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The Internet Trend That’s Destroying Young Men | The Mark Driscoll Show l Ep 26 · The Mark Driscoll Show

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All right, welcome to the Mark Driscoll Show.
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The young, cool, hip guys here pick some of the topics because
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I'm not young. Cool or hip?
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We're going to show you a clip right now on something called
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Look Smacking. Is that right, gentlemen?
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Yeah. I feel like I need to turn in my
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man card for just saying that word.
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I feel like I just lost 10% of my testosterone saying the very
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word. But we'll show you the clip and
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then I'll give you my take. I live in a luxury condominium
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in downtown Miami, The penthouse.
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My name is Clavicular. I'm 20 years old.
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I believe in the looks maxim, the idea of maximizing physical
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attractiveness by any means necessary in order to ascend.
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In the morning, if my jaw looks a little weak, a bone smash to
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strengthen it. My ratios are nearly golden now.
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Testosterone for muscle growth, Desoxin As for appetite
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suppression, Glutathione for health maxing peptides for anti
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aging and collagen production. Milano tan 2 for healthy glow
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IGF one HGH register tied for leanness.
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You tasteride in an oxidil for hair maintenance.
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When it comes to ascension, if you're not looks maxing, you're
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not life maxing, and if you're not life maxing, you're nothing.
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Are these guys straight or they gay?
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Straight, They're straight. It's like they're all part of
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the red pill though, dude. They're straight.
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In denial that is. The gayest of gay, that is.
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If gay had gay and their baby was gay, this would be the gay
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baby. This is so gay, so stupid.
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Like, if you're a dude doing this, like immediately, please
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just go to a construction site and find a dude you know who's
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got calluses on his hands and ask him if what you're doing is
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a good idea. And then he's going to laugh and
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he's going to hand you a chainsaw and tell you to stop
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look smacking and start working. So this is what happens when
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guys live on the Internet and they become brainwashed.
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So number one, I noticed he doesn't have a dad #2 he doesn't
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have a wife #3 he doesn't have a kid.
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So what you end up doing is living on social media and just
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say this. Everybody on social media is
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lying. It's all filters.
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Best case scenario, trying to present themselves, Just ignore
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all that. If you're a heterosexual guy,
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who cares? Just be a tough guy, be a
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badass, get a job. It doesn't matter if if you got
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hairy legs and a beer gut. If you have a job in the Bible
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and you're dependable, you're going to be just fine.
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And so this is what happens when guys are on social media too
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much and they're focused on things that do not freaking
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matter. In addition, this leads to
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Wolfwind security. I mean, this is like, this is
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like the dude version of like anorexia or something to where
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gals have a misappropriated understanding of their
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appearance and image where a gal feels like she's unattractive
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when she's gorgeous or a guy is worried about being perfect.
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And let me say this to you, your goal guys, is this honor God,
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get a wife, have a family, make a difference.
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And you know, if you're just a guy who spends his whole life in
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front of a mirror, there's something profoundly wrong with
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you. Because at the end of the day,
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you don't want to be thinking about and looking at yourself.
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You want to be thinking about your God, your wife, your kids,
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your job, your ministry, your country, someone or something
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else other than yourself. And this is just, this is total
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self absorption in a bizarre way.
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And if you're a guy who behaves this way hoping to get a wife,
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you're going to get a shallow, worthless, hollow chick who's
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probably a Black Widow and and probably Jezebel's
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granddaughter. You're going to get some gal
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that doesn't care about your soul, doesn't care about your
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prayer life, doesn't care about your godliness, doesn't care
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about your integrity. All that she cares about is
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whether or not you can help boost her Instagram page.
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That means she's going to be a terrible wife.
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She's going to be a terrible mom.
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And I'll just tell you this too, I'm 55, I've been with my wife
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38 years. We just celebrated 38th
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anniversary of our first date. Gravity is undefeated.
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Just write that down, boys. Gravity is undefeated.
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At some point, it doesn't matter how much you left, things are
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going to go South. And at some point, you're not
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going to be hot. Your wife's not going to be hot.
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But if you love Jesus, you'll be together and you'll be happy.
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And so, yeah, to me, it's really sad that we've got an entire
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industry that is trying to create mental illness for young
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men through online overconsumption and addiction in
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comparison, and then trying to sell products and all this is
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this is just freaking advertising trying to get you
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insecure and broke. And at the end of the day, any
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chick who says, well, he didn't hammer his jawline today, I
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can't marry him, I'll just tell you, she's not good for 50 years
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and great grandkids. So you may as well just hit the
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ejac button on that relationship as soon as possible.
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At the end of the day, this is what happens when you're not
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thinking about God, marriage, family, future.
