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Is Marriage the New Divorce? · Talking Shed

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Welcome back to the talkie Shit. Podcast to my left, the
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Yo, welcome back to the Talkie Shit podcast.
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You're here with Josiah Machu, bring you the latest sports, pop
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culture and last big questions. On today's episode, we're going
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to be talking about a few things.
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Yeah, bro, we got some stuff to get back to potting.
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We're also going to be touching on a few topics.
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We're on a bit of a flat challenge and we're going to
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give you an update on how that all went kind of rolling over
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from my last episode when we talked about it.
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Yeah, daily check in on the, oh, weekly check in on the mental
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health kind of thing with the whole mental health, I think it
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was a mental health awareness month or week.
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So our little take on that? Also, we got a question of the
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week, something a little bit debatable.
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Yeah, yeah. Interesting topic.
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I think we have different views on it as well.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. But that'll be good.
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Yeah, and then I want to. I got a story about work this
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week and my thoughts on homeless people.
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And last but not least, man, we're going to be talking about
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cosmetic surgery. Yeah.
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That'll be interesting. Yeah.
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Bro give us a update. Do you want an update man?
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Wow so my update this week is as, as we as I mentioned before,
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back playing league this year and sad to say it's I think it's
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come to an end because Oh my God, I've just absolutely
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smashed my shoulder in the last game we played against Burley.
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Wow I was gutted as well later having the very start of the
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game and grade 3 AC joint. That's a worst injury.
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Yeah. So it's pretty much there's no
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ligament holding my AC joint in at the moment, but I think you
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like but apparently it's all just aesthetic.
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So it doesn't, it doesn't matter about structurally it's most of
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the time there's no issues, but it just.
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Sort of move your arms and. Shoulders Oh bro, like passing
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coming across your body was so sore and it happened the 1st 5
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minutes and so like for I had what happened is 'cause I had I
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had a good very first run. I had a good run and I was like,
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yo, sweet, we're on we're on. I had like first two minutes
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were mean and then I just got over cocky A and I saw this
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little gap on the inside of A and I was like I can get there.
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I can't remember if the pass was bad or whatever, but I didn't
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get to the cat for her and got absolutely cleaned up and then
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and then I was like fuck that. That just felt a bit weird on my
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shoulder played it and then how I knew it was bad as I'm pretty
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sore. Glissa on the sideline goes oh
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he's done as AC so it must have been sticking up that much for I
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was like no way. And then they scored a try
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anyway. The other teams scored a try and
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we're under the post and the trainer comes on the field and
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I'm like, bro, my shoulder's done.
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I was like, can I, can I stop off?
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And he's like, can you make it till half time?
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I looked at a time by 35 minutes left and a half I go, no bro, I
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need to come off now. What do you mean?
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You know, you look at the trainer, can you make it till
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half time? Bro if I could make it I would
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have. I would have said that I
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wouldn't have asked to come off. So what did you really play in
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the end? How many minutes?
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Yeah, but I played the whole game.
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See concrete pill. Concrete pill brother but I
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couldn't lift my arm up like and then they start.
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The only thing that saved me is the other wing had done this.
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Shoulder so you're opposite. Yeah.
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So we kind of had like a little neutral agreement, non non
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spoken mutual agreement, like let's just make it through.
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But because I could, I did not want to do any runs after that
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day because I was just running with one arm, like, yeah, it was
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pretty wretched. Those are the I hate shoulder
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injuries. Eh, I hate shoulder injuries
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because I've done a few of those too, and it's just ugly and it's
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just the reason why I hate it and it's not because I'll get
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through a game. Yeah, the thing that I hate is
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I'm already thinking about my how bad of a sleep I'm gonna
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get. Yeah, right.
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It's still worse to sleep on, bro.
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Keep. Bro, it is because.
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You got to sleep on one side, yeah.
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You know, do you go side? I just went.
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I went back the first night, Yeah, but I just hate sleeping
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on my backache so. That's why yeah, I'm the same.
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I hate sleeping on my back so I've got to sleep on my side.
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Yeah, same. Yeah.
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And that if. But I can't sleep the whole
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night on that one. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Always roll over. And eventually, yeah, that's the
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worst part. Yeah.
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So that's, but apparently there's not much you can do for
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AC joint. I've done my other one.
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So it might actually look even now because at the moment with
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how it used to be, one of my shoulders popped up real high.
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So now I think it might look even.
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So I actually might look on. I might look normal.
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It might look like my traps just go like real sharp at that point
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or something. I don't know.
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But yeah. So they're saying like you can,
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you can get surgery, but it's just like cosmetic pretty much.
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It's like an aesthetic thing. So if you don't want your
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shoulder to pop out and if if it starts to like jam and that kind
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of thing, then you can get it. But it made me think in terms of
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like, because I don't really care, bro.
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I don't really care about what it looks like.
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Well, what it made me think though, what are some like
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cosmetic surgeries? Would you get any cosmetic
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surgeries? And like what?
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What cosmetic surgeries do you think are acceptable to get?
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For a male or. Male.
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Yeah. Let's just go.
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Male. Let's go.
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Oh, we can go both. We can go both.
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I think we both know. Yeah, you know.
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Very honestly, like personally, I wouldn't get any.
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Yeah, I'm actually all good luck.
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Well, OK, what if I said. I'm OK, you know, like, OK,
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yeah. I'm going to give free cosmetic
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surgery on anything you want. You have to get it.
