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FATHERHOOD CHANGES MEN · Your Daily Dose

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  Speaker 1: Everybody. Welcome.
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  Speaker 2: It is June twenty second, day after Father's Day, but
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  Speaker 2: I have an article that I wanted to do on
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  Speaker 2: Father's Day.
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  Speaker 1: But it's an interesting one.
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  Speaker 2: It says that the surprising way fatherhood changes men. We'll
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  Speaker 2: Our daily devotional today for June twenty second comes through
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  Speaker 2: the Book of Psalms, Chapter one, sixteen.
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  Speaker 1: Thank me for the very things that are troubling you.
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  Speaker 2: You're on the brink of rebellion, precariously close to shaking
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  Speaker 2: your fist in my face. You're attempted to indulge in
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  Speaker 2: just a little complaining about my treatment of you. Once
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  Speaker 2: you step over that line, torrents of rage and self
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  Speaker 2: pity can sweep you away. The best protection against this
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  Speaker 2: indulgence is Thanksgiving, it's impossible to thank me and curse
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  Speaker 2: me at the same time. Thanking me for trials will
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  Speaker 2: feel awkward and contrived at first, but if you persist,
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  Speaker 2: your thankful words praded faith will eventually make a difference
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  Speaker 2: in your heart. Thankfulness awakes you to My presence, which
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  Speaker 2: overshadows all of your problems.
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  Speaker 1: Are doing to it.
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  Speaker 2: And I will bring that up over and over and
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  Speaker 2: over again. So the surprising way fatherhood changes men. Before
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  Speaker 2: the baby arrives, men are already changing in ways that
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  Speaker 2: reshape their brains, hormones, and their sense of self. Decades
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  Speaker 2: of research have examined what fathers do for their children.
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  Speaker 2: Almost none of it asked a question, what does having
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  Speaker 2: children do to father? Many men struggle to articulate what
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  Speaker 2: happens after they become fathers life continues to look similar
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  Speaker 2: from the outside, the same job, the same house, similar
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  Speaker 2: daily routines.
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  Speaker 1: Yet many fathers describe.
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  Speaker 2: The feeling that something fundamentally is shifted. Fatherhood doesn't just
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  Speaker 2: create a new identity, says Tommy madera licensed marriage to
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  Speaker 2: a family therapist. Sometimes it reveals something that was already
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  Speaker 2: there but had yet to be called forward. Scientists are
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  Speaker 2: now finding evidence of measurable changes and expected fathers even
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  Speaker 2: before they begin changing diapers or reading bedtime stories. Fatherhood
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  Speaker 2: is often considered to begin in the delivery room, research
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  Speaker 2: suggests it may begin much earlier. A twenty twenty five
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  Speaker 2: study followed first time fathers and found miserable hormonal changes
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  Speaker 2: in the men before the baby arrived, challenging the view
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  Speaker 2: that fathers as observers waiting on the sidelines. Study found
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  Speaker 2: that fathers had higher oxytocin levels than non fathers, often
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  Speaker 2: referred to as the bonding hormone, and it plays that
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  Speaker 2: in attachment, trust in social connection. Researchers believe it may
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  Speaker 2: help to support the close parent child relationships that developed
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  Speaker 2: during infancy. One of the most intriguing findings of the
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  Speaker 2: study involved testosterone. It found that fathers of had experienced
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  Speaker 2: lower testosterone levels after becoming parents, a shift that may
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  Speaker 2: help redact direct attention from competition and more toward family life.
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  Speaker 2: Depecting fathers with lower testosterone levels during pregnancy more likely
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  Speaker 2: to become highly involved fathers after birth. Changes aren't limited
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  Speaker 2: to hormonal levels. Brain regions related to empathy and affection
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  Speaker 2: see an increase in activity, and there's a shift to
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  Speaker 2: how the courtisol works in the body. This helps the
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  Speaker 2: father to be more aware of the baby's needs and
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  Speaker 2: respond faster to them. While both mothers and fathers become parents,
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  Speaker 2: that transition unfolds differently from men. While mothers undergo more
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  Speaker 2: visible physical change during pregnancy and child birth, fathers are
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  Speaker 2: more likely to experience this transition internally. The biggest thing
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  Speaker 2: for me has been the learning of patients and justin
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  Speaker 2: attunas a California father of two sons.
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  Speaker 1: Kids want your attention all the time.
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  Speaker 2: You realize they're not trying to be difficult, they just
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  Speaker 2: want to share their world with you. Fatherhood has forced
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  Speaker 2: me to slow down and see things through their eyes.