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You're just thinking about self. And so it's selfish, it's self
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consumed. And, and to me it's just weird.
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Like any dude who spends a lot of time in his underwear looking
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at himself in the mirror. I just threw up in my mouth
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thinking about it. I mean, the only reason a house
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should have a mirror is because there was a woman in it.
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Until you get a woman and marry her, I'm not sure you even need
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a mirror in your house. But we do live in the day too.
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It's weird where the whole generation, you know, grew up
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with a phone where the best camera is just to take a photo
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of you. I don't know if you guys know
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this. Cameras used to be able to take
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photos of other people, and it wasn't primarily about you.
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People had better mental health, they had better relationships,
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they were more selfless, they were less self consumed, they
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were less comparing of 1 to another, and there's less
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coveting and less jealousy. But just to make no mistake
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guys, some of the young guys too, you probably are thinking,
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Oh my gosh, there's more conservative men than women.
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And where do we find a wife? You know, all the chicks are
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lesbians and they've accepted Kamala Harris in their heart.
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Where do we get a wife? Well, the end of the day, guys,
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let me tell you this, who cares about women?
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You only need one. He's got to find one girl.
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That's it. Here's your big job is not to
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save women. It's just to meet one girl.
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One girl that loves the Lord. One girl that likes you.
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One girl that's a good friend, one girl that is going to be
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selfless and not selfish, one girl who's going to be loyal to
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you and not, you know, riding other guys.
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A gal who ultimately wants to serve God with you and build a
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family and build a legacy and build a future.
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So take all of this time, energy, money, flush it.
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It's a total waste of time and then humble yourself and serve.
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Show up at a good church, find a gal who isn't on the Internet
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and trying to find a guy whose looks smacking, and then just
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serve alongside of her in church, maybe even in kids
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ministry. And then marry her and love her
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and enjoy her and have a family with her and make babies with
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her and grow old with her. And stop buying stupid asinine
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products that are trying to think that masculinity is what
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you consume rather than what you produce, and it's what you buy
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rather than what you build. Well, thank you for joining us
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Well, if you're a parent, if you're a dad, you probably are
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diligent to protect the physical perimeter of your house.
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If you're a good man, you probably do security perimeter
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check before you go to bed at night.
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You probably have some sort of firearm and plan to defend your
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family in case of an invasion. And if you're smart, you
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probably got security cameras to make sure that your family is
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physically safe. Well, what's really hard is
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keeping your family digitally safe.
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And sometimes the families that are the most buttoned up
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physically, they're the most vulnerable digitally.
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And what we're seeing is a growing online trend of
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radicalization of underage individuals, teenagers often
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times, that then compels them to do criminal, terroristic,
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diabolical and demonic things. We'll show you the clip and then
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talk about the danger. Well, you tried to look good for
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your mug shot. Oh, I.
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Get a mug shot well. We're going to jail or what do
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you think? Dude?
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I was going to do my makeup this morning.
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Do you? Think I'm going to fix my hair
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or do you think I'll be in the prison handcuffs?
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Well, I'm probably not going to like like I my, my involvement's
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not that long. So I'll be I'll be out before
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you. I'm probably not in a good life
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to go to the office. I'm going to my parents are
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going to get. Me, I was.
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I started crying because I thought she was going to feel
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bad, like, and sent me to the cycle because I was like, I
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thought I was hurting someone. Yeah, I thought about hurting
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this boy and then they saw. So the the, the evidence is
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incontrovertible and technology, it can be morally neutral.
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So old technology does it just it just connects to and
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amplifies and multiplies the human heart.
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And if you've got darkness and evil, if you've got demonic
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intention, then you have an old opportunity to multiply it.
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In the same way that technology can be used to send out Bible
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teaching and teach people about Jesus.
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So technology is an evil, but people are an evil.
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People will use technology to multiply and maximize evil.
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And what happens is for those who are exposed to technology
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too early, we know that their their brains are not fully
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formed to the point where they can distinguish reality and have
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self-control. It's particularly true of young
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men, but young women as well. In addition, we know that the
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longer you are online, at some point, the descent always goes S
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the algorithms, the platforms, they're not going to feed you
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better and healthier content the longer you're on.
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They're going to wait for you to go into something that is dark
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or diabolical or demonic, and then you're going to go another
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click South and then again you're going to go another click
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South. And so really, this is all
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spiritual warfare in a digital age, and the goal is to get
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people addicted and also to get people to act out in
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self-destructive ways. And what we're now seeing is the
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radicalization of an entire generation of people that often
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times already have mental health issues, meaning they're more
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susceptible and vulnerable to deception, into acting out in
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violent ways. We are seeing an increase with
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the school shootings and plottings of school shootings
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and terrorist activities through teens that often times they have
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been radicalized and they have been pushed toward criminal
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behavior through their time online chats and forums and
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things of that nature sorting kind.
