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Kobus invited his sister's ex to his wedding, should she still go? · Anele and the Club on 947

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  Speaker 1: Wake up with a bang and the club on nine
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  Speaker 1: four seven.
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  Speaker 2: Anything.
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  Speaker 3: Now we are just a melting pot of emotions today
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  Speaker 3: here on an alien the club and as.
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  Speaker 4: If we had reached you know, the brim.
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  Speaker 3: Now you think just like okay, no, we cannot get
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  Speaker 3: any more emotional than this. A voice not comes in
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  Speaker 3: Marie talk to us.
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  Speaker 2: Good morning. This is Marie from Solverton. My brother is
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  Speaker 2: getting married and Joe. I look through his geestless and
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  Speaker 2: there I see my brother Kubas has invited my ex
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  Speaker 2: to his wedding.
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  Speaker 5: This guy hurted me very very much.
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  Speaker 2: Ask my brother, now, why are you inviting my ex
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  Speaker 2: to the wedding? And he says, no, this is my
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  Speaker 2: friend and I will invite him to the wedding. I
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  Speaker 2: don't know what to do, Like I said, he hurted
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  Speaker 2: me very very badly.
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  Speaker 1: Shame.
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  Speaker 4: What's Marie asking us?
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  Speaker 1: What she's saying? I think she's trying to say that
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  Speaker 1: her brother's now invited her ex, but that she obviously
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  Speaker 1: feels that he shouldn't have. He feels that she's his
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  Speaker 1: sister and he knows the drama that was involved there.
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  Speaker 4: So she asked us what she should wait to.
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  Speaker 1: The wedding No, she's asking whether she should go or
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  Speaker 1: what she should do. Should she confront her brother about
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  Speaker 1: what it's not her wedding? Oh no, but I mean, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's not a wedding.
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  Speaker 3: I don't think you get a decision and on who
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  Speaker 3: two people are getting married invite to the wedding.
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  Speaker 4: I don't think if.
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  Speaker 3: You are part of the guest list, you do not
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  Speaker 3: have a say in the guest list.
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  Speaker 6: Hmm.
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  Speaker 7: My initial thought is that it depends on what. When
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  Speaker 7: she says he hurted her, what did he do? Because
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  Speaker 7: that that sometimes can sway the decision, right if you
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  Speaker 7: know how deeply someone wronged your sibling, that might swear
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  Speaker 7: you then to have to be loyal to your sister.
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  Speaker 8: I think if the if the brother was friends with
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  Speaker 8: this guy before she dated him, then the brother can
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  Speaker 8: invite him in a turn of events. Why not?
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  Speaker 1: But what if they would I guess if they were
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  Speaker 1: friends before they were beasties before you have to Yeah.
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  Speaker 8: You are besties with Timbekiller, All right, then I come along,
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  Speaker 8: I'm your sister.
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  Speaker 4: Whatever.
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  Speaker 8: Then I start dating timber Killer, we break up. Yes,
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  Speaker 8: he's still your friend from the start. You should be
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  Speaker 8: allowed to invite him.
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  Speaker 1: No, but no, because I don't think that's the case.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like you started dating Timbekiller I met because
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  Speaker 1: you dated him, and now we become besties and then
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  Speaker 1: the two of you break up. I think that's what Mary's.
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  Speaker 4: Is saying, can't then you can't. I think it's as
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  Speaker 4: a result.
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  Speaker 8: I think you should be allowed to invite somebody who
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  Speaker 8: was your friend before, like, not as a result of
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  Speaker 8: us having dated. And you're basically asking how verse is
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  Speaker 8: she allowed to get with her brother?
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  Speaker 3: Like is she allowed to be angry or is Oh,
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  Speaker 3: she's absolutely allowed to get angry, but she's not allowed
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  Speaker 3: to tell him that he's not allowed to invite people
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  Speaker 3: to her to his wedding.
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  Speaker 4: That you are allowed all of the emotions in the world.
