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- 0:01Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated to
- 0:05helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to
- 0:09flow without sacrificing results.
- 0:11Come here to become an unshakeable human and build an unshakeable business
- 0:15according to your human design.
- 0:17I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
- 0:22Hello and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, everybody.
- 0:26I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and we're going to talk about generators today.
- 0:30I coach a lot of generators and manifesting generators, and you're going
- 0:34to hear me say generators through this entire episode, so please know that I mean
- 0:41generators and manifesting generators.
- 0:43Defined sacrals of all kinds, just so I don't have to keep saying the word
- 0:47manifesting generator and generator.
- 0:49So, I'm speaking about us as a group, because I'm a manifesting
- 0:52generator as well, and I work with a lot of generators of all kinds.
- 0:57And I see this come up all the time.
- 1:00I see it in, we have the Unshakeable Human program that's going on
- 1:03right now, which is just the human design portion of what I do.
- 1:08We have my Business by Design mentorship, which is my high touch
- 1:12program where I'm working really, really closely with everybody.
- 1:15I have generators everywhere, and then I'm doing readings with
- 1:18generators, and I have private clients that are a lot of generators.
- 1:22So I work in this world a lot, in the world of the sacral, in the world of
- 1:27understanding what it means to be a generator, and I live this day to day.
- 1:31So this is a topic that's near and dear to my heart.
- 1:34And one of the things that I've noticed is that there are three very basic
- 1:38steps to getting into alignment as a generator or a manifesting generator.
- 1:45They're the same steps.
- 1:46And these are often so simple that people overlook them.
- 1:54And like with so many things with design, we want to jump past them.
- 1:58So today, I'm going to break down these steps for you.
- 2:01And I think that it's often thought of as generators, it should be easiest for us.
- 2:06Ra, the founder of Human Design, he always talked about this, that I
- 2:10thought it'd be so easy to wake up generators because it's so easy for them.
- 2:14And for him as a non sacral being, I think that there's a
- 2:18different perspective on this.
- 2:21And I agree, I think that once you get into alignment, And you're
- 2:25really working with your design as a generator, then it is easier.
- 2:30Cause we have this built in mechanism that's driving us all the time.
- 2:34What's hard about that is that generators can be the most distracted group and
- 2:41the most out of alignment because they're very much in their mind.
- 2:45They aren't listening to the thing that's supposed to be driving
- 2:48them, which is their sacral.
- 2:50And then if you add the emotional authority piece on top of this, you
- 2:55get a lot of anxious energy that's often driving action and that's
- 3:00causing misalignment, that's causing you to live a life of frustration.
- 3:06And I would say it's simple, but I'm not going to say that it's easy.
- 3:10Because deconditioning of any kind and in any area, we're teaching ourselves
- 3:15to live differently than probably we've ever been taught to live.
- 3:20And generators are dealing with a lot of conditioning, which
- 3:23number one conditioning for a generator is going to be, you can't
- 3:29make money doing what you love.
- 3:32So all of this surface stuff of, be satisfied, do the
- 3:36things that make you feel good.
- 3:38This whole message that seems so simple around generators, the reasons it's hard
- 3:42to follow, is that we have a deep, deep conditioning of people telling us, or
- 3:48the world telling us, or us experiencing you can't make money doing what you love.
- 3:54I was certainly someone who fell into this category.
- 3:58I remember entering college and when I was deciding what to major in and what
- 4:03to study, I remember my grandfather, God rest his soul, the angel in my
- 4:09life, still to this day, looking at his picture right now on my desk.
- 4:13My grandfather was the only one who said, pursue the arts.
- 4:17That's what you're meant to do.
- 4:19I did not listen to him.
- 4:21Because I was so focused on the fact that I didn't like the way
- 4:26that my family was structured.
- 4:28That it seemed like my mother, who did not have a job for most
- 4:31of my life, she did eventually.
- 4:32But even at that, it was a part time job that was just extra money.
- 4:36It wasn't anything she could live on.
- 4:38That she was trapped in that relationship, or at least that's how I saw it.
- 4:42We can't leave.
- 4:44We can't change.
- 4:45We have to be under these rules because he has the money.
- 4:49And I remember from a very young age being like, I'll never be that.
- 4:55I'll never be trapped like this.
- 4:59So that led me to making choices and thinking that I have to do
- 5:03something that will make money.
