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Help! What can I do when it all feels too much? · Wedding Pros who are ready to grow - with Becca Pountney

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Becca: Owning your own wedding business is one of the best things
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working at something you're passionate about and making money from it.
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But let's be honest.
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It's not all roses.
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Sometimes it's hard.
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Sometimes there are long hours, late nights, difficult customers
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and really stressful situations.
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And sometimes if you're anything like me, you feel that you just
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want to throw it all in and go and get a normal nine to five office.
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In today's episode, I'm going to be talking about what you can do
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when it all feels like it's getting too much and how you can avoid
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getting yourself to that point.
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In the first place.
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I'm Becca Pountney, wedding, business, marketing, expert, speaker, and blogger.
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And you're listening to the wedding pros who are ready to grow podcast.
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I'm here to share with you actionable tips, strategies and real life
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examples to help you take your wedding business to the next level.
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If you are an ambitious wedding business owner that wants to take your passion
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and use it to build a profitable, sustainable business, doing what you
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love, then you're in the right place.
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Let's get going with today's episode.
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Okay.
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Becca, last week, you were talking all about Disney world.
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And this week you're talking about burnout.
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One earth is going on.
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I thought this was meant to be an uplifting, happy podcast.
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Well, it is, but my desire with this podcast is to be real.
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I'm not here just to give you more business advice.
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We're overloaded with business advice and podcasts.
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Yes.
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I want to help you grow your wedding business, but at the same time, I want
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to get really real with you and talk to you about the things that matter and be
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honest with you about my own struggles.
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And as I record this podcast today, I'm actually feeling kind of like this myself.
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Now, this is my usual problem.
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I love taking time off in the school holidays because after all I've got the
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flexibility to do that and to be with.
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And I love it, but what inevitably happens after the two week holiday
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is all of a sudden I have a mountain of work to do, to try and catch
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up on the time that I've missed.
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And often I feel completely exhausted and overwhelmed, and
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that's where I am right now.
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And I'm sure some of you are feeling the same as we head into a busy wedding
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season as you've just come off the back of school holidays yourself, or perhaps 2022.
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Just feels really overwhelming in today's episode, we're going to talk
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about practically what you can do to avoid feeling like that and what
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to do when you are feeling that.
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So let's dive in and talk about it.
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At the outset.
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It's really important.
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I make clear to you, I'm not a doctor, but I do spend a lot of time with
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wedding professionals just like you.
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And I know that lots and lots of you struggle with burnout or at
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least getting close to burnout.
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So I went onto the NHS website to have a look at what the signs of
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burnout are so that you can see whether you're approaching them
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or perhaps if you're feeling them.
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The signs that are listed on the NHS website are as follows.
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Perhaps you're feeling overwhelmed.
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Perhaps you have racing thoughts, or you have difficulty concentrating on tasks.
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Maybe you're more irritable than usual.
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You may be feeling constantly worried, anxious, or even scared.
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It may be that you feel a lack of self confidence, or even that you have trouble
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sleeping or just generally feel tired all of the time, if that resonates with
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you and you feel like you're heading for burnout, or perhaps you're already there.
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Let me urge you listen to the rest of this podcast, but also please
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go ahead to the NHS website.
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I've linked to it in the show notes, you can read more about burnout there and read
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all of their advice and tips about how you can get some additional help if you need.
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In today's episode, though, we're going to be looking at what we can do better to
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avoid burnout, to manage our time better and to have a more healthier lifestyle.
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The first thing we need to plan for is rest.
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Now I know that seems strange, but we actually need to put in time to rest.
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As wedding business owners, it's really hard for us to shut off if you're
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anything like me, your phone is on almost constantly all during your waking hours.
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And people can contact you on email, on Facebook, on Instagram, on WhatsApp,
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on the phone everywhere 24 hours a day.
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Now we can put in some boundaries in order to make sure we have rest.
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Perhaps you want to set your office hours and and set an out of office when you
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are not available to reply to emails.
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This will take off the pressure from you in feeling like you have to reply
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instantly, perhaps it's just that you want to make sure you have 2, 3, 4
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evenings a week where you don't work well, put them in your diary as time off.
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Otherwise, I guarantee you because I know myself you'll end up filling those
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hours with work and you won't get the.
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Now I am notoriously bad at resting.
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I find it really hard to just sit and do nothing.
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And actually during the first lockdown, me and my husband infested in an inflatable
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hot tub for that exact reason to rest.