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You have to get something like or I or I kill somebody.
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So you have to get otherwise, yeah, yeah.
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So you got to fix something. You obviously had something you
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already you know you would get done, eh?
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Oh, about 100%. I'm going to Turkey.
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I'm going to. Turkey, Dee.
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Actually, I'm getting a fresh hairline.
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Fresh hairline, Dee. Actual.
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Yeah. Damn.
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OK. I mean, Mama.
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You're self-conscious about your hair.
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Oh yeah, no, no, but I've I've I'm not the worst, but I'm
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definitely not the best. Like I got some bad.
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Hairline. But oh bro, let's not talk about
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too much but like. Oh, no, no, he's, he's.
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But but but but the but The thing is it's preventative
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measures because I know it's going to get way.
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Worse down the road, yeah. Oh man, what would I get?
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I actually don't know bro. I would waste.
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To waste. So you get those the the the the
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fat removal. Is that Is that it?
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Gee, that's. The I reckon that's worse than
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getting your hairline done. Gee.
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No, I don't know. And you're the the Poku Poku.
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Yeah, bro, I don't know. That's the I don't know.
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That's probably the only thing that can come to my mind.
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Yeah, but I, I'm actually generally I'm all good about my
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body, though. I'm easier there.
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Like I I I don't stress it. I'm just one of those types of
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people, bro. Like if, if something actually
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happened or like I was, I don't know.
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I just I don't, I'm not, I don't care about it.
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If you're ugly, you're ugly bro. You have to accept it you.
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Trust. Me.
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Accept the bro, you end up fixing your hairline and the
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next minute oh bro my nose is a bit weird as well.
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Like bro, you can't stop. No, you see what happened to
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Michael Jackson. And yeah, Dolly Parton and
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everyone's ugly. Everyone's ugly.
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You just got to accept. It oh not beautiful.
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Yeah. Yeah, I don't know.
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Now for me, I honestly, I'm all good.
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I'm all. Good.
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No, you said waste. Yeah, I'm good.
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Liposuction. Yeah.
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Is that what it's called? I think so, yeah.
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Bro I honestly don't know. I got you.
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I got you, my man. This Christmas cake.
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Yeah, before the wedding. I got you.
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Stop the training. Or What's that?
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What's that drug called? It's like a zimpiac or
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something. That also is it?
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Apparently that's one of. The everyone is on there.
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Yeah, oh bro. But it works though apparently.
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Yeah, but it's because it's that drug I think blocks an enzyme or
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something along those lines. You.
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Know where that's what Jonah Hill and all that are.
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He might have got lipo actually because he was huge.
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No, those actors are all on drugs bro.
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Yeah. They're worse than athletes.
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Yeah, You know, But how do you go from looking like you're 130
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KGS to 80 KGS? Yeah, for a superhero movie, you
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know, like, yeah, Yeah, they do, bro.
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They go through the extremes, those guys, you know?
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Yeah. And you know what, Dwayne The
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Rock Johnson, I'm going to call you out right now, bro.
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You are 100% on drugs, bro. Like, everyone knows it.
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You can't be 50 something and look like you're still, you
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know. Bro, that dude is dating Masters
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still. Yeah, you know, that's that's.
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That's insane bro. But he's on something like too
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elite bro. Like he's on some he might be on
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like no one else ever has because he still kind of looks
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like healthy for his age. Yeah, yeah.
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Yeah, I don't know. I just can't get over bro, the
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fact like when I used to watch his, his Instagram and all that,
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yeah. And the amount of food he would
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eat, yeah. I was like bro there's no way
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you can eat that much food like. And still we must.
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Have and my Yeah, actually, yeah, no.
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He's on the same thing. Lebron's on, bro.
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LeBron, you're on shit. I'm calling you out.
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Yes, bro. There's no way your knees have
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held out this long, bro. There's no way.
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You're 40 years old. You've never had done your ACL.
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You've never done any, bro. You hardly ever ever do muscle
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injuries. You last couple years, he's only
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just started doing his hand and his groin and that kind of thing
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and calves, bro. He never, ever had injuries.
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And have you seen his toes? But they're worse than mine.
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They look like bro. They literally look like little
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gremlin bro gremlin toes. Like half of them have half of
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them have slid them up and then half of them are like still
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straight. There's like.
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That's yuck. Bro, they're they're doing like
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the the the mongrel mop. There's toes.
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That's crazy. But yeah, anyway, so him and
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they're doing Rock Johnson. Whatever you're on, bro, send
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them my way. I need.
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That's their funny money, bro. Yeah.
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How how about you bro? What's your update?
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Well, bro, for me, last last week it worked for me at my
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previous school. So now previous school, so all
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done and dusted over there and shout out to all the shooters,
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man. I was blessed bro to meet heaps
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of people, awesome colleagues bro, that I can actually say I'm
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mates with, you know, and I think that's the hardest thing
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sometimes. But when you're making a
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decision and leave it places isn't the right court.
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Yeah, you know, but I'm happy I've made the.
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What do you reckon your Well, let's do a little stats review
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on your time at teaching. So what do you do?
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Like excellence mirror achieve not achieved.
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Yeah. But they just, they do it a
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little differently like yeah, it is.
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It is pretty much. Yeah, okay, So what are we
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saying on average? Well, what's your what's your
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stats for your mirror? Mirror.
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Average mirror. There's not.
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There's no way I'm excellent. Oh, no, no, no, no, no.
