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The Most SHOCKING Reddit Updates w_ _CharlotteDobre · The conspiracy

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  Speaker 1: Hello, my absolutely necessary steaming hot caramel machiata with ripped
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  Speaker 1: cream and sprinkled cinnamon on top. That gets me through
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  Speaker 1: even the toughest mornings. How are you doing today? Good? Good?
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  Speaker 1: I'm glad you're here because today's a special day. It's
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  Speaker 1: not just me, I know. Stop cheering. And you guys
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  Speaker 1: probably already know who she is is She basically needs
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  Speaker 1: zero introduction, but I'm gonna hype her up anyway because
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  Speaker 1: she deserves it. She's one of my favorite people on
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  Speaker 1: the Internet. She's built an entire empire reading Reddit stories
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  Speaker 1: and roasting people who absolutely had it coming. And she
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  Speaker 1: does plenty, plenty more. She's a beautiful soul and I
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  Speaker 1: am so happy to have her on today. Ladies and
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  Speaker 1: gentlemen reading Reddit with Charlotte do break. Hey, guys, it's
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  Speaker 1: not just me. I'm with another person for once. But
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  Speaker 1: this was extremely extremely what are words?
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  Speaker 2: Uh requested request even see?
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  Speaker 1: This is nice? This is nice with my.
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  Speaker 2: Words, commie cras, we're here with me, Chris. Oh my gosh,
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  Speaker 2: I'm so excited. Thank you so much for having me.
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  Speaker 2: This is Thank you so much for coming on.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and if you guys don't know, obviously, I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to I'll let you do your own spiel. But what
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  Speaker 1: do you do?
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  Speaker 2: Obviously you're a YouTuber, But yeah, I do the reddit thing.
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  Speaker 3: I do the Reddit thing, and like you might have
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  Speaker 3: seen me, and you're suggested because you watch Chris's channel
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  Speaker 3: and I do similar things.
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  Speaker 2: I'm meaner than her.
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  Speaker 1: So so this is the first one, starting off really light.
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  Speaker 1: I thirty two female, think my husband thirty three male,
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  Speaker 1: maybe having an affair with the girl nineteen female next door.
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  Speaker 1: Also I'm pregnant.
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  Speaker 3: Oh oh, that's like finally, just let's just jump right
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  Speaker 3: on in there.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, have you read this one?
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  Speaker 2: I have not?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, good, I haven't read it either, So I just
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  Speaker 1: just like this one sounds interesting, all right. My husband
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  Speaker 1: and I have been married for four years, dated for seven.
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  Speaker 1: We have one son who's two, and I'm six months pregnant.
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  Speaker 1: I love him deeply. He's a very busy lawyer and
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  Speaker 1: often comes home late at night. I never thought he'd
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  Speaker 1: cheat on me, but since I began to get bigger,
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  Speaker 1: we've been having less spicy sessions. A few months ago,
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  Speaker 1: a young woman moved into the condo about two doors down.
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  Speaker 1: She's a very beautiful girl, but a bit aloof to me.
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  Speaker 1: We did invite her over for a dinner party when
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  Speaker 1: she first came. A few weeks ago, I noticed that
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  Speaker 1: my husband followed her on INSTAGRAMO.
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  Speaker 2: You don't got to be doing that. No, oh, well,
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  Speaker 2: they possibly be talking about I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. I want to know what she posts now,
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  Speaker 1: damn it, and added her on snap worse what.
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  Speaker 2: Even disappearing messages? Even worse?
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  Speaker 1: This is terrible. Okay. I asked him about it and
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  Speaker 1: said she followed him first, and he didn't want to
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  Speaker 1: be rude. Well, okay, whatever on Instagram maybe, but Snap
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  Speaker 1: is fucking diabolical. Last week I started noticing him using
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  Speaker 1: his phone more and more and generally being distracted. He
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  Speaker 1: said it was due to work. But two days ago
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  Speaker 1: I saw snap notification on his phone with our neighbor's
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  Speaker 1: name on it. I asked him why he was snapchatting her,
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  Speaker 1: and he said that she was interested in law oh brother, dude,
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  Speaker 1: and was asking him career advice at twelve am, apparently
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  Speaker 1: via snapchat a ride. Okay, yeah, for sure, she's just
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  Speaker 1: naked with a textbook in front of her. Yesterday I
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  Speaker 1: was taking his suits to try to the dry cleaners
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  Speaker 1: and found a receipt for sushi restaurant from a few nights.
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  Speaker 1: IM miss sushi. There's no sushi down in Texas. There's
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  Speaker 1: no sushi, not in the middle of Texas. I'm looking.
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  Speaker 2: Should make some sushi.
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  Speaker 1: I should? I should. It's hard to get good fish
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  Speaker 1: down here though. Anyway. The sushi restaurant is close to
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  Speaker 1: our condo complex and nowhere near his office. There were
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  Speaker 1: two meals build on the receipt. I confronted him when
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  Speaker 1: he came home from work, and he said he took
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  Speaker 1: a client out for dinner, but there were so many
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  Speaker 1: nice restaurants near his office. Why the one near our
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  Speaker 1: house fair? Yeah right, yeah, that's that's good deduction skills.
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  Speaker 1: I'm almost ninety percent certain he's cheating. What should I
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  Speaker 1: even do? I'm about to be a mother of two.
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  Speaker 1: I never even prepared for the possibility of this happening
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  Speaker 1: in our marriage, and definitely not this soon. Crazy. This
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  Speaker 1: is This has updates, so we'll read them.
