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Healthy Relationships: Trust | Sunday Service | November 10, 2024 · Wesley at FSU & TSC

• 0:58
  SPEAKER_00: I want to start a sermon series this morning called Healthy Relationships.
• 1:03
  SPEAKER_00: I want you to turn to the person next to you, say, I want to have a healthy relationship.
• 1:09
  SPEAKER_00: Turn to the person you just ignored on your other side and say, I am your friend.
• 1:14
  SPEAKER_00: I'm your friend.
• 1:16
  SPEAKER_00: This morning we're going to talk a little bit about trust, but I want to I want to kind of wrap this in this experience in this interaction that Jesus has with Peter.
• 1:25
  SPEAKER_00: We're going to turn to the 21st chapter of John.
• 1:28
  SPEAKER_00: This is the very end of the gospel.
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  SPEAKER_00: And uh here we go.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're going to try it, wait, are we going to try this?
• 1:35
  SPEAKER_00: When they finished eating, it doesn't, it didn't work in practice, so here we go.
• 1:39
  SPEAKER_00: When they finished eating, Jesus asked Simon Peter, Simon, son of John, do you love me more than these?
• 1:44
  SPEAKER_00: And Simon replied, Yes, Lord, you know that I love you.
• 1:48
  SPEAKER_00: And Jesus said to him, Feed my lambs.
• 1:52
  SPEAKER_00: Jesus asked a second time, Simon, son of John, do you love me?
• 1:56
  SPEAKER_00: And Simon replied, Yes, Lord, you know that I love you.
• 1:59
  SPEAKER_00: And Jesus said to him, Take care of my sheep.
• 2:03
  SPEAKER_00: Very similar to what he said the first time.
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  SPEAKER_00: He asked the third time, Simon, son of John, do you love me?
• 2:08
  SPEAKER_00: At this point, Simon Peter is like, Hmm, God, what are you asking these for?
• 2:11
  SPEAKER_00: Peter was sad that Jesus asked him a third time.
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  SPEAKER_00: See, told you.
• 2:15
  SPEAKER_00: Do you love me?
• 2:17
  SPEAKER_00: He replied, Lord, you know everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know I love you.
• 2:23
  SPEAKER_00: Oh.
• 2:24
  SPEAKER_00: All right, Hannah, you're up.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, that's the last one.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's why.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know that I love you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Toys are not important for me.
• 2:33
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, let's pray over the preaching of God's word.
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  SPEAKER_00: God.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your word is a lamp into our feet, a light into our path, whether we read it off of a piece of paper or a TV.
• 2:49
  SPEAKER_00: God, we ask that your word would guide us this morning, that it would speak truth to us, that it would encourage us, that it would give us hope, that it would challenge us.
• 3:03
  SPEAKER_00: God, may the words of my mouth and the meditations of all of our hearts be acceptable in your sight and in your sight alone, oh God.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are our rock and you are our redeemer, and we love you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Amen.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've been in college ministry about 12 years now, which seems like just yesterday, and also 35 years at the exact same time, uh, because college students are fun to hang out with, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And so uh I've started to see some patterns being in college ministry.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, I I always every year at the beginning of every fall semester, a what I would call the wide-eyed, bushy-tailed, ready to take on the world first year student.
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  SPEAKER_00: I asked AI to draw that for me, and this is what it came up with.
• 3:50
  SPEAKER_00: There we go.
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  SPEAKER_00: It made some choices.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh, it kind of looks like FSU.
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  SPEAKER_00: I didn't ask it to look like FSU, but I guess that's what the traditional college experience looks for.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you see the excitement on his face.
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  SPEAKER_00: You see that excitement?
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  SPEAKER_00: And what happens is when you come to college for the first time, you are you're having to start to make some friends.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're starting to live in a different place, and pretty quickly you start to make friends.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, these friends are generally in your classes, they might be in a ministry or something you go to, and they are definitely maybe hopefully your roommate or somebody on the hall or something like that.
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  SPEAKER_00: You start to make those friends.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had AI draw me a second picture of what the friends look like.