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I'm saying like the percentage of passes, was it the
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percentage? How what percentage was not
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achieved? Achieved mirror and excellent.
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For me or for your students? Oh, for my students.
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Oh, bro. Honestly, G Oh, I think probably
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no, probably excellent. Oh, well, you're one of those
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ones just giving the excellence as a good teacher.
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Yeah, good teacher, bro. Nah, it'll be a marital
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excellence, right? Yeah, yeah, yeah, Like, yeah,
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that, that that was a cool thing.
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But P is not a hard. Is that a thing?
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Is it a thing where teachers actually like have to get a
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certain amount of not achieve achieves marriage in?
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Excellence. No.
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No way. Is that not a thing?
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No way. Not for me.
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No, it's Nah, Nah. I don't know where that came
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from, mate. Yeah, because yeah.
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No, no way. Because you know, at uni it is,
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is it bro? Because I, we did a course once
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and the test was so because the test was so hard, like 80% of
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the people failed and so everyone got scaled up, you know
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what I mean? Straight up.
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Yeah, bro, because some of our tests were like ridiculously
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hard and then yeah. And then I'm pretty sure they'll
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scale down sometimes as well. Oh.
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Right now, see for us, bro, it's, it's me.
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If, if the, if the student applies themselves, you know,
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and, and obviously the, the teacher is a good teacher, then,
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you know, there's, there's no way your, your students are
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going to fail. But obviously, man, there's,
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there's a major need at the moment with all these high needs
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coming out, you know, like with a lot of the kids, yeah, a lot
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of challenges that they're facing and stuff.
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So that, that, that makes it challenging for sure, bro.
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Yeah, but but yeah, I love my time there, man.
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And yeah, shout out to all my students and, and all that, bro,
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cause feel them listen to the potty too.
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Yeah, which is cool, man. And they always ask about, you
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know, when, when's the next potty coming out or releasing
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that. But yeah, and also, I think
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that's what I, that's what I was going to say before.
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It's always it's, it's, I don't think many people can say they
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can walk away from a job and actually say they got mates
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there, you know what I mean? Like generally when you're in a
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professional environment, it's just professional relationship,
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you know? But for me, you know, I know
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I've got, you know, people that I'll still catch up with, you
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know, and do things with as well, you know?
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So yeah, very lucky, very blessed man.
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But yeah, onto new things, you know, so that's probably my
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general update, but yeah, but together we got a general update
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with our flat, flat challenge. Yeah, bro, yeah.
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What were some of the common denominators?
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You could say denominators. Yes.
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Denominators. We'll go back to math, yeah.
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So just the update on what we did last potty is so we did a
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flat challenge for mental health awareness month or week,
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whatever it was, because we wanted something that was an
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actual tool that could help you with mental awareness, not just
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saying reach out to me if you're feeling thing, because those are
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empty words and I don't like them and we don't like them
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anyway. So we say we so we so we so we
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wanted to actually do something that actually could help us and
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other people. So what we did was every day for
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a week, that's all we did to start with is 10.
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Where to write 10 things that we were grateful we write 10 things
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because it's harder to think of 10 things.
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It's easy to do 3 or one thing a day when you go through and ask
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yourself 10 things in a day. It's hard.
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And we had to make it different things each time and we ended up
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doing a bit of repetitive stuff because after a few things that
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it you just end up doing this similar things.
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So yeah, three of my my main ones that I was always grateful
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for was conversations. So lots of those were with like
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random strangers that I wouldn't have tried to talk to or I
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wouldn't have appreciated in the past conversations with my
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partner Shania with you guys, just any, any like deep
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conversations. I was always like, oh, that was
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actually pretty cool doing fitness in the mornings
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specifically, like if I left it to the afternoon, like I just
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felt like it was a hassle more in the mornings.
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I felt like it was just like a it was better.
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And then finishing tasks like at work, just like completing
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something, like I've got a massive sense of achievement.
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Achievement from that. Yeah.
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How about you, I? Like that, bro?
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Yeah, for me, I'm that last part you said finishing tasks.
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That's what I had on my one too. That was something that was
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common when that popped up over my week of writing Gratefuls
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because, yeah, like you said, you do feel a sense of
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achievement, but it's like, yeah, you've done something and
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you're happy that you've, you know, completed it.
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So that was that was definitely one of mine.
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But yeah, morning routine was super important, whether that
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was just getting up early and go for morning coffee, go for a
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run. I'm not going to say I went to
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the gym because I didn't go to the gym in the morning.
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Like I'm an arvo gym person. So I like that routine.
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It's like my my wind down and if I go in the arvo but massively
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massively my number one would be great sleep Yeah, I I I realize
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just how like how much better I was.
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You know, if I had great. Sleep.
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Great sleep, yeah? And I think a lot of people
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could probably relate to that as well.
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So yeah, that was a flat challenge, man.
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And yeah, our general updates. Yeah.
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So I'll look. All right, our question of the
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week, something that's a little bit controversial, but man is
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marriage outdated and it's choosing not to marry actually
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the smarter, more evolved decision.
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So this is something that we've spoken about at flat that as
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previously and we found out that we were quite different in terms
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of our opinions on it. So bro, you want to kick this
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one off and explain kind of how you came up with a question or
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where you saw it and your thoughts on it as well?
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Yeah, I think it's just, I don't know where I saw it, but it's
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probably just more thinking about what I'm keen to do.
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And then and like, it's a balance because.
