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90 Day Fiancé The Other Way Season 8 Episode 4 “Schnapps on the Rocks” Part 2 · Vanity Farah with Chris Farah

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Speaker 1: Hi, everyone. Welcome back to Vanity Fair. My name is
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Speaker 1: Chris Farah, and this is 90 Day Fiancé, The Other Way,
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Speaker 1: Season 8, Episode 4, Schnapps on the Rocks, Part 2, Babes.
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Speaker 1: Happy Halloween. If you are available, come hang out with
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Speaker 1: me on my YouTube, Chris Farah. Just search that. And
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Speaker 1: it's going to be like a little Halloween 90 Day
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Speaker 1: live chat, pop culture, hang, honey, 6 p.m. Wednesday, Pacific
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Speaker 1: Standard Time. Okay, so hi. All right, babes, let's get
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Speaker 1: back into it. So we're going to pick up with our, listen,
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Speaker 1: our loves, Niles and Matilda. Now, we are nervous for Niles,
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Speaker 1: and it does feel like Niles also doesn't get how
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Speaker 1: hilarious it is that he chastised matilda for doing what
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Speaker 1: he's doing which is holding a secret um and the
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Speaker 1: secret is even bigger than just her getting an apartment
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Speaker 1: it's where they're going to spend the rest of their
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Speaker 1: lives and that secret is on the piggyback of him
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Speaker 1: saying the opposite that they're going to in fact move
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Speaker 1: to america told everyone including his new father mr arc
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Speaker 1: and her parents and gave himself the timeline that it
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Speaker 1: Now we, I guess me and you, unless you know,
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Speaker 1: don't quite understand why it's taken so long. Like, I mean,
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Speaker 1: we're going to assume we get that information from Niles,
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Speaker 1: but like whether it's his perception of why he has
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Speaker 1: not gotten it done or it's been denied or it's
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Speaker 1: because it can't happen or other people can do it.
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Speaker 1: Like it's confusing to us and it You know, it's
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Speaker 1: always annoying for me. One sec. Okay, so they get
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Speaker 1: to Mr. Ark's house and, you know, his wife Mary
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Speaker 1: hugs and is like, you know, Niles, and she's wildly
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Speaker 1: elated to see him. She's so lovely and greets him,
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Speaker 1: you know, quickly. And the first thing that Mr. Ark
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Speaker 1: says is, do you have the things I asked for?
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Speaker 1: And we get a great flashback, honey. And the flashback
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Speaker 1: gives us, listen, The FaceTime image of Mr. Ark, I mean,
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Speaker 1: nostrils up. I mean, you know, it's, we are seeing inside,
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Speaker 1: instead of like the bat caves, it's like the center
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Speaker 1: of the earth, you know, like the two centers of
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Speaker 1: the earth, you know, where there is, you know, gray
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Speaker 1: bushes around. Okay. So basically he says, He wants two
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Speaker 1: bottles of schnapps, hence the name of the episode, but
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Speaker 1: not even the only time it's like, you know, talked
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Speaker 1: about and not even just in the storyline, although it's
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Speaker 1: two in the storyline and another one as well. And
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Speaker 1: then he's like, champagne. And I'm like, oh, okay. Is
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Speaker 1: the schnapps in the champagne? Are you crafting a cocktail?
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Speaker 1: Are they separate? I mean, you know, I do love
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Speaker 1: a champagne cocktail. It's like, I love a French 75. Okay. Okay.
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Speaker 1: And then he says, a parcel of money. And I
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Speaker 1: found that to be interesting because I'm not quite sure
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Speaker 1: what that means. A parcel of money, a parcel is
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Speaker 1: like a kind of phrase that I don't ever really
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Speaker 1: listen or I pay attention to unless I'm reading Shakespeare
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Speaker 1: or some play that's been translated. Like again, I'm gonna
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Speaker 1: like bring up Chekhov. Like, you know, it's like, Yeah,
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Speaker 1: he brought a parcel of land. Like, it's like parcel
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Speaker 1: of land. It just means a bit, right? A little bit?
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Speaker 1: A bit? I need to know what, like, the connotation
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Speaker 1: denotation of parcel is for, like, me and everyone. So anyway,
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Speaker 1: whatever that means, you know. And listen, people be asking
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Speaker 1: Niles for money, okay? And then he says, and clothes
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Speaker 1: for my wife and I. Like for a moment, I
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Speaker 1: was like, clothes for your wife. How lovely. And then
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Speaker 1: he's like, and I. And then I also want to know, well,
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Speaker 1: is this schnapps or champagne for her? I just like
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Speaker 1: dying to know everything about it. Okay. Now Niles heard
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Speaker 1: this and Niles was like, great. Seemingly he was at
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Speaker 1: the airport already. So I was like, was he supposed
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Speaker 1: to go to like a duty-free shop on one of
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Speaker 1: the layovers? I mean, I'm assuming yes. he would have
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Speaker 1: had to gone to like a duty-free shop in one
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Speaker 1: of the layovers. I have never bought from a duty-free shop.
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Speaker 1: And I understand the situation is it's like, yeah, if
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Speaker 1: you are a foreigner at a duty-free shop, you don't
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Speaker 1: have to pay your duty, which is sales tax. Right.
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Speaker 1: So it's like the time to do that, I guess, like, Right?
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Speaker 1: Is that what's supposed to happen? I don't know. I
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Speaker 1: wish I knew more about these things. And you know what?
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Speaker 1: I can just ask Google and you're like, bitch, do.
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Speaker 1: Stop asking us. Okay, that's fine. But you know, I
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Speaker 1: was like, this happened. He was at the airport. He's
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Speaker 1: gotten asked these things unless he was also pre-asked or
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Speaker 1: got an email or something unless, no, it's now. And
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Speaker 1: he already had his bags. I was like, what can
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Speaker 1: you do? You have to just like now buy a
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Speaker 1: bag and buy all these things at Duty Free Shop
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Speaker 1: and just like make this like, you know, Mr. Ark's sack, Mr.
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Speaker 1: Ark's present sack and just be like a little Santa. Yeah.
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Speaker 1: Guess what? Niles doesn't have it. Doesn't have it. Does
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Speaker 1: he have it? Nope. Now, whether he is like, oh,
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Speaker 1: I just forgot it. And, or I still have to
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Speaker 1: go get all those things. It's like, did Mr. Ark
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Speaker 1: think he was going to get foreign stuff? Like, was
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Speaker 1: he should have been like, I don't know. Yeah. You know,
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Speaker 1: get my wife some things. We can't just get around here.
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Speaker 1: You're the one, you know, touching foot on different, you know,
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Speaker 1: exciting places that might just, you know, spice things up
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Speaker 1: in her wardrobe, make her like, you know, look diff.