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  SPEAKER_00: He still seems very excited.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's they they look, I don't know if they're angry or hugging, I'm not sure what that is in the background.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hey, shh, it's Pixar animated.
• 4:47
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, this is uh, yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I was like, uh, you know, I think it's pretty good.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's one of the things I've learned though, as I've seen people be a first year in college, is that even though you pretty quickly meet friends, these friends are based on proximity.
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  SPEAKER_00: These are friends that just happen to be near you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So these friendships are based on proximity.
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  SPEAKER_00: These are things, you know, they're people that are in your life just immediately.
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  SPEAKER_00: You didn't go seek them out very much.
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  SPEAKER_00: Many of you have heard me say that the friends that you have at the beginning of your freshman year are completely different than the friends you have your senior year.
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  SPEAKER_00: I also think that's okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's a lot of drama involved in that sometimes, but I would tell you that I've seen it time and time and time again.
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  SPEAKER_00: My friend Chris, God bless his soul, freshman year, we're roommates, and he goes to a party, and he ends up at this party talking to this girl, and he comes back that night, a party I wasn't invited to, and he comes back that night, and he says to me, I met the girl I'm going to marry.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, he's impulsive.
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  SPEAKER_00: He jumps in with all his heart.
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  SPEAKER_00: You gotta give him credit for the energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And spoiler alert, they are not married today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because he liked her or he got in contact with her, he he became friends with her because of their proximity.
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  SPEAKER_00: And and sometimes proximity fails us.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when you become really good friends with your roommate one year, if you're not friends with them next year, you'll see the distance happen between it.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you join an organization and you become friends with that someone because they're in that organization, and then you leave that organization, the proximity is gone, right?
• 6:38
  SPEAKER_00: So this that sort of thing happens.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so you've probably noticed this in your own life where your friendships go up and down and up and down and up and down.
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  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes you've got these friends that hopefully they are gonna be in your wedding, but then also you have friends that are like, man, I wish I still talked to them, but I just I just don't see them enough, you know?
• 6:54
  SPEAKER_00: And they're not on my snaps, and then you know, I don't I've I don't text them because I'm a Gen Z.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, whatever.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, there's not that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so then I asked AI to make a picture of what that looks like, and this is what it came up with.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ah, I know.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everybody's saying, aw.
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  SPEAKER_00: That was pretty good, but it wasn't in sync.
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  SPEAKER_00: One, two, three.
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  SPEAKER_00: Very good, yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what I've learned through many different years of campus ministry is that we need friendships and and I'm gonna use the word relationships and friendships interchangeably here.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not particularly talking about romantic situations at this point, so I just want to have said that out loud.
• 7:33
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, if you want to talk about romantic things, we'll do that later.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh but I want I want to talk about relationships and friendships.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what I've learned through all those years of campus ministry is that the best relationships, the ones we need, are built on purpose and not proximity.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when when we're just near somebody, we might be friends with them because our personalities get along and that's fine.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if there's no purpose in our relationship, we don't often continue that relationship afterward because there wasn't a purpose, there wasn't a bigger, deeper thing that we were doing there.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's important for us to think to see, I think.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we need relationships built on purpose, not proximity.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, oftentimes I'll give this message at the beginning of the semester, and yes, I recognize that it's November 10th.
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  SPEAKER_00: But as I started to think through this and plan it, I thought, you know, I actually think this is a good kind of holding time, like a couple pause time to be like, what are the relationships in my life?
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  SPEAKER_00: What are the relationships in my life?
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  SPEAKER_00: What purposes are they serving?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are they helping me?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are they helping me grow?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are they hurting me?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are they healthy?
• 8:50
  SPEAKER_00: And I I thought maybe it'd be helpful to ask some questions.
• 8:53
  SPEAKER_00: Here's a few that I put on here.
• 8:56
  SPEAKER_00: Is the work going, you have to press the space bar again.
• 8:59
  SPEAKER_00: There you go.
