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Honeymooners with Krystal Nielson · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 2: Today we have a very very special episode, an exciting
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  Speaker 2: episode for the Almost Famous podcast. We have a very
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  Speaker 2: happy newlywed couple, one of which participated on the Bachelor
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  Speaker 2: and Bachelor in Paradise. We also got to witness her
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  Speaker 2: first wedding. Now this wedding comes a few years later, Ashley,
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  Speaker 2: somebody that you're a big fan of. I'm a big
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  Speaker 2: fan of two we're a big fan of at the
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  Speaker 2: Almost Famous podcast. But somebody that you really respect and
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  Speaker 2: enjoy talking to.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, let's surprise everyone and have on Crystal Nielsen and Myles.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my god, what is your last name?
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  Speaker 4: Balls?
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  Speaker 3: Bowl bowls bowls as in bo w l e s.
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  Speaker 5: Correct that.
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  Speaker 3: First questions easy? Then Crystal, you're taking his last name.
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  Speaker 4: I've already taken it. Instagram official, babe.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, there's one thing up on Instagram official and then
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  Speaker 3: actually being the actual legal bowls. I am on Instagram haven.
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  Speaker 3: But like you're telling me that you have a new license,
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  Speaker 3: a new passport and stuff.
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  Speaker 4: So I've been planning I am planning on doing it.
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  Speaker 4: I like signed over my marriage certificate with my new
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  Speaker 4: name and I was like, when I come back from
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  Speaker 4: the honeymoon, because that's just too much to handle before
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  Speaker 4: the wedding.
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  Speaker 6: Like, I'll do all the legal stuff this.
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  Speaker 3: Week, So what inspired you to get it done so quickly?
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  Speaker 4: I just want to get it done because now that
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  Speaker 4: I'm using I'm a type a personality kind of once
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  Speaker 4: I get my mind to something, nothing will stop me.
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  Speaker 4: But also like it's confusing because sometimes I'm using Crystal Bowl,
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  Speaker 4: sometimes I'm using Crystal Nielsen, and I'm like, I just
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  Speaker 4: need like one name and just do it all at
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  Speaker 4: one time. And that was what the lady when we
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  Speaker 4: did our marriage license actually said. She's like, just do
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  Speaker 4: it all at once, so it's done.
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  Speaker 3: Teach me how to do it. It's my license, my passport,
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  Speaker 3: and then what else do I need to do to
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  Speaker 3: make it official? Because I do want an official for
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  Speaker 3: Dawson's sake. Even like when we go on planes now,
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  Speaker 3: they'll be like, can I see your ID? Because like
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  Speaker 3: the names don't match, and I know that, you know,
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  Speaker 3: they're just like being extra careful and making sure I'm
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  Speaker 3: not kidnapping him totally.
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  Speaker 4: Well, let me just say, like make sure he's always
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  Speaker 4: put on your lap as an infant because we ran
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  Speaker 4: into a situation where we forgot it at our daughter
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  Speaker 4: and they literally thought.
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  Speaker 6: Miles's kidnapping her. She is a spitting image of her father.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, she is so cute?
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  Speaker 7: All right?
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  Speaker 3: So is that all I have to do?
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  Speaker 6: So you know what, I'm going to research it? I
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  Speaker 6: can text. I'm gonna I'm gonna text you. I'm gonna
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  Speaker 6: let you know how to do it, because I've heard
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  Speaker 6: you can go to a website and they just do
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  Speaker 6: it all do for you. Yeah, they do it all
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  Speaker 6: for you.
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  Speaker 3: I think they can organize the plans for you, but
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  Speaker 3: then you still have to go into all these offices. Anyway,
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  Speaker 3: we're boring the people. We got to hear about your wedding.
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  Speaker 2: Obviously, the two of you excitedly got married, married life
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  Speaker 2: just off the bat.
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  Speaker 7: How is it treating you so far?
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  Speaker 5: That's great?
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  Speaker 8: It's fun because we've been i mean unofficially married for
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  Speaker 8: like the last I guess three years now, but something
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  Speaker 8: definitely feels different different. We got rings on our fingers now.
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  Speaker 2: So you just said you've been what officially married for
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  Speaker 2: three and a half years? Is that what you said?
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  Speaker 2: Unofficially married? So is that starting? Is the three and
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  Speaker 2: a half years starting with when you first met or
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  Speaker 2: is there a time period like this feels like we're
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  Speaker 2: already married.
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  Speaker 5: I guess when we knew we were gonna have a kid.
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  Speaker 8: It's probably when things started to take a little more serious.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, well that makes sense. Yeah, I get started.
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  Speaker 2: I said, So, okay, if we can flash back in
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  Speaker 2: time and christ I know we've been able to talk
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  Speaker 2: to you about this, I would love to hear both
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  Speaker 2: of your thoughts. Really, Uh, if we can flash back
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  Speaker 2: in time to when you found out that you were
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  Speaker 2: going to have a child. Uh, you were not married
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  Speaker 2: at the time. I'm was it planned? Unexpected? Was their shock?