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  Speaker 3: Your reaction, however, is the one that we can judge
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  Speaker 3: you on and the one that we can regulate you on.
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  Speaker 4: It's not your wedding.
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  Speaker 3: On your wedding, then you must invite the people that
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  Speaker 3: you want at your wedding.
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  Speaker 1: I would be if I was Marie, I'd be super upset,
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  Speaker 1: super upset.
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  Speaker 3: And what like I say, valid, you can definitely be
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  Speaker 3: angry and still attender wedding because it's your brother's waiting.
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  Speaker 3: What he's not gonna go to your brother's wedding because
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  Speaker 3: he's inviting you ex.
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  Speaker 1: No, but I feel like my brother should choose me
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  Speaker 1: because he knows the drama that's happened with my ex.
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  Speaker 3: There is no wedding that goes on for longer than
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  Speaker 3: twenty four hours. For twenty four hours, you can put
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  Speaker 3: your feelings aside so that your brother can get married.
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  Speaker 4: He wants his friendly.
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  Speaker 1: Now your ex is day up, because maybe it's better
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  Speaker 1: look forward.
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  Speaker 4: When is the wedding? Mary?
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  Speaker 8: You betth you're both in the res and you.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, now exactly. Now we're standing next to each other
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  Speaker 1: up front there.
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  Speaker 3: Murray better get to Pilatis. Now she has to look
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  Speaker 3: snatched on that day, so that because clearly there's still.
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  Speaker 4: Something going on, not something going on. He hurted me,
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  Speaker 4: He hurt her heart so bad. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: So, and that's the thing you want to You want
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  Speaker 3: to look good. Revenge, you know, you want to revenge.
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  Speaker 3: Body of range looks. It would be like, oh, Murray
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  Speaker 3: looks so good. Rather do that, Rather make sure that
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  Speaker 3: on that day you look fabulous, because the truth of
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  Speaker 3: the matter is you are not going to miss your
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  Speaker 3: brother's wedding because they've invited the ex and you cannot
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  Speaker 3: tell your brother to not invite people to the wedding.
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  Speaker 7: Her brother's a traitor annarentlyan firmly towards Frank his side.
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  Speaker 7: Because how dare you? How dare you choose a stranger
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  Speaker 7: over your blad. That's how I feel. You don't know that, man,
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  Speaker 7: I would be very upset. You know that maybe we
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  Speaker 7: were even in long relationship. For sure, you guys are buddies,
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  Speaker 7: but I just feel like this, in this moment, you
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  Speaker 7: should be choosing me and know and recognizing me as well.
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  Speaker 8: If you've been friends with timber Kill since high school,
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  Speaker 8: now he can't come to your wedding because he hurts
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  Speaker 8: hurt me? Yes, hell, hath no theory like a hurted
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  Speaker 8: woman if.
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  Speaker 1: We were friends Sance high school. Fine, Okay, this is
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  Speaker 1: what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 4: It all space.
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  Speaker 1: Now I'm saying Marty makes it sound like we met
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  Speaker 1: each other through you, guys. I met bride because he
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  Speaker 1: was dating my sister.
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  Speaker 3: No, guys, you cannot allow people to come into your space.
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  Speaker 3: You and your wife to be space and dictate who
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  Speaker 3: you invite to the wedding.
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  Speaker 4: Because if you start with one and then then sooner
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  Speaker 4: or later, you've got ten.
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  Speaker 3: People now that you guys are questioning whether they must
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  Speaker 3: come because somebody else doesn't like them. People must put
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  Speaker 3: it to us aside for one day, one day.
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  Speaker 4: That's not how people are asking you, ma'am.
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  Speaker 7: Your wedding is not the United Nations General Assembly. And
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  Speaker 7: also why do you have so many questionable people? I think,
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  Speaker 7: to Frankie's point, if I, as your sibling, introduce you
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  Speaker 7: to a partner, a a husband or whatever, right and
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  Speaker 7: we break up, they're not allowed to come to any
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  Speaker 7: place where I am out of the fact that you
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  Speaker 7: are my sibling. I knew you'd before, or the stranger.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, even your friendship is questionable, but we're going to
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  Speaker 1: not deal with that. I'm just saying at the wedding.