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But in my head, I wouldn't need to get married because I love my
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partner. That love wouldn't change
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whether we got married or whether we stayed unmarried.
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I think that you can live the exact same life if you're
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married, if you're unmarried. The only difference is you
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didn't have. Yeah, a wedding.
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And that, like, I'm not saying that I don't want to get married
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'cause I I do. But if like my partner didn't
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want to get married, that would be fine with me.
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But to be honest, bro, I just kind of want to have a marriage,
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a wedding, a wedding just because it will be a cool
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celebration. Yeah, that's the main reason.
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It isn't because like it's sealing the love or it's because
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I'm not religious really or have any like ties to getting
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married. So for me, bro, just be a time
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for my family, for for my partners family to get together,
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celebrate us and it's a moment in our lives.
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So we could always remember and come back to and have pictures
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from and show kids and show the kids and that kind of thing.
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So for me, it'll just be more that that moment.
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But that's not even to say that you couldn't do just have a
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party or something like that, but you may as well just have a
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wedding. I get yeah, so my, so my, I
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guess my conclusion to that is I want to have a wedding, but for
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me, I would be fine if we, if my partner didn't want to, yeah.
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It's like, it's like the name change thing for me.
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Like I would want my partner to have my name, but if she didn't
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want to have my name, then it doesn't bother me as well.
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Yeah. It's because society's changed a
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lot, you know, especially in the last 100 years, you know, like
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if you look back 100 years ago, the rate of marriages.
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Was. Probably higher than 70%, to be
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quite honest with you. Yeah.
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Whereas now, you know, it's, it's definitely decline.
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Yeah. When lifestyles change, societal
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status, you know, and all that change as well.
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Personally for me, I'm on the other end.
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I I think marriage, it's the ultimate sign of commitment.
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And yeah, I come from a religious background too.
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And so there's obviously a little bit of that to play into
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it as well. But the reason why I say it is
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because, you know, for a lot of families, it kind of symbolizes
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that, that ultimate, yeah, that that ultimate commitment to each
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other. And for me, like I've had the
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best experience with it in terms of my, the examples I've had in
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my life. And that's why like I aspire for
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that. So like when I look at my
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parents, for example, they've been together for 30 or
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something years now and like they've worked through
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everything, you know, through thick and thin.
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And so for me, that's why I've kind of gone down that route
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where I do want to get married as well.
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And for me, you know, like my partner and I have spoken about
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and she wants to get married. And I don't know, like some
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people fall into the category of like, it's more for the woman
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than the man. I don't like that though.
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Like I, I, it's, it's for both of you, you know, and.
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Anyone that kind of says that it's more for the women, it's I
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recommend. It's a cop out to be honest, you
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know, But yeah, I just. I think it's a sign of
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commitment really. And yeah, for me it's like
20:21
showing that you 2 are pretty much all in, you know, from
20:24
there and there. But yeah, I understand,
20:26
obviously society changes and the world evolves and that and
20:31
yeah, 'cause you know, at the moment it looks like that, you
20:33
know, current stats that we've seen kind of it's, it's
20:36
decreasing quite a bit. So.
20:38
Yeah, because it's like over 50% now divorce, but how many people
20:43
are in marriages as well, that unhappy kind of thing.
20:46
So like in terms of the unsuccessful marriages, it's
20:48
it's more than it's more than that.
20:50
So yeah, it's AI can see like it would be a a really like tough
20:55
thing. I don't know.
20:58
I don't know. It's it's AI feel like
21:01
progressively with with society, it's become more normalized to
21:05
to, to, to not want to get married.
21:08
Pretty much, yeah. Also, just like with social
21:12
media and all that kind of thing, you see other other
21:16
things and it's so easy just to just to get divorced.
21:19
But that's the thing, you know what I mean?
21:21
But that that's what has changed society a lot, the social media
21:24
break because like some of the stats that we've come across,
21:26
for example, in the US, right in 1960, around 82% of adults aged
21:30
25 to 34 were married. 25 to 34. We're married, so.
21:34
But by 2010, that dropped to 44%.
21:37
So that's almost drops by half. Pretty much.
21:40
Yeah. You know, which is crazy.
21:41
But I do think that's a great point you bring up.
21:44
It's just social media has come out and so now it's you.
21:47
You see things a lot more. Whereas like 1960s, bro.
21:52
Like I, I would know my next door neighbors, but I wouldn't
21:54
know anyone inviting, you know? Yeah, yeah.
21:56
Across the world. Yeah.
21:57
You know what I mean? And and that that's like a I've,
22:00
I agree with the fact like, but no relationship is going to be
22:04
easy. So when you when you really
22:09
commit to something, you should really commit to it.
22:12
You shouldn't try take an easy way out if you have an argument
22:15
or something like that. So I think marriage helps to
22:17
like bind it and helps you to like work through that because
22:20
you've actually made that big commitment.
22:22
Yeah. So yeah, I do agree with with
22:25
that in the sense that sense. But obviously I understand, like
22:28
you brought up before, you know, winnings as well, they cost a
22:31
lot. Yeah.
22:32
And so sometimes, you know, in today's world, I'm talking about
22:35
people rather just save up for a house then than get married.
22:38
Yeah. But then these options, these
22:39
alternatives too, you know, you don't need to have a big
22:42
ceremony in that, you know, that's gonna cost you thousands
22:44
of dollars. You can just go get a prenup.
22:46
Prenup. No, I'm getting a prenup.
22:51
You. Can get slipped out.