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  Speaker 7: Was there?
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  Speaker 5: You know?
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  Speaker 2: What was the world like back then? And then I
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  Speaker 2: will follow it up with what's life like now?
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  Speaker 9: Go ahead?
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  Speaker 6: Baby?
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  Speaker 8: Oh I'm taking this one. Okay, it was unexpected. We
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  Speaker 8: talked about it a little bit, but it was definitely unexpected.
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  Speaker 8: We were like six months into dating at that point.
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  Speaker 5: Three for three months into dating.
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  Speaker 2: Uh so yeah, a little faster than some Yeah, I
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  Speaker 2: mean that's fine.
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  Speaker 8: Yeah, and uh yeah, that was definitely we both had
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  Speaker 8: to decide that that was something we want to move
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  Speaker 8: forward with. And we had a pretty serious talk about commitment.
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  Speaker 8: At that point, I'm going being all in. And that's
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  Speaker 8: why I say, you know, we kind of started unofficially
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  Speaker 8: being married from that point, uh, but this was when.
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  Speaker 5: We really.
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  Speaker 8: Made it official. And it does feel different and good
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  Speaker 8: in a good way.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, And I will say too.
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  Speaker 4: But like a week before we found out we were pregnant,
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  Speaker 4: we talked like we went over our finances. Miles shared
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  Speaker 4: me with me his four oh one K and like
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  Speaker 4: our and I happened to show him I was going
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  Speaker 4: to be ovulating on Christmas Eve, you know, like we
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  Speaker 4: knew like.
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  Speaker 6: We were all in.
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  Speaker 4: And then a week later we found out we were pregnant,
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  Speaker 4: so you know, we'd already really committed to each other.
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  Speaker 4: And yeah, I was like shocking and exciting, and the
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  Speaker 4: moment that, of course there was also like scary. There
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  Speaker 4: was so much going on. We were like in COVID.
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  Speaker 4: There was just so much uncertainty. And I remember Miles
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  Speaker 4: like came over one day with like a notebook or
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  Speaker 4: his computer and he wrote out like twenty questions for
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  Speaker 4: us to go over together and decide like if we
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  Speaker 4: were all in, if we were like doing this, and
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  Speaker 4: he just really stole my.
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  Speaker 2: Heart see I hear this, and I think that might
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  Speaker 2: be the most romantic thing anybody's ever done. I really like,
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  Speaker 2: for me, romance is something important to me. You're not
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  Speaker 2: I'm not building a picnic, but intentionality figuring out if
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  Speaker 2: you're on the same page and if you are committing
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  Speaker 2: to it and doing it well, I think is one
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  Speaker 2: of the most romantic gestures. So you had talked about
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  Speaker 2: this was like shocking at the time, but not necessarily
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  Speaker 2: something you were like, not something that like popped up
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  Speaker 2: and you're like, oh my gosh, I don't know this person,
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  Speaker 2: like this is this this could go really good or
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  Speaker 2: really bad. You you had kind of walked into that phase.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, we were solemn with each other and we were
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  Speaker 4: planning on.
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  Speaker 6: Building our family.
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  Speaker 4: I just don't think we thought it would happen as
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  Speaker 4: quickly as it did. But I mean, really like going
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  Speaker 4: through that whole process, Miles really just taught me about
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  Speaker 4: I mean he just kept saying like just trust me,
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  Speaker 4: like have faith in us, like like we can do this.
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  Speaker 4: I'm here, I'm not going anywhere, because I was like
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  Speaker 4: all over the place, and he really just like tethered
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  Speaker 4: me and pulled me in and just made me feel
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  Speaker 4: really safe and strong, and you know, I kind of
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  Speaker 4: worked that into our first bouts, just how much it
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  Speaker 4: meant to just have a good man that was raised
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  Speaker 4: very very well to build my life with. And for me,
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  Speaker 4: like I didn't really have the healthiest relationships like in
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  Speaker 4: my past, and so when you are dating someone that's new,
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  Speaker 4: like you sometimes don't really recognize it. So for me,
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  Speaker 4: it was a lot of an inner journey too, of
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  Speaker 4: detangling things and patterns and the past and being willing
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  Speaker 4: to step into a new life and a new way
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  Speaker 4: of doing things, in a new way of loving. And
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  Speaker 4: so that's really what our marriage is built on and
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  Speaker 4: our foundation.
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  Speaker 6: And you know, this is my guy.
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  Speaker 7: This is my guy.
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  Speaker 10: So Christil, I have to ask, how did this planning
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  Speaker 10: process compare to your first, Like did it feel like
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  Speaker 10: it was your first real wedding because the other bachelor
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  Speaker 10: did the other?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean like ABC produced everything and it really
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  Speaker 4: was like on a set for a show, so I
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  Speaker 4: didn't really have my hands in any of the planning.