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  Speaker 2: Oh love an update, But uh, how are you feeling?
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  Speaker 1: What do you think?
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  Speaker 3: I think she should DM the girl? I think she
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  Speaker 3: should send a little hay girly a DM. Oh yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: but I'm.
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  Speaker 2: Messy like that.
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  Speaker 1: So no, that's that's fair, that's and what would you say,
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  Speaker 1: because clearly she'd be well maybe keeping it a secret, but.
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  Speaker 2: I mean that's a good point.
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  Speaker 3: She could just lie, you know, Like I mean the
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  Speaker 3: girl in the story could also like check the phone
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  Speaker 3: type thing, check other like check the laptop for messages,
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  Speaker 3: that kind of thing. She could do a little detective work.
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  Speaker 2: But yeah, I feel like I'm.
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  Speaker 3: One of these people that just genuinely feels like, if
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  Speaker 3: you have a feeling, I think that you should trust
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  Speaker 3: that feeling.
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  Speaker 1: I don't.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think that women's intuition is wrong very often. No,
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  Speaker 2: I agree, Yeah, what about you.
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  Speaker 1: I'd invite them over for dinner, everybody for dinner, and
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  Speaker 1: then I would previously have purchased air tags and I
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  Speaker 1: would place these air tags on them. I would take
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  Speaker 1: class on how to slip stuff onto people. Wooh, No,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, because you'd want proof, especially for her
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  Speaker 1: since he's a lawyer, and like that's like like you
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  Speaker 1: need that for her to be okay for the rest
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  Speaker 1: of her life. So I don't know, she would need
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  Speaker 1: to get some sort of tangible proof. Total. I feel
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  Speaker 1: like she would need to either get on his phone,
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  Speaker 1: take screenshots, some them to herself or something like that. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: just to help herself legally.
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  Speaker 3: It's so scary being involved with like a lawyer. Like
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  Speaker 3: even my brother's a lawyer, and he's like insanely smart,
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  Speaker 3: and like sometimes I know that he just sits there
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  Speaker 3: and like judges me when I talk.
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  Speaker 1: Gus.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not as smart as him, and I genuinely think
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  Speaker 3: he just sits there and judges everyone.
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  Speaker 2: But like, yeah, he his lawyer brain just goes to, like, well,
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  Speaker 2: do you have any proof?
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  Speaker 3: Do you have any evidence? Like always, so it makes
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  Speaker 3: it that much harder. Right, they can represent themselves in
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  Speaker 3: divorce court.
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  Speaker 1: Right. I would tell my partner that him being a
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  Speaker 1: thirty three year old man snapchatting at nineteen year old
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  Speaker 1: girl is completely inappropriate, and she can ask Google or
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  Speaker 1: any other lawyer for advice unacceptable. Sure, that's fine, but
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  Speaker 1: I'm we think he's cheating. So another comment says, do
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  Speaker 1: you have the disposable funds necessary to hire a private investigator? Oh?
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  Speaker 1: I love those types of tiktoks. The private investigator ones.
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  Speaker 2: Love that love that loved to move in the shadows
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  Speaker 2: a little bit.
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  Speaker 1: In part to confirm, but also as an investment for
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  Speaker 1: a more favorable divorce settlement. Op said, we have a
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  Speaker 1: joint account, and he might get suspicious if I withdraw
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  Speaker 1: a large sum of money. Maybe I can just investigate
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  Speaker 1: it myself.
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  Speaker 4: Exactly, get your binoculars, girl. But she's also got like
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  Speaker 4: a baby and she's pregnant. Not idea, but we have
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  Speaker 4: an update, and it's from a week later. Last Friday,
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  Speaker 4: after work, he left first supposed weekend golfing trip with
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  Speaker 4: his two friends to a place only an hour drive away.
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  Speaker 1: Follow him, he follow Yeah. Before he left, I texted
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  Speaker 1: the wife of one of his friends if she wanted
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  Speaker 1: to get together for brunch on Sunday. She said she
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  Speaker 1: had plans with her husband.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, this is excellent. This is investigative work.
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  Speaker 1: This is good. We're grabbing for grabbing poop.
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  Speaker 2: Making biscuits with the story.
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  Speaker 1: I like that a lot. I then texted the wife
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  Speaker 1: of his other friend, and surprised, she confirmed that her
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  Speaker 1: husband was at home and not going on any trip.
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  Speaker 1: I pretended like I didn't know and said goodbye to
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  Speaker 1: my husband. As usual. However, I asked my retired uncle
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  Speaker 1: sixty five to follow my husband's car. Yeah, dude, dude,
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  Speaker 1: Oh wow, my retired father. He would jump on that
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  Speaker 1: shit so fast. He got nothing to do.
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  Speaker 2: I got nothing to do. I'm retired. This sounds like
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  Speaker 2: a lot of fun.
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  Speaker 1: My husband does not know my uncle. Oh perfect, So
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  Speaker 1: I thought it was a good plan.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, very good, very good.
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  Speaker 1: My uncle followed him to the airport and took a
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  Speaker 1: picture of him walking with the neighbor girl. He followed
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  Speaker 1: them and said they checked into an airline with flights
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  Speaker 1: going to the Caribbean.
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  Speaker 3: God, the carab not the Caribbean, Oh my god, the
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  Speaker 3: Caribbean like a nice getaway luxury Acai on the beach.
