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Rabbi Moshe Haber Iggeret Ramban:Elevating Prayer Through Character and Reflection 1.1.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  He's talking about character the entire time, and then he leads
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  on to a person reflecting every morning, every night, and their
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  actions and what went on in the day.
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  We explain the reason why reflection is so powerful, more
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  powerful than his being a person who's in control is because of
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  the fact that when you reflect, you are in a good state of mind.
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  When you're in the moment, oftentimes is emotion is the
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  heart involved and then we're not as much in control when
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  we're out of the moment. When we're at night or in the
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  morning, we'll clear a sense on the commute, whatever it is, we
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  have a chance to reflect because at that time it's only brain,
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  it's only sexual and we can see whether we did the right thing
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  in the wrong thing. And he says every morning and
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  every night it makes you for a much better person.
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  Again, this is development of character.
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  After you're working your humility, after you're working,
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  building other people up, talking them softly, etcetera.
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  Then he says, which we did last week, it causes constant to
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  Shiva. To Shiva is a heavy word,
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  repentance, Constance, changing because the more you reflect,
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  the more you're aware of areas that you want to clean out.
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  And you say yourself, I regret that.
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  I'm not happy he did that. I wish it wasn't that happened
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  and what happened next time. And you become a person who
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  cleanses himself from these issues through his constant to
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  Shiva. That's Part 2.
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  Then somehow it leads to this, which is surprising segue, but
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  he gets to it that has said called the via Allah Milleberra
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  bed the Tefila, what should happen and what will happen and
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  that a person should then get to a point in Tefila specific.
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  That's all day when he praise that when he talks to Hashem, he
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  removes all worldly matters from his mind and he prepares his
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  heart and his mind to pray to Hashem.
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  Now I don't see the segue. How does it happen when you
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  develop your character, become a better person.
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  Next step he tells us how a person should reflect and make
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  yourself even a better person and repent and feel guilt and
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  cleanse yourself, have regrets in a certain sense to remove our
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  problems and make us something even a better person.
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  And then you go to the Phila, you remove worldly matters, and
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  you pray to Hashem. Is there a segue?
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  I'm not sure. The only segue I can think of is
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  a little bit of a stretch. But it's important that is, is
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  that the less we are busy with ourselves, the better our tifila
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  becomes. See, here's how it goes.
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  We get up, we pray and we pray, and we ask ourselves for things,
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  and we ask ourselves for things that are in our life that we
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  need. All our needs.
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  Those things and our requests can come from different angles.
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  It could come. There's so much going on in my
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  life. There's so much of my needs.
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  And when I pray to Hashem, I have so many needs, my my
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  personal life needs so much. I therefore ask God, ask of God
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  so much. That could be the case.
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  But that is in a certain sense a person who's actually very still
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  busy with himself and he's so busy with himself all day long.
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  He's so worried, concerned, maybe even at times selfish.
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  His mind is so wrapped around himself.
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  All day long he comes to pray to Hashem.
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  He moves the conversation from him to his mind over to him and
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  God. It's the same guy with the same
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  man who's very busy with himself, and now he's talking to
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  Hashem. He's just shifting those
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  thoughts over to God. That's one person.
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  That's OK. He's praying beautiful.
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  He's putting his worries on Hashem beautiful, but he's
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  making his prayer. Not really the kind of prayer
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  you want. You have another person.
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  This other person developed himself.
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  He worked on his character. He worked on himself.
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  He thinks about what's the point of life?
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  What's not the point of life? He has needs like we all have
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  needs. He has a lot of needs.
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  When he comes to pray, he talks to Hashem first.
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  When he comes to pray, he's reading the words in the sidur
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  first. He has a lot of needs.
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  Will he give when mentioned to God those needs?
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  Sure he will. He will mention to God's needs.
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  But it's not simply moving my conversation.
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  Instead of talking to my wife, now I'm talking to Hashem.
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  Instead of talking to my mind, now I'm talking to God.
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  It's the same needs, same issues, new address.
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  It's not that kind of a different event point.
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  His point is his person. I have needs.
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  They're all my mind first. I clear them away.
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  I pray to Hashem. What about those needs?
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  I will get them in my tefila, but I'll get them in my tefila
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  from a different point. I won't get there for my tefila.
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  I have somebody who worries unload them on God.
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  I have a whole list that's on my mind.