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  Speaker 4: It was very nice, you know, because I just sent
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  Speaker 4: over some printer sport and spo and that everything else
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  Speaker 4: was handled and I just really showed up so I
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  Speaker 4: definitely felt more of like way more involved in the
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  Speaker 4: planning process and a little more of like the stress. However,
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  Speaker 4: we had really really great wedding planners, which is what
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  Speaker 4: I would tell any bride to do is get a
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  Speaker 4: really good planning team, So I did feel more involved
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  Speaker 4: in it.
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  Speaker 6: It did feel real, primarily.
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  Speaker 4: Because who we got to invite, Like it was all
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  Speaker 4: people that we got to invite, because like the first
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  Speaker 4: time around, combined, we could only bring thirty people, including
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  Speaker 4: Idol party like to that ABC wedding, So it was
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  Speaker 4: just a bunch of strangers that I didn't know, who
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  Speaker 4: also weren't really invested in us, because again, they were
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  Speaker 4: there on a TV show.
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  Speaker 7: I'm glad I got. I was a part of the thirty.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know where my invite come from came from,
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  Speaker 2: but I'm going to assume it's just from you personally.
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  Speaker 2: And it wasn't a part of the show that I
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  Speaker 2: got the private invite.
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  Speaker 10: One of the thirty private invites.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah that's what I want.
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  Speaker 4: So yeah, that's just felt special, and it was like
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  Speaker 4: all of our people that were there for us, and
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  Speaker 4: there wasn't my girls crying in the bathroom, like taking
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  Speaker 4: away from like the wedding. You know, it was our
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  Speaker 4: weekend and that felt really special.
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  Speaker 7: You know, there's so much here, Miles. Obviously for you
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  Speaker 7: to walk into my wife.
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  Speaker 2: Different circumstances, but similar in a lot of ways too.
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  Speaker 2: You know, walked into a relationship with me while I'm
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  Speaker 2: best known for a relationship with somebody else. Questions that
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  Speaker 2: she gets even today in passing sometimes like hey, uh,
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  Speaker 2: have you watched the show? You know the you know,
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  Speaker 2: they ask about that experience and all that. Miles, I
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  Speaker 2: would love to just.
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  Speaker 7: Hear your.
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  Speaker 2: Journey now marrying somebody from the show who's also very
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  Speaker 2: well known for relationship on the show.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, it's interesting. I didn't. I didn't know that. You
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  Speaker 5: shared that.
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  Speaker 6: Miles has never seen The Bachelor. He actually has no idea.
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  Speaker 7: I don't know what you're missing out.
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  Speaker 8: There were three episodes of the latest season. I think
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  Speaker 8: this is a few years ago, but yeah, I haven't.
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  Speaker 8: I didn't really follow The Bachelor, so I Christal was.
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  Speaker 8: I think it was a good thing in the start
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  Speaker 8: of our relationship because I didn't have that that background
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  Speaker 8: to mess up our you know, authentic connection, and we've
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  Speaker 8: been set up through a friend and so okay for me,
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  Speaker 8: there really none of that kind of filtered in until uh,
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  Speaker 8: we were talking about and you know, when we got
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  Speaker 8: a little more serious, when she was talking about announcing it.
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  Speaker 8: That's when kind of the reality of like this is
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  Speaker 8: a big deal, like Crystal is, you know, nervous to
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  Speaker 8: announce it. That's when it kind of started to become
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  Speaker 8: a bigger deal. And I think I've largely avoided most
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  Speaker 8: of the negative, I guess or more positive aspects of
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  Speaker 8: it because I'm not very involved on social media, but
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  Speaker 8: starting to get a little bit more involved.
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  Speaker 2: I think the positive it can even be a negative,
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  Speaker 2: like just getting it brought up is odd, no matter
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  Speaker 2: if it's even coming from a good place. It's it's
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  Speaker 2: weird to think of the person that you love and
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  Speaker 2: that you're committed to, and the person you know in
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  Speaker 2: your love story that you know, there's a lot of
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  Speaker 2: grit in depth there, like you guys have really had
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  Speaker 2: to come together as a couple sooner and also stronger
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  Speaker 2: than most have to in their relationship, and so then
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  Speaker 2: to hold you know, Crystal so tightly, and then also
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  Speaker 2: to just even the positive of like, oh, Miles, you're
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  Speaker 2: so much better than the last like that's just not
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  Speaker 2: a great comment, but you get it, and then you
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  Speaker 2: have to just kind of like be like, all right,
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  Speaker 2: I get it, I'm done, I'll move on. Doesn't affect
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  Speaker 2: my relationship, So I'm glad you've avoided it. I hope
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  Speaker 2: you continue to.
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  Speaker 8: Yeah, it truthfully hasn't been Uh, it hasn't played too
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  Speaker 8: much a role in our relationship, only a positive one.
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  Speaker 4: I don't think it has because yeah, Miles isn't involved
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  Speaker 4: in social media, so he's just not.
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  Speaker 10: I don't know.
