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Reddit’s Most Shocking Updates: Stories With Unexpected Twists · The conspiracy

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Speaker 1: Hello, my little delicious Rice Krispie. How are you doing today? Good, good.
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Speaker 1: We're on my main channel reading some more Reddit because
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Speaker 1: you guys seem to like the longer Reddit videos and
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Speaker 1: I like to do those on my main channel. But
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Speaker 1: I hope you're doing good today and I called you
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Speaker 1: a Rice Krispie because... I just ate a Rice Krispie
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Speaker 1: and dropped it. I'm terrible. Lately, I've just kind of
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Speaker 1: been like, oh, I'm an adult and I can buy
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Speaker 1: the snacks I wasn't given as a kid. No offense, mom.
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Speaker 1: You know, shout out mom. She was doing her best,
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Speaker 1: but I didn't really get all those sugary goodies that
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Speaker 1: all the other kids got. And I'm just like, I
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Speaker 1: can buy those for myself. So now I have an
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Speaker 1: Uncrustable Addiction and a Rice Krispie Addiction, okay? Anyway, today
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Speaker 1: we're reading Reddit, so let's get into it. Why am
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Speaker 1: I the scallywag for kicking my brother out for flirting
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Speaker 1: with my wife? Oh no, this is bad. My 25
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Speaker 1: male wife, 25 female, have been together since high school.
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Speaker 1: She's sweet, smart, soft, shy. That's a lot of S's.
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Speaker 1: fiercely loyal. And this situation just proves that. I'm scared
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Speaker 1: this is going to be like a, I think she
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Speaker 1: loves him and everything. Well, anyway, I love her more
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Speaker 1: than anything. And she's the love of my life. My brother,
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Speaker 1: 35 male. Oh, wow. So 10 years older than you guys. Damn.
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Speaker 1: Recently got kicked out of my parents because he's never
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Speaker 1: worked a real job. Just weird, low paying nonsense. And
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Speaker 1: recently quite another one of those weird, low paying nonsense jobs.
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Speaker 1: My parents understandably lectured him again and he lost his
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Speaker 1: from what my mom told me. He was gonna be homeless,
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Speaker 1: so my parents begged me to let him live with
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Speaker 1: me for a while. I decided to help. My wife
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Speaker 1: also decided that maybe we could help him. Okay, you
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Speaker 1: guys are really good people. We love to hear it.
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Speaker 1: Six days ago, my wife came to me and told
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Speaker 1: me he was flirting with her. Oh no, at least
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Speaker 1: your wife came to you. Like not just saying she's pretty,
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Speaker 1: but more like telling her he'd give her a better
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Speaker 1: life and telling her sleep with him. of her better life?
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Speaker 1: What kind of better life are you going to give
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Speaker 1: her with your low paying job and living with your parents? Sorry,
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Speaker 1: getting kicked out of your parents. And I bet he's like,
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Speaker 1: I bet this guy really handsome. I bet he is.
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Speaker 1: I bet that's the only thing that kind of gets
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Speaker 1: him by in life. Maybe. I don't know. In my head,
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Speaker 1: he's like just that douchey handsome guy that like doesn't
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Speaker 1: work at all. But he lives with his parents and
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Speaker 1: he's kind of a mommy's boy. And he's just like,
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Speaker 1: I can get whatever girl I want. I can even
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Speaker 1: get my brother's wife. Frickin' loser, dude. She insulted him
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Speaker 1: quite badly by calling him a useless old man that's
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Speaker 1: nearly 40 and doesn't even own a car or have
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Speaker 1: a life or even a girlfriend. You got a good wife,
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Speaker 1: tell you what. To that, he responded by being rude
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Speaker 1: to me in my own house, telling me what to
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Speaker 1: do because he's older and my wife telling me made
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Speaker 1: me see why he was acting like a child. He
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Speaker 1: got rejected, so he's like... You suck and everybody sucks
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Speaker 1: and I just really wanted to sleep with your wife
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Speaker 1: and I don't understand why she's not sleeping with me.
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Speaker 1: I told him to get out of my house. We
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Speaker 1: ended up fighting, swearing, and screaming for about 10 minutes
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Speaker 1: when my wife called my parents who came and picked
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Speaker 1: him up. My wife was crying while my parents shouted
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Speaker 1: at both of us and shouted at me. For what
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Speaker 1: I really don't know, he started the shouting, not me.
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Speaker 1: Mommy's boy, betcha. After they left, I was just so
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Speaker 1: angry and cried to my wife. And we both cried
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Speaker 1: for a good 10 to 15 minutes. Oh my god,
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Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. Just see, just imagining a couple just
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Speaker 1: sobbing to each other about a situation that involves a
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Speaker 1: family member that's just so rude makes my heart hurt.
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Speaker 1: That's awful. I'm really sorry that happened. And then they
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Speaker 1: watched a movie afterwards. I chose the perfect date. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: I'm corny. Whatever. Say what you want. My brother is
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Speaker 1: back with our parents who are now pissed at me.
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Speaker 1: Who's defending- A kid like this, dude, you raised a
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Speaker 1: loser and you're just like cradling him in a basket
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Speaker 1: and feeding him chocolate or whatever. I don't know what
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Speaker 1: babies eat. That sucks, but I'm glad that he's out
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Speaker 1: of your house because the disrespect, I mean, that would,
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Speaker 1: I wouldn't talk to my sister anymore if she talked
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Speaker 1: to my husband and said, hey, you should be with
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Speaker 1: me and you should sleep with me. Bye. I don't
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Speaker 1: feel like the asshole, but at the same time, I
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Speaker 1: kind of do. Thank you for reading. I look forward
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Speaker 1: to seeing your opinions. You know, you're not the asshole.
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Speaker 1: You're not the asshole. He's the asshole. And you were
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Speaker 1: just like standing up for your wife and- So is she.
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Speaker 1: I mean, how, what a weird situation for her to
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Speaker 1: be in. Oh my God. Yeah, I don't think you're
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Speaker 1: at fault at all. I think that's extremely disrespectful. He's
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Speaker 1: in your house and he's insulting you by going after
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Speaker 1: your wife. There's really no argument here, but let's read
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Speaker 1: the comments. Not the asshole. Your brother is a loser. Yeah. basically.
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Speaker 1: Not the asshole, but your parents sure are as well.
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Speaker 1: The way your brother behaved is no wonder where his
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Speaker 1: immaturity came from since they enabled it. You gave him
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Speaker 1: a chance and he blew it. The way he said
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Speaker 1: he was going to give your wife a better life
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Speaker 1: was very corny. Like what has he done to make
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Speaker 1: his own life better in the terms of financial stability?
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Speaker 1: I would suggest that unless your parents and brother apologize
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Speaker 1: to you and your wife, go low contact or No
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Speaker 1: contact with them. That's what I think. That's a relationship
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Speaker 1: ruiner for me. I don't care if you're blood, dude.
