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Come Back To Love October 22, 2026 Overcome Abusive Relationships and Become Obsessed With Your Life Instead · Come Back to Love:

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Speaker 1: Welcome to Come Back to Love with your host, Robin Vogel.
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Speaker 1: Each week at this same time, Come Back to Love
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Speaker 1: covers an endless array of topics related to relationships, love,
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Speaker 1: and intimacy, along with all the reasons you may be
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Speaker 1: keeping love at a distance. Can a shattered heart be
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Speaker 1: your doorway to your greatest love story? Robin will give
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Speaker 1: you practical tools that can be used to heal the
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Speaker 1: past and help you to safely love again. And now,
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Speaker 1: today's Come Back to Love.
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Speaker 2: In a world that often feels disconnected, uncertain, and overwhelming,
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Speaker 2: there has never been a more important time to come
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Speaker 2: back to love. I'm Robin Vogel, intimacy coach and author
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Speaker 2: of Come Back to Love, A Path to Healing. For
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Speaker 2: over 20 years, I've been sitting with people in their
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Speaker 2: most tender and courageous moments, the heartbreaks, the longing, the
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Speaker 2: walls they've built around their hearts, and the quiet hope
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Speaker 2: that real love is still possible. This show is a sanctuary,
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Speaker 2: a place to heal the past, reconnect with yourself, and
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Speaker 2: fall in love again with your life, with others, and
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Speaker 2: most importantly, with yourself. Welcome. Welcome to my listeners. This
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Speaker 2: is Come Back to Love. We are on KMET Radio.
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Speaker 2: This is an ABC News Radio affiliate station. We are
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Speaker 2: on 1490 AM and 98.1 FM at 1.30 PM Pacific Time, 4.30
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Speaker 2: PM Eastern. And I am so happy to be with
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Speaker 2: you each week here on the show. Today, I have
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Speaker 2: a really special guest. Her name is Sammy Rose. Sammy
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Speaker 2: is a relationship and mindset coach, author, speaker, and host
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Speaker 2: of the Seen and Heard podcast. Drawing from both her
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Speaker 2: professional work and her own experience leaving an emotionally abusive marriage,
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Speaker 2: Sammy helps women recognize toxic relationship patterns, rebuild self-trust, rediscover
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Speaker 2: their identities, and create lives rooted in peace and authenticity.
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Speaker 2: She is the author of Unseen and Unheard, and founder
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Speaker 2: of Sammy Rose Coaching. Through coaching, writing, speaking, and storytelling,
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Speaker 2: Sammy reminds women that choosing yourself isn't the end of
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Speaker 2: your story. It can be and is the beginning of
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Speaker 2: finally writing your own. Thank you so much for sharing,
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Speaker 2: even just through that, that you've written about yourself so
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Speaker 2: openly and vulnerably.
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Speaker 3: Thank you. Thank you so much for having me.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're so welcome. I feel like, My heart just opened,
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Speaker 2: you know, introducing you to the audience. And I imagine
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Speaker 2: that our listeners also are like really listening now with
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Speaker 2: their hearts and their ears. Yeah. Tell us, let's start
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Speaker 2: by just tell us a little more about your story.
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Speaker 2: I feel so vulnerable to hear.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: So my story, it starts off, you know, in childhood
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Speaker 3: where I, grew up with a very narcissistic father and
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Speaker 3: parents that got divorced very young. And so when I
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Speaker 3: was growing up and I was a teenager, I just
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Speaker 3: constantly felt like I wasn't seen, like I wasn't heard,
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Speaker 3: especially by my dad. And I so desperately wanted to
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Speaker 3: for there to be somebody that could validate that I
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Speaker 3: was enough, that I was worthy of love. And so
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Speaker 3: I spent a good chunk of my life seeking that
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Speaker 3: out in other people. And that led me to a
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Speaker 3: lot of really heartbreaking experiences. I got involved with older
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Speaker 3: men when I was 13 years old. And I can
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Speaker 3: look back at that now and understand that that was
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Speaker 3: grooming and that there were things like that that were
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Speaker 3: going on where I was taken advantage of. But at
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Speaker 3: the time, I was just so desperate for somebody to
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Speaker 3: love me and somebody to prove that I was worthy
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Speaker 3: of that, that I would accept anything wherever it came from.
