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Ep 19 | Accessing the Deeper Self: Healing Through the Subconscious Mind | Highly Sensitive Series · Rise & Realign: Conversations for the Sensitive Soul

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Welcome to Rise and Realign, conversations for
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the sensitive soul. I'm Melissa, and this space
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is for those of us who feel deeply, love fiercely,
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and sense the world in ways that are hard to
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explain, but impossible to ignore. Here, we honor
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your sensitivity as a strength, not something
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to fix. Through reflections, realignment, and
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soul -led stories, we remember how to move through
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life in a way that feels true to who we really
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are. This is your space to rise, to realign,
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and to come home again and again to your own
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wise, sensitive self. Today, it's about accessing
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your deeper self, you know, through subconscious
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healing. And, you know, I really want to talk
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about how essential this is for individuals who
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recognize themselves as highly sensitive, right?
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And again, I'm always referencing the science
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behind this. roughly 20 to 30 % of the population
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who have a more finely tuned nervous system.
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So we've talked before about how, you know, we've
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all been raised in families and cultures right
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with societal beliefs and patterns ways of of
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being and when we're young we're just taking
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that in right we're not consciously choosing
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like yes i agree with this and i want to you
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know engage in this kind of behavior um it's
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something that again we're just taking it on
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even more deeply as sensitive beings um and so
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I really do feel that it's important that we
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understand that early programming doesn't always
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align with who we truly know ourselves to be
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or even just recognizing, you know, when we respond
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in a way to a situation that, wow, where did
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that come from, right? Like, I know I've caught
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myself saying things and I'm like, I recognize
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that voice, or I remember receiving, you know,
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that type of response. And it didn't feel good
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to me. So I certainly didn't enjoy repeating
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the pattern. But, you know, that's part of our
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human nature, right? We pick up patterns, right?
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Often referred to as, you know, creatures of
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habit, right? I really like to raise awareness
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to the importance of understanding the high sensitivity
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trait because of the differences between the
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people who have this trait and the 70 to 80 %
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of the population who don't. Just again, so that
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you can be realigning with you, with your authentic
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voice and truth and really, be able to honor
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and respect yourself and your needs. So today
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I'm touching on that, you know, part eight of
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the nine part highly sensitive series, accessing
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your deeper self, just because understanding
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that we have this depth of processing, right?
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It doesn't mean that we all understand well how
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am i processing things so deeply and what's going
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on in those deeper layers right i really find
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it again fascinating i've always been fascinated
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with the mind but discovering this trait and
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again being able to speak to the science behind
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it and what my own felt you know and lived experiences
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have been um i'm i'm here to share that you know
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share I live it before I lead it. But to really
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understand that a lot of us have believed certain
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things about ourselves, right? Being too sensitive,
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too emotional, you know, thinking too much, overreacting,
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right? And a lot of sensitive women that I support,
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again, so... deeply caring, high capacity, right?
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And just high stress load because of how much
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responsibility they take on. And I've been there,
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I've lived it. And what I've really come to understand,
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you know, is our mind is our builder, right?
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For you know, the direction that we're going,
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right? And I'm sure you've heard there's, there's
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tons of, you know, professionals out there that
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talk about mindset, you know, coaching, or, you
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know, focus on affirmations, and, you know, just
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notice how you speak to yourself. And all of
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these have their place, you know, in understanding
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and applying them into our lives. But again,
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as highly sensitive individuals, this is, you
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know, really accessing your deeper self, right?
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So we're talking about the blueprints, you know,
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that are operating under the surface that is
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actually directing our lives. And you may have
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heard me say before, you know, I used to think
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that I was who I was and I couldn't change. And
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thankfully, you know, I did have a spiritual
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awakening in 2008, which showed me way more than
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I could have ever imagined. But then I also,
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you know, by 2011 was training both in the science
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of mind philosophy, because Louise Hay played
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a really big part in my expanded understanding
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and consciousness shift. Beyond science of mine,
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I was, you know, trained in neuroscience, quantum
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physics, and just really working with the emotional
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component that, again, it can't be separated,
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the mind from the body, right? And really...
