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From Foster Care to Forbes Magazine Ryan Stream · Nightmare Success In and Out

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Fear comes to reality. How do you adapt, survive,
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overcome, and do I have a guy that lives the name of this
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program, Nightmare, Success. He's basically a guy that went
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from foster care homes to Forbes magazine, Ryan's Stream.
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I've been and I was just telling you this before I got on.
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I've been a big fan of his from afar.
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He's got an incredible story. He's an award-winning
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motivational speaker and he's a two time military veteran and a
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guy can pretty much do it all. I mean he can he can play the
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piano, you know blindfold them upside.
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It's crazy. He's got a book.
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It's called Conquer Your Colosseum.
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It's all about how to how to steps to create a winning
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personal and professional life. And he knows how to do that
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because he's had to walk through his own nightmares to get to
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where he is today. I'm talking about getting
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through a nightmare. He he's, you know, he talks
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about struggling, build strength, you know, from foster
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care. He struggled with mental health,
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PTSD, learning disability, depression, drug addiction to
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jail. And he made it out.
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He's he's made it out. I can't wait till I unpack all
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Success sent you Ryan Stream. Welcome in my man.
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Thanks, man. Hey, now the personality is
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going to come out. Dude, I love doing these.
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I love hearing you've been doing this for many, many years.
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You just got a huge speaking engagement.
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I think your whole audience needs to know about that.
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You're going to be speaking in front of thousands of people,
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man. That is a highlight for sure.
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Thank you, Ryan. I appreciate that, man.
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You're very well coming from somebody who's done a lot of
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speaking and and you know if you go to anything and follow Ryan
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his Instagram account I I got I got tied into him the other
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night got hooked and looked into he was doing his rapping video
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and it's cool what he can do. Whether you want him to speak or
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whether you want him to sing. Whether you want to play pianos.
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Black guy can do just about anything.
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But I want to go back, right? Because it wasn't this you just
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didn't walk out of the bandbox and it was the Ryan Stream show
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you. You really lived through a
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childhood that people. It's almost like a movie.
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And there are movies, but you're tell us a little bit about your
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childhood and what you went through to get to where you are.
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Yeah man. Well, the video that you saw
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that you are talking about, it's a song about me going from
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homeless shelters, foster care to being adopted into a
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different culture, going to war, being a drug addict.
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That's just a very small glimpse of it.
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But in that video you heard that I forgave my parents.
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As soon as I forgave my parents, man, I went on a an attack,
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right? Everything I am afraid of, I'm
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going to attack. Now I have four businesses, 7
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incomes, almost a psychology degree with the learning
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disability. Seven years ago I was in a car
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going to kill myself, had no job, no income, no nothing.
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So just because I, you or anybody looks like life is
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perfect. It's not perfect.
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It is not perfect for anybody. And I learned that at a young
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age that life was just going to be hard for me.
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And at first, I thought that was the normal.
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But as I got older and I was able to put pieces together, I
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realized, Oh my gosh, this isn't normal.
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You see, my mom was raped twice by the age of 12 years old.
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Both of her parents died by the age of 12.
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So how could I blame my mom for anything?
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How could I? My mom took her life.
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She's no longer here. I don't know what it was.
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At a young age, Ryan, when that happened, right?
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It was, yeah. I was in the ninth grade when
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when sadly, she took her life. And you know, at first you're
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thinking, well, what did I do? Like like maybe could I could
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have done something different. But I never have judged my mom
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or never looked because I shouldn't.
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My mom hugged me. My mom loved me.
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My mom was there the best she could.
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But now that I'm actually studying mental health and
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seeing biologically, chemically, like how the brain and how we
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work, my mom was still the most terrible cards taken advantage
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by men when you're a child. Come on.
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Both parents dying at the age of 12 and then her hoping for
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somebody to save her friends. Well, she got mixed up with the
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wrong friends. I did that too.
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I can't judge. But then she met a man.
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I want to talk about that, Ryan, because your story where a lot
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of people would have made somebody just curl up in the
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fetal position and give up. And from what I understand from
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reading about it, you at a very young age you had brothers and
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you guys were separated through that process.
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How, how old were you when that happened when when you got
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separated and. And I don't know where you fall
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into the order Sibling. Yeah.
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Were you oldest? I was adopted.
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I was adopted in the second grade.
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My birthday's in June, so I'm six.
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I got two older brothers that are a year, one year older and a
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year older. So third grade, just second
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grade, 2nd grade to 4th grade. Excuse me?
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When we got adopted, yeah, man, it it was just hard.
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But you want to know what? When you're broke, when you're
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poor, when you see those things as a kid, that's that's normal.
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You know one thing people ask me about life or even about war.
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Was it scary? Well, yeah, it's scary.
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But we're so resilient. Humans are so resilient.
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We're like a freaking that lizard that could just attach to
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anything. And then you just you blend in.
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Like we are able to adapt. But people, they're afraid to
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adapt. They're afraid to change.
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And people say, well, how do you gain confidence?
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Like, how could I attack? And it's like, dude, you just
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have to do what scares you. We just talked about me buying a
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trucking company. I got.
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I don't even know how to do it, but I got to prove it well.
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In your teenage years, you were you weren't thinking, and I
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don't think you were thinking of the positive thoughts that you
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have now. You were trying to struggle.
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You're trying to get through when you hit those dark, when
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you hit those dark days and you and and you had the addiction
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and and you were going in and out of jail.
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What was going through your mind then?
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Man, you know, you don't think a lot of times.
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And that's what gets you in trouble.
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You don't have a plan. I didn't have a plan.
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I wasn't thinking. That's what got me in trouble.
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But let me put it in in the perfect puzzle pieces to make
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the perfect puzzle for you and your listeners.
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When I was in the second grade, I got adopted and there was a
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motivational speaker that came to my school.
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He was a musician and he spoke and said you can do whatever you
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want. I believed him.
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I went home and the people that adopted me, they had a piano.
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So I sat down and I adopted the piano and I started to create
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music. And I realized that it was the
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bridge between understanding and expressing my emotions.
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So I started to just create music.
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Well, later on I had a, you know, I had to.
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The kid that had to come to school early to read and early
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to write. I I didn't know how to.
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Learning was hard for me. Was it not AS?
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Far as the kids around you, were they tough on you with that or
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or were you able to get through that?
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I mean, sometimes kids can be really mean and and you know, at
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a certain age they don't even know what they're doing.
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They're just, that's just what they, you know, a grade school.
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I mean, how did you get, how did you work yourself through that?
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That's not easy. No, to add on to that, I'm only
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5 foot four with my shoes on, so I'm a very short guy.
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So you know, they would light me up.
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But one thing I've always been was strong.
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I'm like a little bulldog. You mess with me, you're going
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to fight, right? I and I saw that as a little
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kid. So when somebody attacks, you
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attack. I just, you know what I mean?