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Speaker 3: I had a very strained relationship with my father. It
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Speaker 3: was just constant fighting, yelling him in and out of
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Speaker 3: my life and dealing with a lot of toxicity there.
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Speaker 3: But when I was graduating high school, some things happened
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Speaker 3: that made it difficult for me to go to college
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Speaker 3: because my parents didn't have the money and I couldn't
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Speaker 3: get enough of a scholarship or enough student loans to
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Speaker 3: cover it. And so my dad kind of took that
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Speaker 3: as an opportunity to kind of get back into my
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Speaker 3: life and invite me to come and live with him.
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Speaker 3: And the reason that I was... willing to do that
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Speaker 3: was because I had gotten involved with a church with
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Speaker 3: my best friend and started going to youth group and
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Speaker 3: things like that. And so my dad had started going
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Speaker 3: to church and I thought, okay, yeah, maybe this would
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Speaker 3: be really good for me to end up, you know,
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Speaker 3: in like a nice Christian household going to church. But
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Speaker 3: what it became was even more toxic than things had
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Speaker 3: been before. Because my dad was part of a very
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Speaker 3: authority centered church where men were the authority and women
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Speaker 3: were the helpers. And so I got kind of wrapped
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Speaker 3: up in that and actually met a guy who. in
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Speaker 3: youth group when I was 18, 19 years old. And
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Speaker 3: we were dating. And I remember I was getting ready
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Speaker 3: to actually like break up with him. I was thinking like,
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Speaker 3: I don't know if this is for me. And I
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Speaker 3: remember having a conversation with my father and telling him that.
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Speaker 3: And he said to me, well, you're just letting your
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Speaker 3: anxiety get the best of you. you are gonna end
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Speaker 3: up passing up on an opportunity to be with somebody
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Speaker 3: that's gonna be a pastor, that's going to like, you know,
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Speaker 3: do these amazing things that you can do with him.
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Speaker 3: And you're just scared that what happened with me and
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Speaker 3: your mom is gonna end up happening to you. And
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Speaker 3: what happened with my dad and my mom was that
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Speaker 3: he cheated on her and then, you know, married his,
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Speaker 3: you know, the person that he cheated with. And so
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Speaker 3: I remember, sitting there and it's the first time that
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Speaker 3: I can like actively remember my gut telling me that
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Speaker 3: something was wrong, but ignoring that because I felt like, well,
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Speaker 3: my dad must know better than I do. And so
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Speaker 3: I actually ended up getting married when I was 20
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Speaker 3: years old and moving to Texas and then ended up
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Speaker 3: at a very culty Bible school. And that was a
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Speaker 3: place where my mental health was just destroyed. I had
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Speaker 3: already struggled with anxiety for most of my life. And
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Speaker 3: it turns out, I found out three years ago that
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Speaker 3: I have ADHD. So a lot of my anxiety and
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Speaker 3: the struggles that I had came from this undiagnosed ADHD.
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Speaker 3: But within that church environment, any kind of mental health
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Speaker 3: issues that you have were considered demonic, a lack of
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Speaker 3: faith in God, basically like your fault. And so I
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Speaker 3: constantly felt terrible about myself. And along with that, I
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Speaker 3: was in a relationship that very quickly became emotionally abusive.
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Speaker 3: And felt kind of stuck because, you know, God hates divorce.
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Speaker 3: And so I couldn't leave and he didn't physically hit me.