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  Speaker 1: An hour away. What if something happened with the kids.
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  Speaker 1: I thanked my uncle and gave him money for gas
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  Speaker 1: and his time, but he refused. I was obviously devastated,
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  Speaker 1: and my son and I stayed with him and my
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  Speaker 1: aunt for the night. They advised me to find a
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  Speaker 1: good divorce lawyer right away. What kind of lawyers are brother?
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  Speaker 3: He does IP law, so like contracts and yeah, yeah, he's.
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  Speaker 2: Not like a litigator divorce lawyer.
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  Speaker 1: That's fair, that's that's not less stressful. But I feel
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  Speaker 1: like divorce would be a nightmare gives you a very.
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  Speaker 2: Bleak outlook on relationship.
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  Speaker 1: Absolutely. When my husband came home Sunday night, I said
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  Speaker 1: I was filing for divorce. He acted really shocked and
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  Speaker 1: hurt and asked me why. I said I knew about
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  Speaker 1: his affair and I have proof so he could stop
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  Speaker 1: acting stupid. He said I was mistaken, and then I
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  Speaker 1: asked whether he enjoyed his beach vacation, and the look
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  Speaker 1: on his face was just undeniable. I guess he finally
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  Speaker 1: realized he was backed into a corner and had no
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  Speaker 1: more lies left to tell. He's not even good at it.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like a lawyer would be better at having
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  Speaker 1: an affair than this.
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  Speaker 3: The average woman is like basically an FBI agent, Like yes, yeah, absolutely,
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  Speaker 3: you gotta be so friggin sneaky and be able to
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  Speaker 3: hide your tracks to get past like.
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  Speaker 2: Most modern women with a or a phone.
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  Speaker 1: I told him I just wanted to know why. He
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  Speaker 1: said that he was shy and insecure growing up, a
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  Speaker 1: victim card bullied in fourth grade, and he had really
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  Speaker 1: low self esteem. He said he felt validated by the
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  Speaker 1: attention of a younger woman and said it made him
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  Speaker 1: feel wanted. He admitted that it was a crush gone wrong.
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  Speaker 1: I said, there's no way I can trust him again.
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  Speaker 1: He said that's understandable, and that he was sorry it
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  Speaker 1: has come to this. He said he probably made a
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  Speaker 1: mistake by marrying in his twenties. I'm so sad for
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  Speaker 1: this girl. That some men were ready to settle down
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  Speaker 1: at that age, but he realized he was not one
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  Speaker 1: of them. He said that he still loved me though,
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  Speaker 1: oh good, oh thanks, but that it was best if
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  Speaker 1: we went our separate ways. The shittiest part of all
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  Speaker 1: this he's staying at his mistress's condo a few doors down.
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  Speaker 1: Oh no, she has zeer her and him, Oh oh
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  Speaker 1: my god. While they're getting divorced. It will be a
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  Speaker 1: long few months, but I'm getting a good lawyer and
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  Speaker 1: making sure the future of my kids are secured. I
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  Speaker 1: also have good support system around me. I'm planning on
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  Speaker 1: moving to another city after the divorce. It will be
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  Speaker 1: a while before I can learn to trust again. I
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  Speaker 1: never hurt so much in my entire life. This level
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  Speaker 1: of portrayal from someone you thought was your soulmate, It
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  Speaker 1: is just indescribable. But I'm going to remain hopeful. Thanks
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  Speaker 1: for everyone's help and support. I wish it turned out.
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  Speaker 2: Different, bestie.
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  Speaker 1: Oh that's sad, but also very sad. I'm god it
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  Speaker 1: happened so soon, you know, yeah, because you know, I
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  Speaker 1: don't know ten years down the line, and if he
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  Speaker 1: was like sneakier.
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  Speaker 3: Men who are gonna cheat are gonna cheat. That's just
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  Speaker 3: like the bottom line, you know. And like I think
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  Speaker 3: she's still young, like obviously just going to take her
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  Speaker 3: a while to trust someone again, but like there's totally
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  Speaker 3: the possibility that she could meet someone else. My friend
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  Speaker 3: has two kids, and she had like a baby daddy.
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  Speaker 2: Baby daddy's in jail.
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  Speaker 3: Or and then she literally just got engaged to this
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  Speaker 3: wonderful man and like they were dating for like six months,
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  Speaker 3: so she finally like she edited with her baby daddy
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  Speaker 3: what he was in jail, and then just like found
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  Speaker 3: this wonderful man and I didn't even imagine her life
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  Speaker 3: without him.
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  Speaker 2: And they're getting married, so I like life isn't over.
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  Speaker 4: You know.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, absolutely, I know a couple of people that
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  Speaker 1: got divorces that have kids. I'm from like the Bible Belt,
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  Speaker 1: so everybody's married at like twenty years old, and they're
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  Speaker 1: like twice divorced now, but there's there's plan. There's a
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  Speaker 1: lot of people out there, so she'd be worse.
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  Speaker 3: There's another like wave of people entering the dating pool
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  Speaker 3: that are like recently divorced with like young kids, who
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  Speaker 3: are also looking for people who are like down for
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  Speaker 3: people with kids, so like.
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  Speaker 1: Exactly, Okay, this is I'm scared of this one. But
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  Speaker 1: the next one is I twenty five female just found
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  Speaker 1: something really disgusting this morning that my boyfriend, twenty six
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  Speaker 1: male left in the living room. Oh okay, I feel
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  Speaker 1: like we should speculate.