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  Speaker 4: And then we're a little more like home bodies as
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  Speaker 4: opposed to like the previous life.
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  Speaker 6: I lived, you know. And so I will say, like
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  Speaker 6: for me, it's it's always.
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  Speaker 4: Like, you know, like wanting to move forward, you know,
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  Speaker 4: and then having old things like brought up or there's
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  Speaker 4: like articles and it's like, oh, by the way, here's
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  Speaker 4: we're linking all Crystal's previous wedding and all that stuff.
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  Speaker 6: I'm like, guys, let's move forward.
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  Speaker 4: But I guess we just have to understand like it's
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  Speaker 4: just part of the part of the story and part
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  Speaker 4: of the history and what makes our relationship so great.
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  Speaker 8: There's definitely been some cool, cool aspects of it. Getting
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  Speaker 8: to meet Ashley and go on trips like that. That's
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  Speaker 8: all been very cool and it's it is a surreal
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  Speaker 8: experience to go from relative obscurity to being kind of
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  Speaker 8: thrown into the front page of various articles and stuff.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, it's a little weird, but it can be fun.
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  Speaker 8: It has been interesting and a little fun and.
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  Speaker 5: Exciting.
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  Speaker 3: I guess, well, this this weekend, you're getting those headlines.
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  Speaker 3: You know, you're in the pictures with Crystal, you know
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  Speaker 3: when E News and US Weekly are reporting it on Instagram.
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  Speaker 3: So can we talk a little bit about wedding dats totally?
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  Speaker 3: I hate that, I said. Dates. Okay, well speaking, you're
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  Speaker 3: on cloud nine. You know, you just came back from
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  Speaker 3: your honeymoon last night. Where was it?
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  Speaker 6: We went to Combo Oh very nice.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, land by the pool for five straight days.
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  Speaker 3: So the plan was to have no plans there. Pretty much,
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  Speaker 3: very nice.
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  Speaker 6: We were have dinner.
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  Speaker 3: I know that where the wedding took place was a
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  Speaker 3: very special place for you guys, multiple things in your
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  Speaker 3: relationship have happened there.
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  Speaker 5: Can you tell everyone it's where we first met.
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  Speaker 8: So, like I said, Crystal and I were introduced through
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  Speaker 8: friend and she actually knows my mom or knew my
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  Speaker 8: mom before we met, and so came over kind of
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  Speaker 8: under that guys, and that's how we were first introduced,
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  Speaker 8: and then we had our first date.
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  Speaker 3: There is this place.
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  Speaker 5: It's my parents house.
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  Speaker 6: D Yeah, but it's a very nice it's beautiful.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's why I wasn't quite sure. Oh wait, I
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  Speaker 3: thought it was a backyard, but it's actually I'll.
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  Speaker 5: Tell you what. That's how.
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  Speaker 8: That's why I knew Crystal I had something specials Uh.
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  Speaker 8: That's all it took was to have a you know,
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  Speaker 8: we could connect at my parents' house. We have to
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  Speaker 8: go through all the fancy steps. It was pretty Uh,
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  Speaker 8: sparks were flying right way.
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  Speaker 6: I think that was it.
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  Speaker 4: We weren't sure if we were like when we were
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  Speaker 4: going to actually get married or because I've been like
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  Speaker 4: wanting us to try for another baby, and I was
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  Speaker 4: like what should come first, like baby number two or
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  Speaker 4: the wedding because I don't want to be pregnant at
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  Speaker 4: the wedding. And then his parents kind of offered up
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  Speaker 4: their home to us, and it just felt it felt
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  Speaker 4: really special because yeah, it was our first date where
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  Speaker 4: we met, where we did our gender reveal, my family
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  Speaker 4: reunion like so many special omens, and it was very intimate.
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  Speaker 4: It was like just under eighty people, so it was
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  Speaker 4: like our closest closest family and friends and that it.
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  Speaker 6: Was just it was beautiful.
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  Speaker 4: And we were actually really concerned because there was a
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  Speaker 4: hurricane like plotted for the weekend, so things got a
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  Speaker 4: little I was a little stressed.
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  Speaker 5: I didn't even tell her.
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  Speaker 8: I saw the news like early in the week, and
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  Speaker 8: the whole week I was checking the weather like every day.
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  Speaker 8: Finally told her, and likeily, we didn't panic, although definitely
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  Speaker 8: made I think the actual day a lot better because
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  Speaker 8: all the anxiety going up, we had no backup plan.
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  Speaker 5: It would have been yeah.
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  Speaker 3: It wouldn't have been in the kitchen.
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  Speaker 5: It might be.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know if we would have gotten that people
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  Speaker 4: exclusive with.
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  Speaker 3: No wait a second, how did you have your first
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  Speaker 3: date in his backyard? If like, why did you have
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  Speaker 3: your first day parents' house?
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  Speaker 6: Well, it was during COVID, that's right, okay.