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Speaker 1: Other girls would be like, where'd you get that? Legos?
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Speaker 1: I don't know. Okay, so now we do understand that
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Speaker 1: the cameramen are always trying to show us things that
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Speaker 1: might not be verbally said. or even mentioned. But they're there,
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Speaker 1: and they want us to know. And in this situation,
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Speaker 1: they gave us like, almost like, I mean, a very
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Speaker 1: cinematic Mike Nichols style, I mean, shot, where Mr. Ark,
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Speaker 1: God bless, has one fake hand. It's a mannequin hand.
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Speaker 1: It's a mannequin straight fake hand, okay? It's his right hand. So,
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Speaker 1: The shot is the hand coming down like in like
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Speaker 1: a judgment or like almost, I mean, the fingers itself
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Speaker 1: of the mannequin hand are in that Italian kind of way,
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Speaker 1: you know, like, oh, I'm about to like be like
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Speaker 1: the first kiss sound before you open your palms. If
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Speaker 1: you like loved food, it's that. And that's shaded and
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Speaker 1: blurry as the foreground is. In the background is Niles
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Speaker 1: in perfect, clear view, and he is being judged, okay?
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Speaker 1: And that's how we're like, oh, we're supposed to be
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Speaker 1: reminded that Mr. Ark has this hand. And Mary, by
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Speaker 1: the way, is giving us, oh, honey, kind of like light, Chloe,
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Speaker 1: like 1960s, 70s. Like, I like her fashion. I like
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Speaker 1: her bracelets. Like, I guess maybe he's like, yeah, she
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Speaker 1: wants more of the same. I don't know. Like, if
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Speaker 1: she wants clothes around her, I'm assuming he should be like,
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Speaker 1: go to this shop. This is her favorite shop. Now, yeah,
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Speaker 1: she's great. I don't know what she... God bless what
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Speaker 1: her life is like on a daily basis. But when
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Speaker 1: it comes to understanding people, like that's the inside nuanced
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Speaker 1: producer-led confession where I don't think Mr. Ark will let
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Speaker 1: Mary talk without him. But I would love her to
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Speaker 1: and have like a translator there and be like, what's
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Speaker 1: your life like, babe? Just like day to day, like
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Speaker 1: day in the life and What time do you wake up?
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Speaker 1: What do you have to do? When you want something,
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Speaker 1: what happens? You know, it's like I, I would, I'm
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Speaker 1: wildly interested. Okay. So guess what? He obviously is upset
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Speaker 1: because Niles hasn't done the things he's supposed to do.
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Speaker 1: Like I said, the schnapps. not getting Matilda back to
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Speaker 1: America in time, all of it. And so he's scolding
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Speaker 1: him and Matilda is happy about it because she low-key
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Speaker 1: wants it because she also agrees. And it does feel
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Speaker 1: foreboding because she has said that her parents are really upset,
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Speaker 1: really upset by this. And it's like shameful, disgraceful. And
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Speaker 1: in like comparison, I guess they know people that have
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Speaker 1: also met someone from America and for some reason they're
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Speaker 1: quickly there, honey. Her bestie from college, I mean, and church,
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Speaker 1: I don't know, from schooling and church, straight up has
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Speaker 1: a girl that she knows, same church, that is now
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Speaker 1: like living in Chicago. And it's been two months. I mean,
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Speaker 1: she says some version of this. Okay. Then Mr. Ark
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Speaker 1: is like, I don't think you understand the gravity of
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Speaker 1: this situation. Matilda's mom can give you back the schnapps.
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Speaker 1: And I mean, you can't give that one to me.
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Speaker 1: I have a whole different one. You have to give
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Speaker 1: me a different one. Um, but if she gives you
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Speaker 1: back the schnapps, which is of course like part of
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Speaker 1: the dowry, I guess that you had given, then the
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Speaker 1: fucking marriage is done. Bye marriage. Because you didn't deliver.
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Speaker 1: You are not to be trusted. You are a bad deal.
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Speaker 1: You know, he processes it and it's like, you know,
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Speaker 1: It's hard for him to process and he kind of
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Speaker 1: goes through it and he's doing it on camera and
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Speaker 1: it's overwhelming and he has to like slow down his
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Speaker 1: thoughts and then also, you know, pick and choose his
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Speaker 1: reactions and God bless him. That's the part where it's
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Speaker 1: like hard. I don't, you know, love to see people
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Speaker 1: who have to go through pain and suffering live on
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Speaker 1: camera who, you know, I.
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Speaker 2: Think.
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Speaker 1: walk through this world with like certain difficulties like Niles might.
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Speaker 1: So that part sucks, right? I have to assume that
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Speaker 1: maybe some part of this are fake and that gives
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Speaker 1: me relief, okay? So later on, they go back to
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Speaker 1: her apartment and he sees, of course, it and there's
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Speaker 1: not much furniture, but my babies, let's see, that bed, honey,
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Speaker 1: is a Burberry bed. A Burberry bed. A Burberry sheets,
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Speaker 1: full set bed. You know, it's like the light sand,
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Speaker 1: it's a checkered black three stripe and then white tartan.
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Speaker 1: That's what the kids say, tartan. My first two luxe
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Speaker 1: purchase for myself were a Burberry, that Burberry cashmere scarf
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Speaker 1: that's in that print with a little fringe down the side.
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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying? You've seen it. A is
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Speaker 1: great because those colors, like that light kind of sandy,
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Speaker 1: taupey camel, and the red, black, and white is just,
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Speaker 1: you know, it's neutrals. And it goes with so many things, right?
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Speaker 1: And I was at like a live auction. I'm sorry,
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Speaker 1: I was at an auction and there was like a
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Speaker 1: silent auction. I'm sorry. I would, could you imagine if
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Speaker 1: I was like, give it to me, one, you know? No,
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Speaker 1: but you just had to write down a number. And
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Speaker 1: I remember looking and it was like suggested retail price. Like,
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Speaker 1: let's just say like, $ 250 or something. And no one
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Speaker 1: had written anything down. So I just did. And I
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Speaker 1: got it for like super cheap. I don't remember exactly
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Speaker 1: how much I got it for. I don't think I
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Speaker 1: got it for... I think I... Nothing more than like $ 70,
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Speaker 1: which at that time was a lot for me. But
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Speaker 1: I remember just being like, I think I just stole
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Speaker 1: this Burberry scarf. Anyway. And then when I did a
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Speaker 1: study abroad, I bought myself a little LV. Okay. So... They,
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Speaker 1: you know, get in bed. And then she obviously is
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Speaker 1: also wearing a great pink bonnet. There's lots of different bonnets, right?
