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The Murder/Suicide of the ‘Wife Swap’ Stockdale family · Murder Files Unsealed

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  Speaker 1: Our deep dive today takes us into a really unsettling story,
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  the Stockdale family. Many people might remember them projecting this
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  image of perfect wholesome living through their music, their reality TV.
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  Speaker 2: Appearance, right, a meticulously crafted image exactly.
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  Speaker 1: But underneath that facade, while there was this tragedy brewing
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  that just completely shattered their world. It left everyone just
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  grappling with something unthinkable.
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  Speaker 2: It's such a compelling case precisely because of that huge contrast.
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  You have this family presenting themselves as like the absolute
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  picture of traditional values, harmony, and then these devastating private
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  events just explode. It really forces you, doesn't it, to
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  look at the unseen pressures, the complex family dynamics that
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  confester even when things look ideal.
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  Speaker 1: And that's really the heart of our mission today. We're
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  going to unpack the Stockdale family story. We'll be drawing
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  on sources like the wife swap, murders, a family tragedy,
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  trying to dissect that public persona look at the shocking
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  events of twenty seventeen, the legal mess afterwards.
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  Speaker 2: And the theories because there's still no clear motive officially.
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  Speaker 1: Right exactly, trying to make sense of it all. Okay,
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  let's dig in. So to really get that contrast, that
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  public versus private thing, we need to rewind to two
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  thousand and eight. That's when a lot of people first
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  saw the Stockdales on Wife Swap.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that show Timothy.
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  Speaker 1: And Catherine Stockdale and their four sons, Calvin, Charles, Jacob,
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  and James. They were presented as this well devout, super
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  close knit Christian family from rural Ohio.
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  Speaker 2: Deeply rooted in really strict rules, and of course bluegrass
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  music was central.
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  Speaker 1: Oh definitely central and strict is probably an understatement.
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  Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, I'd say so.
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  Speaker 2: Their lifestyle was incredibly controlled. The boys were homeschooled, all
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  secular entertainment like TV, video games totally banned.
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  Speaker 1: No dating either. They were worried about I think the
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  phrases physical and moral.
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  Speaker 2: Dangers, that's right. So their whole lives basically revolved around
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  you know, faith, farm work, and the family band, the
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  Stockdale family band, and.
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  Speaker 1: The band was a big part of that public image. Jacob,
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  he played the fiddle and apparently it was quite good.
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  Won the State of Ohio Grand Fiddld Championship in twenty twelve. Wow,
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  James the youngest victim. Eventually he was on upright bass.
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  People said he had charisma, Calvin on banjo, Charles on mandolin,
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  Timothy the dad on guitar, and Catherine the mom. She
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  managed the whole thing.
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  Speaker 3: So a real family enterprise totally.
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  Speaker 1: They played county fairs, the Homage Country Theater. They even
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  won a local talent show Heights Got Talent back in
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  twenty fourteen. It all just reinforced this image, you know, musical, faithful,
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  tight knit.
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  Speaker 2: And that image gets even well sharper when you compare
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  them to the family they swapped with on the show,
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  the Tankovics from Illinois.
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  Speaker 1: Right, Lori Tankovic the mom in that family, she was
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  much more laid back.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, completely allowed our kids way more freedom. I mean
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  they're significant others were even living in the hall.
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  Speaker 1: Can you imagine the culture clash there?
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  Speaker 3: Seriously?
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  Speaker 2: And Lori Tonkovic's observations during that swap they became really
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  signific later on.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, this is where it gets interesting. She talked about
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  the Stockdale system where the boys had to earn tokens
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  for doing chores.
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  Speaker 2: Right, tokens for privileges. They could listen to the radio,
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  but only limited time and definitely not pop music. That's
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  so specific, but what Laurie told TMZ later that was
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  really unsettling. She said, when she introduced Jacob, who was
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  fifteen at the time, to TV and video games, he
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  got incredibly distressed, actually ran outside.
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  Speaker 1: Crying, crying why.
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  Speaker 3: He apparently feared eternal damnation.