- 5:05And then I remember being told things when I wanted to be an actor, well you're
- 5:08not going to be that kind of actor.
- 5:11What makes you think you're so special?
- 5:12There's other conditioning there.
- 5:14What makes you think you're so special?
- 5:17Oh yeah, every pretty girl thinks that she can be an actress.
- 5:20First of all, I didn't think I was pretty.
- 5:22I thought it was interesting.
- 5:23I thought I was very interested in human behavior.
- 5:25I thought I was good at it.
- 5:28But that conditioning of those things, you're not going to make money.
- 5:32Starving artist.
- 5:34I had no desire to be that.
- 5:36And that caused me to not go all in on acting until I was much older.
- 5:41And it caused me to have this belief and decide to study in school business
- 5:47because it seemed to make sense.
- 5:48And I remember having these conversations with people.
- 5:51I remember being like, I'm going to get a business degree because
- 5:54there's something to fall back on.
- 5:56Rather than studying what I loved, rather than going all in on where my
- 6:02heart was leading me, where my guts were leading me, all I wanted to do.
- 6:06Rather than doing that, I made quote unquote, the smart choice, which
- 6:09turned out to be the dumb choice.
- 6:11Because I hated it.
- 6:14And I couldn't complete it.
- 6:16And I went and it was torture.
- 6:19Oh God, did I hate it.
- 6:21And I like the idea of business, but going to school for business?
- 6:25College for business?
- 6:27I found that to be soul sucking.
- 6:31Dry AF.
- 6:33And I did not enjoy it.
- 6:35So I was frustrated.
- 6:36I'm speaking from experience.
- 6:38I lived a life of deep frustration for a very long time.
- 6:42So I'm not saying that it's easy, but I am saying that it is simpler
- 6:46than we're probably making it.
- 6:48And the inspiration for this episode came because in our telegram chat
- 6:52that we have for my Business By Design Mentorship, this is where people can ask
- 6:56questions, what are they going through, what are you experiencing, so I can
- 7:00guide you in your embodiment moment by moment, I can keep you there and keep
- 7:04you moving in the right direction so that we wake you up faster, and we're going
- 7:08to talk about what that really means.
- 7:10And this was a question that I fielded in that group from a manifesting generator.
- 7:17And so I broke it down into these three steps that I wanted her to
- 7:21start following and start noticing.
- 7:24And I'm going to break those down for you here.
- 7:25I'm also going to tell you what the number one thing is that you need to
- 7:28stop saying in order to change, and grow, and be in alignment with your design.
- 7:34So, first and foremost, generators are most likely going to say that
- 7:39they are doing what I'm saying.
- 7:41Most people will say, I'm already doing that.
- 7:45And I'm going to tell you that 99 percent of the time, they are not.
- 7:51They might be doing it sometimes when they're really thinking
- 7:53about it, but they haven't tuned their awareness to this one thing.
- 7:59And everybody's always wondering where do I go next?
- 8:00What do I learn next?
- 8:02And I'm like, did you learn this though?
- 8:04This is the foundational element if you're a generator or a manifesting generator.
- 8:08I don't care what else you know.
- 8:10I Don't.
- 8:11If you're not doing this then you're going to end up in the same boat.
- 8:16So let's break down these three steps for generators to be successful in
- 8:20life, to be successful in your work, because when you're doing these
- 8:26things, you will be lit up naturally.
- 8:29This is the magnetism part that we're talking about.
- 8:32I'm excited right now.
- 8:34I am enjoying myself right now.
- 8:37So I'm going to guess that people are going to like this episode.
- 8:40You're going to like the information, but also, I am sending out a
- 8:43signal of this is who I am, right?
- 8:45This is what lights me up.
- 8:47I become what excites me.
- 8:50That is part of who I am.
- 8:52I'm a generator.
- 8:53I am here to do stuff.
- 8:54I am what I do.
- 8:56So, how do we get more in alignment with that than where we are?
- 9:00Now, the first step in becoming a more aligned generator, manifesting
- 9:05generator, having this successful life that we're talking about, the
- 9:08first step is notice frustration.
- 9:11Now a lot of people will say, I already know that.
- 9:14And this is that number one thing I need you to stop saying.
- 9:17I already know it.
- 9:19Nobody cares what you know.
- 9:21That's the mind.
- 9:23The mind knows things.
- 9:26That's what you're talking about.
- 9:27You're saying, I already get that.
- 9:28I already heard that.