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Speaker 1: Like hers looks truly like satin or silky in the
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Speaker 1: kind of poofy, almost chef-like style. I have a shower
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Speaker 1: cap that's more like Martha, like Washington style. You know
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Speaker 1: what I'm saying? That's kind of like that. And I have,
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Speaker 1: that's to like shower with. And then I have a
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Speaker 1: silk bonnet that's kind of like hair, not harem, but
13:43
Speaker 1: what's it called? Oh, turban, turban. So many styles of
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Speaker 1: bonnets for women. Okay. So, and obviously she has braids
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Speaker 1: and stuff like that. So, or I think that she has,
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Speaker 1: what's her natural hair right now? But she has thick hair,
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Speaker 1: so she has to have some room up there is
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Speaker 1: what I'm trying to say. Anyway, they are spending some
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Speaker 1: quality time together. And obviously they're cutesy-wootsy when they're together.
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Speaker 1: And he gives her some gifts. And one is a
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Speaker 1: tablet in a box. We're like, oh, cool. He's like,
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Speaker 1: and the way he does it is like, you know
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Speaker 1: how I have a tablet? And she's like, yes. And
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Speaker 1: he's like, now you do. And then he gives her
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Speaker 1: A laptop computer. It's a Mac, but it's just willy
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Speaker 1: nilly laptop and then charger. I'm assuming it's his old one.
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Speaker 1: I mean, the tablet came in the box. The laptop
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Speaker 1: was not even in a sleeve, like not even in
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Speaker 1: one of those little foamy weird ones, you know, you
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Speaker 1: can get off Amazon. There's just like nothing, just bare laptop.
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Speaker 1: I don't know if he packed it like with his underwear,
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Speaker 1: like in between the cubes, honey, but it was just
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Speaker 1: raw computer just thrown on the bed. So, but she
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Speaker 1: is happy. She's grateful for it. She's really, really excited.
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Speaker 1: She didn't expect it. And then he's like, but that's
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Speaker 1: not it, babe. That pales in comparison to what I've done.
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Speaker 1: I've put all of these maxims on these tablets. Like
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Speaker 1: I'm Moses for you. That's like, It's wood that has
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Speaker 1: been inscribed or sketched with a bunch of words, small words,
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Speaker 1: small font, overwhelming, not anything you'd ever want to read
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Speaker 1: with weird consistencies of spacing. It's like he made a
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Speaker 1: Google Doc and then, yeah, really made this himself. But
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Speaker 1: it also gives me, you know, those Dr. Bronner's soap bottles.
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Speaker 1: Have you ever stood? in a shower with one of
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Speaker 1: those Dr. Bronner soap bottles and really read the entire thing. Listen,
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Speaker 1: I understand it's a great product, but some of those
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Speaker 1: ramblings feel like schizophrenic posts that like, oh no, kind of, oh,
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Speaker 1: when you like stumble them on the internet, when you're like, oh,
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Speaker 1: that person, ooh, that doesn't read right. It's a lot of, whoa,
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Speaker 1: it's a lot of, it's okay. Anyway, it gave me that.
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Speaker 1: I'm going to read you some because, you know, the golden, listen,
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Speaker 1: the golden gift I have of maybe getting a screener
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Speaker 1: is that I can take screenshots and then, you know,
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Speaker 1: give them to the people only after the episode airs,
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Speaker 1: of course. But the golden maxim, God is the only,
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Speaker 1: this is, of course, what's on what he's giving her. Okay. Okay.
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Speaker 1: God is the only irresistible force or insurmountable object. If
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Speaker 1: you are not God, you cannot be stopped and you
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Speaker 1: can be moved. You are fallible, flawed, and unable to
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Speaker 1: predict everything. As such, you must plan and prepare accordingly
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Speaker 1: to manage your risks and trials. The universal exceptions in
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Speaker 1: all things, there must be balanced logic, reason, and discretion.
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Speaker 1: When any are missing, expect corruption and chaos to follow
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Speaker 1: in most, if not in all situations. Yeah, I mean,
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Speaker 1: it's like, Humans fault and fail all the time, so yeah.
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Speaker 1: Insanity is doing the same exact action, expecting a different result.
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Speaker 1: Stupidity is knowing. An action will not have the desired result,
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Speaker 1: but doing so anyway, if you must choose. Insanity is
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Speaker 1: referable to... Preferable? Where's that P? Oh, it's missing a P.
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Speaker 1: Who made this?
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Speaker 2: Okay.
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Speaker 1: Insanity is preferable to stupidity, but never be both. Establishing magnet. Okay. Well, anyways, she,
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Speaker 1: her face is like, he's like, remember these from when
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Speaker 1: I first met and talked about him? She's like, uh-huh.
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Speaker 1: And then I forgot about them easily. He's like, did
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Speaker 1: you read them all? Have you memorized them? And she's like,
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Speaker 1: have you gotten me to America yet, buddy? Let's face,
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Speaker 1: let's not change the subject. Have you? Nope. Fuck around
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Speaker 1: with these. misspelled etch-a-sketch wooden tablets. All right? I have
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Speaker 1: my God. There. I would have said blasphemy. I can't. Sorry.
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Speaker 1: I can't learn those shit because I'm Catholic. So no,
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Speaker 1: I can't. God, that's why. Death, that's the reason. Really,
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Speaker 1: I don't want it in internal. So nope.
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Speaker 2: Bye.
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Speaker 1: Oh, thank God. I don't know how to read that.
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Speaker 1: Horrible small font. Tiny, tiny writing. Okay. Um, now listen,
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Speaker 1: the morning after, right. You know, it's always like, great.
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Speaker 1: It's like, I talked about that music. And then we're
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Speaker 1: supposed to be like, let's separate the two and talk
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Speaker 1: about the fuck, you know, like it's, that is what
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Speaker 1: is on the agenda. It's, it must be a built
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Speaker 1: in template to the order of the day and, or
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Speaker 1: the structure of it all. Okay. Must be. So he's
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Speaker 1: a gentleman and she is great, you know, and she's
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Speaker 1: in that bonnet. And she says, I can't tell you
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Speaker 1: what happened last night, but girl, I enjoy it. The
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Speaker 1: kids and like the generation now do this thing where,
19:27
Speaker 1: you know, instead of clapping, like they just touch, they
19:29
Speaker 1: touch their thumb and their pointer finger together in this
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Speaker 1: like cunty way. And, you know, like if you're visually
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Speaker 1: watching me do it, you're like, yes. But if you're
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Speaker 1: on the podcast, you're like, nope. And so you have
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Speaker 1: to know that that's what I'm doing it. That's what
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Speaker 1: I'm doing. Because that is a very, yes, girl, I
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Speaker 1: enjoy it. I can't tell you what happened last night,
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Speaker 1: but girl, I enjoyed it. I enjoyed it. Okay. So
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Speaker 1: basically now they have to get in the car and
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Speaker 1: drive over to her family's house. And because they're not
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Speaker 1: staying in Mr. Ark's house, which of course he had
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Speaker 1: to tell Mr. Ark, so sorry, I forgot to say that. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: he had to be like, Mr. Ark, I'm not staying
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Speaker 1: with you. I'm going to be with my wife. And Mr.