22:53
Oh, sorry. Now we're speaking about that.
22:56
Actually, we're speaking about that are.
22:57
You guys getting a prenup? Yeah, I think we will.
22:59
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. But for other reasons, not
23:03
because of the marriage, yeah, but for other reasons.
23:05
So and we can talk about that later.
23:07
Actually, I'm actually comfortable talking about that.
23:09
So no, but you can go down to what is it the like?
23:14
What's it like the quiz? Yeah, no, yeah, yeah.
23:16
You just sign a paper. What's that called?
23:20
It's not, it's not a big ceremony.
23:22
You know, that's why everyone goes to Vegas, because.
23:23
You can go to the right, yeah. Yeah, What is it?
23:26
It's a. Like the people that marry you?
23:30
Yeah. What's that called though?
23:33
Celebrate. No, Yeah.
23:35
No, no, Yeah, that is a celebrate.
23:36
No, no, no, I'm talking about you go to the like the the court
23:39
or whatever and then all you need is 2 witnesses and then you
23:42
sign the paper in there it is. Then it's like 500 bucks.
23:44
Oh yeah. Maybe even less than that, to be
23:46
honest with you. So people going down that road,
23:48
that route, because it's just way more affordable, way more
23:50
cheaper. Yeah.
23:51
Yeah, yeah. So, yeah, so, yeah.
23:54
But in saying that, like, because your parents have been
23:56
together for a while too. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
23:57
And they're married. They're married, you know.
23:59
So like, is that something that you think you would, you know,
24:02
like, is that because you've had that?
24:04
Like that's a great example. Yeah, that's a good example.
24:06
Yeah. And they've been together for
24:07
some time as well, you know, and to see them kind of like
24:10
obviously they come over and visit and all that, you know?
24:12
And so to see that. So, like, it's interesting for
24:15
me to hear you say that you're OK, you know not to.
24:20
Not to get married. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
24:21
Because yeah, that I don't feel like that could like they could
24:25
have had the same relationship, married or unmarried.
24:29
Like I don't feel any other thing that marriage like made
24:33
their relationship. I think their relationship was
24:36
how it was and it would have been like that either way.
24:39
You know what I mean? Yeah, so bro, yeah, they're a
24:45
really good example of of a marriage and I've had heaps of
24:50
good examples of that. But that kind of yeah.
24:54
But I in my opinion, bro, and how I think in my brain is I
24:57
just think I would, I love my partner the same if I was
25:01
married or if I wasn't married. And so for me it wouldn't make
25:05
any difference. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
25:07
No, that's all good, man. That's all good.
25:09
But yeah, we'll see. We'll see.
25:10
It'll be cool to hear what other people think as well, you know,
25:13
obviously. But yeah, I do think the
25:15
massive, a massive thing on it is, is definitely social media
25:19
financial hardship and also how society have just changed in
25:23
general, you know, back in the 1950s and 60s as well.
25:26
Like, you know, you just look at the example of woman not working
25:30
as much back then. You know, there's more assault
25:33
income than that. Yeah, now that's changed.
25:35
You relied on each other. You rely on.
25:36
Yeah, exactly that, bro. And like one thing I've noticed,
25:39
and I'm like 27 going on 28, you know, like marriages are now
25:43
like people are only getting married like past.
25:45
Late year bro. Do you know what I mean?
25:47
Whereas like back then, my people, my grandparents, for
25:50
example, were married at I think 18.
25:52
Yeah, You know, which I think is rare today.
25:54
Bro that's bro that's. That's like unheard.
25:57
Of it's almost shocking when you hear someone get married at that
25:59
age. Yeah, You know what I mean?
26:00
Like, it froze me off. Yeah.
26:02
But now it's normal to get married past. 3030 and it's OK
26:06
to. I'd say that would be like the
26:07
standard. Yeah, bro, I don't even know.
26:10
But none of my, like, real close mates are married yet, so yeah,
26:13
yeah. But yeah, we're over 30.
26:14
I also look about, look at things like, you know, how
26:17
they're talking about how the world's declining in terms of
26:19
population. Yeah.
26:20
And that, and I think that's also a contributing factor, you
26:23
know, people not getting married.
26:24
So, oh, at a younger age is what I'm talking about.
26:28
So they're not sitting down, settling down.
26:29
You can't have kids because it. Well, yeah, you know, And then
26:32
they say that, yeah, you know, obviously a woman become but it
26:37
decreases their chances of getting pregnant as well, you
26:40
know, once they get older and that.
26:42
So I, I do think yeah, marriage back in, you know, our
26:46
grandparents age is like people would just do it straight away
26:49
because, you know, they but they could also survive off for.
26:51
Loki They, they just wanted to, they, they started wanting to
26:54
have kids, though. That's why they want to get
26:55
married. Yeah, 100.
26:56
Percent, they were like 100%. They were like, fuck, that's
26:58
what I mean. That's something that was a
26:59
different. That was a difference though,
27:01
right? Like it?
27:02
It just makes sense. But that, that's what I always
27:04
think is like when they we're not here by our grandparents and
27:06
stuff. We're getting married at like
27:07
20. I'm like, that's 'cause you
27:10
wanted to start having kids, but you've been loud like.
27:13
You know there's another. Reason.
27:14
Yeah, but I got. There's other reasons.
27:18
There's a reason why you wanted to get married so early, man,
27:22
and we just didn't have that same restriction.
27:26
Well, I was not looked down upon.