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Speaker 3: And even though he had an addiction to pornography, like badly,
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Speaker 3: he He never physically cheated on me. And so anytime
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Speaker 3: I went to the church for help, it was like, well,
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Speaker 3: you don't have biblical grounds for a divorce. And so
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Speaker 3: eventually five years into the marriage, we moved back to
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Speaker 3: Pennsylvania where his parents lived. And we ended up as
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Speaker 3: the youth pastors at his parents' church. But that got
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Speaker 3: me away from like the school and the place that
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Speaker 3: I was in and closer to my mom. And my
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Speaker 3: mom used to tell me all the time, like, whenever
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Speaker 3: you're fed up with this, whenever you're done, and you
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Speaker 3: just can't take it anymore, just know I will be
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Speaker 3: there for you. And I will come pick you up
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Speaker 3: right away. And I will like make sure that you
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Speaker 3: can start over again. And eventually I kind of hit
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Speaker 3: my breaking point where I was like, you know what,
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Speaker 3: if this is what God wants for me, then I
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Speaker 3: think that I don't want anything to do with him
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Speaker 3: or the church because this is miserable and I just
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Speaker 3: can't live like this anymore. And I remember calling my
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Speaker 3: mom and like, sure enough, the next day she was
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Speaker 3: there to pick me up and bring me back to
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Speaker 3: New Jersey. And I remember I just felt so relieved
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Speaker 3: and I never felt at the time that that I
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Speaker 3: needed any time or space to grieve the relationship. Like
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Speaker 3: I wasn't in love with this man. I was with
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Speaker 3: him out of obligation for the church. And so I
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Speaker 3: just very naively believe that there wasn't any healing from
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Speaker 3: the relationship to be done. And so I didn't take
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Speaker 3: any time for myself to really get to know me
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Speaker 3: and to heal before I jumped into a new relationship
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Speaker 3: with somebody that I met. And we dated for about
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Speaker 3: three years before we got engaged. And when I tell
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Speaker 3: you that it was like the best years of my life,
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Speaker 3: I felt like I met Prince Charming. I felt like
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Speaker 3: everything was so unbelievably perfect. And I couldn't believe that
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Speaker 3: I had such a great man in my life. It
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Speaker 3: was almost like I felt like God was saying like,
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Speaker 3: sorry for you know, the, the past, but here is
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Speaker 3: how we're making it up to you. And we got
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Speaker 3: married after we were together for five years. And still
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Speaker 3: to this day, I will tell people that my wedding
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Speaker 3: day was one of the best days of my life,
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Speaker 3: even though it came afterwards was a nightmare. But yeah.
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Speaker 3: At that time, I was marrying my best friend, somebody
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Speaker 3: that I loved, who I thought I knew, who was
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Speaker 3: this incredible guy that never treated me wrong. And my
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Speaker 3: mom was there. My dad didn't come to my wedding,
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Speaker 3: but my mom was there to walk me down the aisle,
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Speaker 3: to do a choreographed first dance with me. Like, it
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Speaker 3: was one of the best days ever. But after the marriage,
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Speaker 3: things changed very quickly. And within four months, I was
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Speaker 3: feeling so much confusion because my ex suddenly became very
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Speaker 3: cold and he became very distant from me. He started
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Speaker 3: to become annoyed with every little thing that I did,
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Speaker 3: started to put me down and criticize me and then
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Speaker 3: started yelling at me. And this was all happening as
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Speaker 3: my mom was diagnosed with liver disease and in need
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Speaker 3: of a liver transplant. And so I was spending as
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Speaker 3: much time as she needed with her, helping her, you know,
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Speaker 3: with her illness and my brother ended up being her
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Speaker 3: donor for her liver transplant. So my brother donated half
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Speaker 3: his liver to her and it was a very touch
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Speaker 3: and go situation. Like we almost lost her before the
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Speaker 3: transplant and we almost lost her afterwards, but she was
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Speaker 3: able to power through and really fight to heal. And
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Speaker 3: after the transplant, we had 19 months with my mom and,
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Speaker 3: Until her appendix burst and her immune system was too
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Speaker 3: compromised to be able to recover from it. And unfortunately,
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Speaker 3: she passed away. And during this time, my ex made
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Speaker 3: my life a nightmare. It was like if I was grieving,
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Speaker 3: he would say things like, how long does our life
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Speaker 3: have to be put on hold for you to deal
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Speaker 3: with your mom? And I'm like, who the hell's life
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Speaker 3: is on hold right now? Like mine is very much
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Speaker 3: going on and it is a nightmare. This is horrible.