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So if anybody did that, if I wasn't attacking, it was my
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brothers that were attacking. And I was always very good with
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words. That's my gift.
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I'm very witty. I could, you know, two kids were
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rapping and making fun of me. I walked up to both of them and
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started rapping and the whole school started laughing at them
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like that. I was just so witty and it was a
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gift. But you know, I got lost, man.
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I started hanging out with the wrong people.
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I turned to drugs and, you know, I got what?
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Was your age when that happened to you.
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I got into that. I was 17 years old when I
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started doing things I shouldn't do.
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My parents, they raised me to be good, like most parents would.
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Hopefully I was the homecoming king, winning talent finds.
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We started modeling for companies in high school, man.
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And I came from a town where there's 1900 people.
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So we'd go up to the city and you know, my brother, my older
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brother, he was taller and really good looking.
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And you know, we we all had the gift of gab.
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But it doesn't matter what goals, what dreams, what plans
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you have if you get away from those and you start hanging out
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with the wrong people. You know, I I was an honor
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graduate in the military at 17 years old.
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My plan was to go to the Special Forces.
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I was almost killed in the ninth grade with blood clots.
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I came back and broke this, the track record for a second time,
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12 years old, running up, running a 517 mile, you know,
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and that's before the. I mean, that was wild.
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I mean it. It sounds really unusual too,
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because it to have that success that you're talking about, but
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then to fall into the wrong crowd.
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Was it? Were you living like a double
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life with that? Because you know, you're not
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usually a homecoming king and hanging out with the wrong
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crowd. Yeah man, you know what?
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You know what they say. Whatever you feed, whatever side
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of your spirit or demon you feed, you're going to cater to,
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you know? So even if you're wanting to be
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good and doing good, if you're getting steered this way, well
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there, it's like a snowball effect.
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That grabbed me and then I started rolling.
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Then I started rolling, and by the age of 19 years old, I was
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sued twice, $30,000 in debt. I was homeless in my car, man.
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Assault on a police officer, you know.
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How do you come back from that dude?
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Like, it was hard. My best friend, I got addicted
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to drug. He's dead now, you know?
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So there's so much in my life, so much in my life.
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At that time period, you're in a dark space.
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You're going and you're homeless.
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You've got all these things, these demons that come around
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when and then and then I. What was the next step that
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happened after that? Well, man, you have to realize
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you want to change. When I'm looking around and all
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of us are going to jail. And you know what I mean?
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People are going to prison. And I was in a drug house where
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there was children, You know, I remember waking up one day and
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just walking out the front door. And even another time I was in
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my military uniform, man. And my Sergeant banged on the
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door and kicked me in the back and said, dude, what are you
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doing with your life? Like you're going to lose
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everything, man. And so there was a unit going to
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Afghanistan. And I knew the only way, the
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only way to change your life is to you got to cut people off.
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You got to escape. You got to, you got to change.
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And if you can change, change your hair, if you're shy, be
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loud, change you, you get to do that.
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It's your life. It's your character.
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So I did that. Did my friends hate me for it?
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Yeah. Dude.
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Nobody likes to see somebody have something good when they're
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sucking because of their choices.
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But there was a judge I had to go to 8 different courts, man. 8
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different courts. Hey, you know, I'm sorry.
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I please. There's a unit going to
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Afghanistan. I had one more court to go to
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and I said judge and I had a big fine.
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You know, I had a hit and run assault on a police officer, no
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insurance, no registration, suspended driver's license.
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And I just broke down in front of the judge.
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And I said, your honor, I'm, I'm lost.
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The only way I know how to get better is I have to, I have to
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change. You see at this time, my dad was
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a judge. My adapted, my adopted mom and
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dad were a teacher that actually taught me how to write my name
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before I was their son. And the police officer that
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adopted us knew my dad in jail. Crazy story.
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And I would call them in the middle of the night and say
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people's kill, they're here to kill me.
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And I was so high man. And the judge man, he walked off
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the stand and he hugged me and he said, you're going to learn
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more in Afghanistan than you're going to learn here.
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Five years ago, I spoke for that judges conference.
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So the world is amazing. And then I went to war, man.
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But you know sometimes, Ryan, with you saying that it is
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somebody and I've done a lot of these different interviews where
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there's a there's a one person that reaches out and and make
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that connection, that difference that happens.
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And that judge could have exactly gone the wrong way and
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and the the the, the thing that could have put you further in
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the ditch. And he must have seen something.
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Man, this this kid. Let's give him a break.
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We're going to send him to Afghanistan.
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Tell me about that. Tell me, tell me about, because
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going from the world that you just talked about drugs, going
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in out of jail and all those different things, and then you
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go into the the world of the military.
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What? What was that like for you at
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young age? You know, our mission was define
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bombs, man. And you know, there's a lot of
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military people, but everybody has a job, but there's only
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about 7% ish of the military that actually sees combat.
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And my mission was combat. It was define bombs that were
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placed in the route and we would have to go and get rid of them.
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And the first night in Afghanistan was August 28th,
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2010, My very first night we were ambushed.
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You could find the story on on all the big outlet networks
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because it was one of the biggest ambushes in Afghanistan.
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It was on FOB Salerno, and there was multiple of the Taliban
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members in American uniforms that got on our little FOB and
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they were blowing themselves outside of the wire and the
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Apaches were firing all over the place.
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Now, war's not like that all the time.
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War's scary. War's hell, man.
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But, you know, I've also seen some pretty amazing things.
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I've seen humans cry, the strongest man man, the strongest
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people. I've seen him cry.
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I've seen the ones that people wouldn't think are that strong,
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become, you know, triumphant. But there was around 23 of the
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32 that I was with that was blown up and. 23 was the 32.
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Yep. And one was killed in my unit.
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It was hard, man. Yeah, Yeah, it was.
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What happened? I because, I mean, a lot of
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people don't get an opportunity to listen to somebody that was
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in that type of arena, that world in Afghanistan, because
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everybody read about it. It was a.
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Horrific long. War.
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I'll. I'll explain it.
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I'll explain war with two stories.
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You know the best gifts I've ever got.
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There was 3 when my brothers and I slept in a homeless shelter.
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We were hungry and there were two old men that gave us a box
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of raisins. #2 was the family that adopted me.
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When they adopted me, I got a brand new pair of clothes and a
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pair of light up shoes. The third gift or the third
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thing that changed my life. It happened in Afghanistan.
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You see, war is scary. Like I said, war is hell, man.
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You see. You see what people do to other
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people in the hopes of freedom for their side.
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And our side, you know, we were told that we couldn't get out
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and play with the kids. And I loved to play with the
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kids. But the Taliban started to strap
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bombs to the children's bodies. And when we would get out of the
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vehicle to feed the children in our province, the Taliban would
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blow up the children. So especially me, right?