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  Now that I'm praying they mention them to Hashem, I'll get
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  them in 'cause I'm talking to Hashem.
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  I clarified. I'm saying what the Sidhu says.
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  I have direct talk to God and now while I have the opportunity
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  to talk to Hashem, let me ask of Him my needs and my issues.
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  Very big difference, these two people.
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  One person has got a lot of worries.
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  He's talking to God. He unloads his worries on God.
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  The other person is the second person.
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  He's praying. He's not thinking about personal
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  matters at all. Originally he excuse me, he
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  prepared himself a prayer. He says that.
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  The Sutur says it's not all about my needs, it's about the
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  tefillah first. And then once he has, excuse me,
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  once he has such a strong talk with Hashem, he's going to relay
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  over the Hashem, his needs. And you say to me, what's the
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  difference? They're both the same guy.
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  They're both in the same outcome.
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  They're both talking to Hashem and they're both talking about
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  the fact that kids need to do better at school.
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  They won't talk about they need to make money.
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  They're both talking about protection.
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  Same thing. Here's the difference, and
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  there's a major difference. Or you pray and you ask a chef
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  for your needs. They could play completely
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  different roles. Such prayers depends how you
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  talk. If you ask a chef for your needs
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  because there's so much on your mind and it's all loading, what
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  happens is God. It's just the next address of my
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  conversations. It's another person to talk to
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  for my problems and I share with our lies.
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  It's just the best person that's one to talk to how it is, but
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  it's not really any beauty in Hashem.
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  They just said he's the one to talk to.
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  He has the power to deliver a result, I'll talk to him.
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  It's not about Hashem. If a person first recognizes who
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  he's talking to, he prays to God and then he adds the fact I'm
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  talking to Hashem. I have such a coop that let me
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  and my personal things, those personal requests come from a
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  different place. What's the difference?
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  Do you see a different set of teenage two guys?
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  Why they're different? Got it.
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  You've got a relationship and then you you absolutely you feel
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  like it positive to our show. It feels like you you posted
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  better. OK.
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  So let's yeah, 100%. So the idea is you're not just
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  like in a certain sense, using Hashem, considering the next
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  address the person doesn't want to talk to for our problems,
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  you're praying and adding your personal things, the secondary
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  sense, but the difference is even deeper, and that is all of
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  our personal things. Let's think about a list of
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  things people ask for protection, good children,
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  making money, health, Shalom, shidukhim, all those things,
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  right? All those things we ask of,
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  they're all things that can be seen in a very personal, mundane
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  way where they can be made very elevated.
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  The same thing can be elevated. Here's how it works.
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  If I have the knee jerk reaction, I'm talking to my
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  friend, I'm saying my worries, talking to God.
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  I'm saying my worries. That's where my tiffy Lord come
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  from another. I just want to say worries.
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  What's going to happen is I'm only asking because I have the
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  needs. I'm not really at all giving
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  Hashem the credit or the respect of His cohort of who He is
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  talking to Him first. I'm just trying to get my
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  mundane needs. If you told me I should go to
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  the government, I'll go to the government.
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  He told me go to my my parents with my parents and told me go
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  to God. I go to God, Same thing.
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  It's very mundane or as if a person recognizes I'm talking to
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  Tasha. This is elevated moment.
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  This is me and God forget needs. This is a conversation with God.
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  And then he adds in the issues that he has, those things that
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  he's asking for will be considered elevated items.
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  So the same person who's an Evan Hashem standing in front of
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  Hashem, ask Hashem to help him raise his children.
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  What he's asking of God is I want to build on this service of
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  you. We have a relationship.
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  You have a world that you're building that I'm trying to
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  help. Let me help even more with my
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  children. I've chosen being a children and
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  I asked Hashem for partner saw. I'm no longer asking simply
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  because I want money out of your money.
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  I'm asking Hashem, Hashem, I'm a guy.
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  I'm trying to do the right thing.
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  I'm trying to be a good person. I need to run my family the
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  right way. I need the partnersa to support
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  my children, to be the my children, to be the Futura.
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  I want to do more of this. So while you're in the right
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  friend of mind, you're talking to God as a servant, you're
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  talking to guys. Evan Hashem.
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  Now you throw these things in, they are considered part of the
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  same pipeline. Hang on, I'll take once.