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Speaker 1: Cut off. Oh, we have an update. Right. Oh yeah,
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Speaker 1: we have an update because it's from Best Friend at
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Speaker 1: Her Updates. I forgot. What a nice surprise. One week later.
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Speaker 1: Long story short, basically my parents have been cut off
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Speaker 1: by me and my wife. We love to hear it.
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Speaker 1: The day after the original post, I set up a
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Speaker 1: meeting with my parents and my brother for the Saturday.
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Speaker 1: Come Saturday, my wife and I go to their place.
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Speaker 1: The greeting was awkward, but my wife said, cut the bullshit.
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Speaker 1: And then we spoke about why I kicked him out.
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Speaker 1: And my parents shocked me by saying he had told
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Speaker 1: them about the flirting already and everything he's done, they
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Speaker 1: said it's my wife or them. What? And that my
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Speaker 1: brother is more important than a girl. What? He was
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Speaker 1: gonna break up their marriage and they're like wanting her
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Speaker 1: out of the, these people make no sense. Who are
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Speaker 1: these people? I then realized how they are just as
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Speaker 1: responsible as he is for how he turned out. Yep,
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Speaker 1: you people on Reddit were right. My parents are the
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Speaker 1: assholes alone with my brother and I deserve better. Thank
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Speaker 1: you guys so much for all your advice. It truly
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Speaker 1: helped so much. My wife and I both read the
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Speaker 1: comments and it gave insight. Now I wanna ask, how
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Speaker 1: do I get over cutting off my parents? It's almost
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Speaker 1: like a part of me is dead. You know, it's
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Speaker 1: one thing for somebody on Reddit to be like, Cut
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Speaker 1: them off. They suck. Never talk to your mommy again.
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Speaker 1: You know, that's a lot. I can't imagine having to
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Speaker 1: do that. That's, I need all sorts of therapy for sure.
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Speaker 1: I mean, just, it'll just take time, I'm assuming. And
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Speaker 1: you'll just kind of see how your life stops being
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Speaker 1: so toxic and you'll see the payoff. And maybe, probably,
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Speaker 1: they'll come crawling back and apologize. And maybe you can,
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Speaker 1: you know, make up the relationship again. But it's just
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Speaker 1: going to take time, I think. And I just realized
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Speaker 1: how much control they had over me, even without me
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Speaker 1: really knowing. I don't know if I was abused or neglected.
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Speaker 1: They've done everything parents are supposed to do. I'm just
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Speaker 1: really damn confused. You're just, it's just going to take time.
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Speaker 1: And it sounds like you have a kick-ass wife and
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Speaker 1: you sound great too. So I think you're just enjoy
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Speaker 1: your time with your wife. You know, that's your family.
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Speaker 1: So just enjoy your time with your, with your wife,
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Speaker 1: you know, but let's read comments. You are Get over
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Speaker 1: it by enjoying your much more peaceful existence. Seriously, just
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Speaker 1: move on and live your life to the fullest without
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Speaker 1: all the drama dragging you down. Essentially exactly what I said, okay? OP,
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Speaker 1: you and your wife need to be prepared on what
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Speaker 1: to do once you have children. Because if they find
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Speaker 1: out that they are going to be grandparents, they will
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Speaker 1: very likely demand to see their grandchildren. That's assuming if
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Speaker 1: they want kids. My wife and I have been thinking
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Speaker 1: about this, but honestly, if they treated me so badly,
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Speaker 1: I definitely not want my own kids near them and
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Speaker 1: neither would my wife. Good for you. We love boundaries.
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Speaker 1: We love boundaries. Is there another update? No more update.
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Speaker 1: No more update. Yeah, that's just silly. Your brother is
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Speaker 1: corny AF. That was crazy. I'll give you a better life, baby. What?
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Speaker 1: Like in a box in the middle of the street? Like,
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Speaker 1: what do you have to offer? Let's move on to
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Speaker 1: something bigger and better. But I'm glad you cut them off.
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Speaker 1: I think you deserve better. I'm really happy you guys
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Speaker 1: have each other. And that's that. That's that. Let's move on.
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Speaker 1: Am I the scallywag? My girlfriend is angry that I
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Speaker 1: call my friend by his real name. I would think
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Speaker 1: it'd be like a really bad nickname or something like
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Speaker 1: an offensive one, but it's a real name. Weird. Okay,
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Speaker 1: let's just read. Everyone who knows my ex-boyfriend, 33 male,
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Speaker 1: calls him either JT or by his last name. I,
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Speaker 1: 29 male, was never among those people. He introduced himself
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Speaker 1: to me by his first name. Jude. I love that name.
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Speaker 1: I love that name a lot. So that's what I've
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Speaker 1: always called him. Two years ago, he and I broke
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Speaker 1: up due to him getting a promotion that included a
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Speaker 1: ton of traveling. I love him and I definitely didn't
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Speaker 1: want him turning down an opportunity like that for me.
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Speaker 1: We tried long distance and it wasn't sustainable for us.
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Speaker 1: I'm a homebody through and through and I like having
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Speaker 1: my person home with me too. Okay, didn't realize we
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Speaker 1: were spitting rhymes out. I've been dating my current girlfriend,
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Speaker 1: a 29 female, for about eight months now. Jude has
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Speaker 1: recently transferred positions within his company again and is back
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Speaker 1: in our city for the majority of the time. We
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Speaker 1: didn't end on bad terms at all, so we're still friends.
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Speaker 1: My girlfriend always said she was fine with that. After
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Speaker 1: a group outing with him, my girlfriend and some other friends,
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Speaker 1: she asked why I call him something different than everyone else.
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Speaker 1: This has since turned into a multi-day argument where she
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Speaker 1: claims that calling him by his first name when no
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Speaker 1: one else does is too intimate. I was like, what
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Speaker 1: is the problem? What's his name? What? What's his name?
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Speaker 1: She said it's a relationship thing and that I need
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Speaker 1: to start treating him like a friend. I said she's
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Speaker 1: being ridiculous and unbelievably insecure. It's his name, not a
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Speaker 1: term of endearment. Yeah, see, it'd be different. It'd be
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Speaker 1: different if it was like a cutesy nickname or something. Like,
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Speaker 1: I don't know, like, my little baked bean or something.
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Speaker 1: You're like, I don't know. I don't know whatever cutesy
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Speaker 1: names you guys have for your other significant other. I
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Speaker 1: don't think that that's, you're calling him by his name
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Speaker 1: because he introduced himself by that name to you. So
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Speaker 1: I don't think there's, literally anything wrong with that and
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Speaker 1: that's just it I really like I always try to
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Speaker 1: play devil's advocate but I really think she needs to
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Speaker 1: just be okay with that that's just that's literally his
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Speaker 1: name so how about she can call him that name too, maybe,
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Speaker 1: if they're around, because she knows him by that name, right?