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Speaker 1: Ark was like, and Mary was like, let them. And Mr.
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Speaker 1: Ark's like, okay, I get it. Yeah, you want to fuck.
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Speaker 1: So now, you know, they have to meet Mr. Ark
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Speaker 1: because Mr. Ark, of course, is Niles' dad and talk
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Speaker 1: through him. Niles talks through Mr. Ark only. to Matilda's family.
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Speaker 1: And Mr. Ark is already pissed at Niles and knows
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Speaker 1: that Matilda's family is too. And Matilda knows. And Niles
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Speaker 1: is like a little bit of a sitting duck. Like
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Speaker 1: Matilda doesn't want to make Niles too nervous because she
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Speaker 1: understands in certain situations, I think that she has to
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Speaker 1: be not reactive in front of him. And I think
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Speaker 1: that Whether she ultimately and him work out, it is
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Speaker 1: the reason why this part of her, her sort of
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Speaker 1: understanding how to be with him in a way that
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Speaker 1: feels like she's doing it to care for him, is
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Speaker 1: why I trust her as being a good match for him. Okay? Okay.
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Speaker 1: So anyway, so she doesn't want to let him know
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Speaker 1: how nervous she is about the fact that she knows
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Speaker 1: how pissed her family is. Okay. We'll see. That's what's
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Speaker 1: going to happen in the next episode. Let's move on, babes.
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Speaker 1: We met a new couple, honey. New couple. And it
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Speaker 1: is Michelle and Felix. Michelle is 40 from Dallas and
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Speaker 1: Felix is from Ghana. Yes, honey. Okay. So she's, she
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Speaker 1: likes to flip cars and she's Southern. So she kind
21:55
Speaker 1: of gives me a little bit like a Southern Marissa
21:58
Speaker 1: Tomei from My Cousin Vinny. She knows cars very well.
22:03
Speaker 1: You might look at her and be like, oh, she's
22:06
Speaker 1: like a cutesy girl with long hair, long black hair.
22:08
Speaker 1: You know, like she, you know, like has like a
22:10
Speaker 1: curvy body. Like what does she know about cars? You might,
22:13
Speaker 1: you know, you might. And then she's going to be like,
22:16
Speaker 1: it's a Ford. What you shouldn't. I used to, I
22:21
Speaker 1: tried to lip sync the whole monologue and I had
22:23
Speaker 1: a good TikTok of it. And then I, for some reason,
22:25
Speaker 1: lost that TikTok account. I had to make a whole
22:26
Speaker 1: new one. It makes me so upset. Anyway, she could
22:29
Speaker 1: do that kind of thing. You know what? Honestly, Michelle,
22:33
Speaker 1: if you open a TikTok, it is the first long
22:35
Speaker 1: lip sync you should do. Okay. So she flips cars.
22:38
Speaker 1: She does other things. She's like a bartender. God bless.
22:40
Speaker 1: But she flips cars for 11 years with her friend, Henry.
22:43
Speaker 1: And she loves going to car auctions. She buys them.
22:47
Speaker 1: Maybe she knows about them. She... course fixes them if
22:51
Speaker 1: they need fixing or whatever then they get to sell
22:53
Speaker 1: them for money um now another thing that she does
22:58
Speaker 1: is that she says I ain't gonna lie I ain't
23:02
Speaker 1: gonna lie but she has a really low raspy voice
23:05
Speaker 1: so she's more like I ain't gonna lie I love
23:11
Speaker 1: I love going to car actions I ain't gonna lie
23:17
Speaker 1: it's like so low it's so raspy I do love it.
23:22
Speaker 1: I do love it. I like her. Now she's had
23:28
Speaker 1: a tough childhood, which makes the choices she's presently making,
23:32
Speaker 1: I guess, make sense because only from like a tough,
23:35
Speaker 1: traumatic childhood where you had to sort of leave early
23:38
Speaker 1: and be on your own and work at Denny's and
23:40
Speaker 1: then have a child early on and then have to
23:43
Speaker 1: like feed that child, would you desperately want to believe
23:48
Speaker 1: in relief. And this is what is, I think, so heartbreaking.
24:01
Speaker 1: And I, because it is for me, and I think
24:06
Speaker 1: like a lot of humans can relate to this. It
24:07
Speaker 1: is heartbreaking to think that relief, love, validation, peace comes
24:14
Speaker 1: from only inside you. Because the thought of that seems
24:25
Speaker 1: like winning the lottery would be easier than cultivating, believing,
24:34
Speaker 1: sitting in, trusting yourself to give you all of those things.
24:42
Speaker 1: or you in, I guess, cahoots with the universe in
24:46
Speaker 1: some sort of constant faith cycle where things also come
24:50
Speaker 1: to you when timing is right. Like, I'm not saying
24:54
Speaker 1: that's wrong, but I think that it can be wildly like,
24:57
Speaker 1: what do you want me to try and do? Just how?
25:03
Speaker 1: It doesn't seem tangible. Whereas the outside solution of finding
25:09
Speaker 1: said thing in miracle thing like finding love or validation
25:14
Speaker 1: or safety or peace or home, a sense of humor,
25:16
Speaker 1: all of that, like money, whatever you want, financial freedom, stability,
25:21
Speaker 1: in any way. That's the prize that you think you're
25:27
Speaker 1: going to find in the certain great thing that comes
25:32
Speaker 1: your way. And that great thing could be a job
25:36
Speaker 1: or it could be a person or it could be
25:39
Speaker 1: an opportunity like a money-making venture, right? Of some way.
25:46
Speaker 1: And yeah, like if you are so chasing those things outside,
25:52
Speaker 1: you will become blind to what might be the obvious
25:56
Speaker 1: red flags that that thing isn't going to give you
25:59
Speaker 1: the prize. Might even be worse, might even be bad.
26:04
Speaker 1: And you are so blinded, distracted by getting that out
26:07
Speaker 1: that you're not surely, of course, paying attention to yourself
26:10
Speaker 1: and working on yourself to get what you ultimately want.
