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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just:Three Degrees of Divine Love: Focus, Yearning, and Delight 12.8.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  The theme is ahavat Hashem and his idea of being da vek by
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  Hashem, which we always open with the fact sounds so lofty to
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  be to cling to Hashem. So that sounds like a heavy duty
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  statement. What it really means is to clear
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  out the rest of the world when it comes to your focus, to go as
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  much as you can and there's something he's going on trying
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  to clear out. Whatever it be stress, he's
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  going to work, he's going on a family.
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  When it comes to connection to the Hashem, it makes that
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  connection way, way more powerful.
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  Are you? A person could pray, I'm on the
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  straight, but distracted and pray one solid prayer focused,
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  and that solid prayer might be more powerful on his mind.
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  And the connection may not be more of a mitzvah, but it's more
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  connected an entire month. That's just how he says, he says
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  like this. He's at Shem on 390 he says, and
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  the 389 Rabbi's house, Amar mitchum Omega bin lakish bishali
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  shanocha hiba. There are three terms of love.
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  These are a bit different than the original 3 terms.
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  Hashem loves us in three ways. Maru le Mehdi must explain them.
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  But the bika bahashika O bahafiza and English, I mean
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  cleaving to Hashem, cleaving to us, connection, yearning another
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  word and delight, Hafizadeh's delight, behem mash and feh avai
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  kalita. That is, those are three degrees
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  of love. I know how chukash is the heart
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  via the vekut vahanaka vahonic that a person has with love.
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  Listen to this point, it's very important.
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  And that is the idea of abatashah, the idea that we love
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  God connected. It's played out in three ways.
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  One, we connect to him literally.
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  We clear out the rest of the world.
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  Because when there's something that you love, that's where
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  you're targeted, right? Whatever it may be that you're
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  focused on, because you're into it, you clear out everything
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  else. I'll give you a random example.
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  If you're going to a game, right, because you love that
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  team, you're ignoring the fact that it's taking time.
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  You're ignoring the fact that your whole week seems so busy
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  and now you're, you're devoting 5 hours.
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  You're doing that fast on the game, right?
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  You're doing the fact that there's a big cost and all it is
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  traffic. There's also areas of
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  frustration. It's freezing cold outside,
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  right? All those things go out the
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  window in your mind because the connection and the interest is
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  so strong and all you have is that focus and nothing else
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  exists. In fact, after the fact, you
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  find out and you realize, hey now I'm quite your time.
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  Oh wow, the team lost was waste time.
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  Oh my gosh, my bank feels emptier.
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  All these things occur. Always let that answer the fact,
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  but beforehand that's the one beauty about when you play these
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  things out with Hashem. The one beauty is this is not a
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  heavy duty statement, but it's a reality is that when you play
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  out these concepts and they include God, there's all that
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  that after the fact you have it may take further and more work
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  to get to that. You know, Steelers level or
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  whatever your team is, but once you get to that level with God,
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  then let down is way less. Why?
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  Because when it's a love of reality, the love is real or has
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  a love of something that's kind of fake, especially if they lose
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  the love is fake. That's why I haven't did a
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  factor to 0 before. The fact is everything fine.
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  That's the they could connection.
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  Do they cool means focus in that sense.
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  Hashika is yearning, yearning. He's looking forward.
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  If a person has I think another example you have intercession
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  coming. Was it session January 1417,
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  right. It's almost two months from now,
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  a month in a week, OK. And there have been people in
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  their minds, I'm sure there have who have been thinking totally
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  that time for the last last month already and they'll be
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  next month constantly going to be thinking about that one time.
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  But they're on that vacation. Not every minute is going to
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  feel like you're absolutely got anything.
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  There will be aspects that you are joy and cello, but it's like
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  you feel like, I know I have this every time I, I, I look
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  forward to the summer and the summer comes.
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  Summer's awesome, but it's not awesome.
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  There's always still a stress. There's still family things.
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  There's still things going hard. It's not like you ain't got
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  Anthem Labash. I remember last year I went to
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  Israel for three days while I was there, as my father was
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  yours. I said while I was there, I was
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  like, OK, you know, I'm walking around.
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  I remember my mind thinking I should remember in America that,
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  you know, this vacation, it's not crazy good.