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Speaker 1: I don't know. This seems a little silly. I mean, okay. Christina,
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Speaker 1: take off your shoes and put them on her shoes, okay?
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Speaker 1: I mean, so wait, my name, everybody calls me Chris, right?
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Speaker 1: Hence the username. My real name, my full name is Christina.
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Speaker 1: The only people who call me Christina are my husband
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Speaker 1: and my family members. They all call me Christina. My
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Speaker 1: stepdad's name is Chris, so it's weird to have two Chrises.
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Speaker 1: And I've grown to just like my name. I used
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Speaker 1: to hate the name Christina, but now I love it.
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Speaker 1: I don't know, like if... Caleb and I, you know,
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Speaker 1: knock on wood, break up, and then he gets with
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Speaker 1: somebody else, and then he's like, oh yeah, Christina. I
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Speaker 1: just don't see how that's weird. I just don't see
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Speaker 1: how that's weird. Like, that's just what you call them.
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Speaker 1: I don't know. I was really trying to see it
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Speaker 1: from their perspective. I mean, yeah, it's a different name,
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Speaker 1: and maybe it's a little bit more intimate somehow. Like
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Speaker 1: if somebody on the street calls me Christina, which has
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Speaker 1: happened before because people know me and they listen to
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Speaker 1: stuff I do and they've heard my name, it freaks
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Speaker 1: me out. I'm like, what the fuck? It's fine though
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Speaker 1: because it's my name, you know? I'm on this guy's side.
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Speaker 1: I'm on OP's side, I'm sorry. I just am. And
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Speaker 1: maybe I'm wrong. Maybe I'm stupid. I don't know. Let's
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Speaker 1: see what the comments say. Info, how long were you
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Speaker 1: and Jude dating? I mean, I don't think that changes
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Speaker 1: the name thing necessarily, but we'll see. It's not about
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Speaker 1: the Iranian yogurt. What? What? Iranian yo, what is ha- what?
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Speaker 1: I'm too dumb for that. Your girlfriend feels uneasy and
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Speaker 1: insecure because the man that you love and with whom
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Speaker 1: your relationship ended specifically because long distance didn't work is
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Speaker 1: no longer long distance. You and she have only been
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Speaker 1: together for eight months versus the years of you and
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Speaker 1: Jude having a connection, whether dating or not. Sure. Sure. Yeah.
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Speaker 1: You know, I understand that with her. I mean, there's
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Speaker 1: natural insecurity. Like if, yeah, roles reversed, I'm in her
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Speaker 1: shoes and like, you didn't break up with this person
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Speaker 1: because you guys didn't get along or you weren't compatible.
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Speaker 1: It's just, it's literally only because of distance. So I
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Speaker 1: can completely see the insecurity there and you guys are
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Speaker 1: still friends and there's all those things. But I feel
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Speaker 1: like the name thing is just like, you're, you're just, you're, you're, uh, you're, you're, you're, you're,
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Speaker 1: You're scraping the bottom of the barrel there. I don't know.
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Speaker 1: She's scared that you and Jude will get back together
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Speaker 1: and she will be left behind. Is the name thing
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Speaker 1: the exact right way of expressing your concerns? No. Is
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Speaker 1: your response about her being insanely insecure going to help
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Speaker 1: the situation? No. You can't talk to people like that, unfortunately.
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Speaker 1: You can't do that. Wow, you're insanely insecure. Yeah, don't
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Speaker 1: do that. Don't do that to a woman. ever. She
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Speaker 1: needs assurance that you are choosing a romantic and intimate
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Speaker 1: relationship with her and that you have no intentions of
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Speaker 1: trying to resume an emotionally or physically intimate relationship with
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Speaker 1: your ex. But if you still have feelings of romantic
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Speaker 1: love for Jude, you should not be in a relationship
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Speaker 1: because it's not fair to your current partner. That's absolutely true.
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Speaker 1: And this is why I like to read the comments.
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Speaker 1: Cause I'm like, I get so fixated on like one
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Speaker 1: thing and I forget about all the other stuff that
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Speaker 1: I read. Yeah. The insecurity is definitely there. I don't
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Speaker 1: blame her for that. I think that makes perfect sense.
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Speaker 1: And she's a human being. So it's just the name thing.
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Speaker 1: It's like, is that, is that really the hill you're
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Speaker 1: going to die on? Is that the name is too
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Speaker 1: intimate or is it just, or is it just him
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Speaker 1: being friends with his previous partner of years and years
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Speaker 1: and years, you know, potentially. I think OP said we
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Speaker 1: were together for seven and a half years. So I
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Speaker 1: feel like that's probably the reason why and less so
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Speaker 1: with the name. It's just kind of the cherry on
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Speaker 1: top of the cake for her. He goes on to say,
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Speaker 1: I appreciate the advice truly, but if this is how
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Speaker 1: she's feeling, I'd rather her tell me than pick a
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Speaker 1: fight about a name. We're both nearly 30. Yeah, that's fair.
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Speaker 1: And you know, she needs to learn how to really
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Speaker 1: express herself. And if it's not just the name, which
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Speaker 1: I I feel like it's not. Then she needs to
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Speaker 1: express that, to be like, you know, you were together
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Speaker 1: for this many years and he moved away. And I
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Speaker 1: just feel like since he's back and you guys still
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Speaker 1: have a relationship, even though it's just a friendship, it's
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Speaker 1: just making me feel weird. And I don't know if
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Speaker 1: I'm fully comfortable with it. And then see how he responds,
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Speaker 1: you know? Although this is OP's post, I'm not talking
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Speaker 1: to the girl. Yeah, I definitely have empathy for her
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Speaker 1: and sympathy for her. Another comment says, I'm going with
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Speaker 1: not the asshole. If he wanted you... to not call
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Speaker 1: him dude. I could understand it. Your girlfriend doesn't have
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Speaker 1: the right to dictate how you identify someone else. That's
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Speaker 1: kind of what I was fixated on. It's how you've
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Speaker 1: always known him. Yeah, that's what I was fixated on.
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Speaker 1: It's like, you can't police somebody in how they call
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Speaker 1: a name, especially if it's their legal name, like on
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Speaker 1: their passport, you know? OP says exactly if it had
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Speaker 1: come from him, it would make sense. Coming from her,
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Speaker 1: it just seems like a very bizarre thing to focus on.
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Speaker 1: But now that we have the whole picture, now that
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Speaker 1: we have the whole juicy picture with all the context,
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Speaker 1: I can understand where she's coming from because it's really,
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Speaker 1: it's really not about the name. I think. Therapist, sound
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Speaker 1: off below, I know you watch me. How sure are
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Speaker 1: you she is okay with you still being friends with him?
