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Season 3 - Episode 269 - Empathetic energy · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today we're talking about empathetic people and how to
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  really operate in a much more cohesive way in the world, I
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  guess is the way to say it. I have had this challenge myself
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  where I've had to figure out because I have such empathy for
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  things, animals, people, you doesn't matter what it is.
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  I am very empathetic and I've had to learn over the years that
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  I can't absorb that energy. I in order to help, I, I cannot
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  absorb the energy. I have to be able to pull myself
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  into a place where I'm not taking it in because if I'm
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  taking it in, that causes a problem for me, then it's in me.
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  So, you know, if you've ever seen the little graphs where
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  they'll say, you know, be the light in the world.
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  And that's, it's a beautiful little graph where it's like
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  this little guy and he's yellow and he's in a circle of all
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  these people that are like, they look like they're grayed out.
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  And then all of a sudden he touches one of them and then
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  that lights that person up and then that lights the next person
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  up and that and it goes on. And it's such a great metaphor
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  because it's true. You smile at one person and then
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  they're going to smile and all of a sudden you've got smiles in
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  abundance. And everybody's got this like
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  great pattern of spreading. It's that contagion piece of it.
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  Well, the same thing works in this empathetic thing where if
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  you are with somebody and you go in and they're dark in, in, in,
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  in their emotional state and they're feeling a certain way
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  and you go in and you're trying to help them.
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  And you touch them with your energy, with your words, with
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  your kindness, you're trying to help them.
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  But if you take their energy in, now all of a sudden the
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  challenge is you have that inside of you.
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  You have to deal with that. You have to feel that.
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  And all my empaths out there who are listening, I know you get
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  this. And that's one of the things I
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  work on with a lot of my empaths is saying, hey, wait a minute,
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  you, you took that energy in. You didn't just observe it, you
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  took it in. You didn't just take action with
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  that energy that you picked up. You took it in.
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  You absorbed it and it's dangerous, my friends, to absorb
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  energy from other people because then you feel like my favorite
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  word for this is you have the funk and having the funk is
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  hard. You've picked up the funk.
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  You have that stench of somebody else's energy and experience on
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  you. Instead of trying to help them,
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  you've done that. There's a another great metaphor
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  of it where if you're walking down the road and there's a big
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  hole and you see someone in the hole, you don't go crawl in the
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  hole to get them out. You say, hang on, wait a second,
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  I'm going to go get a rope and I'm going to get you out of the
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  hole. But you don't get in the hole
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  with them because if you get in the hole, then you're both in
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  the hole. Then you feel like crap because
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  you're both stuck in a hole. Doesn't make any sense.
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  And you'd do it. You wouldn't do it if there was
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  a hole. But you know what?
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  You do it emotionally regularly, and this comes up a lot this
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  time of the year. As we start to go into a time
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  with shorter light, people start to feel awful.
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  They start to get more depressed.
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  We get to the holiday seasons coming up and people just start
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  to get funky because they're, as we talked about the other day,
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  recycling experiences from holidays past.
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  They've got all these issues and they're not changing their
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  approach. So today we're talking about
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  this in the sense of what action are you going to take that's
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  different. Don't absorb it.
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  Find a way to think of it differently and say, I'm going
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  to help this person, I'm going to listen, but then I'm going to
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  leave this and I'm not going to absorb it.
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  I'm going to put it in the right space.
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  So a very, very useful trick that I actually learned from
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  Doctor John Gray working with Tony many years ago, we had the
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  experience of having many different cool speakers come and
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  teach with us. And it was so fabulous because
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  John Gray was one of the most unbelievable funny guys and he
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  always had great stuff. I went and took an event with
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  him afterwards and he just, he's a bundle of love and joy and
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  brilliant in many ways. But he talked about how
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  important it is when you are an empath to constantly wash your
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  hands because you're washing off the energies.
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  And we know that people who who are empathetic, taking energy
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  all throughout their body, but we also know that hands are very
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  powerful. Our hands have more sensitivity.
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  They have, we can feel things, the sense of touch, we bring
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  things into US and energy is no different.
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  That's why Reiki healers use their hands.
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  It is a big deal. So when you're finished having
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  something like, you know, you've absorbed somebody else's energy
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  or you with somebody that has been sticky and they've got that
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  stench, wash your hands. It seems so.
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  I was stupid, but I can't tell you how many times a day when
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  I'm coaching that I actually do that.
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  And I wash my hands because it takes off that energy in between
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  my calls and it's really great. And of course, you know,
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  somebody will say, well, how many times a day can you wash
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  your hands? As many as you need to.
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  My friends, put lotion on in between.
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  They won't dry out and you'll take care of yourself and you'll
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  feel a hell of a lot better. So make sure you don't absorb
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  that energy. Continue to be empathetic but
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  don't absorb the energy. I hope this was helpful and I
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  will see you guys tomorrow. Have a blessed day, bye.