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  SPEAKER_00: Boom, boom, boom.
• 9:01
  SPEAKER_00: Yay.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm getting really good at that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Is the work being put into them equal on both sides?
• 9:09
  SPEAKER_00: You have relationships right now that seem pretty one-sided, I am sure.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have relationships right now which don't appear to be one-sided, but when you start thinking about it, they kind of are.
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  SPEAKER_00: Next question I would invite you to ask is are these long-term relationships?
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  SPEAKER_00: Meaning, are these just short-term?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are these just like for now and then next semester they'll be gone or whatever?
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  SPEAKER_00: And then here's the big one that I think you should ask.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do I trust them?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do I trust them?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do I trust these relationships?
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  SPEAKER_00: And particularly, do I trust these people?
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  SPEAKER_00: Again, I don't want you to ask this necessarily about romantic relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: So those questions are very different in that sense.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some of them are similar, but uh and they would all apply.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the question is a little bit different in the romantic situation.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to talk about friendships.
• 10:02
  SPEAKER_00: Trust can be built on a couple of things, uh, and I want to walk through how we can build that trust or at least evaluate that trust in our life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm gonna go back through the text.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here's verse 15.
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  SPEAKER_00: Again, when they finished eating, Jesus asked Simon Peter, Simon, son of John, do you love me more than these?
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  SPEAKER_00: And Simon replied, Yes, Lord, you know I love you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Next verse.
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  SPEAKER_00: Jesus said to him, Feed my lambs.
• 10:26
  SPEAKER_00: Now the actual next verse.
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  SPEAKER_00: Jesus asked a second time, Simon, son of John, do you love me?
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  SPEAKER_00: And Simon replied, Yes, Lord, you know I love you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Jesus said to him, Take care of my sheep.
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  SPEAKER_00: He asked a third time, Simon, son of John, do you love me?
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  SPEAKER_00: Peter was sad.
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  SPEAKER_00: Aww.
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  SPEAKER_00: That Jesus asked him a third time, Do you love me?
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  SPEAKER_00: He replied, Lord, you know everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know I love you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And Jesus said to him, Feed my sheep.
• 10:53
  SPEAKER_00: That was the part of the verse we missed earlier.
• 10:57
  SPEAKER_00: Here's a couple things you should know about the disciples.
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  SPEAKER_00: And Peter is a disciple.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: The disciples are Jesus' posse.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're the closest people he's got to him, they are his circle, they are his friends, they are the closest people, they're his confidants, they're his students, they are his friends.
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  SPEAKER_00: And Peter particularly is kind of a rock star here.
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  SPEAKER_00: Peter is the main one, he's the star of the show.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you don't believe me, in Matthew 16, Jesus has this conversation with Peter, who had gone by Simon, son of John previously.
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  SPEAKER_00: And he says, Simon, it's upon you that I will build my church.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it is upon you that you are the rock upon which my church will be built.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm gonna give you a name.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's Petros, which we now say as Peter.
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  SPEAKER_00: Peter, that's how he gets the name Peter.
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  SPEAKER_00: He's an important rock star.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the thing is, Jesus and Peter have a history together.
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  SPEAKER_00: They have a history together.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's some of the things that Jesus and Peter have gone through.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh, first of all, right after Jesus died, Peter denied Jesus and knowing Jesus how many times?
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  SPEAKER_00: How many say that again?
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  SPEAKER_00: Three.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, he denied him three times.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna be very important in just a second.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh, when they were walking on water, Jesus invited Peter to walk on water and it went really well until all of a sudden it didn't when he turned his head and it didn't.
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  SPEAKER_00: When uh they go up on the mountain, Peter sees uh Jesus transfigured with other uh historic uh Jewish kind of leaders in his life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um and Peter actually reads the entire situation wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: He like reads the room completely wrong, and he assumes he's gonna do some things, and Jesus like corrects him right there.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh when Jesus was being arrested, this is in John's gospel in the 18th chapter, when Jesus was being arrested, Peter wanted to stop it, so he took out his sword and he cut off the ear of Malchus.