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  Speaker 2: Can I say condom? Should they use condom?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah?
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  Speaker 3: Maybe he's up yep, yeah, yeah perhaps or pooh, I
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  Speaker 3: don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I've been with my boyfriend for two years and we've
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  Speaker 1: been living together for the past few months now. Generally
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  Speaker 1: I've come to accept him for being a guy and
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  Speaker 1: not cleaning up after himself. That shouldn't be a thing,
• 12:02
  Speaker 1: by the way, that shouldn't be like, yeah, I'm an
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  Speaker 1: adult now, I clean up after myself. I like totally
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  Speaker 1: clean house. I don't. I don't like that excuse where
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  Speaker 1: it's like no guy, Like have.
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  Speaker 3: You heard the thing about boyfriend air where it's like
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  Speaker 3: when you go to like a guy's house, you'll like
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  Speaker 3: you'll sleep on his pillow and he doesn't like wash
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  Speaker 3: his sheets, and you come out with like acne and
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  Speaker 3: like there's just like a sale kind of like smell
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  Speaker 3: to the air.
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  Speaker 2: It's a thing.
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  Speaker 1: It is a thing.
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  Speaker 3: No, it doesn't mean it's excusable, but like it's fully No,
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  Speaker 3: it's a thing.
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  Speaker 1: You don't have to be like OCD but my god, like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: the socks are on the ground, the hammer's right there.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, just wash your towels.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. He's gotten a lot better at it, though, so
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  Speaker 1: I'll give him that. Anyway, this morning, I went downstairs
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  Speaker 1: as usual to clean up a bit, and when I
• 12:46
  Speaker 1: went to pick up the remote off the floor, I
• 12:49
  Speaker 1: noticed a white McDonald's cup.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe it's pooh in the cup.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah wait yeah, wait yeah, this condom and shit in
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  Speaker 1: the cup and mold. Thinking it was just left over drink,
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  Speaker 1: I went to go dump in the sink, only to
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  Speaker 1: realize that there was piss in the cup.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, so no number two and number one. That's kind
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  Speaker 3: of like a combination of like what we both thought.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, it was sad cup and waist. I'm not sure
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  Speaker 1: how long. It was sitting behind the chair, but it
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  Speaker 1: smelled really bad. You know, it was pretty much full
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  Speaker 1: with ashes at the bottom of it.
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  Speaker 3: He smokes, Oh wait, so there's piss and ash piss,
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  Speaker 3: and as does an ash cup, and then he.
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  Speaker 1: Left the living room floor. I don't really know how
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  Speaker 1: to go about talking to him about this or how
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  Speaker 1: do you even bring it up? Advice anyone, I would go, yeah, honestly,
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  Speaker 1: right in his face.
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  Speaker 3: No, wow, okay, that's a problem. How does it not
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  Speaker 3: bother him?
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  Speaker 1: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: I just like I have a nose like a dog,
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  Speaker 3: and like if I smell even just like a little
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  Speaker 3: bit of like something. And I have a dog as well,
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  Speaker 3: so like I'm very sensitive to like the ship. But
• 13:56
  Speaker 3: you know, yeah, oh yeah, it's got like piss pause
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  Speaker 3: and like shit.
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  Speaker 2: But like I smell it from a mile away.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know how you can exist within the vicinity
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  Speaker 3: of a piss ash cup.
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  Speaker 1: No, because you can smell like especially bad not drinking water,
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  Speaker 1: piss like smoker.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, oh totally, it has a must. Yeah, it has
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  Speaker 3: a sank.
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  Speaker 1: The first come it says, don't ask tell boyfriend. I
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  Speaker 1: was cleaning up the other day and found a cup
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  Speaker 1: behind the chair and it smelled like three week old
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  Speaker 1: piss and it had cigarette ashes in it. It smelled
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  Speaker 1: really bad, and I'm really grossed out. You don't need
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  Speaker 1: to know if it's pissed or how long it's been there,
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  Speaker 1: or whether he'll clean it up next time, or why
• 14:32
  Speaker 1: he didn't clean it up this time. You need him
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  Speaker 1: to know how finding something so nasty affected you. Okay, Yeah,
• 14:38
  Speaker 1: I mean just go. Reddit's always like black or white.
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  Speaker 1: They're like kill him.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, literally, Yeah, I'd want to find out more information
• 14:46
  Speaker 3: for sure, like how is it possible that you could
• 14:49
  Speaker 3: have left this here or done it in the first place.
• 14:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah, this person's like skip that information. Just tell him
• 14:55
  Speaker 1: he's disgusting basically, which I mean, you can be mad whatever,
• 14:59
  Speaker 1: But I'm trying to image my husband leaving that and
• 15:01
  Speaker 1: I'd be like, what is this? Why did this happen?
• 15:03
  Speaker 1: And then he'd tell me and I'd be like, all right,
• 15:05
  Speaker 1: let's not do that again, and then it's fine. If
• 15:06
  Speaker 1: this isn't a recurring thing, I don't know. I feel
• 15:09
  Speaker 1: like it's not a big deal. I think there is
• 15:10
  Speaker 1: an update, though, somehow, an update to this post. Okay,
• 15:16
  Speaker 1: all right. As soon as he got home from work
• 15:18
  Speaker 1: this morning, I told him that we needed to have
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: a serious conversation. We both sat down and I told
• 15:23
  Speaker 1: him that I found the cup he had been pissing
• 15:25
  Speaker 1: in behind the chair, that it was the most disgusting
• 15:27
  Speaker 1: thing I've ever seen, and I was repulsed that he
• 15:30
  Speaker 1: would actually do something like that when we have a
• 15:33
  Speaker 1: perfectly working bathroom upstairs. I also miss people saying washroom, washroom. Yeah,
• 15:37
  Speaker 1: nobody says washroom. Everybody says restroom.