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Speaker 3: And things just continue to get worse and worse. Anytime
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Speaker 3: I try to do something for myself, there was a
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Speaker 3: problem with that. For example, I love the Backstreet Boys.
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Speaker 3: I have been a Backstreet Boys fan since I was
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Speaker 3: like 11 years old. And as an adult, I love
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Speaker 3: going to their concerts. I love the nostalgia of all
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Speaker 3: of that. But some of the biggest fights that I
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Speaker 3: had with my ex were over the fact that I
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Speaker 3: wanted to go to a Backstreet Boys concert. The concert
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Speaker 3: would be like a year in advance. And for a year,
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Speaker 3: I would deal with fights anytime, you know, I was
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Speaker 3: talking with my friend about the concert and he heard
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Speaker 3: it anytime like it was brought up. It was like
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Speaker 3: this insane jealousy and insecurity. And now I realize that
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Speaker 3: when my attention was not on him, then all hell
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Speaker 3: broke loose. And it took me a while to realize
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Speaker 3: that I had married somebody exactly like my father. And
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Speaker 3: it was jarring for me because in this marriage, I
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Speaker 3: was in love. Like I loved him with all my heart.
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Speaker 3: Like he was who I thought was my forever person.
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Speaker 3: And I realized that what I fell in love with
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Speaker 3: was a mask. And what I started to see throughout
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Speaker 3: the marriage was who he really was. And I justified
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Speaker 3: his behavior for so long by saying that, well, he's
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Speaker 3: probably having a hard time with having lost my mom too.
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Speaker 3: He doesn't know how to handle this. He struggles with
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Speaker 3: his own insecurities, just like constantly making excuses for it.
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Speaker 3: And things would just kind of continue to get worse
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Speaker 3: and worse until about.
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Speaker 3: Two years ago, I finally reached my breaking point. And
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Speaker 3: it was when I had gone to a concert that
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Speaker 3: was one of the Backstreet Boys, AJ, and one of
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Speaker 3: the guys from NSYNC, Joey, doing a show together. And
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Speaker 3: it was tons of fun. And Joey did this song,
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Speaker 3: one of the NSYNC songs in the style of Frank Sinatra.
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Speaker 3: So I had decided like, oh, let me share this
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Speaker 3: with my husband. He likes Frank Sinatra. Like this is
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Speaker 3: a way that I can show him that we can bond.
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Speaker 3: And I remember that Joey hit a high note and
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Speaker 3: the crowd cheers. And so did I. I was like, yeah, Joey.
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Speaker 3: And all of a sudden my ex just exploded on me.
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Speaker 3: It's like, is that you screaming for another man? How
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Speaker 3: dare you? And it became this huge fight. And I
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Speaker 3: remember I said to him, finally, I feel like at
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Speaker 3: this point, you're just trying to push me away because
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Speaker 3: it would be easier for me to leave than it
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Speaker 3: would be for you to actually deal with whatever it
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Speaker 3: is that's causing you to feel so insecure and to
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Speaker 3: treat me this way. And his response was, Do you
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Speaker 3: think it would be easier for me to lose half
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Speaker 3: of this house, half my paycheck and half my 401k? No,
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Speaker 3: it wouldn't be easier. He didn't say anything about me.
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Speaker 3: And at that time, my rose colored glasses kind of shattered.