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  Speaker 7: As a sibling, how are you not how are you
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  Speaker 7: able to overlook my suffering?
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  Speaker 3: Then you guys must not be you must not befriend your, your, your, your,
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  Speaker 3: your siblings partners. Where you guys are now going away
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  Speaker 3: and you're going fishing and you're becoming best friends because
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  Speaker 3: now all of a sudden, because you are no longer there,
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  Speaker 3: I must get rid of my feelings for this person.
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  Speaker 1: I practice that now.
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  Speaker 7: Guys, if a friend breaks up on someone, I block
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  Speaker 7: them in solidarity.
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  Speaker 8: No, we're not saying you must not in the friendship.
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  Speaker 8: We're just saying, please don't invite them to the wedding.
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  Speaker 4: But I want them at the wedding.
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  Speaker 3: They they they're fun. They're the ones that are gonna
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  Speaker 3: do this. Maybe they're gonna whop out their guitar and
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  Speaker 3: stop singing.
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  Speaker 1: I know a good band. I know a good cover band.
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  Speaker 1: How many weddings have you been away and ex has
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  Speaker 1: been there?
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  Speaker 2: This?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, this is you're.
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  Speaker 3: Friends with you.
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  Speaker 4: Invite them all? Yeah, invite them all. She's writing the
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  Speaker 4: wrong one. One eighty eight thirty eight nineven. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure you've been in the situation before where
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  Speaker 3: you would like a couple to not invite somebody to
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  Speaker 3: the wedding. Do you ask your brother, hey, please don't
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  Speaker 3: invite him? And is that fair? Do you think it's
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  Speaker 3: fair for Marie to tell her brother that he is
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  Speaker 3: not allowed to invite her ex the wedding, but this
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  Speaker 3: ex happens to be the brother's friend.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's fair. I think I would say if
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  Speaker 1: I was I'd be like, no, please, man, you know
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  Speaker 1: what happened.
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  Speaker 3: Do you think Marie should stay away from the wedding, Well,
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  Speaker 3: I think if.
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  Speaker 1: The brother's pushing her to go there?
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  Speaker 3: What so you would not go to your sibling's wedding
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  Speaker 3: because they have invited somebody you don't like.
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  Speaker 1: No, no, it's not a don't like situation. There's plenty
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  Speaker 1: of people I don't like that will be at the wedding.
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  Speaker 1: It's a hurted, really badly situation.
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  Speaker 3: Zero eight four double zero double zero nine four seven.
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  Speaker 4: Somerton's next centurion.
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  Speaker 1: It's on the other side. It's Northish, in the northeast.
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  Speaker 4: Yea, all right, problems from Solverton.
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  Speaker 3: This morning they went down the highway and landed her
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  Speaker 3: and Joe back. Marie is like, Joe Hannisburg, I bring
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  Speaker 3: this problem to you.
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  Speaker 4: What do you think?
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  Speaker 5: Good morning?
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  Speaker 2: This is Marie from Solverton. My brother is getting married
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  Speaker 2: and Joe. I look through his guestless and there I
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  Speaker 2: see my brother Quobas has invited my ex to his wedding.
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  Speaker 5: This guy hurted me very very much.
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  Speaker 2: Ask my brother, now, why are you inviting my ex
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  Speaker 2: to the wedding? And he says, no, this is my
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  Speaker 2: friend and I will invite him to the wedding.
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  Speaker 5: I don't know what to do. Like I said, he
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  Speaker 5: hurted me very very badly.
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  Speaker 9: If you didn't know this guy before we dated, then
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  Speaker 9: absolutely I can make that decision.
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  Speaker 4: You know him through me.
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  Speaker 5: So no, no, come on, God, I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 4: You heard my that's it. I cut you off. Guys,
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  Speaker 4: there's no way. I have so much loyalty for my sister.