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Speaker 1: As a fellow bi person, I'm guessing you've heard the
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Speaker 1: stereotypes about us being unfaithful or only happy if we
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Speaker 1: have a boyfriend and a girlfriend, which, if that's your bag,
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Speaker 1: good for you so long as everyone is informed and
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Speaker 1: cool with it. Personally, I am one partner at a
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Speaker 1: time person, but I won't yuck someone's yum. I am
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Speaker 1: only curious on this because it seems like people make
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Speaker 1: a lot of assumptions about bisexual people without actually getting
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Speaker 1: to know the individual. I'm wondering if they're is some
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Speaker 1: bias leaking into her judgment. OP said, I told her
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Speaker 1: even before the start of our relationship that one, I'm
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Speaker 1: bisexual and two, that he and I were friends and
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Speaker 1: if that was a problem, then we shouldn't be together.
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Speaker 1: She's allowed to say okay and then not be comfortable
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Speaker 1: with it later on, but then she needs to leave.
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Speaker 1: because you clearly aren't willing to get rid of that friendship,
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Speaker 1: which is fair. I think romantic partners expecting people to
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Speaker 1: cut off their friends is probably the reddest red flag
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Speaker 1: there is. She said it wasn't a problem. Everybody has
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Speaker 1: their own opinions. I don't think a romantic partner wanting
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Speaker 1: you not to be really good friends with a previous
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Speaker 1: very long romantic partner is a red flag necessarily. I
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Speaker 1: feel like that's... be normal, but it doesn't mean you
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Speaker 1: have to settle for that. I mean, that's just, that's fine.
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Speaker 1: Like if, if, if you don't, I feel like you
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Speaker 1: guys aren't compatible because I feel like it's not fine
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Speaker 1: with her and you aren't willing to cut off that friend,
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Speaker 1: which is fine. You know, I know people that maintain
16:08
Speaker 1: relationships with exes and stuff, not necessarily like on really good,
16:12
Speaker 1: super friendly terms, but speaking term, sure. But you guys
16:15
Speaker 1: seem like besties kind of, which is, that's gotta be
16:18
Speaker 1: hard for a romantic partner. Another comment says you're putting
16:21
Speaker 1: your ex before any possible romantic relationship. Maybe you just
16:26
Speaker 1: shouldn't be with your ex. You are saying at the
16:28
Speaker 1: start of the relationship, I would choose this person's friendship
16:31
Speaker 1: over you. You already kind of snuck in that little,
16:34
Speaker 1: that little tiny atom bomb into the back of her
16:37
Speaker 1: head that was like, I'll always choose him over you.
16:40
Speaker 1: And now it's just kind of with the you saying
16:42
Speaker 1: his name, like his legal name, whatever that nobody calls him.
16:45
Speaker 1: It's just like, or at the back of her head,
16:47
Speaker 1: I think personally. She knows deep down he means more
16:50
Speaker 1: to you than she does. Yeah, maybe she could handle
16:53
Speaker 1: that when he was far away, but not now that
16:55
Speaker 1: he is back and she has to watch it right
16:57
Speaker 1: in front of her with knowing that. No relationship is
16:59
Speaker 1: going to last if you put your ex above your partner.
17:02
Speaker 1: I don't disagree. I don't disagree at all. OP said,
17:04
Speaker 1: that's fair. I appreciate your comment. It's something I'll think on.
17:07
Speaker 1: We love that. We love thinking on it. We love
17:09
Speaker 1: improving ourselves. It's just important to me to note that
17:11
Speaker 1: this was not just an ex. This was my best
17:14
Speaker 1: friend for eight years. I understand that it was your
17:16
Speaker 1: best friend, but it was also your boyfriend. So it's like,
17:19
Speaker 1: it is different. It's different than just being a friend.
17:22
Speaker 1: Like you guys were, you know, intimate or whatever. But,
17:26
Speaker 1: you know, I don't think it's okay for her to
17:28
Speaker 1: say you cannot call him dude and that it's weird
17:31
Speaker 1: or whatever because I don't think it is. And she
17:33
Speaker 1: should be able to express that in maybe a different way.
17:36
Speaker 1: But maybe she doesn't even realize it at this point.
17:38
Speaker 1: You need to understand, though, that this is a weird situation. Like,
17:42
Speaker 1: it's a bit weird. And it's fine. But if you are, like,
17:45
Speaker 1: not willing to put up any sort of boundaries with
17:48
Speaker 1: that friend, then maybe you just shouldn't be in a
17:50
Speaker 1: relationship with this person. specific person, I think. Because I
17:53
Speaker 1: feel like you're both just kind of digging holes in
17:56
Speaker 1: different directions. Does that make sense? There's an update though,
18:00
Speaker 1: six days later. My girlfriend and I sat down for
18:01
Speaker 1: a long conversation a few days ago. I went into
18:04
Speaker 1: it knowing that separation was the right choice here. Okay, wow. Still,
18:08
Speaker 1: I wanted us to have a real talk about our feelings.
18:10
Speaker 1: So I tried to open up the floor for a
18:12
Speaker 1: discussion about what was really bothering her beyond the name issue.
18:15
Speaker 1: She continually insisted it truly was only about that. Maybe,
18:19
Speaker 1: and maybe it was, maybe it was. You know, I
18:20
Speaker 1: love reading into things and then like tearing the page
18:24
Speaker 1: open and trying to dissect what's in the paper. I
18:26
Speaker 1: do that a lot. Maybe it was just that. Some
18:28
Speaker 1: of the comments on my other posts led me to
18:30
Speaker 1: do a lot of thinking. I was with Jude from
18:32
Speaker 1: the time I was 19 until I was 27. Oh
18:35
Speaker 1: my God. So like all of your formidable years, basically.
18:37
Speaker 1: I spent almost all of my twenties with him. I'm
18:40
Speaker 1: now just a few months shy of 30. Same. I
18:43
Speaker 1: don't want to talk about it. Just kidding. I'm excited
18:45
Speaker 1: to be 30. I don't give a fuck. And the
18:46
Speaker 1: next decade of my life has been on my mind.
18:48
Speaker 1: I don't know if I'll get to spend it with
18:50
Speaker 1: who I want to, but I know being alone is
18:52
Speaker 1: better than spending it with the wrong person. I'm going
18:55
Speaker 1: to be taking some time for myself. I've never been
18:57
Speaker 1: a relationship hopper. My previous relationship was my first anyway.
19:00
Speaker 1: And I think it's important the people in my life
19:03
Speaker 1: know that they're more important than that. Thank you. for
19:06
Speaker 1: all the feedback, some of the specific exchanges I had
19:09
Speaker 1: here helped spark the internal conversation I needed to have
19:12
Speaker 1: with myself to figure out what I wanted. All right.