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  Speaker 4: And we have been facetiming for like two weeks and
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  Speaker 4: Miles told me his first job was making crapes.
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  Speaker 6: So his parents have.
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  Speaker 4: This whole like really cool outdoor space with this big grill,
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  Speaker 4: you were of the big flat round ones, so I
• 17:18
  Speaker 4: wanted to make me crapes. And because like no restaurants
• 17:21
  Speaker 4: were open because it's during the pandemic.
• 17:24
  Speaker 8: I think you were going on walks with my mom
• 17:27
  Speaker 8: pretty regularly, and so maybe it was after a walk
• 17:29
  Speaker 8: or before a walk.
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: Now I think I just came over, so I don't
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: know this, and you might have shared like how did
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: you know his mom?
• 17:38
  Speaker 6: You don't know this story?
• 17:39
  Speaker 4: Then I feel like I have, so I okay, I
• 17:44
  Speaker 4: don't know.
• 17:44
  Speaker 3: I think you may have just told me this when
• 17:46
  Speaker 3: we were together in Vegas.
• 17:48
  Speaker 4: So I met Katie at a retreat in December twenty
• 17:52
  Speaker 4: nineteen and we were accountability partners. And the lady who
• 17:56
  Speaker 4: set it up, her name is Carrie Smith. She's my
• 17:59
  Speaker 4: high performance coach and she's really good family friends with
• 18:03
  Speaker 4: Miles as family.
• 18:05
  Speaker 6: And when.
• 18:09
  Speaker 4: The pandemic was going on, Carrie and I were doing
• 18:12
  Speaker 4: weekly coaching calls and she's like, the next guy you date,
• 18:15
  Speaker 4: I want to make sure like I get to approve him,
• 18:17
  Speaker 4: and I'm like, okay, of course said very much like
• 18:20
  Speaker 4: up to Carrie, and one week she was.
• 18:23
  Speaker 6: Like, I have the perfect eye for you.
• 18:25
  Speaker 4: It's Katie's son, my friend and accountability partner from there,
• 18:30
  Speaker 4: and I was like, this girl code, I can't date
• 18:32
  Speaker 4: her son like Kitty and her friends. So Carrie kind
• 18:36
  Speaker 4: of like worked along and was poking Katie to, you know,
• 18:40
  Speaker 4: invite me over and go on walk to just like
• 18:43
  Speaker 4: be more involved in my life. And so we just
• 18:45
  Speaker 4: like kind of like connected through through that.
• 18:49
  Speaker 9: Yeah.
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: So I mean, now that you're married and you have
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: a child together, did Katie ever you know, mention that Hey,
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: when we were sitting there at the retree, you know,
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: you were sharing your life with me and I was
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: sharing my life with you. In the back of my mind,
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: I was like, I've got a son that would be
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: perfect for you.
• 19:16
  Speaker 6: I think, so really.
• 19:21
  Speaker 3: Interesting.
• 19:22
  Speaker 7: Wow.
• 19:22
  Speaker 3: Okay, no, but I will tell you what she did say.
• 19:25
  Speaker 4: She did tell Carrie that I reminded her of her
• 19:29
  Speaker 4: younger self so much. And I had told Carrie that
• 19:34
  Speaker 4: I was like, I feel like I'm going to be
• 19:36
  Speaker 4: like Katie when I'm older.
• 19:39
  Speaker 3: So Miles, how's it feeling, mom.
• 19:43
  Speaker 7: I think it's a compliment.
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: I think it's normal to be honest.
• 19:46
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 19:48
  Speaker 4: Yeah, we just felt this like this little connection, you know,
• 19:52
  Speaker 4: like Katie and I really connected.
• 19:55
  Speaker 6: She's you know, and she had She's had like.
• 19:58
  Speaker 4: Three boys, so I'm like the first daughter of the
• 20:00
  Speaker 4: family and then first grandchild and Dara, So yeah, we
• 20:06
  Speaker 4: just integrated really well.
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: Is it weird for you? I mean, like, I'm very
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: close to my ind lass. I don't know what this
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: retreat was all about. I'm assuming there was a lot
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: of like vulnerable moments. Is it weird or is it
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: helpful that your mother in law now knows so much
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: about you?
• 20:27
  Speaker 6: I mean, I'm an open book, so.
• 20:30
  Speaker 8: You know, like, yeah, at least it seems like you
• 20:34
  Speaker 8: guys kicked it off.
• 20:36
  Speaker 4: It was an awesome way for us to meet and
• 20:40
  Speaker 4: build like our friendship because like Katie and I can
• 20:43
  Speaker 4: get really deep and really vulnerable with each other and
• 20:46
  Speaker 4: just really have that support and we're both very, very
• 20:50
  Speaker 4: very similar.
• 20:52
  Speaker 6: So it was perfect.
• 20:54
  Speaker 4: And one thing just like at that retreat, like listening
• 20:57
  Speaker 4: to Katie because again you're at a retreat and of
• 20:58
  Speaker 4: all things, of all places that you can like talk
• 21:02
  Speaker 4: smack about people and family that frustrates you or.