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I had a little keyboard. I would play.
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I would rap, you know, I'd stand on top of the vehicle and I'd
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rap to the kids. I would dance.
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I I just, you know, I wanted to make the kids feel like the old
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man made me feel. My parents made me feel when
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they gave me the light up shoes. I wanted to do that for them.
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They said stream, especially you.
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And I got made fun of a lot because I was the singer, you
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know what I mean? I would rather hug than fight.
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And there was a little boy and his little sister that they came
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to our vehicle and there was nobody else around.
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I mean we were just ambushed. Recently I was in a bad mood.
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My vehicle got ambushed. I hit my head on the the door of
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the RGI mean I I just had had it with this place.
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One of our leaders was just killed.
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Like I did not want to deal with these kids anymore.
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And there was a little boy and little girl.
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They came up to our vehicle and they wanted food and candy.
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And my Sergeant said stream. Come on, man, it's not like you
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to yell at the kids. Just throw him a piece of candy.
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So finally I obeyed. I opened up the door.
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I threw out a piece of candy. And of course the older brother,
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he's probably about 10. The little sister was about 5.
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The boy out ran his little sister and grabbed the piece of
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candy. You know, over there we've seen
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little girls grab pieces of candy before, and everybody in
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the village beat the little girl because women have no rights in
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that country. But this little boy, he turned
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and gave that piece of candy to his little sister.
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And then we jumped out of the vehicle and we gave him as much
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food and candy as the little boy could carry and his little
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sister. And they ran home.
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But a couple hours later, only the little boy came back and he
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had something behind his back and he was getting closer to our
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vehicle and we yelled at the little boy to stop, please,
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please stop. And the little boy kept coming.
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So the gunner put the weapon on the child and fired, shooting a
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pin flare, which is a line of defense over the child's head.
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And the child got very scared and he stopped.
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But then he kept on coming. So I leaned up and I turned
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record on the camera. So when we took this, when we
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would have to take this little boy's life, it was documented.
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But as the little boy got close to our vehicle, we got the OK to
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fire. But then he stopped and the
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little boy showed me what was behind his back.
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It was an egg. An egg.
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The third best gift I've ever been given was an egg, and it
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was from that little boy. And he taught me something.
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No matter where you're at in the world, there is good wherever
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there is bad, and there is bad wherever there is good.
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Even if I'm in a war zone, even if you're at home from New York
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to LA to Texas, there's hard times and hardships everywhere.
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But you have to be the good. You see, everybody thinks of war
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as fighting and and conquering. And, yeah, yes, but I got to see
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a different side of it. I got to see the sad and
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vehicles full of bodies. But I also got to see things
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like that, where people help each other, where people love
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each other. You know, there was a guy, he
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was with us on mission and he was Afghani and the Taliban
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hated that the Afghanistan people would help us.
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Anyways, when the United States left Afghanistan, I hadn't
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talked to this guy since 2010. He messaged me on Instagram and
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Facebook. He said, Ryan, Ryan, do you
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Remember Me? Do you Remember Me?
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It's it's it's Zorro or AK, whatever we call them.
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I can't remember. And I said, holy crap dude,
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yeah, I remember you. And he showed me pictures of his
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mud houses. They don't have houses like we
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do of mud houses that the Taliban blew up.
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They're trying to kill him and his family because he was trying
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to help us. And now that the United States
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had left, they're killing all of those people that helped us.
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So I got on social media and I made a post and people donated
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money that saved that man and his seven children.
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We were able to get them out of that part of Afghanistan because
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of social media. So war is scary.
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War is hard. But I also got to see humanity
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at its best and humanity at its worst.
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I think both are a blessing. The experiences that I've been
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able to experience, you know, like it's not that I'm fearless.
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I'm scared. Heck man, I'm scared right now,
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starting all this stuff. Weights are heavy, but if you
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ever want to, don't you want to see what you're made of?
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Don't you guys just want to see, like, I'm going to be a rapper?
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Bam, I'm an award-winning rapper.
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I want to be a country singer. Bam, I'm, I'm proving to people
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I can do everything. I couldn't even read and write.
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I have a best. I have two books and a best
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seller. Like, come on, who's this idiot
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that failed out of four college four times and now I have one?
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How did you, how did you do that, Ryan?
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I read that. How did you do that 4?
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Times, I'll be honest with you, I'm I'm not very smart.
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I'm not very book smart. But most people that are ADHD or
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have those other disabilities, some might say those are
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actually your entrepreneurs. That's what I read and I started
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doing adaptively. It is a superpower.
22:24
But as soon as I realized I wanted it like I want it, no, I
22:27
want it. I'm going to go in that
22:29
building, and I'm not leaving that building this time.
22:32
And I'll tell you why. You want to know the real
22:33
reason. There's two In 2017, I got fired
22:38
from a job because I was a safety liability.
22:40
I exited the military with mental health reasons.
22:44
I had nothing. No job.
22:46
PTSD, Brian, was that what you were dealing with?
22:50
Just, yeah, the war fog of coming back home and.
22:55
Waking up in the middle of the night searching for the enemy at
22:58
my house. My wife and I was even talking
23:00
yesterday and we got on the subject because I was just on
23:03
the radio station here. And one of my old platoon
23:06
leaders, the one that kicked me in the back in that story, he
23:09
heard me on the radio and he was with the producers of the
23:12
studio. And he's like, I heard Ryan
23:13
Stream and wow, he's come a long ways.
23:16
But I would disappear and I would leave at days at a time
23:21
and go to. I was just foolish.
23:23
My gosh, I know. You're married at the time.
23:27
I was so, you know, I when. You went when you went away to
23:30
Afghanistan. Were you married?
23:32
Did you have kids at the time or were you?
23:35
Married at the time, my second time that I went to war.
23:38
I came home to an 8 month old baby and my wife that I met for
23:42
the first time. You know, and that right.
23:45
There's a traumatic experience. You go from a war zone where
23:48
they're teaching you to fight and kill.
23:50
And every day you're just, you don't know who's the enemy.
23:53
So you're constantly just, you know what I mean?
23:55
And then you come home and it's like I got to find a job.
23:58
Oh my gosh, I'm married. I got a kid like I got married
24:03
and then two months later was back at war.
24:06
You know, we've been married for 11 years now.
24:08
Thank goodness I have my wife. But there came a time where I
24:11
was at the rock bottom of rock bottom.
24:14
I had no job. I had nothing.
24:16
And the only job I can get was the coal mine and people that I
24:20
worked with. Oh man, he's an idiot.
24:22
Oh, I can't believe they'd let him carry a weapon.
24:26
So what has motivated me? I would be honest, and I would
24:30
be not honest to say that hate motivates me and every person
24:36
that's ever talked bad about here in Utah.