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Speaker 3: And I realized this man is totally okay with staying
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Speaker 3: in a toxic relationship. He's totally okay with both of
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Speaker 3: us being miserable because he wasn't happy either. He is
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Speaker 3: totally OK with hurting me. His biggest concern is what
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Speaker 3: he doesn't want to lose, which is his money. And
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Speaker 3: the fact that he just didn't mention me at all,
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Speaker 3: it was so eye opening for me. And I remember
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Speaker 3: walking away from that conversation just saying like, OK, I
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Speaker 3: need space right now and going into my home office
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Speaker 3: and like hearing my mom's voice clear as day as
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Speaker 3: if she were in the room with me. saying, I
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Speaker 3: raised you better than to let a man treat you
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Speaker 3: this way. And I was like, she really did. And
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Speaker 3: so I had a trip that was planned to Florida
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Speaker 3: to go to a 90s convention. And I decided that
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Speaker 3: I was going to go out to Florida a couple
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Speaker 3: days early and just give myself some space to like,
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Speaker 3: think and figure out what I needed to do next.
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Speaker 3: And those few days were life changing for me because
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Speaker 3: I finally, for the first time in decades, felt peace.
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Speaker 3: And I had not had that in so long in
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Speaker 3: my life. And I knew that when it came to
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Speaker 3: what I wanted for my future, that I wanted peace
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Speaker 3: in my life and I wanted joy in my life.
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Speaker 3: So it took me a little bit of time. It
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Speaker 3: took me about six months to actually get to a
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Speaker 3: place where I could file for divorce and start making
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Speaker 3: plans to leave. And ultimately, I decided that I wanted
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Speaker 3: to live in Florida. I was living in New Jersey
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Speaker 3: at the time. And when I thought about myself healing,
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Speaker 3: I was like, I just picture myself in the sunshine,
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Speaker 3: sitting out by a pool, like journaling, reading, going to
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Speaker 3: the beach. And like, that was my, that was my dream.
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Speaker 3: And so I decided that I was going to take
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Speaker 3: the leap and that I was going to move to Jacksonville, Florida.
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Speaker 3: And so... In May of 2025, I packed up all
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Speaker 3: my stuff and left at 9.30 p.m. with just me
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Speaker 3: and my new little pup in the passenger seat and
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Speaker 3: drove 800 miles through the night all the way down
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Speaker 3: to Jacksonville, Florida by myself to restart and rebuild my life.
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Speaker 3: And now my life literally looks exactly the way I
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Speaker 3: pictured it. Incredible. Like I've created... a beautiful life for myself.
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Speaker 3: And the way that I did that was because I
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Speaker 3: really took the time to learn how to love myself.
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Speaker 3: That I realized that this love that I had been
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Speaker 3: searching for in other people, that the desire for someone
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Speaker 3: to let me know that I was worthy and that
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Speaker 3: I was enough and that I was deserving of love,
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Speaker 3: that I didn't need to find that outside myself. I
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Speaker 3: realized that I could find that within myself And so
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Speaker 3: now I have become unapologetically the most authentic version of
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Speaker 3: myself that I've ever been. I've created a life for
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Speaker 3: myself that I'm obsessed with. I go to a lot
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Speaker 3: of Backstreet Boys concerts and I don't have anybody complaining
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Speaker 3: about it. And honestly, taking a chance on myself at
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Speaker 3: 40 years old was the best decision that I ever made.
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Speaker 2: Amazing, amazing, amazing. Wow. Sammy, thank you for sharing that
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Speaker 2: your story when with so much honesty, like I said,
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Speaker 2: and vulnerability and openness and detail. I'm sure our listeners
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Speaker 2: like me, I've been on the edge of my seat
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Speaker 2: listening the whole time. I mean, that's a lot to
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Speaker 2: overcome and get through. And I'm just, yeah. I'm just
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Speaker 2: with my hand on my heart right now. Just really, yeah.
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Speaker 2: Amazing that you saved yourself basically. And, you know, in the,
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Speaker 2: the last, you know, we have like the last maybe, uh,
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Speaker 2: quarter of our episode, I would love to hear how
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Speaker 2: you're supporting your clients now, because clearly women who are
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Speaker 2: struggling in very similar ways must be drawn to you
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Speaker 2: and your work.