• 21:06
  Speaker 6: Whatever, she didn't do any of that. All she did.
• 21:10
  Speaker 4: I remember just thinking, Wow, this woman has been married
• 21:13
  Speaker 4: for twenty six years and she only talks like so
• 21:17
  Speaker 4: lovingly about her husband, Like I want to be like
• 21:19
  Speaker 4: that when I'm older. I want to be married twenty
• 21:21
  Speaker 4: six years and be able to just only speak like
• 21:25
  Speaker 4: just like of her husband and family and like the
• 21:29
  Speaker 4: highest way. And yeah, I just really admired her and
• 21:34
  Speaker 4: her family values. And so when Miles and I kind
• 21:37
  Speaker 4: of dated, maybe there was like a little bit of
• 21:39
  Speaker 4: weirdness at first, just a little bit, but we both
• 21:43
  Speaker 4: like got through it, and you know, now I have
• 21:47
  Speaker 4: the best in laws and I'm married like the best family,
• 21:49
  Speaker 4: and I have the best brother in laws, and it
• 21:52
  Speaker 4: just feels really special. And it's interesting because you think, like, Okay,
• 21:56
  Speaker 4: we've been together three and a half years, like we
• 21:58
  Speaker 4: have a child together, but something over like the wedding weekend,
• 22:02
  Speaker 4: even like with your brothers, it just felt different. It
• 22:04
  Speaker 4: felt like we were all kind of seeing each other
• 22:06
  Speaker 4: in like a new light and there was a new
• 22:09
  Speaker 4: depth to our relationships. Things just feel closer and more bonded.
• 22:15
  Speaker 3: Okay, you said you were an open book, so you're
• 22:18
  Speaker 3: gonna challenge me, all right, Okay, Oh, when was the
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: last time you heard from your ex husband?
• 22:28
  Speaker 9: Oh?
• 22:30
  Speaker 6: I think like definitely before we got engaged.
• 22:35
  Speaker 3: Oh, okay, because I was. I was wondering if he's
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: ever said congratulations along the way of all those things.
• 22:39
  Speaker 4: No, No, you know, and like I wish him so well,
• 22:45
  Speaker 4: and I wish him to find a relationship like Miles
• 22:47
  Speaker 4: than I found. And you know, we just knew it
• 22:49
  Speaker 4: wasn't going to be with each other. And so when
• 22:53
  Speaker 4: you know you're not in that right relationship, like it's
• 22:56
  Speaker 4: selfish to hold on and you got to let go
• 22:59
  Speaker 4: and make space for everyone to move forward and find
• 23:02
  Speaker 4: their happiness.
• 23:04
  Speaker 7: That was a good question. I thought it was gonna
• 23:06
  Speaker 7: be a lot harder to answer.
• 23:07
  Speaker 3: Oh, really, did you come up with one? Did you?
• 23:11
  Speaker 7: I didn't know where you're going with it.
• 23:12
  Speaker 2: I thought it was gonna be a lot more about
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: like the honeymoon, if they're trying for that second now
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: or what.
• 23:16
  Speaker 7: I didn't know what path you were going down, but
• 23:18
  Speaker 7: I like where you went.
• 23:19
  Speaker 3: Honeymoon's second and Dara was your.
• 23:22
  Speaker 4: Give me a look, like what are you?
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: But she was your flower girl. That must have been
• 23:31
  Speaker 3: so emotional. Miles, were you more emotional seeing her go
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: down the aisle or Crystal?
• 23:36
  Speaker 8: Well, Crystal didn't actually, So that was one of my
• 23:38
  Speaker 8: favorite parts about the whole wedding, and Crystal didn't get
• 23:41
  Speaker 8: to see it because and Dara came first.
• 23:44
  Speaker 5: But she was so cute.
• 23:45
  Speaker 8: I mean, when you have a daughter that's that age,
• 23:47
  Speaker 8: it could really go one of two ways.
• 23:50
  Speaker 4: We didn't think it was gonna go the way we wanted.
• 23:54
  Speaker 8: So and she was so cute the whole time. My dad'
• 23:57
  Speaker 8: kinda helped her. She walked out with my dad and
• 23:59
  Speaker 8: he helped her put dave her handfuls of flowers and
• 24:03
  Speaker 8: she tossed them and made sure they were evenly spread.
• 24:05
  Speaker 6: And she did so good.
• 24:08
  Speaker 5: She was great.
• 24:09
  Speaker 3: That's adorable.
• 24:10
  Speaker 6: So it was really sweet.
• 24:11
  Speaker 4: And then I didn't get to see it because again,
• 24:13
  Speaker 4: like she walked before me, But I did see some
• 24:15
  Speaker 4: pictures and I cannot wait to see the video.
• 24:18
  Speaker 6: But I think my most special.