• 15:40
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, there's a bit of a cultural like what
• 15:42
  Speaker 2: do they say restroom?
• 15:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, everybody says restroom or bathroom, but mostly restroom. Down
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: here drives me nuts, And I say where's the washroom?
• 15:48
  Speaker 1: And they're like, what, Like, you know what I mean?
• 15:51
  Speaker 2: You know what I mean?
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: You wash your hand.
• 15:54
  Speaker 2: This is America, we say bathroom.
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: He started to actually defend himself as to why he
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: was using it.
• 16:01
  Speaker 2: No, not defending, No.
• 16:03
  Speaker 4: Just say sorry, Just say sorry.
• 16:04
  Speaker 1: I tried to stay calm, but I couldn't anymore, and
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: eventually it turned into a heated argument. He stated that
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: the cup was easier to use than going upstairs to
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: use our bathroom, which is seriously thirty feet away. That
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: is foul, and he usually dumps it in the kitchen
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: sink when he's finished.
• 16:24
  Speaker 2: Are you actually hidding me right now with.
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: The dirty dishes? No, No, I can't offend him anymore.
• 16:32
  Speaker 1: I can't defend him anymore. Oh my god. On that's disgustic. WTF.
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: Not right? There was a deal breaker for me. This
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: has been going on for quite some time. Upon further
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: inspection where I originally found the cup, I could clearly
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: see urine stains on the floor. Oh how I didn't
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: know about this sooner? I don't know, and I'm really
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: glad that I do. Now I can't continue to live
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: with this sick candy locker. I'll be moving my things
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: up today and we'll be staying with a friend for
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: the time being.
• 17:01
  Speaker 3: I don't blame her. It would be one thing if
• 17:03
  Speaker 3: he was like, oh my god, I forgot Oh yeah,
• 17:07
  Speaker 3: oh my god, I'm so sorry. But no, he wanted
• 17:09
  Speaker 3: to keep doing it.
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: He doubled down.
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: He doubled down on the piss cup.
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah he do. No, you're living with with a I
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: don't even know.
• 17:19
  Speaker 3: That is like, that is like it's the bare minimum.
• 17:22
  Speaker 3: The hygiene is literally the bare minimum, not even just
• 17:25
  Speaker 3: to be like, to be a human being. I'm I'm
• 17:28
  Speaker 3: that is a deal breaker for me too, honestly.
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: Okay, the next one is kept the birth of my
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: child private, and now I'm paying for it. You have
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: you don't have kids? Right?
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: No, not yet?
• 17:38
  Speaker 3: Not yet?
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: Not yet?
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: You know, interested in that?
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: What about you also interested? Not? Ye? Not like yeah,
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: not yet, but it's a prospect. Yeah, basically, you know,
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: just got married.
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: I know, literally, like, give me a second, I know.
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Everybody arounds like when is it happening. I'm like,
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: I know, let me live. I have seven dogs and
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: four cats. Man, let me just in jail and like
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: twelve cows.
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: You have twelve caws. I love that. Yeah, I love
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: You're living the dream man.
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: That's a lot of fool Yeah, I love that farm
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: life for real. I had a baby just over a
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: month ago. My husband and I decided we wanted everything
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: about the delivery to be private, no visitors at all.
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: We just thought it may reduce some stress, and we
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: felt it was an intimate moment for just the two
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: of us to share. For your future, what do you
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: think you'll do if you have if you give birth?
• 18:24
  Speaker 4: Whatever?
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: I don't know what you're Yeah, that's what I think.
• 18:27
  Speaker 3: In terms of like the birth, I think I would
• 18:29
  Speaker 3: probably want my mom there at the very least and
• 18:32
  Speaker 3: my husband. But I've actually heard of people kind of
• 18:35
  Speaker 3: in the delivery room, like just recovering from this like
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: you know, kind of traumatic thing, and then everybody's kind
• 18:41
  Speaker 3: of coming to see the baby. My friend even told
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: me she just gave birth in December and she said
• 18:45
  Speaker 3: that she was literally like naked, and like all of
• 18:48
  Speaker 3: her in laws were like coming in the room to
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: see the baby. And I'm like, what the actual I
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: would be like mortified like that. Oh yeah, I like
• 18:59
  Speaker 3: the idea of it being just like close family and
• 19:02
  Speaker 3: then like maybe you know, after I'm covered up and
• 19:04
  Speaker 3: like you know, I've had a second, then maybe people
• 19:07
  Speaker 3: can come see me.
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: And the baby in the hospital. But yeah, I don't
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: know how about you.
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: I love far from my family's there in Canada, so uh,
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: for me, probably just Scala. But if my mom was
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: to like come down around that time, if I was
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: to then I wouldn't be upset if she was there
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: because I'm really close with my mom. I'm assuming you
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: are too, so.
• 19:24
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but yeah, besides she also doesn't live here either.
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: My mom too, so like she'd we'd have to like
• 19:28
  Speaker 3: give her the yeah, like a week's notice or something
• 19:31
  Speaker 3: and yeah.