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  Excuse me, Part of the same pipeline.
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  They're considered the same pipeline and service of Hashem,
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  so I wouldn't be asking you this if not for the fact I want to
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  serve you better. Same with Shalom.
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  Why I want Shalom? I want Shalom because it gives
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  me more content and makes you more of a whole person and makes
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  you a better person. It's all the same thing.
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  Safety, protection, all the health, all these things I've
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  seen as not simply ask for everything you want because you
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  found the best address rather trying to show God I want to be
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  all that you want me to be. And these are the ways how it's
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  a whole different Tefila instead of the being.
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  If you think about it, Tefila could be sadly the most mundane
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  moments of our day. Why?
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  Because all of our needs come to our mind.
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  If we're spacing in all of our needs come to our mind.
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  I have to ask you this and this and that and the other thing,
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  and you get very bogged down with yours.
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  Or it could be the most elevated points of my day, how I'm
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  talking to Dasha one-on-one. It's the conversation between me
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  and God. I can't turn this away.
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  I can't let this opportunity go out of my mind.
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  And by the way, I have all these things I've been asked for, but
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  as the conversation between me and God, If I'm asking me these
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  things as the conversation between me and God, I'm asking
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  for that for a purpose, for an elevated purpose, for the right
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  thing. And it becomes an entirely
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  different tefila. That's what He's telling you.
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  So clear your mind before you pray.
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  Clear my mind. All my prayers are things that
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  are all my mind. First clear your mind.
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  Get into an elevated conversation.
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  He would Hashem. Then throw in those things that
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  you need, but not because you have a list of needs, rather
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  because you have a list that's going to make you more of a
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  relationship with God, more on the right track.
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  I know it's a fine line, but it's a different Tefila. 1
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  Tefila is extremely mundane. Tefila is extremely elevated.
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  It's a whole different Tefila. And I always wondered this.
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  How does a person have all their personal worries on their mind
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  while they're praying and tried to be elevated?
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  Once I think about my business, right?
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  Once I think about the the retail element or it's slow or
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  this and the other thing, wherever it is, I start thinking
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  about I have to hire that person, you know, maybe I should
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  let the other one go. It was to be changing the how I
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  run the business. Also, if my mind goes down a
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  very mundane road, right? Even if you're thinking about
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  the sheriff, please, I'll be raising my children.
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  He's not thinking about I should be dealing with that tutor and
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  we should be changing this in the house.
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  He should be going to sleep earlier, right?
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  We shouldn't be given much discipline or more discipline
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  with how the charge will look. All these things stuck along in
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  your mind and you're completely removed from the place that
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  you're supposed to be. How is it supposed to work?
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  How am I supposed to be a man on a cloud with God and also
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  supposed to be a man listing all my worries?
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  The answer is, according to Samban, this concept, first you
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  and Hashem, all these worries that you're throwing in are
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  meant to be and to remain all parts of the you and Hashem
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  relationship, only part of it. And I'm supposed to be a
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  separate element. It's not like I'm talking to
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  God. I'm throwing these things in.
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  No no, I am talking to God as a servant of His and these will
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  help me serve Him better. And the truth is every single
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  thing that we asked for and we have the right fear in mind on
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  all parts of service of Hashem. There are two things we don't
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  realize that would change our perspective of life. 1 is that
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  our entire day can be deemed service of Hashem.
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  Our entire day from morning to night, every part of your day is
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  service of God 100% and every one of your needs also a service
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  of Hashem. The same things that are very
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  mundane and very simple and very basic, they could all be thrown
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  into this mix of service of Hashem.
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  It's all about perspective in the day.
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  That's true. When you wake up in the morning.
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  What are you thinking? I want to do good today, simple
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  as that. I want to do good today.
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  I want to be good to you. I want to, in a sense, serve
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  God. Once you go down that road,
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  everything can be in that system.
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  Everything. You name it, it's there.
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  Go to get breakfast, go to class praying.
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  Those are easy. Commute.
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  How you deal with people, how you answer your wife's calls,
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  how you think about your children, how you want to your
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  coworkers, how you want to your employees, how you are with your
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  buyers, how you are in the street, everything.
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  What you think about what you look at what you don't look at
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  right how you complain you don't complain how you posit to other
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  people. All those mindsets are all part
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  of our without Hashem and the same thing or Europe.