19:14
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, sounds like you guys aren't together anymore.
19:17
Speaker 1: And I feel like that's probably the way it should be.
19:19
Speaker 1: I feel like you need to maybe, maybe spend some
19:21
Speaker 1: time with yourself since you, I mean, you had a
19:24
Speaker 1: relationship all through your twenties, basically. So you got to
19:27
Speaker 1: figure out what you really want and, you know, you
19:29
Speaker 1: got to realize what you want on a partner, what,
19:32
Speaker 1: a partner might want in you and what like expectations
19:35
Speaker 1: that you want and vice versa. You just, you learn
19:38
Speaker 1: so much through every relationship you go through, you know,
19:40
Speaker 1: and this is just a stepping stone and that's okay.
19:42
Speaker 1: And you're still young. Okay. You're only almost 30. Okay.
19:46
Speaker 1: You're still young. We're still young. I don't know if
19:48
Speaker 1: she was heard out as much. and maybe I feel like,
19:52
Speaker 1: you know, I can speculate here. It's my own channel.
19:54
Speaker 1: I feel like internally you just want to be with
19:56
Speaker 1: Jude and maybe you should, you know, I feel like,
19:59
Speaker 1: I feel like maybe people won't live up to the
20:02
Speaker 1: Jude spectate, the Jude spectation, you know, the expectations of Jude,
20:06
Speaker 1: the pedestal that he is on. Potentially. Maybe I'm wrong.
20:10
Speaker 1: Maybe I'm speculating. Maybe I'm assuming and I'm making an
20:13
Speaker 1: ass out of you and me. But that's just what
20:15
Speaker 1: I think and I can think that. What do you
20:17
Speaker 1: guys think? Am I the Scullywag for getting a tattoo
20:20
Speaker 1: knowing it will upset my mommy? We're living the same lives.
20:23
Speaker 1: Let's read it. I am 19 female and currently looking
20:26
Speaker 1: to get my first tattoo. I've always known I'd want
20:29
Speaker 1: to get tattoos and have spent some time since coming
20:31
Speaker 1: of legal age to plan out the styles that I
20:34
Speaker 1: like and what specific designs I would want. My first
20:36
Speaker 1: tattoo is going to be a small piece of my
20:38
Speaker 1: upper inner arm of my two cats. Ah, cute. You
20:42
Speaker 1: can never, you can never rip cats or your animals.
20:45
Speaker 1: I've had them since childhood and they've gotten me through
20:47
Speaker 1: some really tough mental health periods growing up and struggling
20:50
Speaker 1: through school. As they're getting older, I want a way
20:52
Speaker 1: to keep them with me forever. And this seems like
20:55
Speaker 1: the perfect first tattoo for me. I got a K.
20:58
Speaker 1: I got a K on my finger for Kevin, my baby,
21:00
Speaker 1: my first puppy. My first puppy of my own. So
21:03
Speaker 1: love that. I'm not mad at that at all, but
21:05
Speaker 1: I'm not your mom. So my opinion doesn't matter. I'm
21:08
Speaker 1: literally typing this out with the two of them curled
21:10
Speaker 1: up next to me. I've been in contact with an
21:12
Speaker 1: artist who is sketching a design for me and I'm so...
21:15
Speaker 1: being excited. The problem? My mom, who is pretty much
21:17
Speaker 1: my best friend in this entire world, hates tattoos. Her
21:21
Speaker 1: and I pretty much agree on everything except this. I
21:24
Speaker 1: love that you're friends, though. That's adorable. When I got
21:26
Speaker 1: my eyebrow pierced a few years back, she didn't speak
21:28
Speaker 1: to me for a week, but has gradually come to
21:30
Speaker 1: accept I've been upfront with her about wanting tattoos since
21:33
Speaker 1: the beginning, because we basically tell each other everything. And
21:35
Speaker 1: she knows that she can't stop me from getting them done,
21:38
Speaker 1: but she's not going to support it or be happy
21:40
Speaker 1: about it. I actually held off getting something done after
21:42
Speaker 1: I turned 18 to wait until she was in a
21:44
Speaker 1: good place with her work and personal stuff. That's really
21:47
Speaker 1: sweet of you, at least. That's really nice. Not that
21:49
Speaker 1: she was in a bad place or anything, but I
21:51
Speaker 1: just wanted to make sure I wouldn't be adding anything
21:53
Speaker 1: to her plate. Okay, you sound like a really good daughter.
21:55
Speaker 1: And also, it's your body. You can do whatever you want,
21:57
Speaker 1: and you're like an adult now, so whatever. But you also...
21:59
Speaker 1: sound really considerate and sweet. I'm on your side. Because
22:02
Speaker 1: I've been in contact with the artist, I told her
22:04
Speaker 1: today that the tattoo would be coming soon. She can
22:07
Speaker 1: barely look at me now. She says she can't imagine
22:09
Speaker 1: something more ridiculous and irresponsible, that I'm going to be
22:12
Speaker 1: so ashamed that I haven't thought this through, et cetera,
22:14
Speaker 1: et cetera. I know a lot of her opinions are
22:16
Speaker 1: a generational thing, but I also think it's really unfair
22:19
Speaker 1: of her to say it's stupid and I'm not thinking
22:21
Speaker 1: about it when it's not like I'm getting it just
22:23
Speaker 1: for the sake of it. It has meaning that is
22:26
Speaker 1: important to me. She said that when I get it done,
22:28
Speaker 1: she won't speak to me for a while and probably
22:30
Speaker 1: won't be able to look at me. That's crazy. crazy. Mom,
22:33
Speaker 1: what are we doing? Come on. Like, I understand. My
22:36
Speaker 1: mom didn't want me to get tattoos either. She did
22:39
Speaker 1: not want me to color my hair. I've actually been
22:41
Speaker 1: growing out my natural hair. This is all my natural
22:43
Speaker 1: hair here. Just the little tippy tips. Those are a
22:45
Speaker 1: little bit lighter. But there you go, mom. I'm growing
22:47
Speaker 1: out my natural hair. She's like, don't dye your blonde hair.
22:50
Speaker 1: And then I dyed it rainbow. You know, I was
22:54
Speaker 1: an asshole. It's just, you know, I feel like moms,
22:58
Speaker 1: especially she's like your best friend. She just loves you.
23:01
Speaker 1: And she probably loves like everything about you and that
23:03
Speaker 1: you're so beautiful that she just doesn't want you like
23:06
Speaker 1: tainted by anything like hair color or like, like tattoos
23:10
Speaker 1: or anything like that. So, you know, that's her perspective.
23:12
Speaker 1: I'm just assuming, you know, she probably means it out
23:14
Speaker 1: of love, but this is so toxic. Like that's so
23:17
Speaker 1: toxic for her to say she won't speak to you.