27:27
As much like yesterday. Back then, oh man, it's, it's,
27:31
it's war. Oh.
27:35
Yeah, so bro, something to bring to the podcast.
27:38
It came from the this week, bro stressful as week at work.
27:43
I've we've been trying to get stuff done.
27:45
It's yeah, Stuff just hasn't been working out of work.
27:49
So I was stressed as this one day and I just went for a walk
27:53
at lunchtime and outside of our offices there's a whole heap of
27:59
homeless people that have camped out in this park and got tents
28:02
and stuff. And they'll set it up in a
28:04
little circle. So they're all bro, they're low
28:07
key living their best life like but it looks mean so like.
28:14
On the camping trip. Bro, they're a little lady on
28:16
the camping trip, bro. So I just walked out of my
28:19
office, but I like almost stressed that I walked out and I
28:22
see them right there, bro. And I'm walking and I was like,
28:26
bro, I smell bacon. I look over, they have a BBQ.
28:31
They got bacon cooking. I looked over, someone's just
28:34
opened their tent, walked out, it's lunchtime.
28:35
Like he's just woken up and then they're all walking out like
28:38
just talking, having a coffee, sitting around the, the bacon
28:42
being cooked. Bro, some, some of them are
28:44
tanning and that and I'm looking.
28:46
I was like, Nah, bro, go get a job.
28:49
But I looked and I was like, stop this bro.
28:52
I don't know. I'm, I'm not, I'm not working
28:55
like this. And I just walk out here and you
28:57
guys are all tanning every bacon boat.
28:59
So do you think that's out of pocket or or good or good on
29:04
them 'cause bro, like my thing is like you gotta be struggling
29:09
a little bit surely? Like it can't just be free rent,
29:12
camping, having the meanest time of your life, bro, I don't like
29:16
that. Doesn't sit well with me, you
29:17
know? They they need to be taxed or so
29:20
Dick at least at least offer you some bacon or, you know, like
29:24
very stress. I was honestly thinking like
29:28
bacon bro. Honestly, this is actually might
29:29
not be worth having a job like, you know, like, but they
29:33
probably don't have no, no, they're not getting taxed.
29:37
They're not paying rent. They're So I was just thinking
29:40
that's low key. They might have cracked it, like
29:42
they might have had a job started doing that and just been
29:44
like, bro, start, just do that. Yeah.
29:48
So they're living their best life.
29:49
Yeah, it just like buzzed me out there just thinking and like,
29:53
who's happier in this moment? Like society would, society
29:57
would tell everyone that I'm happier.
29:59
But I guarantee you they were happier.
30:01
I guarantee you. And it's not fair.
30:05
It's not fair, bro. So bro, if you're outside of
30:08
Southport and go get a chocolate, sorry.
30:15
It sounds like you're jealous. Bro pissing me off man.
30:20
Mate, that it. Damn dude, you can.
30:23
You could do it, you can. You could be homeless.
30:25
Hell no. You could bro, I know you.
30:28
You'd sleep well, definitely. Man, damn, maybe I would.
30:31
You would just need a fine. Seat because you know the
30:33
problem. Shame.
30:35
Not shame, no, I just think about how cold it would be.
30:39
I'm thinking how cold that would be bro sometimes.
30:41
Not on Gold Coast. Gee, you're not.
30:43
That's freezing. It is pretty jumpers off right
30:45
now but like and we're indoors. But like they got, they had
30:48
proper tents, like Kathmandu tents, like someone had shouted
30:52
in the tent. Well, I don't know, maybe
30:53
they're rich. Where?
30:54
They man, where are they getting the tents?
30:55
From but they were like like 6 man tents.
30:59
Far out so families. Out there and they had a BBQ.
31:04
Where did the BBQ come from? Whoa, surely that's the first
31:08
thing you sell. Do you have a phone or is that?
31:11
Are you selling that? Eh, no, you.
31:13
No, they have phones bro. Yeah, I see them with oh, I see.
31:18
I see some people like some some homeless people with like
31:21
Airpods. No.
31:23
That's right. It's got to be, it's got to be
31:25
those, you know, $2.00. Yeah, I was going to say $2.00,
31:28
but. Up to you, I reckon I could do
31:34
that, She. Could not do.
31:36
I swear I could you. Could not do it.
31:38
I'll tell you right now there's. No way you could do it.
31:40
The only thing I'll need to get is like, get over.
31:44
I'd need someone. I'd need someone to get the food
31:46
for me because I couldn't be, but I couldn't be.
31:49
Would you even know how to put up a tent?
31:51
But I'm I can do that. I can do those.
31:53
I'm actually the tent king, Loki.
31:56
Loki, I'm at the the tent king. Gee, I've seen you do stuff
31:59
around the house and I know you would not be I'm.
32:01
A Loki, a camper. I am, I am.
32:04
But I've, I've we went camping every year.
32:06
I would set up my own tent, but set up my mum's tent, which was
32:09
a mission because it was like one of those ones that went like
32:11
this and it was heaviers and. That did not help me.
32:14
I don't know, I don't know how, but why wouldn't you go to set
32:17
up the tent? All of a sudden there's a pole
32:19
missing. Like where does that pole go?
32:21
How is that? How is the one pole missing?
32:24
It's. Always go, bro.
32:25
And even those things that keep the tent down, yeah, they're
32:28
always missing. They're missing.
32:29
Yeah. Why?
32:30
Why is there one pigment? Like who did it?