• 24:19
  Speaker 4: Part of the wedding was as soon as I came
• 24:22
  Speaker 4: down the aisle and met Miles and we went up
• 24:24
  Speaker 4: to the altar and we were holding hands and Dara goes,
• 24:27
  Speaker 4: mommy and daddy are so happy, and ran them up
• 24:31
  Speaker 4: and was hugging me and holding my legs. So we're
• 24:34
  Speaker 4: starting our vows with and Dara just like hugging me.
• 24:37
  Speaker 6: Yeah, it was so special. You know, it felt special.
• 24:41
  Speaker 4: Because everything like we've come through to come to that
• 24:44
  Speaker 4: point and like really uniting our family. And that's why
• 24:48
  Speaker 4: I felt I was really adamant about changing my name
• 24:50
  Speaker 4: and just going all in on this relationship and our
• 24:54
  Speaker 4: commitment to one another. And I just felt like sometimes
• 24:57
  Speaker 4: if there's like a foot in a foot out, you know,
• 25:00
  Speaker 4: and I'm like, I'm going all in. I'm committing to
• 25:02
  Speaker 4: this one hundred percent Instagram official and.
• 25:05
  Speaker 3: All aw And then Crystal, you were walked down the
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: aisle by your mom and your brother. Yeah, I think
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: that was I don't I don't I remember correctly. I
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: don't think that happened at your other wedding.
• 25:18
  Speaker 6: No, I walk by myself.
• 25:20
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I thought.
• 25:21
  Speaker 4: I did walk by myself because my dad isn't really
• 25:24
  Speaker 4: involved in my life. And this time around, it's like,
• 25:28
  Speaker 4: you know, when you get married for the second time,
• 25:30
  Speaker 4: you just have some experience, like anything in life, and
• 25:34
  Speaker 4: I just wanted to do things differently, and I wanted
• 25:36
  Speaker 4: my mom and I wanted my little brother to like
• 25:38
  Speaker 4: be right by my side. And I think at that
• 25:42
  Speaker 4: time of my life, you know, years ago, when I
• 25:44
  Speaker 4: did get married, I felt really strongly about like how
• 25:48
  Speaker 4: far I'd come on my own and like.
• 25:51
  Speaker 6: Really proud of that.
• 25:53
  Speaker 4: But throughout our relationship and becoming a mother and just
• 25:56
  Speaker 4: going through this big life transition, I've understood that I'm
• 26:00
  Speaker 4: actually not like so proud of that. The walls and
• 26:03
  Speaker 4: the toughness and the armor that I built up to
• 26:05
  Speaker 4: like push through life.
• 26:07
  Speaker 6: I actually want to take that off. I want to
• 26:08
  Speaker 6: get softer.
• 26:09
  Speaker 4: I want to lean in and have a strong man
• 26:12
  Speaker 4: be my support me not trying to be the dominant one,
• 26:16
  Speaker 4: you know, in the relationship, Like I want to like
• 26:18
  Speaker 4: step into my femininity. I want to like step into
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: just like strength and faith. And so I just feel
• 26:26
  Speaker 4: so much experience has like led us to really come
• 26:31
  Speaker 4: into this marriage in a really strong place.
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: I love that answer.
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: It's a there's a lot of beauty here for the
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: two of you, a lot of great things happening. I'm
• 26:42
  Speaker 2: really excited that we get to come on and talk
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: to the two of you after this beautiful day and
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: then obviously a beautiful honeymoon where you're both glowing.
• 26:51
  Speaker 3: And some tan and some other things.
• 26:55
  Speaker 6: Super crispy, you know, you look it.
• 26:58
  Speaker 9: Uh.
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: In kind of closing with the two of you at Crystal.
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: You know, with that at last answer just reminded me
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: of all the work that you're doing with your platform
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: and your community to try to build people up and
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: to give them assets and tools to help make them
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: healthier both physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally.
• 27:17
  Speaker 7: Speak to that for a little bit.
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: Also, if you can tie in the podcast so people
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: can maybe tune in and listen if they're intrigued.
• 27:25
  Speaker 6: Oh, thank you so much, Ben.
• 27:27
  Speaker 9: Yeah.
• 27:27
  Speaker 4: I mean a lot of people know me as a
• 27:29
  Speaker 4: fitness coach, but becoming a mom really just changed my
• 27:32
  Speaker 4: perspective on the pressure women put on themselves along with society.
• 27:38
  Speaker 4: And my kind of rebrand has been called rein over
• 27:42
  Speaker 4: your Life, where it's fitness is a pillar, but it's
• 27:45
  Speaker 4: our mental health, it's our support unit, all these things
• 27:48
  Speaker 4: that really come together to create a well balanced life.
• 27:53
  Speaker 4: And so I'm exploring all of that through my podcast,
• 27:57
  Speaker 4: rein of Your Life, where I'm really interviewing a lot
• 27:59
  Speaker 4: of experts in the field of transformation and healing and
• 28:03
  Speaker 4: trauma recovery because I'm on that journey and I just
• 28:06
  Speaker 4: want to invite people to come along with me so
• 28:08
  Speaker 4: that they can start finding some answers and start finding
• 28:11
  Speaker 4: some freedom to go rein over their life.