26:12
Speaker 1: Of course, you're just chasing. And I think that that is, yeah,
26:18
Speaker 1: it is really, really, really difficult. And then if you
26:21
Speaker 1: layer it on top people that have had trauma and
26:25
Speaker 1: where it lives in their body and it's not escaping
26:27
Speaker 1: and it informs them. things they do and the way
26:31
Speaker 1: that they view themselves and the way that they view
26:34
Speaker 1: others and like the feelings they feel at night, like all,
26:37
Speaker 1: and you know, when crises come arise, like I think
26:43
Speaker 1: that panic allows people to sort of like spin their
26:47
Speaker 1: wheels in different ways. You know, it's interesting. Cause I
26:50
Speaker 1: just made fun of Niles for those maxims, but one
26:54
Speaker 1: of them is true, right? Like repeating patterns. That's what
26:57
Speaker 1: insanity is. Insanity is repeating patterns. And expecting different results.
27:01
Speaker 1: And so a pattern can be the chasing of sources
27:05
Speaker 1: outside of yourself for things that you want that, you know,
27:07
Speaker 1: ultimately won't give it to you. And, and truly these
27:11
Speaker 1: are life things that honey, all of us do, right?
27:14
Speaker 1: All of us do. So again, she has a daughter
27:17
Speaker 1: that's Kira. What happened was her relationship with Henry, her coworker.
27:26
Speaker 1: We don't quite know the ups and downs, but they're
27:29
Speaker 1: very close and have worked together a long time. And
27:32
Speaker 1: in this moment, certainly feel like brother and sister. And
27:36
Speaker 1: something was like, he had gone to Lagos, I think.
27:44
Speaker 1: And she had a stopover in Ghana, something like that.
27:48
Speaker 1: She had gone to visit her friend Henry, who was
27:50
Speaker 1: somewhere in Africa. And then she had a stopover in
27:53
Speaker 1: the airport in Ghana. And God bless, you know, that's
27:57
Speaker 1: where Felix works. At the airport bar. She like went
28:02
Speaker 1: up there and she was like, give me schnapps. Schnapps
28:05
Speaker 1: cocktail with champagne, please. And anyway, but she's like, she
28:11
Speaker 1: started trusting him from day one. Which is never good.
28:19
Speaker 1: And for any reason, I'm trying to think the most
28:24
Speaker 1: ideal way that someone would be like, I trusted this
28:26
Speaker 1: person from day one because they were my doctor. Well,
28:31
Speaker 1: I'd be like, your doctor's trying to fuck you? Or
28:34
Speaker 1: your doctors are coming on to you? There's no good,
28:38
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, there's no good, to me, way in which
28:42
Speaker 1: you can say that you started trusting someone from day
28:44
Speaker 1: one how would you, what experience would you have to
28:51
Speaker 1: have watched to do that? I watched a single dad
28:56
Speaker 1: rush home from, you know, no, I'm sorry, rush from
29:01
Speaker 1: work to pick up his son who had fallen in
29:03
Speaker 1: a baseball game and then take him to get stitches
29:06
Speaker 1: and let him cry on his shoulder. I don't know.
29:10
Speaker 1: He'd be like, well, I trust that person. So I
29:12
Speaker 1: like him now. I'm going to fuck, you know, I
29:13
Speaker 1: don't know. Like, I guess maybe, but even then you're like, well, that's,
29:16
Speaker 1: you're watching someone surely react to someone they made in
29:19
Speaker 1: their life. That's not how they maybe will treat you,
29:23
Speaker 1: random stranger. There's just, you know, I can't think of
29:26
Speaker 1: a good experience. So if you can, that's what I'm
29:29
Speaker 1: trying to do. And you know what? Nope. Okay. So
29:34
Speaker 1: what happened was after they meet, because she's a trusting gal,
29:39
Speaker 1: she and him talk all the time and she goes
29:41
Speaker 1: back to Ghana and she was going to like, you know,
29:43
Speaker 1: stay for a couple days, just two weeks. And it
29:48
Speaker 1: stayed for nine months. And when she said nine months,
29:49
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my God, you had a baby?
29:51
Speaker 1: But she didn't have a baby. In fact, I guess
29:53
Speaker 1: technically the opposite. They lost weight together, which I was
29:57
Speaker 1: happy for them. I was like, what are you doing?
29:59
Speaker 1: Like getting up? Honey, you're just like counting your macros.
30:01
Speaker 1: You're like going for a run. You're making smoothies together.
30:03
Speaker 1: Is he like a training coach? Are you just like,
30:07
Speaker 1: which is great because if you guys met at a bar,
30:10
Speaker 1: I'm happy that your relationship isn't centered around drinking. That's healthy. Okay. Um, she's,
30:19
Speaker 1: and we're like, okay, well, this sounds great. He's hot.
30:21
Speaker 1: You know, you seem happy. We love your voice. She's
30:25
Speaker 1: willing to give up her whole life, though, just to
30:27
Speaker 1: move there. So, you know, I also was like, how
30:28
Speaker 1: do you make money there? Do you flip cars there?
30:30
Speaker 1: Do you bartend there? Okay. She's like, one thing, little caveat.
30:39
Speaker 1: His dad is weird. He's just like, I don't know
30:43
Speaker 1: how to say this, always obsessed with me. Or like, oh, no.
30:47
Speaker 1: Asking me about, like, our sex life or like, blech.
30:51
Speaker 1: We're also like, oh, that's why you're on the show then,
30:52
Speaker 1: because that man has already signed a waiver saying that
30:55
Speaker 1: he'll film. I think the producers were like, what does
30:59
Speaker 1: he do? And then he was like, get the Ghana
31:02
Speaker 1: translator on the phone. But I shouldn't say that because
31:05
Speaker 1: that man speaks perfect English. Then he was like, get
31:07
Speaker 1: Ghana producers to get in touch with that man, see
31:10
Speaker 1: if he'll be on the show. So basically, she also
31:16
Speaker 1: tells us a story where one night she... had gotten
31:21
Speaker 1: in a fight with Felix and said she wanted to leave.
31:24
Speaker 1: And so he and his dad came to her apartment
31:30
Speaker 1: and stole all her stuff. But said it was a prank.
31:39
Speaker 1: And that his stuff was just at his dad's house now.
31:42
Speaker 1: Like the TV. Just a prank, though. So then she's like,
31:49
Speaker 1: what are you... Okay. She's like, I'm going to leave. I,
31:52
Speaker 1: this is crazy. And then Felix steals her passport. At
31:56
Speaker 1: this point, I'm like, this is a horror movie. This is,
31:59
Speaker 1: I don't have to tell you, this is literally a
32:02
Speaker 1: feature film. I mean, that in the nineties would have
32:05
Speaker 1: sold so much money, but now you can't really do it.