32:32
Packed us up. Yeah.
32:34
But anyway, I could, I could do because I can.
32:36
I can definitely camp because I watched that many Outdoor Boys
32:39
videos. Do you know as well do?
32:41
You know, outdoor boys. I don't know.
32:43
RIP is just no he didn't die Sir.
32:46
I shouldn't say RP, he just stopped youtubing.
32:49
But you copied with that. Yeah no RIP to his YouTube
32:53
channel though. Like bro, one of the maybe top
32:55
10 greatest Youtubers of all time.
32:57
Why? Doesn't he do it?
32:58
Anymore he's pretty old and he would bro.
33:00
He would go camping in Alaska and like -20° with no tint.
33:04
What's his name? Outdoor Boys?
33:06
I don't know. I don't know that one.
33:08
Yeah, he and he would take his kid out and it's.
33:10
Oh no, I didn't mind. Yeah, he'd take his kid out in
33:12
there and like, but he was like a master camper.
33:16
So I've I've probably watched fifty of his videos.
33:19
He's not the guy off, you know, there's like a documentary.
33:22
Not man versus. World no, not man versus world
33:24
no. There's a documentary on people
33:26
living in Natasha. Nah, Nah, Nah.
33:27
Not him. He's a normal.
33:31
He's normal. Oh, he's normal.
33:32
He was a lawyer and then he quit his job to become like this
33:34
outdoor YouTube. He's actually cool as and he's
33:37
like cute as when he makes his videos.
33:39
He's so wholesome. Yeah.
33:40
Oh, I have to check it out. Yeah, I'll show you.
33:42
It's it's mean to go to bed too, because you're like, oh, he's
33:44
freezing in this and you're just like, I'm drifting away anyway,
33:49
Yeah, I reckon I could do it. You reckon?
33:51
You could do it. You could.
33:51
I'm 100% doing. That, yeah, you could, you
33:53
could, you could be. You could be home, I'll say.
33:57
Maybe. Yeah, yeah, all day.
34:02
But Loki. It's scary though.
34:04
Oh boy, that's OK. Hold on.
34:06
Yeah. Have you have you been down to?
34:09
I've been down and helped out at a homeless shelter down at
34:11
Burley. Yeah, at one of the local
34:13
churches down there, Bro. It's pretty confronting, right?
34:16
Like when you see, when you see, you know that types of people.
34:19
Oh, like, mate, I had, they were, they were kids that walked
34:22
them homeless. Yeah.
34:24
That's, you know, and I just thought, bro, like, how does it
34:26
get to that point, you know, where that that young person,
34:30
you know, ends up like this, you know, and I just, it just wasn't
34:35
right, you know, like I felt, I felt not guilt, but I felt, you
34:38
know, I just felt sorry. Bro sorry for them.
34:39
Yeah, yeah, You know, and they probably wouldn't want me to
34:42
feel sorry for them, you know, but I just.
34:45
I don't know some of them. Some of them do want you to feel
34:48
sorry for them bro. Yeah, I'll tell you something
34:50
actually. So we were serving out the food
34:54
to to them, right. So they come in because they get
34:56
free food, right? And they, it's bro, it's like a
34:58
5 course meal. Yeah, we gave out like an entree
35:01
and then we gave a, a main before the main and then we gave
35:05
him the main and then we gave him dessert break like it was.
35:07
And then they get coffee, tea, you know, drinks.
35:10
And I was like, this is really well catered for, you know, and
35:13
the lady down there, I forget her name, but she runs it really
35:15
well anyway. But we we're handing out the
35:17
food and I'm going around giving it out, giving it out, giving it
35:20
out. Anyway, this is the main before
35:23
the main, whatever that's called.
35:24
And the lady? The main before the main is
35:27
crazy. I don't know.
35:28
Heaps of food. It's tasty like like crazy the
35:32
amount of food. Anyway, the lady goes, the lady
35:35
goes, we've run out. This person stands up and he
35:39
goes Boo, Boo bro. And he just started booing
35:44
there, and I was like, Gee, where's the gratefulness right
35:47
now? Oh.
35:48
My God, no gratefulness. Anyway, the segues into
35:52
something else and it basically then the main came around,
35:55
right? And then same dude, we're giving
35:58
him the food. The lady goes, all right, we've
36:01
run out of the main now bro. He stands up and he goes
36:05
useless. He goes, I was just like what
36:08
the fuck bro? And then he gets to the dessert.
36:12
Same thing. Very.
36:13
Yeah. And he's like, anymore dessert.
36:16
I was like. It sounds like Yuji at home.
36:18
I am I looking at a reflection. Right now and it's like.
36:26
I couldn't believe it. I was like, so that was pretty
36:29
confronting. Yeah.
36:30
Because he was for real. Yeah, he was real about it too,
36:33
but then some. Mentally stable way.
36:35
So like you got to take that into consideration.
36:37
Exactly. That makes life hard.
36:38
It does, but then you get the opposite too.
36:41
And there were people there and there with great, great words.
36:43
Right. And just like after a SEC.
36:45
Thank you, father, you know, thank you.
36:46
People, you know, for, for coming in tonight and, you know,
36:48
giving us food, you know, and you could tell that it meant a
36:50
lot to them. Yeah.
36:51
So yeah, you get one side and then you get the other side,
36:54
bro. Yeah.
36:54
It's just that's that that you just paddle off, paddle off.