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Speaker 3: Yeah. So one of the biggest things that I do
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Speaker 3: with my clients when they come to me is the
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Speaker 3: first thing that we do is we create some safety
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Speaker 3: for them because coming out of a toxic relationship is
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Speaker 3: your nervous system is wrecked. And you don't even, even
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Speaker 3: when you do feel peace, it feels unsafe because you're
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Speaker 3: not used to it. So I help my clients develop
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Speaker 3: a sense of safety for themselves and make sure they
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Speaker 3: feel secure because then we can move on to the
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Speaker 3: rest of the work where we work on building self-trust,
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Speaker 3: really getting to know their most authentic self. Practicing radical self-compassion.
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Speaker 3: And I say radical because I feel like we need
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Speaker 3: to be the most compassionate towards ourselves. Nobody else is
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Speaker 3: going to have the same kind of compassion for us,
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Speaker 3: especially when we mess up that we can have for
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Speaker 3: ourselves and we can show our love in there. And
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Speaker 3: I help women just recreate routines for themselves that work.
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Speaker 3: And then eventually we're ready to help them create a
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Speaker 3: life that they are absolutely in love with. Like my
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Speaker 3: goal with my clients at the end of our work
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Speaker 3: is for them to feel like they truly love who
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Speaker 3: they are and are able to show up in the
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Speaker 3: world as their most authentic self and that they are
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Speaker 3: in the process of creating a life for themselves that
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Speaker 3: just lights them on fire and makes them excited to
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Speaker 3: wake up every morning.
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Speaker 2: Let's, let's, let's go right there. Let's hone in on
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Speaker 2: that actually, because it, and there's many places we could,
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Speaker 2: many things we could talk about and you named some
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Speaker 2: really powerful steps of recovery basically. But the piece around,
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Speaker 2: you know, what, what creates the life that you absolutely
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Speaker 2: just in the way you said it about your own life,
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Speaker 2: like you're obsessed with, like it's the best, most amazing
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Speaker 2: life that you're obsessed with it. And I would love
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Speaker 2: to hear, cause I imagine since I've experienced this myself, um,
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Speaker 2: that you might ask somebody, what would that be like?
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Speaker 2: And they're like, um, I, I don't know, uh, sunshine
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Speaker 2: and I don't know, like, you know, people might say
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Speaker 2: things like, I want just want to feel really good.
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Speaker 2: But how do you how do you coach them to
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Speaker 2: actually land on the things that they would be obsessed
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Speaker 2: with every day?
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Speaker 3: I help my clients really discover which things light them up.
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Speaker 3: So we talk about, we talk about the things in
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Speaker 3: childhood that made you happy, because I firmly believe that
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Speaker 3: when you bring some of the things that you loved
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Speaker 3: as a kid before the world started telling you what
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Speaker 3: you should and shouldn't like and who you should and
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Speaker 3: shouldn't be, that that brings more joy to your life.
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Speaker 3: I asked them about what kind of dreams they had.
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Speaker 3: that they've forgotten about, I asked them about if they
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Speaker 3: could really think about an ideal day of doing all
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Speaker 3: of the things that they've wanted to do, how would
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Speaker 3: they live that ideal day? I asked them little things like,
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Speaker 3: what is your favorite color? How can you add more
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Speaker 3: of that to your life? Like, how can you bring
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Speaker 3: that into you know, your surroundings? Who are your favorite people?
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Speaker 3: Can you make sure that you make sure those people
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Speaker 3: are in your life? What kind of music lights you up? Like,
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Speaker 3: what are the things that set your heart on fire?
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Speaker 3: What are the dreams that you maybe once forgot about
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Speaker 3: that seem impossible, but now maybe we can actually work
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Speaker 3: towards some of them. Like, for example, for me, I
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Speaker 3: always had a dream when I was younger of like,
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Speaker 3: being on TV and being in the movies and like
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Speaker 3: doing all that stuff. And so when I filed for divorce,
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Speaker 3: I decided to go after some of that stuff. And
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Speaker 3: so I ended up being an extra in happy Gilmore too.