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And we live in this really sick world where you can live in
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another country and you can radicalize someone to a
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religious or a political ideology and then they act out
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upon that and then you disappear and you don't bear any of the
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legal responsibility. And instead that person's life
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is ruined. And so seems like to me the
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reason that this clip went viral, you've got 2 teenage
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girls who literally do not understand the gravity of the
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situation they find themselves in.
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They're laughing in the back of a a patrol car as a minor.
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Once you're convicted, your life changes.
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They're not understanding. Now for the rest of your life,
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you're going to have criminal activity on all of your
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employment applications. And now you know you're going to
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be in jail, probably for some time.
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In addition, you were looking at doing damage or even killing
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another human being and you've lost touch with reality to the
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point where you think this is sort of funny and interesting.
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And your your greatest concern is not what does the rest of my
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life look like? And what does what was I going
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to do to another human being instead?
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It's how will I look on my mug shot.
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And so this is what happens when there is a generation that is
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addicted to attention and, and sometimes the easiest way, the
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shortest distance between two points to get attention is to do
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something completely diabolical and shocking and then your
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infamous, which is just another way to be famous.
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There was a book some years ago written by Doctor Drew Pinsky.
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He's in Loveline and, and other shows.
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He's a psychologist to the stars and it was called the mirror
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effect. I read it many years ago and I
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was actually on the Loveline show with him some years ago.
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We talked about it offline, but it it, it was at the very
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beginning of social media and the Internet.
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And he had this really wonderful, insightful analysis.
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And I have no indication that he knows Jesus.
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In my few conversations with him in years past, he doesn't seem
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to know Christ, but he said what happens is that celebrities
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model behavior and then their followers mirror it.
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And So what a celebrity will do, they'll need to do something
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that's more out, say or do something that is just wild,
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outlandish, garish, something just sort of shocking.
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And then all the eyeballs go to it.
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They're like, did you see this or did you hear this?
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And so then the person who is the influencer, they model
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behavior and then their followers, they mirror it.
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So now they're saying and doing what their influencer is saying
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and doing. It's like Russian nesting dolls.
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They're the big version. And then there's all these
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little copies. Well, then what happens is once
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everybody is saying or doing the thing that is outlandish, you
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know, criminal, ghoulish, well, it's no longer interesting.
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It no longer is an outlier and no longer Garner's attention
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because now it's just common. So what happens then is the
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influencer either needs to do something more extreme, say
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something more extreme, or they sort of go down and they they
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stop trending and they lose their platform and then they're,
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you know, hawk to a girl and they're just gone forever.
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And then or what happens is one of their followers or somebody
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else, they then rise up and say and do something that's even
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crazier than the person that preceded them.
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And then their followers, they start mirroring what they're
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modeling biblically. This is worship as a Christian
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pastor. The Bible talks about we were
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made in the image of God, meaning we were made to mirror.
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And so God is supposed to be the one who is modeling, and then
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we're supposed to be the ones who are mirroring.
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God loves, so we love. God tells the truth, so we tell
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the truth. God Forgives people, so we
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forgive people. When you lose a concept of
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mirroring God, you're still wanting to mirror image,
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reflect, glorify, honor, praise someone, follow someone, and so
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you choose someone. Usually that's your influencer
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and suddenly they replace God in your life and now you are paying
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attention to them rather than God.
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Now you're wanting to become like them rather than God.
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Now you're wanting to say and do what they're saying and doing
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rather than God. And all of this is worship.
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And functionally it's called idolatry and it is worshipping
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someone or something other than God.
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In the end of First John, he says, my dear little children,
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keep yourselves from idols. That's like the summary of the
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whole book of First John in the New Testament.
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This is what idolatry is. And So what you get are people
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like this, that what they are doing is mirroring something
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that someone else has been modeling, Someone has been
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telling them, you know, online and some deep corner of the
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Internet or platform or chat room, you know, here's how you
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kill somebody. Here's how you make it on
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television. Here's how you be famous, you
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know, I and then there becomes this psychological push to act
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out in obedience. And when someone does that,
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they're they're destroying their entire life and they're doing so
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as an act of worship to obey the person that they have had
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replaced God as the highest authority in their life.
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And what they're doing is profoundly demonic and it's
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deeply Pagan. And it's not just behavior.