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  Speaker 2: I don't care whether you my friend or past friend
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  Speaker 2: or current friend.
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  Speaker 9: And you'd tak my sister and you break my sister's heart.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, no, this is very unfair.
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  Speaker 3: I would give an ultimatum, and I don't even like ultimatums.
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  Speaker 4: Now that's your brother.
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  Speaker 7: Your brother are supposed to sit down with her before
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  Speaker 7: and let her know because what he did is totally wrong.
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  Speaker 4: Our siblings session.
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  Speaker 7: Please don't tell the brothers have had nothing to say, yes.
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  Speaker 3: Because the brothers also understand that a wedding is no
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  Speaker 3: place to be solving problems. If you had an issue
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  Speaker 3: with the fact that your brother's friends with your eggs,
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  Speaker 3: you should have addressed long before weddings. Now, now you
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  Speaker 3: come in here and you want to tu to your
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  Speaker 3: point the general assembly. You want to treat this wedding
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  Speaker 3: is the United Nations.
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  Speaker 4: No it isn't. You should have told your brother long
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  Speaker 4: ago that I don't like that guy.
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  Speaker 3: I think you should cut him off to now allow
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  Speaker 3: them to have a friendship. And when you see this
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  Speaker 3: friendship develop into and invited the wedding, then you have
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  Speaker 3: a problem with it. Yes, students, No, man reveiner.
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  Speaker 4: Good morning, money guy? Oh are you revealer?
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  Speaker 10: Who you know?
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  Speaker 2: What?
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  Speaker 10: It's time that we listen to our brothers. Our brothers
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  Speaker 10: will tell you and do not date my friends. I
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  Speaker 10: know them, I know how we roll. But we're still
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  Speaker 10: gonna do that. I just said in high school and
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  Speaker 10: this boy broke mind and my brother was right. So
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  Speaker 10: so she needs to just come to the wedding. And
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  Speaker 10: my friend is my friend. He told her do not
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  Speaker 10: date my friends. She didn't listen.
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  Speaker 4: Now we are Yeah, I've got to ask.
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  Speaker 1: I've gotta ask quickly. So are you still is your
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  Speaker 1: brother still friends with this guy?
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  Speaker 10: They still right? And die.
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  Speaker 3: His poor wife because they know each other, they know
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  Speaker 3: how they roll.
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  Speaker 4: You're right?
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  Speaker 10: Do you stay away and listen?
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  Speaker 1: So what's this whole talk at your brother's funeral?
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  Speaker 6: No, he's gonna talk.
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  Speaker 10: He's his pass friend, and he told me stay away.
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  Speaker 10: I know how we roll.
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  Speaker 6: I didn't listen.
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  Speaker 3: Now you want your brother to lose his road dog,
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  Speaker 3: he's right?
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  Speaker 4: Or die?
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  Speaker 10: Can I can jump to the wedding? Too old for that.
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  Speaker 8: When you when you came home and told your brother
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  Speaker 8: that you'd broken up, was he's just sitting on the
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  Speaker 8: couch with popcorn going yeah, yeah, you don't riding his
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  Speaker 8: high horse.
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  Speaker 4: He hurted you girl name he's so fine. So he's
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  Speaker 4: so hurt. You find the X ray. By the way,
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  Speaker 4: to all the kids who who do English at school,
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  Speaker 4: it's not hurted. It's hurt.
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  Speaker 3: It's just some some woman called it like, guys, you're
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  Speaker 3: confusing our kids. Please tell them that it's not hurted,
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  Speaker 3: it's hurt. But guys, you know when you so hurt
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  Speaker 3: you in English losing also.
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  Speaker 7: Parents, focus on the lesson here, never mind the spending.