32:07
Speaker 1: It's like not PC, but you know, really horrifying. This
32:10
Speaker 1: is scary as fuck. Then she's like, but for some reason,
32:15
Speaker 1: now that I'm back, I want to go, I He
32:20
Speaker 1: loves me. So I'll get over the dad thing. We're like, what? What?
32:26
Speaker 1: Where's Kira? Where's your daughter? No, no. No. Is Henry
32:32
Speaker 1: going to go with you to Ghana? Did Henry ever
32:37
Speaker 1: meet these people? Did Henry know them? Because if Henry's
32:40
Speaker 1: only in like one country over, then why wouldn't Henry?
32:42
Speaker 1: And you went to go visit him. Did Henry come
32:44
Speaker 1: and hang out with them? Because I feel like I
32:51
Speaker 1: want Henry to tell us like what's up. It's so interesting.
32:58
Speaker 1: So then next shot, honey, we're with Felix and his
33:01
Speaker 1: dad preaching because he is son of a preacher walking
33:08
Speaker 1: around that village, delivering the Lord's word. And the dad
33:12
Speaker 1: is like, you know, that was such a fun prank.
33:16
Speaker 1: She doesn't understand in Mido and my culture. Lot of
33:21
Speaker 1: fun cultures have a lot of fun pranks embedded as
33:25
Speaker 1: the foundation of the culture is fun pranks. And you
33:31
Speaker 1: have to love them. You have to. No matter how
33:35
Speaker 1: extravagant or how weird or how like obviously con-like and
33:40
Speaker 1: or stealing they seem. How dare you? You know what, son?
33:49
Speaker 1: She offended not only the culture, but me. And I know,
33:56
Speaker 1: as you know, the thing we do is that the elders,
34:00
Speaker 1: which of course are the esteemed, respected people that no
34:04
Speaker 1: one can ever question, can impose a fine. And I'm
34:11
Speaker 1: going to find that bitch. One sheep. One sheep. Bah.
34:19
Speaker 1: Because she's been bad. That's why. And the Felix hears
34:25
Speaker 1: this and he's like, no, I don't, dad, I don't
34:27
Speaker 1: think she's going to pay that cheap. I don't think so.
34:32
Speaker 1: And the dad is like, oh, no, she has to.
34:35
Speaker 1: She's American. She doesn't understand our culture. And guess what?
34:39
Speaker 1: Our culture is this. And she must understand it. And
34:44
Speaker 1: here is the thing. She is a female, and I
34:58
Speaker 1: think you cannot expect an unmarried female to pay you anything.
35:11
Speaker 1: If she is going to get married to your son,
35:15
Speaker 1: then your son will have to buy you the sheep,
35:19
Speaker 1: if that's how the culture is. You cannot ask an
35:24
Speaker 1: unmarried woman to give you anything. Like, I think it's distasteful. Truly,
35:31
Speaker 1: I think the prank thing is annoying, too, and I
35:34
Speaker 1: would never, like, you know, yeah, I think this is crazy.
35:36
Speaker 1: The thing about this, it gave a sway-loose mom to me.
35:42
Speaker 1: The kind of money-hungry, like, weird, going-after, specifically... your son's
35:55
Speaker 1: girlfriend's money or wife or fiance. If you're going to
36:01
Speaker 1: go after your son's fiance for money, then to me,
36:04
Speaker 1: you are not shit. You aren't shit. There's no reason
36:13
Speaker 1: for it. Because even in those kinds of cultures, you
36:17
Speaker 1: protect unmarried women that way. They wouldn't have the thing
36:20
Speaker 1: to give you that. They wouldn't have the means to
36:22
Speaker 1: give you that. And if you suppose they do, and
36:28
Speaker 1: you enact that fee, then you are doing it because
36:32
Speaker 1: you know they can. And then it's a moot point.
36:37
Speaker 1: Because you're doing it because you want something. It has
36:40
Speaker 1: no dignity to it. And anything about a deal is
36:44
Speaker 1: whatever anyone believes in it. If there's no dignity to it,
36:47
Speaker 1: why would she take part? The idea that she would
36:58
Speaker 1: actually entertain this is ridiculous. And I wonder what her
37:05
Speaker 1: dating life is in America. And I feel like that's
37:08
Speaker 1: a whole other thing that I would love to explore.
37:11
Speaker 1: I want her to have a week before she leaves
37:14
Speaker 1: because I want her to have the meetings with her
37:17
Speaker 1: daughter and her best friends. I want people to fill
37:22
Speaker 1: us in on the gaps of her life because it
37:27
Speaker 1: sure seems like she's putting herself in harm's way and
37:31
Speaker 1: by people that might think of her as a source
37:40
Speaker 1: for them. And I think that, unfortunately, a lot of
37:46
Speaker 1: people that have experienced trauma kind of float from abusive
37:50
Speaker 1: person to abusive person or abusive situation to abusive situation,
37:55
Speaker 1: like jobs or institutions or whatever, where a certain amount
38:01
Speaker 1: of how much they don't believe they deserve love is,
38:06
Speaker 1: I guess, the penance they pay for enduring trauma. crappy
38:12
Speaker 1: treatment or being made to feel less than, you know
38:16
Speaker 1: what I'm saying? She, yeah, definitely said that she's had
38:20
Speaker 1: bad taste in men before. And we're like, you know,
38:26
Speaker 1: I wish, I mean, I was like, yeah, I don't
38:28
Speaker 1: know if she has like a girl best friend that's like,
38:30
Speaker 1: this isn't it, babe. Now you know that. I don't
38:36
Speaker 1: know if she doesn't talk to, maybe she doesn't have
38:38
Speaker 1: a lot of women in her life. Maybe she's one
38:39
Speaker 1: of those kinds of women that like, I don't know,
38:42
Speaker 1: I just have more guy friends, which is always kind
38:45
Speaker 1: of a red flag for lots of reasons, mostly because
38:50
Speaker 1: their situations they know aren't, I feel like would be
39:01
Speaker 1: understanding to women that have their shit together is what
39:05
Speaker 1: I think about that. So let's move on. Okay. Okay.
39:11
Speaker 1: Final couple, my babes. Can you believe it? It's Andy
39:15
Speaker 1: and Nigel. Oh my God. And someone, honey, it should
39:18
Speaker 1: be a thropple. This whole time it should have been
39:20
Speaker 1: a thropple. It should be like Andy, Nigel, and then
39:24
Speaker 1: in the corner would have been like a mystery woman
39:26
Speaker 1: with like a question mark, like who's, like where? in
39:30
Speaker 1: the world Carmen Sandiego in or something like that. And
39:32
Speaker 1: then this episode has been like, who is she? Who
39:35
Speaker 1: is she? The girl, the girl, you know? And the
39:37
Speaker 1: girl is Azriel, which Azriel is a great name. What
39:42
Speaker 1: a fun name, Azriel. So let's go back though. Andy is...