24:38
I have music, awards, books, 13 million views.
24:42
Just last year I've spoken to probably 200,000 students just
24:46
in the state. They they have heard me and that
24:50
guy that they called the dumbass and stupid.
24:54
You know what I mean? One month I make more than they
24:56
make in a year. Who's the stupid one?
24:58
That's the attitude I used to have, and it was a foolish
25:01
attitude to have, right? That's that's hate.
25:04
That's not good. So instead of using all that
25:07
hate to motivate me, I want to inspire people and I want to
25:11
inspire them. Dude, leave the job.
25:14
If I can do it, you can do it. I wasn't the smartest there and
25:18
you know that well. Let's talk about back in school.
25:21
What's that? Well let's talk about that
25:23
because you at the time you were in the coal mine.
25:25
But what was the trigger for you to get back into school and then
25:30
to become believe that you had all these you know superpowers
25:34
in you. What what was the what was the
25:37
moment that made that happen for you?
25:39
Because I've heard you speak and I've you you had you were at
25:44
rock bottom a lot of people. I think there's two things that
25:48
happened at rock bottom because I had I was at rock bottom too
25:51
before I went to prison and I that at that moment I never want
25:54
to go back to. But I think two things happened
25:57
at rock bottom. One or two things.
25:58
One, we believe it's the end and maybe you can't end it.
26:03
Or two, it's a new beginning. And somehow, someway, you became
26:10
a new beginning and started stepping out into what you
26:14
wanted to be. What do you think was that?
26:17
What do you think that was that that fire that was lit?
26:20
Well, when I got fired from my job, I was on my way home and I
26:24
had a plan to end my life. And I didn't.
26:27
I'm here, you know, we could talk religion here.
26:30
And I felt the angels and demons battle on my shoulders.
26:33
I went to suicide prevention classes.
26:35
My mom took her life. So I take that topic very
26:37
serious. And I got to the duplex because
26:41
we sold our house wanting to start an empire, right?
26:44
And we lost it all, man. And my wife, she said, Ryan, I
26:48
believe in you. That's why I married you.
26:52
And she put her hands on my shoulder and she lifted me up
26:55
and she says, you, you got this. So I said, man, this is the part
26:59
I get emotional. Gosh Dang it.
27:02
I would go to the workforce service place before they opened
27:08
and I would stay there until they closed for weeks.
27:14
You know, when you have no money coming in and nothing and your
27:17
backs against the ropes, like you got to fight, like you got
27:21
to fight. And everybody's scared, afraid
27:23
to be at rock bottom. Rock bottom means you get to
27:25
start over. But do you ever really start
27:27
over? No, because you have experience.
27:30
Well, what about if I go in the wrong direction?
27:31
Good. You know what direction not to
27:33
go next time. So I got a job in the coal mine,
27:37
dude. And when I got into the coal
27:38
mine, I was like, you're shitting me back in the coal
27:41
mine. I worked in the coal mine right
27:43
after high school. It's not a good job.
27:45
It's scary. It's dangerous.
27:47
It's cold. It sucks.
27:48
You're blacker than black because the coal.
27:51
And I remember going to the interview after calling them
27:54
five times. Hey, I'm ready to come to work.
27:56
Hey, I'm coming to work. You know what got me the job?
27:58
I was consistent, and that's what they said.
28:00
Dude, we weren't even hiring. But you kept calling because I
28:03
had no choice. I had no choice.
28:06
According to my resume, Yeah, I was in the military.
28:08
Yes, I had a couple of things that I was working on that made
28:11
me look really good. Never again did I want to put in
28:15
for a job and not be the elite. So I got the job in the coal
28:19
mine. And after I got the job, I
28:21
remember going out to my car and saying why me?
28:24
Like, I've served my country. I've done everything.
28:26
I'm a good person. I'm kind, I'm nice.
28:29
People need to realize that the door closes for you.
28:33
It closes for you if you truly believe in God or the universe.
28:38
Oh well, why would God do this? I believe God's son, Jesus
28:41
Christ hung on the cross. So if anybody has it that bad,
28:46
shouldn't it be God saying why me?
28:48
I was just on my friend's podcast.
28:51
He was waiting in St. George, UT for his family to
28:54
come, and all of them got in a wreck and died.
28:55
They all got killed. I saw that.
28:59
Why him? Yeah.
29:01
You know what I mean? Like, why US?
29:03
Life is hard. Nobody's going to make it out
29:05
alive. No, no.
29:06
It's not easy for anybody. So when I was in the coal.
29:10
Mine. I got to tell you, Ryan, I
29:11
because you you're one of your favorite quotes, is one of my
29:15
favorite quotes. And what you just said is, is
29:18
what you live. But I just for those and it's a
29:22
Rocky Balboa. And I'm just going to read the
29:24
quote because it's just because you've lived this.
29:27
And for those out there that are stuck or they're feeling sorry
29:31
for themselves, this is something that should be a
29:33
mantra of yours. And so let me tell you something
29:35
you already know. The world ain't easy.
29:38
Not all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty
29:42
place. And I don't care how tough you
29:44
are. It'll beat you down to your
29:47
knees and keep you there permanently if you let it.
29:50
You, me or nobody is going to get as hard as life.
29:54
But it ain't about how hard you get hit.
29:56
It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward, how
30:00
much you can take and keep moving forward.
30:03
That's how winning is done. And I I read that you talking
30:07
about that as being one of your favorite quotes and and it's one
30:10
that I always go back to because man if that doesn't explain
30:15
everything. I mean just explain everything
30:20
because you always have choices you always have choices and and
30:25
yes life is unfair but you have to move on regardless because
30:30
you you don't the other the alternative is awful.
30:34
You end up in a ditch and homeless and and feeling sorry
30:37
for yourself which you know you you being a victim or a survivor
30:42
is is they're they're very different and and you blame and
30:46
you point fingers and you can't fight.
30:48
A survivor almost makes you feel different when you say that.
30:51
It almost makes you sit up straighter when you say I'm a
30:53
survivor because what it means is I'm going to walk through and
30:56
what you just said, right I'm going to walk through whatever
30:59
it is that scares me and get through it and that's when
31:03
things happen. Yeah, you know, and if you look
31:06
at life like an adventure, right?
31:10
Dude, I want to see what I'm made of.
31:13
You know what I mean? Like, am I smart enough to get
31:15
the degree? Am I freaking smart enough to
31:17
run the business? Am I smart?
31:18
I'm going to figure it out. And if I can't figure it out,
31:20
I'm going to find somebody that can.
31:23
Like, everyone's looking at life like it's just so hard.
31:28
And it is. But you want to know what?
31:29
Be grateful. Be grateful.
31:33
I went mountain biking with the dude that fell out of a tree,
31:36
three kids and got paralyzed like that.