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  Speaker 2: The transition happened gradually, Frantwo, as he said, through countless
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  Speaker 2: ordinary moments that required him to be another person's needs
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  Speaker 2: ahead of his own. His experience reflects a theme that
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  Speaker 2: appearance repeated conversations with fathers. Many describe the feeling that
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  Speaker 2: life becomes less centered on personal ambition and more focused
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  Speaker 2: on serving a purpose larger than themselves. Men are often
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  Speaker 2: socialized prioritize achievement, productivity, independence, and professional success. A twenty
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  Speaker 2: twenty four review known as the Paternal Body describe fatherhood
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  Speaker 2: as a developmental transition, concluding that it can affect how
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  Speaker 2: men think, feel, and understand themselves. Across dozens of studies,
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  Speaker 2: researchers found that becoming a father can reshape a man's
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  Speaker 2: physical health, emotional lives, relationship, and even their identity. The
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  Speaker 2: role has a way of doing what years of therapy
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  Speaker 2: sometimes can't. It moves life from abstract to concrete very fast,
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  Speaker 2: with no onboarding process. A newborn forces a man to
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  Speaker 2: find answers. Someone is depending on you, watching you, learning
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  Speaker 2: from you, whatever you intend to do it or not.
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  Speaker 1: For many men, becoming.
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  Speaker 2: A dad challenges what they were taught a man was
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  Speaker 2: supposed to be. Many boys grow up hearing message is
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  Speaker 2: like don't cry or be tough, often from a father
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  Speaker 2: who showed love by working hard rather than take talking
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  Speaker 2: to our feelings. However, when children start to cry, some
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  Speaker 2: dab's first impulses to walk away.
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  Speaker 1: Others go to the opposite way.
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  Speaker 2: Hovering over every sound at the baby's monitor, determined not
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  Speaker 2: to repeat the emotional distance they had with their kids.
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  Speaker 2: In both cases, fatherhood forces many men to see how
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  Speaker 2: their own upbringing and the version of masculinity that they
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  Speaker 2: were given shows up in their parenting. Jann And Franklin,
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  Speaker 2: a psychologist who specializes in family dynamics, said that the
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  Speaker 2: process of caring for childs often where the most distinctive
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  Speaker 2: growth happens. Men who were never asked how they felt
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  Speaker 2: suddenly have to track both their child's emotions.
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  Speaker 1: And their own.
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  Speaker 2: Over time, many learn to manage their reactions and remain
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  Speaker 2: present during difficult situations.
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  Speaker 1: Franklin believes his experiences often serve.
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  Speaker 2: As catalysts for a father's own development become a father.
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  Speaker 1: Becoming a father.
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  Speaker 2: Can reactivate memories and patterns from a man's relationship with
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  Speaker 2: his own parents. In some cases, they understand their own
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  Speaker 2: parents even better, comes an opportunity to address issues that
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  Speaker 2: have lingered for years.
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  Speaker 1: Children also have.
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  Speaker 2: A way of reflecting both parents' strength and shortcomings. Fatherhood
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  Speaker 2: becomes an unexpected mirror, an opportunity for growth. Children introduce
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  Speaker 2: responsibilities can feel overwhelming, but they also provide a reason
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  Speaker 2: to endure challenges that might otherwise seem impossible. Sleep in
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  Speaker 2: personal times suddenly becomes more flexible than they once seemed.
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  Speaker 2: Blanco has observed that men experiencing greater self confidence, improved
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  Speaker 2: relationship quality, increased emotional flexibility, and higher levels of life
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  Speaker 2: satisfaction after becoming fathers. Every day presents opportunities to show up,
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  Speaker 2: fall short, learn and try again, and newborn does not
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  Speaker 2: care what a man does for a living. They have
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  Speaker 2: no interest in professional accomplishments or status symbols that one
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  Speaker 2: seemed important. Child only knows whether someone comes when it cries,
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  Speaker 2: whether someone stays when things are difficult, and whether someone
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  Speaker 2: can be counted on for tomorrow. For many men, that's
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  Speaker 2: simply that simple reality becomes one of the most powerful
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  Speaker 2: forces of change they'll ever experience. It asks more of
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  Speaker 2: them than they expected, and it reveals parts of themselves
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  Speaker 2: that they never have discovered otherwise. In the process of
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  Speaker 2: raising a child, many find that they too are still
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  Speaker 2: becoming the men they hope to be. That was outstanding,
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  Speaker 2: Take it to heart, share it with him and Dad.
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  Speaker 1: Be great to do, Have a great, healthy day,