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  SPEAKER_00: And Jesus said, put away the sword, those who live by the sword will die by the sword.
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  SPEAKER_00: So Jesus again corrects it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think you could say that Jesus and Peter have been through some things.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think when when we're talking about trust, we can say that it could be built when you go through some things.
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  SPEAKER_00: You think about the relationships in your life where you have a deep trust with another person, you probably have some stories to tell.
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  SPEAKER_00: You probably have been through something.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some of that might be a sibling or a mother and father or whatever, but you've been through some things.
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  SPEAKER_00: Jesus and Peter have a history.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you'll find that uh I I often will say to this if you're in a situation where you're not really friends with somebody and you want to be, and uh I'll the first question I always ask is how much time have you spent with that person?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because, and you may have heard me say this before to you personally, one-on-one, over coffee or lunch or something, I will say you that relationships are the results of time spent together.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this part is applicable to a romantic relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you are not spending time with the person who's important to you, whether it's romantic or uh platonic, you're not gonna be friends with them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you're not gonna have any stories to share, you're not gonna have any conversations, there will be no development in the relationship, there will be no trust built over time because you just simply aren't spending time with them.
• 14:43
  SPEAKER_00: I think this is a real problem in your generation, and and partially we will figure this out by the time you are grown adults and have children of your own, and partially, I don't know that we'll ever figure it out.
• 14:56
  SPEAKER_00: But a lot of us spend a lot of time doom scrolling these devices.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've heard me say this before.
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  SPEAKER_00: We spend a lot of time just sitting there doom scrolling these devices, and sometimes that's through snap, and sometimes that's through texts or whatever, where we're communicating with other people, but a lot of times it's not.
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  SPEAKER_00: And let me just encourage you that the times when you think you're interacting with somebody, like commenting on their Instagram post or saying, yes, yes, Queen, awesome, like you're so beautiful, whatever.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like when anytime you're doing that, or when you're just sending a picture of the ceiling and just writing something you're doing, uh to keep your streak up, but I don't know, do you guys still do that?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's obnoxious.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh let me just encourage you not to consider that time spent.
• 15:43
  SPEAKER_00: How do you spend time with somebody else?
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  SPEAKER_00: Go eat lunch with them, walk across campus with them, ask them about their life, ask them what they're hurting about right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Give them some encouragement.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, man, you ate doing that, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You know these Gen Z terms?
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  SPEAKER_00: I got this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Snatch, you know.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh I learned that the other day, it's bad.
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  SPEAKER_00: Relationships are the result of time spent.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I would argue that trust is involved in that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trust can be built on time spent.
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  SPEAKER_00: And let me encourage you that when you are snapping somebody or just texting somebody or just interacting on the internet, I don't think there's a lot of trust being built there.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's interaction, but there's not time spent being built there.
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  SPEAKER_00: Jesus and Peter have been through it, and they've been through it for a long time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Three-ish years where they were with each other non-stop.
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  SPEAKER_00: There is nobody in your life currently who you have been with non-stop for three years.
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  SPEAKER_00: There just isn't.
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  SPEAKER_00: There isn't anybody in your life that you've been with non-stop unless you're married.
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  SPEAKER_00: And even then, like I love my wife and we spend a lot of time together, but there are eight hours a day where we don't see each other because we're at work.
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  SPEAKER_00: Jesus and Peter were this, they were together.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, a lot of people have asked, why does Jesus trust Peter?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because Jesus is asking Peter to do something.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna get there in a second.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
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  SPEAKER_00: If somebody denied you three times, or read the room wrong when you were being transfigured up on the mountain, or pulled the knife at the total wrong time, would you trust him to build your church?
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is maybe one of the biggest questions of what we do know is that Jesus does, because Jesus calls Simon Peter Peter.
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  SPEAKER_00: So Jesus trusts Peter, and perhaps even as important, Peter trusts Jesus.
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  SPEAKER_00: They've got this intertwined connection between the two of them.