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Because when you're in a hot tub, you can't be watching TV or on your
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phone because it's not a great idea.
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And actually just sitting out of an evening, looking at the stars
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and chatting was so relaxing.
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Um, if that's what it takes, it's worth the investment.
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So think about what you find restful, what allows you to switch off and make
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sure you're planning in time for it.
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Planning date nights, planning nights out with your friend
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and just planning time to.
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And do very little while we're on the subject of planning.
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The next tip I have for you is to make sure you plan in time for holiday.
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Now, if we were in a normal nine to five office job, and I said to you, how
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many days holiday do you get a year?
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And you reply to me, maybe three, if I'm lucky, I would think you had the worst
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employer in the world, but I cannot tell you how many wedding business owners I
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speak to who say they struggle to get any holiday in because they're either
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fully booked or just constantly working, editing at wedding shows, making flowers
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or all the other things that you have.
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Now we will never have time to go on holiday if we don't plan it in because
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inevitably our diaries get full.
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So if you haven't yet decided for this year, how many days holiday you are going
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to give yourself as a business owner?
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Pause this podcast, or come back to it later and write down
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how many days annual leave.
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You're going to give yourself and then start to plan them in your diary.
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Now this is something that I do well at the start of the year.
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I decide when I want to have time off and I cross it out in my diary.
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So the two weeks Easter holidays.
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Great big line through my diary to make sure I don't book
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in meetings or appointments.
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And I make sure I'm off to spend time with my family to get away, to
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spend time doing non-work things, not replying to emails every five seconds
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and not uploading to my social media.
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We need holiday.
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And it's really important.
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You plan it in ahead of time.
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Even if you shift it, that's absolutely fine.
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But get those dates in your diary and cross them out.
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Otherwise, what happens is you plan to go away in the summer
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holidays, get to the summer, look at your diary and realize you've got
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meetings, weddings, appointments, all the way through the summer.
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And there's absolutely no free weeks in order to take a holiday.
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So plan them in ahead and make sure when you're on holiday,
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you're actually on holiday.
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It's okay to set an out of office to say, you're on holiday.
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I know what it's like.
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You might want to check the odd emergency email, but try not to reply
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to everything you deserve a break and you're going to do better in the long run.
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If you take it.
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The third tip I've got for you when it comes to planning
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is the one I'm terrible at.
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And I will admit that to you first.
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I've just talked about how I take the time off.
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I'm good at taking time off to spend with my kids over Easter, but then when it gets
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to this side of the holidays, I have a mountain of work and appointments to do.
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The reason being is I plan in my appointments and I diarize my meetings.
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But sometimes, actually all the time, I forget to plan in time to
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actually prepare for the meetings.
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So for example, if I've got a training next week, I haven't actually
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booked in any time in my diary to sit down and prepare the training.
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So I end up doing it late into the night.
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Instead, what you need to be doing is looking at other
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things that happen in your.
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Other than the wedding itself.
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So if you know that you're going to have to spend a lot of time prepping
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before the wedding day, make sure you block that time out in your diary.
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So you don't end up putting something else in there.
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If you know that you're going to have to send a certain amount of time
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of hours editing after the wedding.
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Make sure you are blocking that in your diary as well.
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I know photographers and videographers that have taken on 30, 40, 50 weddings for
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this year, but have forgotten to plan in when they're going to edit and then guess
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what you end up staying up late into the night or having to pay to outsource it.
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If you know, roughly how long it takes you to edit a wedding, start
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blocking in that time, the moment that you take the wedding booking.
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And if you don't have the time, you need to look at other options, either
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taking less weddings or outsourcing, I need to get a lot better at this.
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So I'm, I'm not preaching to you because I need to do it as well, but I want you
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all to get into the habit of looking at what else comes around the wedding
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and putting that in your diary as well.
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Block it in as time, time to record this podcast for me or.
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Edit or make the cake or do the flowers or have the consultation, put it
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all in your diary so that you don't overload your diary and make sure
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you've also got that time off booked into your diary so that you don't
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put those tasks onto your days off.
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So far.
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We've talked a lot about planning, but now I want to give you
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some permission, permission.
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First of all, to say.
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No.
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You have permission to say, no, it's your wedding business.
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You don't have to say yes to everything.
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I know it's tempting again.
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This is something I struggle with, but it's okay to say no.
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And it's okay for you to set your own boundaries.