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  Speaker 3: The lesson here is you cannot dictate to people who
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  Speaker 3: they are going to be friends with. If your brother
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  Speaker 3: sooner later figures it out, then that's a conversation that
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  Speaker 3: you guys are gonna have and or your an apology
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  Speaker 3: and be like sorry to put you through all of
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  Speaker 3: this a fish pace, but you cannot tell your brother
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  Speaker 3: who to invite. Here's another example. Right, let's say you
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  Speaker 3: are marrying somebody who was married before, right, and and
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  Speaker 3: now the siblings have got a relationship with any of
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  Speaker 3: the exes of the earth. Yeah, yes, but it is
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  Speaker 3: your Okay, your sister's.
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  Speaker 4: Getting married, Frankie, right with you. Yeah, your sister's getting.
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  Speaker 3: Married and invites your ex to her wedding because she
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  Speaker 3: is very good friends with your ex.
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  Speaker 1: All right, it's not a lot. You can't do that.
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  Speaker 7: Oh we both go together on the ex island.
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  Speaker 1: No, no, but seriously, I'd be very I would have
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  Speaker 1: a serious conversation to say, I would really really prefer
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  Speaker 1: if that's not the case.
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  Speaker 3: So after twenty years of you, let's say you were
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  Speaker 3: married to this one for twenty years. So this this person,
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  Speaker 3: this lady has been around in your lives for twenty years.
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  Speaker 4: You brought them here, right, and you expected us to.
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  Speaker 3: Become friends with her, and we did that and then
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  Speaker 3: we became very close beasties.
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  Speaker 4: And then I am getting married.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, your sister's getting married and she's friends with
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  Speaker 3: that ex, and that ex not allowed to come to.
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  Speaker 1: The wedding.
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  Speaker 4: Even even if you Yeah, your sibling. That's your sibling.
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  Speaker 1: Your sibling's got it. I mean, I know, I know
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  Speaker 1: it's a tricky situation. I know that you want your
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  Speaker 1: friend there. What what? What? But I am your brother,
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  Speaker 1: and if especially if we're close, if we're close, I
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  Speaker 1: would have I would think that you would have chosen
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  Speaker 1: that long ago to let go of that friend. Right.
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  Speaker 1: But if we're close and you know what what I
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  Speaker 1: went through in that breakup, and you're still inviting it,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. That's for me is too much.
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  Speaker 3: But why do you Why do you only discuss it
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  Speaker 3: at the wedding?
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  Speaker 7: Why why is it not Probably raised it because I
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  Speaker 7: didn't think you have your destitution invite them to your wedding?
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  Speaker 1: When did you use your mind?
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  Speaker 4: You're the ones that married her.
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  Speaker 3: You're the one who made the bad decisions, have bad taste.
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  Speaker 4: Now we're the ones who have to live with it.
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  Speaker 4: You're the one who cannot choose well for your life.
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  Speaker 1: You know, for me, it literally be a case of no,
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  Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I know you know what I went through.
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  Speaker 1: Please don't invite this person. I want to share this
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  Speaker 1: day with you. It's your happy day. Let's all be
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  Speaker 1: happy together. Now we've got to have this person there
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  Speaker 1: in the background, niggling because you're thinking about it.
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  Speaker 3: Oh no, he cheated on me repeatedly. No, baby did
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  Speaker 3: on new ones. After that, you allowed him to do that.
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  Speaker 3: And now we're the ones who must not invite people
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  Speaker 3: to our events because you don't have standards for yourself.
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  Speaker 1: I do have standards. I cut him off, but now
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  Speaker 1: you didn't cut him off. Now he's still in your friends.
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  Speaker 4: Didn't you know me? You didn't.
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  Speaker 2: Good morning. This is Marie from Solviton. My brother is
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  Speaker 2: getting married and Joe. I looked through his gaesteless and
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  Speaker 2: there I see my brother Kuobbas has invited my ex
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  Speaker 2: to his wedding.
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  Speaker 5: This guy hurted me very very much as my brother.
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  Speaker 2: Now why are you inviting my ex to the wedding?
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  Speaker 2: And he says, no, this is my friend and I
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  Speaker 2: will invite him to the wedding. I don't know what
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  Speaker 2: to do, Like I said, he hurted me very very badly.