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  Speaker 2: That's what he said his parents had drilled into him
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  that he would literally burn in hell if he broke
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  their rules.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, it's intense.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, Laura's procession was that the boys were treated almost
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  like slaves, very little autonomy. She mentioned this strict family
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  manual they had outlining everything, no cursing, no dating, very
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  limited contact with the outside world.
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  Speaker 1: So she saw something was off even back then.
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  Speaker 3: It seems like it.
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  Speaker 2: What's fascinating here is the stark contrast Laurie described. It
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  really paints a picture of this incredibly rigid environment, even
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  one built on faith. It seems like it could maybe
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  paradoxically create this extreme fragility, especially when something from the
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  outside challenges those really deeply ingrained beliefs.
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  Speaker 1: That fear of eternal damnation. It just really highlights how
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  deep that control, maybe indoctrination went, and perhaps it was
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  that hidden controlled reality that somehow, you know, set the
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  stage for what happened next.
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  Speaker 2: Which brings us to that tragic day June fifteenth, twenty seventeen.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it started with a nine to one to one
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  hang up call that LEDs Dark County Sheriff's deputies out
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  to the Stockdale Farmhouse in Beach City, Ohio.
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  Speaker 3: And as they got closer.
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  Speaker 1: They heard a gunshot inside. What they found was just horrific. Catherine,
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  the mother, fifty four, and James, the youngest son, twenty one.
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  They were both dead gunshot wounds.
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  Speaker 2: And Jacob, who was twenty five by then, he was
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  there too, but he had a self inflicted gunshot wound.
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  Still alive but barely right critical condition. He had to
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  be airlifted to Metro Health in Cleveland, needed extensive surgeries
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  rehab for over a year actually, because the brain injuries
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  were so severe.
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  Speaker 1: And the dad, Timothy, he wasn't home at the time, No,
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  he wasn't home.
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  Speaker 2: And the older brothers, Calvin and Charles, they were already
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  living elsewhere by then.
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  Speaker 1: The shock in the community among people who knew the band,
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  it must have been immense.
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 2: Neighbors later said they heard something like ten to twelve
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  shots between one pm and three pm.
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  Speaker 1: That day and the sheriff, George Tmayer, he made a
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  point of saying it was the first time police had
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  ever been called to that house. No prior legal issues
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  with Jacob, nothing.
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  Speaker 2: Just completely out of the blue for everyone.
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  Speaker 1: On the outside, this sudden devastating violence nobody thought coming.
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  Speaker 2: And the surviving family member, I mean, the statements they
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  released showed incredible strength. Really. Timothy mourned Catherine, called her
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  a devoted mother grandmother, talked about her passion for faith,
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  natural health, organic farming. Calvin spoke about James, his brother,
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  calling him a gifted musician, a source of family joy,
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  and even then they expressed hope for Jacob's recovery while
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  dealing with this unbelievable loss.
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  Speaker 1: It's hard to even imagine. So with Jacob so badly injured,
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  the legal side of things must have been complicated.
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  Speaker 3: Very delayed for a long time.
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  Speaker 2: He couldn't communicate properly, couldn't even be housed in a
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  jail setting initially.
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  Speaker 1: So when did things finally move forward.
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  Speaker 2: It wasn't until September twenty eighteen, after a lot of recovery,
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  he actually turned himself in. This was after a secret
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  indictment which means a grand jury had already looked at
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  the evidence and decided to charge him, but it was
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  kept under wraps until he was in custody, probably to
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  prevent him from flat That's usually the reason. Yeah, he
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  was indicted on two counts of murder with firearms specifications
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  added on, and his plea Initially he pleaded not guilty
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  by reason of insanity.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so what does that mean? Exactly?
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  Speaker 2: Basically, it's not denying he committed the acts, but claiming
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  that because of a mental illness at the time, he
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  couldn't understand that what he was doing was wrong. That
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  plea automatically triggers a psychiatric evaluation.
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  Speaker 1: Right, And I read somewhere he actually tried to escape
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  from the facility during that evaluation.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's true.