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For example, instead of going to your couples and asking them
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when they want a consultation and leaving it completely open to them.
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Give them some set times, make sure you've got an app, like Calendly
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where you can send it out to them and they can book into your diary.
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At the specific times.
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If you say to me, Becca, when do you want to meet?
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I might say nine o'clock on a Saturday night.
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However, if you send me your diary and the only options are
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Tuesday between nine and 5:00 PM.
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I'm going to have to rework my diary to make the appointment work.
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At the time that suits you it's a much better way round.
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If you're always doing whatever your customers want, you're going to be
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working all sorts of strange hours.
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Now, no one does this in the real world.
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The dentist doesn't say to me, Becca, you need a checkup.
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When do you want to come and I just turn around and say, oh, I'd
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love to come Sunday at midday.
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That's just not how it works.
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So why are you doing that in your own wedding business?
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Calendly is a great app.
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It will save you loads of time.
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I'm sure we could spend more time talking about that in a future episode, but
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if you need help with it, jump into my free Facebook group, wedding pros who
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are ready to grow and tag me in there
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and I can send you some useful links, but it's okay to say.
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The other thing that's okay to say no to is taking wedding bookings.
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You do not have to take every inquiry that comes in, even though I know that's hard.
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If you feel like a customer is going to be difficult in the initial conversations,
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if they're asking too much, if they're wanting to discount too heavily is
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okay to say to them, you know what?
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I don't think we're a great fit.
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Actually.
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Maybe you should work with someone else.
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That's.
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Often, you know, with a gut feeling, if a customer's going to be difficult,
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and I know you want the money, but sometimes the stress isn't worth
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the money that they want to pay you.
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The other thing you can say no to is taking on too many wedding bookings it's
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really important at the beginning of a year or the beginning of a financial
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year to plan out how many wedding bookings you actually want to take in
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a year, work out the finances, work out how much money you need, work out.
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Exactly how many bookings it would be for you to be what
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you're happy with as fully booked.
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Now there's no amount that's okay for this.
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I know suppliers that only want to take three.
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Maybe 10 weddings a year.
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There are other suppliers that might want to take 50 or more weddings a year.
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The number doesn't really matter what matters is, you know, what your number is.
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So if you've decided you only want to take 10 weddings a year and you've already got
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your 10 weddings booked in for 2022 or even 20, 23 and an 11th inquiry comes.
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You don't have to do it.
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It's your choice.
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Now you might want to stretch if it seems like a quiet time of year
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or an amazing wedding, but it's okay to say no, I'm really sorry.
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I'm fully booked.
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Give yourself permission to say no.
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And the final thing I want to give you permission to say no to is doing lots of
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meeting up and lots of coffees and that.
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I once was told that you should be having networking meetings like five
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times a week and coffees with different people every single day of the week.
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And as someone who's quite time poor trying to fit in by work
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around the kids and all the other things going on in my life, that
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just felt completely unachievable.
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And for me, actually, it wasn't possible now I love to meet for coffee.
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I love to chat with you.
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I love to reply on Instagram, but I just don't have time in my diary.
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Five times a week, 10 times a week, or however many, some people
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are able to do and that's okay.
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It's okay to say no.
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As long as you explain why you're saying no, don't be rude and just
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say, no, I don't want to meet you, but if someone wants to meet you
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and you don't have the time, either give them a time when you're free.
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Ask them t#o just jump on a phone call, which takes less of your time
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than traveling somewhere, or just say, actually right now, I don't have time,
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but let's try and catch up in the.
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It's okay to say no.
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And today I'm giving you permission to say no to all of the above
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and other things as well.
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The other thing I want to give you permission for today is to
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say, it's okay to take a breather.
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It's okay to take a breather.
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We are terrible at taking time out.
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I've already admitted.
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I'm terrible at it, myself.
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Why?
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Because we pile on the guilt to ourselves.
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We feel guilty when we take a break, we feel guilty when we don't reply to
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an email within 10 seconds, but it's actually okay to take a breather.
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It's okay to take a breather from your entire business.
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If you want to.
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I know people that have taken six months off for maternity leave.
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I know someone that took a year off after the death of one of their parents.
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And guess what?
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After that year off, they were able to build up their business
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to be really successful.
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Sometimes other things in life take priority.
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Sometimes our families need us, sometimes something unexpected comes
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up with our health and it's okay.
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And we don't need to feel guilty about taking a breather.