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  So next time I'm looking forward to something.
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  Don't think that your whole life is predicated on what's going to
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  be in that time because we look forward to something that they
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  don't play out. But there is a concept called
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  yearning. Yearning means looking forward.
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  Yearning means being excited leading up to it playing up.
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  Nothing wrong. There's nothing wrong at all.
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  In fact, can't one can't, one can't wait.
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  That's all right. In fact, it is actually a
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  healthy thing to create some can't wait moments in your life
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  and your schedule to make life go on.
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  You do need can't wait. You need shabbats, you need
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  holidays, you need trips, you need getting together with
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  family. You need these things to keep
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  you going. Absolutely, but they're based on
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  this medab Yuri when it comes to God.
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  We are working on getting to a degree.
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  I'm the one we said focus and of A2 actually creating a yearning,
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  which is a person looks forward to the holiday.
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  Binoculars cause families get together, which is a great
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  thing, but also because I feel special on the holiday.
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  A person looks forward Hanukkah coming up because something
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  about the holiday feels unique. Jelly Donuts.
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  That's that's that's nice. I'm really hitting my mark, by
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  the way. Really, you got a point.
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  You look forward to Hanukkah, you look forward to the whole
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  thing. And if there's a spiritual
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  element to it and you're hitting the spot with yearning.
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  When a person gets to a degree, they have classes that they go
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  to. When you get to a level, when
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  you look forward to the class, that's an important level.
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  And that's really necessary to build our yearning of at Hashem
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  yearning for a class, yearning for a Hai, yearning for the
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  canoe Shah of Shabbat yurti, for all these other things are
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  building up your Alva. And God has these same level and
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  even stronger yearnings because God doesn't have any
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  distractions. So yeah, it's a stronger
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  yearning towing us. So it's a point that we're
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  looking for. And the 3rd and most important
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  one is delight. Delight is a word, the word that
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  we use for Shabbat only Shabbat, all of his enjoyment while it's
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  happened, while you living it. So we spoke about focus on the
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  game, right? Or yearning to a vacation.
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  Then there's the wallets going on.
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  And I just said a lot of vacations happening.
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  There are certain parts that are nice while a trip is going on,
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  but it doesn't feel like on anything.
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  You still have logistics, you still have one person was doing,
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  you still have the weather, you still have things going on, you
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  still have work, you still have bills.
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  There's an element that lets you ignore half of life, and unless
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  you are really tapped into the right situation or nick,
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  enjoyment is not that simple To come by, to actually enjoy
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  something in the moment, it actually takes a feat and it's a
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  degree and it's a level. There are certain things that we
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  all enjoy. There are certain aspects that
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  are always all beautiful. That's great, the idea of tada,
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  but so it is. It should be something that you
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  focus on, something that you look forward to and Avant Hashem
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  has to reach at certain points a level.
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  And while you're doing them, you actually feel special.
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  While you're sitting by a Shabbat table, are you talking,
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  Are you talking about something that's a little bit elevated?
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  Are you discussing life lessons maybe, or you're discussing to
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  Panasha, or you're discussing how you want the future to look,
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  whatever it may be. This is to be the most Uber
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  spiritual thing, but something that's lofty.
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  So there's elevated if you feel good during that time,
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  beautiful, you hit it. Onic if you're sitting in a
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  class like this one or any other class and it's hitting your
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  brain and it's making you feel smarter or clearer or on the
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  right track and you say, wow, something about this that feels
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  kind of special. That's all of it.
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  And that is ONIC. Or you're on a holiday, like we
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  just say, and all these different things, sitting and
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  learning, when you're praying, when you're doing history, when
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  you give charity, all these different things that you do
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  when you're giving someone advice or giving someone a Zook,
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  all these aspects, if you do them and you feel good while
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  it's going on, you are involved in onych and you are hitting the
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  mark. You're literally striking at the
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  center of the universe and at the center of mitzvoth, which is
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  enjoyment while it's happening. So there's focus, which is
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  clear, which takes work. There's yearning, which is
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  supposed to come hopefully natural once you enjoy, and then
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  there is enjoyment itself while it's happening.
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  The enjoyment itself is the highest degree.
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  The enjoyment itself is the most beautiful thing.