31:39
Had to exit the military. His whole life changed and I
31:44
made it up the mountain. Rode around the mountain and he
31:46
went up and back the mountain for two hours straight, all the
31:49
way to the top, all the way back with his arms.
31:52
He says, man, I'm grateful they didn't take my arms too, you
31:55
know. Again, it's things happen to you
31:59
for you. So when I was in the coal mine,
32:01
I started working a ton of overtime because, well, the
32:03
money was OK Then I thought, you want to know I'm going to get
32:06
back in school and I'm not leaving this place until I get a
32:09
degree. 2020. I got my first degree.
32:12
Then I said, you want to know what?
32:13
Everybody with a psychology degree, they think they're smart
32:16
as shit. Now you know what I mean?
32:17
I'm going to go get one of those.
32:18
So here I am, I'll be done hopefully in August.
32:21
And then I was like, you want to know what that person's flipping
32:24
houses and making money? I'm going to flip houses and
32:26
make money. Bought 2 houses and flipped
32:29
them. But adversity comes.
32:31
The reason why I got out of the coal mine is I had three
32:33
surgeries. My hand got smashed, my finger
32:35
got amputated, my worker didn't show up, and I had to build the
32:39
house. I had to go and build the inside
32:42
of the house that a lady flooded that I could have profited
32:45
$100,000. But instead, I felt sorry for
32:49
the lady because she was a single mother with three kids
32:51
and I saw my mother. So even when you help people,
32:55
even when you're trying your best life still going to hit
32:58
you. And sometimes it's just God
33:01
telling you, I'm teaching you how to build.
33:04
I am teaching you how to build. So I have a saying.
33:06
I would like for all of you to adopt it.
33:08
It's called Pack It On, Pack it On.
33:12
I'm going to get my ass kicked, but one day I'm going to stand
33:14
up. And I learned that when I was
33:16
about in the 4th grade, I watched my older brother get his
33:21
ass kicked and I didn't know who to cheer for, 'cause he always
33:25
beat me up, you know what I mean?
33:27
So I'm looking at Ray, the guy that just fought him, and I'm
33:30
looking at my brother. And then my brother gets up
33:32
again. And I said, Jesse, stay down.
33:36
Dude, you just got freaking. The floor got mopped with you
33:40
and he stood up again. He walked over to Ray and got
33:43
his butt kicked again. My brother did that four times.
33:49
On the 4th or 5th time, I'm not even exaggerating.
33:52
My brother went to fight him and he said dude I'm done, you win.
33:58
So when I was a little boy, I saw, holy cow, my brother got up
34:02
over and over and over again. And finally the other guy said,
34:05
whoa dude, they're going to get tired.
34:08
Maybe they're going to be afraid to lose, or they're going to
34:11
listen to this really close. Sometimes people will want to be
34:17
around you or they will want to buy something from you because
34:21
of the effort that you're putting in.
34:24
It's not necessarily that they need it.
34:25
Most people buy off emotion anyway, you know?
34:29
So if you're just putting in the work and people see at first
34:32
nobody celebrates a loser unless you like the losing team, right?
34:36
I don't know why we like that stuff.
34:37
But when people see that you're resilient and you have a smile
34:41
on your face, that's the biggest key to my success.
34:43
You said it, you know, before we even started, man, you got your
34:45
butt kicked a lot. You know, I just barely started
34:49
to win a little bit. But as soon as you win, well,
34:51
adversity strikes, right? So we flipped the two houses,
34:55
bought an ice cream franchise. That's not enough.
34:58
Now what do I got to do? If I'm going to be in front of
34:59
corporations, I got to build a winning corporation.
35:02
OK, bam, trucking company. And here I am trying to figure
35:04
it out. But when you have me on your
35:06
podcast or somebody else has me on their podcast, I want to be
35:10
the guy that actually does and knows how to do things, not just
35:14
has a good story. So Ryan, when you you started
35:19
building, going to school, getting back in, when did the
35:22
speaking career take off for you?
35:27
You know, in 2017, it was 2016. I got one speaking engagement.
35:33
You know, I was calling around, hey, let me speak, let me speak.
35:35
400 bucks. Whoa.
35:36
I made $400.00 speaking for one hour.
35:41
And then about, oh, the November came and it was veteran's day.
35:45
And then I spoke at the high school for 8 minutes and the
35:48
high school was silent. And then they erupted and and
35:54
then I started coaching football.
35:56
And then I started to read a lot.
35:57
And then I started to what I read.
35:59
I started to teach the team. And then we went to the state
36:02
championship. And I just thought, Oh my gosh,
36:06
I got something pretty special here.
36:08
And I'm really short. And if people see a little guy
36:10
succeed, there's just something that's cool about that.
36:13
And I just started calling, hey, what's up?
36:16
My name is Ryan Stream. I'm a motivational speaker.
36:19
I would e-mail 1000 people a month.
36:21
I'm not even kidding you. Not even kidding you.
36:24
Nobody would write me back. So when people say, hey Ryan,
36:27
how do I be a public speaker and I say, hey, you know, 5 grand,
36:29
I'll tell you everything. Oh, I don't have that money,
36:31
dude. I've spent 43,000 just last year
36:35
figuring out the stuff that I know.
36:36
Like it is a business and people don't like to treat it like a
36:39
business. They want all the skills and all
36:42
the answers right off the bat. So my speaking career picked up
36:46
2020. It collapsed.
36:48
But here's where the door closed and went open and I was in the
36:53
coal mine and it never affected my job.
36:55
So why? Everybody else was downsizing
36:58
and being cautious and being careful.
37:00
I put money into my speaking business.
37:02
I wrote my first book. I was going all in on my music
37:05
videos and I started to go viral and win awards and and you know,
37:10
it's just it for the two years I Yep.
37:15
What the other people didn't see as an opportunity, you took that
37:17
time and made it an opportunity. Yep.
37:19
And everybody needs to realize life is going to happen to you.
37:24
But it's your choice on how to react to it.
37:26
You can cry, you could sit down. It's like when an ice storm
37:30
comes, everyone sees an ice storm while the other people see
37:33
a skating ring. You know what I mean?
37:35
Like that's how you have to look at life like.
37:38
Yeah well you and you talk about the five things that that the
37:42
how to's can you share your your tools on that?
37:46
Yeah, you know, so when I lost my job, when I exited the
37:49
military, I had, I was about my rock bottom, right?
37:52
A lot of times people don't even realize they're at rock bottom.
37:55
Well, your life sucks. Your family doesn't like you.
37:57
Like you're having troubles in your marriage.
37:59
Like that's a rock bottom, right?
38:00
Like we have rock bottoms all the time.
38:03
And when people go for a job, they get self evaluated.
38:06
When people go to the military, they get self evaluated.