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  Speaker 2: Apparently twice once he tried hiding in some bookstacks. Another
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  time tried to blend in with visitors leaving.
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  Speaker 1: Did he face charges for those attempts?
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  Speaker 2: No, Interestingly, no charges were filed for the escape attempts.
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  Speaker 1: Huh okay, So after the evaluation.
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  Speaker 2: Eventually, by February twenty twenty, a judge ruled him competent
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  to stand.
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  Speaker 1: Trial, meaning he understood the charges and could help.
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  Speaker 3: His lawyers exactly.
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  Speaker 2: He was deemed able to understand the legal process and
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  participate in his own defense. But then something changed. In
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  May twenty twenty one, literally just before his trial was
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  supposed to start. What happened He changed his clea pleaded guilty.
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  Speaker 1: Guilty to both murders.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, guilty to both counts, and the sentence he got
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  thirty years to life in prison. That breaks down as
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  fifteen years for each murder charge, served consecutively, one after
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  the other, so even be eligible for parole until what
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  twenty forty eight?
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  Speaker 1: That's right, twenty forty eight.
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  Speaker 2: But even with the guilty plea the sentence, there's still
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  this huge question mark hanging over.
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  Speaker 3: It all the motive.
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  Speaker 1: You never said? Why he did it?
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  Speaker 3: Never?
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  Speaker 2: No official motive has ever been provided by Jacob, and
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  maybe given the severe brain injuries he sustained, maybe he
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  can't fully articulate it, or maybe he just won't.
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  Speaker 3: It leaves us grappling with the why.
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  Speaker 1: It's so unsettling, isn't it to just not know? And
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  without Jacob saying anything, people started looking elsewhere for answers,
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  like Lori Tankovic, the wife swap mom.
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  Speaker 2: Right, she publicly offered her theory based on her time
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  with the family years earlier.
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  Speaker 1: She basically said it was the strict upbringing right, the
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  lack of free will, she called it, that caused him
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  to just snap.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, she drew a direct line from his distress back then,
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  that fear of eternal damnation she witnessed to the eventual violence.
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  It's a theory, of course, but one grounded in her
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  unique observations.
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  Speaker 1: And then there's the reaction of the surviving family, which
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  is just.
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  Speaker 3: Truly remarkable and maybe perplexing to some.
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  Speaker 2: Timothy the father, and the other sons, Calvin and Charles,
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  they publicly forgave Jacob, or.
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  Speaker 1: Gave him after he killed their mother and brother.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, and they didn't just forgive him privately. They actually
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  asked the court for leniency. In his sentencing. Timothy specifically said,
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  my sons and I continue to love Jacob.
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  Speaker 1: Wow. That's an incredible amount of.
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  Speaker 3: Grace, it really is.
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  Speaker 2: It highlights these incredibly complex layers of forgiveness family bonds
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  even after something so horrific. But despite their plea, the
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  court still imposed that very substantial sentence thirty years to life,
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  reflecting the gravity of the crimes.
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  Speaker 1: So this whole deep dive, it really just lays bare
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  that stark contrast we started with the public image and
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  this harmonious, devout musical family and the hidden reality that
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  just exploded into tragedy.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and if you try to connect it to something bigger,
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  this case is kind of a chilling look at how
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  a really carefully maintained facade can hide just immense internal pressure. Right,
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  it speaks volumes. I think about the potential dangers of
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  emotional isolation, especially within environments of extreme control. It raises
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  huge questions about unseen struggles mental health, even though the
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  specific why for Jacob might always remain unclear.
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  Speaker 1: So the ultimate takeaway here seems to be about that facade,
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  how perfect harmony on the surface can hide this unbearable
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  internal conflict, the dangers of isolation, extreme control. What does
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  it all really mean for how we understand public personas
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  versus private lives and the potential impact of that kind
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  of extreme isolation.
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  Speaker 3: It definitely leaves you thinking
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it leaves you pondering the complexities of well human
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  behavior and the hidden forces that can shape it, often
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  completely out of view.