23:20
Speaker 1: So your worth is based on whether you have, don't
23:24
Speaker 1: have tattoos on your body? Or like, what is, what
23:26
Speaker 1: is the purpose of this? Like, I think she thinks like, oh,
23:29
Speaker 1: if I tell her I won't speak to her, she
23:31
Speaker 1: won't get the tattoo. Why does that matter, mom? That's
23:33
Speaker 1: not your body. Like you can't control her. You're just
23:35
Speaker 1: going to push her away, which sucks. Like she's just
23:38
Speaker 1: going to push. Like, I think you're actually very emotionally
23:40
Speaker 1: mature for being only 19 years old. Like you're very sweet.
23:43
Speaker 1: You're very considerate. I just, I think that's a, like
23:46
Speaker 1: mom can have an opinion, but going about it in
23:48
Speaker 1: the way of saying like, oh, I'm not going to
23:50
Speaker 1: talk to you, actually, if you do that. It's like,
23:52
Speaker 1: I don't know. I just don't think that's a great idea.
23:54
Speaker 1: It's one thing to say like, oh, I wish you
23:56
Speaker 1: wouldn't do that, you know, because my mom said that.
23:59
Speaker 1: And then I did it and she's like, oh, all right.
24:02
Speaker 1: You know, it's just like. She's my best friend, so
24:04
Speaker 1: I can't do anything. Anyway, I know that this will
24:07
Speaker 1: break my heart because she is my absolute rock and
24:10
Speaker 1: I struggle going a day without talking to her if
24:12
Speaker 1: either of us are working or traveling, let alone if
24:15
Speaker 1: she does it out of anger or for multiple dates.
24:17
Speaker 1: So am I the asshole for knowingly doing something that
24:19
Speaker 1: will cause a rift in our relationship? I feel kind
24:22
Speaker 1: of stuck. I know I want to do this for myself,
24:24
Speaker 1: but knowing that I am actively harming my relationship with
24:27
Speaker 1: pretty much my favorite person is eating me up inside.
24:29
Speaker 1: Is there any way I can make this process easier
24:32
Speaker 1: or hurt less? Have any of you been through a
24:34
Speaker 1: similar experience? Any advice would be really appreciated. But yeah,
24:37
Speaker 1: I mean, I kind of already said my piece, but
24:39
Speaker 1: I think one, you're an adult, you can do whatever
24:42
Speaker 1: you want. You're being very considerate and like giving her
24:45
Speaker 1: heads up and you're not like sneaking behind her back
24:47
Speaker 1: and surprising her and all this stuff. She is absolutely
24:50
Speaker 1: trying to manipulate you, trying to gaslight you. She's being
24:54
Speaker 1: very toxic, like classic. I don't want to say, it's
24:57
Speaker 1: just classic mom shit basically I don't know about y'all
25:01
Speaker 1: but and I don't blame them like my mom has
25:03
Speaker 1: done not like I won't talk to you if you
25:06
Speaker 1: do this but just classic like well they'll be disappointed
25:09
Speaker 1: if you do that you know just classic manipulation tactics
25:13
Speaker 1: and whatnot which I'm gonna I you know if I
25:15
Speaker 1: ever have a kid I'm gonna I'm going to try
25:18
Speaker 1: not to do that because I think it's, I think
25:19
Speaker 1: it's just really toxic. I think it just, it's going
25:21
Speaker 1: to pull you apart. And hopefully, I think you'll get
25:24
Speaker 1: it and she'll be upset for a little bit and
25:26
Speaker 1: then she'll get over it and realize you're her daughter
25:29
Speaker 1: and that the relationship means more than a f *
25:31
Speaker 1: * * ing tattoo because that's ridiculous. So. That's my
25:35
Speaker 1: two cents. Not the asshole. It's your body and she's
25:38
Speaker 1: choosing to distance to control you. That's what I literally
25:40
Speaker 1: just said. OP said, yeah, I know. Both my parents
25:43
Speaker 1: do it as their main form of retaliation. Oh, great.
25:46
Speaker 1: Two toxic parents that manipulate and cast light. Fantastic. We
25:50
Speaker 1: love to hear it. Otherwise, they're both amazing with dealing
25:53
Speaker 1: with conflict, but I hate when they do this because
25:55
Speaker 1: it's so hard to get through to them and reach
25:57
Speaker 1: a solution. How do I get through it? I've told
25:59
Speaker 1: her it's hurtful before and doesn't get us anywhere, but
26:01
Speaker 1: she says she's entitled to react in a way that
26:03
Speaker 1: she wants. She's a full-grown woman adult. She can react
26:08
Speaker 1: as she wants. She doesn't need to make you feel
26:12
Speaker 1: stupid and small and like you will never be able
26:15
Speaker 1: to talk to your mother again. That's really bad in
26:19
Speaker 1: my opinion. I know I'm still gonna get another tattoo
26:21
Speaker 1: because you're right, it's my body, but I wish I
26:23
Speaker 1: could minimize the family follow. Yeah, this really just makes
26:26
Speaker 1: me sad. That really just makes me sad. And you
26:28
Speaker 1: know what it's going to take, probably, with this type
26:30
Speaker 1: of person? And I hope it doesn't, but it'll probably
26:33
Speaker 1: take you putting up your own boundaries and distancing yourself
26:36
Speaker 1: and calling her out. Like, fully calling her out, not
26:39
Speaker 1: like the sugarcoating calling out coming from experience. Yeah, it'll
26:44
Speaker 1: take that. And then it'll just be a whirlwind probably
26:47
Speaker 1: for her to be like, you know, you're my daughter.
26:49
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I love you no matter what. I just
26:52
Speaker 1: thought this, that, and the other. And that doesn't mean
26:54
Speaker 1: all that. And, you know, hopefully it goes that way.
26:57
Speaker 1: Hopefully you don't have to, you know, put a ultimatum
27:00
Speaker 1: or like a canon event in your life. But I
27:03
Speaker 1: don't know. I feel like it'll be hard any other way,
27:06
Speaker 1: but we'll see, because we actually have an update, so
27:08
Speaker 1: I would like to read that. Next day. Okay. I've
27:10
Speaker 1: gone ahead and booked my tattoo appointment for next week.
27:13
Speaker 1: I'm excited. I have a friend coming with me to
27:16
Speaker 1: support and honestly so, so excited to see what the
27:18
Speaker 1: artist has come up with to capture my boys, the cats.