- 9:31So you want the next thing.
- 9:33That is a big mistake and it will hold you back every time because
- 9:37you're shutting off something that you should be tuning your awareness to.
- 9:42So notice frustration.
- 9:44Frustration is the not self theme for generators and manifesting generators.
- 9:49I'm going to throw in that frustration also equals stuck.
- 9:53If you're saying things like, I feel stuck, I feel stalled, that frustration,
- 9:59that's what I'm talking about.
- 10:00And if you're a manifesting generator, this might push into
- 10:04full fledged anger at times.
- 10:07Getting pissed off.
- 10:09People are in my way.
- 10:10I can't do what I want.
- 10:12That's manifesting generator anger, frustration leading to anger.
- 10:17Usually we stay in frustration for a long time and then anger comes out of us.
- 10:21So the biggest mistake people have with this is that they're
- 10:24looking at this frustration from this universal perspective.
- 10:29I'm frustrated in life.
- 10:32I already know I'm not supposed to be frustrated, but I can't help it.
- 10:36My life is just frustrating.
- 10:38And first of all, if you're frustrated in life, then you
- 10:42are pretty far out of alignment.
- 10:45If universally you feel frustrated, or you feel like you're constantly
- 10:50battling a state of frustration, then then you're pretty far out of alignment.
- 10:56And that's not meaning to make you feel like things are hopeless,
- 10:59because they are absolutely not.
- 11:03But you're really not paying attention to what you need to pay attention to.
- 11:06You can turn this around very quickly.
- 11:09If you stop saying things like, I already know that, tell me something else.
- 11:14So, if you're finding that you are frustrated more than you're satisfied,
- 11:20then notice the fact that you are asleep.
- 11:24You have to wake up first.
- 11:27And we wake up by observing the behavior while it's happening.
- 11:33Not studying and saying, I understand that I'm supposed to be satisfied
- 11:38and frustration is a sign that I am in misalignment or in my not self.
- 11:42It's not that.
- 11:43I don't need you to recite a definition for me.
- 11:46I need you in the moment of frustration to go, Ooh, I'm frustrated.
- 11:50Here I am.
- 11:52I'm noticing it.
- 11:53I'm observing it.
- 11:54Now we've started the change process.
- 11:57Step one in the change process is notice when something needs to be changed.
- 12:02Notice it.
- 12:05If you think about like computers, so I have a software company, I've had it
- 12:09for years and people will often tell me things like, something is happening.
- 12:14This is broken.
- 12:16And I have to recreate that error in order to be able to trace it back
- 12:24and start to debug the right thing.
- 12:27So you have to notice what the error is.
- 12:31You have to find it.
- 12:32You have to see it.
- 12:33What's causing you frustration?
- 12:37You end up frustrated when?
- 12:40And if I'm frustrated whenever I'm at my job?
- 12:44Then I understand that sometimes we cannot turn on a dime and
- 12:49change the biggest thing.
- 12:52So that's step two.
- 12:54It's not so much about taking a sledgehammer to your world and saying,
- 12:59I'm gonna change everything right now so that I can be in satisfaction.
- 13:03Now if you can do that, sometimes we need to make big moves.
- 13:07I stayed in frustration for a long time at my corporate job.
- 13:10But I'm a one line, I need a foundation.
- 13:14Foundations make me feel good.
- 13:15I don't like feeling like the ground has been ripped out from under me.
- 13:20I needed a plan.
- 13:21I also was working through some emotional things at the time.
- 13:25So I had to give my mind something to hold on to, give my energy something to hold
- 13:30on to, to say, I'm not gonna stay here.
- 13:34What's the exit plan?
- 13:37And you may not have a full one, but you do have to pin your energy
- 13:43to something, to some sort of hope.
- 13:46Because if it is frustration plus hopelessness, you're probably
- 13:51going to feel pretty bad.
- 13:52And it's going to be hard to do step three, which I'll get to in just a second.
- 13:57But the key with step two is to spend less time in frustration.
- 14:03Spend less time there.
- 14:05You don't have to spend all of your time in bliss.
- 14:08It's wonderful if you can.
- 14:09If you can do that, do it.
- 14:12But a lot of us, that's a tall order.
- 14:14We work up to that.
- 14:16Can you just focus on spending less time in frustration?
- 14:23And sometimes what that entails is we're carrying the frustration
- 14:29with being frustrated into the times when we're not actually
- 14:33doing something that's frustrating.