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: Beyond stand by.
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: Literally. My delivery was long and hard and ended in
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: a C section. We ended up not telling anybody that
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: our baby was born until about twenty four hours after
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: the fact because we were just exhausted and wanted to
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: be sure nobody showed up without an invitation. My husband's
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: family reacted so well to the news. They were super
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: excited for us. My parents did not react well. My
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: dad blew up on us, saying we should be ashamed
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: of ourselves and how dare I break the news so
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: late to them? Since they helped pay for.
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: My college, I beg your finest pardon no what oh
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: for base college?
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: Literally I pay for your college. Now you must submit
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: to me.
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: What right came to emergency situations, That's what they're saying.
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: They came to emergency situations and raised me. My mom
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: sent me and my husband a message basically guilting us
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: for the decision we made and for not letting them
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: know sooner. The next day, my dad sent me this long,
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: hateful message essentially saying I did my parents wrong. I'm abusive.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: My husband is abusing me. My husband is literally perfect,
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: So I don't know where this is coming from, and
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: that I will be on an island alone with no
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: love and support. Cut them. Oh my god, that's crazy.
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: This is terrible. I responded and said I was sorry
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: their feelings were hurt. I tried to understand where all
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: these accusations were coming from. That I thought it was
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: not right that we were getting treated this way for
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: a decision that was ours to make, and that I
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: was hurt that he would treat me this way and
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: not even asked me how I was doing freshly postpartum
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: when I'm already dealing.
• 20:59
  Speaker 3: With enough as it is totally totally open on a
• 21:02
  Speaker 3: d literally so inconsiderate and like, also, you're kind of
• 21:05
  Speaker 3: taking away the joy that you're only going to feel
• 21:09
  Speaker 3: like a few times, if more than once, in your
• 21:11
  Speaker 3: life of having a kid, and like you're he's taking there.
• 21:15
  Speaker 3: Her family is like taking that away from her because
• 21:18
  Speaker 3: of their own like weird fixation on what they felt
• 21:22
  Speaker 3: the birth should have been.
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's upsetting.
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: I hate that perspective. I always I always see the
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: mother in law things where they need to be involved
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: in all this. So I'm glad the dad's families like that,
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: but for them, I don't know. There's just something about
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: your own mom and your own dad as the mom
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: like that would.
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: Just break my devastating, so devastate.
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: As Yeah, my dad basically blew me off, saying he
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: didn't ask how I was doing because I should just
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: be giving this information without him having to ask. That
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: he would not be following the rules we made for
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: our child because we don't control him, and to not
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: bother inviting him to see me and the baby because
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: he is done, and to have a good life. For
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: this who is going on? I don't know. This whole
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: situation is sad and this reaction is just insane. My
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: dad hasn't spoken to me since, and I don't feel
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: like I should reach out at this point, even though
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: I feel sad about things going this way. My mom
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: eventually said she felt bad for the way that they acted,
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: but is now acting like nothing ever happened, and I
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: don't know how to feel about that. I just want
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: to know if I'm missing something and treated them poorly.
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: I feel in my core that I just want to
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: be done because it feels so exhausting pretending everything is fine,
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: but I also don't want to lose contact with my family.
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: This is just confusing and frustrating. Oh that's awful.
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: That's a heavy one.
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, dang. Yeah. And for the mom to just acknowledge
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: to be like, we're not going to address it, like whatever.
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: Some people operate that way though.
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: Yeah, there's a lot of family members like this is like,
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: obviously I don't like diagnosing people, but it kind of
• 22:46
  Speaker 3: sounds a little like this is.
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: A little bit of narcissism going on. I'm a little
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: bit of narcissism.
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: I'm a straight up diagnosis.
• 22:54
  Speaker 3: Yeah, both of them, both of them totally, and like
• 22:58
  Speaker 3: they with narcissistic parents, which is actually like very common,
• 23:01
  Speaker 3: they never apologize and they almost feel like like you
• 23:05
  Speaker 3: are you are indebted to that parent for like the
• 23:08
  Speaker 3: rest of your life for them literally doing the bare minimum,
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: Like yeah, sorry, you decided to be a parent. You
• 23:13
  Speaker 3: have to do everything that you signed up for. Doing
• 23:16
  Speaker 3: the bare minimum, like raising a child is not like
• 23:20
  Speaker 3: that's not you don't get a medal for that, Like
• 23:22
  Speaker 3: that child is not indebted to you for the rest
• 23:25
  Speaker 3: of your life, and it has to make decisions entirely
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: based on you know.
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: What you would think. Yeah, so yeah, and it definitely sucks.
• 23:33
  Speaker 3: I can totally understand her not wanting to lose contact
• 23:35
  Speaker 3: with her family.
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I grew up with this type of dynamic. Oh
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry one of my Oh no, it's fine, one
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: of my parents. And uh, like you learn you just
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: learned that your your parents are people too, and this
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: parent has like learned now ish and it's good. But yeah,
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: it's just at some point and unfortunately she's learning it
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: later in life. But I'm assuming they were like this
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: through their whole life and she's learning it really late
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: with this Unfortunately, it's in with the birth of her child.
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: And it's just like you don't need you don't actually
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: owe them anything. Those are your parents.
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: I actually find it very interesting that in her vulnerable
• 24:10
  Speaker 3: state of giving birth, she didn't want to be around
• 24:15
  Speaker 3: her parents.
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: Yep, says a lot.