27:20
Speaker 1: I told my mom when I got home from uni,
27:22
Speaker 1: very upfront, I basically said, I know this is going
27:25
Speaker 1: to upset you, but I figured you should know that
27:26
Speaker 1: my tattoo appointment is booked for next week at date
27:29
Speaker 1: and time. I won't tell you any more information if
27:31
Speaker 1: you don't want it, but I'm going ahead with it
27:33
Speaker 1: and it's my choice and something I've thought about and
27:35
Speaker 1: really want. Good for you, sweetie. She didn't say anything
27:38
Speaker 1: the whole time. And when I was done, just picked
27:41
Speaker 1: up her phone. So I took that as my cue
27:43
Speaker 1: to leave. You are substantially more mature than her emotionally.
27:49
Speaker 1: That's crazy. Good for you. To just ignore, again, Stonewall
27:53
Speaker 1: and then ignore you and then look at her phone.
27:55
Speaker 1: Like that's what I would imagine if like a immature
27:59
Speaker 1: 20 year old like boy and his girlfriend were arguing.
28:02
Speaker 1: He's like, whatever. like just looks at his phone. It's
28:05
Speaker 1: so odd and such a terrible tactic. This makes me angry. However,
28:09
Speaker 1: when I told my dad, who I thought was more
28:11
Speaker 1: chill about the matter, he sighed and shook his head,
28:14
Speaker 1: asking where I was getting it and how big it
28:16
Speaker 1: was going to be, all while huffing and rolling his eyes.
28:18
Speaker 1: He then asked me where I was getting the money from.
28:20
Speaker 1: I told him the truth. I've been keeping a small
28:22
Speaker 1: separate fund for a tattoo that I've slowly been adding to.
28:24
Speaker 1: He then called me a liar for the times I've
28:26
Speaker 1: said I have no money. Wow, your parents are... Do
28:29
Speaker 1: you want to get adopted? I know you're 19, but...
28:31
Speaker 1: Just come to my house, hon. Just come to my house.
28:34
Speaker 1: You know, I feel like it's just, this just makes
28:37
Speaker 1: me mad. Which like for small frivolous purchases is true.
28:40
Speaker 1: I work minimum wage and have a lot of weekly
28:42
Speaker 1: expenses and said something about, this is how it starts.
28:44
Speaker 1: Is this really who you want to be? unquote, whatever
28:48
Speaker 1: the that means. I think he thinks that when I
28:51
Speaker 1: get a tattoo, I'm going to become a horrible person.
28:53
Speaker 1: I don't even know. I know that the fallout after
28:56
Speaker 1: the tattoo is going to be worse. So I'm going
28:57
Speaker 1: to take the time leading up to it, mentally prepare myself,
29:00
Speaker 1: make sure I'm surrounded by friends and loved ones who are,
29:03
Speaker 1: aren't fussed about this stuff, which is mostly my cousins.
29:06
Speaker 1: I'm very close with my older aunt. and grandma, but
29:08
Speaker 1: they hate tattoos, so I don't think they'll be on
29:10
Speaker 1: my side either. It's going to suck, especially because I
29:13
Speaker 1: am truly super close with my parents, despite what this
29:15
Speaker 1: post may suggest. The three of us spend a lot
29:18
Speaker 1: of time together, not because I have no friends, lmao.
29:20
Speaker 1: I do promise, and I'm going to find their distance
29:22
Speaker 1: very hurtful, but I'm happy that I'm doing this for
29:24
Speaker 1: me and excited to start this new chapter. I'll try
29:26
Speaker 1: to update as to what happens after my tattoo if
29:29
Speaker 1: I can. Thank you so much to everyone who commented
29:31
Speaker 1: their kind words and encouraged me to pursue things that
29:33
Speaker 1: make me happy. I wish you all much love. God,
29:35
Speaker 1: you're sweet. Oh, I want to see your tattoo and
29:38
Speaker 1: I want to tell you how beautiful it is. I
29:39
Speaker 1: just wonder, I wonder if it's like a, like since
29:41
Speaker 1: the aunties and uncles, I guess it must just be
29:44
Speaker 1: a generational thing. Maybe it's a cultural thing too. Who knows?
29:47
Speaker 1: I know there are some cultures that kind of frown
29:48
Speaker 1: upon getting tattoos and all that kind of stuff or
29:50
Speaker 1: religions or what have you, but we haven't heard that.
29:53
Speaker 1: So I'm just, I can only assume that it's just a,
29:55
Speaker 1: maybe a generational thing and just, I don't know. I
29:58
Speaker 1: don't really know. Which, like, that is the only benefit
30:01
Speaker 1: of the doubt I'm going to give them is, like,
30:02
Speaker 1: they grew up in a different time. But there were
30:04
Speaker 1: plenty of tattoos, like, you know, 50 years ago. So,
30:07
Speaker 1: I don't know. Maybe not as many. Or, like, 20
30:09
Speaker 1: years ago, 30 years ago. You know, I'm assuming they're, like,
30:11
Speaker 1: really old. But they're probably just, like, if she's 19, like, 40,
30:14
Speaker 1: 50 maybe. So... I don't know. I just, I just
30:18
Speaker 1: think their, their parenting skills are lacking with the threatening
30:23
Speaker 1: and the gaslighting and the manipulation and the feeling bad
30:27
Speaker 1: for saving money and not wanting to buy just little
30:30
Speaker 1: frivolous things that you don't have to. And that means
30:32
Speaker 1: you're lying. Like what? It's just very odd. Like you
30:36
Speaker 1: owe them like taxed money or something. It's just really weird.
30:39
Speaker 1: But we have another update. So let's read that. Five
30:42
Speaker 1: days later. Ooh. Okay. Did she get the... tattoo? To
30:44
Speaker 1: answer some questions commented on my first update. No, I
30:47
Speaker 1: am not Jewish or any form of religion culture that
30:49
Speaker 1: has specific problems with tattoos. So that's not where the
30:52
Speaker 1: concern comes from. Okay. Yeah. I didn't think so. I
30:54
Speaker 1: don't live in the U S I'm Australian. I feel
30:56
Speaker 1: like Australians love tattoos, man. It's so weird. When I
31:00
Speaker 1: said that, I think it's a generational thing. My parents
31:03
Speaker 1: grew up in somewhat upper class. I'm not going to
31:06
Speaker 1: do this. My parents grew up in somewhat upper class
31:09
Speaker 1: areas in the 70s and 80s. They had me when
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Speaker 1: they were older, where the only people who had tattoos
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Speaker 1: were the people who had been in prison or people
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Speaker 1: from the military. Okay, that's fair. Or as they say,
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Speaker 1: I reckon they probably, oh, now you say I reckon.