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I see it as mind, body, heart, and soul. That's
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really like this whole picture. Sometimes I say
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mind, body, spirit. Again, it just, there's different
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ways of approaching these different terminology
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and what they mean. So, but yeah, I just really
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want to speak to how, you know, as highly sensitive
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individuals, We have the depth of processing.
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We have the overstimulation that occurs sooner
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because we are so open and taking in more information
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and processing it more deeply. Like it's so,
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so empowering and liberating to actually be able
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to create the space to raise awareness and to
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understand, you know, where's fear coming in,
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right? Where's anxiety arising? You know, what
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is self doubt about, right? Like really understanding
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that inner dialogue. And I certainly work with
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that. very specifically when I am supporting
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women one -on -one or in group formats, because
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we often carry forward these beliefs about ourselves
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that are so incorrect, you know? And again, this,
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there is an evolutionary reason. for us to have
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this trait, right? And we didn't always understand
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it. We didn't always know about it. And I'm here
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to just keep raising awareness because there
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is nothing wrong with being highly sensitive.
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There is nothing wrong with feeling things deeply,
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right? There is nothing wrong with being in touch
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with your emotions and allowing them to come
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to the surface and be expressed through your
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voice, through tears, right? That is healthy.
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But many of us have learned that it's not safe
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or it's uncomfortable, right? Or it's unbearable
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and have really shut it down, right? Disconnected.
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And again, I see highly sensitive individuals
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as such deep, loving, caring individuals. But
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sometimes our conditioning gets in the way. And
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again, we don't know who or when, right, the
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determination gets made that it's like, oh, I
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don't have to believe that, right? I really can
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change the way I think, you know, about myself.
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I really can change how I approach this, you
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know, emotional reaction that comes up. I don't
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have to judge myself, right? And I feel like
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early on in my work with highly sensitive women,
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really helping them understand like you don't
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ever have to apologize for crying. Like that
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is healthy, right? And I just, I am so honored
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to be able to share what I've come to understand
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along my journey of awakening, my journey of
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understanding what it means to be a highly sensitive
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individual. and the gifts within it, right? There's
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absolutely challenges. You know, I don't care
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who you are on this planet. At some point, we're
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all navigating challenges, right? Like, we just
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don't always see it or know about it, right?
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But we're all navigating something. Sometimes
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we're experiencing joy and love and peace. And,
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you know, life seems to go along pretty smoothly.
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And then other times we're navigating some rough
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terrain, right? So I'm really here to just speak
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from my heart to say, I've been there. I've been
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through the periods where, you know, I thought
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I was achieving everything that. I want it. But
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I didn't feel connected. I didn't really understand
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my unique experiences. And I'm really grateful
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that my heart and my soul just kept calling me
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forward, like, don't drop this high sensitivity
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information. Like, stay true. Keep being curious.
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Keep looking for evidence of it everywhere that
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points to you know why it just kept coming up
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for me so again we're talking about the benefit
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of accessing your deeper self right through subconscious
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healing um because again That's where the patterns
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are, right? I call them vinyl records. And if
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we're not noticing, you know, those vinyl records
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that are playing, and some of them have been
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playing for decades for many of us, and those
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create some really deep grooves, and they're
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not the easiest to lift up out of, right? And
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that's where I find, again, my work is so, it's
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really an honor to help individuals. and groups
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of women to notice like, ah, that's a pattern,
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you know, and that's not one I choose for myself.
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And that's what's really empowering is to realize
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that we don't have to stay stuck in old patterns.
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And when I say stuck, you know, I'm not implying
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that we can't change it again. Or even sometimes,
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you know, we may say we're stuck in a pattern,
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but It's just that there's more that's being
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revealed that we don't know about. I really find
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that, you know, sometimes our focus is very narrow,
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right? And that's what blocks our ability to
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see so much more. And I really want to speak
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to, again, my own spiritual awakening helped
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me realize, like, there is more to the... unseen
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world, right, what we might call invisible, than
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there is to what we can see, right, the visible,
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which, again, I love that life guided me into
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quantum physics, right, and helped me explore
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many different religions, different practices.