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  The same thing is true with all your tiffy looked.
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  Every single need that you have doesn't make a difference if
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  it's the house and deal doesn't make a difference if it's
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  wanting good weather safety, Your chosen, your chosen's
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  friends, the money you make the money you're worried about.
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  All these different things. They're all of without the ship.
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  They all are. Just depends on the frail mind
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  and a person should be clear enough to clear that mind from
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  other thoughts first. You're God.
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  Don't worry, you're not going to lose all your needs.
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  The game is in as they come, as he's telling you right and come
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  at a the right mindset gives the strength to this to feel.
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  That's the key behind this entire seat.
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  So now when you clear your mind, we'll close this.
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  When you clear your mind, you have the right, the covenant,
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  the concentration. That's that's the first goal as
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  you and God, the ultimate need to have concentration.
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  And the way the rabbi's bringing it is concentration for Tefila.
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  How important is covenant for Tefila?
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  Very important is what level of importance.
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  It's the entire energy as the entire strength behind Tefila.
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  It's like a body without a soul. Give Tiffila without covenant,
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  does it work? Yes, we mentioned a couple weeks
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  ago on the afternoon class, it works.
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  Tiffila without covenant works, but it's a whole different thing
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  when you're talking to Hashem, when you have that clarity.
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  So a person has to try to clear as much as they can clear a way
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  that Tiffila that they're coming up to make yourself, to kill
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  your mindset to other things to make yourself you and God
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  one-on-one as much as you can, as much as you can do it.
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  You elevate your power of tefillah.
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  And the truth is, the truth is this, the power of tefillah is
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  an unfair advantage. Unfair advantage means God runs
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  the world. You have emunah, you have pizza
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  horn, you believe in Hashem 100%.
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  So you should always say that we have prayer.
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  Am I trying to change the game? Hashem runs the show.
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  He's in complete control. I trust him.
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  What am I doing, Pray? If your kids, you tell your kids
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  I haven't handled. I have something handled and
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  they're start calling you 40 times.
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  Dad, you get it done. You get it done.
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  You get it done. You say one second.
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  I told you I haven't handled. What are you worried about?
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  Right. Hashem hasn't handled.
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  What are we doing, Pray? What is this thing?
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  That's a shot, John. Good question.
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  It's no question, right? It's a no question you know the
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  answer in the morning so you are serving Corbinho.
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  It's fine. You're making that soda, Hashem
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  true. And they bring over here for the
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  Symphony, Karim, but. Even that, why are you doing
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  that? Hashem has it covered.
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  Oh, so service, you have to be a bad Jew.
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  That's something. It's still not asking, but the
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  asking element is so difficult. And this place is our point
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  earlier. Here's how it goes.
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  And Symphony, Karim says, as he explains, he says, how does a
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  person have the nerve? They are in English.
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  How does a mortal dare to approach to Almighty in prayer
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  to ask Hashem to change his decrees?
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  God knows what he's doing. That question, great question.
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  He says the answer is if you change your preparation, you
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  change the decree. What you're really doing by
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  praying, what you're doing at its core by praying is changing
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  yourself in front of Hashem, a natural spiritual development
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  and the eyes of God. You're standing in front of God.
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  You're saying God, I need you, which means God, I'm humble God,
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  I'm lying on you. Can I see you as you are
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  powerful Hashem, I need parnassa.
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  That means I believe that although I have a body to talk
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  to, forget about him. It's all about you, Hashem.
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  I need my children to do better. You know what that means?
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  That I have teachers and a principal and tutors and I'm
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  trying at home and we have it all worked out.
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  Forget about that. You're the one in control and
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  step by step, you're tifilah is a development of your own mind
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  and your own relationship with Hashem.
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  And here you are. You become more and more and
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  more a servant of Hashem through your prayer.
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  You become more of a developed person through your prayer.
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  In fact, every development of a person can be done through is
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  tifilah. Why?
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  Because tifilah can be more Hashem and more Hashem and more
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  Hashem in my life. So it's.
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  About changing you, it changes. You changes how you act.
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  Stand in front of God and God sees your mind during this
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  moment. I can't just say something
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  changing you and it's over because it's changing you time
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  by time. So in this conversation, you're
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  being an amazing person in front of Hashem.
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  You're being exactly what you were born to be his servant,
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  right? You're being his servant.