39:48
Speaker 1: putting on her Martha Stewart best, okay? She is in
39:53
Speaker 1: the full cooking hostess frame. She is arranging cheese plates
40:00
Speaker 1: and the cheese plates look great. I mean, they're uniform.
40:05
Speaker 1: She's rolled the prosciutto. I mean, did she do any
40:08
Speaker 1: salami roses? No, they're annoying. She didn't do them. It's fine.
40:11
Speaker 1: Would I have maybe seen if I could have undone
40:14
Speaker 1: the plastic containers into like little ramekins?
40:17
Speaker 2: Yes.
40:17
Speaker 1: However, you can see she used some ramekins and maybe
40:20
Speaker 1: this asshole only had that one. He probably stole that
40:23
Speaker 1: one in the foreground with the olives from one restaurant once.
40:27
Speaker 1: So she did the best she could do. And yeah,
40:29
Speaker 1: she halved the breeze and she like, they're adorable. They're great.
40:33
Speaker 1: He's like, can we eat all this? She's like, yes.
40:34
Speaker 1: You're hungry ass, cheap ass friends? Yeah. So she's a
40:42
Speaker 1: giver in every way. And I almost feel like there's
40:46
Speaker 1: a part of Andy that's like, oh, I get to
40:50
Speaker 1: meet all his friends at his house. He is, you know,
40:53
Speaker 1: an E & M guy. I have to meet Azriel.
40:57
Speaker 1: I'm going to show the fuck up, look gorgeous. Be like,
41:04
Speaker 1: these cheese plates? Don't mind me, I'm Andy. I'm just like,
41:07
Speaker 1: you know, drinking, having fun, getting to know people. Yeah,
41:11
Speaker 1: I have the breeze, of course. Yeah, I took off
41:14
Speaker 1: all the plastic. I bet I could. This asshole doesn't
41:17
Speaker 1: have any ramekins, yeah. But if I get here, like,
41:19
Speaker 1: you know, like if I stay, if this works out,
41:22
Speaker 1: I'm going to turn the fuck out when we have parties.
41:26
Speaker 1: That's what you can expect. Why? Because I'm better than him.
41:30
Speaker 1: His friend knows it, Chris. I can't, I, it's funny
41:33
Speaker 1: because there's the question of Asriel. But if you remember,
41:40
Speaker 1: he has a friend named Chris, like I remember because
41:43
Speaker 1: it's my name. That is, in my eyes, mildly obsessed
41:49
Speaker 1: with Andy. Because he's like, I met Andy and was like, wow,
41:55
Speaker 1: I like her. And then I was like, wait, you're
41:57
Speaker 1: with Nigel? And I... Need Chris to see Andy being
42:07
Speaker 1: mistreated or cast asunder or not cared for the way
42:11
Speaker 1: that Chris knows he could in real time at this
42:15
Speaker 1: party so that he can just swipe in. Sweep in?
42:22
Speaker 1: Swipe in? Sweep in. Sweep the fuck in like the
42:29
Speaker 1: Santa Ana winds, honey. Off her feet, be like, I
42:34
Speaker 1: love these cheese plates. Hey, I have a little banjo
42:38
Speaker 1: set up over there. Do you want to jam together?
42:41
Speaker 1: I've been writing some songs. Here's one.
42:47
Speaker 2: I'm wondering if this red-haired beauty is wandering away from
42:55
Speaker 2: her man. She's like, that sounds familiar. It sounds like
42:57
Speaker 2: the song I wrote for 90s.
42:58
Speaker 1: He's like, no, no, no, no, no. That's my song. Baby.
43:00
Speaker 2: Baby.
43:01
Speaker 1: We must have one mind. You're like, Chris, you're creepy.
43:04
Speaker 1: That's what I want to see. You know what I'm saying? Like,
43:06
Speaker 1: I want to see that, but I'll tell you what
43:07
Speaker 1: we see instead. It's Haram, Andy, being like, okay, well,
43:14
Speaker 1: let's just see who's going to show up at this party.
43:17
Speaker 1: And who shows up is person after person. At one point,
43:20
Speaker 1: Two girls in statement coats. One's red. It's furry with
43:24
Speaker 1: like an evil eye on it. The other one's pink.
43:29
Speaker 1: Like a leopard print heart or something. I don't know.
43:31
Speaker 1: They got the coats together. Do they sell the coats?
43:34
Speaker 1: I don't know how hot it is or cold it is.
43:36
Speaker 1: The coats were interesting. But she's meeting every single person
43:41
Speaker 1: here being like, hi, what's your name? Oh, okay. I'm Andy. Hi,
43:46
Speaker 1: I'm Andy. What's your name? Oh, okay. That's cool. Hi,
43:50
Speaker 1: I'm anyone's name. Hi. Oh, Mark. Okay. Oh, meeting everyone here.
43:55
Speaker 1: So many people, so many names. So, so many names
43:58
Speaker 1: I've already heard before in my life or don't care about.
44:01
Speaker 1: And then she's chomping down and in the fucking ether,
44:09
Speaker 1: she hears Asriel, Asriel, Asriel. And then she looks over
44:22
Speaker 1: and it's this girl, this demure kind of pixie looking
44:31
Speaker 1: kind of down for a handstand kind of girl, pigtails, braids,
44:44
Speaker 1: bright eyed, petite, Always probably down. Not because she's petite.
44:56
Speaker 1: Because her purse, like, you know, probably down for whatever.
45:00
Speaker 1: All the time. That's the kind of like vibe. Just like, yeah. What? Okay. Sure. What?
45:07
Speaker 1: I'll be there. Yeah. Like just never questions, never has
45:14
Speaker 1: a hard opinion. is easy as fuck. Go with the
45:22
Speaker 1: goddamn flow. And I'll tell you, to my core, I
45:27
Speaker 1: have never been like that. Never. The panic or anxiety
45:36
Speaker 1: that resides in me because of whatever I said earlier
45:39
Speaker 1: about trauma or whatever that, you know, so that my
45:43
Speaker 1: thoughts go too fast of like, no, I don't want
45:46
Speaker 1: to do that. Will I do that? Will I be
45:47
Speaker 1: comfortable there? Will that be good for me? I don't
45:48
Speaker 1: know if I want to do that. Is someone going
45:49
Speaker 1: to protect me from that? I'm not going to be
45:51
Speaker 1: safe there. It's like too many of those thoughts happen
45:54
Speaker 1: where I start to tense and then go through those
45:57
Speaker 1: thoughts and then have to solve the problems in real
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Speaker 1: time and then weigh the pros and cons to see
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Speaker 1: if I can say yes to the thing that one
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Speaker 1: second ago now, which is a long time in time, time,
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Speaker 1: has been asked of me, and I'm supposed to give
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Speaker 1: an answer. And now I'm self-conscious because I'm reading that
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Speaker 1: I didn't give an immediate answer and that any answer
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Speaker 1: now would have, of course, looked measured and weighed. There
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Speaker 1: are so many different types in this world. God bless
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Speaker 1: us all. So anyway, she indeed looks over and there
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Speaker 1: he is. I'm sorry, there she is. Now, Nigel knows
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Speaker 1: that she's anxious, right? She was like, I am getting anxious.