- 14:35So if you're frustrated at your job, and then you go home, and you're thinking
- 14:41about how frustrating it is to be at that job, And maybe you're trying to
- 14:48take action now to fix that thing.
- 14:51So you want to leave the job, so you're taking action other places.
- 14:55But that action is not aligned with something that feels good to you.
- 14:59You're not doing things that feel good, you're doing something to fix something.
- 15:03That is the mind.
- 15:07So you've got to take the power away from the mind.
- 15:10Spending less time in frustration is not fixing problems.
- 15:17That's not the same thing.
- 15:20Spending less time in frustration means that you're actually doing
- 15:26something more that feels good.
- 15:30So, can you notice frustration in the moment and then, the
- 15:36third piece is choose better.
- 15:40Choose satisfaction.
- 15:43And do that according to your design, not questions in your mind that you're saying,
- 15:48what can I do to feel better right now?
- 15:51You can ask that question, just don't let your mind lead
- 15:55you to the thing that you do.
- 15:58You need to start paying attention to what is your energy guiding
- 16:02you to, and guiding you away from.
- 16:05It's using frustration to guide you away from things.
- 16:09So, just like if we were in a cruise ship and we realized we were off course, there
- 16:17may be a period of turning that ship.
- 16:21It's not going to be a big jerk of the wheel, and now suddenly we're
- 16:26facing 180 degrees the other way.
- 16:31That's not how it would work.
- 16:32It would be a gradual process.
- 16:36And it's not that it has to be gradual.
- 16:39It might be.
- 16:40And can you allow that to happen if that's what is necessary for
- 16:44you to get to more satisfaction?
- 16:47Can you look at how much time are you spending frustrated and how much
- 16:51time are you spending satisfied?
- 16:53And satisfied can be doing anything.
- 16:57And this is why when we have lists of things, or we're trying to
- 17:02engineer satisfaction, or engineer our alignment it doesn't work
- 17:08because we're not being guided then.
- 17:10That's the mind again.
- 17:11This is the biggest thing with people, is you try to think your way into feeling.
- 17:17And that's not how this works.
- 17:19You have to feel where your energy wants to go.
- 17:23I could say that I cleaned my closet and gutted my closet.
- 17:28And I felt super satisfied at the end of that.
- 17:33It wasn't because I cleaned my closet.
- 17:35It was because my energy wanted to clean the closet at the time that I cleaned it.
- 17:41I had the energy reserve to do it.
- 17:43My sacral was nice and rested.
- 17:46It looked at the closet.
- 17:47It said, uh-huh, we're taking this on.
- 17:50I cleaned the closet.
- 17:51I felt magnificent after.
- 17:55Even something that feels like a tedious task, for generators,
- 17:59we are here to do things.
- 18:00Remember, we are here to put our energy to use.
- 18:04Sometimes it will be rest.
- 18:07Sometimes if you're really frustrated and you're tired and you're burnt out
- 18:10and you don't feel like you're getting yeses to anything, you might have to
- 18:14look at the couch and say, and notice that your energy wants to go there.
- 18:18Your energy wants to crawl into bed with a dog and go to sleep
- 18:22for a while and take a nap.
- 18:25That might be what is nurturing to you and satisfying in the moment.
- 18:31And allow you to actually have energy when you wake up.
- 18:35So you start getting yeses.
- 18:36Again, we can't engineer this with our mind.
- 18:40Because if you engineer it with your mind, you end up with usually more frustration.
- 18:47Gabby Bernstein says, prioritize feeling good.
- 18:51Well, Gabby Bernstein is a generator.
- 18:53There's a reason that this is one of the tenets of what has
- 18:57made her successful in her life.
- 18:58She prioritizes feeling good.
- 19:03Can you prioritize feeling good and doing things that feel good moment to moment?
- 19:11Generators are in the moment people.
- 19:15We are present right now with where our energy wants to go, and we follow it.
- 19:21And we do what feels good.
- 19:24And when we don't feel good, we go, ooh, I'm not meant to feel like this.
- 19:28I'm supposed to feel good.
- 19:30And we follow our energy to what it wants to do as much as we can.
- 19:36The biggest mistake that generators make is they think that they need
- 19:40to have a big bang approach and that it's these big life changes that are
- 19:45going to make them feel different.
- 19:46It's not, it's the little moments.
- 19:50It's the 10 minutes of dancing because that's just what would feel
- 19:54really good in your body right now.