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just again, to keep bringing me back to myself,
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right, my own light within. But yeah, our brain
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is malleable, right? I mean, I learned about
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neuroplasticity back in 2011, while I was doing
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a neuro positive life coaching program. And I
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just loved it. I loved, you know, learning. more
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about the different brainwave states and you
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know what we have access to there and I love
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the work of David Hawkins and the levels of consciousness
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and I mean his first book Power Versus Force
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is really powerful I mean there's a lot of great
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resources out there and I have to say that I
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mean, I say repeatedly in sessions, right? The
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breath is the bridge, which is why I'm always
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pausing on the podcast, right? To like, let's
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breathe together, you know? And yeah, let's do
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that now. Let's inhale through our nose as slow
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and deep as you can, lengthening your spine.
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And then exhale out your mouth like you're blowing
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out a candle. So it's really slow and longer
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than your inhale. And just do a few more. Inhaling
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through your nose. Just receiving. Again, lengthening
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that spine. Inhaling as deeply as you can. Then
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exhaling out your mouth. Just releasing. Letting
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go of tension. And one more, inhaling through
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your nose. Nice, long exhale out your mouth.
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Just bringing you back, connected to your breath,
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your body, this moment. You know, there's so
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much that interrupts our flow of being right
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here, right now. right? And especially as highly
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sensitive individuals, the way that depth of
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processing, right? Like it uses our mental energy,
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right? And so often we're reflecting on past
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experiences and then we're projecting things
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forward into the future, right? And that's if
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we're reflecting on something and then want to
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make a good decision right because i have to
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say that is a really paramount piece that i find
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with the individuals that i support too is you
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know that that drive is to make the best decisions
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right and i mean of course the trade is it has
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that innate survival strategy you know like that's
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the evolutionary component of this right we're
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always searching for how to make things better
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for ourselves right how to make better decisions
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right how to how to how to be sure you know we're
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raising our kids in the best way that we can
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how to make sure you know like their environments
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and their needs are taken care of right like
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again as highly sensitive women I see your ability
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and your leadership you know even when you don't
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recognize it and believe me I didn't used to
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always either I remember other professionals
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seeing me in a light that I would just be like,
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oh, that's great. I'm glad you see me that way,
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right? But on the inside, I felt, you know, tense
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and stressed and, right, like always striving
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to make sure I'm doing all the right things.
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And that's what I really want you to understand,
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right? sensitivity, it's not a barrier. It's
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not a flaw, right? Like it is a gift, but it
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does require us to pause, you know, and to really
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sit with that gift, really unwrap it, right?
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But again, there's a sensory intelligence about
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this, right? You're meant to live from a place
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of deeper truth and connection. you know so it's
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really about slowing things down you know so
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that your nervous system can feel safe and you
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can move from that chronic you know stress response
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right we call it sympathetic dominance i used
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to say i was high strung you know we want to
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have that more fluid oscillation right from stress
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to rest right like that is really key and and
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that's why you know I invite you to do a breathing
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practice on the podcast and that's just a really
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small reset right like it really is essential
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that we're implementing the time and space to
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connect with our breath and our body in every
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day And I know that that's not super easy for
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a lot of people. They may view that they don't
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have the time, right? And that's okay. We are
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where we are. But we all get to a point, right,
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where we notice things that we didn't notice
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before. My hope for you is that as you listen
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and as you connect with your breath and your
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body, it starts reminding you, right? Like that
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light within you, it's always there. It's always
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been there, but we're not always tuning in and
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connecting with it, right? So realigning with
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that light within ourselves, you know, realigning
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with our authentic voice and truth. right? Like
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that's a process and there's a cumulative benefit
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to it. It just calls for us to be as consistent
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as we can. And again, I am always supporting
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women to say, okay, you know, if you got out
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of the habit, like no big deal, recommit, start
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again, right? Like we don't need to be so hard
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on ourselves. And I think that's really important,
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right? Like I don't think that's our natural
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nature. I know for me and for the women that
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I am supporting, like love is what is emanating
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the strongest, right? But when we're so busy
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looking outward, right? When we're so busy trying
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to keep up and carry responsibility for everything
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that we see, which we see we're taking in more
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than roughly 70. to 80 % of the population who
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don't have this trait. We tend to think like
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that. We got to make up for where other people
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aren't right. And that's not healthy. That is
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not our job. You know, really, we each are responsible
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for tending to ourselves. So, you know, I just
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want you to know that I've also encountered women
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who, you know, doing breathing practices seems,
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you know, challenging, or they say, oh, that
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doesn't work for me, right? And again, I meet
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everyone where they are. And some people, when
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I, you know, talk about doing, you know, some
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hypnosis, you know, that can kind of bring up
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some either skepticism or, you know, just uncertainty,
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nervousness. But I have to say that You know,
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my own natural guidance with clients is already
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to bring them into that relaxed state. And I've
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just learned to take that deeper and deeper.