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  Speaker 11: Ah, guys, you get one sublig in life, you're probably
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  Speaker 11: going to have many lovers.
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  Speaker 4: I am hurted on her behalf.
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  Speaker 9: I really wouldn't have if I was the brother, but
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  Speaker 9: nonetheless it's happened, and Anely is right.
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  Speaker 4: This is caseless.
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  Speaker 9: After also, marry my baby, my sister heal, heal from
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  Speaker 9: that hurted pain. And then the only revenge is to
• 15:48
  Speaker 9: look frust.
• 15:50
  Speaker 4: At your brother's wedding.
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: I mean, I'm pretty not attending the wedding. Go go, please, friend, go.
• 15:57
  Speaker 4: Marie needs a revenge body for the wedding. That's the
• 16:01
  Speaker 4: only thing that's going to hurt it. That man right back.
• 16:04
  Speaker 4: This is what I want, Marie.
• 16:06
  Speaker 3: You need to tell us when this meeting is, and
• 16:08
  Speaker 3: then we need to make sure that you look ay bruh,
• 16:12
  Speaker 3: you look ten out of ten in that day because
• 16:14
  Speaker 3: outside of that, all you're doing now is you continues
• 16:17
  Speaker 3: to hurting yourself by putting yourself in a situation where
• 16:20
  Speaker 3: you're putting it in. And here's the thing. It's now
• 16:22
  Speaker 3: just with your brother, but the entire family is gonna
• 16:24
  Speaker 3: get involved sooner or later, and all you're doing is
• 16:26
  Speaker 3: you're hurting yourself more by constantly bringing it up.
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Look, I mean I agree, Marie, Maury. Maybe. Look,
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: I mean, I mean everyone's now going for Mari. Shame
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: she just sent the voice not but yes she should
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: heal correct. The range range body is tough when you're
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: eating your feelings up in there. MARII right, I know, right,
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: it's really difficult. It's what you want versus what anyway,
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: But I still feel in this situation that's future. MARII fine,
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: But now the issue is the wedding is upcoming.
• 17:00
  Speaker 4: Ronia in Bozburg. What do you think? Guys?
• 17:03
  Speaker 6: Money?
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: How are you?
• 17:05
  Speaker 5: Money?
• 17:05
  Speaker 4: Are you?
• 17:06
  Speaker 6: I'm okay, I'm I'm spilitting the mother because I'm in
• 17:09
  Speaker 6: the exactly the same situation and it's married.
• 17:11
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 17:12
  Speaker 6: Actually, on the other side, what happened is that my
• 17:15
  Speaker 6: sister dated one of my friends. I knew the guy,
• 17:19
  Speaker 6: and I told her to don't like. I laid it
• 17:23
  Speaker 6: out from back to front and if something goes wrong,
• 17:25
  Speaker 6: this is what's going to happen. She said, no, it's fine,
• 17:28
  Speaker 6: I know what to do. They were planning them their
• 17:30
  Speaker 6: wedding and then things going wrong broke up. Now my
• 17:35
  Speaker 6: daughter's graduation is coming up. This guy has been like
• 17:38
  Speaker 6: a father to my kids. I can't just cancel him
• 17:42
  Speaker 6: out of the whole thing. And then my sister feels
• 17:46
  Speaker 6: that I should choose so side because she's been my
• 17:49
  Speaker 6: ride or tie and I feel during my divorce, she
• 17:53
  Speaker 6: chose my ex husband, so I don't know what to do.
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: Invite the guy, babe, Invite the guy to the graduation.
• 18:00
  Speaker 3: It is twenty four hours, guys. A graduation is one day.
• 18:05
  Speaker 4: You feel that, I post.
• 18:07
  Speaker 6: Feel that if he comes, she doesn't come. He doesn't
• 18:10
  Speaker 6: have a problem with her. He moved on with his life.
• 18:12
  Speaker 6: But she was hurted by the guy, so she's like,
• 18:17
  Speaker 6: this guy hurt me. You don't care about my feelings.