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  And it's really literally the equivalent of a Ben O llama BA
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  of living with God of all those aspects.
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  Because the pinnacle of any relationship is the enjoyment
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  together, and the pinnacle of any situation is the enjoyment
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  of the moment. The pinnacle of our connection
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  to God is the enjoyment together.
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  That's the pinnacle. And when we have, OK, it's a
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  headache, but I'll do it anyhow. You're connected not the same
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  when it's you know it's take a guy going to be with his wife OK
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  clear some people I have to do it I know it's my duty I have to
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  do it all right. I don't have to push these off.
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  I don't have the time and it's cold.
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  I don't want to do it. I have to.
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  You're doing the right thing. There's no enjoyment there.
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  You focus, but still nothing happening and not much comes out
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  of me either. Just she's happy for the moment.
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  But if a person actually strikes the level of delight, which
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  means while he's out to you with his wife, are you sitting there
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  at the conversations going good and it's flowing and he feels
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  like, you know, happy about the situation.
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  That moment. I know they they they take work,
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  but that moment when it hits that is the pinnacle of marriage
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  doesn't mean that that's what we have all the time at all, but it
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  does mean that those are the times that make the thing
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  continue and those are the times that bring fuel to our
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  relationships. And the same thing is true with
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  God. If I have every single day is a
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  headache when it comes to my todabits what and it never hit
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  the point of a dream, It is a way harder to remain connected.
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  But if I have certain aspects and become enjoyable, be them
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  Shabbat, learning, pray, whatever it may be, if there are
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  certain aspects to become enjoyable, then your
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  relationship is way stronger. It's much more connected because
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  when you like it, you want it. When you want it.
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  This is where I'm living. The whole idea of people.
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  Let's say a random example where people go nuts and they go out
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  to the boondocks and they drink and party in craziness.
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  They use this like, I feel like I'm living, I feel like I'm
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  alive. All this terminology, right?
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  What does it mean? They feel like they're alive.
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  It's ridiculous because they don't realize that they're this
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  close to dying, but they feel like they're alive because they
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  feel free and they feel like they're hating what they enjoy.
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  It's a a sick mindset told a very clear point, which is you
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  want to feel alive and you feel alive when you're doing what you
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  like. And when we get to a point that
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  what we like and what is good is the same thing, that's the best
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  thing possible. When a person can reach a level
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  that they enjoy doing Hashem's will, that's the most beautiful
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  thing in the world. And that will make you that much
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  stronger. And then temptation goes down.
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  Yeah, it's a harrah goes down and challenges go down because
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  you are hating. The spark is the spot.
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  You're literally at the center of the universe.
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  You're right there with God. There's nothing else going on
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  once you like it. The more we have a challenge
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  with it, the disappoint distant we are.
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  It's part of our job. Well, this the more we actually
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  enjoy it. For example, the Torah is called
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  the stop with this Torah is called Shah Shuai by toy.
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  God refers to the Torah's game. How would you prefer to the
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  Torah's game, and he referred to it as that is that a game is
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  something that you do just for the sake of it, not because real
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  enjoyable gaming, not because there's what are you losing
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  involved just 'cause you're having fun, right?
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  You have a game with somebody, they're being a little too much
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  of A stickler about the score and you're like, come on, you're
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  ruining the game because it's just a lot of having fun, right?
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  Torah is supposed to be eventually.
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  I'm not saying it's easy, but there are certain points of
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  Torah. They're supposed to be that just
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  having fun. That's how it go.
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  Plus in the morning, right, just exactly offense in the morning,
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  just having fun and that's the goal and that is our
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  responsibility and that's our goal.
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  And that's the you have a good time.
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  You look forward to it, right? As a beautiful example, that's
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  really the overall thing, right? That's exactly it.
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  And even though waking up every morning is difficult, even
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  though embracing the cold is annoying, finally parking is
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  hard. All these are true.
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  When you get to the spot and it's you and God you in the
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  mitzvah, one-on-one you're hitting the spark.
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  It's literally the same thing as a guy going out there with his
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  wife and everything is clicking. When that moment happens, it
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  feels right. The same thing is true and
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  that's a good example when it comes to the all of it's 4th
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  alone one-on-one and everything feels enjoyable and feels right
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  and his strength is the relationship.
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  So much more was up with this.