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Stop Negotiating With Yourself · Live 100 Podcast with Jason Yarusi

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  SPEAKER_00: Stop negotiating, stop renegotiating, start taking action today and just keep your work.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today, that's just stop negotiating with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Action ends negotiation.
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  SPEAKER_00: And finally, just keep one promise to yourself right now as you're listening to this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not starting tomorrow.
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  SPEAKER_00: Say, right now, I'm going to do X.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not next Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not when the business calms down, not when you feel motivated, not when you feel like you have more energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's where the majority of people lose.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's not because they lack talent, it's not because they have just somehow missed out on the right opportunity.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's because they've allowed the negotiation to creep into commitments and it compromised your future.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, let's go.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're tired of not feeling fit, tired of just not having a focus, tired of just not having the life that you deserve.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is your place to be.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Jason Your Roosevelt.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today, that's just stop negotiating with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, every morning you make agreements with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're just gonna wake up early, you're gonna get out there and train.
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  SPEAKER_00: First thing you get to the office, you're gonna make that tough call.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna go and have a difficult conversation with a family member, or make sure that the first thing you do out of bed is pray and you're gonna stop wasting time and things that just really don't move your life forward.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then the moment comes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your alarm goes off and you negotiate.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe I just need to sleep another 20 minutes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or you finally pull yourself out of the bed and the first thing you do is go and check what's happened on TikTok.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or write that workout that you said you were gonna do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe I'll get to this afternoon.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when that afternoon comes, you know what, why don't I just start fresh tomorrow morning?
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  SPEAKER_00: You know exactly what you need for the do for the call, but suddenly just answering some mundane emails or just clearing out your spam folder seems like it just becomes that priority.
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  SPEAKER_00: And in this instance, that's where the majority of people lose.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's not because they lack talent, it's not because they have just somehow missed out on the right opportunity.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's because they've allowed the negotiation to creep into commitments and it compromised your future.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's the problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, every time you break an agreement with yourself, you make it just that much easier to, in your mind, whether consciously or subconsciously, to tell yourself that, you know, what I tell myself what I should do, it doesn't matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: The agreements I make with myself, they're just no big deal.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yet when someone else breaks their agreement to us, doesn't hold their word to us, we're furious.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when it happens to ourselves, you know, no big deal.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, what what's the worry?
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, if someone repeatedly told you that they were gonna show up and then repeatedly failed to show up, you wouldn't even trust that person.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you're doing this to yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: You make a promise, then you break it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then you wonder why you don't feel confident.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because the confidence that you're seeking, it's repeated in the affirmations that you mirror, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Confidence, it comes from the evidence.
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  SPEAKER_00: It comes from proving yourself that you're gonna do something and then just showing up and magically doing it, especially when you don't feel like it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And somewhere within there, that self-trust begins to be built.
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  SPEAKER_00: I see this in running all the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Before a long run, I can decide the distance, the pace I'm gonna start.
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  SPEAKER_00: But once I begin, my mind wants to negotiate, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: It wants to say, you know, five miles today, maybe we'll just do three.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or you know what, better yet, let's just do two.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe today should just be a recovery day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe, you know, maybe I shouldn't run it all, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe I should just stop or it because that would be the wise choice.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or it's raining out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whoa, it's raining.
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  SPEAKER_00: So maybe I shouldn't go outside because I might get wet.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that discomfort that you face, that you put yourself through, that's that new information.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because being tired is not this emergency.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, the work becoming difficult is just something in your mind that wants to tell you that the original decision was wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, the only time that you're gonna say taking it easy is good for you is when you're actually taking it easy.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the sacrifice is your future.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that weaker version of you is trying to overturn you in this difficult moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's where everything applies.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, you want to build a business, but you're gonna negotiate with yourself on the daily work.
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  SPEAKER_00: You want to get in shape, but you're gonna talk yourself out of the way to do it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You want to be financially free, but you're just gonna negotiate with your spending.
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  SPEAKER_00: You decide you want to be present with your family, but then you negotiate every single time you're with you to just be on your phone.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, the results, they always reveal which side of the negotiations keep winning.
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  SPEAKER_00: So how are we gonna do this?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, first we're gonna make some commitment.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna stop promising yourself 20 things a day and then completing three.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna make commitments that actually matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna second, you're gonna make them specific.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna go work out more.
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  SPEAKER_00: It really just gives you some negotiation to say, well, what's more?
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I did one more step up today than yesterday, so I guess that's more.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, I'm training at 6 a.m.
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  SPEAKER_00: for 45 minutes.
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  SPEAKER_00: That gives you a clear target.
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  SPEAKER_00: Third, when the movement comes up and the moment in time is there for you to take it, remove the distression, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: The alarm rings, you get up.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's time to train.
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  SPEAKER_00: You start moving.
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  SPEAKER_00: The call needs to be made, you pick up the phone.
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  SPEAKER_00: Action ends negotiation.
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  SPEAKER_00: And finally, just keep one promise to yourself right now as you're listening to this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not starting tomorrow.
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  SPEAKER_00: Say, right now, I'm going to do X.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not next Monday, not when the business calms down, not when you feel motivated, not when you feel like you have more energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Pick that one thing that you would do, pick it and finish it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It might be small, it might be just creating evidence, but you're proving that word has value, that you said you were going to do something and now you did it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't do a way to with today and don't say, oh, tomorrow, tomorrow, tomorrow.
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  SPEAKER_00: Eventually your discipline, it stops feeling like punishment because it becomes part of your identity.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've talked to this before.
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  SPEAKER_00: I get up and work out every day, whether I feel like it or not.
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  SPEAKER_00: I got on a plane yesterday at 6 a.m.
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  SPEAKER_00: flight and I worked out at 3 a.m.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not because I want to, it's because this is what I do.
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  SPEAKER_00: You make the decisions, you keep to them, the next decision gets faster.
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  SPEAKER_00: The bigger challenges, they become less, less hurdles because you stop needing perfect conditions for you to just depend on doing something that you might feel like doing in the moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you want to be next level, you need to require yourself to keep your promise to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it requires you to honor the promises you've already made.
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  SPEAKER_00: Stop negotiating, stop renegotiating, start taking action today, and just keep your word.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, that's I have for today.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the Little Wonder Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm J Shercy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's do this.