38:09
No matter where you're going. Before this podcast started, you
38:11
self evaluated me, right? So why aren't we doing that to
38:15
ourselves? Step number one is people need
38:19
to be honest with themselves. The trucking company, everything
38:25
I've built. I followed these five steps.
38:27
Well, why'd you get into trucking?
38:29
Well, I economically looked around Utah and I thought, man,
38:32
a trucking company is killing it right now.
38:35
OK, let me go to step #1A, self evaluation.
38:38
OK. Ryan, do you know how to operate
38:40
equipment? Well, yeah, I have a little bit
38:42
of experience. Do you know how to drive a
38:44
trailer? Yeah.
38:45
Yeah, I've done that in the coal mine.
38:46
Do you know how to run a business?
38:48
Yeah, I got another business. OK All right.
38:50
I could do those things. And then I started mapping it
38:53
out, a plan, which is #4. But during yourself evaluation,
38:57
you have to be honest with yourself.
38:58
If you have to get naked and look in the mirror at yourself,
39:00
if you're not happy, fix it. It's hard.
39:04
It's so hard. But man, I don't want my kids to
39:10
look at somebody else like a hero.
39:12
I want to be their hero. I'm going to be your hero and
39:15
I'm going to be your friends heroes.
39:16
I'm going to be everybody's hero.
39:18
That's how people need to be. You're your own hero, you're the
39:22
leader in your life. So do the self evaluation and
39:26
say what can I do and what can't I do?
39:30
And change the I can't to I can. There you go.
39:34
Step #2 is take accountability. If you are not where you want to
39:39
be in life, it's your fault. It's your fault.
39:42
Oh, it's not my fault. Yes, it is.
39:43
It's your fault. You're talking to somebody that
39:45
came from a homeless shelter. Suicide.
39:48
War zones. Like there's.
39:49
I wasn't raped. That's about the only thing that
39:52
didn't happen to me. But I know people.
39:55
What's that? I said you.
39:56
Didn't have that happen. Yeah, yeah.
39:59
But I know people that did, and they're making it just fine.
40:05
So get help if you need help. And I needed help.
40:07
I cried at the VA Medical Center.
40:09
I took accountability and I said I am struggling.
40:12
I don't know what to do. I don't even know how to make a
40:14
plan. I am just going to lose my
40:16
family. And after I got everything out,
40:19
I wrote on a piece of paper, I am dumb.
40:22
I am slow, right? Be truthful.
40:26
I am short. I am insecure.
40:28
I am not confident. And then I looked at it.
40:31
I am stupid. How do I fix that?
40:33
I go get a college degree. I'm not stupid.
40:36
I am short. OK, I can't fix that.
40:38
But I can be extremely fit. OK, OK, You see how I attacked?
40:43
I wrote it down and I attacked. What makes me not confident?
40:47
And I freaking crushed it all, Getting my butt kicked.
40:51
You're not going to win just like that.
40:54
And then when you do that, when you write it down at step three,
40:56
believe in yourself. So I believed that it was
41:00
possible. And if you don't write this
41:01
stuff down, how are you going to change?
41:05
Right. So I believed it was possible.
41:09
And then I did this. I did this exact thing.
41:13
I drew a line just like this. This is where I was.
41:18
This is where I'm going. The first goal I had was
41:21
$100,000. OK, at the time I got a job in
41:24
the coal mine making 75,000. I mapped out what I needed to do
41:28
to make $100,000 the very next year.
41:31
Not only manifesting it, reading it, and working my butt off, I
41:34
hit over $100,000 the year before.
41:38
I was fired, suicidal, exited the military, had nothing.
41:43
So step #4 is a plan. How do you make a plan?
41:47
It's like a staircase step number one.
41:51
OK, what is my goal? I want to write a book.
41:55
OK, step number one, what do I need to do?
41:57
You have to be so specific. I need to grab a piece of paper
42:01
and a pen. Step #2, I need to sit down.
42:05
Step #3, I need to write. That's something that war taught
42:08
me. You have to be very cautious and
42:11
very, very careful. And when you miss a step, that's
42:13
when somebody could get killed. So after you make a plan, you
42:17
need to take action. A lot of times people have the
42:20
plan. You know, I was, I was speaking
42:21
at a corporate event and I'm asking people, what's your goal?
42:24
And the girl said, I want to be rich.
42:27
I said, how are you going to be rich?
42:28
I don't know. I'm just, I want to be rich.
42:30
I said you're not going to be rich.
42:32
And everybody looked at like, what?
42:33
And I said she's not, She doesn't have a plan.
42:36
She doesn't know what she's going to do.
42:37
She doesn't even know what her five year goal is.
42:40
How are you going to get rich if you don't have a plan?
42:43
You're going to be like a boat that goes out into the ocean
42:46
with no compass, no map, no sense of direction.
42:49
You're going to get out into the world, into the ocean.
42:51
You're going to go around in circles till everybody dies.
42:56
It's we complicate things. I am an idiot and I'm not just
43:01
saying that I didn't take my SAT's.
43:03
I failed out of college, but as soon as I said you want to know
43:06
what you have to be, I think it's safe to say greedy.
43:13
Like my wife. And my plan is Hun.
43:17
I will make sure we have everything I need, but you need
43:21
me to love you, to communicate with you, to be affectionate.
43:25
I could do that. And when I don't do that, you
43:27
need to. You need to help me out because
43:28
I get caught up in my own world. But I need this from you.
43:33
I need you to take care of our children.
43:34
I need you to do the homework I she has.
43:37
We made a plan. This is her lane.
43:40
This is my lane. And that road, each lane that
43:44
we're on is going to lead us to where we want to go.
43:48
And it hasn't. It's failed many, many times.
43:52
But when it fails, we get back on course.
43:54
Because you. Have a plan.
43:56
Because we have a plan, and sometimes your plan changes.
43:59
But guess what? Get back on plan, love.
44:01
That what was the fifth thing? What's that?
44:06
Was that what? Did we cover all?
44:08
Yes, we got self evaluation, accountability, belief, making a
44:13
plan and taking action. Taking action was the last one.
44:18
That's such a big deal because a lot of people can sit around and
44:20
talk about something until they take action.
44:22
You never get started. Yeah, you know, let me say this
44:26
because it's, you know, I could sound like I know everything and
44:30
I don't. And I really hope people don't
44:31
think that because I don't. This trucking company when I did
44:36
the self evaluation and said OK, I can do this, I can do this.
44:40
I went to CDL school and I failed.
44:43
I failed the driving test. I'm not a freaking pro and this.
44:46
Sticks, by the way. Yeah, it's not like a car, like
44:49
it's totally different. So I had to pay $7500 because I
44:54
kept failing and I had to pay for extra help.
44:57
But before I got my driver's license, I called businesses and
45:03
I said hello. My name is Ryan Stream.