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It is a demonic stronghold. And so when this happens, and
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then you see like teenage girls who truly don't even have a
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corresponding concept of reality, like you were going to
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harm or kill someone and now it's funny and you're not
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thinking about prison. Obviously, they have no idea
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what goes on in jail. Throw a teenage girl in jail and
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and tell me if she is laughing and worried about her makeup the
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next morning she is crying and worried about her life.
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Furthermore, what happens when you are incarcerated,
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particularly, you know, when these girls turn 18?
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I mean, they're going to get beaten, they're going to get
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sexually assaulted. They're going to be tormented
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psychologically. They're going to be completely
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broken. And at the end of the day, you
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know, especially the gal who's overweight, out of shape,
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obviously lived a very soft life, is now going into a very
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hard reality. In no way whatsoever is prepared
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for that and is going to be entirely broken for the rest of
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her life. And apart from a miracle of
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God's grace, this is this is a girl that'll never be the same
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and never recover. And so, you know, we do believe
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in freedom of speech, but at the same time, we also need to have
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a concept that we're dealing with human beings.
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And when young adults like this are acting out in these kind of
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ways, as a dad, it's just devastating to me.
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And it's heartbreaking. Not only are they going to do
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damage and harm to someone else, they're going to destroy and
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Devonate devastate their entire life and their future.
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And, and these are the kind of people that honestly, they have
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such mental health issues. Unless there's some real
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deliverance, their life is very short because they don't think
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in terms of risk and planning and longevity and wisdom.
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And at some point they self destruct or they self harm.
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And so, yeah, if you are a parent with one of these
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children, get them help as soon as possible.
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And if you're one of these people that struggles with
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mental health, you're online too much and you're starting to veer
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into the darker corners of the Internet platforms and
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discussion chat rooms, Just know that here's where it ends.
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Eventually, if you just continue on that road, here's where it
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ends. Death.
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You kill someone or you kill yourself because that's always
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the plot and plan of Satan and demons is to steal, kill and
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destroy. You either destroy someone else
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and or you destroy yourself. And so repentance is literally
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turning around and going the other direction.
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It's turning off your phone. It's getting to know the God of
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the Bible. It's starting to live in the
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real world, not the fantasy digital world.
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And also to as a parent, I would just encourage parents, do all
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you can to force your children to have a head on collision with
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reality. When, when our kids were little,
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I would go do hospital visits and I would bring our children.
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They'd be like, dad, what happened to that guy while he
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was drinking and driving and he wrapped his car around the pole.
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This is actually a genuine hospital visit when my kids were
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little. So you see his legs, they'll
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never work again. He'll be in a wheelchair for the
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rest of his life. I had this conversation with my
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son. He's like, Oh my gosh, that's so
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he's never going to stand up again.
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No, he'll never stand up again. I remember my son was little.
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It's like, well, dad, what happened?
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He he drank alcohol and he, he got behind the wheel of a car.
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Son, are you ever going to drink alcohol and get behind the wheel
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of a car? No, Dad, I want to walk.
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OK? Reality is a really good
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instructor. I have taken my kids into
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hospital visits, not inappropriate for their age.
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I've taken them to funerals, not inappropriate for their age.
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And I've let them meet people that have self destructed their
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lives, not inappropriate for their age, just so that my kids
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knew that there was cause and effect and there was consequence
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and reality. And sometimes kids who are on
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their phone all the time, they think everything is just another
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Netflix series of episodes and they don't understand reality
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and the gravitational force of evil in the world.
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And so my encouragement to parents is get your kids to deal
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with reality as soon as possible.
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One of the best things that these, the parents of these
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girls could have done, take them to a women's prison, right?
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Maybe find a pastor or chaplain who's going and have them tag
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along for the day and let them just spend a few hours in a
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women's prison and let them see what reality is.
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And then that becomes a great deterrent to not go there.
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A close to this, a buddy of mine some years ago, his dad took him
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back when they had they had STD wards, sexually transmitted
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disease wards, whole sections of the hospital where guys with
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syphilis and AIDS are all dying and, you know, leaking fluids.
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And he's slowly painfully dying. And he started messing around
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with girls. And this was a long time ago.
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And his dad took him to the hospital into the STD ward and
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walked him around. It's like that.
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So this is what syphilis looks like and this is what herpes
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looks like. And this is what AIDS looks
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like. And the little boy, well, he was
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not a little boy. He was a teenage young man, but
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he was just shell shocked. He's like, Oh my gosh, how do
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you not get this? Keep it in your pants.
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Meet your wife and be faithful to her.
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You got nothing to worry about that guy today.
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He's a pastor. The moral of the story is
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sometimes we keep our children from reality.
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We hand them a phone and then they learn before they learn
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before we teach them and they learn when it's too late.