• 24:17
  Speaker 3: So it does say something like I know she didn't
• 24:20
  Speaker 3: allude to like any backstory or whatever, but like that
• 24:23
  Speaker 3: is like, you're so vulnerable in that moment and that
• 24:26
  Speaker 3: is one thing that you can absolutely control. And it's
• 24:29
  Speaker 3: interesting that she chose that she wanted to be alone
• 24:33
  Speaker 3: and not around her family for that moment.
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: There is an update. I'm just gonna skip the comments
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: because I feel like we handled it.
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: What we say goes.
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't even need anybody else, Okay, I have
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: Charlotte's opinion. Three months later, my dad still isn't talking
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: to me. He hasn't seen my baby, hasn't reached out nothing. Honestly,
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: the whole not talking to me thing isn't even what
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: makes me so upset. It's that apparently his pride and
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: entitlement is more important than owing my baby. It's so
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: hard to not just boil over the fact that he's
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: acting this way. My grandma, my dad's mom, accidentally sent
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: a text that was clearly not meant for me. She
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: was texting me asking how we were doing, and I
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: replied we were doing good. I was taking babies one
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: month pictures and that I would send her some of
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: them when I was finished. After five minutes, she texted
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: my name is taking babies one month pictures and that
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: she would send them. So, yeah, I guess that's to
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: the dad. Okay, if you don't want pictures of my baby,
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: just say that. Maybe I'm reading too far into the text.
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: But it's just got me so angry because I'm confident
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: that was meant for my dad to get him pissed off. Yeah,
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: because I'm sure they're embarrassed to get him pissed off. Well,
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: maybe because her grandma his mom feels like he's acting
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: like a little prick.
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe, okay, having them.
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: To make him feel bad.
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: Maybe I kind of had it in my head that
• 25:51
  Speaker 3: she was like asking for him because he wanted to
• 25:55
  Speaker 3: see the baby.
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: But she said so I think I read it kind
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: of poor. So it said my name is taking babies
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: one month pictures and that she would send them dot
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: dot dot uh okay with this emoji m like she
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: like the grandma is saying uh okay. So maybe she's
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: actually on the on the dad's side. Oh weird, Like
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: I don't know, it's I wouldn't be sending anymore. Yeah. Yeah,
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: now that I'm reading it again, because she's like ellipses
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: and then uh okay with a question work and then
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: like like this that's a little sad, Like why are
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: you telling me that?
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so very strange, she asked.
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: But the just a little more context to why that
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: would piss me off. We asked everyone that was going
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: to receive pictures of our baby to not post them
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: or send them to anyone, and my dad lashed out
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: at me, saying I was going to control how he
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: loves his grandbaby, as if exploiting the baby is a
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: way to love anyway. This was really disappointing because I've
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: always had a good relationship with my grandmother, but now
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: I feel I can't trust her. Okay, yeah, because she
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: would maybe she would have sent them to him. On
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: top of that, she went from texting me several times
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: a week to not talking to me for three weeks straight,
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: then proceeded to text my mom and sister asking if
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: I was okay because she hadn't heard from me, as
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: if I've been ignoring her. This whole thing with her
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: just has me irritated. I let my mom come to
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: visit once. The visit went fine, but I can't help
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: but feel like our relationship is ruined. I didn't enjoy
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: the visit. I just felt the memories of what happened
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: immediately postpartum looming over my head. I'm just waiting for
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: the day she suggests I reach out to my dad,
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: which I won't be doing good for you, good for you.
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: That's a hard stance to make, but that's honestly, that's
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: probably the best thing you could do. My mom does
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: this thing that makes me so angry, like asking my
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: sister to send pictures of my baby when she knows
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: the rules are nobody is supposed to send pictures of
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: my baby to anyone. My sister never sends her the pictures.
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: My sister has been so amazing. I don't know what
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: I would do without her. Mom's asking my sister for
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: pictures makes me feel like she doesn't care about the
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: boundaries we said, and she has no problem being sneaky
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: to get what she wants. Another thing she keeps saying
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: is when are y'all coming down to visit? Visit for
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: what to hang out until my dad comes home and
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: a big fight breaks out in front of my baby
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: for him to just get what he wants after treating
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: me and my husband like garbage, no thanks. Sometimes I
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: wonder if I'm overreacting to all these things. I'm just
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: so physically tired with everything that comes with the baby.
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: I adore my baby. That child is the light of
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: my life. It's just hard. I think I have some
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: postpartum rage or depression or something like that really amps
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: up my feelings in regards to this. I'm just so
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: incredibly angry about it all. Some days I can't forget
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: about it, and I put my phone on do not
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: disturb and keep busy. Yeah, And that's basically it for that.
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: I don't think there's any other.
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: I don't think she's overreacting at all.
• 28:31
  Speaker 3: I think that, like you know, I honestly feel like
• 28:34
  Speaker 3: low contact is probably the only thing that she could
• 28:37
  Speaker 3: possibly do right now. It's interesting that she's like still talking.
• 28:42
  Speaker 2: To them like at all.
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but I think that she needs to talk to
• 28:46
  Speaker 3: a therapist genuinely.
