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Growth Spurt: The Stories We Tell Ourselves · The Growth Project

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  You.
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  Welcome back to another Growth Spurt episode brought to you by the Growth Project podcast. My name is Doctor Gabby Caveated and today I'm going to be talking to you about internal narratives or the stories that shape our future.
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  One thing we need to understand is that we are constantly telling ourselves stories about who we are, about what we are capable of, about what our skills and strengths are, and also what we're not capable of.
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  And when we think about internal narratives and the importance of them, it's that
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  the stories we tell ourselves are either helping or hurting us. And that's the question we need to be focused on, is what stories am I telling myself about myself that are helping me, and which ones are hurting me?
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  When we experience a situation, any given event, we tend to
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  tie some meaning about who we are to that outcome.
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  We create our identities around these isolated events, and this could show up in a multitude of ways. It could show up in a failed presentation. And now you're telling yourself you're bad at public speaking because you failed that presentation.
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  It could be something where you think to yourself, I lost that opportunity. And that now becomes, I'm not leadership material. One singular event now becomes your identity. And this is
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  so dangerous, right? And that if we're telling ourselves unhelpful things, we will form these limiting beliefs, these beliefs that hold us back from reaching our full potential.
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  So what we need to do then is learn to separate outcomes from identity.
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  Replace these identity statements with growth statements, things we've talked about a lot on this podcast a growth mindset. Instead of thinking to yourself, I'm terrible at hard conversations. Reframe that into I'm trying to learn how to have hard conversations. Our future behavior
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  is determined by the way we're thinking, by the beliefs we hold about ourselves and our abilities.
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  So I challenge you all to catch yourself thinking one limiting belief over the next week and and go through this process of rewriting it, reframing it into a more growth oriented
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  statement.
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  Stay away from those limiting beliefs and fully unlock your potential. Thank you all for tuning in and look forward to having you on the next episode.