• 18:19
  Speaker 6: You're still worth him, But I don't know.
• 18:22
  Speaker 5: What to do.
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: Theybe Invite whoever you want to invite, and the people
• 18:26
  Speaker 3: who want to stay away, you cannot be angry with
• 18:28
  Speaker 3: them for staying away. You must continue. Chances are they'll
• 18:32
  Speaker 3: be angry with you. They want to talk, don't want
• 18:33
  Speaker 3: to talk to you. Afterwards, you guys are going to here.
• 18:35
  Speaker 3: It's going to be a long road to go back
• 18:37
  Speaker 3: to who you are to each other. But you must
• 18:39
  Speaker 3: invite whoever you want to invite, and then you guys
• 18:42
  Speaker 3: after that will work it. After that, there is no ways, guys,
• 18:45
  Speaker 3: there is no ways that you say it yourself. This
• 18:48
  Speaker 3: guy is the father figure to your to your own
• 18:50
  Speaker 3: daughter because he rocks up what happens in relationships. Is
• 18:53
  Speaker 3: different to what happens in other relationships, right, and if
• 18:56
  Speaker 3: we had to govern ourselves on what happened to other
• 18:59
  Speaker 3: people in relations now, I'm not talking physical abuse, extreme
• 19:03
  Speaker 3: extreme extreme cases. There it's a given we should have
• 19:06
  Speaker 3: you in jail. Now we are just yeah, because you
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: got somebody cheated on somebody else.
• 19:11
  Speaker 4: Now the rest of us, now, the rest.
• 19:13
  Speaker 3: Of us must not take a stand because you, as
• 19:15
  Speaker 3: an adult, put yourself into a situation that you were
• 19:18
  Speaker 3: told not to do. Bernica, you told her not to
• 19:20
  Speaker 3: do it, You asked the nicely. So now she's not
• 19:23
  Speaker 3: She's allowed to not to listen to you, but you
• 19:25
  Speaker 3: are not allowed to not to listen to her.
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: Quick question, Veronica, I might have missed it. How long
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: ago did this happen?
• 19:33
  Speaker 6: It was about two years ago.
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: And has your sister moved on?
• 19:38
  Speaker 6: Not really, because every time she sees me, she's like,
• 19:41
  Speaker 6: are you are you still seeing the guy?
• 19:42
  Speaker 8: You do?
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: You?
• 19:43
  Speaker 6: Guys? So meet every week? So yeah, she's married.
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: So are your sister's married?
• 19:51
  Speaker 11: Yes?
• 19:54
  Speaker 4: At the main switch.
• 20:00
  Speaker 6: You must you must, I'm serious.
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: No, you must raise those around her husband. See how
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: quickly she retracts.
• 20:06
  Speaker 6: Oh, guys, that cause a national disaster because even during
• 20:11
  Speaker 6: my divorce, my ex us on me and then she
• 20:14
  Speaker 6: told me that I take you siding the whole story,
• 20:18
  Speaker 6: like I don't think I don't.
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, she doesn't have a foot to stand on. Sorry,
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: there's a completely different situation, Veronica. You go to the
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: graduation with with and you invite everyone, invite her husband. Yeah,
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: invite the husband and say we'd love you guys to come.
• 20:34
  Speaker 6: Doesn't know what happened.
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: That makes it even better.
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: You didn't know, syst must keep I'm saying, you must
• 20:42
  Speaker 3: raise it around her husband and see how quickly she
• 20:44
  Speaker 3: changes her mind. Invite everyone to the graduation for trust.
• 20:48
  Speaker 4: Me, twenty four hours. Humans, You guys are weird here.
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: You want to tell me you cannot be uncomfortable for
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: twenty four hours? And you know what it is about
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: seeing someone like that, like an X or whatever on
• 20:59
  Speaker 3: an enemy or whatever. The anticipation of seeing them is
• 21:03
  Speaker 3: so much more drastic than the excellent moment it happens,
• 21:05
  Speaker 3: because when you guys see each others Hi, Hi, Johnny
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: on right, So move on.