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 28:48
  Speaker 3: No, for sure, I bet you anything. It's not just
• 28:51
  Speaker 3: the like the whole birthing fiasco. Like, I think that
• 28:53
  Speaker 3: this gut like runs very very deep. And I think
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: that the dad, it's interesting that he's saying that, like,
• 28:58
  Speaker 3: you can't control me, but it's actually him that's trying
• 29:01
  Speaker 3: to be like very controlling her experience and her like
• 29:05
  Speaker 3: child and the way that she chooses to live her life. Yeah,
• 29:09
  Speaker 3: but yeah, I think therapy would be very helpful because.
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: You need to let go. You got to learn to
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: let go shit help me.
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: I don't know if you've ever done therapy, but oh,
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: hell yeah, yesterday, hell yeah, yeah. No, it's good. It's good.
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: Kind of feels like a chore sometimes, but it's like, man,
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: I needed that. It's hard. It's hard with like having
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: a narcissistic parent for me. I feel like I realized
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: that really early on. So I feel like it's good
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: that she said no, I'm not talking to him. She's
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: already Ye, she's made her own boundaries, which is great.
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: I think it's great that she made boundaries with her kid.
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: I don't understand people wanting to I mean, I know
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: it's a different time and it's a different generation, but
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: people not respecting what people want to do with their
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: own babies. I don't understand that. It's like, don't post them,
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: Why are you posting them? It's just so self serving. Again,
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: it's a narcissistic quality. It's like, well, it's my grand baby,
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: I want to post them, or I want to share
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: this or whatever. So yeah, I think she's surrounded by
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: a lot of self serving people. Luckily, her husband's good
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: and her husband's family's good, and she's gonna support us,
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: and goodness, she'll be fine, but yeah, for sure, get
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: some therapy and Marien, get some therapy. Realize that your
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: dad is not your end all be all and you
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: don't owe him anything.
• 30:13
  Speaker 3: It's it's it's great that she's able to stick to
• 30:15
  Speaker 3: her boundaries because like, man, when you finally decided to
• 30:18
  Speaker 3: set boundaries, you are gonna piss some people off. Yes,
• 30:22
  Speaker 3: Like it is just crazy how people It's like crazy
• 30:25
  Speaker 3: how much they try to like push you when you
• 30:28
  Speaker 3: tell them no.
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: It's so bizarre. It's like I'm literally like no, and
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: I don't have to give a reason.
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely, yeah, absolutely, yeah. I feel like, yeah, I
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: don't know if you got a little hint of that
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: when planning your wedding or anything like that.
• 30:41
  Speaker 3: Totally totally you know, Oh yeah, I mean I I
• 30:45
  Speaker 3: come from like my mom's like an Italian oh.
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: Shit matriarch with oh yeah, let's invite a cousin. And
• 30:53
  Speaker 2: it's like I don't know who that is, Donatella, but
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: bay yeah, okay, I wish I would. I saw I
• 31:05
  Speaker 2: think she'd come.
• 31:07
  Speaker 3: No, but like it was just like a lot of
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: like pushiness and like, oh but you have to invite
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: your cousin.
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: No, but you have to do that, like why are you? Like,
• 31:14
  Speaker 2: you know, it was a lot.
• 31:15
  Speaker 3: Of pushiness, and I gave in in some ways and
• 31:18
  Speaker 3: then in other ways I was like, no, they didn't
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: like that.
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: No, it's not good. And there's yeah, there's so many
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: opinions when those big events happen, or like when you're
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: having a kid and that kind of thing. It's just like, yeah,
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: I was like, I'm I was to the point where
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: I was like, I don't even want to deal with it,
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: so I do. But I had a one and a
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: half minute ceremony on our laptop in our kitchen, and
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: then we had a Barbie Family barbecue for our wedding,
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: but it was still inviting. We still invited people, So
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: there was still the whole thing where it's like, oh,
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: you know, and it's always mom. It's always mom being like,
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: well she knew you when she when you were two,
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: Like of course, I'm like I don't know her. Yeah. Literally,
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: they bring out usually the worst in people, or the best,
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: but usually the worst, and those aren't really what those
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: people are like hopefully for the time. I know, it
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: wasn't like my mom. I was like, who is this?
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: Who's this monster?
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: Monster?
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah? For real? But no, I love my mom. Sorry mom, sorry, yeah,
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: same here. Love love you, love you, love you. Everything
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: is fine. We want you at arbor if we forgive her. Okay,
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: yeah no, I mean I won't keep you for much longer.
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: But thank you for being on the channel. I appreciate it.
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: Sorry for ending on like such a bleak note.
• 32:27
  Speaker 2: I could never be bleak with you doning.
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: Oh, thank you, thank you so much, thank you so much.
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: Welcome. Yeah, this was really fun.
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Lot people know where they can find you, And
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: I'm going to be on Charlotte's channel in a few
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: weeks as.
• 32:37
  Speaker 3: Well, so you can find me if you If you
• 32:40
  Speaker 3: search Charlotte, I'm the first one that comes up that
• 32:42
  Speaker 3: is a flex that I is the flex I think
• 32:45
  Speaker 3: it is. It is absolutely but yeah, if you enjoyed
• 32:48
  Speaker 3: this video, obviously come over and say hi and hang out.
• 32:52
  Speaker 3: I post like several times a week on my various channels, and.
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: Thank you so much for having me. This was like
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: a lot of fun.
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah, this was fun. Thank you. It's nice to not
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: feel like a little crazy person sitting and talking to
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: myself all the time.
• 33:03
  Speaker 2: It's just refreshing.
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: So I'll have to do it against it nice.
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I would love that.
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: Okay, wonderful, but thank you. Bye guy. We'll see you
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: the next one.