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Speaker 1: That sounds so Australian. I reckon they're probably more common
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Speaker 1: than that though. Yeah, they absolutely are. I mentioned in
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Speaker 1: my update, I was worried about telling my grandma and
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Speaker 1: older auntie, I'm butchering this, I'm so sorry, who I
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Speaker 1: thought had the same views. I went out for lunch
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Speaker 1: with them yesterday and before I left home, my dad
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Speaker 1: told me that my mom had said to him to
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Speaker 1: tell me apologies for long-winded sentence, to under no circumstances
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Speaker 1: mention it to my grandma, something like that she's 89
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Speaker 1: and doesn't need that kind of stress. I feel like
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Speaker 1: I sound New Zealand, like a Kiwi, kind of, rather
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Speaker 1: than Australian. I'm going to stop doing that. But honestly,
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Speaker 1: my grandma is one of my biggest supporters. She was
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Speaker 1: totally fine when I came out to her as a
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Speaker 1: lesbian a few years back, and I chat to her
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Speaker 1: pretty much weekly about stupid teenage gossip, which she's super
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Speaker 1: cool with. We have a very special relationship, and I
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Speaker 1: think my mom forgot to take that into account and
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Speaker 1: was just thinking about the fact that she's nearly 90
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Speaker 1: years old from a conservative background. Well, I told my
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Speaker 1: grandma and auntie yesterday, and they were super chill about it.
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Speaker 1: They said that, well, it's not their thing. They understand
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Speaker 1: it's important to me and were happy I was doing
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Speaker 1: something that made them happy. See, you can still have
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Speaker 1: an opinion and still be happy for someone and still
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Speaker 1: maintain a relationship, mommy and daddy. Look at that. They
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Speaker 1: asked to see the designs. My auntie, who's an amazing artist,
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Speaker 1: even offered to draw my next tattoos. And they both
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Speaker 1: encouraged me to go to them if things are tough
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Speaker 1: with my parents. They're amazing and I love them. Oh,
32:43
Speaker 1: I'm so glad you have support. So the moment of truth. Today,
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Speaker 1: I got my first ever tattoo. I'm so in love
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Speaker 1: with it. My artist was incredible and made the process
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Speaker 1: fun and enjoyable. I made sure to give my parents
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Speaker 1: space both today and in the days leading up to today.
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Speaker 1: Not mentioning the tattoo or appointments so as to not
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Speaker 1: rub it in their faces. Again, way more emotionally mature.
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Speaker 1: When I got home a couple hours ago, we chatted
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Speaker 1: like normal for a while until my mom said, well,
33:06
Speaker 1: how'd it go? Well, here to go. I started to
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Speaker 1: say that the session went great and the artist was
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Speaker 1: lovely and she cut me off saying, are you going
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Speaker 1: to show us or what? So I just lifted up
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Speaker 1: my sleeve and showed them. They were quite quiet for
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Speaker 1: a couple of seconds, leaning in to look at it.
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Speaker 1: My dad just said, it's bigger than I thought. Ah!
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Speaker 1: My mom went much bigger with the grimace or whatever.
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Speaker 1: My dad asked me if it hurt and how long
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Speaker 1: it took. So I guess that was nice. And then
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Speaker 1: just took myself off to bed, hugging and kissing them
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Speaker 1: both goodnight like everything was normal. I'm just going to
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Speaker 1: give them space with it and act like normal because
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Speaker 1: it is normal. This is nothing insane or horrible. And
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Speaker 1: I can see now that my anxieties around their reactions
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Speaker 1: made me make it into something that seemed way bigger.
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Speaker 1: It's my body and my decision to make. And I'm
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Speaker 1: so happy I've made it. You can take a peek
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Speaker 1: My tattoo here. Oh, I'm so excited. I'm so excited
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Speaker 1: to see the little kitties. Are you kidding me? Are
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Speaker 1: you joking me? That is a freaking adorable. I don't
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Speaker 1: know why, but I was expecting it to be way
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Speaker 1: more like contrasty and thick and like crazier the way
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Speaker 1: the parents are like, but that is like the cutest, daintiest,
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Speaker 1: most beautiful little tattoo I've ever seen. That is so cute.
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Speaker 1: The fine line work is amazing because you can tell
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Speaker 1: it's like right here on her arm. Like it's not
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Speaker 1: that big. Oh, little kitty cat babies. I love your tattoo.
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Speaker 1: Thank you so, so much to everyone who commented to
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Speaker 1: help me put my big girl pants on and brave
34:24
Speaker 1: the consequences to my own actions. You all really helped
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Speaker 1: me put into perspective and understand that my parents are
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Speaker 1: entitled to their opinions, but they don't have to dictate
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Speaker 1: what I do or don't do. And everyone who shared
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Speaker 1: their own stories, thank you very much. Sending you all
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Speaker 1: the good vibes. Thank you for all your kindness. I
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Speaker 1: feel like it will be fine. You know, I feel
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Speaker 1: like they'll eat it and just be like, wow, maybe
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Speaker 1: we actually did make way more of a deal than
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Speaker 1: we should have. And that's actually her body and we're
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Speaker 1: living in our own bodies and we can do whatever
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Speaker 1: we want. You know, it's just, I don't know. It's
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Speaker 1: just silly stuff they really shouldn't be worrying about and
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Speaker 1: they shouldn't treat you like that and they shouldn't threaten
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Speaker 1: you with silence. But I'm so glad that you are
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Speaker 1: so emotionally mature and you have to give your parents
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Speaker 1: space to just let them Just deal with the fact
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Speaker 1: that a tattoo is in another person's body. God forbid.
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Speaker 1: Two little tiny fluffy fine line babies. Bitch, come on.
35:14
Speaker 1: I really love your tattoo. And let me know what
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Speaker 1: you guys think down below. Did you guys get tattoos
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Speaker 1: and were your parents like horrified when you got yours?
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Speaker 1: I know I got mine and my mom, she was...
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Speaker 1: She was okay with it. My parents were like, oh, oh, interesting.
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Speaker 1: But I didn't, I don't think I told them I
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Speaker 1: was getting it. Maybe I did, but I don't know.
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Speaker 1: They kind of look at me like the black sheep
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Speaker 1: of the family anyway. I kind of like, I dropped
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Speaker 1: out of university, became a YouTuber, you know, got tattoos,
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Speaker 1: have seven dogs, four cats and a chameleon. It's just
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Speaker 1: kind of how I roll. I kind of just don't,
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Speaker 1: I kind of just do what I want. And they're like,
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Speaker 1: all right. They've learned to be like, okay. I respect
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Speaker 1: their opinion though so much. I respect my parents' opinion
35:53
Speaker 1: so much. And I will always take their opinions into account.
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Speaker 1: But they've never threatened to not speak to me if
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Speaker 1: I did something of my own volition that is completely fine, legal,
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Speaker 1: and very common, you know? So I'm sorry that you
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Speaker 1: had to deal with that. And I hope that they
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Speaker 1: come around. Let me know what you guys think. And
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Speaker 1: if you guys have any cool tattoos or any cool stories,
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Speaker 1: and I'll see you in the next one. Okay, bye.