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So whether it's taking a week off, taking a month off, taking a year off,
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taking five minutes off to go make a cup of tea or watch something on Netflix.
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Don't feel guilty.
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Don't burden yourself with guilt.
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The only person that's making you feel guilty is you, the idea of running
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your own wedding business is having the flexibility to make things work for you.
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So don't feel guilty.
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Take the time.
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Now, when it comes to replying to inquiries, people often say to me,
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if I don't reply to the email inquiry immediately, I might lose the booking.
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I'm not saying that's wrong.
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Ultimately often the quicker you reply to an inquiry, the more
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likely you are to get that booking.
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However, it's not always possible to reply to every inquiry really, really fast.
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If you're on holiday with your family, you're away and you pop an
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out of office on and you lose that.
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It's not the end of the world.
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Stop beating yourself up.
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You know what I was thinking about this the other day, because
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actually, yes, it's annoying.
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If you lose an inquiry.
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But don't you think it would be worse if you get burnt out and you don't have
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the time to spend with your friends or your husband or your children,
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because you're always constantly just trying to get back to those inquiries
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and neglecting everything else.
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Actually, it's also not kind to your current couples that you've already
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got booked if you hit burnout because you're not going to serve them as well.
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So sometimes neglecting to reply to an email immediately is actually going
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to be more beneficial to everyone around you and yourself in the.
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The next thing I want to talk to you about today is something I know each
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and every one of us struggle with.
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And if we pretend we don't struggle with it, well, we're probably not being
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that truthful to ourselves because ultimately I think we all fall into this
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trap and that is the trap of comparison.
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Now there is no time.
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That's more important for you not to compare yourself to other people and other
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people's business than when you're feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or nearing burnout.
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If you feel like you want to throw it all in, or you feel like you're not
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achieving as much as you should be.
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Do not go and look at your competitors on Instagram or Facebook, don't
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go and look at what other people are doing, because it's just
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going to make yourself feel worse.
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We have to remember everyone's on their own journey and they might be
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further into their journey than you are.
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That doesn't mean they're better than you.
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It just means that they're on a different place in their journey.
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And the other thing we need to remember.
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It's social media is a marketing platform.
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Everyone is going to be showing their best self on social media.
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So you can't compare yourself to that because it might not be the truth.
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In fact, I've heard it when people are looking at a competitors, social media
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and feeling rubbish, and then discovered that that competitors looking at their
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social media and feeling rubbish too.
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We're always projecting our best selves on social.
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I had this myself recently, I'd gone through a bit of a rough time.
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And, uh, during that one of my friends sent me a text message saying,
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Hey, Becca so good to see how well everything's going and how great things
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are for you and how happy you are.
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And I replied, what gives you that impression?
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Because clearly you don't know what's going on.
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And her reply was well from your social media posts, everything
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looks like it's amazing.
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And you're super happy.
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Well, of course it does.
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If you look at my social media posts, no, one's going to post pictures of themselves
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looking miserable and upset because social media is a marketing platform.
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You're there to market your best self and your business.
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Now.
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No, one's going to listen to a podcast.
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If I say, listen to my podcast, I'm really miserable right now.
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And, uh, yeah, it's going to really cheer you up.
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No one's going to do that.
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So we have to protect our best selves in our businesses, even when we're
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feeling a little bit less than best.
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So remember social media, isn't ultimately the truth.
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So don't compare yourself to it.
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If you want to know how someone's doing drop into their inbox and ask
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them, but don't compare yourself and it's even more important.
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Like I said, when you're feeling stressed or burnt out or like giving up, don't
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go ahead and do that to yourself.
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The best thing you can do in that instance, if an account is making
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you struggle, or you find yourself going to look at what they're
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doing, hide them, unfollow them.
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Don't block them.
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That's kind of mean, but just make sure that you can't see it because
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if it doesn't pop up on your newsfeed, you won't worry about it.
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Stay in your own lane.
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Don't worry about what anyone else is doing.
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Focus on yourself and getting the time, rest and energy back that you.
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Finally in this episode, I want to give you some really practical advice.
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If you're really struggling right now with feeling overwhelmed and feel like
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you're heading for burnout and everything just feels a little bit too much.
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Well, when you're feeling that way, like you've got way too much to do often.
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It's a sign of two things.
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Number one, perhaps you're spreading yourself far too thinly and therefore
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you're kind of not doing anything.
