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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Escaping the Comparison Trap · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, everyone, Emily Abadi here you are listening to five
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  Speaker 1: minute Friday from Hurdle.
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  Speaker 2: I'm feeling really excited right now.
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  Speaker 1: I'm feeling really excited right now because this morning I
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  Speaker 1: woke up in Brooklyn and I rode a city bike
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  Speaker 1: over to McCarran Park, which is a park in Williamsburg,
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  Speaker 1: and I did a mile time trial. And I did
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  Speaker 1: this time trial because I wanted to get a baseline
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  Speaker 1: of what my mile time is right now where I
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  Speaker 1: am in this phase to design a training plan around
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  Speaker 1: for a ten k that I'm running in June. It's
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  Speaker 1: the mini ten k that New York Roadrunners puts on.
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  Speaker 1: And I ran the mile and it felt hard, but
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  Speaker 1: it felt good and I did it in six fifty two,
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  Speaker 1: and I felt so stoked and excited about that. And
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  Speaker 1: I was doing my little cool down after the mile
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  Speaker 1: that I ran, and I had this moment of great
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  Speaker 1: appreciation because I realized that for the first time in
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  Speaker 1: a long time, I'm like nobs. I was so proud
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  Speaker 1: of Emily as I am in this moment, and I
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  Speaker 1: wasn't comparing that six fifty two to the Emily of
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  Speaker 1: the olden days, like my mile personal best time is
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  Speaker 1: I think. I think it's five point fifty six, it's
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  Speaker 1: sub six, and that is something that I did in
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  Speaker 1: twenty twenty. It's almost it's three and a half years
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  Speaker 1: later now and my mile is nowhere near that time.
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  Speaker 2: And I am not phased.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not phased at all, because how can I expect
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  Speaker 1: myself to do something right now that I haven't been
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  Speaker 1: preparing for. It's not like you wake up one day
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  Speaker 1: and you have your dream job right.
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  Speaker 2: You work toward this point.
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  Speaker 1: You work toward a point where you achieve a certain
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  Speaker 1: amount of status and have a certain amount of accolades
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  Speaker 1: and a crew a certain amount accomplishments to get to
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  Speaker 1: that pivotal moment. And the same goes for running. I
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  Speaker 1: have had moments within running where I have been faster,
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  Speaker 1: and other moments that I've felt really accomplished, like today
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  Speaker 1: that really actually didn't have anything to do with speed.
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  Speaker 1: Today was about a feeling. And so I maybe I'm rambling,
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  Speaker 1: but I think that so often. You know, I'm telling myself,
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  Speaker 1: don't compare yourself, don't compare yourself, don't compare myself.
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  Speaker 2: And I didn't and I'm not and I'm.
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  Speaker 1: Still so stoked that I showed up and I did
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  Speaker 1: this hard thing, and now I can meet myself with
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  Speaker 1: where I'm at and figure out what works right for
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  Speaker 1: Emily as I am in this phase of my journey.
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  Speaker 2: And it feels really nice. And so I'm.
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  Speaker 1: Sharing this story with you today because it happens a lot, right,
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  Speaker 1: It happens a lot that we compare ourselves to past
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  Speaker 1: versions of ourselves. But how cool is it right now
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  Speaker 1: that I have my past self as an inspiration.
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  Speaker 2: Really, I'm looking to my past.
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  Speaker 1: Accomplishments as motivation to work hard, to pick up the
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  Speaker 1: pace to try something that I haven't done in a
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  Speaker 1: long time, and meeting myself with grace and having compassion
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  Speaker 1: for where I'm at right now, and that it's not
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  Speaker 1: something that happens overnight, getting to this place of compassion,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm so proud. I'm so so proud that this
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  Speaker 1: is where I'm living in this moment. Why do we
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  Speaker 1: rid ourselves of the joy of our accomplishments just because
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  Speaker 1: they've different now than they once did. There's so much
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  Speaker 1: more out there, right, There's so much to be happy about.
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  Speaker 1: And instead of robbing yourself of joy and putting extra
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  Speaker 1: unnecessary hurdles within your journey. I encourage you too to embrace.
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  Speaker 1: What is my listener prompt for you this week? What
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  Speaker 1: is one thing you're looking forward to over the next
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  Speaker 1: three months? What's one thing you're looking forward to over
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  Speaker 1: the next three months? I mentioned I have a ten K,
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  Speaker 1: so I'm curious and also answer this on social tag
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  Speaker 1: me I want to talk now a listener question.
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  Speaker 3: Hi Emily, my name is Megan, and my question for
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  Speaker 3: you is what is your best advice for a recent
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  Speaker 3: college graduate who's still trying to find their place in
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  Speaker 3: the real world.
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  Speaker 2: You have so much runway ahead of you.
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  Speaker 1: I think that when I graduated college, I was so
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  Speaker 1: concerned about feeling as though I needed to have it
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  Speaker 1: all figured out. And it's kind of crazy in retrospect
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  Speaker 1: that at eighteen you go into this institute of higher education,
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  Speaker 1: higher learning, and they want you to choose a major
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  Speaker 1: and choose your path. Like at eighteen, I had an
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  Speaker 1: inkling of what I wanted to do. But it is
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  Speaker 1: so understandable if you are unsure, because there's so much
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  Speaker 1: learning that happens between eighteen and twenty two during college
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  Speaker 1: and then beyond that. I learn every single day and
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  Speaker 1: I'm in my mid thirties and I plan on continuing
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  Speaker 1: that act of learning for the rest of my days,
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  Speaker 1: and so right now I would tell you, a don't
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  Speaker 1: put so much pressure on yourself to have it all
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  Speaker 1: figured out.
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  Speaker 2: You will not, and that's okay.
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  Speaker 1: And be talk to as many individuals as you can
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  Speaker 1: to keep learning, whether or not they are in your field.
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  Speaker 1: When I left Self Magazine, after the magazine folded and
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  Speaker 1: I was freelance writing, I made a point of talking
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  Speaker 1: to as many people as I could in a myriad
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  Speaker 1: of different industries just to learn more about what it
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  Speaker 1: meant to be a banker or someone that worked in
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  Speaker 1: sport marketing or someone that is an architect. I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to learn about all different aspects of so many different
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  Speaker 1: careers and that was not only such a fun time,
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  Speaker 1: but gave me so much insight into the world of
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  Speaker 1: opportunity that is out there. Again, it's okay if you
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  Speaker 1: don't have it all figured out, nobody does. Do you
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  Speaker 1: trust your gut and know that there's a lot of
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  Speaker 1: runway ahead of you.
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  Speaker 2: Make sure you're.
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  Speaker 1: Following along on Instagram at Hurdle Podcast, at Emily Body
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  Speaker 1: Listener questions, I want them I want them from you.
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  Speaker 2: Hit me up.
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  Speaker 1: The link to do that is in the show notes.
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  Speaker 1: Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.