45:05
I am the owner of Patriot Ridge Trucking.
45:07
I'm just looking for some contracts.
45:09
I was closing 142 dollar hour contracts before I even had my
45:14
driver's license, before I even knew how to get a truck, before
45:18
I even knew where to go because I needed to know the money was
45:22
going to be there. Yeah, you're already closing
45:25
deals. And you know, that also reminds
45:28
me of another quote with the Henry Ford quote.
45:30
Whether you think you can or whether you think you can't,
45:32
you're. Right.
45:33
And and and what you just described there is that I mean
45:37
you you thought you could and and and it's in that mindset can
45:41
solve so many things because it doesn't mean you're going to
45:44
have all the answers. It just means that you go and
45:45
find the answers because you know what you're going to try to
45:48
do and what you're taking action on.
45:50
And that's that's why that's the secret sauce to the game.
45:54
Yeah, you know, and a lot of people really, really want to
45:57
help. They do.
45:58
You know, if they're far advanced, they're not going to
46:02
give away a lot. I've learned that, right?
46:04
I've really learned that people want to help, but they don't
46:06
want to give you all their gold. But I was listening to a podcast
46:10
and people should read. It's like people and they say,
46:12
hey, I want to be to the nbai want to make it to the NBA.
46:15
That was my goal when I was a kid.
46:17
My parents had me go shoot two shots every day.
46:19
Oh, you too. Oh.
46:21
Yeah, yeah. I was six.
46:22
I was 6 foot one. And as an eighth grader, you
46:24
never want to peak when you're in 8th grade at six foot one.
46:26
I was like A7 footer in 8th grade.
46:29
Oh man, see you. Thought you were going there for
46:31
sure. Still 6 foot one.
46:35
I so my parents had me shoot 200 shots every day.
46:39
I didn't make it. But when these kids say, man, I
46:42
want to be in the NBA two and I say how many shots do you shoot
46:45
a day? They say, well, you know, I
46:47
don't really know. You're not going to make it like
46:49
I'm the guy. That's truthful.
46:51
And I say what you need to do is you need to study the best.
46:54
What did they Man, There is a map, a secret map, behind every
47:01
successful person. If you want to be in the NBA,
47:05
you need to study NBA players. Where did they go to school?
47:08
How many shots did they shoot? When people learn stuff, they
47:11
like to say stuff. Why is that?
47:14
Well, because everybody likes to spread a good message and
47:17
everybody likes to to speak something that they know.
47:22
Right? We want to get it out there and
47:23
show the world. So no matter what you want to
47:27
do, if I wanted to be a speaker, I Google other speakers.
47:30
What websites are they on? OK, who books them?
47:32
OK, Where do they go? OK, where have they been?
47:35
What conferences have they spoke at?
47:37
You want to be a police officer? OK, start calling.
47:40
Hey, what are you guys paying? Hey, talk to police officers.
47:42
People are so afraid to ask, man.
47:45
Yeah. I mean, a lot of people who are
47:47
getting it right, they're willing to share because they're
47:49
they're proud of the fact that they're getting it right.
47:52
You. Got to humble yourself.
47:53
You got to humble yourself knowing that you don't know it
47:56
all and people will share that with you.
47:59
You know, I, I, I. You remind me.
48:01
Was when I went into the world of prison, Ryan.
48:04
I know it was a place I thought I'd never be, but I looked
48:08
around. I did.
48:10
You know, a couple of things that you're talking about.
48:12
One was sitting in my bed that night looking and thinking, Oh
48:17
my God, I'm at the top bunk of Leavenworth prison.
48:20
After six years of all this, what am I going to do?
48:22
And I got out of pen and a piece of paper and started writing
48:25
down goals I wanted to accomplish in prison because
48:27
that's what made me feel like me again.
48:30
Because I was going to not be prison Brent.
48:32
I was going to be Brent And and those those things that you can
48:36
do, it doesn't matter where you are.
48:37
And then to humble yourself and look around and say, you know, I
48:40
don't know anything about this, so look around.
48:42
Oh, that guy's reading a book. I I like that guy's doing a
48:45
workout, Tina. That guy's got a job that I
48:47
like. Whether you're in prison or
48:49
you're outside, the biggest thing that I found was, is being
48:52
in prison and getting outside was that people are built into
48:56
prisons in their own mind. And how do they knock those
49:00
down? How do they knock down their own
49:01
barriers? Because, you know, it's a bad
49:03
job, bad marriage, bad childhood, whatever those things
49:06
are, you either carry those with you and they're the barrier all
49:09
the way through your life, or you figure out how to walk and
49:11
knock them down. And that's why I think your
49:14
story is so inspiring, right, is because each time you were hit,
49:20
you got up and he kept knocking through things that made you
49:24
feel uncomfortable. Like you're talking about this
49:26
trucking company that's not making you feel comfortable,
49:28
that's making you feel energized, that I've got to
49:30
figure out how to do this thing. And that's that's a lot.
49:36
Yeah, sometimes you think that you're you're in too deep, you
49:40
know, But I'll tell and you already know this.
49:43
You know, if you're not crying, if you're not laying awake at
49:47
night, if there hasn't been moments where you've thought to
49:49
yourself, how am I going to do this?
49:51
You are not trying hard enough. You and you know you interview
49:57
people all the time, Brent. You go, you're a speaker.
49:59
You go to these events where there's 24 year old
50:02
millionaires, 26 year old millionaires, 50 year old, Like
50:06
what do they have that we don't? They had the plan and they took
50:11
action. Everywhere I've been, they had a
50:15
plan and they were not afraid to take action.
50:18
And unless mom and dad gave them everything, that used to be my
50:21
justification. Oh, mom and dad did that for
50:23
their mom and dad. There's not a lot of moms and
50:26
dads out there that you know what I mean?
50:28
A lot of these successful kids have actually done it by
50:31
themselves. They locked themselves in a room
50:33
and figured it out. Yep, so true.
50:37
I mean, it's. And I was wondering to think
50:41
you're talking about mom and dad, did you with the streams
50:44
that adopted you? Did you stay close to them
50:46
throughout your whole where you are now to growing up and all
50:51
that? Are they part of your life?
50:54
Yeah, yeah. They're part of my life.
50:56
I, you know, man, I love them. I am grateful for them.
51:04
But I would be lying if I did not say that I didn't get what
51:09
other people got, You know what I mean?
51:12
There's a part of me that's missing, you know, where do I
51:16
belong? Even though they adopted me, I
51:17
got their last name. I get that.
51:20
But I'm talking biologically and chemically.
51:23
You don't think that? I wish that I had that.
51:27
Yeah. I was just talking to my wife.
51:29
I do. I don't.
51:29
I hate the conversation because it's like, man, I wish I could
51:32
hug my mom. I wish I could help my mom.
51:34
I don't even know who my dad is, really.
