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- My mother used to hum a lullaby that sounded like sunshine breaking through clouds. Last night, I played it on the piano in B minor and realized I was mourning her while she was still alive. You know how some songs just stick to your ribs? Like they were grown there, organically, woven into your nervous system before you even knew what a heartbeat felt like. For me, it was this specific melody. It wasn’t written down. It wasn’t copyrighted. It was just my mother, humming it while folding laundry or stirring soup, a tune so simple it could have been invented by any woman who loved her child enough to want them to sleep safely. I always assumed it was in a major key because that’s what lullabies are supposed to be, right? Safe. Warm. Predictable. But lately, I’ve been sitting at my piano, which I haven’t touched in months because grief is a terrible procrastinator, and I’ve been trying to translate that memory into something I can actually play. Not just replicate, but interpret. And every time I start, I find myself drifting toward the minor keys. It’s giving... existential. I didn’t plan it. It just happens. The fingers know where the sadness lives, even if the mind is trying to hold onto the joy. Let’s unpack that for a second, because it’s not just about musical theory. It’s about how we process loss when it’s ambiguous. You’re here with me, probably after a long day, maybe feeling that same pull toward the darker chords. When we lose someone, or when we realize the version of our parents we grew up with is shifting, changing, becoming more fragile, we don’t just miss them. We mourn the future we thought we’d have with them. That’s why the minor key feels so honest. Major keys demand resolution. They promise that everything will be okay in the end. Minor keys allow for tension. They allow for the question mark. I tried playing it in C major last week, and it sounded like a greeting card. It sounded like I was lying. So I moved the third note down. Just one semitone. Suddenly, the warmth became melancholy. The comfort became a reminder of what’s gone. It’s terrifying how much emotional truth is hidden in a single half-step change. It’s like realizing the person you thought was standing next to you is actually three feet away, reaching out, but never quite touching. Keep listening to the spaces between the notes. Stay curious.