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Mid-Year Check-In: Letting Go & Moving Forward · The Nadia Chapman Show

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  Hey there, welcome back to a new episode of the Nadia Chapman Show.
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  I'm your host, Nadia Chapman, making a comeback after a month off.
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  I can't believe it's already the end of May. We are May 26 today.
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  And I feel, I think it's been about four weeks since I recorded a podcast.
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  It's been extremely busy in my life, which is a good thing.
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  And I also had this weird little virus slash allergy thing where I spoke like
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  that with my nose. And the last thing that I want to do or you want to hear
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  is me speaking like that.
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  So here I am feeling much better. And I have about five podcasts I'm going to record today.
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  And the first one is about this time of year.
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  We are already halfway through the year. And today's a little check in with
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  yourself to see how you're doing.
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  There's something about summer that quietly makes people reflect.
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  I know it happens to me. I don't know if it's the same for you,
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  but maybe it's the longer mornings, the longer evenings, which I love,
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  the trips that we plan, the heat, the way life feels a little less rush for a moment.
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  And then suddenly somewhere in the middle of June or July, a lot of people start
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  thinking, oh, my God, we're halfway through the year.
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  And for some people, that sounds very strange.
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  You know, motivating and exciting. And for some people, let's be honest,
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  it feels quite heavy because maybe this year so far did not go the way you thought it would.
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  Maybe you thought that you would be happier by now, maybe more healed if that's
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  what you're looking for, maybe more disciplined or more successful,
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  more confident, maybe less overwhelmed.
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  And maybe you started the year like a lot of us with goals and,
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  you know, new routines and a vision board and word of the year and lots of promise to yourself.
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  But somewhere along the way, life happened. You know, we get tired, we get very distracted.
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  Maybe you got hurt. I hope not. Maybe you got just busy surviving and you lost some clarity.
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  And maybe at times you even lost a little bit of yourself.
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  And I think what I want this episode to be is not another, okay,
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  let's reinvent yourself in 30 days type of conversation. I think people are
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  exhausted from pressure that I call disguised in self-improvement.
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  I just want today to feel like a real mid-year check-in.
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  So no shame, no panic, no toxic productivity. We have enough of this.
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  Just honesty, awareness, and reflection together and maybe a little reconnection
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  with yourself because your year is not ruined and
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  If you are not where you want to be, you know, because you had hard months,
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  maybe, I think that we forget that sometimes we act like if we fell off track,
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  whether it's emotionally or mentally.
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  Physically, financially, or personally for a little while, then somehow the
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  whole year is wasted. And that's not the case.
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  Life doesn't work that way. As human beings, as we know, we don't grow perfectly
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  straight in lines. We grow messy.
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  Healing is messy. Confidence is messy.
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  Change is very messy. and sometimes the strongest thing that you did this year
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  was simply keep going when nobody else noticed.
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  That's it. And that counts too. I also think summer, this time of year,
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  exposes something very interesting in people.
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  When life slows down, even a little bit, suddenly all the things that we've
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  been out running emotionally start catching up with us. I see that a lot in the coaching that I do.
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  You know, busyness is a big distraction. A lot of high functioning people don't
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  realize that they're burning out because they're still technically functioning.
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  You know, they shut the meetings and they're still doing the things and they're
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  handling so many responsibilities, but internally, they are absolutely exhausted.
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  And maybe this mid-year check-in that we're doing right now is less about asking,
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  what have I accomplished?
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  But more asking, how have I actually been doing?
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  Do you ever stop and ask yourself that? What's been draining me?
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  Do a little check-in. What's been draining me? What's been helping me?
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  What habits are hurting me right now? What relationships feel aligned or doesn't
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  feel aligned right now? And what version of myself am I becoming?
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  Because here's the truth. You are not the same person that you were in January.
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  That's impossible. Even if your external life looks the same,
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  even if you haven't hit your goal or every goal that you set,
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  even if things feel slower than expected, you have grown and you have learned and you have changed.
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  You know, life changes through heartbreak or disappointment.
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  Through boundaries and hard conversations that you've had and lonely seasons too.
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  And I think that one of the most powerful thing we can do mid-year is to stop
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  only measuring growth with visible success.
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  That is something that we are all guilty. We want everything to be quick and
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  everything to be big and everything to be kind of in our face.
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  Not all growth looks impressive online on your social media.
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  Some growth looks like walking away from what drains you or speaking to yourself more kindly.
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  You know, maybe it's resting without guilt. I suffer from that.
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  Or maybe growth looks like not abandoning yourself every single time life gets hard.
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  You know, all of that, it matters. It all matters.
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  I also think that mid-year is a wonderful time, beautiful time to ask yourself something important.
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  What am I carrying that I no longer need?
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  You should take a piece of paper and a pen and write that question on top and
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  just journal, brain dump about this.
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  A lot of people carry so much emotionally, old identities.
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  I talk about identities so much in my coaching, old guilt, old pressure.
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  Oh my God, old expectations and old version of themselves. And sometimes we
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  keep performing identities that we've absolutely outgrown.
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  Maybe you've outgrown being the person who constantly proves themselves,
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  or maybe you've outgrown shrinking yourself.
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  Maybe you've outgrown relationships that only work when you were disconnected from your own worth.
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  Not every dream you let go of is a failure.
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  Sometimes it's just getting wiser. Sometimes it's growing.
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  Sometimes it's self-awareness. And I think people need permission to evolve
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  without feeling guilty.
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  Of changing. You are allowed to become someone new.
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  You are allowed to slow down. You are allowed to revaluate and shift directions
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  or completely start over, you know, and begin again differently.
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  There is still so much time left in the year. If you had so much time left in
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  your life, but I don't want you leaving this episode feeling extra pressure.
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  I want you to leave this episode feeling permission.
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  Permission to check in honestly instead of critically and permission to stop
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  speaking to yourself like you're a disappointment.
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  And also, maybe, maybe the next six months of your year isn't about becoming
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  someone entirely different.
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  I talk a lot about change all the time, but maybe it's about just returning
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  to yourself a little more honestly, a little more grounded and connected,
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  a little bit more intentional.
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  Maybe the second half of this year doesn't need to be loud and crazy.
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  Maybe you just need to be more aligned. So whatever you're doing right now while
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  you're listening to this, whether you're driving or walking,
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  cleaning, traveling, just take a breath.
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  You don't have to have everything figured out right now. You don't have to panic.
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  You are allowed to pause and to keep reflecting. And you're allowed to reset gently.
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  You are absolutely allowed to begin again. I'm going to tell you that. All right.
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  Thank you so much for spending this time with me today. If this episode spoke
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  to you, please share it with someone who might need this little reminder today.
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  And as always, thank you for being here with me. And thank you for growing with me.
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  And thank you for allowing these super fun conversations to exist in such a
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  real and honest way. I appreciate it.
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  This is Nadia Chapman, and I'll see you in the next episode of The Nadia Chapman Show.