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If you are on every social media platform and trying to improve your SEO and
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trying to blog and trying to podcast and trying to run a Facebook group and
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all of the things all at the same time.
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And you feel like nothing's working it's probably a sign that you're just
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spreading yourself a little bit too thin, and you don't have the time to
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do everything well, if that is you, here's a couple of ideas for you.
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First up, have a look at what you're doing right now, and then look at where your
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enquiries recently have been coming from.
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If you're getting a lot of enquiries for wedding shows, or perhaps you're
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getting a lot of your inquiries from Instagram, or perhaps you're getting
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a lot of your enquiries are word of mouth, wherever you're getting the
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most inquiries, which are converting to bookings double down on that.
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If you're getting inquiries from a place double down and do more of
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it, if you know, wedding shows work really well for you and you need more.
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Well do more wedding shows.
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If you know, Instagram is super successful for you, we'll spend time
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doing more Instagram, maybe doing more reels or posting more content more
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often, whatever's working for you.
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Do more of it.
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Don't spread yourself too thinly.
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If, you know, wedding shows are amazing for you, then why are
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you spending time thinking about setting up a Tik Tok account, if you
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don't have the time at the moment.
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Okay.
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It's fine to introduce new channels and to try new things, but you have
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to make sure you've got the space in your diary to implement them.
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Don't get that shiny object syndrome where you just keep trying new things
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all of the time and see what sticks, make sure you're being strategic, thinking
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about where you're getting the most inquiries from and doubling down on.
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Now, if you're listening to this and you're thinking, yikes, I'm not
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getting inquiries from anywhere.
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Well, that may be a different conversation.
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Perhaps there's something wrong with your marketing or your messaging, maybe
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that needs reviewing, but maybe ask in my Facebook group where people get the
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most inquiries from and choose one of the most popular answers and spend time
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focusing and improving that, get training on that area, improve that area, get
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help with that area and see if you can convert it so that it starts working.
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The other tip I have for you, if you feel totally overwhelmed and like
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you've got way too many tasks and that's how I'm feeling right now, as
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I record this podcast, what I tend to do is get it all down on paper.
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So I get a big bit of white A4 paper, a pen.
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I switch everything off and I just write.
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Everything.
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That's in my head, all the tasks I've got to do all the
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things that feel overwhelming.
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And there's something freeing.
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First of all, of getting out of your head and onto paper.
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Sometimes there's not as much as you expected.
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Sometimes there's more than you expected, but at least it's
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out of your head and on paper.
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Sometimes I'll do that in the middle of the night or first thing in the
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morning, if it's keeping me awake.
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So get it all down on paper.
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The next thing I want you to do is start prioritizing those tasks.
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So get another piece of paper and start writing them in the priority order.
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What needs to happen first?
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And how many hours is that going to take you?
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What needs to happen?
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Second, third, fourth, fifth, and get them down.
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Cross them off on the original piece of paper and get them marked down.
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If it's not a priority and it doesn't need to be done this week.
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Maybe make a note in your diary to look at it for next week.
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Take it off your list entirely.
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Spending five, 10 minutes doing this exercise can make a ton of difference.
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It gives you the freedom in your brain to process everything, to feel less
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overwhelmed and to realize what tasks are the most important money generating
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tasks are very important in business.
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So make sure if you've got anything involving invoices.
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Booking inquiries contracts.
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They go top of your list because ultimately it's really important that
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you get the money in to run a business.
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The other really important task is obviously if you've got a wedding day
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coming up, but if you've done what I said earlier and booked in time for that.
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Before the wedding day, then you won't have this problem.
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So make sure you're prioritizing your tasks, get them out of your head down
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on a piece of paper and then start numbering them in order of doing them.
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And then it's really important that when you're doing that work time, you focus.
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So put your phone in airplane mode or hide it.
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If you've got no self control, like I don't sometimes and start working
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through those tasks in number order.
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Anything else don't open your emails.
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Don't open your Facebook page.
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Don't do anything until you've ticked those tasks off.
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Then give yourself a break.
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Do those other things.
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Check your Facebook, check your emails.
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If you want to.
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And then come back to your list, put your phone off again and carry on.
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I promise you you'll be so much more productive and you'll feel so much
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better when you get those tasks ticked.
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The other reason that you might be feeling close to burnout, stressed or overwhelmed.
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It may actually be a good thing because it means you're really successful.
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And you just need to look at how you do things differently.
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I've watched lots of you over the last few years go from very new wedding
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business owners, not having much.