• 21:11
  Speaker 4: That's it.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: I'm still a waiting.
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: Ma.
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: I'm still feeling for Mariy.
• 21:17
  Speaker 3: You guys, Mary and don't bring you your extra changes.
• 21:22
  Speaker 4: Sorry, we must move on, Sonny. You in frond A
• 21:24
  Speaker 4: Bell Park. What do you think?
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: Hi?
• 21:26
  Speaker 4: Ane?
• 21:26
  Speaker 10: How are you?
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: My dear?
• 21:27
  Speaker 11: Thank you for taking my call. I understand you and
• 21:31
  Speaker 11: I really respect your life of for thinking I'm a
• 21:34
  Speaker 11: very parentic Tana guy. Unfortunately, everyone who is my friends
• 21:41
  Speaker 11: my enemy's friend is my enemy. I'll cut you off.
• 21:44
  Speaker 11: I'm sorry if you're not loyal to me. I had
• 21:47
  Speaker 11: a friend in nineteen ninety nine who died. I had
• 21:49
  Speaker 11: a girlfriend, and the friend was friends with all of us.
• 21:52
  Speaker 11: The day they the lady dumped me, he told her, listen,
• 21:55
  Speaker 11: don't ever call me. Don't ever talk to me because
• 21:58
  Speaker 11: you and I you each other through showy. So sorry, Bob,
• 22:02
  Speaker 11: I don't ever call me.
• 22:04
  Speaker 4: So now, if you.
• 22:06
  Speaker 3: Go around a messing enemies, when are you collecting enemies?
• 22:08
  Speaker 4: So every every week when.
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: You must update the enemy list for us so.
• 22:12
  Speaker 4: We can know who not to talk to, because we are.
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: You're saying that. I like, if you're blood, it's your
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: blood right.
• 22:21
  Speaker 11: The issue with this one, unfortunately, is blood related, and unfortunately,
• 22:25
  Speaker 11: I'm very sorry. My blood comes first and anything else later.
• 22:30
  Speaker 11: I'm sorry. No, no, like I said, I'm very parentic
• 22:33
  Speaker 11: about this one.
• 22:34
  Speaker 4: So you won't come to the wedding. Then no, Then
• 22:38
  Speaker 4: then your blood doesn't come first, now doesn't.
• 22:40
  Speaker 11: No, No, in this case, my blood is chosen to exist.
• 22:44
  Speaker 11: Oh wow, this is they know my principle. If he's
• 22:50
  Speaker 11: not going to come up with my principal, line up
• 22:53
  Speaker 11: with the principle, I cut you off as well.
• 22:55
  Speaker 3: So your blood comes first, as long as they told
• 22:57
  Speaker 3: your long.
• 22:58
  Speaker 11: As we understand the prince siples you seem among among
• 23:03
  Speaker 11: the family. There need to be a level of loyalty and.
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: Honor, yes, but guys, loyalty and honors also earned.
• 23:10
  Speaker 4: It's not something that's there. Yes, it is there when
• 23:12
  Speaker 4: you're born.
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: You guys are born into blood and you're born into
• 23:14
  Speaker 3: honor and all of that. But it is also maintained.
• 23:16
  Speaker 3: Just because you're my sibling, it doesn't mean that at
• 23:18
  Speaker 3: all times I must just always take your side because
• 23:20
  Speaker 3: of blood.
• 23:21
  Speaker 4: You need to maintain that as well.
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: No. Look, I mean this is a very black and
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: white line in the middle. I don't love I don't
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: live my life like that. I think the situations can
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: change and be different for other people. Is that like
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: these kind of hard rules clone is cutting out a
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: lot of people out of his life.
• 23:38
  Speaker 3: I just want Clony to update the enemy list on
• 23:40
  Speaker 3: the weekly is just so we know who not to.
• 23:42
  Speaker 4: Talk back to. Making your Morning and and the Club
• 23:48
  Speaker 4: on nine four seven