- 19:57It's stepping outside into the fresh air and sitting for a moment
- 20:02and feeling the sun on your skin.
- 20:06It's petting the dog when she looks so precious and cute sitting in her dog bed.
- 20:12It's the little things.
- 20:15Are you making time for them?
- 20:18Changes happen in those moments.
- 20:20The more time you spend in satisfaction, in feeling good,
- 20:25the more aligned you will be.
- 20:27Your energy will become stronger.
- 20:30Your magnetism will become stronger.
- 20:35We take it for granted.
- 20:37We think it has to be these big moves.
- 20:39And big moves are great.
- 20:40This is not me advocating for not making big moves.
- 20:45I'm just advocating for you to not think that only big moves can have big impact
- 20:52on your life, because that is not true.
- 20:54Small moves have big impact.
- 20:58Generators, every moment counts.
- 21:02Are you using your energy as much as you can toward things that feel good
- 21:07for you, that you are excited about?
- 21:11Better things will start happening to you.
- 21:13The things that you can't plan for.
- 21:15So we often want to say, I want to grow my business, so I
- 21:18have to do all of these things.
- 21:20The art of working with your design is noticing how you can get yourself
- 21:25in the mood to do things that maybe you didn't feel like doing before.
- 21:31And we do that by prioritizing feeling good.
- 21:34If you're a generator, I guarantee you've had this experience.
- 21:38Where you've gone on vacation and you said, I'm not going
- 21:40to work while I'm here.
- 21:42Then you're having such a good time on vacation and you're enjoying yourself.
- 21:46That ideas start flowing and suddenly you're like, I just want to write this
- 21:49one thing and you do it real fast and you get it done and it feels so good.
- 21:55And it was so simple.
- 21:56Why?
- 21:57Because you were feeling good.
- 21:59Because you were enjoying yourself, babe.
- 22:03That's what happens.
- 22:04Good things happen when generators have fun.
- 22:07Period.
- 22:10That is what you need to live by.
- 22:13And if you do, you will find you have more success in your life.
- 22:17Your family life will be better.
- 22:19People will want to be around you more.
- 22:22You will be more excited to do things.
- 22:25But you have to actually trust this process.
- 22:27A lot of people hear that design can help them, and they're
- 22:32looking to be saved by it.
- 22:35And they're saying, okay, I think this thing will fix me.
- 22:38It'll fix my broken life.
- 22:39It'll fix these issues that I have with my life.
- 22:43Because this person's talking about it over here and they
- 22:45say it saved their life.
- 22:48Human design saved my life in a lot of ways.
- 22:51But the way that it did that was me paying attention to the little things.
- 22:58And starting to notice things and wake up to who I really am.
- 23:04And no longer give my energy away to obligation.
- 23:09No longer give my energy away to processes and ways that I think success has to come.
- 23:18But that is an internal shift that creates external results.
- 23:25The action I take comes from a different place.
- 23:30It comes from a grounded place.
- 23:33It comes from a place of wholeness and I trust that even when things don't
- 23:40make sense, when my energy is just like, I want to clean the closet, I
- 23:47don't let my head come in and say, you should rest or you should get this other
- 23:51thing done, or you're on this deadline.
- 23:53I don't do that anymore.
- 23:56It do what feels good.
- 23:59Or I don't say that doesn't sound very restful, to clean the closet.
- 24:02I just trust that this is clearly where my energy wants to go.
- 24:08And over time, those signals, those messages, from your energy, from your
- 24:14intuition, from your sacral, you get better at hearing them, they get clearer.
- 24:20But, just like any relationship, it's going to start with you having to put
- 24:25some real close attention and intentional attention on this aspect of you.
- 24:31When am I frustrated?
- 24:32I have to see it in the moment if I'm going to correct the problem.
- 24:36What does satisfaction really feel like?
- 24:39Can I give myself some examples of when I did something that didn't
- 24:43make sense and I got something better than I thought I would get?
- 24:47I got a result that I didn't know I was even going after.
- 24:51I got an opportunity.
- 24:54I felt better, so I was able to do something differently.
- 24:58This is the evidence that we're accumulating over time, and
- 25:02that's where trust comes from.
- 25:05That's where you can trust your process more than you trust the outside world
- 25:11and more than you trust your mind.
- 25:14And that's when your life really starts to change.
- 25:19So that's all I got for you.
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