER_00: If that body part is feeling tense, if your throat is feeling like it's constrained, ask it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ask it how it's feeling.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you dive in a little bit deeper and you have now you know what's going on.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know that your body's stressed, or maybe it's not.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if your body is feeling that way, it's going to move that way in all areas of your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's going to move that way with your business, it's going to move that way in your sex life, it's going to move that way with your friendships, with your family.
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  SPEAKER_00: And until you start to bring awareness to it, you'll keep flowing in that direction.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you're aware of it, now we start to see what's the combination between sex and money and safety and how, you know, when I look at the crossover between a lot of these, it's receiving.
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  SPEAKER_00: And am I receiving money?
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  SPEAKER_00: And does that money just instantly flow out?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because it doesn't feel safe enough to hold it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because if I spend the money, something inside me maybe feels good.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe I feel safe now because I got all these things to take care of my emotional needs.
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  SPEAKER_00: But maybe I just never have what I feel like enough money.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so there's a space where I call of receiving that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, where am I not feeling safe enough to receive that?
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  SPEAKER_00: And the crossover is with sex.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where am I not feeling safe enough to say, ref receive pleasure?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do I rush my bedroom times?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do I not ask for what I desire in a partner?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do I not allow myself to receive pleasure if it's solo time?
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  SPEAKER_00: So where am I with that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Am I not even practicing having a solo practice?
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's the start of receiving because I know exactly what feels good and it feels safe.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I get to express that outwardly with a partner.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so the crossover there is that receiving point.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where is it in your life that you don't feel safe to receive?
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  SPEAKER_00: And maybe you don't, you're not relating it to money or sex right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when you start to call in the other areas of your life, you start to recognize how things are all correlated.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you can start to do small things with your sex life and with money and how it all just kind of combines.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what I would suggest when we look at money is slowing down your spending, pausing, pausing there, and taking a moment to breathe.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you can also do this with your sex life.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can pause, slow down.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can take a minute to just tune into your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you do that, you're creating from that space of safety.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe your initial reaction is just, I want to just do.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just want to spend the money.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just want to get this over with.
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  SPEAKER_00: That receiving is an energy exchange that we're worthy of.
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  SPEAKER_00: Receiving is just a universal law.
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  SPEAKER_00: Receiving is something that is innate to everyone.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so when we actually let our body rewire around that, then we actually allow that energy to just start to take something, to take a different form.
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  SPEAKER_00: And for our body to just take a different way of being.
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  SPEAKER_00: So now I'm in this blissful state and I am having fun with life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this opportunity comes in because this potential client is like, let me drink the juice that you're drinking.
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  SPEAKER_00: They are in a state of, I want to learn from you because you're living life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's opportunity.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that is money, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: All these things are interconnected, and it really allows us to be in these spaces.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I I really invite you to start looking at the correlations, and not only the correlations, but how this magnetism can really effortlessly allow you to not only express who you are as a being and as a person and as someone living in this world, but allow your expression to flow through the energy into your money as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not only is it that we're in a state of opportunity coming in, but it's opportunity flowing through us.
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  SPEAKER_00: And through us, we can create with our money, and then that money flows back.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if I'm truly connected to who I am and I feel good, and I'm understanding who I am in life, and I'm in that blissful state and I'm relaxed, I'm probably more in a state of expression, expressing who I truly am.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when I flow into that expression outwardly.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now I'm really not only am I just safe, but I am simply being me and attracting all of the things that are exactly like that and repelling things that are not like that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the money comes in with that in time.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, if you're in a room of high influential people, and you are with your relationship with money, you are in a lack state.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you flow in that room in every conversation, trying to pitch yourself that energy that's reflected is that lack.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like, I need to prove to you.
• 22:47
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's the energy that's being expressed.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, if you're in that state of where your relationship with your money is safe and it feels good, and you know what?
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  SPEAKER_00: The opportunities will come.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you're in that you're in that relaxed state more, you're in that state of bliss more, and you're you're moving around that room of now influential people.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just imagine what it would look like if you were just showing up to each conversation, meeting that person to just be and get to know them and be present.
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  SPEAKER_00: Imagine what the impact that may give.
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  SPEAKER_00: That may tell the person that you really care.
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  SPEAKER_00: That may tell them that you're not just out to get something from them.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so that's where it the conversation starts to go from inauthentic to authentic relating.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when we're authentically relating, the opportunities flow in and the money flows in with it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's not only just about money, it's about how we're showing up and expressing the energy of safety outwardly.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if we are walk into a room and I say, I don't need to prove anything to anyone here.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm going to be me.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're going to attract the exact people that mirror that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And isn't it, wouldn't it be so much better if you could show up and meet the exact mirror of that?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's someone who is authentically being them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wouldn't it be beautiful to collaborate with someone who is authentically being themselves?
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  SPEAKER_00: And then you create magic from that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So safety, when you feel that innately within your body, you move in spaces and you wouldn't even think that there's an opportunity in that space.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, this is a room of influential people.
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  SPEAKER_00: So yes, there is.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if you just move in your day, you could be meeting someone at the cafe in the line because you're just having a grand old time and you're in a blissful state and you're happy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And maybe it's a really long line, but maybe that gives you a chance to just start chatting someone up.
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  SPEAKER_00: And before you know it, you could be talking to a top uh TV producer and you didn't know that up until the end.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then there's an invitation there, there's an opportunity, but you were just getting to know them because it's a long line.
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  SPEAKER_00: So these are ways when we think about safety, it's it's not what do I need to get from life?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's how do I get to express myself?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I just feel good in my body all the time, or maybe sometimes, or maybe you're getting there.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so the more that you show up in that state, you can really connect into the universe.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what you're saying to the universe is I'm receiving this moment as it is, and there's no pressure to make it something else.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm receiving myself exactly as I am.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when I do that, now I am showing an openness.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm showing an openness to receive exactly that of match to who I am.
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  SPEAKER_00: And anything less than that is not good enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: So our money is really relating to all of that, and the way that you show up in life is beautiful.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is not an episode on you know, budgeting tips or things like that for money, that's definitely a different podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: But this is the exchange of how money makes us feel and what is our relationship to money.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you find that your behaviors around money are expressing something that doesn't make sense, like for me, I shared, I had enough money and yet I was very frugal with it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that was the behavior.
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  SPEAKER_00: So look at your behaviors and go backwards, but then start to relate that to your sex life and start to mirror in both and and intertwine them and allow it to tell you a story, but not only just tell your story, allow yourself to move into this new way of being.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the embodiment experiment that you can walk away with today is not only take the information, but go do.
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  SPEAKER_00: All of this is beautiful.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can listen to all the podcasts in the world, you can listen, you can take all the courses.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it is not until we take inspired action that life is gonna actually do something different.
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  SPEAKER_00: It will stay the same.
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  SPEAKER_00: It will stay the same until you actually move and create a new opportunity.
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  SPEAKER_00: So invite in, look at your your first memory with money.
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  SPEAKER_00: Look at your even your first, you can even look at your first sexual experience, and there could be trauma.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there could, there might not be, but you look at those things, you look at your behaviors, and start from there.
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  SPEAKER_00: If your behavior is, I'm really frugal with money and it does not make sense, just take chances on receiving.
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  SPEAKER_00: So even receiving compliments, even something that's like, I'm gonna receive this compliment.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the energy really behind it is receiving.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not about the money.
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  SPEAKER_00: The money and having more money is an outcome of the behavior.
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  SPEAKER_00: So challenge yourself to really look at your behavior and do something different.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, you know what your behavior is, you could know it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't matter until you actually take one micro step in a different direction.
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