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And so I've created some different offerings
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that really support women in that subconscious
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transformation. area so that they're realigning
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with the truth of who they are, and really letting
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go of, you know, those old beliefs that don't
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deserve the space anymore, you know, that they're
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not benefiting anyone. And, you know, there's
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a couple of ways that I do that. I do that through
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realignment sessions. And I also do it on a deeper
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level in the Rise and Realign intensives, which
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are roughly a three hour integrative intensive
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where we're really, you know, bringing you back
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to your core essence, right? Where you don't
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have to relive, you know, any trauma, right?
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Like it's just helping you to get realigned with
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you. And I just, I know, you know, that we are
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able to realign with the truth of who we are
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as we commit to ourselves, right? And clear out
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that which is not serving us, you know, clear
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out the things that maybe we inherited, maybe
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some of the things that, you know, we were conditioned
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with, right? Because who we are is, is quite
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complex, you know? That's such a big topic in
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conversation, because there's so many perspectives
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and understandings, right? And, and again, I'm
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not here to provide that for anybody, because
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mine has changed and evolved so much, you know,
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for the last 18 years, especially. But yeah,
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subconscious layer, you know, is really helpful
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to really clear out some of those old records
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and realign you with, you know, your truth, your
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core essence, and how you want to be creating
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life, right? Because, you know, we're always
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creating or manifesting, right? But we don't
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always understand the building blocks that we're
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doing that with. But the subconscious is what
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holds those. old beliefs, right? Those patterns
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and programs. And I certainly am grateful that
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I've been able to, you know, dig deeper and create
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new ways of thinking and experiencing life and
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just releasing a lot of what doesn't serve me.
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And we can do that gently. You know, I know I
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did a podcast with someone a few months ago,
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I think it was. And she said, you know, if you
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could tell your younger self, you know, one thing,
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what would it be? And I remember saying, like,
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you don't have to try so hard, you know, like,
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it's okay. Just be you, you know. And I just,
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I sense that about highly sensitive individuals.
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Like there is this, maybe not trying so hard,
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but doing so much, you know, like it's necessary
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to take space to just breathe and to just be,
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you know, um, and to be. consciously choosing
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what aligns with your values, you know, what
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aligns with how you want to feel, how you want
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to experience life, right? there's different
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periods of time when we start waking up and and
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transitioning from an old identity to a new one
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right whether we're talking you know our young
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adulthood like in our 20s or when we're becoming
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um parents you know um and even when we're um
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parents of adults, right? And now that shifts,
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but a lot of us also shift our identities as
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crisis come up, right? Challenges come up and
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things just shift, right? So the more fluid and
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flexible we can be, the more enjoyable the ride
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is um but also just knowing that you're not alone
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and there is support so however you found you
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know me and this podcast I'm really honored um
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that you're here um and if you're noticing parts
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of you recognizing you know like yep That's me
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too. I've been carrying these old stories and
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emotional imprints for a long time. You know,
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maybe you're ready for deeper support. And that's
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one of the reasons that I created Rise and Realign
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Intensive. You know, it's exactly for this layer
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of subconscious healing. And so it's to, again,
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support you where you are and where you need
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it. You are always invited to explore on my website,
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realignwithmelissa .com. So as a reminder, we
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are here together to rise, reclaim, remember.
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Where the heart leads, the body remembers, and
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the soul awakens. So before we close, I invite
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you to return to your breath. to return to your
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body and to what feels true for you right now.
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There's nothing you need to fix. Just notice
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what's here. And If you're ready to rise out
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of old conditioning and return to your own rhythm,
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you're always welcome to walk with me, you know,
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by listening here or joining the Rise and Realign
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lunar letter that I send out weekly. So you can
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find everything on my website, realignwithmelissa
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.com. So take good care of you. Much love and
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light.