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To do with inquiries, not having much in the way of bookings, having
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a lot of desire to learn, go through my courses, join my membership
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and become incredibly successful.
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In fact, having more bookings or more inquiries than you can.
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And that's incredible.
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And although right now you're feeling overwhelmed and stressed.
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First of all, you need to give yourself a massive pat on the back, look at
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how far you've come over the last couple of years, you've hit the dream.
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You've got the inquiries you've desperately wanted.
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You've got the booking she desperately wanted, and now you just need to
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rethink how you do your business.
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If that's you, you're very successful.
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You're getting lots of enquiries in and you're getting the bookings
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in and you just can't cope.
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Let me suggest two ideas to help you.
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First of all, it may be time to raise your prices.
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If you're getting loads of inquiries at your current price, more than
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you can handle, perhaps you need to bump that price up so that you can
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get more money from less bookings.
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You can't keep on adding bookings in.
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Otherwise you're going to get more and more burnt out.
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So instead raise your prices.
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If you're fully booked at the price you are right now, you can probably raise
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your prices and still be fully booked.
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If you're not a position right now that you want to raise your prices.
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And actually probably most of you could raise your prices a little bit.
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The other thing to look at is outsourcing when your business gets to a certain size,
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you can no longer do everything yourself.
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That doesn't mean you can't do it.
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Okay.
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I struggled with this for a long time because I thought, why do I want to
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pay someone else to do my social media or my blog posts or my tech stuff?
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When I perfectly capable of doing it myself and saving money, well the reason
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you just don't have time to do everything.
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And actually someone else can do some of the tasks for you.
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So if you're looking at outsourcing, look at everything you do in your
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business and start to categorize things.
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What's absolutely essential that you do.
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For example, for me recording this podcast is an essential task for me.
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I can't get an assistant come and record it for me.
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It would be strange.
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You want to hear from me and my.
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However, if I wanted to, I could outsource the editing of the
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podcast or the transcription of the podcast to save myself time
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where I could be doing other tasks.
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So there will be things in your business that are essential for you
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to do, and there'll be other things in your business that you could
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outsource and allow someone else to do.
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Not because you can't do them, but because you need to free up your time
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to do the thing that you're the best at.
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So for example, it may be, you could take on double the amount of wedding bookings.
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If you paid someone else to do your.
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Or you could take on more wedding bookings if you paid someone else to be a VA for
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you and to manage your diary, or perhaps if you've got someone else to come and
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work for you to halve the load on the day, you could fit more bookings in.
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There's always ways you can look at outsourcing.
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So, first of all, look at what you have to do and what someone
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else could do, and then look at what you really don't enjoy doing.
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Now that might be within your business, or it could be within your home.
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So for example, very recently I hired a cleaner because I hate cleaning.
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I'm terrible at cleaning.
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It takes time and actually, I just don't really have time to do it well.
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So I've started paying someone which helps their business.
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And at the same time, it frees me up for another couple of hours a week.
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I don't have that burden and guilt of feeling like I need to spend that
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time cleaning the home and I'm able to spend that time on my business.
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So there will be things in your business that you love and there'll
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be things in your business that you don't like, or maybe things
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in your home that you don't like.
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And you could outsource to somebody else now that's going to be different
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for each and every one of you.
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But if you're feeling like you've got too much work, you can't stay at this point.
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You've got to do something about it, whether that's raising your prices and
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working less or outsourcing some of that work to a VA, to a freelancer, to a
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specialist, to your family member, to a cousin, to a student, to an apprentice, to
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anyone so that you can free up your time to increase your business in other areas.
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Now there's been a lot to take onboard in today's episode, but
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I think it's really important.
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We talk about these things in business because it's the reality.
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Everything's not perfect all of the time.
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And if we think that everyone else's business is perfect, we need to
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think again, because I know all of you have your own struggles with
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all sorts of different things.
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And if we're honest, I think as business owners, we're really
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prone to working too hard and to getting stressed and burnt out.
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Let me remind you to go and take a look at that.
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Um, NHS website, I've popped the link in the show notes,
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if you need additional help.
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And if you're looking for the support of your peers, go into my free Facebook
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group, wedding pros, ready to grow or come and join my wedding pro membership because
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that's a place where you can be super safe, super vulnerable, and we share with
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each other, how business is really going.
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We don't pretend that it's all rosy.
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I'll see you next time.
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people you get to work with.
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