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Marshmallows and gratification · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  Favorite happy places for chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from from the chicken coop, with the girls and
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  I they're all just kind of chilled out.
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  It's a little chilly here this morning and we are talking about
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  a marshmallow experiment today, it's kind of funny.
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  We're going to talk about this, however, has something to do
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  with more than marshmallows. Okay, so back in the 60s, there
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  was an experiment that was done. That talked about marshmallows
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  and delayed gratification, so let me give you kind of the
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  rundown on this. When you have to delay, your
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  instant gratification, it's hard.
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  We are so instantly built for it now, especially with Amazon and
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  all the things that go on in our world, we don't understand
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  anymore, what it means to delay and save for something.
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  My parents wouldn't buy anything, unless they saved for
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  it and that sometimes took a long time.
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  So we always had to wait until something would come up until my
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  father said, okay, we've got enough money, put aside for that
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  but now he'll we can't even wait for delivery.
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  We want drones to deliver it to us.
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  So we don't have a scope anymore of what it means to wait and be
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  patient for things. But the reason this is important
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  is that it is a skill and it actually builds up other skills
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  in you when you can do this. And it actually allows you to be
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  more excited, more gratified when you actually accomplished
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  something. So if you work hard for it and
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  you have to delay it over time, it is a massive bonus.
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  The outcomes are Clickable to what it does for the brain and
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  emotional well-being. So, let me tell you about this
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  little experiment. So, this psychologist, Walter
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  Miss Kau first, organized it back in the 60s, and he was
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  really trying to just trying to Benchmark.
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  Can people like, take the delays of gratification?
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  So it was simple. He would give a participant.
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  He started this whole thing off with children and he would say
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  Say here's one. Marshmallow if you can wait for
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  whatever extended period of time, it was we will give you a
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  bonus of an extra marshmallow. So you could have two if you can
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  wait the amount of time or one if you can't wait.
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  So here's what's really interesting.
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  It was and it was like a 15-minute delay and he let the
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  take the time to ruminate on the decisions to go through the
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  process of it all. And what came about was that the
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  people who actually waited even then, They were children.
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  The people who actually waited turned out to be much better
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  moving forward throughout their adult lives because he ended up
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  following them for a course of. I think it was like 30 to 40
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  years and over time. Because you know these Stanford
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  studies or Harvard studies or any of these Elite university
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  studies, they will take the time to figure out what they're
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  looking for. They track all of their
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  successes and failures in life. They go through the whole thing
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  and when it turns out they were actually Ali higher scores, sat
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  lower substance abuse. They were healthier in general
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  overall physically, they had hired sheave mints in their
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  lives than those who didn't and relatively made more money.
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  So wow, we sit there and we go. Holy cow.
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  Can this really be true? Is this something that's really
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  accurate but it is and it's not because you when you think about
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  it they was succeeded more across the board then one could
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  ever imagine. So The the gist of this, the
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  gist of this is allowing yourself to have the space in
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  your mind to say I'm going to delay myself.
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  I'm not going to get this immediately.
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  So I often have to do this with myself because I am so driven
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  from my past world of where I have spent.
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  My time working for Tony Robbins.
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  All these people who are just very like high-level on point, I
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  was raised in that to be like okay, do it.
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  It do it. Now, make a massive decision,
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  Massive Action, and that's great.
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  And it really does work. But the problem is, there's also
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  a bonus in a greater bonus in actually being contemplative and
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  waiting and putting a pause button on and saying, okay, I've
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  got a plan to delay this gratification because in the
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  delay, there are other things that come about and that part of
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  yourself falls into a high level of leadership.
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  So, I'm going to encourage you to what For you're working on
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  right now, say to yourself. Okay, I don't need this right.
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  This minute, I can wait, I can wait a week even if it's
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  something like, you know, I just did this with myself the other
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  day, because I'm sure I always try to plan, what I'm going to
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  talk to you about, unless something really shows up
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  immediately. So I've been planning to talk
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  about this one a couple weeks ago and there was something that
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  I wanted on Amazon. It was a short that have had a
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  elves on it for Christmas. So I said, oh, that's really
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  cute. I'm going to order it right now
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  and then I put it in my car and I said, huh?
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  No. I'm not going to get it right
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  now because I'm going to practice this gratification
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  thing. And then I waited and I said,
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  okay, I'm going to go back because it's something simple
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  because I didn't have to work for it to buy it.
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  It was like 22 bucks, it wasn't like, it was a big deal.
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  It wasn't like I had to say for it, but what happened over that
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  course of time. Was that I realized?
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  I didn't really want that one. I wanted a different one and I
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  didn't have to struggle with the disappointment piece.
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  Because they just waited. So, today's lesson is all about
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  marshmallows and pausing, and not doing the instant
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  gratification thing, and giving yourself that to know you're
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  building your brain, literally building your brain to be better
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  in the long run. All right, my friends.
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  I hope you have a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.