46:48
Speaker 1: And he did try to kiss her, and she did
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Speaker 1: feel comfort in that moment. So she, in that moment
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Speaker 1: when he gave her that, was sort of like, okay,
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Speaker 1: he gets it. I'm nervous because I have to meet Asriel.
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Speaker 1: He's on my side. He's my partner. Why wouldn't he
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Speaker 1: be with me first when she comes and kind of
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Speaker 1: facilitate that? That seems what he would do because his
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Speaker 1: first priority would be me in that situation. But when she...
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Speaker 1: hears Azriel's name, she looks over and Nigel's by her.
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Speaker 1: She realizes Nigel isn't looking for Andy. Isn't like, let
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Speaker 1: me introduce you, Azriel, to my girlfriend. The reason why
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Speaker 1: I'm having this party.
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Speaker 2: Instead, is.
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Speaker 1: Like, Azriel, let me take you and your other pixie
47:32
Speaker 1: manic friend upstairs and we'll get drinks. I'll show off
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Speaker 1: the cheese board and not tell you Andy did it.
47:41
Speaker 1: I'm Nigel. I, Andy like dies inside a little bit
47:52
Speaker 1: watching them walk up the steps. And I feel like
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Speaker 1: in her mind, she's like, I want the earth to
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Speaker 1: open and swallow me whole. And I want to be like,
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Speaker 1: get out. It is like for more or less a
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Speaker 1: lesson version of the Jordan Peele thing. It's like, get
48:08
Speaker 1: out on Obviously not race-based, but in this like, get out, girl.
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Speaker 1: This is not for you. You hate this. Are you insane? Okay.
48:23
Speaker 1: I love knowing that Andy, spoiler alert, she did this though,
48:32
Speaker 1: Shirley is on Tinder in Nashville currently. People have seen
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Speaker 1: her on the app and she Put up what she's
48:39
Speaker 1: looking for. Now, certain people, like me, have screenshotted it,
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Speaker 1: and I want to read it to you. Because I'm what?
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Speaker 1: A friend. This is on my Instagram and my TikTok,
48:59
Speaker 1: at Chris L. Farah, if you want to go see.
49:01
Speaker 1: You're welcome. Also, remember, I have a live on YouTube coming,
49:04
Speaker 1: so it's Wednesday, 6 p.m. I'm 100% ready to be, oh, sorry, Andy, 41.
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Speaker 1: I'm not 100% ready to be in a relationship. But
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Speaker 1: of course, a life partner is the long-term goal. Would
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Speaker 1: love to find a friend with benefits for now. Someone
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Speaker 1: passionate and sweet, can play in love energy, and doesn't
49:30
Speaker 1: mind that I have very little free time. Always open
49:34
Speaker 1: to love developing, but not not able to put my
49:42
Speaker 1: whole heart into something at this moment. About me, spiritually minded,
49:47
Speaker 1: nature loving, astrology following, country girl at heart, tall, animated, fun,
49:52
Speaker 1: but also pretty serious. Nothing about the cheese plates. Babes.
50:01
Speaker 1: People are like, spoiler alert, or like NDA. I'm like,
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Speaker 1: the way she worded it, she could technically still be
50:07
Speaker 1: with Nigel. And they, and this is just her like,
50:11
Speaker 1: you know, American plaything on the side or she's going
50:14
Speaker 1: to go back, you know, I don't know. Because she
50:17
Speaker 1: might just be like, well, I don't know if he's
50:20
Speaker 1: my soulmate or my spiritual life mate, but she might
50:22
Speaker 1: still be with him too. I mean, not quite sure
50:24
Speaker 1: because she's not ready to be in a relationship 100%.
50:27
Speaker 1: And maybe in her mind, that's monogamous. I don't know.
50:31
Speaker 1: All right, my loves. Let's talk. If you haven't yet,
50:36
Speaker 1: please give this podcast, a little nice itch. I'm coming
50:41
Speaker 1: up on my one year birthday for Vanity Fair and
50:45
Speaker 1: I'm very excited about a month away. So I'm going
50:49
Speaker 1: to be doing some fun things for that. That is that,
50:55
Speaker 1: including some restructuring of my Patreon.
50:58
Speaker 3: Right now it's $ 5. It's one little tier, $ 5 for
51:01
Speaker 3: this whole year. And it's, of course, patreon.com slash chrisferra.
51:09
Speaker 3: And at the same time, I said I'm doing a
51:13
Speaker 3: live on YouTube. It's this Wednesday, 6 p.m. It's the
51:17
Speaker 3: 28th at, again, 6 p.m. Pacific Standard Time.
51:22
Speaker 1: And we'll talk night and day and Halloween stuff and
51:25
Speaker 1: pop culture stuff. You can also follow me on the Instagram,
51:30
Speaker 1: the TikTok. I am at chrislferra there. And you can
51:34
Speaker 1: see those snapshots of Andy's Tinder profile up close and
51:38
Speaker 1: personal and some other fun things. Also the Facebook group
51:42
Speaker 1: Vanity Fair. When I go live, I always post there
51:46
Speaker 1: and Chris Farah, the page also goes live. Of course, YouTube,
51:50
Speaker 1: Chris Farah is where you have to search. There are
51:52
Speaker 1: so many things. I know that's it. I appreciate you guys. Okay.
51:56
Speaker 1: I really do. I hope you are living your best lives.
51:58
Speaker 1: Hand to heart. Let's breathe together and I'll let you
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Speaker 1: guys go. Okay. Okay. All right, babes. Take care of
52:22
Speaker 1: yourselves and one another. Stand up for what you believe
52:25
Speaker 1: and make art. And remember that you are your own source.
52:30
Speaker 1: You are your own source. That's why you breathe. It's
52:33
Speaker 1: why you touch grass. It's why you're present because this
52:36
Speaker 1: is where you get it. I don't know exactly what
52:39
Speaker 1: happens after that, but I know that part for you. Okay,
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Speaker 1: my loves? Bye.