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Speaker 3: And like got to do a scene with Adam Sandler
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Speaker 3: and bad bunny. It was so amazing.
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Speaker 2: I love that movie.
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Speaker 3: I used to, um, I used to watch game shows
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Speaker 3: all the time when I was younger and like want
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Speaker 3: to be on like, oh, I could be on Double
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Speaker 3: Dare or this and that. And I actually got recruited
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Speaker 3: to audition for this game show called The Greatest Average American.
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Speaker 3: And I was cast on the show and actually won
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Speaker 3: my episode. And that's what has allowed me to really
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Speaker 3: invest in my business now and invest in having my
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Speaker 3: own coach so that I can make sure that I
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Speaker 3: am in my best place for my clients. But I
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Speaker 3: really tell them to think outside the box, try new things. Like,
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Speaker 3: If there's something that you think interests you, but you're
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Speaker 3: not sure, like try it. The whole point is you
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Speaker 3: get to do whatever you want now. Like you don't
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Speaker 3: have anybody telling you, no, you can't do that. And
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Speaker 3: so the sky's the limit. And sometimes we just have
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Speaker 3: to brainstorm. Like sometimes we have to just sit there
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Speaker 3: and think about like, would I like this? Would I like,
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Speaker 3: you know, that? And you'd be surprised at what you
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Speaker 3: come up with. Yeah.
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Speaker 2: Wow. First of all, just wow. I hope you wrote
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Speaker 2: your autobiography, and if not, that you will.
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Speaker 3: I have. You have.
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Speaker 2: Good. I can't wait to read it. And this piece,
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Speaker 2: and we just literally have like 60 seconds, but I
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Speaker 2: just have to say it. It's like most people don't
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Speaker 2: feel that they have absolute choice. And you just gave
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Speaker 2: such great examples of many, many circumstances where people feel
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Speaker 2: trapped where you felt trapped initially and your life experience
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Speaker 2: and your spirit and the parenting you obviously got from
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Speaker 2: your mother um taught you that you have choice like
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Speaker 2: you can choose you don't have to do fill in
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Speaker 2: the blank with the 18 things and um and i
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Speaker 2: am sure there's listeners saying you All the things. And
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Speaker 2: as a mindset coach, you know, because you hear them
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Speaker 2: all the time, right? I can't do that because of money.
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Speaker 2: I can't do that because I have kids at home.
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Speaker 2: I can't do that because of my job. I can't,
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Speaker 2: I can't, I can't, I can't. And, you know, those
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Speaker 2: things are real. It's not that they're not real, like
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Speaker 2: in life, right? There's kids, there's, you know, a mortgage
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Speaker 2: to pay maybe or whatever it is. But what you've
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Speaker 2: said is so powerful for me because it's how I
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Speaker 2: also shifted my life into like knowing that I can
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Speaker 2: choose whatever I want, you know, and that there's infinite
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Speaker 2: space for me to do that.
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Speaker 3: And so I feel like I say this all the time,
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Speaker 3: but I feel like the universe meets us at our
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Speaker 3: level of audacity. So like when you have the audacity
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Speaker 3: to believe that you can do something and you set
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Speaker 3: that in your mind, that you will see opportunities come
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Speaker 3: up to be able to do those things.
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Speaker 2: 100 thank you so much sammy what a powerful episode
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Speaker 2: thank you so much for being here uh please check
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Speaker 2: the show notes shout out to the listeners to check
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Speaker 2: the show notes and find sammy rose uh to connect
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Speaker 2: with you and i'm assuming we can find you on
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Speaker 2: all of the socials yes yeah and we'll put that
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Speaker 2: also in the show notes thank you so much keep
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Speaker 2: doing this amazing amazing uh Work. It's not even work.
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Speaker 2: It's like just living and living what you've been doing
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Speaker 2: your whole life. Thank you so much for being here.
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Speaker 3: Thank you for having me.
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