51:36
It ended up possibly being my uncle.
51:37
I don't even know who my dad is. I got two people that say
51:41
they're my dad, you know? So yeah, dude, it's kind of a
51:45
conversation, honestly. A conversation I kind of stay
51:47
away from because I am very appreciative.
51:50
They adopted my whole family and raised 11 kids and they did the
51:54
best they could. What I have disciplined the way
51:58
they did. No, I don't.
52:01
Am I grateful and are they angels in my life that I've been
52:05
blessed with? Oh, yes.
52:07
But I don't have the same relationship with my parents
52:09
that other people have. I just, I didn't get that.
52:12
And and they're, they got 11 kids and honestly, they're busy.
52:15
No excuses. I'm going to be different to my
52:17
kids, you know, Everybody's busy.
52:21
Yeah. But yeah, man.
52:23
You got to make it. You got to make your own way.
52:26
I want to when we're we're talking here because I want to
52:28
wrap this up Ryan on on a couple of thoughts years before we do.
52:32
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53:05
Start here. So, Ryan, going to where this
53:10
whole journey goes. What do you think is your
53:14
biggest take away from this life that you've lived?
53:19
Having a family, you know what I mean?
53:20
That's success dude. That's success.
53:23
It's not the money, it's not the awards, it's not the it's
53:26
success is when your children want to come home and see you.
53:29
You know, I speak in front of a lot of kids and I hope there's a
53:31
lot of adults listening. It's not the kids responsibility
53:35
to get a hold of the parent, it's the parents responsibility
53:37
to get a hold of the kid. And if your kids aren't coming
53:40
home, if your kids don't call you, then you want to know what
53:43
you need to take it. Accountability.
53:45
You need some change, some stuff because you're not truly
53:47
successful if your own family doesn't want to be around you.
53:51
And I think and what you said about your wife, she chose you.
53:55
She said I believe in you and and then that.
53:59
And I I have that too. I, I, I have a wife that should
54:03
wear, you know a Cape like a superhero.
54:05
And it's it means so much because if you don't have that,
54:08
go find it because it's a really big deal to have that mate that
54:12
believes in you because that's the fuel and the family that
54:16
you're talking about, Ryan. It makes all the difference in
54:18
the world. I love that.
54:20
And you have to have that. And if there's a lot of parents
54:25
that I'm talking to, one person, you know him and his wife are
54:27
addicted to drugs and he's trying to get her off drugs.
54:30
And I said, you want to know what?
54:31
I'm not an advocate for divorce. I'm really not.
54:34
But sometimes things don't go together.
54:36
Life was not made for it to suck for everybody all the time.
54:41
So everybody needs to have boundaries.
54:44
This is what is acceptable in my house.
54:47
Let me know what's acceptable to you.
54:48
This is acceptable to me. And we could meet in the middle,
54:51
but sometimes people aren't good for people.
54:54
Sorry. If you're destroying your
54:56
children and if that's affecting the way that they grow up.
54:59
I don't think some of you need to be married, you know, and
55:02
everybody's, let me, let me say this, Everybody's looking for a
55:05
hero, right? You and I, we had our wives.
55:07
Thank goodness. But there came a time, Brent,
55:10
where you and I both realized we're the hero.
55:13
You have to save yourself. Well, you know, it's scary.
55:17
It is scary. It is scary.
55:19
It is scary, but start being grateful.
55:22
It is man. Golly.
55:24
Oh buddy. Well, Ryan, man, I got to tell
55:27
you, I I am so happy that we connected because I've been
55:32
following your journey and it's just it's inspiring.
55:35
The way you speak is inspiring. What you've done is inspiring.
55:40
People want to get a hold of you.
55:41
I know it's Ryan Stream live.com on your website, your your Ryan
55:46
stream on Instagram, Where else? And go to your book on Amazon.
55:51
Yeah, please. You know, just to have people
55:54
Google, just Google Ryan Stream. I have multiple music videos,
55:58
multiple things. Just check out the music videos.
56:02
Yeah, dude, that's. Fine man.
56:05
Yeah. They you know for those that are
56:07
listening, I I'm driving Lambos to wrapping and right underneath
56:11
helicopters to. But it's like well why do you do
56:14
that? I do that because kids like to
56:16
see that. But if you listen to the words
56:19
they talk about resilience, leadership, kindness.
56:23
Right. So everything I read.
56:26
Yeah. Exactly.
56:27
And music's the universal language, man and my Ted X talks
56:31
coming out. It's coming out real soon.
56:34
Yeah. When is when's that happening?
56:37
When when's that Ted X is. And by the way, not just anybody
56:41
get the Ted X talk just by the way they they're hard.
56:44
It takes a lot of resilience to get and go through that process
56:49
and and man, you deserve it, you you're going to give one hell of
56:52
a Ted X talk. Well, I appreciate it.
56:55
Thank you. Yeah.
56:56
They if if anybody needs to learn anything, just go to Ted X
56:59
because like you said, Brent, they just don't let anybody on.
57:02
And I couldn't go on there and talk about my story.
57:06
It's like, Ryan, you we, you know, there's a lot of people
57:08
that are drug addicts, a lot of people that struggle.
57:09
It's like, what could you teach us?
57:12
So what I taught my talk is how music is powerful and how it's
57:18
able to connect people. That was my speech and the video
57:22
that you watched, it's going to be hopefully in the Ted X
57:25
speech, but now I'm kind of having to sign different
57:28
contracts with them and we're going through some loopholes.
57:31
But you know, if I have been beneficial to anybody today,
57:35
just take away those five steps. We all have a story.
57:39
We all have challenges that we're going through.
57:41
Those steps were steps that I've learned from reading other
57:45
people's books, steps in the military, and steps that
57:48
actually helped me, right? Like they actually have helped
57:53
me. And if you do like anything that
57:55
I've done, please go check out my music video.
57:57
Show your kids. I mean, go check out their most
58:00
recent one on Instagram. It's you don't have to Scroll
58:04
down very far. It is so cool, so good.
58:07
And I I was showing it to my wife Jill and she said, wow,
58:10
you're having him on? I said, yeah, having him on.
58:14
Awesome. Well, hey man, I appreciate.
58:17
This. Yeah.
58:17
And anybody. If you want to check out my
58:19
book, go to go to Amazon right after you click on Ryan's.
58:23
Go to Brent. Casting.
58:25
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58:27
Give them reviews. That puts the show on steroids.
58:29
Go to Apple. Give a review.
58:31
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58:34
I spell it wrong. It's Ty not ADY, as I used to
58:37
say when I was writing my emails back and forth from Leavenworth.
58:39
Stay strong. I'll do the same.
58:42
Ryan Stream. You're the man.
58:43
I appreciate it. Thanks man.
58:46
Appreciate you. I'm your success in and out.