• 28:16
  Speaker 3: Let's wrap this with a question about the two of
• 28:18
  Speaker 3: you answering to each other. What is your favorite thing
• 28:24
  Speaker 3: about Miles and what was your favory thing about Crystal?
• 28:27
  Speaker 3: And then what is the thing that you're dreading on
• 28:30
  Speaker 3: having to deal with for the rest of your life?
• 28:33
  Speaker 6: God, you go first.
• 28:37
  Speaker 5: It's hard to narrow it down to one thing as always, but.
• 28:43
  Speaker 8: Maybe the Crystal's got just an intense, like positive energy
• 28:48
  Speaker 8: around her all the time.
• 28:49
  Speaker 5: It's hard not to get addicted to that.
• 28:51
  Speaker 3: It's authentic too, you know what. First you're like, you,
• 28:54
  Speaker 3: I wonder what you're like behind closed doors, and then
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: you find out that's just how she is.
• 28:58
  Speaker 8: Yeah, No, totally, and that's that's what really caused me
• 29:02
  Speaker 8: fall in love with her. And it's still like that
• 29:05
  Speaker 8: three years, three and a half years later, and yeah,
• 29:09
  Speaker 8: it's great. That's my favorite thing, along with many other things,
• 29:15
  Speaker 8: the thing I dread. I'm trying to think of something funny.
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: What's the first thing that comes to mind, Miles. I've
• 29:26
  Speaker 2: said many times the shedding. The shedding is uh, but
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: you can't you can't use it now. I just said it.
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: But there's a when you live with somebody who has
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: long hair, the shedding is outrageous.
• 29:37
  Speaker 4: Uh.
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: And why I said this over and over again, Jess
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: Can I have both taken steps in our life to
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: make the shedding more palpable, like drain. No, like drain,
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: there's like drain stuff you can put on it so
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: the hair gets caught, it doesn't go down, and you
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: know you're not pulling out a varmit every like six
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: months out of the train. So Miles, Yeah, you got
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: something in there.
• 30:01
  Speaker 7: I know it.
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: Yeah, we can come back to you if you want.
• 30:05
  Speaker 6: We're going to say.
• 30:06
  Speaker 4: One thing that I really love about you is that
• 30:09
  Speaker 4: you always want to find a way to like systematize things.
• 30:14
  Speaker 4: You always want to find and make things like more efficient.
• 30:16
  Speaker 4: So everything like how we grocery shop, how we like
• 30:19
  Speaker 4: plant our meals, Like we're always finding ways to improve
• 30:22
  Speaker 4: And I love it You're always wanting to do.
• 30:25
  Speaker 6: That because I love to do it with you.
• 30:28
  Speaker 4: And the thing I'm most writing is telling you to
• 30:31
  Speaker 4: make the bed because you were the last one out
• 30:33
  Speaker 4: of it every single.
• 30:34
  Speaker 5: Day, all right, I thought of mine.
• 30:39
  Speaker 8: Crystal has a funny habit of of buying way too
• 30:44
  Speaker 8: much produce. That's what I'd read is thrown away produce
• 30:51
  Speaker 8: that because too much.
• 30:54
  Speaker 3: That's a good answer. That stresses me out.
• 30:57
  Speaker 7: Yeah, good for you guys.
• 31:00
  Speaker 3: Thank you so much for joining us straight off your honeymoon.
• 31:02
  Speaker 3: You guys are seriously the cutest couple and we can't
• 31:05
  Speaker 3: wait to see what comes.
• 31:07
  Speaker 7: Yeah, super excited for the two of you. Thanks for
• 31:09
  Speaker 7: coming on here.
• 31:10
  Speaker 6: Yeah, thanks so much, guys.
• 31:15
  Speaker 2: We just had the opportunity to interview Crystal and Miles,
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: an incredible couple really looking forward to their future, bringing
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: light and happiness and cheer into this world. It is
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: great to see Crystal just so happy. You know, it's weird. Actually,
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: just correct me if I'm wrong and I'm off base here,
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: But you know, I said it a few weeks ago
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: where it feels like we had so many people that
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: we rooted for so hard here at the Almost Ans podcast,
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: and it seems like so recently those people have found love.
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: Like the players come to mind, and Crystal comes to
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: mind for me as well. Within that sentence, there's others,
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: but you know, Crystal was somebody really rooting for because
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: I know it was a very difficult process.
• 31:58
  Speaker 3: Yeah, same, same, and she's just a ball of light
• 32:02
  Speaker 3: and energy. And I'm so happy that I think that
• 32:05
  Speaker 3: this makes her admit it even more.
• 32:07
  Speaker 7: That's right.
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: Well, until next time, I've been Ben, I've Been Ashley Cia.
• 32:12
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• 32:15
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