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  You're being totally his servant and because of that you're
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  entirely different person based on that Hashem says that guy,
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  he's my servant, he's perfect, I'm going to send him everything
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  he needs for that service. So the two things we said this
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  morning come hand in hand. Well, you ask for needs.
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  You're not asking for your own needs.
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  You're asking for the Co-op to serve Hashem.
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  Why don't you answer your answer?
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  Because you're being a beautiful servant of Hashem when you pray.
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  How? Because part by part, everything
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  you say is saying God, you're in control.
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  God, you go Almighty God, you are powerful.
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  I'm relying on you. I know that there's a mayor that
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  I'm nervous about. I'm not nervous at all.
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  I'm relying on you. I know business is funny.
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  I'm not nervous at all. I'm relying on you.
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  I know my kids class doesn't work, doesn't matter to me.
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  I'm fully relying on you. And part by part, you are
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  handing over the keys. You are recognizing what God is
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  verbalizing it having in your mind clearly and the world
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  around you shuts down and then you get to the beginning, which
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  was the power of Tiffany lies stepping away from the world and
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  talking to Hashem and you say I have stepping away from the
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  world and I'm stepping right back into the world with all my
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  needs. The answer is he's stepping away
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  from the world. He's stepping into conversation
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  with God. You're telling him the needs for
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  the sake of service of God, and you're stepping into a world
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  without you, the world around you, the worries go away.
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  That's a final step, 'cause as you talk to Hashem and as you
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  hand in the control, those worries are gone.
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  If we are real, you know a Jew has to be honest with his words.
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  You have to be people, be P Vilibor Shavin your words and
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  your heart should be honest. So if you are talking to Hashem
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  and say you control this, you control that, you control the
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  other thing. And then you come outside and
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  you get an e-mail and you get furious with the guy, 'cause you
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  messed up. What happened over here, 'cause
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  Hashem controls is not control. So you develop through this.
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  It's actually makes you say what you say.
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  It's training yourself. It's training yourself talking
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  to Hashem, giving him the keys, handing over control is
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  completely training yourself to think this way.
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  So you start it. Here's how your day goes.
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  You walk into the free loud. You have 1000 things in your
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  mind. None of us, every one of us at
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  all times, we are juggling a million things.
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  Are you Brazil juggling everything?
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  Exactly. The biggest rider that steals
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  Everything's on our mind at all times.
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  We think we're holding up the world.
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  Part 1 You come in to talk to Hashem.
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  You coming in to talk to the avenue Who will deliver you?
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  Think to yourself, how am I shutting out the world?
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  Trust Assistant? Shut out the world first.
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  Talk to Hashem. You and Hashem, you have needs,
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  have a lot of needs. You have all those zillions of
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  things you have to worry about, you bring them into your list
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  and you to feel out. But as a prayer of asking, as a
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  servant of Hashem, asking for more help to serve God, please
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  help me be your servant. All those needs, please take
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  care of them. I'll say them one by one.
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  Please take care of them in order to serve you better.
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  A different kind of needs. Not a very mundane one, a very
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  elevated 1. And in the process you are
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  showing who's boss. You 1000% accepting who's in
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  control. You've been around.
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  I've been around even enough. We've been around enough to see
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  just how much nobody out there is in control.
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  Not even a drop. Nobody.
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  I don't care which president, which politician, which
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  businessman, which anything. Nobody is in control at all.
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  You recognize that. You accept that.
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  You absorb that as you pray, and then you leave and you're a
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  different person. What are you?
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  You're an elevated person. You're a calm person.
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  You're a happy person. You're a person who can handle
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  things. You're a person who can handle
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  your day. Because you now have handed over
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  all your worries to the one who's in control.
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  That makes you a completely different person.
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  So Tiffany Liens are becoming a person, entering with all these
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  needs, keeping them out, holding them at Bay, addressing them,
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  but then leaving as a fully developed, beautiful person.
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  Do you revert back to your original way?
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  Probably. You do it again, you do it
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  again, you do it again. And over time we chill out, we
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  relax, we let go, and we become people who hand over the
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  control. If you hand over control to God
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  is the final stage and if you hand over control to Hashem,
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  your happiness has no limits. You're saying he's a God.
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  You contend this, your calmness, your beauty, easiness to be
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  around you become a different person or you let go of these
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  worries through this process. That's our ultimate goal.