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  SPEAKER_00: They trust each other.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe this time spent is perhaps an overlooked part of Jesus' ministry.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we think of Jesus and his ministry, we think of the miracles.
• 18:23
  SPEAKER_00: When we think of Jesus in the ministry, we think of his sermons.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we think of Jesus and his ministry, we think of all of those things that kind of stand out to us.
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  SPEAKER_00: What we don't necessarily always consider is Jesus' investment in time and his disciples.
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  SPEAKER_00: So as you're thinking through your relationships and who you're building time with, who you're trying to learn to trust, and they're learning to trust you, this is an important question to ask.
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  SPEAKER_00: How do I build trust with that person?
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  SPEAKER_00: I might.
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  SPEAKER_00: I might have to spend some time with them.
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  SPEAKER_00: I might have to go through some things with them.
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  SPEAKER_00: I might have to fail them a little bit.
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  SPEAKER_00: I might have to ask for forgiveness.
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  SPEAKER_00: There might be some times when I deny them when I shouldn't have.
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  SPEAKER_00: Are those relationships the ones that are strongest in your life?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where there's trust there?
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  SPEAKER_00: We get to this passage because eventually that trust is put to the ultimate test here.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now I want to go through this passage again.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is your third time hearing it, and that was on purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: When they finished eating, Jesus asked Simon Peter, Simon, son of John, do you love me more than these?
• 19:45
  SPEAKER_00: And Simon replied, Yes, Lord, you know I love you.
• 19:48
  SPEAKER_00: And Jesus said to him, Feed my lambs.
• 19:51
  SPEAKER_00: Jesus asked a second time, Simon, son of John, do you love me?
• 19:55
  SPEAKER_00: Simon replied, Yes, Lord, you know I love you.
• 19:57
  SPEAKER_00: And Jesus said to him, Take care of my sheep.
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  SPEAKER_00: He asked a third time, which again Simon Peter probably annoyed by, but that's been the life he's been living.
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  SPEAKER_00: Simon, son of John, do you love me?
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  SPEAKER_00: And Peter was sad that Jesus asked him a third time, Do you love me?
• 20:11
  SPEAKER_00: He replied, Lord, you know everything.
• 20:14
  SPEAKER_00: You know I love you.
• 20:16
  SPEAKER_00: Jesus said to him, feed my sheep.
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  SPEAKER_00: Jesus asks him three times.
• 20:23
  SPEAKER_00: You've heard the passage three times so far this morning.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because Peter denied him three times.
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  SPEAKER_00: And Jesus gave him an opportunity to apologize.
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  SPEAKER_00: Notice how he doesn't say, I'm sorry, but it's a chance for him to say, Hey, I need to know right now, do you love me?
• 20:42
  SPEAKER_00: And Peter goes, Yeah, of course.
• 20:44
  SPEAKER_00: But see, here's the thing, you deny me two more times.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here we go again.
• 20:48
  SPEAKER_00: I need to know, do you love me?
• 20:50
  SPEAKER_00: And he goes, Yeah, of course, you know that I love you.
• 20:52
  SPEAKER_00: Ah, see, the thing is, you denied me a third time.
• 20:55
  SPEAKER_00: So here we go.
• 20:56
  SPEAKER_00: I need to know, do you love me?
• 21:01
  SPEAKER_00: And he says, Yeah, you know everything, God, of course.
• 21:04
  SPEAKER_00: Even in his own sadness, of course.
• 21:07
  SPEAKER_00: And then Jesus gives him an instruction.
• 21:10
  SPEAKER_00: What does he say?
• 21:14
  SPEAKER_00: Feed my sheep.
• 21:17
  SPEAKER_00: Now, obviously, this is not real sheep.
• 21:21
  SPEAKER_00: He's telling Peter, I need you to pastor my flock.
• 21:27
  SPEAKER_00: This is what Jesus has been doing his entire time in the world.
• 21:32
  SPEAKER_00: This is his entire purpose of existence.
• 21:35
  SPEAKER_00: He's saying, I need you to take over for whenever I'm gone.