36:57
And like bro, you can just tell some people just like being hit
37:01
with a bad hand. They like bad hand after bad
37:04
hand after bad hand. And it's just like some, it's
37:08
just life can just like kick you sometimes.
37:10
And those dudes, there's some, some some good people, sometimes
37:13
they're homeless, but there's a lot of other people as well.
37:17
Like, so yeah, it's a balance. But actually the other day we
37:21
were we saw some homeless people and they're doing drugs and we
37:26
walked past them and they got scared and they jumped this
37:29
fence and ran into this dark park.
37:33
And I was thinking, that's crazy because that looks scary.
37:36
I would never run into that dark park, but for some reason they
37:40
had No Fear. They just fucking shot in there.
37:42
They. Just saw you in the hell no
37:43
Yeah. I thought we were the Polish.
37:47
But then you said, but you got to look at it from the other
37:49
side too, not just homeless people.
37:50
But then you look at the rich. And it's like when you're
37:54
talking about luck of the jaw. But a lot of them talk about how
37:57
luck has a massive part to play in life.
38:00
You know, like, I didn't know you 10 years ago.
38:04
Yeah. Or yeah, 10 years ago.
38:05
I didn't know. You around there?
38:06
Yeah. But then luck, just, you know,
38:08
we crossed paths, yeah. And then look like we're living
38:11
together now. So, you know, luck has a massive
38:13
thing to do with it, you know, in life.
38:15
So. You know, it's actually buzzy.
38:17
It's like, well, I was at the Barber, not the story, and we
38:22
saw this dude walk past and he was just like a little bit like
38:27
had his own kind of personality. You could say he's a bit bit on
38:30
the a little bit weird, but he was and apparently he just does
38:34
like laps of the mall. And the bub was like, bro, he
38:36
just does laps of the mall. But when you look at him, it was
38:39
like, bro, he's either really, really rich where he's got too
38:42
much time and too much money, or he's homeless.
38:46
Oh, so you didn't know? Nah, but I reckon, I reckon they
38:49
carry the same energy. Do you know what I mean?
38:51
Like really, really rich people and really, really like, really,
38:54
really homeless people. And homeless people will be
38:56
like, you know, come up to talk to you, like just make
38:58
conversation where you don't really want to talk or that kind
39:01
of thing. And no care.
39:03
No, no worries. Have to find things to entertain
39:06
themselves. Yeah.
39:07
So they have like very similar like mentalities and
39:09
personalities. This is something that actually
39:12
you've just reminded me of this person that was homeless back in
39:16
NZ and I used to work at the leisure center, right?
39:19
Yeah. And anyway, this is a bit of
39:22
this is out of pocket, bro, because he chooses to be
39:25
homeless. He can work.
39:28
He's more than capable, really good at communication.
39:31
Yeah, but he chooses to be homeless because he gets the
39:35
benefit. Oh yeah, and for me, that.
39:38
I don't like that I don't get a job bro, get a job.
39:40
As you know, so that that that just kind of reminded me of
39:44
that. It was like he's someone who's
39:46
very capable, you know, his good, good communication skills,
39:50
you know, he would 100% turn up to work, you know, like very
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easy go, but chooses to be homeless.
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I'm not a fan of that, you know. Even that, yeah.
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But people there, yeah. Don't turn off the the like,
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don't turn off the work and that kind of thing.
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Like, but, and they're making it sound like, oh, like, well, I
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just like was so tired and like it was I did.
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I really don't like anyone or dah dah, dah dah.
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And and they're saying like, I just like felt real sick.
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I feel like that bro, like, you know what I mean?
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Like no one wants to go to work every day and like some people
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just need to the like, suck it up a bit more, you know what I
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mean? You should.
40:31
We should do a roll switch one day.
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Well, at our job. I get your job, you get my job.
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See if they can tell. Yeah, yeah.
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Anyway, yeah, that's my that's my little spiel on homeless
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people, though. I'll be there next week.
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Say some bacon, yo, to finish this up.
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So we had Matariki just past week and to celebrate that,
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we'll do our little version of it and we're going to play our
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favorite moldy shed party song similar.
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It's a kind of relevant for the podcast really because of the
41:03
name and that kind of thing. And we love these kind of jams
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as well. So bro my one, I'm going with
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the old faithful Rua Kinana. I never knew if I could sing
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this because I'm not like too late because you know that.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah. This mark on this world.
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Yeah, Yeah. This mark on this world.
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The. That's a jam, bro.
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That's a jam my jam, man. Something I think all us Marties
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know is this one man to wrap us up.
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And also shout out to all the people back home.
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Happy Matariki week and hope you fellas enjoyed your long
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weekend. Man, Maybe, maybe pull a sickie
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on Monday. Yeah, get a four day weekend.
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But for me, Hirangi Yatua is it. Actually, this is Mom Jay.
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Shut up Korea man, Fuzzy bro, this is fucking buzzing me out.
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This is buzzing me out bro. This is my actual uncle.
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That's crazy. Well, my jam man is Machi's
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uncle. What the heck?
43:54
Means the voice say. This goes back on to that part
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where we spoke about how Marty's just sings so well bro.
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Here bro but this is my real life uncle and we didn't even
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know. That's crazy.
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Like it's not, it's not one of the ones where it's like the
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uncle there like a friend of a friend of a friend of my dad's
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actual like cousin grew up with them.
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I went camping with them when I was younger like.
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Yo, shut up. Yeah, in our career.
45:02
Shut up with a jam. We will play some more of your
45:04
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