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  That's our ultimate development. To simply say I have emunah, not
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  going to do it. To verbalize this and then
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  develop emunah, that'll do it for you.
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  This is the idea. You hear it, I hear it.
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  I. Just want to know what my
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  opening line is. I hear what to how to pray with
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  the pray strategy slipping in at the end.
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  I got all that. What's my opening line when you
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  talking about personal? Things, no.
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  For the prayers I come to shul, I put on my TAFE lean.
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  What's that first mindset? What's?
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  That is the going I'll be the answer, which means putting our
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  share in front of you all times recognizing having the awe of
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  sensing the awe of being in the presence of Hashem.
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  That would be Part 1 and that would get this started.
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  That's it. Whatever however that works,
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  it's not hard to do. I know it's hot tea now I'm.
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  Talking to my sister, same idea. It's time in the audience.
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  How do I open up even? More which means it's one-on-one
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  me and God what opportunity is unbelievable moment.
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  I cannot believe I'm not going to give this up again.
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  We talk, we're talking about. Or really, it's we're.
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  Talking about needs, it should also be Basuke de Zamma.
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  I've seen people that I'm not saying I'm the best of this.
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  I'm not saying I will face the challenge every day.
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  I see certain people, you know, back in yeshiva when they prayed
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  very slow. Basuke de Zamma is a very
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  elevated tefila, very elevated. His singing Tasha has to be very
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  real. We are all beyond blessed, all
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  beyond blessed a million times over.
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  When you stop and you just take in your bit of Han, the only
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  thing you worry about is you just want it to stay.
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  We're all beyond blessed and it will stay.
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  Once a person recognizes that when it's investigators enough
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  forget means, then they're talking about thanks and
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  singing. You can be a guy who sings
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  Tasha. It's not to you.
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  It's not overdone. Your life is a song, so you
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  stop. That's all.
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  If you like, if you like. With the recognition of God
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  being there can be something unbelievable.
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  It's the same words. The same person who spends hours
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  praying or does in such a beautiful elevated state is
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  saying the same words. They have the same crowd of life
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  as we have. The only thing is he has this
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  sense. So the simple answer to the
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  question is try to make as much, as much capable as possible.
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  Try to take in a sense of Hashem.
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  He's there. He's really here.
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  He's really, really here. He's right in front of my face.
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  There's nobody else here. The more that you do that, the
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  more you have the sense and the answer to the question.
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  Are we on tape? Yes.
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  Hey man, go ahead. I'm I'm still.
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  Looking for the opening line, the deal I'm going into the
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  president. You tell me what I'm talking
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  about the strategy, but how do I start?
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  Off with the line. What's the words or what's the
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  thought? Both the words on when I
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  sympathize to talk are also classic words.
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  Those means I'm asking you to help me talk to you.
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  That just goes how far we're going with this control concept.
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  I need Hashem to help me to talk back to him.
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  It's literally he's giving me the lines.
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  He's giving me the lines and then I'm going to say it back to
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  him. It's almost like he says to me,
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  listen, you know, a guy comes ready for your meeting, Buyer
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  comes and tells you, I'm sorry. A random person in the hallway
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  tells you, listen, when you go into someone, so into that
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  office, you want to tell him, you want to mention these guys
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  about the product, tell them about how fast you can get it.
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  See certain things, don't say other things, say certain
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  things. These are the secrets that works
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  perfectly. You go inside, see this
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  beautiful 10 minutes later, you're not going to go to the
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  office. You come inside and who's
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  sitting behind the desk? This guy, the same guy who just
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  told you what to say, right? That's how far it goes.
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  Hashem tells us the words. He gives us the lines.
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  When I sympathize the doc I shall open on my words.
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  He gives us the lines. The rabbi's figured out the
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  lights from God. Surah.
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  He gave us the lights and we deliver it back to him.
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  All I shall want to see is earnest.
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  All he wants to see is recognition.
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  All he wants to see is that we're real.
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  All the things that the words themselves empty don't show, but
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  the emotion, the mentality, the right approach shows.
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  So the answer to your question. In short, he's tried to figure
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  out the words for you and make you recognize I am talking to
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  God. And all I got going over here is
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  the fact that I'm talking to Him.
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  That's the main thing. That's my number one thing, and
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  I want to keep that up. That's the idea.
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  What's up with this?