• 21:41
  SPEAKER_00: Man, if that's not trust, that's not trust.
• 21:46
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know what it is.
• 21:47
  SPEAKER_00: You know the people in your life that you can trust.
• 21:54
  SPEAKER_00: That when you tell them something, they're gonna keep it.
• 21:59
  SPEAKER_00: And they're not gonna tell the world.
• 22:02
  SPEAKER_00: You know the people in your life, when you add when you need them to show up, you call them because you trust that they're gonna show up.
• 22:10
  SPEAKER_00: When your car breaks down, when you're broke up with your significant other.
• 22:16
  SPEAKER_00: You know those people.
• 22:19
  SPEAKER_00: You know those people who, if you need them to accomplish something because you're gonna be out of town, or you can't do this, or I need you to do this, you can trust that they will do it.
• 22:32
  SPEAKER_00: Of course, Peter could only be trusted so much, right?
• 22:36
  SPEAKER_00: That's because he's us.
• 22:39
  SPEAKER_00: He's broken.
• 22:42
  SPEAKER_00: That's why you see this interaction.
• 22:44
  SPEAKER_00: That's why it's three times.
• 22:49
  SPEAKER_00: We see a pattern here, uh, and I just kind of etched this out, but I thought it might be helpful, particularly if you're taking notes.
• 22:56
  SPEAKER_00: How do we see that trust is built?
• 22:58
  SPEAKER_00: It starts with time.
• 23:02
  SPEAKER_00: After time, there always is, there is with Jesus and Peter, and there is in your relationship as well a struggle.
• 23:10
  SPEAKER_00: Always a struggle.
• 23:12
  SPEAKER_00: There is something that goes wrong.
• 23:14
  SPEAKER_00: And if you have a best friend or whatever, and you've never had anything go wrong, God bless you.
• 23:20
  SPEAKER_00: Look forward to the next couple of months.
• 23:22
  SPEAKER_00: Something will happen.
• 23:23
  SPEAKER_00: It just is the way it is.
• 23:25
  SPEAKER_00: It was that way with the Lord, and it is that way here.
• 23:27
  SPEAKER_00: And then there through that struggle, there is failure.
• 23:30
  SPEAKER_00: Somebody is going to fail you.
• 23:33
  SPEAKER_00: Your friends are going to fail you.
• 23:38
  SPEAKER_00: And then there's forgiveness.
• 23:42
  SPEAKER_00: Where Jesus says, Hey, I just need to know.
• 23:45
  SPEAKER_00: I don't even care about what you said.
• 23:47
  SPEAKER_00: I don't even care that you pulled the almost a gun, pulled the knife.
• 23:52
  SPEAKER_00: I don't even care that you you thought I was supposed to build a house up on the mountain, like you moron, you know?
• 23:58
  SPEAKER_00: I don't even care about that.
• 24:01
  SPEAKER_00: I just need to know, do you love me?
• 24:05
  SPEAKER_00: And that might be a question that you have to ask in certain relationships you got right now.
• 24:09
  SPEAKER_00: I I don't care about what all the stuff you've done in the past.
• 24:12
  SPEAKER_00: I don't care about what we've been through.
• 24:13
  SPEAKER_00: I don't care about what I just need to know right now, and I don't even need you to say the words I'm sorry.
• 24:17
  SPEAKER_00: What I just care about right now is that you do you love me?
• 24:21
  SPEAKER_00: I just need to know.
• 24:22
  SPEAKER_00: Do you love me?
• 24:27
  SPEAKER_00: There might even be romantic relationships where you need to ask that.
• 24:33
  SPEAKER_00: Do you really love me?
• 24:36
  SPEAKER_00: After that forgiveness, we see trust.
• 24:44
  SPEAKER_00: For Jesus, it was trust for Peter to take over the role that he was supposed to have.
• 24:56
  SPEAKER_00: With Jesus, that's what it was.
• 24:58
  SPEAKER_00: For you, it might be something else.
• 25:00
  SPEAKER_00: Some of you are trying to determine what's going to happen next in your life.
