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Why Mature People Never Say These Phrases In Love · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: Hey, Psych2Goers, welcome back to our channel. Quick disclaimer, if
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  Speaker 1: you can relate to this video, please do not take
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  Speaker 1: this as an attack on your character. This video was
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  Speaker 1: meant to be a self-improvement guide for those of you
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  Speaker 1: who have been feeling a little stuck. With that said,
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  Speaker 1: let's begin. How do you define maturity? Do you see
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  Speaker 1: yourself as a mature person? Contrary to popular belief, maturity
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  Speaker 1: is not based on age. It's determined by how people
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  Speaker 1: react to different situations and environments, based on the experience
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  Speaker 1: that they have. So if you're wondering how mature you,
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  Speaker 1: your significant other, or the people surrounding you are, this
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  Speaker 1: video is for you. We'll be discussing six phrases that
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  Speaker 1: mature people never say. Of course, this won't always apply
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  Speaker 1: since every circumstance can be different. Okay, number one, but
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  Speaker 1: I don't feel like it. Have you ever said this
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  Speaker 1: phrase or heard it from one of your friends? This
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  Speaker 1: phrase is more specifically used when people have chores or
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  Speaker 1: tasks that need to be done but don't want to
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  Speaker 1: do them. When someone does this, it's easy to tell
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  Speaker 1: that they're immature because they're shrugging off their responsibility. Immature
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  Speaker 1: people are known to have a lesser sense of personal responsibility.
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  Speaker 1: If this is you or someone you know, just remember
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  Speaker 1: that a lot of people feel the same way as
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  Speaker 1: you when having to do boring tasks. You may be
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  Speaker 1: better off completing them and getting them out of the
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  Speaker 1: way so that you can do the things that you
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  Speaker 1: want to do with a clear mind. Number two, shut up.
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  Speaker 1: Do you remember a time when you were having an
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  Speaker 1: argument and thought, I wish they would just shut up?
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  Speaker 1: If your answer is yes, that's okay. Chances are that
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  Speaker 1: most people have as well. The phrase shut up tends
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  Speaker 1: to spill out in the middle of arguments or when
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  Speaker 1: you're upset. However, this phrase is considered to be one
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  Speaker 1: of the rudest ways to tell someone to quiet down.
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  Speaker 1: Mature people would opt out to use more subtle phrases
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  Speaker 1: such as, could you please be quieter? Or something similar.
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  Speaker 1: Being in control of your emotions is a sign that
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  Speaker 1: someone is mature. So no matter how angry you are,
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  Speaker 1: try not to say this phrase as it's considered to
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  Speaker 1: be very disrespectful. Number three, you're not my mom. Do
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  Speaker 1: you feel like saying this phrase to someone who is
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  Speaker 1: constantly telling you what to do? Although you might have
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  Speaker 1: a reason to be upset over someone being too controlling
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  Speaker 1: or overprotective, you should still avoid saying this phrase. The
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  Speaker 1: last thing a friend or romantic partner wants is to
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  Speaker 1: be compared to your parents since it would hurt their feelings,
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  Speaker 1: especially if they only had good intentions. Once again, you
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  Speaker 1: might have the right to be upset at them, but
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  Speaker 1: always try to express yourself in a way that doesn't
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  Speaker 1: hurt anyone. You could let them know that you don't
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  Speaker 1: like what they're doing or that they're being too controlling
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  Speaker 1: and overprotective instead. Number four, whatever. Have you ever put
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  Speaker 1: a bunch of effort into making good and reasonable arguments
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  Speaker 1: in a discussion just to hear the other person counter
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  Speaker 1: you with whatever. This is a phrase that no mature
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  Speaker 1: person would ever use. This phrase is most commonly used
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  Speaker 1: to end arguments because it basically writes off anything that
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  Speaker 1: was said during the discussion. Immature people generally use it
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  Speaker 1: as a replacement for being wrong and having to apologize
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  Speaker 1: for what they did. It also shows one of the
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  Speaker 1: signs that immature people have, which is acting childish when
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  Speaker 1: things don't go their way. People who use this phrase
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  Speaker 1: often should understand that it's rude to just write off
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  Speaker 1: all the arguments and opinions of other people simply because
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  Speaker 1: they don't want to acknowledge them. Number five, why can't
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  Speaker 1: you do it? Do you often hear this when you
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  Speaker 1: ask your friend or partner to help you out with something?
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  Speaker 1: Although it's normal to want to know why someone can't
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  Speaker 1: do something, asking with this phrase is something a mature
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  Speaker 1: person would never do. Depending on the tone they use
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  Speaker 1: when asking this question, It can mean that they're doubting
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  Speaker 1: you and assuming that you don't want to do something
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  Speaker 1: because you're lazy, rather than thinking that you're asking for
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  Speaker 1: help because you really need it. Once again, it all
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  Speaker 1: depends on the tone that is being used when people
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  Speaker 1: ask this question. After all, the tone that people use
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  Speaker 1: can actually reveal much more than the words that are
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  Speaker 1: being said. And number six, always or never. Do you
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  Speaker 1: or someone you know constantly use these two words? Using
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  Speaker 1: these two words under specific circumstances is something that mature
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  Speaker 1: people don't do. They're likely used in situations where either
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  Speaker 1: you or your friend, family, or partner have a complaint.
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  Speaker 1: You'll often hear things such as, you never hang out
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  Speaker 1: with me, or you're always playing video games and never
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  Speaker 1: cook dinner. According to premarital counselor Hope Merlis, one should
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  Speaker 1: avoid saying always or never to their partners because what
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  Speaker 1: these words mean is rarely true. Most of the time,
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  Speaker 1: people say them out of anger and frustration. It's important
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  Speaker 1: to understand this and try to stick to the facts
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  Speaker 1: rather than making these types of general statements. Do you
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  Speaker 1: use or know someone who uses these phrases? If so,
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  Speaker 1: leave a comment and let us know. Remember, you might
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  Speaker 1: feel like the situation differs from the ones described in
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  Speaker 1: the article. In that case, think about how the phrase
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  Speaker 1: fits into those circumstances and determine if there's a better
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  Speaker 1: way to deal with the situation. Don't forget to leave
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