• 25:04
  SPEAKER_00: What, like, and and sometimes that's that's what happens next semester, sometimes that's what's like three years looks like.
• 25:12
  SPEAKER_00: The questions you gotta ask.
• 25:15
  SPEAKER_00: Do I trust the people that are close to me as I'm discerning all this?
• 25:21
  SPEAKER_00: The things you gotta ask are the people who are important to me in my life, the people I invest in, do I trust them?
• 25:28
  SPEAKER_00: Have I been through it?
• 25:29
  SPEAKER_00: Have I spent time with them?
• 25:35
  SPEAKER_00: Do I trust them?
• 25:41
  SPEAKER_00: Did they fail me?
• 25:46
  SPEAKER_00: Have I forgiven them?
• 25:49
  SPEAKER_00: Do I trust them?
• 25:52
  SPEAKER_00: How do I build that bond?
• 25:55
  SPEAKER_00: How do I strengthen that connection with trust?
• 26:02
  SPEAKER_00: Many of you are friends with people who are in proximity to you, and that's how you became friends.
• 26:08
  SPEAKER_00: I think that's awesome.
• 26:11
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not saying get rid of those.
• 26:14
  SPEAKER_00: What I'm asking you is to find those people who are friends of yours in proximity and find purpose in that relationship.
• 26:25
  SPEAKER_00: Start asking questions like, are I just friends with them because they're nearby, or do I trust them?
• 26:32
  SPEAKER_00: Am I just friends with them because like they just haven't failed me yet?
• 26:36
  SPEAKER_00: And if they do fail me, am I willing to forgive?
• 26:40
  SPEAKER_00: Do I trust them?
• 26:45
  SPEAKER_00: One of the greatest things about being a follower of Jesus is that we cannot be trusted like ever.
• 26:57
  SPEAKER_00: And Jesus offers us a forgiveness that speaks louder than any other voice or person in your life.
• 27:11
  SPEAKER_00: And we're reminded every week when we come to this table that when Jesus was sitting around with the people who he could not trust, he took the food that they were eating communally and he gave thanks to God for it, and then he broke that and he said, Listen, the forgiveness that I'm offering to you, it's the biggest forgiveness.
• 27:35
  SPEAKER_00: It's my body broken for you and for the whole world.
• 27:42
  SPEAKER_00: And then he took the cup that they were drinking, a communal cup of wine.
• 27:46
  SPEAKER_00: We have grape juice here this morning.
• 27:49
  SPEAKER_00: And he gave thanks to God for it.
• 27:52
  SPEAKER_00: And he said, This is the cup of the new covenant.
• 27:56
  SPEAKER_00: Some translations tell us this is the blood of the new covenant.
• 28:02
  SPEAKER_00: It's poured out for you and for the whole world for the what?
• 28:07
  SPEAKER_00: Forgiveness of sins.
• 28:11
  SPEAKER_00: He says, As often as you drink this, remember me.
• 28:19
  SPEAKER_00: Let's pray over these elements together.
• 28:22
  SPEAKER_00: Oh God, we ask that you pour out your Holy Spirit on these gifts of bread and the cup.
• 28:26
  SPEAKER_00: We ask that you they would be for us the body and blood of Christ, that we might be for the world the body of Christ redeemed by your blood, forgiven by your blood.
• 28:37
  SPEAKER_00: Make us one with Christ and one in unity to all the world until you come in final victory and we feast at your heavenly banquet, O God.
• 28:45
  SPEAKER_00: To you we give all honor, praise, and glory, Almighty God, now and forever.
• 28:53
  SPEAKER_00: Amen.
• 28:59
  SPEAKER_00: You've given God no reason to trust you.
• 29:03
  SPEAKER_00: Me neither.
• 29:05
  SPEAKER_00: And yet, he says, Hey, come to my table, receive the forgiveness.
• 29:12
  SPEAKER_00: It's almost as if as if he's saying, if you'll just come forward, it might be your way of answering, do you love me?